Educate with

1 firmness and
affection
Ten rules that can be demanded of young
children

Author: Ana Torres Jack

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EDUCATION Block 1: The first three years of life in children's education are fundamental

Educate with firmness and

affection
Family orientation 12. for the formation of their personality. That is why it is important to
establish some basic rules that little by little become habits. Routines
are also a great help to avoid the emotional exhaustion that comes
with entering into constant conflict with your children due to arguments
at mealtime, going to bed, or cleaning up the room.

It must be admitted that it is sometimes difficult to gauge the level of

demand that can be applied to a young child, but in general ten
appropriate rules for the first years could be these:

1. OBEY PARENTS

2. DON'T HIT ANYONE

3. NOT LIE

4. DO NOT ANSWER WITH BAD MANNERS

5. DO NOT SHOUT WHEN ANGRY: TANTRUMS ARE PROHIBITED

6. DO NOT INTERRUPT ELDERS WHEN THEY ARE SPEAKING

7. DO NOT BREAK OR DAMAGE THINGS AT HOME OR SCHOOL

8. DO NOT TAKE THINGS FROM SIBLINGS OR COLLEAGUES

9. RESPECT THE SCHEDULES FOR LUNCH, DINNER, STUDY, PLAY,

SLEEP.

10. DO NOT THREATEN OR BLACKMAIL (BY LEAVING HOME, BY

BEHAVING WORSE...)

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The question is: how to get the toddler to follow these rules? Well,
by applying coherent and constant educational strategies over time,
for example:

1. Praise and rewards. The best rewards are attention, praise

and affection. It is not necessary to reward the child with candy or toys. A scorecard
for es treads or a special outing to La Casa de los Peces may be enough to reinforce a
pattern of good behavior.
EDUCATION Block 1: 2 Coherence.
Educate with firmness and
affection
Family orientation 12.
Once a rule is established, it cannot be changed. You must
ensure that all people who care for the child follow the same criteria

3 Routine. Fixed times for walking, playing, eating, bathing and sleeping are the
cornerstone of family life. Of course, once habits are established, you have to allow
yourself some flexibility, such as when you go on a trip. The routine doesn't have to be
rigid.

4Boundaries. The child must know that his behavior has limits that separate
what he accepts ble than it is not. You have to establish rules and let him know what is
expected of him.

5 Discipline. Boundaries can only be maintained with the help of discipline,

which involves firm control. An authoritative voice and a warning may be necessary for
the child to receive the message.

6 Warnings. Sudden changes in activity disorientate the little ones. It's

preferable It is important to notify in advance that it is going to be time to pick up, have
dinner or go to sleep. In addition, warnings also serve to give the child the opportunity to
correct his behavior.

7 . Explanations. A small child cannot know how we want him to

behave.
us to tell you. There is no need to give complicated reasons or explanations, it is enough
to
state the obvious.

8 Containment. Parents are the ones in charge, so they can never lose
their temper. A tantrum should not be responded to with a display of anger, nor a scream
with another scream.

9 Responsibility. Childhood is basically about growing up. It is

convenient to let They do little things to boost their self-esteem and learn personal and
social skills. the basics.

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10 Relaxation. Rules yes, discipline, too. But in an atmosphere of affection
and general enjoyment. Participating in their games, allowing meals to be fun or bath
time being a festive and relaxed moment translates into quality of life for all members.
of the family.