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OFESSOR E H STA RLI N G
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a nd F A T H ER . S T A N I S L A US S T f OH N .
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PA G E
P f c by D J i M y
re a e r . ess e u rra

L f mP f
et te r ro St l i g S
ro es s o r ar n ,
oc .

A th P f c
u or s
’
re a e

L t t f m F h S J h d R ply
e er ro at er t . o n an e

Ch p I Th H D i ’
a te r . e ea rt s es re

C h pta II T h B k J y
er . e ro en o

C h pt III W m ’
a er . C i o an s o n t ra r n ess

Ch p a Th F d m
te r lP l e un a e n ta u se

Ch p a V M l A dj m
t er . u t ua us t e nt

Ch p
a V I Sl p
t er . ee .

C h pt
a V II M d ty d R m c
er . o es an o an e

C h pt
a VIII Ab i c
er . s t ne n e

Ch p
a IX
te rC h il d . re n

Ch pt
a Xer S ci ty . o e

C h pt
a XIer T h Gl i . U f l di g e o r o us n o n

App dix en

Cha rt s fc to a e
 M i s s JESSI E M URRA " B S ,
. .

N hi l i l b k D M i S p
t s tt e d l wi h
oo bj ct r. ar e t o es ea s t su e s

wh ich g lly g d d a re c df
ene ra i ly re ar e a s to o s a re o r a n e n t re

f k m
ra n S m t rea t t d d l ic
ent mi d m y
. o e ea rn es an e a te n s a

f l
ee p p h a iv h re ch f
e ns k i
e d ilt i dat su ra n ness n e ta s s an

g b
e ro us ,c h
”
ff c e aus ep i t m i d m igh t b
t e e e t on ru r e n n s e to

giv h me tf d f e h i m b idoof c i I
or ti j ch e r or an es . t s ust s u a

f wh ich h b l g ly p ibl f h il c d
ea r as een ar e res o ns e or t e s en e an

my t y w h ich h v f
s er l g b w pp d a e d h o r so on een ra e ro u n t e

sac d it f m i g
re r es o at n .

Th q i
e w i H h i ic c b c i d t
u es t o n no s, as t s re t en e ee n a rr e oo

f ?
ar H i b c id f h i w d df
as t e en a rr e so ar t at t no t en s t o e ea t

i p p
ts f f g
u r os e o ding p bl ic m l ?
s a e ua rTh m y u o ra s e re a re an

wh h i ti gly n w ch q i i h ffi m iv
o un es t a n a s er su u es t o ns n t e a r at e .

Th i i im t k wl dg f h m l iv c mp l h m t
e r nt a e no e e o u an es o e s t e o

cgi ht tl
re o n se t m ch h m i d
a a
'

by il c by
ea s t a s u ar s o ne s en e as

p ki g
S ea nEv y h i g d p d
out . h w h m er i t n e en s on o t e atter s

pres ente d .

Th ose h ck d h p bl ic i f ch b k
w ho a re s o e at t e u at on o su a oo

as thi h g
s on t d h i giv e m i l f
ro u n imp mi d t at t es ater a or u re n s

to sp wi h d ly fl c h ch m i l i l dy
o rt t ,
nee on re e t t at su a ter a s a rea

am pl y p v id d i c i c mic p p
ro e i hn f i f i
e rta n o a e rs
,
n o s ts o n er o r

no vl e s f ,
h
t oo o t e n o n t
g d fil m d p t d h e s ta e an
,
an res e n e t us
i c
n d d m
o a rs e li i g g i I
an e d hi g b t
o ra s n u se . t ca n o no t n u

g d oo ch m i d m h f c h y
to su n s l dy to ee t t e a ts t e a re a rea so

f m il i wi h i
a ar lly w l ight
t n a t ota ne .

O th n th h d he o ll h
er t an d bl ,
t e re a re a t e ea rnes an no e

y g m i d w h k k w wh
o un n s po ib il i i
s ee hy to no at re s o ns t es t e

a re t ak i g t h m lv wh h y m y d h w t h y
n on e se es en t e a rr
,
an o e

m y ba m t hes t
p ib il i i
ee H w f w f th m
t es e re s o ns t es . o e o e

h v m h th v g id
a e o re t an h bj ct " H w f w
e a u es t ea s o n t e su e o e

of h m k w h w
t e Wh no t b i th h l p h y d i "
o or e re o o ta n e e t e es re

Th y c il f m h c
e re o d im p ro c fi f t e o a rs e a n u re s o u r es o n or
m ti a wh ich
on cc ibl d t h y h i t a re s o a
pp ch ess e
,
an e es t a e t o a ro a

th th y h v
os e l d t
e
g d a e vi t d m d t
ea rne o re ar as r uo us an o es
,

vii
 V ii " P refa c e
rea li i g hs n t at f ro m su ch t h y will c iv
l ittl ct l e re e e so e a ua

i f m ti
n or d th t
a on
,
an a t s l
so v il d t b l me e as o e a os u e es s .

D S p h r. t t mpt d t m
t o es t th
as a d f ch
e ke o ee e ne e o su s ee e rs ,

an d h b k will c t i ly b w mly w lc m d by t h m
er oo er a n e ar e o e e .

I t i c lc l t d t p v t m ny f t h
s a u a e o mi t k
re w h ich
en a o ose s a es

w ck th h ppi
re f c
e atl lv nes s o th y ou n ess o ers a s s oo n as e a re

a ct lly m i d I f i did m
ua a rr e h t h i it w l d b t no o re t an s ou e

v l bl i d d "
.

a ua e n ee

B t th u i v m
e re im p t
s an e p ct en b o re o r a nt as e to e co n

s id e red— t h ff c t h ch il d
e e Ie ll c iv il i d l d t h
on t e . n a se an s ere

i s a g wi g n ro f n p ib il ity t w d t h yo g
se se o res o ns o ar s e un .

T h p bl m e f t h i ph y ica l
ro e dm t l n t
s o e r tt ct s an en a u r u re a ra

m o re d m an t i d y by day
o re Eg i t
a t e nt o n d c a . u e n s s, e u a

i i t
t on s s, ph y ic i p l i ic i s ph il t h pi t
a ns , o nd tv a ns
,
an ro s s, a e en

or di y p t di c s d p d p d
na r a re n s s us d di c an o n er, on er a n s us s

m tt a b t h g t d m ll w h ich h v b i g t h
e rs o rea an s a a e a ea r n on e

d v l pm t f t h ch il d
e e o en B y c mm
o ec t th fi t. o on o ns e n e rs

v y
s e en f l if e a rs o g d d h m e a re rec itic l I t i ar e as t e ost r a . s

d i g th
ur n y th h f d t i f th p
es e ea rs at t l itye oun a o ns o e ers o na -
to

b e a re l id w ll nd t ly a h wi I t is d i g
e a ru o r ot er se . ur n

t h y t h t t h d p t d m t i dic bl imp
es e ea rs a e ee es an os ne ra a e res

i
s o ns a re m d i t h pl ic c
a e tit ti
n f t h ch il d
e as t t o ns u on o e
,
a rres

i g
n d v l pi g t h i
or e e o th h i t i ctiv t d d fix i g
n s or e ot er ns n e re n an n

it, o ft f l if en or e .

A di i d n g th t s y b
u ri n ll t h t t h p
es e nt pl ye a rs a ove a a e are s a

th m imp t nt ol i t h i h i t y f t h ch il d ’
e ost or a r e n e nner s or o e s

l if e
,
t m ch by
no so yt h i g t h y di ctly t ch t h gh
u an n e re ea rou

v b l xh t ti
er a e w ig or a c mm d
o ns , by t h
a rn n s
,
or o an s
,
as os e

su b t l i fl c wh ich
er n ue n es c v y di g t t n d a re on e e n es u re
,
o e
,
an

f ci l x p i
a a e Th y
res s o n
g t h ch il d t h m
. e
'

i i o u n er e
,
e o re s t

i fl
n u en e c d t h gh t h m r primitiv m d f x p i
rou es e o e e o es o e res s o n,

an d q it m ch w h
u e as th y u t di c t d t w d it l f
en e a re no re e o ar s se

b u t a re e mpl y d by t h p o t i e t h i int im t e l ti a re n s n e r a e re a o ns

wit h n th
o ne a i th p o c f th i pp ntly b
er n e res e n e o e r a a re uno
s er v i g ch il d—th i f t i it t t h t ddl i g b by by t h
n e n an n s co
,
e o n a e
 Prefa c e ix
h thea r
,
t he l i tl ch il d t
t e o a l l a ppea ra n e ac bs b o r e d in it s pi ct u re

b k oo o r to
y .

I s it no t o f t he u tm os t c
impo rta n e t a t t es e e a r ies t h h l
h l
im press io ns s ou d be o f t he ines t na tu re ? A nd s o u d w e f h l
h w lc
no t t e ref o re e ome a l l t a t ma e p—a s t is h oohlca n h b k
y
k lv c
to m a e t he i ing ra d e o f t he ne t ge nera t io n a sl x u of f ll
b yeau t h a nd y a rmo n lv
a s o e a nd mu tua u nde rs ta nding c a n ? l
l c
T he a ge o ng o n i t -
et fl c b w
ee n t he
“
o er
”
and t he lw
h h l b
ig e r im pu s es , e tw e en t he prim it i e a nim a na tu re a nd v l
c f c lly h
t he s pe i i a vl
u ma n de e o pm e nts o f a n a t ru is t i a nd l c
hc l
et i a f
o rde r a re
,
ou
g t a re s i n ea h f hs o u ch
a nd in e e r l v y
m a rri age .

l
W e need to rea is e mo re ea r t a t t he o e r is ne er cl ly h lw v
1

ou
g ht n e v
e r t o be— el im i na t ed bu t rat e r s u bs um ed b h
y t he
high er . h y
N o t rue a rm o n c a n be o pe d fo r s o o ng a s o ne h l
fc g h
a to r o r t he o t e r is i n o red o r re re ss e d
p .

v y
D r St o pes m a k es s o m e e r im po rta nt io o gi a s ugges
. b l cl
t io ns wh ch h l
i s o u d no t be i
g t l h ly
dis m is s ed Fu rt er o bs e r h.

v a t io n is re u ire d t o es ta
q bl h
is o r dispro e he r t eo r o f t he v h y
no rm a l x l cycl
s e ua e in o me n
,
w
bu t m y o w n o s e r a t io n b v
c e rta in ly c f
t e n ds to o n irm it .

J M M U RRA"
. . .
Letter f rom Pro fes s o r E H ST A R LI N O M D , B S ,
. .
,
. . . .

Prof ess or of Phy s iology Unzh ers ity of London ,

UN I V ER S IT " C O LLE E G ,

G O W ER S T REE L O O T, ND N, W C, . .

N v mb o e er 2 3, 1
9 17 .

DE R A D R STO P
. ES ,

T he need o f s u ch c
guida n e a s y o u gi e is er v v y
v
e ide nt Af
. t e r a ll , ins t n i ct
in ma n is a ll ins uffi ie nt t o c
c l
dete rm ine s o ia bhv h
e a io u r a nd t e re is nee d o f ins tru t io n
,
'
c
h h hy l cl f c
in t he ig es t o f p s io o gi a un t io ns , t a t o f repro duc h
h lw f c
t io n, a s t e re is in t he o e r un t io ns o f ea t in a nd drin ing
g k
—t he o n di fe ren e e ing tha t in t he o rm e r ins t ru t io n
ly f c b f c
f
c a n be de e rre d t o a la te r a e
g h b h
A nd t e re is no do u t t a t
.

h c b
in t is a s e it is e t t e r t o a u ire no e dge cq k wl by c
ins t ru t io n
h by y
t an x
a t pe o f e pe rie n e i c wh ch ly lw y
is nea r a a s s o rdid
a nd m a f
y be ra ug th w h it da n e r t o t he
g h lh
ea t o f t he indi

v lidua a nd o f t he a mi f ly .

v l c
A t t he pre s e n t t im e it is o f ita impo rta n e to t he Sta te
t a t its m a rria ges s o u d be ru it u —in
h h l f fl ch l h i dre n, a ppines s ,
c cy
a nd e ffi ie n (h cl ly c c
a nd a ll t ree a re o s e o nne t e d
) .

I f y b k h l p i c i g h i bj ct y
ou r oo e s bl
n s e ur n t s o e
,
o u r t ro u e

will t h v b i v i
no a e ee n n a n .

B li v m e e e e
,

" v y t ly o u rs er ru
,

ERN EST H STARL I N G . .

 Au tho r s P refa c e ’

ORE h v t dy h ppy h mt d d
an e er o -
a a re a o es n ee e .

I t i my h p t h t t h i b k m y
s v h St t by o e a s oo a s er e t e a e

ddi g h i mb a It bj c i t i c
n to t e r nu ers . s o e t s o n rea s e

t he j y f m i g d t Sh w h w m ch
o s o a rr a wm yb e
,
an o o o u s o rro a e

a vide d
o .

T he o n s e u re as is fo r a p res en t—
ly c b
da y Sta te is t he e d wl
ing o f it s u nits in ma rria ge ; bu t t e re is ro t te nn ess a n d h
f
da nge r a t t he o u nda tio ns o f t he Sta t e i f m a n o f t he y “

m a rria ges a re u n a pp c l ly h yl
T o da y , pa rti u a r in t he m idd e
.
-

cl ass es in t is l h c
lly h y h y
o u nt r , m a rria e is fa r es s rea
g a pp t an

fc
its s u r a e a ppea rsy y x c
T o o m a n w ho m a rr e pe t ing j o y
.

a reb lyit t e r f
dis a ppo in t e d; a nd t he de m a nd fo r
“
re e do m

w wh l h
gro s ; l lly w
i e t o s e w ho c ry a o u d a re ge ne ra u na a re

h l k ly h v b
t a t it is m o re i e h to a e c h
ee n t eir o w n igno ra n e t a n

t he b wh ch
m a rriage o n d h
i h
w a s t he o rigin o f t e ir u n a ppi
-

ne ss .

v
I t is ma k m
ne e r eas y t oi g l v ly t h i g; d i i e arr a e a o e n an t s

an ch i v m t b y d th p w
a e e en f h e lfi hon h e o e rs o t e se s ,
or t e

m t lly c w dly " w l dg i

en a o ar d d d . t hi g no e e s nee e an
,
as n s a re

a t p t k wl dg i l m t b i bl by t h w h
res en , no e e s a os u no t a na e os e o

a re m i w os t f i n a nt o t .

T h p ébl m ef th r l if
e i fi i l y c mpl x
s o d e s ex -
e a re n n te o e
,
an

f th i
or l i g l y d m d b h ym p h y d i
e r s o u t o n u r e nt e an ot s at an s c en

t ifi ch
c res ea r .

I h v m thi g t y b t
a e so e wh ich f
n s I m o sa a ou s ex , ,
so a r as a

a w h v ty tb
a re , a id t hi g w h ich
e no e mt b fp ee n s a
,
n s s ee o e o ro

f d imp t c t m
oun d w m
or a n e wh h p t o m k en a n o en o o e o a e

t h i m i g b tif l
e r a rr a es ea u u .

Th i l i t l b k i ls t e c d f oo ch h s es s a re o r o a res ea r t an an
a tt mpte
p t i il y
to d t d bl f m h cl ifi d
res e n n ea s u n ers a n a e or t e ar e

an d c y t ll i d r s a l t f l g d c mpl x i v tig ti
se re s u s o on an o e n es a o ns .

I impl
ts s t t m t b d
e s a e v y l g mb f
en s a re as e on a er a r e nu er o

fi t h d b
rs -
v tian o fid
s er a f mm dw m
o ns , o n co n e n c es ro en a n o en

o f l l cl a d typ d
a s s es f ct gl d f m wid
an es , an on a s ea ne ro e

rea d n i g .

My or igina l c o nt r i b u t io ns to t he a l
g o ng pro
e -
bl em s o f
X1
 x ii
Au th o r s P refac e ’

m i g will p i c ip lly b f
a rr a e d C h pt r n a e oun In a e rs IV V .
,
. an d
V III T h h ch pt fill wh t I h
. e ot er a ers In a o pe
’

is a n u ndis

t d pic t f h p t ti l b ti d l iti f
“ “

tor e u re o t e o en a e au es an re a es o

m a rriage .

T he o e is wh l
w i t imply d f th di y r t en s ,
an or e or na r un

t ra ine d rea de r, t h gh i mb di m b v ti w h ich ou t e o es s o e o se r a o ns

w ll
i be new e v h w h h v m d ci ific en to t os e o a e a e s e nt

res ea r ch th bj c f
es on d h m
e su ph y i l gy e ts o s ex an u an s o o .

Th b v i Ii d
es e o s e r a t o nsppl m d p bl i hnt e n to s u e e nt an u s at

g t rea e r l gt h d i m en ci ific l g g i
an n th o re s e nt an ua e n a no er

pl c a e .

I d t w t ch p he m y h m v i i
o no no ou d
u on t an u an a r a t o ns a n

a b m l i i w h ich b lk l g ly m t b k
no r a t es u so ar e In os oo s o n s ex ,

no r d I d l w i h h m y p obl m
o ea t i d by i c ably
t e an r e s ra s e n ur

un h ppy m i g
a a rr a es .

I t h f ll wi g p g I p k t t h
n e o n — di S i f
es s ea os e an n te o
o a
p o
-

a ll ic l i
o u r neu ro t t d pl y hy i th g
t e ra u re a n a s t e a re n e rea t

m j i y wh
a or t w
ly m l d w ho a re nea r m i d no r a ,
an o a re a rr e or

a b tt b m id dhp btd tk whw

ou o e a rr e ,
an o e
,
u o no no o
,
to
m k th i m
a e i g be r if l d h ppy
a rr a es e au t u an a .

T ho t ic t t
e thre c v i l i my m
e nt , a s o e on e nt o na
,
t a s ee a

p res ump i p fl iy
t on o r a s u er u tp k f h d il f h t o s ea o t e e ta s o t e

m t c mpl x f l l
os o f ci
e o Th y k I
a our u n t o ns . e as . s no t

i tinc t
ns gh ? Th e nou w i N I ti c i t e a ns er s o . ns n t s no

e nou
gh I ry t h
. hum ctiv ity i h b
n e ve o li d
er an a t as een rea se

t h t t i i g t h h di g
a ra n n ,
f edi i an i l n A on o t ra t o n a re ess e nt a . s

D S l byr. a ee c wi l y p i t d on e A k w hwt se o n e ou t : c at no s o o

m a na
g h e w b k i t
e r ne h w t-
b i t
o rn
g h m p d t e ns
,
o o r n e u an

t ach h m ; h m
e t em h d a u k whwt m g
an ot er o es no t no o o a na e

h b by
er al h i t ai d ith di c ly by h w
un es s s e s r ne e er re t or er o n

q ick b v ti f th m t h
,

u o ser a on A at p f m h
o o er o e rs . C er o r s er

s impl d i by i ti c t ; h m nm t h
e u t es ns h t b t i d
n a u a o er as o e ra ne

t o f l fil h v y c m pl x
u er er o e o nes .

Th m i t e i th
sa e b tl
s lm f
rue I t hi
n e su e rea o s ex . n s

c ou nt ry i m d t im t h ld t diti t h p f d
,
n o e rn es
,
e o ra o ns , e ro o un

p im itiv k w l dg
r e f th no d e f b h x hv b
e o e ne e s o ot s e es a e ee n
 Au th o r s P refa c e ’
xiii
l t d t h i g b t m fii d c f i f i div id l g ip
os ,
an no n u a u e on u s o n o n ua o ss

di t b
s ur s a sil nc hmfcd f l He e, s nd t h a i e a e or ou . e re a ere , n

a f mily f fi t diti
a o y t h m id m y l
ne ra m on
,
a ou or a en a ea rn s o e

o f t h my t i e fm i g b t t h g t m j ity f p pl
s er es o a rr a e, u e rea a or o eo e

i n ou rc ty h v gl imm i g f t h
ou n r a p m h m
e no er n o e su re e u an

ar ,t th t f l v ;w h il i b k
e ar o n dv
o c d Phy i l gy
e e n oo s o a an e s o o

an d M dici th g p
e th mi i
ne d v n h mi
e a s, e o s s o ns , a n e e t e s s ta te

m f b
e n ts o f ct m a re g a a re a az i n .

I my w m
n i g I p id
o nch t ibl p ic fO
a rr a e a su a e rr e r e r s ex

ig c t h t I f l t h t k wl dg g i d
no ra n e a ee ch c t a no e e a ne at su a os

s h l d b pl c d t th v ic f h m i y I t h i l it tl
ou e a e a e s er e o u an t . n s e

b k v g h l hy m i g t will fi d t h k y t
oo a e ra e
,
ea t ,
at n c rea u res n e e o

t h h ppi
e a wh ich h l d b t h p ti f ch I t h
ness s ou e e or on o ea . as

l dy guid d m
a rea h ppi
e d I h p it m y
so e v to a ness , a n o e a sa e

so m th
e o y f h
e rs t ch d bl i d q
ea rs o ti i gi h ea r a e an n u es on n n t e

d k ar .

M AR IE C AR M IC HAEL ST OP ES .
 Letter f rom F tha er STA N I SL S AU ST .
JO HN ,
S .
J .
,
OF .

I I 4, M O UNT ST E T, R E
LO ND ON W , . 1,

D c mb e e er

DE R D A R . STO P ES ,

Ihv L a wi h d p i t
e rea d M a rried o ve t ee n e res t .

A pi c
s a f t h gh t f l c i tific w i i g I fi d it dmi
e e o ou u ,
s en r t n n a r

a bl th gh t d it m t m th t y t h m c l d
e ro u ou
,
an s ee s o e a
'

ou r e e ou

no t h v b a t d i
e m ee nb tif l m d l ic t
t rea e n o re ea u u or o re e a e

l g g
an ua wit h t e
,
i g f ym p h y f
or th wh
a ru er r n o s at or os e o,

t h gh ig
ro u c w f t h gh t m k
no ra n e o r h ipw ck f a nt o ou ,
a e s re o

th i m e r i d h ppi a rr e a ness .

" cl o urx p iti f h hyt h mic c v f f l i g

ea r e os on o t e r ur e o s ex -
ee n

an d f h mi i t p t ti
o t e th p t f m y h
s n er re a on on e ar o so an us

b d f wh t t h y c ll t h i wiv c t i
an s o a e ii g a e r es
’
o n ra r ness
,
ar s n

f m t h i ig
ro c f it x i t c h l d b i g h ppi
e r no ra n e o s e s en e, s ou r n a ness

to m y m ani d c pl wh l iv a rr e d i ft i g p ou es ose es a re r n a a rt

t h gh wrou f k w l dg I th x ci
a nt o f my m i i t ry
no e e . n e e er se o n s

I h v p t dly t c d h b gi i g f th ift t t h i
a e re ea e ra e t e e nn n s o e r o s

w t f k wl dg d c q t ly f ymp t hy
an o no e e an o ns e u en o s a .

S f w o i c mpl t
ar
g
e a rem t b t w y
n p t o e e a ree en
,
u ou r a s ar

wh y t t f b i t h c n l
en ou rea o r o t ro .

" w it p im ily
ou r ci ti t ( ho gh v y h m
e r ar as a s en s t u a er u an

s ci ti t) d y
en s ,
an lly m i ly cc pi d wit h th
so o u a re na t u ra a n o u e e

f ct d c diti
a s an f w h t I m y c ll
on t h l if
o ns o I a a a o u r ea r -
e .
,

on th h h d w iti g
e ot er C t h l ic g d
an ,
th r n as a a o ,
re ar o u r ea r

l if i ll y
e a s e s s e nt a di p bly c ct d wit h n an l ns e a ra o nne e a e t e rna

e x i t c wh ich ch
s en e t b y d h g v Il k
rea es o u
'

e on t e ra e . oo on

t h i l if
s tt l y m
e as u i gl i it l f er p i d w h ich i ea n n es s n se as a er o s

ity— p i d
,

s impl y d l ly m an t so e d Et a ea ns o a n en w
e rn a er o

o f w h ich l l h c i c m t c a f pl t e dp i r u ly s a n es o ea s u re a n a n ca n o n

b x pl i d d igh t l y
e e a ne d th i
an l t i t th i Et ity
r us e In e r re a on o s e rn .

Lt m t k
e ill t t i
e f my m
a e Ini g th c y us ra on o ea n n e as e ou

giv e f th wo t m h f t w lv
e T h C t h l ic
o rn o u ot er o e e e a o
-
.

b l i f i th t th l
e e s f h lth a h p t fe f w y
o ss o ea on er ar or a e ea rs

o f l if d t h dimi i h d v it l ity
e an th p t
e f h lt n s e a on e ar o er a er

ch il d w l d b v y m ll p ic i d d t p y f
re n ou e a er s a r e n ee o a or a n

en dl h ppi
es s th p t
a f ll nes s o n e ar o a .

x iv
 A L e t ter XV

In our b li f t h
e ,
e , d en c
es t ru t io n o f o ne s perma taz oo n is
t he
q
no t the ues tio n, bu t t he de i era te p re en lb
t io n o f a n et erna v lly
h a p
p y x c wh ch
e is t e n e h f
i , in t he s uppo s itio n, m ig t a ris e ro m
v
its pres er a t io nHl .
g h
o din , a s w e do , t a t t he ma rria e a c t
g
-

v ly
is t he di ine by wh ch
o rda ined mea ns i ma n o ffe rs t o G o d
t he o ppo rtunity c of lb
rea ting a n immo rta e ing, w e do no t

bl v h
e ie e t a t he m a k h l b ly
y ma e us e o f t is m ea ns a nd de i era t e
f w h
rus t ra t e it o f its e nd v w
it o u t do ing gra e ro ng .

" h
o u do m e t he h I h l
o no u r o f s u
gges ting t a t s o u d Write a
f w
o re y b k
o rd t o ou r oo
,
f f c l
bu t a ny o rew o rd ro m m e o u d
o bv ly ly v v l f
io u s on C h lc
de ri e a u e ro m my pos it io n a s a
'

at o i

h h y
pries t , a nd t a t po s it io n is in o ppo s it io n to t is pa rt o f ou r
w k or .

I c n t d with t t h k i g y v y i c ly f
a no en ou an n ou er s n ere or

a ll wi g m t
o n d y e b k Ap t f m w h t
o rea ou r oo . ar ro a
,
as a

C th ol ic I bj ct t i it i c t i
a ,
O e m ch m t h l p f l
o n ,
t o n a ns s o u os e u

m tt a th t I f L
er ait will b i gee m ys u re h ppi i r n to an a a ness n

m i d lif
a rr e w w ti g th
e gh t h ig
no an c d th
n ro u e no ra n e an e

c q tw
o ns e u en f ym p t h y w h ich y
a nt o igh t l y d pl
s a ou s o r e o re .

B li v m d eD St p e e e, ea r r. o es
,

" v y i c ly o u rs er s n e re ,

S ST J O HN S J C F . .
,
. .
,
. .

I pu ish bl t hi l
s et t er w it h ic s n ere th an k s to F a th er St John
—M
.

f o r his perm iss io n t o us e it . . C S .

 R epl y to F a th e r St .
J
o h n, S
] .

LE A T H ER H E A D ,
D c mb
e e e r 1 2, 1 9 1 7 .

DE R A FA T H ER ST .
J O HN ,

"u lo r e t ter wi
my ea rt ent ire
ns h l y by
its a pprec ia
t io n a nd k in dness hl
I t is a grea t e p a nd en ou ra geme nt t o
. c
h l
find t a t W e a re s o fa r in ess e nt ia a greeme nt , a nd t a t y o u h
a re s o w ll e w vdis pos e d t o a rd e e n pa rt o f my effo rt
w —
.

Iw hIc l
B u t— a nd is ou d s a
y it in bu rning o rds i t is

no t b c I ch y c c
e a us e am ie fl o n e rned it w hT
ime t a t h Iw
ro t e ,

h j bc I
C a pt er I X , bu t us t e au s e
. a m s o a ut e c ly
a nd s o per

c c
s is te nt l
y h I l
o ns io us t a t a m dea in
g it w hfc
a to rs o f E t e rnit y .

T o m e t o day is ess entia ll y a pa rt of my Lif e Everl as ting

-
.

Ic y h w l
a nno t s e pa ra t e t im e a nd e te rnit , t is o r d a nd t he

x l l f
ne t , a s re igiou s peo p e o te n s eem a bl h
e t o do ; t o m e t is

b yod l vc h h c l ly
is a t o o in t he s er i e o f ( t o u g no t o mp e te in
c l l l
t he o ntro o f) my im m o rt a s o u . h
N o w it s ee ms t o me t a t
l
re i io u s eo p e—a nd e e n in
l v y l I cy I
o ur e t t er c f an de te t
g p
t he s a m e te nde n cy f v ( g I w
o r i e m e if a m ro n y —
g) are t o o read
h w l
t o s e pa ra t e t is x bly
o r d a nd t he ne t , t o a c t u n rea s o na or

c ru elly h e re a nd t o t rus t t o E y H f
t e rnit , o r t he e rea t e r, t o

h I
pu t a l l rig t . h k h w ll
do no t t in t a t is t he w a y G o d i s us
to w k or l h v
ou t His p a ns no w t a t He is gi ing us t he k no w

l e d e t o do
g b e t ter .

l h yh bl c l h
Co u d t e re be a n t ing m o re u nrea s o na e o r ru e t a n
to b ring int o l f h lf
i e a ch l
a do z e n i dre n do o m ed fro m birth
t o ill h lh v y
-
ea t
, p o ert
,
l v bl c
a nd a m os t ine ita e rime ?

h f v h f C
C ris t o rga e t he t ie u po n t he ross , bu t He s a id, W o e
h h wh
u nt o him t ro u
g c c
o m o ffe n es w b
o me I t e re et ter fo r
.

h
him t a t a m i s to nell w h e re b ck
a nge d a ou t his ne a nd he

c a s t int o t he s ea
”
. l Ch
W ou d l b ly
ris t a pprove o f de i era t e

c rea t in
g a t hie f by b f h c l
rin in
g g o rt a hi d w ho w a s o ne
v bly h h
ine ita t ro ug c bl w k
p redi ta e hy q
ea ness o f
p s i ue a nd
l y v
m e nta it a nd a n e n iro nme n t o f po e rt ? v y Th f (
“
ie
s t a nds fo r c l
rim ina s in l
genera ) .

Bu t m o re, wh b h b
a t a o u t o t ers , b b cl
o rn dea d
,
o rn im e i e,
 R epl y xvn

t hw t d f l if by mi c i g wh ich a d d h
ar e o e s a rr a e
,
te r an re n t e

o v b d d m th
e r u r e ne th t h i f c d
o er s o gl ct h a s e s or e to ne e t e

ch il d h h re n s d h e g lasc t t
,
an h m i h i
e r ne v ? e u rns t e nt o t e es

Th p e d c d m h
o o r, u ne u a t e c mm its h i c im h gh ot er o _ t s . - r e t ro u

ig c it i w w h k w d ll w h t m i i
no ra n e : s e o no an a o er o re a n n

ig c wh
no ra n e lly p ibl o a re I rea t wi h
res o ns e . s no ou r t

h l di g G d giv k wl dg t h g
o n o -
en no m bl i g bl ck
e e e rea t es t s tu n -
o

o f fl o
’
h li l
e nc e t o t d h ll w
es e t d v th
t t e o nes , a n s a e no es e r e e

m ill d
s t o ne ro u n ck ? o u r ne s

W v y
e re e h v ll h ch il d phy i l gic lly
er o ne to a e a t e re n s o o a

p i
o ssbl ( we h i
no f m l it
t aty i m ch
n a nt d c d b y o rt a s so u re u e

s ci c )en e f w c In a i th e w l d t b t di g m
e nt u r es e re ou no e s an n ro o

on th h d wh f bl d f g
e ea rt
,
an no e re f or a a e o ra s s o r a n ea r o

c t g w b tw
o rn o ro h c wdi g f t e I h
ee n t Rm
e ro n ee . s t en a o an

C t h l ic m h t h i c wh l g f m ily g
.

a o ot t
er
,
e n rea s es o os e ar e a et

p i un er a n d p i b p iv il g d t g d l ib
u n e r, t o el y wi h r e e o o e e ra t e t

t ah t h t f p y ch il d
os o t th
un p f th t
re n a ly e ex ens e o o ers , no on

th gh h t p
ro u t f E a ity c ll d T im b
a rt o h gh l l
t ern a e e
,
ut t ro u a

Et ity ?ern

B t d u F h
,
St J h
ea r it i
at t my pl
er .t p o ch n, s no ac e o rea or

t o a r ue
g wit h y p ci ll y f t ou y g u ki des e a a er ou r e ne ro s n nes s

d pp c i t i n A d l "
,

an a re a oI f lly al i t h v w
. n ,
a as u re se at e e n e re

Ig t d h g fm
ra n e t e ton d f g l
u es o dI c v d
en a n o a n e s, a n on e rt e

y ou t my h o
gh t i t h i m t
t ou
y R m C h l ic
n s a t er
,
ou as a o an at o

p i t c ld
r es t ou ph l d p it i
no i u
pp it i o t y a os on n o os on o ou r

Ch ch ur .

Oh h t h Ch ch w l d l k t Ch i t w w d
t a t e ur es ou oo o r s
’
s o n or s

ffici l Ch ch int p t ti f h m "

,

i d f t th
ns t ea o o e o a ur er re a on o t e

I t h k y v y i c ly f y ki d t t g
an ou er s n e re or ou r n nes s o a s ra n
‘

er
,
an d m i
re lw y ya n
,
a
p c f ll y a s o u rs res e t u ,

M AR IE C AR M IC HAEL STOPES .
2
M a rri ed L o ve
a nd th w m n e th t t h ir b dily u ni n is the s l id
o a so a e o o o

nu cl u e f n imm n e f b ic f in t w v n t nd
s o a e s a r o er o e s ra s

r ea ching t the u t t rm t nd f t h
o th ; m e os e s o e e ar so e

l igh t t h n th film i t c bw b
er a t h n th
e ft t es o e ,
or a e so es

w v f mu ic i id c nt with th c l ur n t nly
a e o s ,
r es e e o o s, o o

o f t h v i ibl
e inb w bu t f ll th inv i ibl gl ri
s e ra o ,
o a e s e o es

o f the w v l ng th a f th e ul
-

e s o e so .

H w v m u ch h m y c nc l it u nd
o e er um d e a o ea er a s s e

cynici m w l dl in
s ,
l f k ing th h t f
or es s , or se -
s ee ,
e ea r o

e v y y u ng m n y n w ith g t l nging f th
er o a ea r s a re a o or e

fulfil m n t f th b u tifu l d e m f l if l ng u ni n
e o e ea r a o a e -
o o

wit h m t E ch h t k n w in tinc tiv ly th t i t

a a e . a ea r o s s e a

is o nly m t wh n g iv full c m h n i n f ll
o ca re e s o o
a a e
p e o a

th p t en t i l g e tn
e o in t h
a ul nd h v
r a t nd es s e so ,
a a e e er

l ugh t f ll the ch ild—lik w nd th t l ing

a er or a e o er a ers s o

e nch n t ingly
a v n in th wh it —h i d e e e e a re .

Th ch f
e s ea r m t i qu t f n und t nd
or a a e s a es or a ers a

ing h t cl t h d in
ea r b dy b u t iful bu t unl ik u
o e a o ea , e o r

own .

w l h
I n t he m o dern o r d, t o s e w ho s et o u t o n i h gh
v
e n de a o u r s o r w ho c c ly
o n s io u s h lv
s e a ra te t em s e
p es

from t he o rdina r yc c ll
o u rs e o f s o ia c
ife, a re o m pa ra
h
t iv ely few , a nd i t is n o t t o t em t a t h I k g
a m s ea in
p
T he rea t m a o rit o f o u r iti en s — o t m en a nd
.

g j y c z b h
w o m e n— a ft er a t im e o f w g x l g
a it in , o r o f e o rin , o r
p
-

o f o s c i a t inll
g f c h
r o m o ne a t tra t io n to a no t er, l s et t e

do n w a nd m a rr y .

V er fe w are a t u a
y c lly cy c l
so yw h
n i a a s t o marr it o u t
h
t he o pe o f a p ine s s;
p h wh l
i e m y g
ost o un l peo p e , ho w
v h
e er t e ir o rds m aw y h v hy
y den it a nd o we er t e may
c c l
o n ea t eir te nderh h
o es
p by a n a s s u m t io n o f
p
cy c v l h hy
n i i s m , r e ea t a t t e c c
a re g
o ns io u s o f e nter in
o n a new a nd gl
o r io u s s ta teby h l k
t e ir ra dia nt o o s a nd
j y
t he o o u s uo an b y cy h c
o f t e ir a t io n s k
I n the is s e s .
 T he H ea rt D e s i re
’
s 3
an d the h and t o u ch o f the b e tr o the d a re a ze s t a nd
exh il ara t io n wh ich s tir t he bl o o d l ik e wi ne T he tw o .

re a d o e try, l is te n entra nc ed t o mu s ic wh ich e ch o e s

p
the s o ng s o f t h e ir pu l s es , a nd s e e refl ec t e d in e a ch
o t h er s e y e s t he b ea u ty o f the wo rl d I n the m ids t
’
.

o f t h is c el e s t ia l int o x ic a t io n t h e y na t u ra lly a s s u m e

t ha t, a s t h e y a re o n the t hres h o l d o f t h e ir l ives , s o t o o

t h ey are in bu t t he a nt e ch a mb er o f t h e ir ex perie nc
-

o f s piri tu a l u nit y .

T he mo re s e ns it ive , t he mo re ro ma ntic , a nd t he
m ore ide a l is t ic is the y o u n g per s o n o f e it h er s ex , the
more his o r her s o ul c rav e s fo r s o m e k indre d s o u l wit h
who m the who le b eing can u nite B u t all h ave s o m e .

mea s ure o f t h is des ire , ev en t he m o s t pro s a ic , a nd w e

kno w fro m innumerabl e s to rie s o f rea l l ife tha t the
s tern e s t m a n o f a ff a irs , he w ho m a
y h a v e w o rl dly

s ucc es s o f e v ery s o rt , ma e t, t h ro u gh t he l a ck o f
y y .

a rea l ma t e , l ive w it h a s ens e a l m o s t a s t h o u h t he

g
l imb s o f his s o ul ha d b een a mpu ta ted Edward .

C arpenter has b ea u tifully voi ced th is lo nging

h h l x h w l
T ha t t e re s o u d e is t o ne o t er p e rs o n i n t he or d t o w a rds
h ch h l bl h l f f
w o m a l l o p e nn es s o f in t er a nge s o u d e s t a is i t s e , ro m
h h h l c c l
w o m t ere s o u d be n o o n ea me n t ; wh b h l ose o dy s o u d be a s

l
c ea r t o o ne , i n e er v ’
h h h h l
y p a rt , a s o ne s o w n ;w it w o m t ere s o u d
h
be no s e ns e o f M ine o r T ine , in pro p erty o r pos s ess io n ; i nt o
h h h h l ll
w o s e mi nd o n e s t o ug t s s o u d na t ura
’

y fl o w , a s i t w ere t o
k h
no w t ems e lv c v ll '
b
es a n d t o re ei e a n e w i umin a t io n a n d
; e t w ee n

h
w o m a n d o nes e lf h h l b
t e re s o u d be a s o n t a n eo us re o und o f
p
s m at
y p h j x c l f ch
y i n a l l t he o y s a nd s orro w s a nd e p eri e n es o f i e ;s u
l wh l Lv
is p rhaps o n e o f t he c e ares t is es o f t he s o u ’
o e s C o m in
z g
.

of
ge .

I t m ay chance th at s o meo ne in to wh os e h hian ds t s

b k f ll
oo m ay pro tes t t
a s h at h e or s h h n v
e as f lt
e er e
t he funda m enta ea rnin ly g to f m or a
part f t hot tri n i t
a y
wh ch l
i a o ne is the perfe t c e xp e i r ss o n f h u m nit y
o a If .
4 M a rr i e d L o v e
t h t is s
a it i p o, ibl t h t ll u nc n c i u ly h m y
s oss e a a o s o s e a

be u ff ing f m
s er l m l dy— e n the i Th i
ro a r ea a a s x a ae s s a . s

i the n m g iven to n inh er nt c ldne

s a e wh ich a e o s s, ,

wh il it l ck t h u u l h um n impul e f t nd rn
e a s e s a a s o e e es s ,

i g n lly quite u nc n c u s f it l k I t m y ’

s e e ra o s io o s ac . a

e v n b t h t th
e e d a d p tu f m t h e rea din y er s
’
e ar re ro e or ar

ra nk f m nk ind i till m e fu ndam nt l in wh ich

s o a s s or e a ,

c in t d f S tt ng n j u dgm nt n th m j rit y
as e , s ea o i i i e o e a o ,

h w ill d w ll t
e o d m u ch b
e k s Tho re a so e s oo a e

Sex u l Q t i n ( E ngl i h t n l t i n 1 0 8 by th
9 )
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a i es o s ra s a o e

f m u Pr f
a o s Au gu t F l in d th t hi w n
o es s o r s o re ,
or er a s o

n tua m y be m d k n wn t him H e m y t h n
re a a e o o . a e

di c v s o t wh ich typ f u wid ly v i u

er o e o o r . e ar o s

h um nity he b el ng H n d n t d my bo k
a o s . e ee o r ea . o ,

fo it i w itt n b u t nd i t i w itt n f
r s r e a din ry
o ,
a s r e or, o r a

m n nd w m n wh f el ing t h m lve inc mpl t

e a o e o, e e se s o e e,

y nfea r u n i n t h t w ill h v
or a
p w o n t nly t a a e o er o o o

m k a full
e a nd ich th ing f t h eir o wn I
er a r bu t er o l V CS,

wh ich will pl ce t h m in po iti n t u th i c d

a e a s o o se e r s a re

t u t
r s cet as f l iv
r a o rs t c me o es o o .

I t h h pp ned m ny t ime in h u m n h i t y th t
as a e a s a s or a

indiv idu l h v n t nly b n bl e t c nq u e th i

a s a e o o ee a o o r s

n tua l c ving f
ra ra m t bu t h v t u p c l ib cy
or a a e, a e se e a

as h igh id l I n it m t b u tiful xp i n
a er ea . s os ea e res s o

a nd u bl im e t m nif t t i n
s s the c l ib t a id l h es a o s, e a e ea as

p rocl i m e d
a w l d w i d l v e in pl c
a or f th n -
w e o , a e o e a rro er

h u m n l ve f h m nd ch ild n M ny int nd
a o o o e a re . a sa s a

sa g f m
e s , re or nd d g m ti t h v m d ll d t h i
er s a o a s s a e o e e e r

l ive n thi id l B u t uch individu l c nn t b

s o
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s ea . s a s a o e
t k n
a e t he t nd d f t h r
as s a f th y e u t f ar o e a ce, or e ar o o
it m in c u
s a nt th ey rre b nch wh ich m y fl w are ra es a o er,
bu t nev f u it in b dily fo m
er r a o r .

I n t h i w l d u pi it n t nly p m te m tt r
s or o r s r s o o er ea a e

but find th i nly e xpres i n t h o ugh its m diu m

e r o s o r e .
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s

g h
So l o n a s we a re u m a n We m u st a e o dies , a nd hv b
,

b b y ch
o die s o e emi a cl a nd
p hy l g c l
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s io o i a , a s e as

p llw
s iri tu a a s .

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I f o ur r a e a s a
. l
o e s e t o u t t o pu rs u e a n ide a

wh ch i l ly l
m u s t u t ima te l g h
e im in a t e b odie s a t o e t er,

cl h v y h l c
it is ea r t a t er s o o n w e s o u d find t he o nditio n s
v l h c l l g
o f o u r e n iro nme nt s o a tere d t a t w e o u d no o n e r
“

s ea
p k h
o f t he c
u m a n ra e .

h
I n the m ea nt im e, w e a re u ma n ch . W e ea a nd
a lllv l v cc g lw
i e o ur i es a ordin t o a s , s o m e o f wh ch i
we hv bga e e u n t o u nders ta nd, m a n y wh ch of i a re

c l ly h
om
p ete i dd en fr o m u s T. hc le m os t om
p e te

h u ma n b g e in c c ly
is he o r s he w ho o n s io u s o r u nco n

by
s c io u s l
y o e s the
p hy c l l w
ro fo u n d
p si a ba s o f o ur e in
g
in s uch a wa h y t p v ch h l
a t t he s ir it rec e i e s a s m u e
p a nd

l l h
a s itt e c b y bl
indra n e fro m the o d a s po s s i e A m ind .

a nd s ir it
p fi ll x
nds it s fu e s t e
p hw
re s s io n tby a r t ed t he
gl c g b b y wh ch
m is u s e , ne e t o r ro s s a u s e o f t he o d in i
w ll
it d e s .

By g l
t he i nora nt o r s e f indu ent
_
lg -
b k g rea in of

l lw l h
fu nda menta a s end es s arm o nies a re dis o a ted l c .

ll c c
T he m o dern , s ma m in de d a s e ti e n dea o u rs to
-

v
g wro
p lly by
s iri t u a y g
d e s tro in hy c l
h i s
p c si a i ns t in t s
in s tead o fby g h
u s in t em Iw lBut
. cl ou dh p ro a im t a t

w e a re s e t in t he w l l h
o r d s o t o m o u d m a tt er t a t it

x h
m a y e pres s o u r s pirit s ;t a t it is pres u mpt io n to pro
fe s s t ofigh t the im m e m o rial lw a hy c l
s o f o ur
p si a

b g h
e in , a nd t a t he w ho do es s o l c c ly
o s e s u n o n s io u s

the fi wh ch w
ne s t fl u x in i c k
o n dro u s ne w re a t io n s ta e

h
t e ir ris e .

T o u s e a o m e s im i e— o ne m i t o mpare tw o
h ly l gh c
h uma n b g b
e in s t o t w o ch
o die s w h lc c y
ar ed
g i t e e tri it

o f diff eren t
p l I l
o t e nti a s . ch h
s o a t e d fr o m ea o t er t he

lc c c w h h
e e tri v bl
fo r es it in t em a re in is i e, bu t if t e hy
6 Ma rri e d L o ve
c m int th igh t j ux t p i ti n th f c
o e o e r t n a os o e o r e 1s ra s

mu t d nd e s
, p k a gl w af b urning l igh t
ar ,
ri e
a o o a s s

b etw n them Such 8 l ve

ee . 1 o .

F m th b dy f the l ved o n s impl s w tly

ro e o o o e s
’
e, ee

c l ur d fl h wh ich o u imm mori l c e tu in

o o e es ,
r e a r a re

t inc t u r u t d i t h er ing s no t o nly t h r

w nd ? n w b o dily l ife bu t a l o th nla g m n t

s s e s o es re , e s
p e

o er o a e ,
s e e r e e

o f the h iz o n f h u m n y mp thy nd the gl w f

or o a s a a o o

s i i t u l u nd
r t nding wh ich er s a l it y u l c u ld so ar so o
p a a

n v e h ve tt in d l n
er a a a e a o e .

M ny ading th i m y f l c n c i u s th t th y
r ea s a ee o s o a e

h v h d phy ic l u ni n with u t u ch pi itu l ul t

a e a s a o o s s r a re s s,

p h p
er v n w ith u t an cce i n f dina y h p
a s e e o a ss o o or r a

p u
r es s I f t h .t i t n nly
a b isb c u s o,
c n ca o e e a s e, o

sc oi u ly u nc n c i u s ly t h e y h v e b o k n s m
s or o s o f ,
a r e o e o

t he p f u nd l w s wh ich g v e n the l o v
ro o a f m n nd o r e o a a

w m n Only by l ning t h ld b w co ectly

o a . e ar o o a o rr

ca n n d w mu c f
o e m v i l in
ra nly by b edi nc
s1 ro a o . o o e e

t th l w
o e f t he l wer pl ne c n o n s tep up t th
a s o o a a e o e

pl n a b ve
e a o .
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T he B ro ken J o
y
W h at
h ll b d q h h — y f h w ld ? H w
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"

s a e o ne t o ui e t t e e a rt c r o t e or o

a ns w h d m b pp l f
er t h lp w
e f divi b l w y
u a ea or e e s o o t en ne e o e es

t h l gh i—JE i T h H i M
at au . n e ero n an .
”

REA M IN G f h ppin f l ing th t t l t o a es s , ee a a as

th y h v ch f und th n wh will giv

e a e ea o e o e o e

t n l u nd t nding
e er n d t nd n a the er s a a e er es s ,
"
y ung m n nd m id n m y
o a a a e arr .
e

A t fi t in th t im g n
rs , lly c ll d th h n ym n e e e era a e e o e oo ,

th u n cc u t m d f
e a d m nd t h w tn
s o f th
e ree o a e s ee es s o e

re al ti n f t n d e b ing l h ppin
o o e H w l ng o s r r ea a es s . o o

it l t ? T th n i
-

d o es ft n f as h t t im oo
: o e a ar s o r er e a s

g n lly ck n wl dged
e era a o e .

I n t h fi t j y f t h e i u ni n i t i h idd n f m th
e rs o o r o s e ro e

tw y ung p pl th t th y k n w little o n th ing

o o eo e a e o r o

a b u t th fu nd m ent l l w f ch th
o e b inga a a s o ea o er s
’
e .

M uch f th t t c ti n (n t nly m n g h u m n
o e s ex a -

ra o o o a o a

b ing bu t v n th u gh u t th wh le world f
e s, e e ro o e o o

l iving c tu ) d p nd up n the diff nc s b

r ea res e e s o er e e e

tw n th t w t h t p i ; n d p b bly t k ing t h m ll
ee e o a a r a ro a a e a

un w a th v y diff nc which d w t h m t
a re s , os e er ere es re e o

g ther n w b g in t w k th i u nd ing
e o e o or e r o .

B ut l ng th fi t illu i n th t e ch u nd
so o as e rs s o a a er

t nd t he th
s a s i u pp t d by th t h ill in g d l igh t
o er s s or e e r e

o f ve f h di c v i
e r -
th re sn t i n l iv d t h u gh
s o er e s , e se sa o s e ro

a re so
pi d nd jra y u th t th l v a d n t so o o s a e o ers o o

rea lis th t th i n fi m f u nd ti n f re l m u tu l
e a ere -
s o r o a o o a a

kn wl dg b en th th i f t Wh il v n th
o e e ea e r ee . e e e e

I hi d i m f h g l i i f d i hi
n t s, an n ost o t e e n era s a t o ns o un n t s

b k I m p k i g f h i g h y i G B i i W h il
oo , a
“

s ea n o t n s as t e ar e n rea t r t a n. e,

to c id bl x
a o ns h m i era f Am i e ed h t en t , t e sa e s t rue o er c a an t e

Sc di v i
an c i i m b m mb d ll h gh h
na an o unt r e s , t us t e re e ere a t ro u t at

I m p ki g f h B i i h
a s ea d p im ily f
n o d c t d cl
e r t s , an r ar o o ur e u a te a ss es .
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h ppi t p i m y k n w f div genci b u t e
a es a r a o o er es a o r

l igi n p l itic
o ci l cu t m nd p n n n th ing
o s, so a s o ,
a o 1 1o s o s

in g i l t h
b ,

er era with g dwill p ti nc nd int l

,
e s e, oo ,
a e e, a e

l ig n e n it h
ce o id n b u l t im t ly
e dj u ted be
er s e , ca e a e a s ,

c u in ll u ch th ing th i c mm n m eting
a se a s s er e s a o o e

g und f th tw H u m n b eing whil diff ing

ro or e o . a s, e er

w id ly b u t v y c nc iv bl
e a o u bj c t n u ch h u m n
e er o e a e s e 1 s a

re al ti n h v t l t th ught b u t th m th h d
o s, a e a ea s o a o e ,
re s e

th m u te n d di c u
o d t h m p nly f g n
, a ti n
s sse e o e or e era o s .

B u t b u t t h m u ch m
a o fu nd m n t l nd v i t l
e o re a e a a a

p ro bl m fe t h e
s i o l ck f k n wl dg
s e x, re s a a o o e e so

a by m l nd u niv l th t it m i t nd h d wy
s a a so er s a a s s s a s a o

d knar h v ff c t d v n th f w w h l d u nd
es s a e a e e e e e e o ea s, a

wh o a re
p c u t ing ch n th
ro s e u bj c t A nd res ea r 1 es e s e s .

th tw
e y u ng p pl b gin t u ff f m fu nd
o o eo e e o s er ro a

m n t l div g nc i
e a b f p h p th y l i t h t
er e es , e o re er a s e rea se a

s u ch xi t nd with l ittl p p c t f v g ining

e s ,
a e ro s e o e er a a

ra t i n l x pl n ti n f th em
o a e a a o o .

N ly ll th wh
ea r aw n h ppin e m t
os e be ose o a es s s e s o

dim m d b k n c u nt th m lv xc pti n nd
e or ro e o e se es e e o s, a

c m f t them lv with th th u gh t f me f th i
o or se es e o o so o e r

f i nd w h t h y f l u
r e s, h v tt in d th h ppi
o, e ee s re , a e a a e e a

n es s wh ich th y th m lv h v m i d e e se es a e sse .

I t i g ne lly u pp ed t h t h ppy pe pl
s e ra l ik e
s os a a o e,

h ppy n ti n h v n h i t y —
a a o th y s, il nt b u t
a e o s or e a re s e a o

th i e r wn ff i o Th wh at lk b u t th i
a rs . ose o a a o e r

m i g
a rr a gen lly th w h h v m i d th
e a re er a ose o a e s se e

h ppin th y xp c t d T u
a es s eth i m y b e n
'

e e . r e as s a e 1

g n r l it i n t pe m n ntly nd p f u ndly t u
e e a , s o r a e a ro o r e,

nd t h erel w h ck
a re n ed ndeo t ill e o a re
a
p p re o , a s

re ck n th m lve h ppy bu t wh y t un w
o e se s, a ,
o e a a re s

re v l th c et di pp intm ent wh ich cl ud their

ea e se r sa o o s

in w d p c ar ea e .

L v ing u t f cc unt f mm s i nc mpris s

ea o o
”
a o
“
e e o e
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re a dier to l k up n h ppine
oo o a Ut s s as a o
pia n drea m

h
t an is his m a te .

h h
O n the o t er a nd, the o ma n is s o er to rea is e w l w l
dis a ppo in tm ent, a nd more o ften by
t he s ex l 1fe of
g
m arr1a e 1 3 o f t he two the mo re prof o undly o u nde d, w
w h l wc
it a s o v w h
orro s i e v y
o und t a t ea ts i nt o her er

b ge in .

c h yc
P erfe t a ppine s s I S a u nit y o m o s ed o f a m ria d
p
c h h g x
e s s e n es ; a nd t i s o n e s u re me t in
p 13 e
p o s e d to

ck c
the a tta l c v c
s o f o u n t e s s de s tru t i e fa t o rs .

W I er e ch to t o u bl c
u o n a ll t he
p pos s i e s o u r es o f

l h h b k
m a rita dis appo in tment a nd u n a ppines s , t is o o
w l x
ou d e
p z b lky v l
a nd in to a do en I u o u m es A s s am .

g h
a ddre s s in I hv
t o s e w ho a s s u me a e rea d, o r ca n r ea d,

h b k w
o t er oo s v fic
r itt en u o n
p a rio u s ra m i a tio ns o f t he

bj c I ll
su e t, wic h wh ch h v
no t dis u s s the t em es i ae
b h l by
ee n yw
a nd e d m an lw h b
riters , no r dea it a norm
wh ch fill l g
a l i t ie s , i so ar e a
p a r t o f m o s t bOO k S o n

s ex .

l y
I n the a s t few ea rs t ere ha s e en s u h an a b
a en ch wk
l
ing to the rea is a tio n o f the o rro s i e o rror o f a ll c v h
a s e ts o f
p c p h h
ro s t itu t io n t a t t ere 1 3 no need t o a o u r lb
h
the po in t t a t no m arria e ca n be g a
pp h y wh
e re

t he h b
u s a nd ha s , in u in b y g
a no t e r od , s o d h b y l
his o w n ea t h lhw h h
it his o no ur, a nd 1 s ta inted it w h
dis ea s e .

c y
N or 1s it ne e s s a r , in s pea in t o
-
e k g
mea nin , w ll -
g
o t im is ti
p ou n cy gc l
ou
p e s , t o en a r eu o n the o
p l g i ou s bv
g k lg c
da n ers o f dru n enne s s , s e f indu e n e, a nd the l
m
-

c ru der fo r s of se lfi h
s ne s s w h bl
I t 13 it the s u t er 1n
.

ll w hv
fr ingem ent s o f the funda m enta a s w e a e to dea l .

g y h l y g
A nd the prim e tra ed 1 3 t a t, a s a r u e, the two o u n
p p
eo e l
a re ot b h w x c ch
u na a re o f the e is ten e o f s u d e

c ree s . et " h l wh
ere, a s e s e Nere in a tu re, t he la w
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j
I
o
y
b re a k is pu nis ed
er h
wh h w
e t er he i s a a re o f the e is t x
c
e n e o f the la w he rea s or n o t b k .

I n the s ta te o f i no ra n e g i c wh ch l g ly
s o ar e
predo mm

a tes to da , the
y
-
fi g h h g
rs t s i n t a t t in s a re a m is s b e t ee n w
t he tw o w ho t o u t t eh gh h y w
ere en t erin g pa ra dis e t o

g h
et er , is e nera g lly l l l
a s en s e o f o ne in e s s , a fe e in t at g h
t he o ne w ho w a s e pe te d t o x c hv
a e a ll in c o mm o n is

x c bl
o u t s ide s o m e e perie n e, s o m e s u t e de i ht , a nd lg
l
fa i s to unders ta nd the needs o f t he o ed o n e l v T v ri i .

a l itie s a re o ften the fi

r s t indi a tors c h g
o f s o m e t in

wh ch i k h
ta es its r o o ts u ns een in t he pr ofo u ndes t dept s
'

g l h v
T he ir m a y s o b fo r o u rs o er s o m e t in s o triflinh g g
h c
t a t s he a nno t e en pu t in to v w wh l
ords its na tu re, ie
y h k g h
the o u n m a n, t in in t at he ha d s e t o u t w h it his
l f
s o u s be o v e d u po n a n a d e n tu re int o
’
v cl l e e s t ia dis
c
ta n e s , m ay find h l
ims e f a ppa ren t ly g u
p a a ins t a

b a rrier in her i a
pp wh ch c h bl
ear s a s in o m pre ens i e a s it

v
is fri o o u s l .

Th g
en, s o s tra n e is the m s t i a in ter re a t io n bey cl -

l
w
t ee n o ur o dies , o ur b m
inds , a nd o ur s o u s , t a t fo rl h
c rim e s c g
o m mi t ted in i noran e o f t he du a fianct io n sc l
o f the m a rried
p a ir, a n d t he a s i l w wh ch h
a rmo nis e

h h
t em , the pu ni s m ent s a re rea ped o n p a nes l q
u it e

v ll
di er s e , t i new a nd e er new m is u nders ta ndin s v g
a
pp ea r t o s r in
p s o nta neo u s
p g f ly
r o m t he s o i o f t eir l h
m u tu a l c
o n ta t w ly c
Gra du a . or s lly
ift ea ear t ch h
bg h
e ins to b l l
ide a s ens e of o u nd e s s is o a tio n I t m a y .

g h h w g
be u r ed t a t t is s ta tement is t o o s eepin I t is ,
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h wv b
o e er , bl c l l v
a s e d o n innu m era e a tu a i es a e . Ihv
h w
e a rd fr o mwh g
o m en l k o s e m a rr ia e s a r e o o ed u o n
p
by h
a ll a s t he bl xa
pp i es t
p os s i e e
p r es s io ns o f u ma n h
lc y l c wh ch h
fe i it , the de ta i s o f s e re t pa in o f i t e a e yhv
l w h h b kl g y M a n m en i w ll
’

a lo ed t eir u s a nds no in in .

k wno h yh v h
ho w t e h bl v
a e idden fro m t eir e o e d i e s wv
 12 Ma rri ed L o ve
f du ll dis a ppo intment, perh aps a t her c o l dnes s
a s en s e o

in t he m a rita l em b ra c e , or fro m the s ens e tha t th ere

is in her s o m e th ing e lu s iv e wh ich a lwa y s eva des th e ir
g ra s
p .

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s ens e o nds g fi
r ea dier e
p x
res s io n in t he ru de c
r a nd m o re o rdina r y
na t u re s T he di s a ppo in tmen t o f the m a rrie d is ex
.

p re s s ed n o t o n i ly
n in nu m era e bl b k
o o s a nd
p a s , bu t ly
v
e en in o mi c c
a ers a nd a ll o u r da i
p p ly g
ossi
p .

y
N ow t a t s o m a nv h m o e m en t s lk
a re a ro a d, fo b
b l x
o n a ll s ide s a re em o dened t o e
p h
res s t he o inio n t a t
p
g l wh ch
i t is m a rria e its e f i l y h k h
i s a t fa u t M a n t in t a t .

ly by l
m ere g b o o s en in the o nds , a n d m a ink g bl
it po s s i e
hw h
t o s ta r t a fr es l h lv w l
it s o m eo ne e s e , t e ir i es o u d be
h y
m a de ha rm o nio u s a nd a pp B u t o ften s u
. ch re
“

g h
fo rm ers fo r e t t a t he o r s he w ho no s n o t in o f k w h g
k g g
the w a y to m a e ma rria e rea t a nd b l h
ea u t if u w it

o ne l k ly cc
a r tner, is n o t i e t o su eed iw h
t a no t er O n
h ly
p .

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a re eren t s tu d o f t he A r t o f L o e c a n the
v b ea u t
y
x
o f it s e
p l l
res s io n be rea is e d in in e d i es k lv .

v wh
A nd e e n c l en o n e ea rn t, the A r t o f L o e ta e s v k
tim e t o c ll
ra t i s e A s E en " e y L v q
o e re u ires
p .
y sa s,

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ea e, o e c
i d r ea m ;i t lv
a nno t i e u o n t he re m
p
n a n t s o f o u r t im e a n d o u r
p er s o na i t l y”
.

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ere is n o do u t t a t Lo e o s e s , in the v l h a s te a n d
“

b lu s t e o f the m o dern tu rm o i , no t o n l ly ch
its a rm a nd

g cra es , bu t s o m e o f i t s v l c vl
ita e s s e n e T he e i re s u ts l .

o f the a s te h i wh ch
s o infe s t s a n d
po is o n s u s a re o fte n

l
fe t m u ch
m o re t he byom w
an t an h
the m a n by
T he .

v
o er s t im u a ti o n o f
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l c yl
it ife te nds t o s e ed u
p p th e

c
m a n s r ea tio n s , bu t to re ta rd ers
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h
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. k
w v
o rs e , e e n fo r t o s e w ho h a e hv l
e is u re to s end o n
p
l v
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k g pp o r tu n i t ie s fo r
p e a e fu , ro ma nti c l c
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I 3
cin m h w th n in w d nd g i d n wh the
e a s o s a oo s a r e s ere

u ll ing f m oy l v nd
ro s e m y b t
arh w t or a e er a e e s ee
p
e xcu f th l w nd p f u d m u tu l r u ing f
se or e s o a ro o n a o s o

p i
ass o n N w p
. hy ic l p o i n w iftly stim u l t d
s a as s o ,
so s a e

in m n t nd t a ,
v id ll l nd th u ntu t d
e s o o err e a e s e, a e o re

m n a ks eeb u f n t hsin g — th cc m pl i h m nt f
o e e a o s e o

d i es re Th w m
. f i t i in h n tu
e o a n,t d or s er a re s o o o,

f g iv
or th c u d n
es bu t
e n r lt h l v
e es s , s oo er o r a er er o e

re v l t p b bly in c t nd th n f
o s, ro a v fte s e re , a e or e er a r,

th u gh h m y c m m nd n u tw d t nd n
o s e a o h a a o ar e er es s , s e

h n th ing with in bu t c n nd l th in g f
as o th t s or a oa or e ac

which h u ld h v b n p p tu lly ecu ing

s o a e ee a er e a r rr

e nt nc m n t
ra e e .

S m y p pl
o an w b eo d b d i ifici l
e a re n o d f l orn a n re n ar t a an a se

s urro un di g h v h lm yfc h h c fl v
n s, t at e en t e e e e nta r a t t at t e a ts o o e

s h ld b j y i k
ou e o h m A di i g i h d A m ic
o us s un now n t o t e st n u s e er an

d c hi m i g m b li v m l
.

o m d
t or a e t s I d
a az n s ta t e e nt : o no t e e e ut u a

pl i
ea s ure h x l h y p ic l b i g h h pp i
n t e se ua act as an ar t u ar ea r n on t e a

f l if (A m M d A c R p T hi i p h p
”
n es s o e. er . e . ss o . e s s, er a s,

x m c y m y di i g i h d m di l m
.

an e t re e a s e, et so an st n u s e e ca e n, ne
gy
l gi
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ro o u n es t a ts o u an s ex -
e, t at t s

no t
p i i g h
s ur r s ndi y y tg c pl at hwv hpfl
or na r o un ou es , o e er o e u

h l d b k d d y h j y h m igh h v b h i l i f
,

s ou re a an es t ro t e o t at t a e e en t e r e
l gc w
on ro n .
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W o ma n s
C o ntra ri ne s s ’

O h "f h B i g w h m I c c iv b i h w ld
or t at e n o ca n on e e to e n t e or ,

th gh I h ll l iv p v i O
ou s a no t w h m I m igh h v
e to ro e t . ne t o o t a e

c
re o urs e i ll m y H m n a d Di p i i ll my D i
u o urs an s o s t o n s : 1n a s

te mp f M i d vi i
ers o y C f
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s o nar i y a u s es o ort c a t 1o n , an a r

D m f Pl L dy
,

rea s o I h v b yi g
e a s ure i p a e ee n tr n t o t ra n u a a or

h g d ffic f F i d h ip b h i h I m
.

tw f o or t es e oo o es o r en s ut t e rt o us t n o t

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RR 1 C 1< .

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m i h ppily n d h pefully gi l w ll
a rr es , a a o , a r e

s u it e d t him ? H d i with hi wh l o e es res s o e

h t mu tu l l if l ng h ppin
ea r a a H m i s w it h
,
e -
o a es s . e a rr e

t he int n t i n f fulfill ing v y inj u nc t i n giv nhim

e o o e er o e

by f th d c t a er, nd f i nd o H c n id t n
or, a r e . e 1s o s era e 1

t iflr h
es ,
p k ne h h
s w ead h nd hi
s b i d o ars or s, e a s r e

g o ab u t t g th
o w lk t g th
o e e d t g th er , nd a o e er , r a o e er , a

e h r i f t h
s, y v y dv nc ed e v en w k
a re t er a a e or o
p p a ,

g th e B u t ft
er . f w m nt h a m yb er a f wy e o s , or a e a e ea r s

o f m i g th y
arr a m t h v e drifted p t nd he
e e s ee o a a ar , a

fi nd h r ft n c ld nd inc m p h en ible F w m en
s e o e o a o re s . e

will ck n wl dg th i v n t th i b e t f i nd B u t
a o e e s e e o e r s r e s .

ea ch h t k n w it wn p in
ear o s s o a .

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e a a es a ,
a r e es s r

t ea s ehi w if b u t h c nt ine s Th t i t k n
s e a o er o ra r s . a s a e

by v y e ert m n n th ing bu t
o ne o
p l y f ul c ncea l o a a o ea

m nt e f hi p f u nd l v e P b bly it i
o s ro o But o . ro a s .

g n vv i n
a
g t t h v y a t f h i l ve i h t
er f ul ro o s o s o e s a a e

l ittl e w m— the n th t h is ntr ry H

or se se a s e co a . e

f l th t h i
ee s at t im in xplic bly c l d ; th t
s e s a es e a o a ,

m time wh n h h
so e s, d ne n th ing e
”
he w ill e as o o s

hv ta e in he
ea rs ye i ti nal t wh ich he
r e s, rra o e a rs s

c nn t expl in
a o a .

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e o s er es a o e ee s r o -
a
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o man s
’ 1 5
and m ntic dv nc e w in h
ro a t m il a a s er o s e s a nd j y o o us

yi lding nd th n p h p f w d y l t
e , a e er a s a e a s a er t he s a me ,

mo re impa s s io ned, t e ndernes s o n hi s part 13 m e t

.

or

by c l o dne s s o r a fo r e d a ppea ra n e o f c a rm t , i , c w h wh ch
wh l k
i e he m a y m a e n o o m m ent u po n it , ur t s him c h
c ly
a u te . h
A nd t is deep, in e p i a e u rt is o ft en x l c bl h
b
t he e innin
g g
o f the e nd o f his o e M en i e to l v .
-

lk
l h hy
fee t a t t e u nder s t a nd t eir deares t o ne, a nd t a t h h
s he is a ra t io na e in lb g .

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x l c bl g c
f o r s o m e tim e, if the m a n is o f a t all a ea o u s na tu re j l
he w ll
i s ear his ch w cq
ife s a u a inta n es fo r s o m eo ne
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wh o m s he m a
y hv
a e m et , for s o m eo ne w ho m a y

mo m e n ta ri ly h v v
a e di ert ed her a tt ent io n Fo r ho w .

v h
e er ard it is fo r t he na tura m a n t o e ie e t a t l bl v h
y c l
a n o ne o u d s t ep int o his s o e s , s o m e a re rea d h to y
s eek x l h
t he e p a na t io n o f t e ir o w n ill s u e s s in a ri a cc vl .

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pu e s him the zzl '

h h l v c c
ma n is per a ps o n s io u s t a t his o e, his o w n de
hyw
s ires , are a s a rdent a s t e y b
ere a few da s efo re ;

h k w ly
t en, no ing s o int im a t e h his o w n ea rt, he is s ure
l v l c ly
o f the s t ea din es s o f i t s o e, a nd he fee s a u t e t he
c
ro m a nt i
p wh ch
a s s io n t ob y i h er ea u t s t ir s him ; he

b
rem em ers h h
p p y l
er a s t at a few da s ea r ier hi s ardo u r

wk h ch
ha d a a ened a r es po n s e in her ; t ere fore, he rea es
wh at a
pp ll bl l g c l
ea rs t o him t o be t he in f a i e o i a dedu c ~

t io n h h h vl
t a t e it er t ere m u s t be s o m e r i a or his
b c h bl c
ride s na t ur e i s in o m re en s i
?
p y c e, o ntra r , a
p ir

c io n s B h h gh
. ot t ou ts t o m a dden .

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a r i io u s ne s s , m a n in
p l l enera ha s it t e
p c
a t ien e c C. b
a ri e render s hi s
p ll
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v o id W
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a ri e i s , or a
p g
ppears to be, a ne a
t io n o f reas o n c
A nd a s r e a s o n is ma n’s m o s t pre io u s
.

h c ly
and ard won fa u t , the o ne
-
wh ch i has ra is ed ma n
C
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k ind fi o m the rank s o f the brute creat on he canno t
-
1 ,

b ea to s ee it apparently fi o uted
r .

Th t his b ide s ho u ld l ck l gic a nd s weet reas o n

a r a o

a bl e ne s s i s a fl a w it h u rt him to re c g nis e in her s He o .

ha s to cru s h the t h o u gh t do wn .

I t m a y t h en h a ppen t h a t the y o u ng ma n h im s el f ,

a ine d a nd b e w il dere d a t h a v ing a ined his b ride by

p p
the very rdo ur o f his a ff ec tio n ma y s trive t o pl ea s e
‘

a ,

her by pl c ing r s tr int u po n h ims el f H e m y a s k

a e a . a

him elf D o no t rel igio u s and m ny k inds f mo r l

s a o a

te ch e s pre ch re s tr in t t o the m a n ?
a r a H e rea ds
a

the b o k s w it t en fo r the g u id nc e o f y o u th
o r nd a ,
a

fi nd re s traint
s
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a nd o fte n irr t io na lly u g ed in t h em a l l H i

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( a s nex t r .

s te
p m y t h en be to cu rt il the e xpre s s io n o f his tender
a a

feel ings a nd t o wo rk hard a nd la te in the eve ning s

,

ins te d o f k is s ing his b ride s fi ng ers a nd c o ming t o

a
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her for s wee t co mmu mo n n t he du s k 1 .

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, ,

a gg riev e d a nd a s to nis h e d t o find her a ga in w is t l or

hurt With the tender l o nging to unders ta nd wh ich
.
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is s pro fo u nd a ch a ac teris tic in a ll the b e s t o f o ur

o r

yo ung men he b eg s im plores o r pe ts her into telling

, , ,

him s m e part o f t he rea s o n f r her f e s h griev nce

o o r a .

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hurt b ecau e he h ad no t ma de th s e very a dvance

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wh ich o recently h d repelled her nd had b een w ith

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s u ch diffic u l ty re re s s ed by his int ell ec tu a l eff o r ts

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o

are w ill ing t o no t o nly fa b

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’
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quently th ei wn l ife j y r o
’
s o .

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r a ,

g e t q ue ti n for th m n s Where ?
r a s o e a i .

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r ar ra a s o a

m ny differ nt di ec t i n
a T he y u ng h u b nd m y
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try fi rs t ne nd th en the th
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re ,
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t h du ll p t hy f a cqu ies c enc i n her wif ly duty ”

e a a o e e .

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18 f nt m ent in his ha t If o o re s e ea r .

o nly s he h d n t b een a c prici u th y wou ld s till

o so a o s, e

have b een h ppy he f ncies a ,

a .

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i s, o e s, o r s a

re res ented t h u t t rm t t r g edy o f h u m n l ife os

p e e a a as

du t t he inc mpr h en s ibl e c n tr ine

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s s r e ch f r n tu al a s o s ar o a r

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a 1 r r o o r rs s a

n gl e c ted t he m o t v it l s u bj ec t t h
e ne wh ich c n s a , e o o

c rn u ll infi nitely m re th n the naming o f pl n t

e s s a o a a e s

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o W m n n t en
e se . o a 13 o es s

t i lly c p ic o u s
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so o a o

h ve b en di co ve ed l ng go h d th x is t nce f
a e s r o a a e e e o

law b een s u s pec t ed B u t i t h s u it d t he g ener l . as e a

s truc ture f s o c ie ty much b e tter for men to h rug

o s
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t h ei h u ld
r s nd mil e
o t w men i ra tio na l nd
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c p ici u c e tu e t be c u t d wh en i t u it d
a r o s r a r s, o o r e s e

th m n t t
e be tudied
,
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a ,
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t h ch m f l if l i in t h dif r n s b twe n
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e ar o e es e s ex -
e e ce e e

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o e y so e a e s a a as

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or a o e er ro e se es

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a r o ve by t t ib u ting t m e c p ic
s . o reo r, a r o er a r e

th c ldnes s wh ich t t im c m
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ar d nt w m n m n w
e o u nc n c i u ly j u t if yi ng
a a as o s o s s

h imel f f t ny tim c cing h t su it h im el f

,

s or a a e o er er o s .

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r c nt iv d t h t h ith to the
s a es a e so o r e a er

e x plore nd c i ntific inves tig t

rs a the h i to i n
s e a ors , s r a s

a nd t ti t ic i n
s a th p s t nd ti t h v b en m inly
a s, e oe s a ar s s a e e a

m n e C n quently w m n ide f th j int lif

. o se o a
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s s o e o e

h f u nd l it tl
as o n xp e i n W m n h b e n e or o e r ss o . o a as e

c ntent t m u ld h lf t th h pe d i ed by m n
o o o er s e o e s a es r a

wh eve p ible nd h h tifl d he n tu l f l

er r oss ,
a s e as s e r a ra ee

ing nd h s a wn deep t h u gh t er o t h ey w lled u p o s as e .

M o s t w m en h v n ve li d int ll c tu lly bu t
o a e e r r ea se e e a ,

m ny h v e b een di m ly h l f c n c i u th t w o m n
”

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a a a -
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n tua i t t
re hy thm v w h ich m n h no m
s se o r s o er a as ore

c nt l th n he h v th t id f th e Wh il
o ro a
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as o er e es o e s a . e

th c n n u b du nd d m in t m n nd laugh t
e o ea ca s e a o a e a a a

hi tt mpt d t ic ti n w man h b wed t m n ’

s a e e re s r o s, o as o o a s

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es r o er g dl f i t pu l
r he o ,
a ,
re ar es s o s s es ,

a
pp ch e h ro a n t i hi will
s S me f h
er o r o as s s o o er

hy thm d f y him—t h m n m nth tide f m en

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a e e e n ti l t t ng t be m t
es e a r d sse a s o o s ro o a s ere

by in n B ut the u b tl bb nd fl w f wom n e
a . s er e a o o a
’
s s x

h es c ped m n
as a b erv ti n hi c a
’
s o s a o or s ar e .

I f s wimmer c o me t
a s ndy b e ch wh en the tide s o a a a
20 Marri ed L o ve
is o u t nd the wa v s h v e rec eded l ea v ing s a nd w h ere
a e a

he ha d ex pec ted deep blu e w ter—do es he b a u lked o f

,

a ,

his b a th e a ngrily c a ll the s e ,

c pr1c1o u s
”
? a a

B u t the tend re s t bridegro om fi nds o nly c a pric e in

e

his bride s c o l dne s wh en s he y iel ds her s acrific i l

’
s a

b o dy wh ile her s ex tide is a t the ebb -

.

Th e e is n ther s ide to th is pro blem o ne perhaps

r a o ,

ev e n l e s co n idered by s o ciety There is the tragic

s s . .

figure o f the loving w o man wh o s e lo ve tide is t the -

a

h igh es t nd wh o e hu b nd do es no t reco gnis e the

,
a s s a

del ic te s ig ns o f her a do u r
a I n o ur n mic artifi r . a e ,

ci l d y s i t o ften h ppens th t the ma n s des ire i s a

’
a a a a

s u rf c e ne ed q u ickly s a t is fi e d c o l o u rl es s a nd l a ck ing
a , , ,

b eau ty nd tha t he h s n k no wledge o f the rich

,
a a o

co mplex itie s o f lo ve making wh ich a n initi te o f -

a

lo ve my s teries enj oys T o s uch a man his wife ma y

’
s .

inde ed s eem pe tul a nt c apric io u s o r re s ent f u l with o ut , ,

rea s o n .

Well ing up in he are th w nderful tides cented r e o ,

s

a nd en ich d by t h m y i d x
r e rienc e s o f t he hu m n e r a e e a
p
ra ec f m it ncient d y o f leis u e nd fl o we
ro s a a s r a r

w th d l v m k ing u ging h t t n p rt nd
rea e o e -
a ,
r er o ra s o s a

el f e x e i ns w y k
‘

t o s t h m n bu t
r ss o d t t a e
p e e er e a r a o
-

th e fi t tep in the initi tive r t ec gni e and

rs s a o o r o s

w lc m e i t in he Seld m d e ny w m n s till
e o r . o ar a o a ,

m ore s l do m d a w ife
e ri k t he bl w t h
are , s o a er

h e t w h ich w uld be giv n we e s h t o ffe

ar o e r e o r

ch m ing l ve pl y t wh ich the m n did n t

ar o -
a o a o

re s nd T t h init i te he w ill b bl t v l
p o e . o a s e a e o re ea

t h t the t id
a is u p by a h u nd ed s u b tl e ig ns
e r s ,

u
p n wh ich he will eiz w it h del igh t
o B u t if s e .

h h u b nd i bl ind to th em th e is f her n th ing

er s a s er or o

bu t il enc s el f u
pp re i n e, nd t h ei s inevit bl e
-
s ss o ,
a r a

e q u enc of el f c o rn fol l w ed b e s entment to

s e
y s
r s o
-

,
 W o man s
C o ntra ri ne s s ’

w d the m n wh pl c s he in s uch p ition o f

ar s a o a e r a os

hum il i ti n wh il t lk ing f hi l ve
a o
”
e a o s o .

S un w o f th a l em nt are o f the phy i l g ic l e e e s o s o o a

rea c t i n f wo m n
o s o m ny m d n m n t h t th e a re a o er e a e

c a se f M o G i n t exc pt i n l ; H
rs . . h u b nd
s o e o a er s a

w as ccu t m d t p t h
a s o nd h v
e el t i n o e er a a e r a o s

wit h h f quently bu t y t h n v t k ny
er re ,
e e e er oo a

t u bl e t
ro u s e in h o th ron ce y p l im in y er e e s s ar re ar

f l ing f
ee mu tu l u ni nor Sh h d m ie da o . e a a rr as a

v y ign nt girl bu t ft n v gu ly f l t s n
er ora ,
o e a e e a e se

o f m t h ing l ck ing in he h u b nd l v e H
so e a r s a
’
s o . er

hu b nd h d neve ki d h xc pt n th lip
s a a r sse er e e o e s

a nd ch k bu t nc t the cr t f th w ve f
ee ,
o e a es o e a o

u nc n c i u h ) h
h er t id
s ex
( l l -
e t t iat w o s o s a as so s e

f l t y a ning t f l hi h e d hi lip p
e a e r o d g in t
ee s a , s s, re s s e a a s

h er b m T he en itive int l ti n b tw n
oso . s s er re a -
o e ee a
-

w m n b t nd the e t f he e lif i n t nly

o a
’
s rea s s a r s o r s x -
e s o o

a b dily th ill but th i w ld f po tic b e u ty in

o r , ere s a or o e a

the l ng ing o f l ving wom n f th u nc nc ived

o a o a or e o e

ch ild wh ich m elt in m i t f tend n s t w d h s s s o er e s o ar er

l ve th ft t u ch f wh lips c n thu u h
o r, e so o o ose a s ro se er

m ingl d j y B c u e he hyly k d him M

e o . e a G s s s as e ,
rs . .
’
s

hu b nd g v h n wift u n p t d k i upon h
s a a e er o e s re ea e ss er

b m H w s ign nt th t he did n t k n w
o so . e as o ora a o o

t h t he hu b nd s l ip u po n h b t m l t w if t
’
a r s a s er reas e a e o

t nd n
e er nd e n
es s a f h u b n d fi t nd u e t
ar o e o a s a
’
s rs a s r s

w y t m k he phy ic lly e dy f c mplete u ni n

a s o a e r s a r a or o o .

I n t h i w y h inh ib it d h n tur l de i
s a e nd he e er a a s re , a as

n v e did ny th ing t
er ti it he n v
a h d ny o s r , s e er a a

phy ic l pl s u
a in t h ei l t i n Su ch p udis h
ea s re r re a o . r or

c l hu b nd c nt nt with th i wn ti f c ti n
are e s s s a s, o e e r o sa s a o ,

lit tl kn w the pent u p ching

e o ev en e ent m ent -
a , or r s ,

wh ich m y t int a wife s h ear t nd u ltim t ly

ea o a
’
, a a e
m y ff c t he wh o l h e l th
a a e r e a .
 22 Marri e d Lo ve
Often th m n i l s o the v ic tim f the purblind
e a s a o

s o c i l c u s to m s wh ich m k e s ex k no wl edg e t bu
a a a
-
.

I t ha s b ec o m e a tr diti n o f o ur s c i l l ife t h t the

a o o a a

ig no ra nc e o f wo m n b o u t her wn b o dy nd th a t o f
a a o a

he futu re h u s b nd i s fl o we l ik e inn c enc e A nd to

r a a r -

o .

s u ch a n e x trem e i t h is s o m e t im e s pu h ed th t n t
s s ,
a o

s el do m is a g irl m rrie d u n wa e th t m rried l ife w ill

a a r a a

b ing he into phy s ica l rel tio ns wit h her hu b a nd

r r a s

f un d ment lly diff en t f o m t h o s e with her bro th er

a a er r .

When s he dis co v e the tru e na ture o f his b o dy a nd

rs ,

le rns the p rt s he ha s t pl y wife s he may efus e

a a o a as a ,
r

u tte ly t o gree t her h u b nd s w is h es I k n o w o ne ’

r a o s a .

a ir o f w h ich the h u b nd ch iva lr u s nd l o v ing ha d

p s a ,
o a ,

t o w it y ears b e fo e his b ride ec ov ered f o m the s h o ck

a r r r

o f t he dis c v ery o f the m e ni ng o f m arria g e nd w s

o a a a

a bl e to a ll o w him a n tu r l rel t io n Th ere h ve b een

a a a . a

no t a few b ides wh o m t he h orror o f t he fi rs t nigh t o f

r

m a ria ge with a m a n les s c o ns idera te ha s dr iv en t o

r

s u ic ide o r ins a nity .

Th t girls c n each a m rri gea ble age witho u t

a a r a a

s o m e k n wl edg eo f the re l ities o f m arria ge wo u l d

o a

s e em incre dibl e w ere i t n o t a f c t One h ighly a .

e du ca ted l dy in t im te ly k n wn to m e to ld m e t h a t
a a o

wh en s he w as a b o u t eigh teen s he s u ff ered m any

m o nt h s o f g o nis ing a pprehe n o n t h t s he w a s b o u t
a s1 a a

t o h av e a b by b ec a u e a m a n h d s na tch ed
a s k i s fro m a a s

her l ips a t d nce a a .

Wh en girls o b ugh t u p a re m rried it i a r pe

s ro a s ,
a

for the h u b nd to ins is t n his

s a ma i t l r igh ts ot r a a

o nce I t w ill be diffi c u l t o im po s ibl e f r s u ch bride

. r s o a

ev er a ft er t o e x erie nc e the j o y f s ex u nion for s u ch

p s o -

a b eginning mus t imprint upo n her c ons ci u s o

n s s t he v iew t h a t the ma n s
e nima l na t ure do mina t es
’
a

him .
 Wo m a n s
C o n tra ri ne s s 23
’

I n mag z in I c m e ca p e ma wh ich v iv idlye a a ro s s a o

ex re t h i p ecu l i
s s esly f m n n w s ar e 1 1 e s orro
p
T m wi h m w h h v o l bv at e t en o a e no s o u a o e

E h g bb i g w h a rth b id l igh f
ru h n ; o, t e r a n t, o rs o o t ,

"ill d p k h i f m i i c fi e s f lif
ar s t at r se ro ns t n t re s o e,

A d l f f hi g l
n e tf hi us ro z e n t n s , a o ne t o as on

O l d m k d wi h h m f wi f
ur s o u s t o us t , as e t t e na e o e

L gy fy h—l v y — h y
on fp
e ars o o ut o e e ars t e e ars o a s s 1o n

"w i g b f a S n nh mm i g h d e o re us . o, s a n to t e en ,

A l l h iv ll d by h id sf him w w d
r e e t e s e o e e ,

H p i g h p c m y ip y o n d
t at ea e a r er ea rs a t t e n

w —w ll h
,

d li q d w ll f d
_

M
'

ere o a s ues a re e e o us e ,
e e .

"AT E R E N E H IN L S ON .

M ny men who enter marri ge s incerely nd

a a a

tende ly m y y t h ave s me p v i u s ex peri nc

r a e f o re o e e o

b u gh t l v
o
”
I t is t h n n t u nl ik ly t h t t h y m y
o e . e o e a e a

f ll int th
a f e xpl in ing t h ei w if s e p i
o e error o a r e
’
x er

e nce in t m s f th e c ti n f the p
er t itu te Th y
s o e r a o s o ro s . e

ar gu e th t b c u e the p o titu t h wed phy ic l

a , e a s r s e s o s a

e xc i t me nt nd l u e in u n i n i f t h b id e as r o e r e or
e
p a ,

wif d not d e th n h i
o es c ld ”
u nd
o s o, e s e s o or er

se x d Th y m y n t li th t ft n ll the b dily
”
e . e a o rea se a o e a o

m v em ent wh ich the pro titu t m k

o s e s tu di d s e a es ar e

a nd imu l t ed b c u e h
s a cli nt nj y hi climax b t e a s er e e o s s es

when the w m n in hi m im u lt n o u ly th ills

o a s ar s s a e s r .

A F l y
s T he S xu l Q
ore u ti n
sa
”
1 90 8
s e a es o , ,

Engl . T h c mp n y f p s t itu tes f t n e o a o ro o e

re nd r m n inc p bl e f u nd t nding f minine

e s e a a o ers a e

p ych
s l gy f o o
p t i t u t es e h,d ly m ore t h n u tro s ar ar or a a o

m t t in d f
a a the u e o f m l
ra e n u lity or Wh n s a e se s a . e

m n l k m ng th es e f r th
e oo a xu l p ych l gy f
o o e se a s o o o

w m n t h y find nly t h i wn m i
o a e
” o e r o rro r .

F t i ft n c u l t men t
a e s o M ore h igh s pirited
e r e o ,
oo .
-

o u ng men t h n the w orl d ima g ines s triv e f o r a nd

y a
24 Marrie d L o v e
k ep th eir purity t g ive thei b ide ;if uch m n
e o r r s s a a

t h en marries wom n who 8 il d or n the the a a 1 so e , ,

o o r

h nd o ne wh 3
a , pu re
”
nd
pru di h th t
o 1 h eso a s a s

d ni s him u n i n wi t h her b dy hi n bl ch i v m ent

e e o o ,
s o e a e e

se em b itt rly v in O n the th h nd it may be

s e a . o er a ,

th t ft a yea f figh t ing with his h t y u ng bl d

er a rs o o o oo

a m n h s g v n u p a nd g ne n w nd g m f r l i f
a a i e o o a a a or e e

t pro t itu t s
os nd t h n l t e n l if h
e ,
m t the wo m n
a e a r 1 e as e a

w h 5 hi m t e nd wh m fte em
o 1 s a f r hi
,
a il e d o ,
a r r ors e o s so

as t n d a ft r w inning her f
a g iv ene s f
e i t he or s or
p , ,

m i Th en u nW ttingly he m y m ke the wif

a rr e s .
,
1 ,
a a e

s u ff ith er by int p e t ng h r n th l igh t f the

er e er r i e i e o

o th er w men poe h p ( t h u gh th i h or
pen l s f r a s o s a s e s re

quently) by s etting her b o lu tely p t o n them I a s a ar r r .

k no w f m n wh ft a l o s e lif m t w om n
o a a o, a er o e, e a a

wh m he eve enced nd a d d H m ried he

o r r a ore . e ar r,

bu t t o p s e v h re
pu ity
”
h e diff e enc f
r e mer t h r , r r e ro e

o th ers h nev er c n u mm ted his m

,
e i ge w ith h o s a a rr a er .

She w tr ng ly u nh ppy f
as s a h l ved him p s
e a ,
or s e o a

s io n t ly nd l o nge d f
a e ch ild en She ppe d t
a
0
or r . a a re o

him to b pining “
c p ic iou ly wh en s h b c me
e a r s e e a

t h in nd n ur t c
a e o i .

P rh p t h i m n m igh t h a v s en hi
e a s s wn b a e e s o e

haviou i n t u l igh t h d h k n wn th t m
r a r er a e o a so e

c tu es imply di if unm ted ( ee p I I 5Appendix)

re a r s e a s . .

T he ide t h t w m n is l w d by e nt c u
'

a a o a o ere s x i er o rs e

i v ery de ply o t d n ur p e n t
s e ciety M ny
r o e 1 o r se so . a

s u rc es h v e c o ntrib u ted t
o a th i m i t k en ide n t o s s a a, o

the l t p werful b eing the

ea s o cetic id l f th ly as ea o e ea r

C hurch nd th f Ct th t m n h s us d w m n hi
a e a a a a e o a as s

in tru ment s
s ften reg dle f her w i h e
o o ar ss o s s .

Wom n educa ti n the f re nd th t nd f

e
’
s o , re o , a e re o

s c i l feel ing
o a h s l g ly b een in th di c ti n f
,
a ar e e re o o

freeing her f om th i nd th u m is t k enly enc o ur ging

r s a s a a
 C hapte r IV .

T he
F u ndam enta l P ul s e
T h j dgme u f m e nt sc c igwm o v y ly
en o n e rn n o en a re er rare

m f c l d ci
a t t ers o i fic b v i
o s b en t c l d b h by o s er a t o n , ut a re o o ure ot

t hi w x l m i
e r o n s e ua d by h i w m
e l i d w d
o t o ns a n t e r o n o ra a tt tu e to ar

t h
i mp l
x l imp l
e se ua

f w m
u s es o f o
" M
u se
] S m.

ll l b w m h b h
e n o t en t e
b h x l en s

us
’

ess a
ta te

o ut
en t s a

o en t
o ut

an a
t e se ua

o ut t e

p e rs o nsw h m k h
o m — H E I
a e t e . . LL S .

"the m aj o ity f nic e peo ple woman i s r o

su o s ed t o h a v e n s o nta neou s s ex im
pp p o

u l s es By t h is I do no t m ea n a s entime ntal
p .

f ll ing in l o v e bu t phy s ic l
a
”
p,
hy s io l o g ic l s ta t e
a a ,
a a

o f s t imu l a t io n wh ich a ri s e s S o nt ne u s ly a nd qu ite

p a o

a a rt f o m n art ic ul a m an I t i s i n trut h t he
p r
y p a r .

t iv im u l s e nd i s n ex re s s io n o f a h igh o wer
“

cr ea
pe
p a
p a -

o f v i t a l it y So wide s pre ad in ur c u ntry i the view

. o o s

t h t i t i s o nly depr v e d w o m e n w ho h a v e S uch f eel

a a

ing s (es pec ia lly b e f ore mar i g e) th t mo s t wo me n r a a

wo u ld a th er die t han o wn tha t t h ey do a t times feel

r

a
p hy s ic l y ea rning i nde s c rib a bl e bu t a s
a
p ro fo u nd s ,
a

h ung er for fo o d "et m a ny m any wo men have .

,

Sh o wn m e the tru th o f thei na tu es when I have r r

s im ly nd na tu lly a s s u m d th t o f c o urs e th e y fee l

p a ra e a
—
it b e ing no rm l wo m n — "
nd h av e a k e d t h em
a e a s

o nly Whe n? Fr m th eir epl ies I h ave c o llec ted

: o r

fa c t s wh ich are s u ffic ient to o v ertu n ma ny rea dy r

m de th eorie s b o u t w o men
a a .

So m e o f t he ridicu l u bs u rdit es wh ich go by the o s a 1

n me f s c ienc e may be ill u tr te d by the s t tem ent

“

a o s a a

m a de by W inds cheid i n the Centralbl tt f ur Gy na a

k lo gie
o I n t he n o m l w m n e pec i lly o f the r a o a ,
s a

h igh er s o cia l cl s s es the s exual ins tinc t is acquired

a , ,

no t inb rn ;wh en i t i s inb o rn o r a wa k ens by i ts el f

o , ,

t h ere is a bnorm li ty Since wo m en do no t k no w th is

a .
 F undam enta l P u l s e
T he
27

ins t inc t b efore mar ria g e t h ey do n t m is s it wh e n ,

o

t h ey h ve no o cca s io n i n l if e t o l ear n i t
a
”
(Ell i s t ra n l
) . s .

T he neg a t io n o f t h i v iew is expres s ed in the f bl e s a

o f H era qu o ted by H el en " e

y H e s e nt I is t o e rt h . ra r a

t o s e e k o u t t h e e v i tu u s nd
p re f c tly ch a s t e
r o a r e

m ide ns w h we e u n s o il e d by a ny d e m s o f l ve
a o r r a o .

I is fo und them bu t co u ld n t tak e t h m b ck t o

r ,
o e a

Olympu s for they h d a lre dy b een ent f r to repl ce

,
a a s o a

the s upera nnu a ted Fu ries in the infe n l reg io ns r a .

Nevertheles s it is t u e th a t the wh o le e duc tio n o f r a

gi l s which s l gely co ns is ts in the co nce lm ent f

r ,
o ar a o

the es s e nt i l f c ts o f l ife fr m t h em ; nd t he p s it ive

a a o a o

t e ch ing s o p eva l ent t h a t the

a r cial ins tincts are l w ra o

a nd s h a m e fu l ; a nd a l s o the s c i l c o n dit io n wh ich o a

p l a c es m n y wo m e n in t he po s it io n o f depe nding
so a

o n t h ei h u b a nd s will n t o nly f r t he l u x u ie s bu t
’
r s o o r

for the nec es s aries o f l ife h ave all t end d to inh ib it ,

e

na t u ral s ex im u l s es in w o m en a nd t o c o nc ea l a nd
p
-

dis to t wh a t rem in s
r a .

I t is a l s o tru e t h a t in o u r n rth ern cl im te wo me n

. o a

a re o n the wh o l e na tu lly les s pers is tently s ti red tha n

ra r

s o u t h erners ;a nd it i fii t he t u e th t wi t h t he del ys r r r a a

i o f m a tu rity du e t o o u r ev er l e ng t h ening y o u t h i t
g
og
-

, ,

te n h a ppens t h t wo m n i pp o ch ing o r even

a a a s a r a

a s t t h i t y y ea s b ef re s he i s a w k e t t he ex is ten c e o f
p r r o a o

t he pro fo u ndes t c lls f he na tu e For ma ny ye rs

a o r r . a

b ef e t ha t h o wever the u n ea lis ed infl uence diff u s ed

or , , r ,

t hro ugh o u t he very s y s t em h s p fo u ndly ffec t ed

r ,
a ro a

he r I t is l s o t u e t h a t (pa tly du e t o t he inh ib it ing

. a r r

infl u enc e s o f o ur cu s tom tra ditio ns nd s o c i l c o de) s, a a

wo men may m r y b efo r it wak es nd may rem ina r e ,

a a

lo ng a fter m rriage ent i ely u nc ns ciou s tha t it s urge s

a r o

s u b du e d w i th in t h e m F innu m e bl e wo men t o o . or ra , ,

t he h u s b a nd s r g u l ar h a b it s o f interc ou rs e cl a iming
’
e
,
28 Marri ed Lo ve
her b o th wh en would n tur lly nj y uni n and
s he a a e o o

when i t i t s m d g e epugn nt t he h ve
s o o e e r e r a o r, a

t ended t fl t ten u t the b ill o w ing cu v e o f the l in

o a o r s e

o f he n tu l d s ire O ne re u l t pp ntly l it tl e
r a ra e . s ,
a are

u s ec t d u ing t he w m n v
,

s
p f e ,
o s p
s i e i n t u o a a a as s s r

m ent f m n need h b en in ff c t t m k her

or a
’
s as e e e o a e
—
, ,

t h t a nd na t h in g m re oTh e m n nd t h o . os e a ere are

m ny— wh c mpl in f the l ck o f d u in g d

“

a o o a o a ar o r oo

wiv re o f t n t h m
es , a lv nti ly th c u e f it
e e se es e re e a s o

Wh en w m n is cl im d t tim s wh en h t ke
a o a a e a e S e a s

n o n t ur l a
p l u i
an u ni n it d
ea s u c es h v
re i t l i t y o ,
re er a ,

a nd te nd t o k ill he po w e o f enj y ing it wh n t he

s r r o e

l ve s on eturns
o s ea r .

I t i c e t inly tru o f wo men s th ey h ave b een

s r a e a

m d by t h inh ib iti n
a e f mo d n c o nditio ns th t
e o s o er , a

m t f th em e nly fully w k e t th ex is tenc

os o ar o f a a o e e o

se x ft e ma i ge A w
r hu m n b ing th o c i l
a rr a . s e are a e s, es a ,

in tell ec tu l p iritu l S id
a ,
f t h
s l o v ch ic e h a v a e o e e -
o e

t end d t e m k t he b ic phy io lo g ic l
o as
p ec t o f as s a as

w men s ex l if T find w m n in wh m th cu
o
’
s -
e . o a o a o e r

r e nt s e no t a ll s o ent ngl d t h t th
ar wh le i i a e a e o s h

se
p bl i
a rant f cet i s n t e y
o b ut I h v
a f u nd
o rs , o as , a e o

t h t w iv e ( p tic u l ly h ppy w iv
a s ar wh f ling ar a es ose ee s

a re n t c m plid
o at ed by the timu l u o f n t h
o l v) s s a o er o e

wh h ve b n s p
o a t d f m t h i h u b nd f
ee e a ra e ro e r s a s or

so me m o nth t h u gh pr f i n l s b u ine du ti
ro o es s o a or s ss es
—wh hu s b nd f r in t nc e b d— th
ose a s, o s a e, ar a ro a a re e

w men fi m wh m the b e t nd m t d fi nitiv evi

o
'
o o s a os e e

d nce f fu nd m nt l rhy t h m f f l ing c n b

e o a a e b a o ee a e o

t ined
a Su ch w men ye ning d ily f
. o the t nde , ar a or e r

c m des h ip nd n n s f t h i hu b nd find in
o ra a ear e s o e r s a s, ,

a ddit i n t p ticu l
o , tim s
a n cc
ar io n o f lo nging
ar e , a a es s

f th cl os phy s ic l u ni n f t he fi n l s e
or e e ct M ny
a o o a x a -
. a

u ch s a a ted wive s feel th i ;a nd t h o s

e I h v k d
s
p r e e s e a as
 T he Fundamenta l P ul s e 29

to .
kp ee d at es , hav egwwi th re mark a bl e
no tes o f the
u na nim i t y, t o l d m e t h a t t h e s e t im e s c a m e s pec1a lly
j u s t b efo re a nd s o m e week o r s o a fter the clo s e o f
-

m ens tru a tio n,c om ing, th a t is , a b o u t ev ery fortn1ght .

I t is fr o m s u ch w o m en t h a t I got the fi r s t clu e t o t he

k no wle dge o f wha t I call the Law o f P erio dicity o f
R e cu rrence o f des ire in wo men .

Th is law it is po s s ible to repres ent graph ically a s a

cu rved line ;a s ucces s io n o f cres ts a nd ho llo ws a s in
a ll w a v e l ines I ts Simpl e s t a nd m o s t funda menta l
-
.

e x re s s io n, h o wever, is g enera lly imm ens e ly c o m l i

p p
ca t ed by o t h er s t im u l a t io ns wh ich may b ring int o i t

d iv ers e s erie s o f wa ve s , or irregu la r wa ve cre s ts

“

-
.

W e ha ve a ll, a t s o me time, wa tch ed the regul a r ripples

o f the s ea b rea k in g a g a ins t a s a nd b a nk , a nd no tic ed -

t h a t the infl ux o f a no th er c urre n t o f wa ter ma y s end

a s ec on d s y s tem o f wa ve s a t righ t a ngl e s t o the fi rs t ,
cutting a thwart th em, s o tha t the two s erie s o f wave s
p ass h
t ro u gh ea ch other .

W o ma n is so se n it iv e
d res po ns ive a n ins tru
s an

m en t, a nd s o l ia bl e in o u r mo dern c ivil is ed world t o be

infl u enc e d by innum era bl e s e t s o f s timu l i, t h a t it i s
er h a s s c a rc ely s u r ris ing t h a t t he d ee d ly i g
p p p p ,
u n er n
waves o f her primitive s ex tides have b een o b s cured -

a n d e nta ngl e d s o t h a t t h e ir re u l ar s e q u enc e ha s b een

g
ma s k ed in t he ch o ppy tu rmo il o f her s ea , a nd t h e ir
e xis te nc e ha s b een l a rg ely uns u s pec te d, a nd a
’

p
a re nt ly u i t t died
p q e u n s u .

Fo r s o me y ears I h a ve b e en ma k in a s s cientific
g
-

a nd deta il ed a s tu dy a s o s s ibl e o f t h is e x tre m ely

p
co mpl ex pro blem Owing to the fia nk a nd s cientific
.
-

a tt it u de o f a nu m b er o f w o m en a nd t he rea dy a nd
,

int ima te c o nfi de nce o f ma ny mo re , I h a ve o b ta ine d .

a nu mb er o f mo s t interes t ing fa c ts fi o m wh ich I t h ink -

30 M arri ed L o v e
i t is lready p s s ibl e t o dedu c e g ene l i a t i n wh ich
a o a ra s o

i illu m in t ing
s nd m a
ya b e f g ,
t m edic l
a nd o rea a a

s c i l g ic l v a l u e
o o o A d t iled tatement f t hi will
a . e a s o s

be g iv en in ci nt ific publ ic ti n bu t it b ve y
a s e a o ,
as ea rs r

in tim tely n th s u bj ec t o f th pr s nt ch apte a s h o t

a o e e e e r, r

nd s im l e cc u nt f m y c n cl
a u s i ns mu s t be g iv e n
o o o o
a
p
h er e .

I t i firs t nec es ary to c o ns ider s everal o th r fe tures

s s e a

of w m n l if h weve ’
o a s e, o r .

T he bv i u m n m o nt h rhy th m i n w ma n o
o o s oo -
o , s

o bvi u s th t it c nn t be v rl k d h s b n par
o a a o o e oo e ,
a ee ~

t i lly tudied in i t
a s el t io n t s m o f t he din y
s r a o o e or ar

fia nct i n f h l ife Exp rim nt h v b n m de

o s o er . e e s a e ee a

t os h w it o infl u nc e n th r te f b e th ing th
s e o e a o r a , e

m u s c u la s treng t h the t empe a tu e the k eenne s o f

r ,
r r ,
s

s igh t e tc ,
nd t h e s e e u l t s h v e ev n b e n b
.
, a u gh t r s a e e ro

t geth
o nd
pic t u e d in
er a S ingl e c u v d di g m u r
p a r e a ra s

p s e d to
o h o w the v a ia b il it y in w o m n
s c p c it ies r a
’
s a a

in h t wen ty igh t d y cycl e

'

a t t h diff rent t im
e e es er -
e -
a .

B u t it b ing h m e t o ne h w l it tl
r s ig in l w rk
o o o e or a o

e v en in t h i fi ld h s y t b en don th t th m
s e a e e e, a e sa e

identic al di g m i ep ted f m b k t b k nd
a ra s r ea ro oo o oo , a

in M s h ll P hy i l gy i t i
ar a
’
st k en f m S llheims o o s a ro e ,

in H v el o c k Ell i
a f m V n Ott ”
nd in th e
s ro o , a o r

b k is c pied nd ttrib u t d to till ther s urces

oo s re -
o a a e s o o ,

bu t it i lwa y the s a me o ld di g m
s a s a ra .

Th i di g m i s
p adu c edra by n e l n e d
s re ro o ear

u th ity fte n th r ly v y
a or
y
a e t n ar r e e a
po int o n
o e , e r

which t hi curve i b a ed appe rs to have b een di

s s s a s

u t ed
p .

A ccording t o t h is curve wo m n s vitality ris es ,

a
’

during t he few day s b efore m ens tru t io n s ink s to its a ,

l o w es t ebb during m ens truatio n nd ris es s hortly a

a fte r,a nd t h en r uns nearly l ev el t ill it b eg ins t o ris e

 Fundam enta l P u l s e
T he 3 I

a g a in b efore the nex t m ens trua l pe rio d Th is s imple .

curve may or may no t be true for wo m a n s tempera ’

tur e m u s cul r
,
treng th a nd t he o t h er rela t1v e ly
s ,
a

Simple things which ha ve b een inves tiga ted My .

w k nd b s e v tio n o n a l arg e numb er f w m en

or a o r a s o o

a ll
go to h o w t h t t h is curv e d e s no t repre s ent t he
s a o

wave o f wo man s s ex vitality

s
’ -
.

T he wh le s u bj ec t is s o c o m pl e x nd s o l ittle
o a

s tu die d th t it i difli cu l t to ent r u p n i t

a s t ll w it h e o a a

o u t g ing int o m ny deta il s w h ich m y s e em rem t e

o a a o

r du ll t t he g ener l ad Even qu es ti n wh ich

'

o o a re er . a o

w e m u s t a ll ha v e a s k ed nd o v er wh ich w e h a v e pro a

b a bly po ndered in v in —
,

na m ely wh t is m ens tru a a a

—
,

t io n c nno t y t be ns wered T o the lay m ind it

a e a .

wo uld s eem tha t t h i qu es tio n ho uld be a ns wer ble s s a

a t o nc e by n d c t or ;bu t m a ny m edic a l m e n a re s t ill

y a o

far fi m b ein g a bl e t reply to it v en ppro x ima tely

o o e a

c orrectly (See ls o Appendix no te

. a ,

There a e g o o d m ny Sl igh t varia ti ns am ong u s

r a a o ,

r n a ng f i m t h r ee to
ro fi v e w eek s but
g a a -

the m j ority o f the w o m en of o u r r c e h ave

a m o on a a

mo n th o f t we nty eigh t da y s nc du ring wh ich c o m es

-

,
o e

the fl w f m ens tru tio n

o o I f w e d w u t ch r t w it h
a . ra o a a

s u cc ee ding
peri d o f twenty eigh t da y e a ch l o o k in g
o s s
-

o n e ch e io d u n it Wh n in t h is e io d i i t
p
a s r a
p a : e r s

th a t no m a l h
a l thy w om n feel s des ire or a ny up
r ea a

welling o f her s ex tides ? -

T he few s t tem ent wh ich are m de in ener l

a s a a
g
medic a l a nd phy s io l gic l l itera ture o n the s u bj e c t o fo a

s ex feel ing in w o m en re ge nera lly v ery gu arded a nd a

vg a u e M rs.h ll ( hys i l gy o f Rep o du ctio n

P a a
“ ” o o r ,

f r ins t nc e s y s The pe io d f m os t
p . o a ,
a r o

a cu te exu l feel ing is gen lly j u t a f ter th clo s e f

s a era s e o

the mens trua l peri o d

”
Ell is pe k s o f des ire b eing . s a

D
32 Marri ed L o ve
s tro n ger b efore a nd s o met imes l
a so f
a ter mens trua
t io n, a nd a ppear s t o l ea n to the v iew t ha t i t is na tura l
fo r des ire to c o inc ide with the m ens trua l fl o w .

A fter the m o s t ca reful inquiries I have co me to the

c o nclu s io n tha t the genera l co nfus io n rega rding th is
s u bj e c t i s du e ar tl t o the grea t a m o u nt o f v a ria tio n
p y
wh ich ex is ts b etween diff erent individua l s , a nd partly
to t he fa c t t h a t v ery few w o m en h av e a ny idea o f
ta k ing a ny s c ientific intere s t in l ife , a nd par tly to the
fa c t th a t the m o re pro fo und, funda menta l rhy th m o f
s ex des ire wh ich I h av e c o m e t o the c o nclu s io n e x is ts

o r is o tent ia l i n ev er y n orma l w o m a n, i s c o v ered

p
o v er o r m a s k ed by the m ore s u perfic ia l a nd t empo ra ry

infl u enc es du e t o a grea t v arie ty o f s tim u l i o r inhibi

t io ns in m o dern l ife . Fo r the pres e nt c o ns idera tio n I
h ave tried to dis entangle the pro fo und a nd na tura l
rhy t h m fr o m t he m o re irr egu l a r s u rfa c e wav es .

The ch a rt g ive n o ppo s ite m a y a s s is t in ma k ing

graph ically clear wha t ha s b een s aid in thes e la s t few
a ge s I t i s c o m o u nded fr o m a nu mb er o f indi
p .
p
vidual rec ords , a nd s h o ws a fa ir average chart o f the
rhy th m ic s e q u enc e o f Su era b u nda nc e a nd fl a gg in g in
p
wo man s s ex vitality T he to ps o f the wave cres ts
’ -
.
-

co me with remarka ble regu larity, s o tha t there a re two

wa ve cres t s in each t wenty eigh t day mo nth T he o ne
- - -
.

c o mes o n the two or t hree da ys j u s t bef ore m ens trua

t1o n, t he o th er a fter ;bu t a fter m ens tru a t io n has c ea s ed
t h ere i s a nea rly l evel interva l, b ring ing t he nex t wa ve
cres t to the two or three day s wh ich come a b o ut eigh t
o r nine da y s a fter the cl o s e o f m ens tr ua tio n—t h a t i s ,

s t r o und t he fo ur teen da y s , o r h a l f t he mo o n mo nt h ,
j u

s inc e t he l a s t w av e c res t
-
. I f t h is is put in it s s impl e s t
w a y , o ne ma y s ay t h a t t h ere are for tnigh tly perio ds
o f des ire, arra n ed s o th a t o ne erio d c o me s a lwa s
g p y
 Funda m enta l P ul s e
T he 33
j u s t bef re ea ch mens trua l fl ow A cco rding to her
o .

vit lity a t the tim e a nd the g ene l heal th o f the

a ,
ra

wo m n the l ength o f e ch des ire perio d o r s w e

a ,
a -

, ,
a

migh t s ay the s ize and c o mpl exit y o f ea ch wa ve cre s t

,
-

depend So m etimes for the wh l e o f s m u ch s or

s . o a a ,

e v en m o e th a n t h ree d y s s he m b e ardent ly nd a
r
y a ,
a

qu ite n tu ally s timula ted wh ile a t ano ther time the

a r ,

s me w o m a n i f She i s t i e d nd o ver w o k ed m
a
y be
r a r a
-

, ,

co ns c i us o f des ire for o nly few hours o r even l es s

o a ,
.

The e ffec ts o f f a tig u e c i ty l ife ba d fe eding a nd , , , ,

inde ed o f m o s t o u tward c ircu m s t nc es m a y be ve y

, a r

m a rk ed a nd ma y for ye rs o a ll her l ife o r edu c

, a ,
r , s e

her vital ity t ha t a wo man m a y nev h av e e xperienc ed er

a ny s po nt neo u s s ex im u l s e a t all
p
a -
.

The e ff ec t s o f fa t igu e wh ich re du ces the v it l , a

e nergy e ven in a no rm a l s t o ngly s ex e d w o m n ca n

, ,
r a ,

be s e en in the s eco nd c u v e o pp s ite wh ere t t he

r o , a a

interm e dia te w ve cre s t is v e y m u ch educ ed Th i

“

a -
r r . s

i s n t a g e nera l is ed ch rt bu t a de ta il ed rec o rd o f a n
o a ,

a c tu a l indiv idu l c ase a .

C urves s imil r to th o s e S ho wn f acing page 3 2

a

re re s ent i n g e nera l t erm s a S im l ifi e d V iew o f wh t

p p a

my res earch l ea ds me to b el ieve t o be the norma l ,

Spont neou s s ex t ide in wo men o f ur r ce A s o n

a o a . e

yo ung m rried wo man co nfi ded t m e her l o nging f r

a o , o

b dily u nio n wit h her hu s b a nd a s dis tinc t fi o m her

o
,

lo nging fo his d ily co mpa nio ns h ip s eemed t well

r a , o

p na t ur lly l ik e clo ckwo k nd t h is wh en he h d

u a
”
r , a a

b een l o ng a w y f o m her B ut h u man b eing s vary re

a r .

mark a bly in ev ery particu l ar a nd j u s t a s no two eo l e

p p ,

h ave the s me features s o no tw people wo uld h ve

a , o a
a bs o l ut ly iden tica l c urves w e e t h ey re c rde d in s uffi
e r o

cient deta il Ma ny a wo man is p rticu l rly co ns c io u

. a a s
o f o nly o ne
perio d in ea ch moo n mo nth O f s u ch -
.

D 2
34 Marri ed L o ve
wo men, so me feel the perio d wh ich co mes b efore men
s tru a tio n, a nd s o me feel t he o ne wh ich fo llo w s it . In
t h o s e who g e nera lly f eel o nl y o ne, t he s ec o nd perio d is
s o m e t im e s fel t wh en t h e are a rticu l arly w ell , o r o nly
y p
wh en they rea d exciting no vel s , o r m eet the m a n they
l o ve a t a t ime co inciding wit h the na tural, bu t s up
p re s s ed, tim e o f de s ire . Th ere a re a few wo men,

who s e em t o be re a lly a l ittl e a b normal , who feel the

s tro ng es t des ire a c t u lly du ring t he m e ns tru al fl o w
a .

I f a ny o ne who rea ds t h is th ink s to te s t my v iew by

qu es tio ning a nu m b er o f w o men, the res u l t will pro
b a bly a ppear very co nfl ic ting, partly b ecau s e it is no t
o ften t h a t w o m en w ill t ell t he tru th a b o u t s u ch a

t h ing, a nd par tly b ec au s e in the l a rger numb er o f

wo m en eith er o ne o r the o ther perio d is the more
a c u te a nd i s t he o ne th e y o b s erve in t h em s elve s —i f
-

t h ey h a ve o b s erved a ny th ing . B u t a del ica te a nd

m o re a ccu ra te inv es t iga tio n o f s u ch c a s es will o ften
bring to ligh t the ex is tence of the s eco nd cres t o f
vita lity O nce the funda menta l idea is gra s ped, mu ch
.

t h a t a ppeare d o b s cu re o r o f n o s ignifica nce b ec o me s

p la in a nd full o f m ea ning . O ne la dy do c tor w it h

wh o m I dis cu s s ed my v iew a t o nce s a id tha t it illum
'

ina ted ma ny o b s erva tio ns s he ha d ma de o n her

‘

a t ien t s , bu t ha d no t bro u gh t t o g e th er o r ex la ined

p p .

Th ere is bu t little evidence to be fo und in

s c ient ific w ork s o n s ex, bu t a n in teres tin ins ta nc e
i s m en t io ned by F o rel ( T he Sexu a l
“
u es t io n,
”

Engl Tra ns l page 9 2) in a no th er c o nnec tio n

.
‘
. .

H e s ays A married wo man co nfes s ed to me,

when I repro ached her for b eing u nfa ith ful to
her hu s b a nd, th a t She de s ired c o itu s a t l ea s t o nc e a
fo r tnigh t , a nd th a t wh en her h u s b a nd wa s no t th ere
s he t o o k t he fi rs t c o m er
”
. Forel did no t s ee a ny law
 T he F u n d am n e t a l P u l s e 3 5
in this W e ma y perha ps a ll s ee in her want o f s el f
.

c ntrol a griev u s m or l ab normality bu t in her

o o a ,

for tnigh tly perio ds o f de s ire s he fits perfec tly into the
p hy s io l o g ic a l law wh ich it a p ea rs to me g o verns
p , ,

the no rm a l s ex tides o f o u r ra c e .

I n th is c o nnec tion it is o f interes t to no te the decrees

o f the M o sa ic La w reg arding ma rria g e interc o ur s e .

N o t o nly wa s a ll interc ou rs e with a wo man during

her mens trua tio n perio d very h eavily pu nis h ed (s ee
Leviticu s xx 1 8 I f a ma n lie with a w oman having
.

her s ick nes s b o th o f t h em Sha ll be cu t o ff fro m

a mong t h eir o le b u t the M o s ic La w
p r o v ided
p p
e a

t ha t w o men s h o u l d be pro tec ted fi o m in terc o u rs e for

'

s o me d y s af t er ea ch s u ch erio d T h e re s u l t s o b
a
p .

ta ine d by my independent inv es tiga tio n t hu s fin d

s o me s u o r t in t h is a n c ien t w is do m o f t h e E as t
pp .

M o dern writers are inclined to d ride the M o a ic La w e s

o n t he gro u nd th a t it ro h i b its int erc o u r s e j u s t a t the

p
tim e wh en t hey t hi nk s ex f eel ing h o u ld be s tro nge t
“

s s .

B u t it doe s no t appear o n wh a t gro unds th ey m a k e the

la tter s ta tement nor do they give ny s cientific da t
,
a a

in s u ppo t o f it r Thu s Gal bin in his M a nua l o f

. a

M idwifery s a y s : I n the J ewis h law w o men re

“
a

re
"
d c ted to a b s ta in fro m c o itu s dur ing m en s tru tio n
i a

a nd f r s even da ys a fter it s c es s a ti n
o Stric t o .

o b s ervers o f the l w are s id to o b ey o nd wh t i s

g a a a

comma nded in Leviticus a nd even if dis charge l s ts ,

a

o nly f r a n h o u r or two t o o b s erve fiv e d y s du rin

o , a

wh ich the dis charge m igh t la s t fo r the perio d its el ,

a nd a dd to th es e ev en cl ear da s m a k ing t welve in

y s ,

N or a —I n v c xv i i
Le it i us . t s t he man w ho is dire t ed t o c
b s tam f ro m ch i g h w m h
t is p erio d, a nd w ho is
—M
a tou n t e o an at

rendered un cl ea n if h d e o es . . C S
. .
36 Married L o ve
a ll . I t i s mu ch be do u ted
to wh h b h l
e t er a w o e

v c c b
na t io n w as e er indu ed t o pra t is e a s tinen e a t the c
p c x l l g
erio d o f m o s t a u te s e u a fe e in
”
B
. w ll
u t, a s i
rea di ly c g w h l
be r e o nis ed, the o ld Je is p a n o f a in hv g
w lv cl
t e e y
ear da s a fter t he bg g
e innin o f m en s tru a t io n

b x l xc h
e fo r e the ne t u nio n is in a m o s t e a t yw h
a rm o n it
c c
t he La w o f P erio di i ty o f R e u rren e o f c w o me n s
’

de s ire Sh w o n in m ych art s ,

pp 3 2, 3 3
. .

Th c p v ly
es e o m ara t i e s il c v
m p e wh I
u r e s re re s ent
p at

l l lS
w o u d po s tu a te a s t he norma po nta neo u s u p e in w ll g -

l
o f na tu ra de s ir e m w o ma n Th . e s e a re t he fo u nda

t io ns o n wh ch i fi
the edi ce o f the p hy l x s ic a e
p re s s io n o f

l v
o e ma
y bb l
e ui t . I t m g
u s t no t be fo r o tte n,h wv o e er,

h c l ly
t a t, part i u a r l x l
in m o dern u urio u s ife, t ere are h
bl xc
innu m era e e item e nts wh ch i x l
m ay s tim ula te s e u a
l g j h y c
fee in , u s t a s t ere a re ma n fa tors in o u r ife w i l h ch
hb
t end t o in i it o r r e ta rd i t wA o ma n m ay be, i e a
. lk
w y by g l v h h
m a n, s o s a ed a rea t o e t a t t ere 1 8 no t a da
y
i n the wh l h wh
o e m o nt l v
e n her o er s t o u
’
ch v c i
, h s o i e,

t he m e m or y l
o f his s m i e , do es n o t s tir her into t he

h ll g l g g
t ri in o n in fo r the u tterm o s t u nio n H en e i t c
.

c l
13 o ften diffi u t ,
p c l ly
art i u a r f w ll g
o r a w o ma n d e in

w h l v c g h hy h
it the m a n s he o e s , to re o nis e t is r t m 1n
h lers e f , fo r s he m a
y b e lly
er e tu a
p p l by
s tim u a ted h er

l v
o e a nd by b g his e in .

I am c v c h wv h
o n in ed, o e er, t a t o rdinari ,ly wh h e t er

c g
s he re o nis e s i t by w S g
o u t a rd i n s or no t, a fo r tn i gh ly t
rhy h t m pro fo u nd ly fl c v g w
in u en es the a era e o ma n, a nd
h c h
e n e t a t i t f unda m en ta lly c g l
a ff e t s t he m arri a e re a

v y
t io n in e er wa y b g g fic c
T he urnin ma ni en e o f a n
.

v w gl l gl v
o er o
p erin i fe on
-
o e I S no t
g y
1v en to m a n , a nd

a h b l
u s a nd who de s ire s a s t in g lh
a nd mu tu a a
pp ine s s

g w ll
in his ma rria e i carefia ly s tu d his
l y w ib v
fe , o s er e

l h h
ho w far s he ha s a norma r y t m, a nd m wh a t s he has
 T he Funda menta l Pu l s e 37
l it t l
p e ers o na l tra its H e will then endeav our to a dapt
.

his dema nds o n her s o t h a t th ey

a re in h armo ny w it h

her na ture .

Th is mu tua l a da pta tio n is no t a n entirely s imple

ma tter, a nd w ill be c o ns idered in the ne x t ch a pter .
 Cha pter V .

Mu tua l A dj u s tm ent
Lv w k h o il l hi
e ighb
or et —S P l no to s ne o ur . t . au .

N the ve g man f u ce de ire kn ws n

a ra e o o r ra s o o

e s n b ey nd t h S l igh t l ck enin g
s a o o f th w int e s a o e er

mo n th nd th h igh tening f pring S me men

s a e e o s . o

h ve b v d in th m lv a f intly—m k d
a o s er e e se es a ar e

m n t hly hy th m ;bu t in th m j i ty o f m n d i
o r e a or e e s re ,

e v en i f h l d in t n ch ck is m
e ly Slumb ring I t
s er e ,
er e e .

i s a lw y p e nt ev e dy t w k e t the l igh tes t

a s r se ,
er r a o a a

c ll nd ft n Sp nt ne u ly in i t nt t equ i
a ,
a o e so o a o s s s e as o r re

e t u l c n ci u e i n
p p r e a
p o s o s re r ss o .

I t wo u l d g ill w ith th m n f ur r c e h d o e e o o a a

w men et in d the wild nim l inf qu nt e n l

o r a e a a s
’
re e s as o a

r hythm nd with it h r invi l ble igh t in h r wn

, a e o a r s e o

b dy v t the m ting
o sa e a n W m n, t h a s ea s o . o a o o, as

a cqu ired a mu ch m e f qu nt hyth m ; bu t as it . or re e r ,

d oes n t qu l m n h h t nd d t ign
o e a a nd
’
s, e as e e o o re a

o v id it c e cing h t ll tim nd
er r -
e , o r n er a a es a s ea s o s,

e i th by f c
er by th v n m c mp lling p w
or e , o r e e e o re o e o er

o f div in u th it y nd c i l t di ti n
e a or a so a ra o .

If m n i u l nd wo m n i
d e i
’ ’
a
p p st es r nt s er e a a a s er

mit t ent ;i f m n d i e n tu lly well u p v y d y ’

‘

a s es r a ra s e er a

o f ev y f w d y er nd w m n
e nly v ry fo t nigh t
a s, a o a
’
s o e e r

or e v y m nth it m y pp
er o t fi t S ight im p
, a a ear a rs os

S ibl f th unw p d need f b th n tu s Simul

e or e ar e s o o a re

t n
a u l
eo
y t be s ti fi d o sa s e .

Th n eth t se t i f c t y m u tu l
se a dj u tm nt
a sa s a or a a s e

i n t wit h in th
s o lm s f p ib il ity h ind d h
e rea o oss as , ee ,
o

s es s ed u r c fo c n tu i T h
r a e ul t h
or b n e r es . e re s as ee

th t the upp s ed n d
a s f n of t he p tn h ee o o e o ar ers as

t nd d t
e e b ec m e p m unt nd w h v t b
o o ara o ,
a e a e es a

l is hed the s o c ia l tr ditio ns f hu s b nd s righ ts a

”
o a a
’
40 Ma rri ed L o ve
l ngu g e is neces s r y th ugh it m y s urp is e tho s e
a a a ,
o a r

w ho are acc u s to m d nly t t he h zy vag u ne s wh ich e o o a e s

h as led t much mi pp eh n io n f the tru t h

o so sa r e s o .

Ev y m ting m n nd w m n Sh o uld k n w the f l

er a a a o a o o

l wing T h x g ns o f m n cons i t no t nly

o : e se or a a a s o

o f t h ti u wh ich g ive ri e t t he l iv ing mo ving

e ss es s o , ,

c il i t d c ll the s p rms nd f the peni th ugh

a e e s, e ,
a o s ro

wh ich t hey p s nd by m ns f wh ich t h ey a a s

'

a ea o re

di ec ted in to t he p o pe pl c e f
r t h i dep iti n t h r r a or e r os o ,
e

w m n v g in A ci t d with th es e p im y nd
o a
’
s a a . s so a e r ar a

es s ent i l t u c tu es t h ere a e
a s r th t is s u e nd gl a nd s
r r o er s a

wh ich h ve nume u s ub idi y but y t ve y im

a ro s s ar e r

p t
or a nt p t t p l y ; m ar sf wh ich i n fl u enc e l m
o a t so e o a os

e v ry g n in th b dy M n p n wh n un t imu
e or a e o . a
’
s e 1s , e s

l ted is ft m ll nd d ping B u t when s timu

a ,
so , s a a ro o .

l t d ith by phys ic l t uch wh ich c t t hr ugh

a e ,
e er a o a s o

t he ne v e nd m u cl
r di c tly r indirec tly th u gh
s a s es re ,
o ro

mes s g f m th b in it inc
a es ro s es gr tly in s iz e e ra ,
rea ea ,

nd b c m s tiff turgid nd erec t M ny men '

a e o es , a . a

im g ine th t th tu g id c nditi n o f n e c ti n i
a a e r o o a re o s

du e t t h l c l ccu mu l t i n f p m
o . e o a nd t h t a a o o s er s, a a

th e es n nly be n tu ra lly
ca
goo t id f by n j a cul a r o a e a

ti n o Th i is enti ly wr ng T h enl g m nt f
. s re o . e ar e e o

t he p ni i ri o t a t ll du to t h
e s s s enc f c tu l
p a e e re e o a a

Sp m bu t i due t the ff ct f th n v u s eac ti n

er , s o e e s o e er o r o

o n t he bl d ve l l ding t th filling p incipally

oo -
sse s, ea o e ,
r

f the v i ns nd m u ch l s f the rte i ; A the

'

o e , a es o a r es s

bl d ent rs bu t d n t le ve th peni the ven us

oo e o es o a e s,
“

c vitie in it fill up with veno u bl d u ntil th wh l

a s s oo e o e

is rigid Wh en ig id t h i . g n is ble t pen t te r s or a a o e ra

the fe m l e entr nc a nd t h e t h fu t h e ti mul ti n

a e, a er e r r s a o

c ll s u t th s pe m f m th ei t reh u
a o e the
r s ro r s o o s es ,

s e min l v es icl es in t he t e tes

a nd th ey a s s d wn s
p ,
a o

the ch annel ( the ure t hr a nd are ex ell ed h

) p I f t is a .
 M u tua l A dj u s tment 1

i cl ar i t will be e l i ed t h t th st iff ening nd re c

s e ,
r a s a e a e

t ion d e n t n o s s rily c l l f
s o el i f in t he
ece j cu l a a or r e e a a

t i n f p m I f the v in c n e mpt y t h m lv e
o o s er . e s a e se s , as

t h ey n tu lly d wh n th n v u
a ra xcit m nt wh ich
o e e er o s e e e

e t ic t d t h m l c lly p
r s r e the e c t i n w ill u b
e o a a s s es , re o s

s ide wit h u t ny l o f p m by the m

o a pss o ing s er s, ere as s

b ck f th l c lly xc ive bl d in t th din y

a o e o a e es s oo o e or ar

c 1rc ul t y y
a ort em Th i n h
s
p p s n qu i t .n t u lly s ca a e e a ra

a nd h lt h ily wh n th n v
ea e et h d e it h e er es ar s oo e ,
er

p hy i c lly s a e ult f
or as n f m
a r s nt l
p e c o a se se o e a a e

a nd e x l t ti n Wh n a n t he
a o th e h nd the l c l
. e ,
o o r a ,
o a ex

c it m nt c u l m in te
e e in t h c ll ing u p nd xpu l i n
a s e a a e s o

f th p m ft it h nc t t d th j cu l t i n
‘

o e s er s, a er as o e s ar e e e a a o

b c m e q u i t e inv l u n t y nd t h p m nd t h
e o s o ar a e s er s a e

se rc eti n oci t d with t h m p u t f the y tem

o s ass a e e as s o o s s

a nd e nt i ly l s t
ar e re o .

O f wh t d e t h i l a c n i t ? I t i e tim ted
o s s os s o s s s s a

t h t the e
a o mewh r e b t w en t w
a re s nd fiv er e e o a e

h undred m ill i n pe m in ingl ve e j cu l o s r s a s e a ra e a a

ti n
" E ch ingl n o f t h in he l t y m n) i
o . a
( s e o e es e a e s

c p bl f f til i ing w m n egg c ll nd giving

a a e o er s a o a
’
s -
e a

new h u m n b eing Th u by S ngl e j c u l

i t
r se o a
( ia . s a e a a

t i n ne m n m igh t f til i e n
o o a ly ll the m ri g er s ear a ar a e

a ble w m en in the w l d "

o
) E ch i ngl e n o f th or a s o e o se

m inu t pe m c e s i c u nt l r he dit y t it nd
s arr es o es s re ar ra s, a

ea ch c n i t v y l g ly f nucl e pl m— th m t
o s s s er ar e o ar as e os

h ighly p ci li d nd iche t ub t nc in u b o di
-
s e a se a r s s s a e o r es .

I t i n t u p i ing t h
s o s f t find t h t t h
r r s , n ly i ere ore, o a e a a s s

o f t h ch m ic l n tu e f th j cu l t d fl uid ev l
e e a a r o e e a a e r ea s

a m ng t h o t h ing
o m k bly h igh pe c nt g
er s a re f ar a r e a e o

c lciu m nd ph ph ic c id— b th p ecio u u b

a a os or a o r s s

t nc
s a n o ur es 1 g ni t ion or a sa .

See Pfiugers A r chiv .

, 18 9 1 .
42 Ma rri e d L o v e
I t i t h ef o re the gre t t m i t k t imag ine tha t
s er a es s a e o

the s em n is s m e t h ing t b g t id o f fr q u ntly

e o o e o r e e

a ll th v it l e nergy nd the p ec io u s ch mical s ub

e a a r e

s at nc e wh ich g s t i t c mp s it i n c n be b e tte
o o s o o o a r

u t il i d by b eing tr ns f rm d int
se t h e c a t iv e w ork
a o e o o r re

o n mos t d y f t h m nth a A nd s m y tic a nd

s o e o . o s

w nd ful e the ch emic l tr n f m tions going o n

o er ar a a s or a

in u b die t h t th b in c n ft en t t h is lch emy

o r o s a e ra a o se a

in m ti n p ticu l ly if the b ra in i h lp d by k n w
o o , ar ar s e e o

l dg A t ng will c n ften c lm the n erves wh ich

e e . s ro a o a

re gul t the bl d upply, nd o der th di tended

a e oo s a r e s

v in f the p nis t ret ct nd ub s ide with ut

e s o e o ra a s o

w ting th em en in n j cul tion

as e s a e a a .

B u t wh il e i t i g d t h t m an h ul d be bl e to
s oo a a s o a

d th i
o ft n i t i n t g d t t y t d it lway
s o e , s o oo o r o o a s .

The v y e tr int wh ich a dds t a m an s s treng t h up

er r s a o
’

to a o in t t x hi tr ng t h wh n C ri d b ey nd it
es
p , a s s e e ar e o .

I t i my b el ie f th t j u t uffic ient res tr int t c a y

s a s s a o rr

him t h u gh the bb tid f hi w if ex— rhy t h m i s

’
ro e -
es o s e s s

u u lly th righ t m u nt t
s a e give the b es t s treng th
a o o ,

vig u , nd j y to m n if b th
o r a o n rm l
p e pl e
a a o a re o a o .

I f t he w if h I th ink th m j ity f he l thy

e as, as e a or o a ,

well—f d y ung w men will b f und to h ve f rt

e o o e o a , a o

nigh t ly c n c i u nes r u nc n c io u t nt i l i ty f
o s o
p s s o o s s o e a o

d si
e th en th t w
re, h uld find pe f ct mu tu l d
e o s o a r e a a
‘

j u tm nt in h ving f tnigh tly uni n ;f r thi ne d

s e a or o s o s e

n t be c nfi ned t
o nly
o ingl e uni n n u ch o cc
o o a s o o s a

i n
s o M ny m n w h c n well p c t i r t int f
. a e , o a ra se es ra or

t w lv e r f ur t e n d y s w ill find t h t
e o o e ne u nion o nl a a o
y ,

will n t th n th ughly ti f y t hem ; nd if th y

o e o ro sa s a e

h v the g d f tune to h v h l thy wiv th y will

a e oo or a e ea es , e
find th t t he l tte t oo h ve the de i e f
a a s eve
r, l , a s r or ra
u ni n in t he c u s e o f
o s d y o r tw I f the w ve
o r a a o . a

c e t facing page 32 are s tudied it will b e s een that

r s s
,
 Mutua l A dju s tm e nt 43
‘
“

t h ey s p ea d o ve two r t h ree d y s nd Sh w s eve l

r or a a o ra

m ll minor c es t Th i is wh t h pp n wh en
'

s a r s . s a a e s a

w m n i t h r ughly well nd vit l ;h d ire cu

o a s o o a a er es re rs

du ing day
r tw m et im
a v en v y f w h u
or o, s o es e e er e o rs

i f it d n t a nd s m tim e
o es ven wh n i t d
o ,
o e s e e o es ,

rec iv ee ti f c tion sa s a .

Exp e d in g ner l t m (wh ich f c u

r sse will
e a er s ,
o o rs e,

n t fit ev e yb o dy) my v iew m y b f rm u l t d th u
o r a e o a e s

T he mu tu lly b es t eg u l t i n f inte c u
a in m r a o o r o rs e ar

ri g i t
a e h v th e r f u d y f ep ted u ni n
s o a e r e o o r a s o r ea o s,

f ll wed by b u t ten d y w ith u t ny u ni n

o o a o t a s o a o s a

a ll u nl e
,
m e s tr ng ex tern l timu lu h s tirred
ss so o a s s a s

a mu tu al des ire .

Ih v ba e een intere s ted t o dis o er t a t t he peo p e c v h l

k w
no n to m e who a e a iden ta h v cc
ed u o n t i
p lly fix h s

g
a rra n e m en t o f t e ir i es are ha ppy h lv
a nd i t s o u d h l
h
be no te d t a t i t fits in it the art s w h
i e i ch I g v wh ch “

r e res ent the norma , s o nt a neo u s f ee in

p p l of s o m a n l g y
w o men .

Th
ere a re m a n o men, yw
o e er, who do no t fee , h wv l
o r w ho ma
y no t a t firSt re o nis e, a s e o nd, bu t
g a e c c hv
on ly
o ne tim e o f na tura
p ea s u re in s ex i n ea m oonl l ch
mo nt h
M a n m en o f s tro n
. y
i a nd te m pera te i e s g w ll “

lv
w l bl
il be a e s o to o ntro t em s e e s t a t t e ca n c l h lv h hy
j
a d u s t t em s e h lv
es t o t is mo r e re s tra in ed s ex ife, a sh l
-

w h h cq
do s o m e i t w o m a m a u a int e d O n the o t er I . h
h h w ll
a nd, t ere y
i be ma n who find t i s perio d to o h
l v h gh w h
lo ng to i e t ro u it o u t u s in a l a rger a m o u nt g '

gy
o f e ner g h
in res tra inin t eir impu s e t a n is j u s tifi l h
abl e v
I t s e em s t o m e n e er ju s ti a e t o Spen d s o
. fi bl
mu ch gy
ener w l w
a nd il po er o n re s tra inin na tura g l
l h v l bl w k
impu s es , t a t a ua e or a nd in t e e tu a
po er ll c l w
a nd
p o is e a re m a de t o s u ff er
, I f , t en , a s tro n . h gly
s e ed x h b
u s a nd, who nds it a rea o s s to his
pofi ers ll w
 44 Marri ed L o v e
o f w o k t e ndure t h ugh t w nty s ix day s o f ab ti
r o ro e -
s

nenc Sh uld find h ims l f m rried t wif who s e

e, o e a o a e

v i t l it y i
a l w t h t he c n nly t k e pl ea u e in
s so o a s a o a s r

p hy ic a l u ni n
s nc i n he m o n m nt h in s o me it
o
( e r oo -
o

w ill be b f in me l it tl e t ime fte he m en

e ore, so a a r, r

s rt u l fl w) h Sh u l d n t c
a o ,
fu lly t he time he i
e o o e are S s

n t ne u ly h y i n t h i u ni n nd t h n t n
y e
s
p o a
pp o s a e r o ,
a a a

c t res t in h im l f t h u gh t he d y immedi tely

os ra se ro a s a

f ll wing
o o nd b u t f tnigh t ft h t im f
, a a o a or a er er e o

d i es re he h ul d s t h im el f rdently t w o he
s o e s a o o r .

U nl e he i ctu lly u t f h e l t h h i m l ikely

.

ss s s a a o o a e s ore

t h e n t h n t ny at h er t im e t
a u cc ed n t
a nly i n
o o s e o o

winning h r c mpl i nce bu t ls in giving her the

e o a ,
a o

r
p p o f l ing nd tt ining m u t u l e c s t
er ee a y a a a as .

T he h u s b nd wh e t in s h im el f even i f it
a o s o r s ra s ,

is h d t d it w ill g n
ar o lly find t h t he i
o , e e ra a s a

t h ou a nd f l d
s e i d n t o nly by t he inc ea ing
r a o o r s
p
-

h e l th nd h ppin o f his wif nd the much in

a a a es s e, a

t en e pl a s u e he g in f m t h i m u tu l in te c ours e
s r e r a s ro e r a r ,

bu t l by hi
a so wn a dd d v ita l it y nd s en e f el f
s o e a s o s

c m m nd A fortnigh t i n t t l ng for h eal thy

o a . s o oo o a

m n t a e t in h im l f with dv nt g
o r s ra se a a a e .

Si Th m C l o u t n s y
r o as B ef I W ed 1 9 1 3
”
s o a s ore , ,

p ag e 84
) N t u e h a ng ed m tte s t h t the
a r a s s o a rr a r a

m e c o n t ntly c nt l i
or s a x cis d the m e s y o ro s e er e o re a

a nd e ff ec t iv e it b ec m es I t b ec m e h b it The l es
o . o s a a . s

c nt l i exercis ed the g e t e t ndency the e i fo

o ro s r a r e r s r

a d ire t b ec m
es Cr v i ng f n u nc nt ll bl e k ind
o o e a a o a o ro a ,

wh ich i s its el f f t he n tu e f di ea e nd me n o a r o s s ,
a a s

dea t h s o ne l te Th is c nclus ion i n t o nly the

o
”
r or a r . o s o

res u l t f th int ell ec tu l nd m

o e l expe ience f u a a ora r o o r

r ac bu t i upp t d by phy io l g ic l xpe im nt

e, s s or e s o a e r e s .

Wh il a k n wl dge o f the fund mental l ws f ur

e o e a a o o

being s h o uld in the ma in regu la te our lives s co m ,

o
 Mu tua l A dj u s tm ent 45

p l x eare we s o n it iv e t m y ,
ia d impres s io n
se st ha t o a r s,

cl ck w rk regularity c n neve rul e u

o -
o a r
‘
s .

Even wher the w m n is tr ngly s ex ed w ith e o a s o , a

w ll ma ked recu ence f de i e wh ich i gene lly

e -
r rr o s r ,
s ra

tis fi ed by fo rtnigh tly u nio ns i t m y n t inf e que ntly

“

sa , . a o r

h ppen th t in b etween thes e pe i d ther m y be

a a , r o s, e a

a dditio n l pec i l Occ i n wh n t h e

a s s
p ing u
a
p as o s e re r s a

m u tu l l ng ing t un it
a oTh e will gene lly dep nd o e . se ra e

o n m e v nt in the l o v
so e l ive wh ich ti thei
e ers
’
s s rs r

e m t io n ; o m e m em
o y f p t p i n s uch
s s n or "
o as as s o , as a

a nnive y f t h i w dding pe h p will b due

rs a r o e r e ,
or r a s e

t n v l m ic t u e wh ich m v e t h em o o
o a
p r
o
p e ,
oe ,
r s

d ply I f the m n he l v pl y s t he p rt f t nde

ee . a s o es a a o e r

w e ven a t t ime wh n he p i n w uld n t

o o r, e s e r as s o o o

s p nt no us lya ri e w m n c n gen lly be tir d

eo a s , a o a a er a s re

s o f und m nt lly t g iv e a p
a e i n te e tu n B u t
a as o as s o a r r .

a t t he t ime f h r ebb t ides t h timu l u s will h v

s o e -
e s a e

t be s t o ng
o th n t t h h igh t ide
r er nd i t w ill t h en
a a e s, a

gener lly be f und th t the ppe l mu t be m de ev n

a o a a a s a e

m e t h ugh he e m t i na l nd pi itu a l na tu e a nd
or ro r o o a s r r

l e thr ugh th phy ic l t h n u s u l

ss o e s a a a .

T he up em l w f h u s b nd i
s r R ememb er th t
e a or a s s : a

e cha t f u ni n mu t be t nde ly w o ed f r a nd
ac o o s e r o o

w n nd t h t n u nio n h o u l d eve t a k e pl c u nl e
o ,
a a o s r a e ss

t h w m n l s o des ire i t a nd i m a de hy s ic lly read

e o a a s s
p y a
f it ( S e p g
or . e a e

Wh ile in mo s t mar i ges the h u b and h s t r a s a o re

t in h im l f t
s ra m ee t t he w ife l es fre quently e
se o
’
s s -

cu ent hy thm the e e n the th e h nd m

rr r , r ar ,
o o r a , ar

r iage in wh ich the h us b a nd is s u nder e xed t ha t he

s o -
s

c nn t h ve o dinar y u nio n ve t ve y inf quent

a o a r sa a r re
int e v l w ith u t
r a s s erio u s eff ec t o n hi o h ea l t h I f
a s .

s u ch a m n i ma ried t o a wo m a n who h s inh erited

a s r a

an unu s u ll s tro n and over fre u ent des ire he ma

y g a
q y
-

,
46 Marri ed L o ve
s u ff er by unio n with he her s u ff ering by
r, o r m ay c au s e

refu s ing to u nite I t is j u s t po s s ibl e th a t for s u ch

"
.

eo l e the m e t h o d of a re zz a s ee D r A St o ck ma n s
(
’
p p . .

b oo k a re zz a" o n t he s u bj e c t m
) g i h t b rin
g t h em
'

b o th the h eal th a nd pea ce th ey need ;co ns erving the

m a n s v ita l e nergy fro m the l o s s o f wh ich he s u ffers ,
’

a nd g iv ing t he w o m a nthe s ens e o f u nio n a nd phy s ic a l

nerv e s o o t h ing s he r equ ires B u t the v aria tio ns in t he

-
.

s ex nee ds a nd t he s ex idea s o f different h ea l t hy peo pl e

'

- -

a re i mm ens e , far grea ter t h a n ca n be s u gg es ted in th is

b k oo .

Ell i s s ta tes t h at the Quee n o f A rago n orda ined tha t

"

s ix t ime s a da y w a s the pro per ru e in e it ima te l lg

m arria e "So a no rm a
g b s e ed a o ma n
lly x wou d to w l
da y pro a b bly cc
su e e d in i in e k ll g by xh
a u s t ion a s u c

c es s io n o f h b
u s a nds , fo r t he m a n who o u d ma t c l ch
su ch a de s ire I S ra re, t o u
p h gh
er a s es s e
p h
e tio na
p l xc l
h ch w
t an su a o ma n .

Th gh ou t he t im in a nd t he fr e u en
g o f u nio n a re q cy “

b wh ch q
t he po int s a o u t i k
u e s t io ns a re o ft ene s t as ed

by g wl
t he i nora nt a nd g e l m ea nin , a nd ar e m o s t mis
-

h h l c
u nders t o o d, y et t ere are o t er fu nda m enta fa t s co n
c erningc b wh ch v
o itu s a o u t cl i e en m edi a men s eem
gly g
s u r ri s in
p
‘
i g g h
nora nt l
Re ardin t es e, a s imp e
.

hy l g c l c
s ta t em en t o f t he
p l
s io o i a fa t s is e s s entia .

l c fic k wl g
A n impers o na a nd s ienti no ed e o f the -

c b
s tru tu re o f o u r g g
o dies is t he sures t s afe u ard a a ins t

c
ru rie nt y l cv
rio s it gl d g Th i io u s
'

p u a n a s o a tin is .

k wl g
no b ck
e d e a t the a l v
o f t he m inds o f the o ers ,

h gh
t ou h
no t b ch l
per a ps rem em ered a s su , may a s o
p c l y h l g wh ch
s a re the u ninte nt io ned ru e t of a nd in i so

ly
re a di inj u re s o ne w o s e o er is i nora n t
h l v g .

Wh c lly h
at a tu a a
pp ens i n an a ct of u nio n
h l
s o u d be w k no n l hv
A fter the pre iminaries a e
.
 48 Ma rri e d L o ve
t h ink t h t ev e y g i l w ho w a b u t to be m rried '

a r r s a o a

w ul d be told o f th i nece y u ptu ing f the mem

o s s s ar r r o

b ne nd the tempo y p in it w ill c u her ;bu t

ra a ra r a a se

e v n s till l g nu m b r o f gi l re ll w d t mar y
e ar e e s r s a a o e o r

in c m pl t
o nd c u el ig n
e e a nc e r ora .

I t h u l d be
s o li d th t m n d es n t w nd
r ea se a a a o o oo a

w in w m n nce f r ll wh en he m rie he h
a o a o o a ar s r : e

m us t w o o her bef ore ev ery s epa ra te a ct of co i t us , for

ea ch a ct c o rre s o nds t o a m arria g e a s o th er c rea tu re s
p
k now it Wil d a nima ls are no t s o fo o lis h a s ma n ;a
.

w il d a nima l do e s no t u nite w it h his fema le w ith o u t the

wo o ing cha ra cteris tic o f his race, whether by s tirring
her by a dis pla y o f his s treng th i n figh ting a no th er
ma l e, o r by exh ib iting his b eau tif u l fea th ers or s o ng .

A nd we mu s t no t fo rg e t th a t the wil d a nima l s a re

a s s is te d by na ture ; t h ey g enera lly o nly wo o j u s t a t

t he s ea s o n wh en the fem a le 13 b eginning to feel na t ura l

‘

de s ire B u t m a n, w ho wa nts his ma te a ll o u t o f s eas o n

.

a s well a s in it, ha s a do u bl e du t y t o erform , a nd m u s t

p
h im s elf rou s e, charm, a nd s timu la te her to the lo ca l
r ea dine s s wh ich w o u l d h a v e b ee n t o s o m e ex ten t

na t u ra lly re a re d for him ha d he wa ited t ill her o w n

p p
des ire welled u p .

T o render a wo ma n rea dy b efore u nit ing with her

is no t o nl the m eres t a ct o f h u ma nity t o s a v e her
y
a in, bu t 18 o f v a l u e fr o m the m a n s o int o f v ie w ,
’
p p
for (u nl es s he is o ne o f th o s e rela tively few a b norma l
a nd dis eas ed v a ria nts w ho del igh t o nly 1n ra e
p ) t he

ma n ga ins a n imm ens e increa s e o f s ens a tio n fro m the

mu tu a lity t hu s a tta ined, a nd the h ea l th o f bo th the
ma n a nd t he wo ma n is m o s t b enefic ia lly a ff ec ted .

A s s u m ing no w tha t the two are i n the clo s es t m enta l

a nd s iri tu a l , a s w ell a s s ens o r y h a rm o ny : i n wh a t
p
o s itio n s h o u l d the a ct be c o ns u mma ted ? M en a nd
p
 Mut ua l A dj u s tm e nt 49

women l k ing int

,
oo ch o the eye k i ing o ea
’
r s s, ss

tenderly n t he m u th w ith t h eir a rm r u nd ea h

o o , c s o

ot h er m,
e e t f c e t o f c e:
a A nd t h t poas it io n i s
y mb h c a s o

of t he c m ing t geth er f the two w h mee t t ge th er

o o o o o

l a dl
g
Z c bl h
I t eem s in redi e t a t to da y edu a ted m en s o u d c h l
—
-

be fo u nd who a pparen t y o n t eo o i a l ro u nds h l gc lg

re fu s e t o o u nt ena n e a ny o t er po s it io n "
c c h
e t o ne w ife .

h
t o ld m e t a t s he w as ru s e d a nd n ea r c h
s u ff o a te d ly c by
h b h
her u s a nd, s o t a t it t o o her o u rs t o re o er a ft er k h c v
ea ch u nio n, bu t t a t on
p h
rin i
p e
”
h e re fias ed t o c l
h
a t tem t a n o t er po s it io n t a n the o ne he
p y h
o s e to ch
c o ns ider n o rm a l
M u fua l e
. ein w ll b
s o u d be t he -
g h l
g u ide f or ea p a ir ch .

h
I t is per aps no t enera g
rea is ed ho w lly
rea t a re l g
v z h
t he ar ia t io ns o f s i e, s a pe, a nd po s itio n o f a ll the s ex

p ar t b y
s o f the od i n diff erent in di idu a s ,
y et t e v l hy
v h z
diff er m o re e e n t a n the s i e a nd a ra ters o f a ll the ch c
c h
fea fure s o f the fa e and a nds I t appen s , t erefo re , . h h
h
t a t the o s it io n
‘

wh ch i s u its m o s t peo e i s u ns a t i s l
c y fd h
p
fa to r r o t ers So m e, fo r ins ta n e, ca n o n
. c ly
b fi by
ene t h b h
u nio n w en ot a re in o n t e ir s ide s ly g h .

Th gh ou c lly h
m edi a g
t is is enera o ns idered u n lly c
v bl hb v c
fa o u ra e o r pro i iti e fo r o n ept io n, y e t no c Ik w
w o me n w ho hv v l
a e ha d s e era i dren a nd o se ch l wh
h b lw y
u s a nds a h
a s u s e d t is
p o s itio n I n t is ma tter . h
v yc l h l
e er ou
p e s o u d find o u t f or t em s e e s i of h lv wh ch
y bl b
the m a n po s s i e po s it io ns es t s u its t em bo th h .

Wh en the tw o hv a e m e t a nd u nited, t he u s u a l
l h l g
re s u t is t a t, a fter a o n er o r s o rter inter a
, the
h vl
ma n s menta a nd p s i a s timu a tio n rea es a
’
l hy c l l ch
cl x y xc
ima in s en s o r into i a tio n a nd in t he e a u a t io n j c l
o f s emen hW ere the two are perfe t y a d u s ted, the
. cl j
w l l
o ma n s imu ta neo u s ch y rea es the ris is o f ner o u s c v
E2
50 Ma rri ed L o ve
a nd m u c u l r cti n v y imil r to hi This
s ar ea o s er s a s .

m u tu l g m is x t m ely imp t nt (s e l p
a or as e re or a e a so .

bu t n m ny c e t he m n cl im x c o me
1 a as s a
’
s a s so

s wif tly th t th w m n e ct i n e no t ne ly
a e o a
’
s r a o s ar ar

r ea dy n d h ,
l ft with ou t i t Th u gh n ome
a s e 18 e . o 1 s

in t nc s a th w m n m y h v
es n e r m o e c ris e a a a e o e o or s

b f th m n ch i v hi it i p h p h dly n
e o re e a a e es s, s, er a s, ar a

e x gg ti n t t h t 7 8 0 c en t o f u r er
a era
y 0o
p o sa a or . o

m i d w m en (in th m iddl cl
a rr e o
) e dep iv d e e a s s es ar r e

o f the fu ll g s m th ugh th exce ive p ed f th

or a ro e ss s e o e

hu b nd s a ct ns t h ugh m m l dj u tment
’
s rea io ,
or ro so e a -
a s

o f the l tiv h p re a nd
p t n f t
e s h e g an 8
es a0 osi i o s o or a s .

d te d ro f u nd e w m n c m l ex
’
ex
p
ee s ea
p , so
p o , ar o a s o s

in t nc t
s i w ll s he s as rg n t h t m r u ing t h em
e a r o a s, a o s

t he m n i r u ing h e wh l b dy nd
a s o sul A nd -

r o e o a so .

thi t k t im M time ind d th n the v r ge “

s a es e . o re ,
ee ,
a a e a ,

u n in t u c t d h u b nd g iv e t
s r e it "t w m n h s a t s o . e o a as a

th u f c
e s s m ll v e t i e l
r a e a rg n c ll ed t h cl it a i s a o a e or s ,
g a

wh ich c e p nd m ph l gic lly t th m n peni

o rr s o s or o o a o e a
’
s s,

a nd wh ich l ik it i x t mely n itive t t uch

,
e ,
s e re se s o o

s en ti nsa Th i l ittle c e t wh ich li nte i ly

o s . s r s ,
es a r or

b tw en th inn l ip und th v gin enl rge

e e e er s ro e a a, a s

wh n th w m n i re lly tu m c nt nd by th tim u
e e o a s a es e , a e s

l ti n f m ov m nt it int n ely u d nd t n
a o o e e is e s ro se a ra s

m it th i t imu lu s t
s ve y ne ve in he b dy B u t
s s o e r r r o .

e v n fte wo m n d m nt e f eling
a er a a u ed
’
s or a s x e 1 s aro s

nd ll t he c o m l ex re c t i n f h b in g h v b n
a a
p e e e a o s o er a e

s e t in m ti n it m
y o v n t ke o m u ch
, f m t e n
a e e a as as ro

t ot wen t y m inu te s o f c tu l phy ic l u nio n t o n a a s a co

s u mm t he fe l ing wh il e tw
a e r th r e minu te o ft n
e , o o re s e

c mplet th u ni n f r m n wh
o es e
gn nt o f o a a o 13 1 ora o

th n d te c nt l hi e cti n
ee o th t b t h m y
o ro s r a o s so a o a

e xpe ience the dded b en fi t f mu tua l c i is t

r a e o a r s o

l veo .
 Mutual A dj u s tm ent 51

A nu m b er f w ll me ning p p l d m nd f m o e -
a eo e e a ro

m n b s lu t
e a co ntinenc
o e v f pro c e ti n e sa e or r a o

o nly Th ey ve l k the innu m bl phy i l gic l

. o r oo era e s o o a

r ea c t i n c n c e n d in t h ct
o s o well th u b t l
r e e a ,
as as e s e

u l lch y w
s
pi i t
r a m f
a i t nd
p p
e u nd t he i t
hot ,
a ro o V e a

th e o
pp i t i n t c
os n tin nc v o f p t n
o o e e, s a e or ro crea 1 o

o nly h ,
bu t n as gu men t t pu t fo w d nd th t
o e ar o r ar , a a

is
pp t
a i t e lfi h ne e,
”
( ThseW y f G sd ss . e a o o 1 11

M a rriage ) .

I m int in h w v th t it h u ld be e li d th t
a a ,
o e er, a s o r a se a

t he c mpl t o ct f u ni n i
e e a t ipl e c n u mm ti n
o o s a r o s a o .

I t ym b l i
s ond t t he
s es , am t im c tu lly nh nc
a sa e e a a e a es ,

th e s i i t u l u n i n ;t h
r m y i d u b t l et i f ere a re a r a s es o
p a o

so u l t u c tu
-
s r wh ich c mp u nd d in th i lch m y
re s are o o e s a e .

A t the m t im th sa t g iv
e th m t in t n
e e ac es e os e se

p hy ic sl p l a u n d b
ea s n efi t wh ich t h
re a b d y n e e o ca ex

p i
er en nd i t i
ce , a m ut u l n t lfi h ple u nd
s a a ,
o a se s ,
as re a

p rofi t m , c lc u l ted t h n ny t h ing l

o re a t
a d w u t a a e se o ra o

a n un
p k s bl ea t nd n a nd u nde tending in b t h er es s a ers a o

p t
ar ak e f t h
rsi c m nt ;whil th i dly it i th
o s s a ra e e, r , s e

a c t wh ich g iv i t n w l if by
es r s e n d ing i bl
o a e e re er os s e
p
th fu i n
e f n
s o f th i nnu m
o o ble m l p m
e o e er a a e s er s

with th f m l gg c ll e e a e e -
e .

I t ft n h pp n n w d y t h t d
o e a e ding th
s o a a s a , r ea e ex

p n
e n
se ad t h phy ic l t in f ch il d b
e in g f
s a hi s ra o ea r or s
-

wife th hu b nd p c ti wh t i c lled it u i nt r
, e s a ra s es a s a co s e

up t us — t h t i h with dr w j u t b f e th
r a s, e
j u a s s e or e e ac

l ti n bu t wh n h i l dy
a o , e tim u l t d t h t t h
e s a r ea so s a e a e

j cu l ti n h b c m inv lu n t y I n th i w y th
e a a o as e o e o ar . s a e

m n i t bu t it d th w if
’
se e
p n s s e n t , nt , as o es o e er e e s

b dy f tili ti n nd c n qu ntly p c e ti n n
o , er sa o a ,
o se e , ro r a o ca
n t t k
o
pl c
a e Th i p c tice wh il it m y h v v d
a e . s ra , e a a e sa e
t h w m n th
e o a ng u i h f b in g u nw nt d ch ild n
e a s o ea r a e re ,

is y et v e y h m ful t h r nd i t b d
ar e c t edo It er, a s o e e r
p a .
 52 Ma rried L o v e
t nd t
e l v the w m n in m id i a s it were ;
s o ea e o a -
a r

t l v he s tim u l ted nd u n t is fi ed a nd t h erefo

o ea e r a a sa ,
re

it h v y b d eff ect n h r ne ves nd gener l

as a er a o e r a a

h e l th p rticul ly if it is done frequently The

a ,
a ar
'

w om n t o l o s th dv nt ge ( nd I m convinced
a ,
o, es e a a a a a

t h t i t is difii cu lt t
a ve s t te th phy i lo gic l dv nt o o r a e s o a a a

o f the rt i l b or t io n o f t he ma n s ec retio n
g )
’
e
a
p p a a a s s s,

wh ich mu s t t k e pl c th ugh th l rge t c t f a a e ro e a ra o

in t n l epith el iu m w it h wh ich t h y c m in c o nt c t
er a e o e a .

If , p hy
as s i l o gy h l e d y o
pr v e d i s t he c s t h
as a re a o a e,

in t n l a ber a
p t i n f s ec t i
s or n f m t he s ex
o rg no re o s ro o a s

p l y a o ls g es
p t i n d
ar e t m ini ng the h e l t h
a ar nd er a a

ch c t r f m t p t f the b dy it is ex t m ely
ar a e o re o e ar s o o , re

l ik ely th t the h ighly timula ting c ti n o f m n

a s s e re o a
’
s

em n c n nd d e n tra te nd ff e c t t h w m n
’
s e a
p a o s e e a a e o a s
-

wh le g ni m Actu l experimen t h ho wn th t
o or a s . a as s a

i din pl c ed in th v gin in o lu ti n is s qu ickly

o e a e a a s o o

a b b ed by the pitheli l wall th t in a n h ur it h

s or e a s a o as

en tr ted t he y tem
e nd i ev n b eing excre ted I t e
p a s s a s .

s till m ins h w v
re a f r s c i ntific e xpe iment t
,
o e er, o e r s o

b devis d wh ich will en ble u to tudy the eff ec t f

e e a s s s o

th b s rpti n f u b s t nce f om the emen O n

e a o o o s a s r s .

t he th o h nd it us i nt rupt us i n t lw ys h m
er a ,
co er s o a a ar

f ul f th m n f h h th c mpl te x ct th u gh
or e a ,
or e as e o e se -
a ,
o

a g d m ny m n t hink it eff c t n t hem ar e u nde

oo a e s e s o

i bl
s ra nd it m y l e d t
e, a l ck f de ire a vn a o a o s or e e

imp t nc e t w d hi w if in
o e o m n who p c t i
ar it s e a a ra s es

w it h h n t he
er, o r, o th e h nd t o t s wift fr h “

o r a , a oo es

d i e f m th l ck f c mpl et
es r ro elu ti n f n rv u
a o o e re s o o o e o s

t n i n
e s o I t i c e t inly b d wh n it
. s f ty from co n
r a a e s sa e

s e qu enc s indu c him to f equ nt indu lg nce, f r

e es r e e o

thu w t fully t c tte wh t ho uld be cre tiv

s as e o s a r a s a e

p w i t
o er du c his w n vit l ity nd p we
s o re e fw k o a a o r o or

( l
s ee a s o
p g By t h
a o ew h h v h igh pp se o a e a a re ~
 Mutua l A dj u s tment
c ia tio n o f the va lu e o f t h ei crea tiv e imp u l e nd w h
'

r s a o
,

wis h to k no w the mu tu l plea s ure a nd enh ncement o f a a

s ex u nio n w ith o u t was ting i t t h is m et h o d s h o u l d no t

-

be pra c tis ed .

I t s h o u ld never be fo rg o tten th a t with o u t the dis

ci l ine o f c o n tro l t h e i s n o l a ting del igh t in ero tic
re s
p
feel ing T he fulles t del igh t ev en in a purely phy s 1c l
.
,
a

s en s e ca n o nly be a tta in e d by t h o s e w ho c urb a nd

,

di ec t t h eir n tura l impu l s e s

r a .

D r Sa leeby s words re a pp p ia te in t h is c o nne c

.
’
a ro r

t i n ( I ntro du c t io n to F el
o Se x ua l Et h ic s ”
9 )
I 08
or
’
s ,

Pr o fes s o r F ore l s pea k s o f s u b du ing the s exu l a

in tinc t I wo u ld ra t her s pea k f tra n mu tin g i t T he

s . o s .

direc t m e th o d o f a tta ck is o ft en fu til e a lw y s nece ,

a s

s it u s o f e ff ec t bu t it is o s s ibl e for u s t o tra ns mu t e

o
p ,

o u r s ex energy int o h igh er f rm s in o u r in div idu l

-
o a

l ives thu s j u s tif ying the evo lu tionary a nd phys io

,

l o gical co ntentio n th t it i s the s o urce f the h igher a o

a c t iv it ies o f m an o f mo ra l indig na tio n a nd o f t he

, ,

res t l s s e nergy
e wh ich ha s changed the s urface f o

the eart h
”
.

F o el s a y s r T he Se xu l Qi e s tio n 9 )
1 08 a ,

B efore engaging in a lif lo ng u ni n m an a nd e -

o ,
a

w man o ugh t to expl in to ea ch the t hei s exual feel

o a o r r

ing s s a s t a vo id dec eptio n nd inc mpa t ib il it y l te r

o o a o a

o n
”
. Th is w uld be a dmirable dvice were it p s s ible
o a o

for a vi g in g irl to k n w mu ch a b o u t the r c t i ns a nd

r o ea o

e ff ec t u o n her m ind nd b o dy o f the a c t o f c o itu s

p s a ,

bu t s he do es n t A c tu a lly i t o ften t k es s ev era l y ears

o . a

f r ea ger a nd intell igent c o u pl e fu lly to pro b e t hem

o s

s elve s nd to dis c o v er t he e x ten t nd m ea ning

a f the a o

immens ely pro fo u nd phy s io l o g ic l a nd s piritua l re a

s u l t s o f m arria g e "et it is true tha t a no ble frank

.

ne s s w u l d s a v e mu ch m is er
o
y wh en a s h ppens n t ,
a o
54 M a rri e d Lo v e
i nf1 e qu en t ly
h f th p i m r y with the
,
o ne or o t er o e a r a r

s c
e re t d t m in t i n t h v n ch il dren
e er a o o a e o .

S v i u
o ar ow ll indiv idu l
s a re c mpl x ll
e a as a s, s o o e a

th e reac ti n nd int cti n f

o s a l ti n t h t er a-

o s o s ex re a o s, a

n h d nd f t ul c n be l id d wn E ch c u ple
o ar a as r e a a o . a o ,

aft m er i g mu t tu dy t h m lv
a rr a e, n d the l v r
s s e se es , a o e

an d th b l v d m u t d
e e owh t b t v th m b th
e s o a es s er es e o

and g iv t h m t h h igh t deg

es e f mu tu l j y nd
e es r ee o a o a

p w o er Th. h wv m l w wh ich h u ld
ere a re, o e er, s o e a s s o

b inv i l bl
e Th i d t il c n b g th ed f m th
o a e . e r e a s a e a er ro e

p c d
re eing
p g nd t h ya u m m ed u
es ,
pain the e a re s

w ord L ve wo k th n ill t th b el ved

s : o r e o o e o .
56 Ma rrie d L o v e
ef e s h ing w ers nd m a ny m n f el t h t fter s uch
o a e e a a
r r
p ,

a s leep their who le s y tem s eems j uven t d s re a e .

B u t ho w f re w o m n in th i event ? Wh en t h e y
1

a e s

t o h ave h d c o mpl e te
o a tis f c t i n t h ey
a imilarly s a o s

re a l x nd s lumb e a r .

B ut s t h ing s re t d y it i s c rc ely a n e gger

a a o -
a s a xa a

t io n t s ay t h t the m j ority f w iv e
o a e l eft w k e fu l a o s ar a

a nd nerve ra ck ed t o wa tch w it h t nde

-
m th ly-

e r o er

b o o ding
r with b itter nd j e lou nvy th
,
or a a s e ,
e

s l umb er f the men who th o ugh igno nce nd

s o ,
r ra a

c eles s ne s h v n glected t s e th t they t h d

ar s , a e e o e a oo a

th nec es s ry e o l u tio n f ne v o u s t ens i n

e a r s o r o .

M ny m rri d w m n h ve t ld me th t ft r th y
a a e o e a o a a e e

h v had rel ti ns with t h ei h u b nd they r t

a e a o r s a s a re es

l s either for s o me h ours f the wh le nigh t ;

e s, or or o

a nd I feel s u e t h a t t he rev l ent f il u re o n t he t ar

p r
p a a

o f m ny men to e ff c t g as m f r t h ei wiv e t ch
a e or s o r s a ea

c ng es mu s t be a ve y co mmo n s urce o f the s l eep

o r s, r o

l s nes s nd nervou dis ea e f o many mar ied

.

es a s s s o s r

wo men .

T h rel a ti n b e tween t he c o mpl etio n o f the s ex

e o

nd s l ee
a ct a
p n w m n is well indic a ted in the c
i o a as e

o f M A w h i t ypic l f a l g cl
rs . .
, o f w iv e
s a o ar e as s o s .

She m i d m n w it h wh m h w s p
arr e a a n t l
y o s e a as s 1o a e

in l v o N ith he nor h hu b nd h d eve h d

e . e er s
“

er s a a r a

c nn cti n with ny n l
o e o nd wh il t h y w er
a o e e s e, a , e e e

b o th keen nd int lligent p ple w ith s o m k n w

a e eo e o

l edge f b iol gy n ith er k n w anyth ing f the d

o o , e e o e
t il s
a f h u m n ex u nio n F r ev
o a l ye h s . o s era a rs er

hu b nd h d u ni n with he wh ich g ve him s o m

s a a o s r a e
s a tis f c t io n a nd l eft him
a e dy t o nce to s l eep r a a .

Neith r h n s he k new t h t w men h u ld h v n

e e or a o s o a e a

or g m nd fte ev ry u ni n h w s l f t
as ,
a a r e o s e a e so

e dg e nd l l
a e s th a t nev e l es s th a n ev
s ee l h ou r
p s r s era s
 S l e ep 57
wo uld el ps e b ef r s he c uld leep a t ll nd oft n
a o e o s a ,
a e

s h r m ined w k efu l the wh o l nigh t

e e a a e .

After h hus b nd s death her he l th impro ved

er a
’
a

a nd in a year tw s he e nt e ed int or n w rel t io n

o r o a e a

with a m n who w s w e f wo men needs nd

a a a ar o
’
s a

ent uffi c ient t im

s nd a tt n tio n t o t h em t en u
e a e o s re
s
p
a s u cc ful c mpl etio n for he s w ll s for h m s el f
es s o r a e a i .

T he re ul t w s t h t he s o n b ec me g o d s l eeper
s a a s o a a o ,

with the tt nd nt b enefi t f es tored ne v s nd

a e a s o r r e a

h l th
ea .

Sl ep i e o c m l x
p s s
p c e o nd l p l es s n e a ro s s, a s ee es s

t he re u l t n t s f s m ny diff en t m l dj u s tment
a o o a er a a s,

t h t it i s
a f c ur e p , o ibl t h t th w m n m y
o s ,
os s e a e o a a

l p w ll n ugh v n if h be d p iv d f th
s ee e e o ,
e e s e e r e o e

re l ief nd ple u f p fec t u nion B u t in many

a as re o er . so

m rri d w men Sl ple s n

a e o nd n e n nt ee s es s a a co s e

nerv u oc nditi n
s oc u pl d w ith l ck o the
o a re o e a a

c mpl te ex el ti n th t ne f the fi t qu e ti n
o e s r a o , a o o rs s o s a

p hy s ic i n s h uld a
p u t t t h o f h i w m e n
p a tien t o o se o s o s

wh o ar e worn nd l l e i Wh
a t h h e h u s b nd
s ee ss s : e er a
p r

r ea lly fulfil hi m i t l du t y n t h ei phy ic l el ti n

s s ar a 1 r s a r a o .

F om th i publi h ed t tem nts nd t hei admi

r e r s s a e ,
a r s

si n o ts m it pp
o t h t m ny p c t i ing d c t
e, a e a rs a a ra s o ors

ar e e ith l m t u n w e f t h v y x i t en c f
er a os a ar o e er e s e o

or g s m in w m en
a lo k up n it s upe fl u u
o ,
or o o a a s r o s
a nd a cc id nt l
ph n m en n "
e a et t hv hd e o o . o a e a a

m der t nu m b
o a e f g m t me time a t l t
er o or as s a so ea s
i s a nec e it y f th fu ll d v l pment f a w m n s
ss or e e e o o o a
’

h l th nd all he p we s
ea a r o r .

A s t h i b k i w i t ten f
s oo th s e w h s m ri d
r or o o a re ar e ,

I s y n thing h e b ut th l iv f th who
a o er a o e es o ose a re
s t ill unm i d t h ugh p tic ul ly fte the g
arr e , o f , ar ar a r a e o
t h i ty h
r b n ch d they m y be v ry difficu l t
as ee rea e , a e
a nd need mu ch tu dy nd c n ide t i n I t i s h w a o s ra o . s, o ~
58 Ma rri ed L o v e
e ve w th n tic ing h w prev l ent Sleepl ne i
r, or o o a es s ss s

a m ng o cl s s f w m n wh h v n ve had
a a o o e o a e e r

a n
y n m l e
or l if e ll
a w eds xn
y
-
r l ief t t h or a o a e o e 1r

d i es res Th e e i littl d ub t t h t t h c mpl ete l ck

. r s e o a e o a

o f n m l a or el t i n i a ne f t he v
s ex r l f ct
a o s o o se era a o rs

w h ich n de m ny m iddl
re ged u nm r i d wo men
r a e a -
a r e

n v u
er ond l s al s ee es s
p .

"t f th u nm i d w m n th l ck i n t s o
e or e a rr e o a e a s o

a cu t n r o l c l i d it i f t h m i d w m n
e o s o a se as s or e arr e o a

w h i t hw t d in t h n tu l c m pl ti n f h
o s ar e e a ra o e o o er s ex

fu nc ti ns ft t h y h v b een di c tly timu l t ed

o a er e a e re s a .

Th u nm e i d w m n u nl e s h be in l v e w ith
a rr e o a ,
ss e o

s me rtic u l m n h n d e fi n it t im ul u t h r o e
o
p a ar a , as o e s s

s ex d si b y nd th n tu l upwelling f the cr
e res e o e a ra o ea

t iv f ce Th m
or e i d w m n h wev
. e i n t nly
a rr e o a ,
o e r, s o o

diff u ly ti red by th pr nc
se s r f th m n h l o v e e es e e o e a s e s,

bu t i l cu tely l c lly nd phy ic lly timul t d

s a so a o a a s a s a e

by hi el t i n with her A nd if he i th n l eft in

s r a o . s s e

m id i w it h u t n tu l
-
a r, li f t h r t n i n h i
o a ra re e o e e s o ,
s e s

in t h i e
p cst f r wr s ff t h n th u nm r ied
e a o rs e o a e a r

w mno a .

Wh n wif i l ft l pl th u gh t h negl c t
e a e s e s ee es s ro e e

o f t he m t w h li mb a e h l thily by h id it i
o s a ers ea er s e, s

ri ing i f h end h l ng h u v w
‘
n t u
o
p s r
p s t s e i
e s s e o o rs r e

ing th i m u t u l p it i n ; nd th
e r a vi w c nn t yi ld
os o a e re e a o e

h m u ch pl
er u t i f c ti n F
ea s d p iv d f th
re o r s a s a o . or e r e o e

p hy ic al
s d l igh t f m u tu l e
g m ( th u gh pe h p
o a or as o ,
r a s,

l ik e so m ny w iv qu it unc n ci u f ll it n
a es, e o s o s o a ca

giv ) h e , s in t h e s ee s ct n ng em n t wh e s ex a a a rr a e ere

pl u e r l ie f nd u b quent le p e ll n h “

ea s r , e a s se s e ar a o er
,

hu b nd id wh il s h i m ely th p iv in t u
s a
’
s s e, e e s er e as s e s r
m ent f hi nj y m n t N y m
o s e th n th t
o if f l
e . a , ore a a o

l wing v y u ni n he h l ng h u f w k fuln
o e er o s as o o rs o a e es s ,
sh th n e cl ly th nc ch m nt n he wn “

e e s es ear e e ro a e o r o
 S l e ep 59
he l th in n rrangement in wh ich he i n t m ly
a a a s s o ere

p s v
as 1 b ut i
e, c t iv ly b u s d a e a se .

An t h f the c n qu nc f t h nc mplet
_

o er o o se e es o e 1 o e re

l ti n i th t ften t i d t p int f w k fuln

a o s a o ,
s rre o a o o a e es s

nd v iv c ity by t he p l imin y
a t im u l a t i n ( f
re ar s ex s o o
-

t h full m e ning f wh ich s h m y b u nc n c i u )

e a o e a e o s o s ,
a

ro m nt ic nd th u ghtful w m n i t h n m t bl t
a a o o a s e os a e o

lk ly ly — t he t h ing
_

t a i n t i m t n d t
a en de ta p k f e r o s _
ea o s

m st n o nd
ea r a c d t h h t A nd h m y t h n
s a re o er ear . s e a e

b t e ibly w u nd d by t h in tt nt i n f h
err o e hu e a e o o er s

b nd which c m ing o n ft r hi d nt d m n
a , ,
o so s o a e s ar e e o

s tr ti na o f ff c t i n pp
s o a p
e ec u lio ly c ll
,
u a I t e a rs ar a o s .

m k him ppe h be indiff en t t the

’

a es t a t ar o er o er o

h igh t id f m i g —the pi itu l nd m nti

es s e o arr a e s r a a ro a c

i nt c u er o Thu h m y e in the m n g ing ff

rs e . s s e a se
“
a o o

t l
o s ee i n t h m d t f h el v —t lk
1 s g o nd in t er o e a a ro s s a a
p ,

t n t iv e b u t — nd ll b c u
e r e a h h n v a h d e a se s e as e er s are

t h cl im x f hi phy ic l t n i n
e a o s nd d n t kn w
s a e s o ,
a oes o o

t h t it n t u l
a s cti n i l p
a ra r ea o s s ee .

Th t h u gh t
es e o d p ing v n t
s a re th so e re s s e e o e

t nd
e t nd m
ere s t l vi ng w m n
a os nd b itt t n
o o a , a so er o o e

wh h o th
as o c u s f c m pl int th t in t h i tu n
er a es o o a , a e r r

t h y ct n t h wh l
e a o y t m nd inc
e o e s th d m g s e a r ea s e e a a e

d n by t he m
o e Sl pl ne ere ee es s ss .

Th ld ch l f phy i l gi t d l t in m t h d
e o er s oo o s o o s s ea e o s

t oo c ud t r li th phy i l gic l u lt f u
e o rea se e s o o a r es s o o r

t h u gh t
o bu t it i n w w ll k n wn th t ng
s, s o nd e o a a er a

b it t n h v xp im nt lly c gni bl phy i

er es s a e e er e a re o sa e s o

l gic l ff c t nd inj u i u t th wh l y tem

o a e e s, a a re r o s o e o e s s .

It qui l ittl m gin ti n t s t h t ft

re res e 1 a a o o ee a a er

m nt h o y s or f u ch m b it t
e a rs o d S l pl s n th e ere ee es s es s , e

w m n t nd n t nly t b ec m n u th enic bu t
o a e s o o o o e e ra s

l e ntful t w d h hu b nd Sh i pr b bly
a so r se o ar s er s a . e s o a

t oo ig n ra nt and u nob s v nt f he wn phy io l g y

o er a o r o s o
 60 Ma rri e d L o v e
t e l is e the full me ning
o r a f wh t is t king pl c a o a . a a e,

but s he feel s v g u ely th t he is to bl m a nd th t he a a e, a a s

i b ein
s a crific ed f wh t in her till g t ignor
s or a ,
s rea er

a nc his phy i l o gy s eem s t her t be hi mere

e 0 s o ,
o o s

p l e u re
as nd el f indulg enc e
a s -
.

H e w it h his h e l th m int ined by th n tur l o u t

,
a a a e a a

let fo ll o w ed by ecu pera tiv l eep i s n t l ik ely t b r e s , o o e

e dy t l o k into the gl m y nd s h d wy l nd f ‘

r a o o oo a a o a o

v gu rep o ch nd inexpl ic bl trivi l w ngs which

a e r a a a e a ro

ar e a ll t he ex p e i n h g iv es t he u nf mul t d
r ss o s e o r or a e

p hy ic l gs iev nc e
a S h re i l ik ely t
a t d w n ny
. o s o se o a

r es nt ment he ma y h w t
e s nerv e c pti u s
s o o s or a o

n es s nd t be fir t s o l ic it u
a o nd t h en im a t ient
p s o s, a .

t w d her pp
o ar s nt ly i lev nt c mpl ints
a are rre a o a .

I f he i m ny m en s , as t end nd c ns id
a t a re , er a o era e ,

he may try t emedy m t t er by t t ng t th

o r a s res r1c 1 o e

e x t em e l im it
r f wh t is a b l u t ly nece s o y f him a so e s ar or ,

th nu mb e
e f t ime s th ey c om e t ge th
r o U nc n o er . o

s cio u s l
y h t h u s nly m k e m tt w s ;f r
o a es a er s or e o as a

gener l ul h i quit un w e f hi wif rhyth m

a r e, e s e a ar o s e s
’
,

a nd d e no t a o ng e t
s c inc ide with it in hi inf
rra o o s re

qu nt t nde embrace A he i n w p o b bly leep

e e r s . s s o r a s

ing in n th a m nd no t d ing t c me f the

o er ro o a ar o o or

nigh t ly t lk s a nd tendern a which are s we t es s so e a

priv il g e f m e i g h ere
o in o th w y hi w ll
arr a e, ,
as er a s, s e

m e ning bu t wr ngly c nc ived ff ts t e t int

a o -
o e e or a r s ra

o nly t nd to driv e the

e i t ill fu rth e rt
p p a r s r a a .

T m k e pl in th r
o a n bl en a f my v iew e e ea s o a es s o r

garding leep it is n ces ary to m nti n me o f the

s , e s e o so

immen ely p o f u nd infl uenc e wh ich it i n w k n wn

s r o s s o o
t h t s ex e xert ev en wh e n n t s timul ted to i t s s ec ific
a s, o a
p
us e .

h
I n t o s e who a re depri ed o f t e ir s ex or a ns , ar
p v h -
g
t icu larly en
y o u n , ma n wh
o f the o t er fea tures a nd g y h
 S l eep 61
or g n f th b ody d vel p b no mally o f il to
a s o e e o a r r a

a
pp
C
ea r st t d b y s ( eu nu ch s ) w h en g o wn u p
. a ra e o r ,

t nd to h ve l i tt le or n b
e a d r m ou s t ch to h ave o ea r ,
o a e,

h igh pitched v ice nd eve l ther ch rac ters which

-
o s a s ra o a

se
p t t h
a ra eem fr o m n rm l m en o a .

T he gr w th f rg an nd
o truc tu res s o remo t o o s a s e

f m the s ex o ga n a e g the la ny x h av e b een

ro
-
r s, s, . .
,
r ,

f u nd to be infl u enc ed by th ch em ic l s t imu lu s o f e a

-

s ec ti ns f m t he s ex rg n
re o nd t h i
ro u b idia ry o a s a e r s s
-

gl nd Th e e ec eti ns are n t p s s ed u t thr ugh

a s . s s r o o a o o

x te n l duc ts bu t enter t he bl d s ys tem dir ctly

'

e r a oo e .

Su ch ecre ti ns pa s s ing tr igh t f o m the du c tl es

s o s a r s

gl nds into the v s cular s ys t m re f very gre t im

a a e a o a

r t nc in l m o s t a ll o u r b dily func ti ns
e a Th ey o o
p o a .

h ve recently b een mu ch s tudi d nd the gener l

a e , a a

n m o f H rm o n s g iv en to t h em by St rl ing
ale
a e o T he e a .

t h t o me p rticu l r ec e tio ns humours

“
id ea a s r a a s r o

ar e c nne c t ed w it h e ch o f t he int ern l o rg ns o f the

o a a a

b dy i a ve y anc ient o ne ;bu t w e have even y t nly

o , s r e o

t he v gu e t nd m a t el men t y k n wl edge f a few

s a os e ar o o

o f th m ny mi acl e perf rmed by th es e s u b tl e

e a r s o

chem ic l u b s t nce Thu w k n w th t the s timu

a s a s . s e o a

lu f fo d in th to m ch nd
s o o ch mic l ub s tance e s a se s a e a s

f m o n du c tl e
ro gl nd in the dige tive ys t m
e ss a s s e

ch ing th ou gh th bl d t n the gl nd which

as r e oo o a o r a

p p re sa re diff ent dig tiv a c ti n furth er n er es e s e re o o .

W e k n w th t th thy id gl nd in the neck s well s

o a e ro a

a nd c o ntr c ts in v ery en i t iv
a rel t i n w it h the s ex s s e a o

or gans ;we k n w tha t s m chemic l s ec tio n f o m o o e a re r

th e dev el o ping emby r the tis s u e in wh ich it ro , o

g w s end its chemical timu lu to the dis t nt

ro s, s s s a

See Pro f . En r es t H . l
St a r ing s Croo nia n Le
’
c t ure t o t he
Ro val So iet y ,
'

c 1 90 5 .
62 Ma rri ed Lo ve
ma mma ry gl nd
a s o f the m o th er ;w e k no w tha t if the
o v a rie s o f gi l r o r t he te s t es o f a bo y a re c o m pl e t ely
”

cu t o u t , the f a r rea ch ing i nfl u enc e s t h eir h o rm o ne s

-

wou ld have exerted are m a de evident by the nu merous

cha nges in the s ys tem a nd departures fro m the norma l,
w h ich r es u l t fr o m t h eir la ck .

B u t w e do no t k no w, fo r phy s io lo g is ts h av e no t y e t
s tu die d t he deg ree a nd ch a ra c t er o f the imm ens e

s t im u l u s o f s ex l ife a nd e xperienc e o n the gl a nds o f

-

t he s ex o rga n s , or ho w th ey a ff ec t the wh o l e o f the

-

hu m a n b eing s life a nd po wers

’
.

T he M e ndel ia ns a nd t he M u ta tio nis ts , w ho ”

b o th t end to lay s o m uch (and I t hink s uch undue)

s tres s o n m o r h o l o g ic a l h ere dita ry fa c to r s , s eem a t
p
res ent to h a v e t he e a r o f t he u bl ic m ore t h a n t he
p p
-

p hy s io l o g is ts
. B u t it i s m o s t i m o rta nt th a t ev ery
p
gro wn u p ma n a nd wo ma n s h o uld kno w tha t thro ugh
t he v a rio u s ch emic a l s u b s ta nc es o r m es s e ng ers
( wh ic h S ta rl ing ca ll e d t he h o rmo nes
) t h ere i s a n ex

trem el y r apid, a l m o s t im m edia te , e ff e c t o n the a ct iv i

t ies o f o rga ns in r em o te par t s o f the b o dy, due t o t he
infl uenc es e x er t ed o n o ne o r o th er interna l o rg a n
I t i s t h erefo re cl ear t h a t a ny infl u ence s exer ted o n
s u ch ro fo u n dl y i m o rta nt o rg a ns a s t h o s e c o nne c t e d
p p
w it h s ex mu s t h av e fa r rea ch ing re s u l t s in ma ny
“

u n e x pec t ed fi el ds .

What mu s t be tak ing pla ce in the female s ys tem

a s a r e s u l t o f t he c o ml
p eted s ex a ct ?
I t is tru e t h a t in c o itus wo ma n has bu t a s l igh t
e x t erna l s e cre tio n, a nd t h a t r inc i a lly o f m u cu s But
p p .

w e h a v e no ex terna l s ign s o f all the c o mpl ex pro ce s s es

a nd rea c t io ns g o in o n in di es t io n a nd during t he
g g
ro du c t io n o f dig es tiv e s ecre t io ns Wh en, a s is the
p .

cas e in orgas m, we have s uch intens e and apparent

64 Ma rri e d L o v e
T he Engl i h nd A m ic n p pl s w h l d t he
a er a eo es , o ea

w l d in
or m ny w y soh v n l m t u np ca a s, a e a a os re e

d nt dly h igh p p t i n f m ied w m en wh g t

e e ro or o o a rr o o e

n o ti f c t i n f m phy ic l u ni n w it h t h ei hu
sa s a o ro s a o r s~

b nd th ugh th y b ch ild n nd m y in v y
a s, o e ea r re ,
a a e er

o th c
er re s
p t pp t b
e h ppily m
a i ed ear o e a arr .

T h m d n c iv il i d n u t ic w m n h b ec m
e o er se e ro o a as o e a

by w d in t h W tern w l d
-
or Why ? e es or .

I m c t in t h t mu ch f t hi s u ff e ing i c u ed
a er a a o s r s a s

by t h ign r n e f b th m n nd w m n eg ding
o a ce o o e a o e r ar

n t o nly t h inn
o h
p y i l gye b ut v en t h er bv i u s o o ,
e e o o s

ut w d x i n f t h c m l t e — t e e s x ac
o ar
p e p
re s s o ,
o e o .

M ny m dic l m en n w c gni t h t nu m u
a e a o re o se a er o s

n v u nd th r di
er o s a o ci ted with t h l ck
e s ea s es a r e a s s o a e a

o f phy i l g ic l s o o lief f n tu l a t im u l t ed s ex
re or a ra or s a

f l ing in w men
ee s
"
Ell i qu te t h pini n f n
o . s o s e o o o a

Au t i n gyn c l gi t wh
s r a id t h te o o f v ery s o sa a ,
o e

h u nd d w m n w h c me t him w ith u t ine

re o e o o o er

m c ng ti n f the w mb
,

u bl v n ty u ff e f
'

tro es , s e e s r ro o es o o o

which h g d d e du e t inc mpl t c itu

re ar e as o o e e o s .

Wh il w ite in r c nt nu mb e f the B i tis h

e a r r a e e r o r

M di l J u n l ] pu bl i h d
e ca o m cr a in wh ich
L
s e so e a s es

q u it e r i u n e v u d i
se o sin w ive we r
pu t
o s s eas es s re

r igh t wh n t he i h u b nd w e c u d f t
e i r s a s re re o oo

h ty j cu l tio n
as e a a .

Sl eep c nc ning wh ich I b eg n thi ch pte

, o er i a s a r, s

bu t n f innu m e bl indic t i ns f inne p c e

o e o ra e a o o r ro es s s

int im t ly b u nd u p with th
a e o c ti n W h n e s ex re a -
o s . e

th e s ex —ri t i in v ry e n igh tly pe f rmed th

s, e e se s e, r r o
,
e

h ling wing f l ep d cend b th n th m n nd

ea s o s e es o o e a a

o n t he w m n in hi o m s Ev y g n in th ir b die
a s ar . er or a e o s

H Ell i
. s . Sex i n R e a t io n l to c
So ie ty , 1 9 1 0 , p 55I .

l
.

j Se e Po ro sz , B ri tis h M edi cal j o urna l A ri 8

"'
1, 1 1 1, p
p ,
9 .
7 4 .
 S l e ep 65

i infl uenc ed nd timu l ted t pl y it p t wh il

s a s a o a s ar , e

th i e rp i it
s ft r oaring in the dizzy h igh t
r s, a e s f e s o

ra
pt ur e, w ft ed t
a re bl
a iv i n t h nc t
o r tu n
o o , e e o e r

gently t the o rdin ry pl in f daily co ns ci u s n

o a a s o o es s .
 C h a p te r VI I .

M o de s t y a nd R o ma nc e
A p h f
ers o n m
ca n p mi t l v ere o re no o re ro se to o e or no t to

lv h h
o e t p mi
an l iv l g W h h
e ca n ro p mi i
se t o e on at e c an ro se s

E E "E"
.

k g d f hi l i f d f hi l v
,

to ta e oo c are o s e an o s o e. -
LL N .

R T I ST S cl e ly a nd
p et i n v eil ed ar ,
o s

l ngu g hav in ll ages expr s d th

a a e
,
e a ,
es e e

gl y f th n k ed hu m n body B efo e th
or o e a a
‘

. r e

V nu s f M il in he P is h m ev n the em pty
e o o r ar o e, e

h d d nd idicul u ly d
ea e a d c e ture
r f f s hi n
o s -
res s e r a s o a o

t nd f
s a m m ent w it h c tch in th t h t nd
or a o a a e ro a a a

sen s th t h
e i am eth ing full f div ine s ec e t
ere s so o r s .

O n d y wh en I w s do ing my r v e enc e b f r t h i
e a ,
a e r e o e s

a nc i nt g dde
e drink ing in t eng th nd h ppine
o s s, s r a a ss

f m th h rm nie
ro e f he c u ve
a r
p p o t e u s ly
s o r r s, a e os ro

c r e tt d d ll c m u t th s t tu e u ed nd id s a sa
o s e
p o
p a e o e a ,
a ,

with te in he v ic e t the m n b e ide he

ars r o o a s r

H s n t he g t the l ov li s t figure "

a
’
s -
o e e

I f c o l d m rbl e s ti s u h w mu ch m
a t he
so r s, o ore

w m t h nd vit lity f living b e u ty "A ny well

ar a a o a

f med y u ng m n
or w m n i imm u bly m
o a or o a s eas ra ore

g c ful wh en f ee f m the clinging follies f m de n

ra e r ro o o r

d wh ile b e u tiful w m n s b o dy has s up rn l

res s , a a o a
’
a e a

lo veline t wh ich n w rds s h rt o f po tic r ptu e

ss a o o o a e a r

c n e v n h in t
a e O u r ce h l ng negl c ted t h
. r a as s o o e e

cul tu e f h um n b e u ty tha t ad p p rti n f

r o a a a s ro o o o

m tu e m en nd w men re un t t c tive ;bu t mo t

a r a o a a ra s

y ung pe ple h v the element f b eauty and t

o o a e s o ,
o

t h em ch iefly t h i b k is add e s ed s oo r s .

A y ung m n wo m n perfec tly n ked c nn t be

o a or a a a o

t wd y
a T h f ippe ie the j gg ed cu rve
r . e r nd in r s, a s a

h rmo ni us lines nd c l ou f the o called a d rn

a o a o rs o s -
o

m nt s e e u rm o u nte d ar nd the n k d fi u e s t
s a a e r
g p , e

i ng f m t h eir s c a t ter d pil e i s s een in it u tte

ro im e s r s
p
 M o de s ty a nd R o ma n c e
p l i i
c ty H w ch .m ing ev n t h r gg ed
o t l ittl ar e e a es e

t
s re e t u ch in b c m wh n t h y l e v t h
r s g n e o e e e a e e 1r ra s o

th b n k nd plu ng int the w t

e a a " e o a er

I t i th e f s n t u
p i ing t h t
er n f t he n
o re o s r r s a o e o 1

nu m bl w et impul
era f l v h u ld b t
e s v l
e s es o o e s o e o re ea ,

ea ch t ch this t e u e f l iving b e u ty T o give

o ea ,
r as r o a .

ea ch th e th igh t t ent nd nj y th igh t wh ich

o r e r o er a e o e s

m t f ll igh t in the w l d d w nd tis fi e s th

os o a s s or ra s a sa e

ti t e ye
’
ar s s s .

Th is impu l h wev i n th p rt f the s e, o er, s, o e a o

w m n s w y d by tw t l t f th n tu l u lt
'

o a , a e o a ea s o e a ra re s s

o f h r hy th mic tid
e Fo r
r m e tim du ing ch es . so e r ea

m n th l ng t dit i n t h t h i u ncl e n
“

o e o ra s
g a o a s e a
-

, ,

c upl ed with he bvi u qu ir m nt h v m de

o r o o s re e e s, a e a

h r w i thd w he
e l f f m v en h ra h u b nd g z rs e ro e er s a
’
s a e .

B ut n t he oth
, o h nd the gu l ly c m e tim er a , re re ar o es

wh n he b dy i i ed t h igh p in t f l v l in
e r o s ra s o a er o o o e es s

t h n u u l by th
a s u ndin g nd x tr full ne
a f th e ro a e a ss o e

b t (Th i i on f the gul phy i l gic l r

rea s s . s s e o re ar s o o a e
s ult f the hy t h mic p c
s o g ing n with in h r )
r ro es s es o o e .

P tly
ar wh lly u nc n ci u f th b illi nc nd
or o o s o s o e r a e a
full pe f c ti n f he b e u ty h y t d l igh t in it
r e o o r a ,
s e e e s s

g ntl p mpting t ve l it s lf t h l v r ye
e e ro s o re a e o er o e
’
s e s

wh n h de I his inn c nt t h i g dde l ik e l f

e a ore s .
‘

o e , s o ss -
se

c nfi d nce etr t when th n tu al ebb f he vit lity

o e r ea s e a r o r a
re tu rns .

H o w fo r tuna t e for m an we t ch nge wh en h

t es e s e a s
in hi l v e e n t c oe c ed int
s o u nif mity "For
r ar o r o or
m n ha till
a mu ch f the nc ient h u nt
s
“

s in hi so o a er s

bl d th t b u ty wh ich i lw y t h nd nd ev
_

oo a ea s a a s a a a er
u
p n i ts
o
p de t l mu t inevi t bly t t c t him f l
e s a s a a ra ar es s
th n th a lu iv nd ch ng ing ch m f hythmic
e e s e a a ar s o r

l if I n th h ighly v lv d nd cul tiv t d wom n

e . e -
e o e a a e a ,
wh h o w i d m en ugh n t t e tric t but to give
as s o o o o r s ,
68 Ma rri e d L o v e
fu ll pl y t th g a t rhy t h ms
o f her b ing m n
e re a o e ,
a
’
s

p l yg m u in t inc t c n b
o a o s t i fi ed nd ch m ed by
s a e sa s a ar

th v ch nging p c t f h e lf wh ich n tu lly

e e er -
a as e s o rs e a ra

c m upp m t A nd o ne f he n tu l ph s es
o e er os . o r a ra a 13

a t t im t e tre t t
es xpe ience p fo und s ex in
o r a ,
o e r a ro

diff nc e nd i n t ly t n t n nc ch
er e
p , a
y as s o a e o res e a e ro a

m nt n he
e olitude r so .

Th i m et h ing w m n t o ften f g e ts
s 13 s o Sh o a o o or . e

h b n s th
as ee u ghly d me tic ted by m n t h t
o oro o s a a a

s h f l t
e ee s dily th t ft m
o o r ea i ge s h ll hi a a er arr a e 13 a s .

A nd by h v y d c il ity t h p rpetu l dem nd

er er o o is e a a s,

s h d t y fo r him the el t i n the palpit ting th rill

e es ro s a o , a s

a nd u pri s s f t h ch s e
r se , o e a .

I n th th t iv i l t e m
e ra f ur s rdid m d rn
er r a r s o o o o e

l if it w k u t in m ny m i g
e, or s o m wh t a a rr a es so e a as

f ll Ws Th m
o o i d p
: h e b d m nd
e a rr e ai r s ar a e ro o , a so

it c m o b u t t h t t h tw
es a t th n t a nly t o a re o
o
g e o e er o a

t he t im e f del igh t nd int es t n a ch th e bu t

s o a er i e o r,

du ing m t f th u nl v ly nd ev n ridicu l u pr
r os o e o e a e o s o

c ding
ee f t he t il ts o N w it m y nch nt o m n
e o a e a a a

n g i n t e v l s —t o
.

nc — h v e n tw ic e—
er t l
o
p e
p a s e or a o r a

w tch hi g dde c ew her h i up nt tigh t nd

a s o ss s r a r i o a a

u nb c min g kn t
e o nd h e B out t a n s oa r e a rs i is
p . i

he n tly t
re u nl v ely p ooc d ing t r t in ind fi ni t
o a ro ee o e a e e

e nch ntm ent a T s e b u tifu l w m n fl ting in o e a ea o a oa

w t f he b th—th t m y nch nt
.

t he d ep cl e e , ar a er o r a a a e a

f or ve f it i
e r, lo v ly but the u nb e u tiful
or s so e ,
a

t ivi l it ie nt i l t the d il t il e t tend nly t o

r a s
y
es s e a o a o o

blu the pic tu e nd t dull the nte es t nd a ttenti n

r r a o i r a o

t h t s h ou l d b b e t wd n t h b dy f the l v d n
a e s o e o e o o o e o e .

H nce u l tim t ely ve yd y

e ,
c i i n in t h
a , e r a as so at o e

c o mm npl ce d ily nece itie tend t educe th

o a a ss s s o r e

k en pl e s u e e ch t k s in t h the A nd h enc
e a r a a e e o r . e,

inev itably a nd t ag ic lly t h u gh te l th ily nd n u r a ,

o s a a
 69
M o de s ty and R o ma n c e
erc eive d t d u c e the k e ennes s of s timu l a t o n t he
‘

i
p ,
o re

i r e x ert o n ea ch t h er nd t h u s t l o w r t he r n
o a o e 1 1
p a ,

t en i ty o f the c n s umm t io n o f t he s ex ct a nd h e nc
s o a a ,
e

t o l o w e it phy i l g ic a l v a l u
ale
r s s o o e .

I n s h o t the v e c m ing f he p rs n l m o des ty

“

r o r o o r e o a ,
,

wh ich is gene ally l o k ed n a s a n enti l re s u l t in

r o o es s a

m r i g e wh e e the wo ma n b e c o m es wh olly the m n

’
a r a r a s,

h s g ene t ed a m ng o u r wo m en
a ra tra dit i n t h t
o a o a

b ef e th ir hu s b a nd they c n p f rm ny a nd ll
or e s a er o a a

o f t he de t il o f ers n l nd d m es t ic du t i s C o o a a o e r
p a s
,

r s e
p ndin l o
gy t h ey ll o w t he m n t o be negl c t ful
,
a f a e o

es e v ing m e re t ic e n c e b ef e t h em Th i s m u tu l or a
p r r so .

s es i n
o s f t h
s o e l o w er o nd m re el e m nt ry e xperi a o e a
p
'
.

e nces f l if h b een n nnu m er ble m rriag s a

o e as ,
i 1 a a e ,

f ct
a in de tro ying t he m u tu l po s e i n f l ife s
or s a s ss o o
’

h igh nd m re p etic ch ms
er a o o ar .

A nd wo ma n b e u t y w n e t o o f t en m o e
’
s a a s o r

A q i f m T h m (p
uo t a t o n f W i ll i m T h m
ro b k o as . I 12 o a o as
’
oo

d S ci y h v h h
”
S ex a n
9 7 o Pp 3et
4) i , y p 1 0
g h , . 1 s ere er a t, t ou e

h d ba
p k i
ee n s
g f m
ea b nf h l v pl y not o d c y an, ut o t e o e a an o n e ss

s h w by f m l bi d d im l
o n e a e r s an an a s .

W m e l c g i h f c h p d iv l if m
us t a so re o n se t e a t t a t re ro uc t e e us t

b c e c d w i h vi l
o nn e t e im l i t i w ld b gl c d
o en t s t u a t on , o r t ou e ne e te

an d h tp ci e w s ld b c m x i c ; d h h h d
e es ou e o e e t n t an on t e ot er an

if h c q f h f m l w x l li f w ld b
,

t e on ue s t o t e e a e ere t o o e a s
y se ua e ou e

f b c m i g pl y i c iv
,

i d g
n an er o e o d di ip i n d a a n t er es t a n a ss a t o n, e s tru t e

o f e n er
gy d f l h p ci W k i g w m y m by
an a ta to t e s e es . or n , e a a ss u e,

a
p c ro f es sl ci o d viv l
s e e t o n an h b h c d d s ur a , n a t ure as ot s e ure an

fg dd p d ci
sa e ua r e reT h f m l w i ll
ro u t on b mi . e e a e not su t to
i
s e z ure xc p i h igh
e e t f n v xci i ( i
a s ta te o n e r o us e ta t o n as s s ee n

es
p i ll y w ll i
ec a h w i g f b i d ) w h il
e n t h m l m
e oo n o r s , e t e a e us t
c d c h im l f i ch w y
on u t se m ip ln su h f m l ad a as to an u a te t e e a e ;a n

c iv g h d v l p m v ll di p l y f
,

as h mt e ore a t e a en t , e e e o s a ar e o us s a o
te ch iq f hi p p
n ue or T hi i
t ff by h c y
s ur o se d . s s o s et t e o n e ss an

c q y f h f m l by which h q ll y
o ue t r o t e e c d f ci
a e, s e e ua a t t ra ts a n as
n a t es th m l e dp c i a e, a n
p him i d c c p di g
ra t s es u o n to n u e a o rre s on n
s ta t e of v xci i n er o us e ta t o n .
”
70 Ma rr i e d L o v e
th ugh n gl c t t h n t h
ro e u h
g eg T h m n wi t h
a ro a e . e a ,

the di nt pic tu e f hi b ide blur d by th d ly

ra a r o s r re e a1

l e l v ly p ct m y c
ss o e as to emind he by c t s f
s, a ea s e re r a o

c ur t h ip th t h b dy i p eci u B u t m ny m n
o s a er o s r o s . a e

by wh m e ch p ct o f t hei wive is n ted

o a as e f t en r s o ,
a re o

h u t by w m n tupidity
r o negl ec t o f h
a
’
s s lf
s or er e .

W m en l th i g ace f m ti n by relying n ti
o os e e r r o o o o ar

fi i l b ne nd t iff ning v e me nt
'

nd cl h i m
'

g t s, a o e r o s
'

c a o s a s e

with h vy nd b u dly f hi ned garm ent Th y

ea a a s r as o s . e

f g t h w imme u r bly t h ey c n c ntro l n t o nly

or e o as a a o o

t h i cl th d ppe
e r o nc e bu t t he v e y
e a t u c tu
a ra f r s r re o

t h i b di
e r by the th ings th y t nd d by th ve y
o es e ea a o, e r

t h u gh t t h y t h ink
o s e .

A w i m n nc s id th t w m n de erved n
se a o e a a a o a s o

c dit f r h b u ty t s ix t en bu t b e uty t s ix ty
re o er ea a e ,
a a

w he w n ul d ing I w ul d t h t all t h w l d
’
as r o so s o . o a e or

so t h i s ted for b
r u t y t h t w m o u l d d th wh l e
ea ce a e e e o ra

in t l v ly f rm th G ek c e t d
o as o e o s as e re s r a e .

I n th i s ec t I
p sm i
re ncl in d t t h in k th t m n a e o a a

s u ff m
ers th n w m n o re F r m n i till e
a nt i lly
o a . o a s s sse a

t he h u nt th ne w her , xp ience th d i s and

e o o e er s e es re

t h ill
r f th ch
s o nd d em v f c ming un
a s e, a rea s e er o o

a w e s u p n D i n in the w dl nd
ar o a O n th a the oo a s . e o r

h nd the m ied w m n h ving nce yi ld d ll

a , arr o a ,
a o e e a ,

t end t m in p
s o re iv ly in the m n s c o mp ni ns h ip
a as s e a
’
a o

Th ugh it m y ppe r t ivi l b e id th pr f und

o a a a r a s e e o o

phy io l g ic l f c t
s o c n id ed in ec nt ch pte s
a a o rs o s er r e a r ,

I th ink t h t in th inte ts f h u b nd an imp rt nt

a , e re s o s a s, o a

p i c
e e f dv i c eo t o w ivaes i B e lw y e c ing s : a s

So fi
a -
s a .

E c pe th l o w r the trivi l th
s a e rdid
e , a , e so . ar a s

p oss ibl e ( nd t h i i f m re p s ibl e t h n pp

a s s s t
ar o o s a a e ar a

fi t and qui
rs , nly a l i t tl e c re
re nd e
re s a ng e
o a a r arr

m ent in t he h b it f the h u h l d) en u e th t y o u
a s o o se o s r a

a ll w y o ur hu b and t c m upon y u o nly wh en

o s o o e o
 Chapter VI II .

A bs t i n en c e
Ho w int o i a t ing indeed, ho w p ene t ra t ing— ike a mo s t
xc l
c
re io us i ne—is t a t
h l v wh h
w x l f
ic is the s e ua t ra n s o rmed by
p o e

t he m a gi cll
o f t he w i l l
i nt o t he e mo t io na a nd s piri t ua " A n d
wh l at a o s s o n t he m ere s t c c
gro unds o f prude n e a nd t he e o no my
of l b l l h c l ch l
p ea s ure is i t s un rid e d w a s t e a o n g p y s i a a n ne s " 8 0

h ch
n o t i n g is s o m u b
t o be drea de d e t w e en o ers a s us t t is —t he
lv j h
vl lv h ck
u ga ris a t io n o f o e— a n d t is is t he ro h ch
upo n w i m arria ge
f
s o o t en S l i t s —E R R E ER
DW A D C A P N T
p . .

ND b ec u e m r i g s ft n plit up n th ia s a r a e o o e s s o s

ck b c u e m n nd w m n h v in ll
ro ,
or e a s e a o e a e a

g e y rned f piritu l b u ty the e h v

a s ea or s a ea ,
r a e

b een th wh hu t th m lv ff f m ll th w t
os e o s e se es o ro a e s ee

u sage f the b dy I n th t u ggle f m n t g in

s o o .
'

e s r o a o a

c mm nd v hi b o dy nd in th l w nd o ft n
o a o er s , a e s o a e

b ck liding v lu ti n f the h igh r l v the i n

a s e o o o e o e, re s o

d u b t th t h u m nit y we m u ch t th
o a a c e t ic B u t o s o e as .

t h i deb t is in t h p t
s W r n w g ining c nt l
e as . e a e o a o ro

o f th l we f c e w r w inn ing k n wl dg
e o r or s, f th e a e o e e o e

c mpl x m ning nd th pi itu l t n f m ti n

o e ea s a e s r a ra s or a o s

o f u phy ic l e c ti n
o r s nd in t h f u t ur t he h igh
a r a o t s, a e e es

so ci l unit w ill b ec g ni d t b the p i fu d in

a e r o se o e a r, se

l v s t h t ll hu m n p t nt i litie
o e o a a t h ei a well o e a s a re rs , a s

as the h igh p t e nt i l it ie wh ich

er nly erf c t l v e ca n
o
p a s o e o

o r1 1na te
g .

"et ,
as we i lv e to -
da y , with ist ll so man y re m na nt s

o f the o l der s ta nda rds u o n u s , w e mu s t

p with in a nd

e ndeav o u r to u nder s ta nd t he a s c e t ic H e ( les s o ften .

s he s by no m ea ns s e l do m o ne o f the r o du c t s o f
) i p
ma rria ge I t n o t infre qu ently h a ppens t ha t a fter a
.

l o ve marria e a nd s o m e yea rs o f wha t 1s co ns idered

-

ha ppines s , t e ma n o r woma n m ay with draw fro m the

s e x l ife, o fte n l o o k ing do wn u o n i t, a nd c o ns idering
p
-
 A bs tin en c e 73
th t th y h v
a e e ch ed h igh pl ne by d ing
a e r a a er a so o .

B u t u ch pe pl eld m k t h m s lve if wh il t h y
s o e s o as e e s ,
e e

l iv d it th y e ch d th high t p s ibl level f th

e ,
e r a e e es os e o e

sex lif -

e .

On f t h m t f m u in t nc
e o e f th m
os i d a o s s a es o e arr e

a c et ic i
s T l t y w h o l t r pinion w th t th
s o s o ,
se a e o as a e

high s t h u m n b ing c o mple t ly inh ib it hi

e a e e s s s ex

d i es res nd l iv a c lib t l if A cetic h w v

es a e a e e . s s, o e er,

se ld m h v mu ch k n wl dge f hu m n phy s i l gy
o a e o e o a o o ,

a nd i t e m t s m th t w ith ll th i fin nd
e s o e a ,
a e r e a re

ligi u s f v u th y ften l ck the m y tic i m n ce

o er o r, e o a s s e s

s ar y f r th full e lis ti n f th m ning nd p ten

o e r a a o o e ea a o

t i l i ti
a f the n ew c e ti n
es o u l t ing f m m n nd
r a o re s ro a
’
s a

w m n h igh t u ni n D u b tl if f an h u w
o a
’
s es o . o es s or o r e

w e t t k e the pl c f th individu l ch m ic l
er o a a e o e a e a

a ot m f O xyg ns o f H y dro g n w e c o u l d h v n o
e or o e , a e

inkling f th phy ic l p pe ti o e f th w t d p s a ro r es o e a er -

ro

th y t geth e f m
e o r or .

C h i ti nity l ik m t eligi n h d s t ng w v
r s a ,
e os r o s, a a ro a e

o f c tic is m
as e ly in it h i t y Wh il th w
ea r s s or . e ere as , as

th eres t ill i h h c tici m wh ich i h tile t th

s, a ar s as e s s os o e

o th it i
er s ex , f mu ch int e t t s o e th t th w er s o se a ere as

l
a s o a ro m nt ic c tic i m wh ich wh il
a as e v l ting f m s ,
e re o ro

th n u l it y
e se f t h p g n c n tem po i
s a o did no te a a o rar es ,

ent i e ly r h ib i t t h ch
ro m n d l u f m t l
p p u eu ar s a ea s re s o a

c mp nio n h ip Thu in mu til t d f m it em

o a s . s, a a e or , se s

the se ly C h i ti n c tic g in d me o f th
ear r s a as e s a e so e

imm t i l b n fi t a er a fm i g e Ell i (V l 6 S x
e s o a rr a e . s o .
, e

nd S c i t y g v g cc
”
a o 1
9 )
13 e i s n
, i n t e t in u n t f e a res a o o

th e es ce t l v u ni n
as 1c o e -
o s

O f h ur Ch at m b gi
ers , Ag i h wh k pr y so s to e ns a ns t t o se o ee

Vi gi r i hi H
ns n t ly k w w f m
e r o us es f x l i i on ne t o or s o se ua nt ~

m cy m a i g
, d f
arr a ic i N w
e an hi d f m h pp d
o rn a t o n. o a t r or as a ea re

m i
en d c y n t ro
g gi l iu e hi h o un d k p h m h r s nt o t e r o us es a n ee t e t ere
 74 Ma rrie d L o v e
p er m l y
a ne nt
p c i g h
res i v i i
e t n
g i y W h C
t h y m
e r r n t . a t, r so t o

k i h m h l i f i c mm wi h
,

as s, s t ? I
e s ea s o n m t s ee s to e t at e n o on t

a w m o i w an s sv id c j g l
ee t , e i
en o ut s d fl hly m e on u a un o n an es co

m c er e . Th i m y f l i g; d p h p i i
at s ee my f l i g
n an er a s t s no t ee n

l i my l b h f h m
a o ne ; t a a so e t T h y w ldat o h ld
t es e en . e ou no t o

t hi h e r ch p giv i
o n o ur s o ea ch c d l i f h i pl
no r e r se to su s an a s t s ea s ure

w e re vi l
no t d y
o en t a n ic l Th t h h l d lly
ra n n a . at t ere s ou rea

b e a
p l i h
ea s ure i w h ich n t
p d c s l v m d h ro u es a o e o re a r e nt t a n co n

j gl i my pi y
u a un o n a fi
s ur r s e B wh I giv y h ou at rs t . ut en e ou t e

p f
ro o s y w i l
oul g h i ia re e t T h b c at f it s so .
”
e a s en e o re s t ra n t t o

d i i m i g h c
e s re n a rr a i e, f l d p dy di g
e o n t nues , o t e n d ea s to s ee s us t , a n

v p f m hi x l i c
e en a art ro t s , se p g cy d l iv y l
ua n t er o urs e, re na n , e er , ac

i
tat o n, t h b i gi g p f ch il d
e r n n u d ll h p io d xi i ren, a n a t e a ns a n an e t es

t h cc mp y h h i g
at a o an t es ed y y t h d d ll h
n s, -
s oo n es t ro o ut an u t e

p i
o nt o f p l u T
ea s h v i g
re i i
. f f m h e b d r Shn s re e ro t e se ur ens . e

i
r e t a ns h vig er d h o ur a n
y hf l d v er h g f
o ut u ness , a n e en a t t e a e o

fo y m y iv l h y g b il gi l A d bl d h
rt a r a t e o un nu e r . ou e ar o ur t us

b i h h
ur ns n t e f him w h l iv
e ar t o wi h h d h g ifi o es t e r, a n t e ra t ca

i
t o n _o f d i v x i g i h h b igh fl m w h ich v
es re n e er e t n u s es t e r t a e e er co n

i c gh Ch y m d c ib ly ”
i
t n nes t o i
n re a s e n s t re n t mi . r sos t o es r es n ut e
a ll h li l c
t e tt e d i
ares a n w h ich h m d gi l
a t t en t o ns f hi t e o e rn r s o s

t im e req i d d w hich h m d l igh d xp d h i

u re , an t e se en e te to e en on t e r

vi gi l w h wh h i p bl ic i p iv
r na s e et eart s et H c
er n u or n r ate e a nno t

h lp t h i k i g h w v h h m w h l v i h k i
.

e n n , o e er , t at d t e an o a s es ss e s an

c a re ss e s o n a w m wh vi gi i y h i i p i g h im l f
o an ose r n t e re t a n s s ut t n se

so m wh e i h p i i
at n t f Te l B hi w fi m
os t on o a n ta us ut t s ne re ne en t

d ch i y w h ich c m d l ici di c v y ly
.

o f t e n er as t t , a h e as a e o us s o er to t e ea r

Ch i i r s t a nswh r l ly h o w y h li c
es o ut e i t f h rus t a a t e e n t o us n e ss o t e

p g a an w ld w or d pl y
,
as d wee di cov f m h f ro o t e , as e s er ro t e re

q y wi h w h ich h g v F h f h Ch ch pp h iv
u ene t t e ra e at ers o t e ur a re e ns e

f c d l f l c ll d p p v i h gh h i d m
,

o s an a ,
e t a e u o n to re ro e t, t ou t e r co n e na

ti on i m im
s so et wi h es n o t c f c y mp hy t o u t a t ra e o s e re t s at

Th J m i hi l h
.

us ero e, n E hi m
s f e t t er to us t o c u , r e ers t o t o se

c pl w h h h m m f v h m b d
ou es o s a re t e sa e roo ,
”
o t en e e n t e s a e e

d c ll pici if w d w y c cl i wh il Cy p i
,

an a us s us o us e ra an on us o ns ; e r an

(Epi t l 8 6) i
s o a, bl pp v
s u na f h m
e to a h h f ro e o t os e en e ears o , o n e

a d c ea o n , wh l iv i f mil i i c
o e n w i h v i gi
a ev ar n t er o urs e t r ns , en
l pi g i
s ee n h m b d wi h h m f
n t e sa e h d cl
e h f mi i
t t e o r, e e a res , t e e n ne
i w k hi w
,

s ex s dy
ea an o ut s a nt o n .

T he h r h s c tic h o w v a s a ei the ne the w ord

, e er, s o
 A bs t in en c e 75
c c lly c E v i f h
'

i m t n u r u
p n e c es e a ~

t n e ra o
as e o
g e s .

c mpl is hes m r cle o f s el e tr int and u b du e de

o i a s -
r s a ,
s s

i e he is o ften wea k ened ra th e th n treng t h ened by

s r ,
r a s

hi de term ina ti n to fl ou t na ture

s S ve nly in t he
o . a o

tr u ly g ea t t h e e
r i w p i
,
n g n d n r
rr w i n g wh
s a ich ar a a o

res u l t f o m c o erc ing b ey nd t he l im it

s r f n th o s o r ea s o e

de s ires wh ich w im pl nt d in Ad m nd Ev wh en
ere a e a a e

th ey w e t ld t be f u itfu l nd m u l t iply
er o o r a .

A Ell en "y y
s L v nd M i g e sa s o e a a rr a e

Th c ic w h c mm d ly l f c l
os e a s et s o re o m dy en on se -
o n t ro as a re e

for h m
t e y f x l i i c v wh
a s t er o ch c l
s e ua ns t n t , e en en su o n t ro

b c m m ly b c iv
e o es ere lif l ik h p hy ici w h
o s t ru t e to e, a re e t e s an o

i d
tr e ly d iv h f v
on to f hi p i
r e t i w e hi g
e er o ut o s a t en t : t as no t n

to him h h ick m
t at tdi d f h e s an e o t e Cure .

B h
ut t c ic m y h v iv d h i f ici m by w
es e a s e t s a a e a rr e at t e r a na t s t o

diff ere n t
p h O g at
p
— w h i
s ch i cl d mne f h f
ro um l n u es o st o t e e a e

c ic —h C pid b c h h v h w hm y
.

a s et a t es u e a us e e as n e er s o n to t e an

h g up— mb ci g h m j i y f m l
s

fv
a o ur Th e ot er ro e ra n t e a or t o a e

c ic —c him b c h v l v h m i p
.

as e t s urs e e a us e e n e er ea es t e n e ac e .

App ch ing th s u bj ec t in m e m dern nd

ro a e a or o a

s c ientific ttitu d f imp ti l inqu i y th m dic l

'

a e o ar a r , e e a

m n n pro du c e n impo ing l i t f di e e m o

a ca a s s o s as s re or

l di ec tly c u ed by b tin nc b th in m n nd
es s r a s a s e e o e a

in w m n Th o e dis e e r nge f o m n eu lg i nd
. es e as s a r ra a a

n ve er t ( in w o me n) fib id g w t h
s o A nd i t i ro ro s . s

well worthy f emark th t t h s e dis o r m y b a e eas es a e

p ent wh en th pa t ient (
res h ve m ny u nm ried
e as a a ar

w men) h s n id th t th ex impul e exi ts n u

o a o ea a e s -
s s

ma s tered .

Thu c c nd the pr fl ig te (wh ethe n ?

s the a s e ti a o a r or o

in l g l mar i g ) h ve b t h t
e a u n th g u n t le t f
r a e a o o r e a o

di e Th i h wev n di e I k n w f
s ea s . er e s, o er, o s as e o o

wh ich i c u d by th n rm l nd mu tu lly h ppy

s a se e o a a a a

m i g e el ti n—
a rr a el ti n wh ich c e t inly t m s t
r a o a r a o ,
r a o o ,

h p itiv e h e ling nd vit l is ing

as os w e a a a o
p r .
76 Ma rri ed L o v e
The p f u nd tru th wh ich i perc eived by the
ro o s

as cetic s i th t th c tiv ne gy f e c n b t ns
s a e re a e e r o s x a e ra

f rm
o d inet t h c t iviti Th is tru th s h uld nev
o o er a es . o er

be l t igh t f in m
os s i g ;wh ere b etwe n the t im e
o a rr a e e s

o f n tur l h ppy
a a nd ,
l timu l ting ex rc i e f
a ,
a a so s a e s o

t he fu nc t i n th peri d f c mpl te b tinenc

s ex -
o s, e o s o o e a s e

s h uld be pp tu niti f r tr n mu ting the h e lthy

o o or es o a s a

s ex p w er into w rk
-
o f ev e y s o t o o r r .
 Cha pt er IX .

Ch i l dren
I a m fo r y o u, a nd y o u a re for m e,
l ’
N o t o n y fo r y o ur o w n s a e, bu t for o t ers s a es, k h k
Envel op d in y o u s eep grea t er ero es a nd ards ,
’
l h b
h f k
T ey re us e t o aw a e a t t he t o uc o f a ny m a n but me h .

W A LT W HI T M A N .

H EM y s tic in his m o m ent o f enl igh tenm ent

a tta ins t h ro u gh t he fl u x o f his pers o na l i ty the

r ea l i s a t io n o f o nenes s wi th the div ine fo rc e s

o f t he U n ivers e .

To y m n nd w m n h wev t his
or dina r e a o e ,
o e r,

y c l c t y i u nkn wn nd the din y hum n

m s ti a e s as s o ,
a or ar a

c n ci u n i f m
o s o s es s w f it
s ep t ne
ar ore a are o s s a ra e ss

th n af it onen w i t h t h v it l f c e
s o es sf c ti n e a or s o rea o .

"t the gl w f h lf w ning r ptu e in wh ich the

e o o a s oo a r

m y tic wh l b eing m l t
s
’
s o e nd fl t in the l igh t e s a oa s

o f the divin f ce i s par ll l ed in thee or

ptu re f a e ra o

l v o er s .

When tw wh m at d in eve y e pec t b u n

o o a re e r r s r

with th fi f the innum ble f ce with in t hem

e re o era or s ,

wh ich t th i b di l nging t w d e ch ther with

se e r o es o o ar s a o

t h de ie t int pen t t
s re o nd t enc o m
er ne e ra e
p a o ass o
-

a n th eo t he fu i n
r, f j y nd ptu s o i n t pu ely o o a ra re s o r

p hy ic l s T h a h l f w n i ng en
e f fl u wh ich
a s oo s se o x

ve t k e th pi it in th t t n l m ment t "
.

o r a s e s r he a e er a o a

a
p x f pt u
e o we p int it fl ming tide the w h le
ra re s e s o s a s o

e nc
sse f th m n nd w m n nd
e o e ait we the h t
a o a , a as re , ea
o f th c n t c t v p u i e t h e i c n c i u n e s t h t i t
e o a a o r s s r o s o s ss o a

fill th wh l f c m ic p ce F th m m ent they

s e o e o os s a . or e o

a re id nt ifi ed with th div in th u gh t th w ve o f
e e e o s, e a s
et n l f
er c wh ich t th My tic ften ppe in
a o r e, o e s o a ar
te mr f g l de n l igh t
s o o .

From th eir mutu l penetratio n int the eal ms o f a o r

78 M a rri e d L o v e
s u reme o
p j y t h e tw l ov s b i n b ck w i
o t h t h em er r a a

s rk f t h t l igh t wh i ch w c ll ife
p a o a e a .

A nd u nt t h em a ch ild i b orn
o s .

Th is is the s up m purpo o f na ture in all her re e se

e ntic ing w eft f c mple f ct lu ing the two love s ‘

o o x a ors r r

into e ch th s m s O nly by the fu i n f tw c n

a o er
’
ar . s o o o a

t he new h u m n l ife c o me int a b eing nd nly by o ,

a o

c a ting n w l ife in th is way c n w h nd n th torch

re a e a e a o e

w h ich l igh t u c o ns ciou s ne in the s phe e f

s o r ss r o

m a tter .

Th y cl
is m s ti a a nd o nderfu fa t ha s ne er y et w l c v
fo u nd the po e t to s in its fulg or B u t in the earts l gl y . h
o f a ll who a e hv k w
n o n tr u e o e ie s t he rea is a t io n o f l v l l
c h
the s a redne s s t a t is t eir s h en t e a re i n the er wh h y v y
a ct o f c
rea tio n .

W
ere o u r bO dl CS s e i
p a c fic lly g
o r a nis ed f o r t i s .
h
s u rem e
p u r o s e , t wo
p p u m an e in s ou d o n h p b g w l
as s ly
h
t ro u gh c
the s a red fi re o f m u tu a f us io n in o rder t o l
c rea te a new ife l
B u t, o e er far o u r s pirits a e
. h wv hv
v lv
e o ed, o u r o die s a re b
o m o s ed o f m a t ter
p c i wh ch
b ears t he im rint o f the ma n
p p a st
p a s es t ro u y h h gh
wh chi hv
w e a e rea ed o u r pre s ent po s itio n ch A nd .

bc w l
e au s e in t he o r d o f the o er a nim a s t ere is a n l w l h
w g
immens e a s ta e o f a ll the o u n i e s rea ted, a nd i t
‘

y glv c
c y h y
is ne e s s ar t a t m ria ds s o u d be o n e i ed in order h l c c v
h ll b h
t a t a s ma nu m er s o u d rea m a turit , s o in o u rl ch y
b o die s c l
(p h
s e ia is ed t o u t e a re in gh h y
o m aris o n
p c
w h l w ml
it the o er a ni a s ) o t s e es s ti produ e a far b h x ll c
l g b g
a r er nu m er o f erm s a a it in w g
ferti is a tio n t a t ca n l h
c lly
be a tu a fru ctified a nd im u ed it indi idu a ife b w h v ll .

ly
So pro fo u nd ha s the o urs e o f o ur is to r c
een h y b
h
s ta m ed u o n u s t a t ea
p p e rm , u na are o f i t s o wnch g w
l y ch
fu ti it if it rea e s m a turit a t a n u npro pitio u s y
j
m o ment is u s t a s ins is tent in it s de e o pment a s the vl
 80 Ma rri ed Lo ve
all w t le s t i m onths
o a a
y e r t el
s x
p b f re 01 a a o a se e o

b ginning the up m t s k f their l ive ,the bu den

e s re e a o s r

of wh ich f ll m inly u n the w o m n

p a s a o a .

F m a ny e s n
or t m ide l t h v the
r a o s i is ore a o a e

ch ild en p nt n u ly nd e ly ; bu t if ec nom ic
r s o a eo s a ar o

c nditio n re h d s they o ften r in civilis d

o s a ar , a s o a e e

l if it m y be b ette t m ry nd defer the chil d en

e, a r o ar a r

ra the t h n n t t m
r ay o o a rr .

I f the p i m r i d v ery y u ng nd b f re t h
a r a r e
y o , a e o e

c o u ld ff o d t u pp t child n th y m igh t w t
a r o s or re ,
e ai

se ve l y r with dv nt g A n xc pti n l ca i
ra ea s a a a e . e e o a se s

o n f the h ppi t m r ge I k no w
e o a Th p res ar ia s . e ai

m i d wh il e t h y w e y u ng s tu d nt in th
arr e e er o e s e

U n iv e ity nd f u t en y
rs ,
l t e t h ey h d t h i
a o r e ears a r a e r

fi t ch ild pl ndidly h e lthy b y Th ugh u ch

rs ,
a s e a o . o s a

l ng inte v l c t inly n t t be u niv lly ec m

o r a 18 er a o o ers a r o

m n dede it i id th t it m y e u lt n teril ity n

, as s sa a a r s 1 s ,
1

thi n t nc
s i t w
s a t iu m ph ntly b tte f
e 1 th t w t
as r a e r or e o o

h v l iv d n rm lly ti fi d h ppy l iv s t h n t h v
a e e o a sa s e a e a o a e

w it d f f u t n y
a e or nd i k d th m n s
o r ee f ll ”
ea rs a r s e e a
’ “
a .

Th e e m ny er arn b o th fo t h ir wn nd fo
a r e as o s, r e o a r

th e ch ild k why th p t nti l p rent h u ld

’
s sa e, e o e a a s s o

t k e the wi e p ec u t i n
a f d l y u nl e
s r wing t a o o e a ,
ss o o

s ec i l c i c u m t nc e trh y c nn t x c t t l ive t e o e e o
p a s a
p s a o

g the unint upt dly

e r err e

T he ch il d c nc iv d n ptu e nd h ope h o u l d b
o e e 1 ra r a s e

wh ich th wi d m nd
, ,

g 1v n e v ry m t e i l ch nc
e e a r a a e e s o a

l v f t h p e nt s c n d v i
o e o e And th fi r t nd
ar a e se . e s a

m s t v it l c ndit n f it h l th 3 th a t th m o th r
o a o io o s ea 1 e e

s h u ld b w ll nd h ppy nd free f om nxiety wh il

o e e a a a r a e

s h b ar t
e e s 1 .

Th trem endo u
e nd f r r c hin e ff ec t s s of a a ea
g
-

m i g e n t h w m n wh l e
arr a o gn mmk h
e o a
’
s o or a is a e er

les s fi tted t b e r ch ild t th very c mmencement

o a a a e o
 8
C h il dre n I

o f m r i g t h n l te n wh n the s y s t m will h v e
a r a e a a r o ,
e e a

a dj t d i t s l f t i t n ew c nditi n
us e e o s o o s .

N t nly f t h o ok f th child h w ve h u ld or e sa e o e ,
o e r, s o

th fi t c n pti n b littl d l y d bu t l t
e rs o ce o e a e e a e ,
a so o

se cu th l ting h ppin
re e f th m r d l vas a es s o e ar i e o ers .

It i g n s ll y ( th u gh p h p n t lw y ) W
e era o er a s o a a s 1s e

th u ghly t
o ro t bl i h t h i l ti t
. o h th es a s e r re a on o ea c o er

b f int du c ing th in vit bl di l c ti n and

e ore ro e e a e s o a o re

dj u tm nt n c it t d by th W f nd
’
n n a
a s e p g y
e es s a e e 1 e s re a c
‘

t h bi t h f
e ch ild r o a .

I n th i b k I am n t p k ng m u ch f th
“

s oo o s ea i so o e

u niv l ers al ti n t th w h find th m lv

s ex r e a o as o ose o e se es

t d y i n t he h ighly c v l i d t ific i l c m m u nit i

‘

o -
a 1 1 se ar a o es
_ ,

o f E ngl i h
p k in g p p l s nd in -
s u pea nt eo e : a o r res e

so ci ty t h i littl d b t t h t the ly b i th f
e er e s e ou a ear r o a

ch ild d m nd m u ch lf — ifi nd lf t int
'

e a s se s a cr ce a se -

r e s ra

f m th m n n
ro f th
e fl x vib ti n f wh ich i
a ,
o e o e re e ra o s o s

hi u nd fin bl
s n f l
e nd a
p t i nf m
e seh i se o oss a se a ra o ro s

b id Th i h b n c nfi d d t m by m ny m n
r e . s as ee o e o e a e .

wh h v b n g n
o . a u en u gh t t u t m w it h
ee e er o s e o o r s e

so m f th ec t
e o -
f t h i l iv : M
e s C i typic l re s o e r es r . . s a

o f m ny th a f hi cl o ers o s ass .

H w q u i t n d fi n d wi t h
e as t ng t e n f a re e , a s ro s ra i o

ro m ntic l v wh ich w
a nti oly c nt d in his b id
e, as e re e re r e .

H w m nly nd u ff c i nt ly v i il t f l t h n d
e as a a s i e r e . o ee e ee

o f int c u e bu t h w u n w
s ex er o
( m
rs ny , e as a are as a re s o a

m n) f th w m n c
e o
p n ding n
e d ; nd h did
o a
’
s orr es o ee a e

n t
o g iv hi w i f n
ye
g m Shs t k n
pl ur e a or as . e oo o ea s e,

th f in th p hy ic l
er e o r e , t f u ni n wh ich f h e s a ac o o ,
or er

w as so inc mpl te o e .

V y h tly ft m i g h c nc iv d nd
-
er s or a er a rr a e s e o e e ,
a a

ch ild w b n t n m nth fter th w dding d y

. as or e o s a
-

e e a .

F tw y or ft t h b i t h f th ch ild h vi tal ity

o ea r s a er e r o e er
wa l w d th t th
s so o t w s t o he s r pu
ere
g a e s ex ac -

a r o e

0 2
82 Ma rri e d L o v e
n nt t h t he r fu
a a d h h u b nd a ny u ni n ; nd it
s e se er s a o a

w as t hu t h r y s ft t h i m a i g b f ee th y
ea r s a er e r rr a e e o re e

m t in ny th ing l ik
e a n m lw y By th t t im th e a or a a . a e e

l ng p ti n f m x lif nd th t in n th
o se a ra o ro se -

e, a e s ra o e

m n c u pl d w it h d ily f mil i it y t h m
'

a ,
o e h d a a ar a o e, a

dimm ed i f n t c mpl t ly d t y d, hi
,
o n e
o f e e e s ro e s se s o

ro m nc a T h n t u l t im u l t i n
e . ch h u ld ex t
e a ra s a o ea s o er

n th th h df d d t h t t h ey n v er ex perienc d
‘

o e o er a a e , so a e e

t he m u tu l gl w f r pture in t h ei
a o ex u ni n o a r s -
o .

An th e p ir u ff er d im il rly M nd M D
o r a s e s a : r . a rs . .

w p v nt d f ev l ye by the wif r l nd
ere re e e or s era a rs
“

e s
’
ea a

f nc i d ill h l th f m h v ing ny inte c ur

a e -
ea roWh n a a r o se . e ,

a ft ert h t t im h r c v
a d nd p io n t ly d
e, s e e o er e a as s a e e

i d th t u m
s re i g
e l ti n th hu b nd f l t it t
r e a rr a e re a o ,
e s a e o

b imp
e ibl T him i t w u ld h ve b een
oss e . o h o a ,
as e

e xp d it
re s s e like ping hi i t ,
“
“
ra s s s er .

Onc u ch th u gh t h g wn into m n m ind

e s .
a o as ro a a
’
s

It 13v ry diffi cul t t c ptu the fir t fin

e
“
ly o re a re s e e ar

nd w it h th l h rly r
”
ra
p t u A
re . f t t p t u th e e os s o a ea a re

tw l o f th
o s e, t f t h ei l iv
or th i di ting j y
e r es o r es , e rra a o

which i p ic l n t nly f its b e u ty bu t f

s r e es s o o or a ,
or

t h v it l it y w it h wh ich it w ing
e a ldn s s are a e .

O n th th h nd if by w iting m m n th (
e o er a , a so e o s or

e vny e if t h y
ea rs y u ng) th m t ed p ir h v e a re o e a a a e

l nt t dj u t th m lv t e ch th nd h ve
ea r o a s e se es o a o er a a ex

i nced) t he full i b i l i t i f c m l t l v
p er e
p p e oss es o o e o e

m k ing th di turb nc wh ich i c u ed by th b i th

a ,
e s a e s a s e r

o f th ch il d i in n o en e d ng r t t h ei h ppine s
e s s s a a e o r a s,

bu t i it c wn nd c o m pl ti n
s .
s ro a e o .

A m n nce id t m a o O ne c n endur sa n
y o e a e a :

t h ing f th k f b l v e d w if
or e sa
”
B u t t h w if i
e o a e o e . e e s
n ly u t t ly b el v d wh n he nd h m rried l ov r '

o er o e e s a er a e

h v n t only ente d p dis e t g th bu t when he

a e o
“

re a ra o e er,
-

fully re l is e th rou gh ins igh t g ined by her wn x

a s, a o e
84 Marri ed L o ve
s h u ld ls o c ons id
o a p p i
er w i nature
the er e tu a l s tr a n h ch .

impo s e s u po n him ;a nd the tender a nd o in ife lv gw

w ll ly
i rea di find s o m e m ea ns o f i in him t a t gv g h
phy c l l
s i a re ie f i h i wh ch
s na tu re nee ds .

xq
T he e u is ite, u ns e s t enderne s s lfi h
i is aro u s ed wh ch
by
in a ma n the s en s e o f m enta a nd s piri tua armo n l lh y
w h w
it a ife who s y m pa this e s it , e au s e s he u nder w h bc
s ta nds , his ne eds i s o ne o f t he o e ies t t in s in l vl h g
m arria e g w
T he ife w ho no s ho w to a en t is
. k w wk h
t endern es s in a m a n ra is e s him o u t o f the s e f entred l c -

l gh wh ch s o ma n m i ll w h ly
'

s ou in i y en w a o un a
pp .

W h it a n a rde nt ma n, o
y de o ted t o his ife wh ll v w .

l g
a nd o n vdepri ed o f her, the time i o me en w ll c wh
ll
i t wi be s u fli cien t fo r him to be n ea r her a nd a res s c
l
her fo r re ie f to ta e p a e k
it o u t a ny p s i a lc w h hy c l
c o n nec t 1o n .

A fter the b irth f the fi rs t ch ild the h ea l th f the

o o

m o th e a nd f the b by b o th dem a nd th a t t h ere ho u l d

r o a s

be n h urri d b eg inning o f
o e e c o nd A t l s t a ye r a s . ea a

s h ou ld b ef t he s ec o nd l ittl e l ife i s a ll wed t

p as s o re o o
-

b egin i ts u nf lding s o th t mi nim um f b o u t tw o

o , a a o a

ye rs s h u l d el p e b ef e th s co nd ch ild is b rn
a o a s or e e o .

T he im por t nc e f t h is b th f r the m o th er nd
a o ,
o o a

f r t he ch il d is genera lly de qu tely eco gni ed by

o , a a r s

m e dic l s pec i lis t a nd s m e dis tingu is h d gy neco l

“

a a s, o e o

gis ts dvo c t e s m uch three o r fiv e ye rs b etween

a a a as a

t he b ir th s o f s u cc es s iv e ch il d en Wh ile in the w h l r . o e

hu m n rel tio n t here is no s l ve y

a a tortu re s a r or o

h rrible a s c erced u nwilling m o th erh oo d the e is n

o o , ,
r o

ride g e ter t h n t h a t w m a n who i

j y
o a nd
p r a f a o a o s

be ring t he dev el ping ch ild f m n s he dore s

a o It o a a a .

is s erio u s re fl ec tio n o n u po is ned c ivil is tio n

a o r o a

th t a
p eg na n t w o m n s h o u l d fe el h m e t o
a r a ea r in s a
pp a

t he s tree ts
“

Never will the r ce e ch tru e h e l th till

. a r a a
 85
C h i l dren
it is cu ed f it p u ien t ick n
r o nd the s p s ec t iv
p
r r s es s , a ro e

m th c n car y he s cred bu den s p i t in

o er a r r a r a a r e s es s a

t iu m ph l p c
r io na r o es s .

O f the innu m e bl e p bl em wh ich t u ch up n the ra ro s o o

qu litie t n m itt d t th ch ild n by th ei p nt

a s ra s e o e re r ar e s,

the tu dy s f wh ich m y b c v o d by the g ne l a e o ere e ra

t m Eu g nic
er I h ll h e y n t h ing s, n h
s ll I
a ere s a o : or s a

d l wi t h th p bl em s f b i t h nd ch il d e ing
ea e ro o r a -
r ar .

M ny w i t
a h v c n id ed th e u bj ct nd
r er s a e o s er es s e s, a

in thi b k i t p p ct f
'

m y pu p r o se nt s oo s o re s e as e s o s ex

lif which h v b e n m e l n gl ct d by th
e a e e or or es s e e e o ers .

Whil th u gh u t I h v mitt d th C n id ti n
e ro o a e o e e o s era o

o f b n m l it i
a th e i
or an c o dit i n wh ich v
n es , g er s o e o er es

o n th bn m l bu t y t t u ch e t he l ive
e a or a f m e o s s o so e

m i d p pl w h
arr e individu l ly b th n m l nd
eo e o are a o or a a

h e l thy b ut wh ich f w w d n d t b id
a ,
a o a e or s ee o e sa .

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p p eo l f r n e,
pp ar nt o n e m
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ch ild .

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th t th f u l t l y w i t h
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th w m n
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o e a arre o a

i n wh ich b u h t u nt l d n gu i h t m ny h
s o e
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‘

s o e n o e re o se ,
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in ”
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’
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p t u s as e e o a s, ar ar re e
hi b nd i
rs a b in w k in city s a ra or er a .

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o h ul d n t b the
s a ra a er e s o o e
sa m j y f t he p i in ch il d wh ich h d n o t i n
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f m t h i wn up m fu i n n v e t h l e
ro e r o s the m n re e s o , e r e s s, a
wh i g n o us nd b e dmind d m igh t find mu ch
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ch ild no t c upl d with th yi lding f h b dy t

o e e e o er o o
t he em b c e f n th ra m n wh ich i o :a gen lly nd o er a , s so era a
so n tu r ll y
a u g n nt t o
a h u b nd The futu e p
re a
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s ibilit ie s f c ienc e h o c m in M uch interes ting
s e re o e .

ch h l e dy b een d ne n th g w th f t h
.

re s e ar as a r a o o e ro o e

y u ng f v i u c e tures w ith u t th rdin ry

o o ar o s r a o e o a

f rtil i tio n f th m th
e sa o e
gg c ll Th
e en th e e a re
o er -
e . r

th xp iment by th f m u D H unt r t the

e e er s e a o s r . e a

e nd f t he igh t en t h centu y
o e nd m e e cent w k r , ,
a or re or .

S ee ,f in t nc H p in t h
or s a P c e ding f the
e, ea e, e ro e s o

R y l S c i ty
o a o e nd M ar h ll
, t xt b k f a s a
’
s e -
oo o

T h P hy i l gy f R p du c ti n
e s o o o e ro o ,

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b te the h u b nd w ul d h av n b dily p t in t he
ra ,
s a o e o o ar

h it g f th ch ild y et in th c ti n f it s pirit
er a e o e , e re a o o s

he c u ld pl y
o
p r f o u nda
p t tah p t e nt i l it ie s
o f ar , e o a o

wh ich ppe t be l m t u n ec gni d by hum nity

a ar o a os r o se a .

T he ide t h t th a ul nd ch a c ter f the ch il d

e so a ara o

c n be in
a n
y d e g e ianfl u n c d by t he m nt l t t u
re e e e a s a s

o f the m th e du ing the m ntho r f i t d v l pment

r o s o s e e o

as a n mb y w ith in h
e r b dy is pt t be g et d
o er o a o re e

with pu e s ceptici m—f it is difli cult o f p f nd

, ‘

r s or ro o ,
a

r e u g n nt t t h m l in t ll ec t n o w cc u t m ed t s o o
p a e e o a e ,
a

e x l a in l if in t m f ch m i t y
p e er s o e s r

"t ll the wis t m o the wh m I k n w v y o nly

.

e a es rs o o ar

in the deg e f t h i b l i f in t h is po w
re o e r f t he e e er o

mo the A ll
r . g eed in b elieving tha t the pi itu l
a re a r s r a

a nd m ent l c o ndit i n a nd e nv i
a nm ent o f t he m t h e
o ro o r

d es p o f u ndly a ff ec t the ch
o r o c ter nd the mental ara a

a nd i i t u l w f t h e ch il d
p s r
p e a o rs o .

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er a s r s e o a
’
s

p i
ont f vo i e w i q u t d t h u gh n t in t h i c o nn c
( , s o e o o s e

t i n) by M
o
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,

t h t i mmu nit y f m di m y be cq u i d by y u ng
'

a ro s ea s e a a re o

a nim al b ing uckl d by f male wh ich h d p

s e s e a e a re

S p 566 f h
ee . x b k o T h Phy i l gy f R p
t e te t -
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dci u t o n, Pp xv ii 7 6
9
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w dlyar c gni d by u l w nd cu s t ms Even
re o se o r a s a o .

i f th i i d ne it i cle
s s t h t t o int o duc e the ch il d
o , s ar a r

o f n t h e wo m n int t he h me i dem nding

a o r a o o . s a a

mu ch g e ter l f ab neg ti n f m th wif t h n i s

r a se -
a o ro e e a

d m nd d f m th h u b and i n th s itu t i n we h v e
e a e ro e s e a o a

j u t c n id d
s o s ere .

M ny pe ple wh ide l s re ve y n bl a e y t
a o ose a a r o e r e

t ng ly inc p bl e
s ra e f dapting t h m te i l c t s f
a a o a e a r a a o

l if t the e l fulfil m nt f th i id l Thu the

e o r a e o e r ea s . s re

i ec t i n
s a s f u c mmu nity wh ich in i t s th t t h e e
o o o r o s s a r

s h ul d be n
o t ic t i n wh t ve f th nu mb er f
o r es r o a e r o e o

child en b n t m i d p ple Th y th ink ny

r or o a rr e eo . e a

b i th c nt l imm l Th y t k t h i t nd upo n
r o ro o ra . e a e e r s a

th e t t m ent t h t w
s a e h ve n igh t t d s t y a e a o r o e ro

t
o ent i l l i f e B u t if t h y w u l d t u dy
a l i ttl e h u m n e o s a a
p .

or a nim l hy s i l gy
a t h y w u l d find t h t n t o o nly e o a o o
p
e v y c lib t bu t l ev y m i d m n ince ntly
er e a e, a so er a rr e a s sa

n d in v i t bly w m y i ds f g m (
a e t a
p 1
as es
4 ) r a o er s s ee .

wh ich h d the p t nti l ity f fu i n with n vu m

a o e a o s o a o ,

a nd c n qu ntly c uld h v p duced child h d

o se e o a e ro a a

rt u n i t y b n g iv n t h em F th u pp d k
'

o
pp o ee e . or e s os e sa e

o f n o twe or f th e my i d p m wh ich mu t
o o se r a s er s s

n tua lly nd inev it bly di th y nc u ge the p

ra a
-

a e, e e o ra ro

du c t i n f b b i
o in o
p id u cc i n
a wh iches e ra s es s o ar

w k n d by t h i pr ximity wh il th y m igh t h v
ea e e e r o e e a

b n tu dy nd h lthy h d they b en c o nceived

ee s r a ea a e

fu t h
r
p rt fro m ch th er
er a a ea o .

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o e, e a a o a o

b o n n y ven of the unc nceived a e bl ind t the

r ,
a ,
e o , r o

cl im s f th n wh h uld be d
a o e o t f ll t t he o s o
'

e ares o a o e

hu b and nd f r wh e h l th nd h ppine h i
s , a o os ea a a ss e s
re s
p n ibl
o A m
s n w y d by
e . ch ic d gm will a s a e
“

ar a o a
a ll w even coe c hi wif t b e nd b ring f th n
o , r e, s e o ar a or a
inf nt nnu all y
a a S v e wh e e the w m n i exce a r o a
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.
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C h i ldren
t io na l, ea ch ch ild fo llo wmg so ra
pi dl y i ts pre on

c v
de es s or, s aps a nd di ides t he ita s tre n t v l g h wh ch i is
v l bl k g g Th i
'

a ai a e fo r t he m a in o f t he o ff s rin s
p .

g e nerallyl w o ers the v l y

ita it of e ach cc g ch l
Su e edin i d,
and s ure ly v e en if s o l wly
,
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y m w u r d er t he o ma n

b
w ho ea rs t em h .

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O f o u rs e, t he e ff e t s o f t is s tra 1n u po n the o m a n -

v y
ar
g ly cc
re a t a g
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o her o ri i na ea t a nd

v l y c g
i ta it , t he o ndit io n s o f her s u rr o u ndin s a nd the
y ly g
int ens it o f t he fa m i s s tru gle for fo o d
’
Ahl a f .

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s ta r e d m o t er tr in t o r in u p l
i dr en in the fo u
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it s u m s , o s e s , a s a r u e, far m o r e o f her
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“

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o n dit io ns , the c a n e s

o f dea t h l
o f the ch l
a ter l g ly
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wh ch c
i l
o m es r a id , a re far
p y g h rea t er t a n for t he

l ch l
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i e the dea t ra te o f firs t -

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er t o u s a n d, t he dea t

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59 p 7 h e r t o u s a ndh wh S o t at
. e n

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ha s i ts w ay , a nd t e e c i dren o me t o
sa
p wa v l y l l
o ma n s
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a i t , s o itt e s tren t h ha s s he t a t

ly
n ea r c h l
6 0 per ent o f t es e a t er o ne s die
. Wh at a .

w a s te o f v l y " Wh
ita i t h at a gy g y
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h c g h h
fo r the mo t ers t o pro du e in a n u is dea t do o m ed, -

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se em s a m o s t in re di e t a t in s o m e o u ntri es m e di a
h
men who are no t a s a m e d t o t ro h wy g .
ou n m en in to
t he a rms o f pro s t itu t io n, bl h wh us e n m ent io n i s m a de

o f a nt i c c
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o n e t io na
p h Th
m e t o ds l .
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c rea te d by c u s to m a n d
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inno entc t h ingswh il it enc ur ge
e o a s t he g rea t e s t

infa m ie s .

b v h H ll
I t is impo rta nt to o s er e t a t c y
o a nd, t he o u ntr

wh ch k
i c h ch l
t a es m os t a re t a t h ll w ll
i dren s a be e a nd
v lo u ntari ly c c v c vv l
o n ei e d, ha s in rea s ed it s s u r i a ra te , -

a nd ha s t ereh by ,
h c
no t dim inis ed, bu t in rea s ed i t s

p p l
o u a t io n, a nd ha s t he l w l y
o es t infa nt m o rta it i n

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"

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o nf us e fic v
is e s ie nti pre ent io n

w h ll g l b
it i e a a o r t io n lbl h
a nd b h
a e t em ot as

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t u s pre ent in l eo
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c
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ieni no ed e, c
o rr i l
e a nd rimina

b q h
a o rt io n i s m o re fr e u ent t a n in a n h c y y
o t er o u ntr .

h l l h
I t s o u d be rea is e d t a t all t he pro per, m e di a l c
h c ll g
me t o ds o f o ntro in pre nan g cy c o ns is t , no t in

y g
de s tro in a n a rea dl yg w g by ro in e m r o , bu t in pre
v ent in g l
t he m a e s perm fro m rea ch g l
in the u nferti i s ed
’

e
gg c ll Th
e . i s ma
y b e d h by h
o ne e it er g s u t t in t h e
s erm s a
p wy a f h
r o m t e O enin
‘
g p w b o f t he by om , or

c g
s e u rin h l
the dea t o f a ll ( ins tea d o f t he na tu ra dea th
o f a ll bu t o ne
) h
o f t he tw o t o s ix llu ndred m i io n
s erm s
p wh ch i e n t w
er t he o m v wh
a.n E ch l
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i s al o ed to gro in i t s m o t er, a ll t es e undre ds
ll
o f m i io n s of s erm s a re in e it a
p v bly lly
a nd na t ura

y v
des tro ed e ery t ime the m a n ha s a n emis s io n , a nd
h l c fic by N
t o a dd o ne m o re t o t es e mi io ns s a ri ed
l a tu re

is s u re ly c
no " k ll q ckl
rime To i j c l
ui y t h e e a u a t ed
s erms
p wh ch w l
i h w c
o u d o t er is e die a nd de o m o s e
p
na tura lly l
, i s a s im p e m a t ter Th . eir m inu te a nd u n

c v
o ered b o dies a re
p l w k c
a s m o li s ed in ch
ea a id, s u as

v g w
ine ar a nd a ter, o r by l q
a s o u t io n o f by u inine, or
y h b c
ma n o t er s u s ta n e s .

h h hv
T o t o s e who pro te s t t a t we a e no ri t to gh
w h c
interfere it the o urs e o f N a ture, o ne mu s t
p o int
 C h apter .
X .

S o c i e ty
Lv i fd o e by w h
s ie k b by w h
no t gv nd at t t a es , ut at it i es , a

t h xc ll d l l v f m
at e e e nt d wi f m
ua b f d l
o e o by h an an e us t _ e e a so t e

l v h y giv
o e t e h —E W A R CA R E T E R
e t o Ot e rs . D D P N .

AN ev n th c m monpl c modern m n i
,
e e o a e a ,
s

m n tic H e c ave c n c i u ly
ro a . u nc n r s o s o s or o

s iou ly f the f c d m t he b u t y nd the

s or ree o ,
ea , a

dv nt u wh ich hi for f th s f u nd in t h eir v irg in

.

a e re s e a er o

f e t Th i c v ing t n m u t d cha ng d u t f
or s s . s ra ,
ra s e ,
e . o o

re oc gniti n by c ivil i ed lif nd mod rn c ircum s t nce

o s e a e a s,

is y t f c te n t t b ig n
a a or d in th rel t i n h ip f
o o e ore e a o s o

th ex s
e s e .

Th b ond f m trim ny
e
“
s ften
o fer d t a o , so o re re o

with rib ld l ugh t t u ch nd pe h p c tly g ll

a a er, o , a r a s s e re a

ev n th m
e t m n t ic nd d v t d hu b nd I f t
e os ro a a e o e s a . o

t he inc r s nd fr ien dly qu

e e a ti n Wh t i m t es o : a s os

difficu l t in m ied l ife f th m n ?

a rr n g t th or e a o e e s e

s inc e nd re u eful an w r — th t
r ns w m y b a s e a a er a

s u mm ed u
p i n t h w d p p tu l
p p ei nqu it y
”
or s er e a ro .

O f th i t h w ife p ticu l ly i f h b
s, e lly in
,
ar ar s e e re a

l v i ld m fu lly w
o e, s se oIf h hu b nd i h a are . er s a s er

t u e l ve
r hi te nde n
o r, nd r s l d vo ti n will give r es s a ea e o

him th w i t t c o nce l i t B u t t h ugh by c nce lm n t

e o a . o o a e

h m y p s e v th u n u fli d u f c
e a re r e f t h ei h ppi
e r e s r a e o r a

ne ss,
y t t he l e
g gt b
n in ving i n t co mpl tely
o
‘

o e ro s o e

e x tingui hed I n the t u l v r th i u n p k n u n

s . r e o e s s o e ,

c n ci u l ng ing i pe h p l s de i e t s et u t
o s o s o s r a s es a s r o o

u
p n o f e s h j
a u n y rt h n l n goin g t r x pe ei en c a a o o e r e

a g in the xqu i it j y f the etu n ;t r liv the

a e s e o o r r o e -
e

m g ic ch m f the pp o ch t th p t in wh ich th
a ar o a r a o e s o e

l v d ne is l iving her l if int th c ed eparaten

o e o e, o e sa r s es s

o f wh ich the l v b r k nd l ik th Princ by hi

o er ea s, a , e e e s

k i t s tir he to f s h ac tivity
ss, o r re .
 S o c i e ty 93
A will be l i d by t h w h h v u nde s t d
'

s rea se os e o a e r oo

th p ec eding ch pt e ch c m ing t th f m n
x

e r a rs , e a o o e er o a

a nd w if v n if th y h ve b n m t d m ny y
e, e e e a ee a e or a ears ,

sh u l d b
o f h dv ntu ; e a h w inning h ul d
re s a e re ea c s o

nec it t f e h w ing
es s a e a r s oo .

"t wh t m n ft n fi nd h d t c me t 0

e a a a o e s so ar 13 o o o

th t w o ing w it h full
a o d u nd wi th t h t c m pl t ar o r a a o e e

f m nc which l n c n end it u t t e "

“
r
se n se o r o a e ) a o e a r er r

d lightfi l i f the w m n h i t w
e a ,
h s b e n in o a e s o oo a e a

too u ni nt u t d nd
p p erri c l ti n wi th him in t h
e a ro s a re a o e

mea nt 1m e .

M
o s t m en, o f o u rs e, c
a e t e ir bu s m es s es a a rt
'

p hv h
h h
fro m t e ir o m e s , bu t in the ho me l iv e s o f t he grea t
m a s s o f m iddl e a s s peo p e the Vi tori a n tr a ditio n
- -
cl l c
l
s ti l t o o ar e
p pl g ly
re o ndera te s , a nd t he m a te d
pa ir .

b o re o r dea den e a ch
o ther du rin
g t h e da i ro u t ine ly .

v y h h
T o a er t o ug tful o up e om a e k no n, c l wh Ihv w
so
p c
re io u s w a s t he s ens e o f ro m a n t i
j o
y i n o ne c
h h hy
a no t er t a t t e v e ndea o u red t o by er et u a t e i t
p p
lv g h
i in in diff ere nt o u s e s .

ch
Su h wv
a m e a s u re , ol k ly
e er, i s n o t i e t o s u i t m a ny
“

l c l ly h
ar t i u arh ch
w ere t ere are il dr en "
‘

p peo e,
p et .

v w h b ly
e en it o u t o di wh ch lw y
s e a ra t i o n
p ( i mu s t a a s
l x
e nta i e
p
.
ens ey ) or an m eas ur e o f free do m no t a t
‘

v y c
e er o ne s
’
ch
o m m a nd, m u h
ca n be do n e t o r e ta in t a t

l
p wh ch l
s e ns e o f s iri tu a fr e edo m in ll i a o ne t he fu
j y
o
o f l o v in
g x c
u nio n ca n be e
p erien ed .

v lc l l
B u t e en intel e tua a nd s pirit u a fr eedo m is o fte n
bl
r endered im o s s i
p p g
e in res ent da
y m arria e -
.

b l l y wh ch
The ea u t ifu des ire fo r idea u nit i is s o
“

g
s tro n h g lc
in m o s t ear ts is p erha ps the ori ina a u s e o f
g
o ne o f the m o s t dea de nin yfea t ur es in ma n marriage s .

v l y
I n the e ndea o ur to a t ta in the idea u ni t , o ne o r ‘

o ther
p c c ly
a rtner c
o ns io u s ly
o r u n o nsc io u s imp os es -
94 Marri ed L o ve
his or ll fi
her w i a nd o pinio n s rs t upo n t he w ife o r
h b h
u s a nd, a nd t en u po n t he ch l
i dren a s t e h yg w
ro up .

y cl l
T he t pi a s e f o pinio na ted ma e
-
i l wh ch h c
t is o ur s e
vl
de e ops , wh l bj c l
i e a s u e t fo r a u ter in p a s a nd gh ly
v l l gh wh ch h
no e s , a au te r i x
as tens hi s e term ina t io n, i s

y et by x c
no mea ns e t in t lI n his es s e a
. x gg
era te d fo rm

su ch a man ma
y o f ten be a n idea is t, bu t he isl
lly
e s s en t ia l w
a n idea is t o f na rro v
is io n T he pea e,
. c
y
t he u nit , for wh ch c vi he ra e s is s uperfi ia c lly
a tt a ined

k c y h h
bu t it ta es a u ter e es t a n his t o s ee t a t it is a tta ined
‘

no t by h a rm o nio u s l
interming in , bu t g by
s u er
p
p c
o s itio n a nd des tru t ion .

I hv k w a e c
no n a ro ma nt i h y
ma n o f t is t pe,
a
pp ly w
arent h c ch g
u na a re t a t he w a s e n ro a in u o n his
p
w l y v
ife s pers o na it , who y e t e ndea o ured no t o n
’
ly to
ch o o s e herb k o o s a nd her frie nds fo r her, bu t
pro

hibite d b y g
her fro m u in the da i ly w n e s a er to
p p
wh ch i b
s he ha d cc
ee n a y b
us to me d for ears efore her
g y g h w
marria e, s a in t a t o ne ne s paper w a s e no u gh fo r
h b h
t em o t , a nd bl ly a nd c h k
igno rin the fa t t a t he to o
'

w h h bf
it it him o u t o f the o u s e e ore s he ha d a n o ppo r
g Th
t u nity o f rea din i t . h l
is m a n po s ed to im s e f m ore
succ lly h
es s fu -
h ly
t a n t o o t ers , no t o n c
a s a r o ma n t i

lh b h
ma n, bu t a s a mo de u s a nd ;a nd he re pro ac ed his
w c
ife for j eOpardis ing their perfe t u nit
‘
y wh v ene er s he

acc v wh ch
e pt ed a n in ita t io n in cl
i he wa s no t in u ded .

h h h
O n the o t er a nd, in o mes wh v w
ere t he a o ed

ll c
des ire is for the mo dern freedo m o f inte e tual ife l
b h h v y q ly b ck g
fo r o t par tners , t ere is er fre u ent a i erin ,
h
a s ens e o f dis arm o n y h l
a nd u nre s t t a t dis e s the
p
p c
ea e a nd t he a ir o f res tfu l c wh ch
s e uri t
y i is a n
l h
e s s e nt ia fea tu re o f a tru e o me .

c l h g w l
I t is o ne o f the m o s t diffi u t t in s in the o r d
l
fo r two peo p e o f diff erent o pinio ns to re tain t eir h
96 Ma rri ed Lo ve
dema ndin a t the g mo t
s a bla nd h
u m o u rin ene a t gb h
k
the indes t s m i e s l .

v bl
E en fro m the no es t man, the o ma n o f s ens iti e w v
p ers o na it l y
t o da -

y f l c
ee s a n u nder urrent a s o f s ur

p ri s ed c g l
o n ra tu a t io n wh
en s he ha s a n t in yh g
to s a y
h
w o r t his s eri o us a t ten t io n o u ts ide t a t depa r tment o f h
l bl g
ife s u ppo s ed to e o n to her s
p ere
”
h Th
u s ma n
.

b
ro s his w l
e dded s e f o f a g
rea t ne s s i wh ch
t he dua
'

l
u n it y m i t rea gh ch .

g l
B u t in m a rria e the mu tua free do m a nd re s pe t fo r c
v lly
o inio n, i ta
p im p h gh
or ta nt t o u i t b e , is n o t s u fli cie n t

ll v l
for the fu de e o pm en t o f ch c a ra ter L ife dema nds
.

e erv w -
g
ideni n 1n teres t s Ow g ly in pa rt to the differe n
.

t ia tio n o f m a n y y v l
t p es o f indi idu a s due t o t he

p c l
s e ia is a t io n o f cvl i i i wh ch
s a tio n, i h hi n t ere s t s t o ug t

v l ly
f ul indi idu a s , and pa rt to the tra ns mu ta t io n o f his
vg c c
o ld a ra nt in s t in t , m a n in reas in gly ch de s ires to to u
l lv
a nd to rea is e the i e s o f his fe o ll w lv s I n the i e s o f
.

h
o t ers o u r h e a rt s a nd u nders ta ndin s m a
g y fi nd
p er

p v g
e tu a l a d entu res int o the new a nd s tra n e .

I v l h
ndi idu a b g v
u ma n bl
e in s , e en t he no es t a nd

c lx v lv h v h
m o s t o mp e y e t e o ed, a e bu t a s are o f t he
innumera e fa u tie s o f t he ra e H e n e e en in a
bl c l c c v .

s u re m e
p ly h y
"
a
pp m g wh ch ch
a rria e, i t o u es ,
a s d o e s t he

y c l
m s t i in his rap tures , a rea is a tio n o f the wh l o e

v
u ni ers e, t er eh c l
a nno t l ie the w hol e o f ife s ex
’

perience O . c l lv
u t s ide t he a t u a h
i es o f the pa ir t ere
lw y y y h gh
mu s t a a s be ma n t pe s o f t o u t a nd ma n ,
y
p l
o t e ntia it ies wh ch i ly
ca n o n l b e r e lv
a i s e d i n t he i e s

h
of o t er peo p e l .

c l h l g
I n the o mp ete u ma n re a tio n fr iends o f a ll ra des
a re needed, a s w ll e M
a s a m a te g h wv arria e,
. o e er,
c l
in it s pres ent fo rm is t o o o ft en m a de t o urta i the
j y
e n o ment o f int ima te fr iends i s h p T h e rea s o n fo r
.
 S o c i e ty 97
t h i i p tly t h
s s ci l tiqu tte wh ich th ugh di
ar e so a e e , ,
o s

c ded in the hi h t l v l f ci ty till l inge in

ar so e s rs

f inviting th hu b nd nd the w if
es e e s o ,

m ny c i cle
a r s, o e s a a e

t g th
o eu
p n ll
er c i l cc o i n I tai t ue th t th y
so a o as o s . s r a e

t ed t t h dinn t bl but t h y e lw y er e, e ar a a s
a re s e
p a ra a e a

with in th p s ib ility f e h t f e ch the wh ich

o s o ea r s o o a o r,

v ry o ften de den th i p t nti liti f b ing nt

e a s e r o e a es or e e er

t ining
a Th m . f c t f b ing v h
e ere d epe tinga o e o er ea r r a

so m e th in g ne m y h v ol dy id l whe i a a e a rea sa e se re s

u ff c i nt t v nt s m e l f m t ll ing t h i e ro e e r
s i e
p o
p p re e o e o

b t t i
es f m ex p
s or e s , or ing t h i e l v i w s up n
ro re s s e r r a e o

impor ta n t m a tters .

ll
A nd, s ti mo re s erio u s arrier to j o y, s o primiti e , b v
so l l v lv
itt e e o e d a re w e e e n y e t, t ere i s in mo s t v h
h b g
u ma n ein s a s tro n s tr ea o f s ex ea o u s g Fo r k -
j l y .

h
e it er m a t e t o be all o w e d t o c c
‘

o o u t u n ri t i is ed in to
g
the w l or d, i s to dem a nd, i f no t m ore t a n t he o t er h h
is w ll g g v
i in t o i e, a t ea s t a m ea s ur e o f tru s t l i wh ch
by y
it s ra rit a ppea rs no a da s a s s o m e t in co n w y h g
s icu o u s l fi ne
p y .

J ea o u s ,l y wh ch
i is o ne o f the mo s t fr e u e n t q
s ha do w s cas t by
t he bl gh
i t o f o e, is er a pt t o l v v y
wh ch k ll
l

s o w a dis tru s t in o n e i m a e s a norma ife for

h
the o t er pa r tner i m po s s i ebl .

h
I t i s ard t o s a y i n wh ch i s ex t he fe e in i s m o re l g
s tro n
g dly v l
e e o ed
p I t kt a e s s e ia
p fo rm
. s u n der c l
c c c
diff ere nt ir u m s ta n es , a nd if a n a t ure is pre dis po s e d
w
t o ards i t, i t i s o ne o f t he m o s t diffi u t a ra t eris t i s c l ch c c
t o era di a te c .

C g
u s to m , and enera t io ns o f t ra dit io ns , s eem t o

hv c
a e im rint e d o n o ur ra e t he fa s e ide a t a t m a ri ta
p l h l
fi l y gh
de it is to be s tren t ened o er i e o n ds We by c c v b .

l wly g w g
are s o ro in o u t o f this , a nd n o a da s in w y
b k gv g vc
m o s t o o s i in a d i e t o o u n i es t ere i s a y g wv h
H 2
98 M a rri e d L o ve
se c tion t llinge t h em t h t
a m n h o ul d
a a s be a ll w
o e d
his m en fr ie nds a fter marria ge .

h gh Th
B u t t is is no t e no u h l . c l
ere s o u d be o m
p e te

q g
a nd u n u e s t io n in b h
t ru s t o n o t s ide s T he ma n a nd
.

the w h l ch
o m a n s o u d ea ch ll g by
be fre e to go u n a en ed
h gh
a t ou l y xc
t o n s o it a r e v w k
u r s io n s , o r o n is i t s , e e
e n ds o r w lk g a w h
in t o urs , bl y
it o u t the po s s i i it o f a
b h j l y
re a t of ea ou s o r s u s icio n s rin in
p p g g p
‘

u in t he

h h
e ar t o f o ne o r t he o t er .

h y y
I t is true t a t m a n na ture s a re no t y e t rea d for
su ch gh b
tru s t, a nd m i ch
t a us e s u freedo m B u t the .

b w ll lw y
a s er na tu res h y
i a a s find a m e t o d o f g ra tif ing
h l k ly
t eir de s ires , a nd a re no t i e t o e rr m o re in tru s t
h
fr eedo m t a n t e hy w l v bly h v
o u d i n e i ta
“

a e do ne
h h c g hl j l b g
t ro u g s e re t int ri u e s if e d in ea o u s o nda e .

Wh l h h ly
i e , o n the o t er a nd, it i s o n h in the fre s
ll
u ns u ied a ir o f s u ch h ll
freedo m t a t the fu e s t a nd
c l v vl
m o s t perfe t o e ca n de e o p I n the marria e re ag l
.

ly
t io n i t is s u pre m e h ly by l
tr u e t a t o n g o os enin the
b b
o nds ca n o ne h l bly g h
ind tw o ea rt s indis s o u to e t er .

Wh h y e nt e hy c lly
a re s o m et im e s
p si a a a rt m arrie d
p
l v
o er s a tt a in the cl l
o s es t s iri tu a
p w h
u n ion F or it
—
.

v
s ens i t i e s ir it s
p hy
a nd t e ly
a re t he o n o ne s w ho
k wno h h
the ig es t pinna e s o f o e—perio ds of
cl l v
p l vv y g
s e a ra t io n a nd s o i tude ca n be re i if in a nd te
cre a t 1v e .

h l h
8 0 gre a t is the u ma n s o u t a t s o me o f its ea u t b y
h
is idden by
nea rnes s : i t nee ds dis ta n e e t ee n i t c b w
a nd the bh l
e o der to be p er ei e d in i t s tc v
rue

er s e ti e
p p c v .

l b
T o t he rea is a tio n o f the ea u t a nd the en o me nt y j y
l
o f s o it u de, w
o m a n in g l
e nera t e nds t o be e s s a a e l wk
h
t an ma n . Th h
i s , per a ps , is du e t o the innum era e bl
ge nera t io n s du rin i g wh ch
t he a im s o f her cl hi dren c l
1 00 Ma rri e d LO VC
T h A m ic e w m wi h h j ym f g
er an o a n, l ib y t t e en o e nt o rea t er ert ,

has m d a pp e ch an w d ah dro a d f p f toi l ar t e s t an ar s o ro e ss o n a

sc h l hip d m i divid l
o a rs an d so h v y e
p i n hi ua s s t a n at t e er to n t e r

iv i y d x mi bl w i h h
,

un ers t di stu i es Th an e a na t o n s . e t ro u e t t es e

c i h hy
a s es s t i h
at w p
t ew y da re g l f d by
e t h
er s e t a a an en u e t e

m d o ern s
y m f m i ge
ste fi d h m lv
o xl ddi m
a rr a , or n t e se es e c u e n so e

in tan gibl w y f m e ci i w i h m i h f ll
a ro a s so at on t en n t e u es t s ens e ,

an d cno p hi l
a reer o en t o t e r t a en t s .

H e es cl ly t h t t h i i bu t p s ing ph e in
se ea r a s s a as as

th dev l pm nt
e e of u c i ty nd h dv c t
e o o r so e ,
a e a o a es a

wider c p f th pl y f m i d w men p w
s o e or e a o a rr e o
’
s o ers .

T h p c ic e f ra cc p i l c ivi y f h w ch i g
t e o an o u a t o na a t t o er o n oos n ,

an d g a i d w d hi
en ero us a t t t u h p f h m e to w ld
ar s t s on t e art o t e a n, ou

c ib
o nt r ut e li v h to i d m k
re e m i g e t m e s t ra n an a e a rr a e ore

f q ly cc f l
re ue n t su ess u .

When w m n n tur lly d v l p th power l tent

o a a a e e o s e s a

w it h in he m n w ill find t hi r, ide n t nly m t

a a s s o o a a e,

free a nd t ng bu t s rod i bl f iend nd n int l

, a e s ra e r a a e

lec tu l c m de a o ra .

T he des i f f ed m b o th f
re h
or
p y ic a l a nd
re o ,
or s

m nt l expl r ti n nd f
e a xp ienc ut id th
o a o a or e er es o s e e

s a rec d encl u f th h m m y t fi t igh t p os re o e o e, a a rs s a

ea r t b e c nfl ic ting
o n d nt i o ly i n c m t ibl w i t h e re
p p e a o a

t h id l f cl o
e ea nd m
o
p f c t u nity b tw
s er a n t h o re er e e ee e

m i d p
a rr e B u t t h i c o nfl ic t i
a 1r . nly
pp e n t s s o a ar ,

t h u gh it i t u
o t h t m t w i te s h a v
s r ef il d t a os r r e a e o

rea li thi C n equ ntly in s me c ti ns f th

se s . o s e o se o o e

w iting nd t ch ing f th dv nced ch l th

r a ea o e a a s oo s er e

a er cl im s nly f inc ed f d m —f e d m t
“

a o or rea s r ee o a r e o o

w nde t will— f d m in wh ich the wande e d s

a r a a r ee o r r oe

n t retu rn t hi fix d c entr
o o s e e .

O n th t h e h nd t h e e
e o t h e wh r e l is e
a in r a re os o r a
p r

ci
p yll a t h b u ty fe m i ed u n
eai t y n d co n nt t o a rr ,
a , ce ra

ing o n th d m nd f ethe u n i ty nd x t m t
e a or a e re es

t b il it y o n th p t o f the m rried a i re v ery

s a e
p ar
pt a r, a a
 So c 1ety 101

to i gno re the enri ch ing

fl ow o f a ide ife s e xperi w l ’

ences Th y . e l
try to da m up t he fer ti is in t ide o f ife , l g
a nd t hu th gh h y
s, c c ou wh h
t e a re u n o ns io u s o f at t e
y
ar e d ing t h o c e
y ch
t b
end t o redu e the ri nes s a nd ea u ty -

o f m r i ge a r a .

It i f t he y ou ng p pl e
s or f t h new gene ti n eo o e ra o

t o li th t the tw cu en t f l ngin wh ich

rea se a o rr s o o

n t h m— th
“

ing u w i t h i l ng ing f ll l if e e o or a e
s
p r
p
e xp i nce nd th l nging f
er e a cl s e u ni n withe o or a o o a

l if l ng m te — n t inc mp tibl bu t
_

e o a a re c tu lly o o a e, a re a a

b th enti l p t f th m p f ct nd fulle
o es s a ar s o e ore er e a r

b eau ty f th fu tu th t l eady k t find it

o e re a a r s ee s o s

e xp i n in th i live
re s s o e r s .

Ell n e L v nd M g e m t fo e a a rri a e s e s o ea r

th w id ning
e f th m i d w m n l if
e o nd h e a rr e o a
’
s e, a s e

w itr t h u gh t h
es a s
p i ti n t d p f
o i n l nd e as ra o o o ro es s o a a

int ll c tu l w k f h igh der mu t dw f nd " '

e e a or o a or s ar a

t il i
s er the m t h e in t he m
se i dw m n o r a rr e o a .

She w it f m e n th ly p pl th Sc ndin
r es o a or or er eo e, e a a

vi n nd it m y b t u f h c u ntryw m en I d
a s, a a e r e o er o o , o

n t kn w
o B u t it is n t
o . n t i lly n d u niv e s lly o es s e a a r a

t u r eI am w iting f th Engli h,the Engli h f

. r o e s s o

t d y nd t h u gh w l h v m ng u t h t
’

o -
a , a o e a so a e a o s a

dw f d nd t il i ed ty p
ar e a f w m n h f m s in
s er s e o o a , s e or

o u c mm u ni t y
r o dwindl ing m in ity T h m j ity a or . e a or

o f u b t w m n ent m ri g e nd m th e h d
o r es o e er ar a a o r oo ,

or e s e l l ng f m
o i g m e b u tiful th n the
or a a rr a e or ea a

w ped m ck y f it th t i ff d th m
ar
“

o er o a s o ere e .

As M Stet n s y ( W m n nd Ec n m ic
rs . so a s
“
o e a o o s

I h p im l p hy ic l f c i
n t e r f m
a i y h shm a un t o ns o a t ern t t e u an

fml c
e a e h w h h pp d p ci l i i
a nn o t s o h
t at er su o se s e a sat o n to t es e

uses h imp v d h
as f lfil m f h m
ro e h h pp i er u e nt o t e , ra t er t e o os t e

f ly h h m m h mi gl i h l
.

Th m e ore ree t e u an ot er n es n t e na t ura

i d n i f h m
us t r e s o c i
a h c u f h vg wm
an rea t ure , a s n t e as e o t e sa a e o a n,
i 02 Ma rri ed Lo v e
th p e w m
ea s a nt h w ki g w m o v y w h r wh i
a n, t e or n o an e er e e o s no t

ov w k d h m igh ly h f lfil h f c i
er or e t e o re r t s e u s t ese un t o ns .

b l ly h w m i g g d f i
,

Th m e o re a s o ut e t e o an s s e re a t e t o s ex -
un c t o ns

on ly ff f m al l c
c ut o m ic ro d m d wh ll y d p d e o no us e a n a e o e en en t

l i f l iv l ih d h m p h l gic l
,

on t h m
e s ex re a t o n a s
-
ea n s o a e oo , t e o re at o o a

d o es h m h h d b c m
er ot Th v d v l pm
er oo f
e o e. e o er -
e e o e nt o s ex

c d by h c mic d p d c
a us e er e o n o h m l c fv e en en e o n t e a e rea t s un a o ur

ably h on i l d i Sh i
er es s e n t a fml f h p fc ut es . e s too e a e or t e er e t

m h h d"ot er oo

T he m j o ity f u y u ng wo m en I m c na r o o r o , a o

v inc d h v e i n t h em t h p t n t i l i t y f
,
a e fu ll nd e o e a o a a

erfec ted l v e S o t h v
o th m j i ty f u oo, a e e a or o o r
p .
,

u ng m n F t he b e t ty p o f y u n g m n t d y
or es e o a o a
y o -

i t i ed f p ly g my ; h h
s r o en
o n u gh in hia e as se e o s

f t h er
a nd f iend
’
s l iv f th we in s f th
a r s
’
es o e ar e s o e

in is t s ec e t lyg m y t h at rh id i t l fo nd t es se ro s
s er,
p a ,
a

the r c e u nde th p tec ting cl o k

a r f t h u pp ed
e ro a o e s os

m n g my o f o u s ci l ys t m
o o a r o a s e .

B ut t h ing e t ent in Engl nd the y u ng

s ar re s o
as p a a ,

m n wh m r ie h o wev m u ch he m y be in l ve
a o a r s, er a o ,

i g ener lly t
s ig n
a nt
( s h b oo n indic ted in the ora a as ee a

p rec eding ch
p ter
) t g iv e hi wa ife l l h er n tu e
s o s a a r

re qu i Th n
re s n . l t com th s quenc
e ,
s oo er o r a er, es e e e

o f di pp in tment wh ich c u l min te in the l ng ing

sa o s a o

f or a f s h dv ntu e
re a e r .

A ne y u ng h u b n d
s o id t m
o A dec nt m n s a sa o e,
“
e a

c n t go n h ving u ni n with hi w if when h

a
’
o a o s s e s e

o bvi u ly do e no t enj y th em nd h is fo ced

o s s o ,
a so e r

t o
g e l ewh ere
o
”
A nd t h ey c ll u
s
p o lyg
. mi t " ‘f
a s a s s

W e re n t p lyg m i t ny l nge B u t m ri g i
a o o a s s a o r . ar a e s

r t ten f il u w hi verdic t
”
a o a re, as s .

N Th ey e n t p lyg m i t th fi n t y u ng
o . ar o o a s s, e es o

m n f the p ent nd f t h fu tu
e o re s M tm nt a o e re . os e o

d y a e n t in t h e i
ar h e t f h t p lyg m i t in
o r ar o ea r s o a s s,
s
p it f l l t he u twa d s ig ns t the c o nt a y ;in s pite
e o a o r o r r
1 04 Marri e d L o ve
l
e em ent w ih ch i n s ot
p ly phy ic l
u re nd w hich s a , a

is o ften l ck ing in
a t he wif l ti n with he e 3
’
re a o r

hus b nd a , a n l em en t
e of ch rm nd mu tu l g iety in
a a a a

p l e u e
as r .

I f g o d w m en re l i d th is wh ile t hey w u l d
o o a se ,
o

j udge nd ende v u t lim in te p o s t tu ti n n

a a o r o e a r i o o

le t nu u ly th y m igh t be n b tt p it n t
s s s re o s ,
e i a e er os io o

b egin thei ff t t f ee m n f m the h ld th tr e or s o r e ro o a

so ci l di e h up n them
a s as e as o .

It e h p im i bl t rfind th b eg inning f oss e o e o a

p p
13 a s

vic i u s ci cl bu t th fi t t p u t f t mu s t b th
o r e, e rs s e o o i e e

e li
r a ti n th t n i w it h in t
sa o nd th a l i ti n f
o e s i ,
a e rea sa o o

so m t ny
e, a t f i t c m p nent p t
a ra e , o s o o ar s .

M n th u gh p u d y th u gh the cu t m f
a , ro r er ,
ro s o o

ign ing th w m n
or id f m e g nd c ns ider
o a
’
3 s e o a rr 1a e a o

n hi w n wh im s o m i g l w h s l g ly l st as a rr a e a a ar e o
1
g ,

th t f t i ing
e ar ch t p tn t phy ic l l v
o s rr a as e ar er o s a o e .

H e t h ef dep iv e he
er f gl m u the l s s f
o re r s r o a a o r, o o

wh ich h d pl f h f l
e el ck n t nly f
ores , or e ee s a a o o o

ro m nc nd b e u t y bu t
e a f m thin h igh a wh ich o so e er
a
g ,

i m y t ic lly g iv n s th
s s a su lt f t h c mpl te e a e re o e o e

u ni n o H bl m hi w ife
. c ldn
e a in te d fes s
’
s o es s s a o

hi s wn w n t f
o t Th n he ek l ewh e f
a o ar . e se s e s er or

t h t h in g he c u l d h v g iv en him h d h k n wn
“

e s s o a e a e o

h w to w in t h m And h k n wing t h t the h in

o e . s e, o a s r e

h s b een d
a c ted i fill d with righ te u indign
es e ra ,
s e o s a

t io n t h o u gh g ne lly blind h t t he t ru e
“

,
e ra as as e is o

c u e f wh t h s ccu ed
a s o a a o rr .

M nif ld nd f r re ch ing infl uenc ing the wh l

a o a a -
a , o e

s tru c tu e f ciety n t nly n this cou nt y but n

r o so o o 1 r ,
i

e ve y c u ntry nd t eve y t im e h ve b en the

r o a a r ,
a e

infl u enc e wh ich h ve gr wn u p f m the o ot f ll c y

s a o ro r -
a a

in t he m i g l tion a rr a e re a .

Th en the e 8 no ther cau e f the dulling fr 1 a s or o a

 S o c ie t y I 05

wif e s
’
b igh t ch
r m — her inferior po s i tio n in t he e y es
ar

o f the la w I t is indeed a s erio u s m a t ter, a s J ea n

.

F ino t s a ys , tha t, under pres ent co ndition s , the

m is tre s s k eeps c erta in l ib er ties wh ich a re den ied to
ma rried wo m en ”
.

T he pa s t a nd its h is tory h a ve b een s tu died by ma ny,

a nd w e m a y l ea v e i t Wh a t co ncerns the pres ent
.

enera t io n o f y o u ng m a rried pe o p le is t o da y a nd the

'

g
-

futu re T he future is full o f h o pe Alr ea dy o ne s ee s

. .

b ginning t g w u p
e o ro l
a n ew re a t o n s i h ip b tw e een the
u n 1 t s co m o s m s o c1 e ty
p g .

I n the no es t s o ie tbl c y l v w ll h l w y
o e i o d s a T he .

l v
o e o f m a te s w ll lw y l
i a a s be t he s u prem e s t ife experi
'

c
en e, bu t it wl l g x c xcl v
i l no o n er be a n e perien e e u s i e
a nd wa r ed
p .
”

l v
The o e o f f riends a nd ch l c
i dren, o f o mra des a nd
fe o ll w w k
-
w ll
o r er s , v vl v y w
i bu t s er e to de e o p e er po er
o f t he tw o w ho a re m a t es By gl g g
m in in the re a tnes s
.

h v l hy
o f t e ir in di idu a s ta tu re t e ch v g h
ca n a ie e t o et er
s o m e thin g h b h
t a t , ha d o t h b
o r e i t erw e e n d arfe d a nd
‘

p u n y i n dv l w l hv
i id u a s, ou d v
a e r em a ine d fo r e er

u na tta ina bl e .

The wh l v l h
o e tren d o f t he e o u tio n o f c y u ma n s o ie t
b w c c h c
ha s een to ard a n in rea s e d o eren e o f a ll its part s ,
l
u n t i a t t he
p y l
re s en t t im e i t i s a lre a d bl
a mo s t
p o s s i e

h c y c ll
t o s a y t a t the o m m u n it ha s a n a tu a l ife o n a p a ne
b v h v l c
a o e t a t o f a ll the indi idu a s g h
o m o s in
p it : t a t
c y c
the o mmu nit , in fa t, is a s u per en t it y h gh I t i s t ro u
-
.
‘

c y h b g
the o mmu nit o f u m a n ein s , a n d n o t in o u r indi
v l lv h
idu a i e s , t a t we r ea ch l a n u t im a tec p erma nen e
u o n t is
p h gl b o e .

Wh l
en o u r re a tio n t o t he c y ly
o mmu ni t is ful
l
rea is ed, i t w ll h h lh h
i be s een t a t the ea t , the a ppine s s ,
a nd the c q
o ns e u ent w p o e v y
r s o f e er v l in d i idu a , co n
 1 06 Marri e d L o v e
c n n t nly hi wn l if bu t l ff ec t th wh l
er o o s o e, a so a e o e

c mmu nity f wh ich he is memb er.

o o a

T h h ppine e f p rf c t m
a i ge W h ich en
ss o a e e a rr a , .

h nce th vit lity f the p v te l if nd

a s e a ne n to ri a e , re er s o o

o nly c p bl e f dding t th s t m f th l ife bl o d

a a o a o e rea o e -
o

o f the c m mu nity in ch il d en bu t by m
o i ge n i r ,
a rr a o e s

l
a s o re n d ed fi tte nd m re perf c t in t um ent f
er a r a o e s r or

o ne wn p ticu l w k t he e u l t of wh ich h u l d
’
s o ar ar or ,
r s s s o

be h d by
s ci ty
a re wh l nd in th t mp ring
so e as a o e, a e e e

a nd fi ni h ing f wh ich
s c i ty pl y p t o so e a s a ar .

Th us it i th c nc n f the wh o l c mmu nity

s e o er o .
e o

t h t m ri g h u ld b
ar a
p f cet n d
s h en c
o e e as er e
'

a ,
a as

j y ou
o
po ibl e;
s, as t h t t h p w ers wh ich
ss h u l d so a e o s o

b e t f ee nd c e t d f r the pu p
e s r a f the wh l
r a e o r ose o o e

c mm u nity h u ld n t b f itte d w y in the u ele

o s o o e r re a a s ss

l nging nd di pp intm ent ngend red by ign

o -
a sa o e e or

a nc n e,w t icti n nd l w id l
a rro re s r o s, a o ea s .

I n th w l d th h ppily m t d p i h u l d be l ik
e or e a a e a r s o e

a g eat nd b u tiful l igh t ; l igh t n t hid u nde

r a ea a o r a

b u h l bu t n wh e b e m s s hine through the l ive

s e ,
o e os a s

o f ll a r u nd th m
a o e .
 1 08 Ma rri e d L o v e
Ell i x pr s th t ng m y t y f ne f th
s e es e s e s ra e s er o o o e

p hy ic l sid a f l v e wh n h
s es o y o e e sa s

Wh h l w y b ffl d m i h c mpl i f x l
at as a a s a e en n t e o nt e a t on o s e ua

lv i h
o e s mi g i d q cy
t e s ee f i c n h im m na e ua o ts a us e , t e e ns e

di c p cy b w
s re an h c ily ci c m c ib d gi
et een t e f n e e s s ar r u s r e re o ns o

m c m mb
u o us w h ich i
e h fi l g l f
ra n e ch l v d h s t e na oa o su o e an t e

s ea of w l d m b ci g m i or -
e w hich i
ra m h d n e o t o ns t o t s ee s t e o o r, s o

th R my d G
at , a s em h id h m c
e o urm mb o nt as s a ,
t e u o us e ra ne s,

by i ff bl m y e y
an ne acl i h i b c f l d l l th
e st r en os e n t e r o s ure o s a e

hi k
,

ich f h i fi i y b f w h ich h
”
r es o t I i e my n n te t s a s t er e ore t e t n er

l ik v c m
.

an d h t i e a rt s t a re a e o er o e .

T m h w ev o e, t he r c nt di c v r
o f phy i
er, e e s o e 1es o s o

l gy e m t ff d k ey wh ich m y u nl ck ch mb r
o s e o a or a a o a a e

o f th m y t y nd dm it u t
e s er ne f the h ll
a fa s o o o a s o

th p l ce f t u th The h rm n
a a e o
( p
r e g e 61, ) i n o o es se a

ea ch individu l b dy p u f m n g n nd ff c t a o o r ro o e or a a a e

an th o nd t h u s infl u
er, a e nc e th wh l ch c te f th e o e a ra r o e

indiv idu l lif p ce ea

’
s T h v i ible c e ti n
ro ss s . e s e se r o s

and t h m t u b tl
e osnc e wh ich s
p s du ing u ni ne es s e s a s r o

b twe n m n nd w m n ff c t th l iv f e ch nd
e e a a o a ,
a e e es o a a

are e s s e nt i lly v it l t ch ther A s I

a t h em the
a o ea o . s ee ,

m n nd t h w m n
a a ch o g n p rt f th
e o a a re e a r a s, a s, o e

th A nd in the s t ic t t c i ntifi w ll in “

o er . r es s e c, a s e as a

m y t ic l s e n e t h y t g t h
s a ,
s
e ingl u nit
e n o e er a r a s e ,
a

indiv idu l ntit y Th a i e p yh i l g i l

. w ll er e s a s o o ca as e as

i i tu l t u th in th
r w d s
r t h y t w i n h ll b e or e a s a e
a
p s a

n fl h ”
o e es .

I n l v it i n t nly t h at th y
o e s n ing o f t he b nd
o e ear o o s

o f ffi nity t b
a t i fi d i m t by t h l ink ing w ith
o e sa s e s e e

an th e o bu t t h t u t f t h i u ni n t h e e g w s new
r, a o o s o r ro a

and u n
p c d nt d c re e t i n e e rea o .

I n th i I m n t p k ing f the b o dily ch il d wh ich

s a o s ea o

i ng f m t h l v e f i t p nt b ut f t h
o u e
p o s a re o e s r
s
p r s ro e s, .

hy c l e nt i t y c t ed by t h p f c t u nion i n l v
'

p i s a rea e er e o e

o f m n nd w om n T o g ethe u nited by t he l v e
a a a . r, o
 T he G l o ri o u s Unfo l di ng 1 09

b nd wh ich h ld th m th ey ar n w nd wond u
o s o e ,
e a e a ro s

t h ing urp sing nd diff as s nt f m th ar it hme tic l

,
a e re ro ,
e a

s um f t h em b t h wh en p t
o o se a ra e .

S ld m h th p fec ti n o f th is n w c tion
o se o as e er o e rea

b n e xp i n c d t h t w
ee er e t ill f
e ,
h t v en o f
a e a re s ar s or e

i m g ining it f ull p t nt i l iti bu t t h t it mu t h v e

'

a s o e a es , a s a

m igh ty p w s w e dimly o erli r ea se .

Y o uth nd m iden ti ed by t he tt c ti n f
s a a s s rr a ra o o

l v f l h untingly nd in ticu l t ly th t th e i
o e, ee a a ar a e a er s

b f e th m n im men nd b ut iful xpe i nc

e or e a se a ea e r e e

f l s t h ugh in u ni n wi th th b l v d t h
ee a o will b
o e e o e e re e

a dd d p we e f v y
o t wh ich h v n m
rs o e u
er s or a e o ea s re

in t m f the dinary u nm ted l if

er s o or a e .

Th s p ph tic d e m if th y e n t t ue f
e e ro e r a s, e ar o r o

ea ch individu l l ife y t t ru a f t h c ,
wh ol
a re e e o e ra e a s a e .

F in t h d
or m f y u t h to d y i
e rea s o f e h d wing o -
a s a or s a o

o f t he lity f th futu e
rea o e r .

S ccu to m d h v w e c ntly b ec m t cc pt
o a s e a e re e o e o a e

o n e as
p ec t o f g n ic v lu ti n th t w t nd t
or a e o o ,
a e e o s ee

i n y u th nly
o c pitul ti n f u c h i to y
o a re a a o o o r ra e s
’
s r .

T h w ll w n ph
e e -
O nt g ny p t P hyl
or ra s e o e re ea s o
c ny
c h h lped t c nc nt t
as e u t t ntio n n t he
o o e ra e o r a e o

f c t th t the y ung in t hei d v l pm ent in u elv

a a o r e e o ,
o rs es

as in t h n im l e t
a h u gh m ny a s, h e wh icho ro
g p a as s

r es em bl the t g e th u gh wh ich th
s a wh l c
es ro e o e ra e

mu t h v p
s a d in th c u
e as s e f i t ev lu ti n e o rs e o s o o .

Wh ile thi i tru th i n the ch c te is tic

s s e, ere s a o r ar a r

o f y u t h I t i p ph tic "
o : s ro e

T he d e m f y u t h wh ich
r a s ch y u ng h t
o o ,
ea o e ar

ex c t
e s t fu lfill d i n i t w l if em ft n
p o s ee n e s o e, s e so o e

t f d u nful fill d B u t t h t i b ec u
o a e e th w nde fu l
. a s a se e o r

ow f y u th n t l i d w i t h t h c y
p s er o uo
pp e a re n e o s e e s s ar

t l—kn wledg A nd p tenti litie which c uld

oo o e . so o a s, o

h ve w k d mi cl
a or e ll w d t t phy nd di
ra e s , a re a o e o a ro a e .
1 10 M a rried Lo ve
B u t s h u m nity o rient s i t s el f more t uly m re
a a r ,
o

nd m re w ill the k no wl edg e nd e x i nc e f t h er e o e

a o
p a

wh le ce be pl ced t the dis p s l f all y uth

o ra a a o a o o

o n it e nt y int
s l if r o e .

Th en th t glori u s up pring ing f the ci l id l

a o s o ra a ea ,

which find it exp e s i n in e ch u ns p iled g ne tio n

s s r s o a o e ra

o f y o u t h w ill t l s t mee t wi t h
, at e f k no wl dg
a a s or o e e

u ffi c ient fo it needs nd w ill find eady s l ‘

s r s t , a r a a oo

t it s h nd the acc u mul a t d nd ifted wi do m f t he

o a e a s s o

r cea .

Th n y u th will b p r d the blund

e o nd t h e s a e ers a e

in nd t he u nc n c i u l f d t u c t i n t h t t d
p a a e o s o
y s se s r o a o a
- -

l e ve c c ly ny ne unt uch d
a s s ar e a o o e .

I n my o wn l ife c mp a tiv ely h o rt nd t h eref ,

o ar s a o re

l ck ing in expe i nc th ugh it be I h ve k n wn b o th

a r e e o , a o

p er o
s n lly nd va ic i u lya m u ch n g u i h t h
ar oa t m i gh ts so a s

h v b een p evented by k nowledg Th is impel m e

a e r e . s

n t t w it t ill m e xpe ienc e nd

o o a e rch s re co m r a res a e a
y
p let nd m
e, a
y l if e nd v i ta l intere t e f d ing bu t t
a s ar a ,
o

h nd n t nce th e gl nings f wi d m I h v
a o a o os ea o s o a e

a lr dy ccumu l ted wh ich m y h l p th c t u nd

ea a a a e e ra e o er

s at nd i t el f H enc e I c ncl ud t h is l it tl b
s . k f o e e oo ,
o r,

t h ugh i nc mpl t
o i t c n t in
o me f th v it l
e e, o a s so o e a

t h ing y u t h Sh o u ld be t l d
s o o .

I n ll l if ac tivitie h u e b u ilding hu nting o

e a s, o s -

,
r

a n
y t h o wh r i nt ll ec tu l nd
er, e e l t d it i n c em e a a ora ra o o s

in s it do es with the h u m n c
, a in t inc t ”
t end a ra e,
“
s s

t die u t Th u t h h u m n m th e i f
o o . s le s bl e a o r s ar s a e

t m n g he b by W i th u t in t u c t i n t h n i s
o a a e r a t o s r o a a ca

h er k itt ns ; lth u gh th hu m n m th t he b e t
e a o e a o er a r s

h as , in c mp i n with th c t n infinitu d f du tie

o ar s o e a ,
a e o s

t w ard a nd infl u nc e
o , ve he ch il d e s o r, r .

A im il a t u t h h l d in el t i n t m
s r r i g o s r a o o arr a e.

The c en tu y l ng f llo wing o f v ariour -

o c ivilis ed
o
”
s
“
I 12 Ma rried L o v e
E ch p a mu s t u s ing the tend r t and m t
ai r ,
e es os

d l ic te t u ch
e a o u nd n d te t
es , ch ther l arn
so a s ea o , e

ing th ei w y b u t the int ic c i s f each th er

r a a o r a e o o
’
s

h t ear s .

S m t ime with ll th k n wl edge nd th b e t

o e s, a e o a e s

will in the w ld tw wh h v m i d find th t or ,

o o a e a rr e a

t h y c nn t fu
e a t h i l iv e ; f t h i t g edy I h v e n t
o se e r s o s ra a o

h ere a ny thi ng t y ;bu t din y u nh ppine w u l d

o sa _
or ar a ss o

b l e es sf e qu en t th n it i w r the tend n
r a f s e e er es s o

kn w l dg
o e
pp l i d t
e a t h p bl em fe m u tu l a dj u t o e ro o a s

m nt f m th fi t d y f m
e ro e i ge rs a o arr a .

All th d p t nd h igh t f c with in u im p l

e ee es a es o r es s e

u t s v lv n v n bl nd t nde e fo m o f lif
o e o e a e er o er a e r r r e

l ng m n g m y
o o o u a ci l id l Whil th as o r so a ea . e e

t h ugh tfu l
o nd t nderh a rted m u s t e k w it h v ea s ee ,
e er

g e t u nd t nding t s e nd c mfort th wh
r a er ers a ,
o ea a o o se o

mi ss t h i j y ful n tu l dev l pm e nt
s o ef me a in ra e o ,
r or rs

t h i z l for id i u
e r ea mu t n t f ge t the m in
s e -

ss es s o or a

g w th f th t ck T h b e u tiful n fo l v in
ro o e s o . e a se se r o e

th h e tear sf th y u ng h u l d b
o e nc ur
ged nd
o s o e e o a ,
a

th y h u ld h v
e s o cc t th k n wledge f h w t
a e a es s o e o o o o

cu l tiv t it in t d f b ing div t d by th cl m u

“

a e ,
s ea o e er e e a o r

f or f d m t d tr y i t
ree o o es o .

D i illu i n d m iddl g i pt t l k up n th
s s o e e a e s a o oo o e

m t i l id
a er a f th m
s e o i ge l ti n t ei t s o l id a rr a re a o ,
o s ee s

s u f c r a e in the c ld du ll ligh t f v yd y e p i o ,
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