What

Happened
To You?

Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey

Book Club Expectations/Norms
-Be Present - if you are not at home or are attending an event outside of your
home, please do not join the meeting unless you are able to find a private setting
for this hour. Things shared may be confidential and we want to respect everyone’s
thoughts, feelings and emotions.

-Be Prepared - please come to our class with notes ready to discuss and all of the
chapters read in order to get the most out of our time together

-Be Patient - the outcome of this book study is not going to be “another thing to do”
but instead, it’s using a different lens when thinking about others

See below for everything you need to know! Also, please make sure to take a close
look at the section titled "Preparation" to begin thinking about your "why".

What Should I Bring?

Essentially, all you'll need is:

-a notebook or journal

-your book

-your book study guide

-a bottle of water

-something cozy to wear

My Ask of You

This is an intimate setting where private information may be shared. The

expectation is we all respect each other and each other's privacy. Things shared
here, stay here.

PREPARATION

You've already taken the first step by signing up for this book study. What I'd like
you to think about between now and Wednesday is your why. How do you think
reading this book could impact our school and staff? Please see this link.
I encourage you to dig deep. Go down a few layers and then go down some more.
Be vulnerable and real with yourself. Then, grab a notebook or journal you’ll be
using and jot some notes about your thoughts, beliefs, questions, and anything else.
Please bring this journal with you to our first meeting Wednesday, June 15th.
SUMMER BOOK CLUB
June 15th – August 17th- Bi-Weekly on Wednesdays from 10:00am-12:00pm

This book encourages us to look past a one-size-fits-all response to stress, and

start with understanding and empathy to help children grow and succeed.

Book Club Link

Week # Topics/Discussion/Assignments

Due: Discuss Intro and Chapter 1

Workbook pages/numbers: Intro - Number 7

Closing Questions

1
● What will be different now?
June 15th ● What do people intend to try out in their lives?
● How will we support each other in those endeavors?

Notes from Meeting

*Please read Ch.
1/Intro prior to
this date*
For next time:

Brain Organization

Due: Chapters 2 and 3

2 Workbook pages/numbers: Number 8-14

June 29th

3 R’s Pyramid

Notes Here
 Closing Questions

For next time:

ACEs Quiz

-Dosing

-State-Stage Dependence

-Regulate, Relate, Reason

-ACEs Data

July 13th Notes Here

Due: Chapters 4 and 5

Workbook pages/numbers: 15-21

Closing Questions

For next time:

Behavior and Instruction

5 -Feelings/Brain Chemicals

August 10th -Flowchart/Ages/Brain

-Regulation -What do we feel is socially acceptable?

 Due: Chapters 6, 7 and 8

Workbook pages/numbers: 22-31

Closing Questions

For next time:

Nina sent videos separately in email

Due: Chapters 9, 10 and Epilogue

Workbook pages/numbers: 32-39

August 17th Closing Questions

For next time:

Meeting for next steps

“Schools tend to minimize powerful healing and resilience-building activities like

sports, music, and art. These are often viewed as elective or enrichment activities,
when in fact they can be the very bedrock of academic learning, thanks to their
regulatory and relational elements.” (pg. 227)

Concrete ways schools can help traumatized students:

1. Offer Opportunities for Regulation:

• Movement, large – walking dancing, playing sports

• Movement, small – fidget toys, doodling, chewing gum, rocking, tapping

• Arts – playing music, listening to music, drawing, building

• Mindfulness activities
2. Offer Opportunities for Connection:

• Synchronized movement with others – dance, sports, stretching

• Opportunities to participate in celebrations

• Opportunities to share your thoughts

• Relationships with school staff

• Relationships with peers

3. Therapy / therapeutic techniques

• Mental health counseling, following “sequence of engagement”

• Problems of regulating have to be addressed before you can get results with
relational or cognitive therapies

This book encourages us to look past a one-size-fits-all response to stress, and

start with understanding and empathy to help children grow and succeed.