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But let us, forsooth, my philosophic colleagues, hence-
forward guard ourselves more carefully against this my-
thology of dangerous ancient ideas, which has set up a
“pure, will-less, painless, timeless subject of knowledge”;
let us guard ourselves from the tentacles of such contra-
dictory ideas as “pure reason,” “absolute spirituality,”
“knowledge- in-
itself ”:—
in these theories an eye that
cannot be thought of is required to think, an eye which ex
hypothesi has no direction at all, an eye in which the active
and interpreting functions are cramped, are absent; those
functions, I say, by means of which “abstract” seeing first
became seeing something; in these theories consequently
the absurd and the non-sensical is always demanded of
the eye. There is only a seeing from a perspective, only a
“knowing” from a perspective, and the more emotions we
express over a thing, the more eyes, different eyes, we train
on the same thing, the more complete will be our “idea”
of that thing, our “objectivity.” But the elimination of the
will altogether, the switching off of the emotions all and
sundry, granted that we could do so, what! would not that
be called intellectual castration?
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Introduction 1
PA RT I : P E R SP E C T I V E S : W HAT A R E T H EY ?
PA RT I I : HOW T O TA K E
A N O T H E R P O I N T O F V I EW
Notes 249
References 271
Name Index 301
General Index 305
Acknowledgments
This book is the culmination of more than six years’ research, and
many people have contributed to it by discussing my ideas with me.
Of those who have supported my work on the manuscript and offered
invaluable comments, Anthony Jack stands out. We have spent hours
discussing empathy and he has read through the entire manuscript and
commented on it. The book wouldn’t have been the same without him.
Jenefer Robinson is another person whose assistance has been inval-
uable. She has read various versions of the book and helped me think
through many of the difficult issues. At the very end of the process, as
I was grappling with how to illustrate the manuscript, my old friend
Peter Bruce stepped in and provided the beautiful drawings you see
in the book. Thanks, Peter! My PhD student, Kyle Furlane, has been
a great discussant and pointed me to some of the studies I discuss in
Chapter 2. I also benefited greatly from comments on the first part of
the book from a reading group at York University led by Evan Wenstra
and Kristin Andrews. The research group at the Institute for Logic,
Cognition, Language, and Information (ILCLI) at the University of
the Basque Country read through my manuscript in the final stages.
Zvi Biener, Kate Sorrels, Jeanne-Marie Musca, Tom Polger, Valerie
Hardcastle, Larry Jost, Colin Marshall, and Peter Langland-Hassan
read the zygote version of some of those chapters and their reflections
helped guide my writing. Angela Potochnik, Tony Chemero, and
Vanessa Carbonell assisted me greatly by commenting on more mature
chapters. Kyle Snyder provided comments and criticisms that helped
me make the central argument of the book clearer and more focused.
I am grateful to all! Thanks also go to my editor at Oxford, Peter Ohlin,
for pushing me to crystallize my ideas better.
In 2016–17, I was a Taft Center fellow, which allowed me ample time
to develop my ideas in concert with two other fellows, Arya Finkelstein
and Gergana Ivanova. Karsten Stueber visited at the end of the
x Acknowledgments
fellowship and commented on the first half of the manuscript. His wise
input made the book a great deal better than it would otherwise have
been. The Taft Center had already provided invaluable support the pre-
vious year, when it helped finance a visit to Macquarie University in
Sydney. Here, Jeanette Kennett led a seminar, where we discussed early
chapters of the book. I learned much from that.
I have given talks on various parts of this book to audiences of the
ILCLI research group at the University of the Basque Country, the
Center for Philosophy and Psychology at the University of Antwerp,
and the philosophy departments of Indiana University South Bend,
Southern Illinois University, Roskilde University, University of Rijeka,
Macquarie University, University of Memphis, Jadavpur University
in Kolkata, University of Wollongong, Carleton University, Case
Western Reserve University, University of Copenhagen, University
of Manchester, University of Cincinnati, and York University. I am
grateful to the audiences for frank and instructive discussions. During
the summer of 2019, Francesco Orsi organized a summer school at
the University of Tartu in Estonia with Bart Streumer and me. This
gave me a wonderful opportunity to discuss the book with a bunch
of very smart people, and to do so in an idyllic setting. I’ve also bene-
fited from discussions at conferences and workshops, such as those
by the European Philosophical Society for the Study of Emotions; the
European Society for Philosophy and Psychology; the International
Society for Research on Emotions; the Brazilian Society for Analytic
Philosophy; the Workshop on Language, Cognition, and Context; and
a joint workshop between the philosophy departments at University of
Cincinnati and Ohio State University.
Last but not least, I have learned a lot from presenting some of
the materials here at graduate and senior seminars the University
of Cincinnati. At different stages of the book, I also presented the
materials to the Association for the Study of Psychoanalytic Thought
in Cincinnati. I am grateful to the participants for their incisive and
helpful comments and criticisms. Through it all, and particularly
during the trying isolation imposed by Covid-19, my friends, family,
and Crosby kept me sane (assuming, of course, that I [still] am).
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What you’ve got to look at is, what’s in the justice’s heart? What’s their
broader vision of what America should be? Justice Roberts said he
saw himself as an umpire, but the issues that come before the court
are not sport, they’re life and death. And we need somebody who’s
got the heart, the empathy, to recognize what it’s like to be a young
teenage mom, the empathy to understand what it’s like to be poor or
African-American or gay or disabled or old—and that’s the criterion
by which I’ll be selecting my judges.2
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was not improved by the fact that the judge he nominated, Sonia
Sotomayor, had once made comments that, to lawmakers like Mitch
McConnell, suggested she let her personal experiences and ideas in-
fluence her legal judgments. Perhaps most famous is her memorial lec-
ture to UC Berkeley’s School of Law in 2001, where she said:
I would hope that a wise Latina woman with the richness of her
experiences would more often than not reach a better conclusion
than a white male who hasn’t lived that life.3
Sotomayor’s speech stoked the fear that identity politics would inform
her decisions on the Supreme Court. In the minds of many Americans,
particularly right-leaning ones, this implies introducing bias and par-
tiality into an otherwise fair judicial process. As Jeff Sessions insisted:
Judges can’t rely on what’s in their heart. They don’t determine the
law. Congress makes the laws. The job of a judge is to apply the law.
And so it’s not the heart that compels conclusions in cases. It’s the
law. . . . We apply law to facts. We don’t apply feelings to facts.5
What Sotomayor and Minow both recognize is that applying the law
in a perfect, unbiased, almost mechanical way is impossible. Instead,
the impartial application of the law is an ideal we aspire to, and one
that requires extraordinarily hard work to meet. To determine what
crime has been committed, intent and extenuating or aggravating
circumstances must be considered. This is not a mechanical pro-
cedure. Instead, the people in charge of this process, which can de-
stroy lives, are fallible and rely on their own partial experiences,
backgrounds, and concerns. The prejudice against African Americans
in the US legal system is legendary. What may be less known is that
studies in many states have found systematic prejudice in cases
involving women, primarily by male judges and lawyers. In the United
Kingdom, a study found significant correlations between decisions
by jury members and their gender, occupation, and level of educa-
tion. The legal system is anything but unbiased. What is remarkable
is how many people are blind to this fact, including judges and juries
themselves.11
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the case at hand therefore put the judge in a better position to offer
a more impartial ruling. So, contrary to simplistic objections to em-
pathy, empathy never was about embracing another’s point of view as
if it were the unvarnished truth. We empathize to balance our self-care
and self-interest with care for other people’s interests and well-being.
We empathize to transcend our culturally, temporally, and spatially
limited view on the world. What we often don’t realize is how egocen-
tric and narrow our image of the world is. And it therefore seems that
when we empathize with others, it is a way of getting nonobjective in-
formation about them. But our pre-existing ideas and attitudes are al-
ready subjective. As a result, empathy actually makes us less partial and
more objective.
This book aims to correct our mistaken view about what empathy is,
what it does, and why we need it. The first step is to recognize our own
perspectives. This is the topic of Part I. We think of ourselves, explic-
itly or implicitly, as agents who directly apprehend reality. Of course, if
pushed, most of us acknowledge that our own perspective is limited.
But we don’t act as if that were true. We acknowledge pockets of sub-
jectivity amidst an overwhelmingly objective and truthful assessment
of the world, ourselves, and others. We are wrong. Our point of view on
the world reflects who we are. The world is something we inhabit, and
that we use to stay alive and thrive, not primarily one we train a sci-
entific eye on, as I explain in Chapter 2. This is reflected in the way we
regard our own actions compared to how we see actions of people we
have no relation to. We take an agent perspective on ourselves and an
observer perspective on others, as I show in Chapter 3. When we take
another person’s perspective, we no longer view them from the posi-
tion of an observer, which I call “an observer perspective.” Rather than
seeing them from the outside and from a distance, we try to see the
world through their eyes, as if we were them, what I call “an agent per-
spective.” But there is a third type of perspective we can adopt when we
are more intimately enmeshed with other people, which I call “an inter-
personal perspective.” One form of this perspective is seen in conflict
situations, where we find victim and perpetrator perspectives. These
reflect distinctive views on a wrong that express each person’s relation
to it, as I explain in Chapter 4. There is also a more truly enmeshed and
cooperative way of relating to others, which I discuss in Chapter 5. In
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The summer I first started thinking about this book, I went to see
our local Shakespeare Players perform in the park. Okay, so it
was A Midsummer Night’s Dream, which is not one of my favorite
Shakespeare plays—what with all the fairies frolicking about—but it
was a beautiful warm night, and I didn’t have anything else to do. The
play opens with a scene at the palace of the Duke of Athens. Egeus
has arrived to ask the Duke permission to kill his daughter unless
she marries Demetrius, the man he has chosen for her. Hermia, how-
ever, is in love with Lysander, whom she says is just as good a match as
Demetrius. Egeus is not impressed. As his daughter, he insists, she is
to do what he says. Then it happens. Hermia speaks directly to me, in
a manner of speaking. She turns to her father to make one last appeal.
She says: “I would my father look’d but with my eyes” (Act I, Scene I).
As luck would have it, I had just started working on a book on per-
spective taking. What are the chances, I thought? Pretty high, actually.
Once you start looking for examples of perspective taking, you find
them everywhere.
You might think that what Hermia wants is simple. She wants her
father to agree with her. End of story. A friend of mine, who’s a re-
nowned empathy expert, interprets the story this way. I disagree. Of
course, Hermia doesn’t want to die, and she doesn’t want to marry
Demetrius either. But that’s not why she asks her father to see with her
eyes. What she wants is recognition. And through that recognition, she
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hopes to convince her father to let her marry Lysander. What, then, is
recognition? It is best brought out with the Duke of Athens’ reply to
her. “Rather your eyes must with his judgment look” (Act I, Scene I).
Hermia has disappeared as a person in the discussion. She is a thing
to be bartered and controlled. She is an object. And an object has no
point of view or, if it does, it is entirely irrelevant to what we do with
it. By raising her voice and asking her father—whose property she,
technically speaking, is in this society—to take her perspective; she
is showing that she is, in fact, a subject or a person, and that she has
her own way of responding to the world. She has an inner life. She is
a center of conscious experience. What she wants is to be recognized
as such.
Taking Hermia’s point of view on the matter of her marriage would
be an act of recognition. Recognition, however, is not agreement, as we
shall see. But when we successfully take another’s point of view, we em-
body, if even for just a moment, attitudes and thoughts that are closer
to hers than to our own. To see this, let’s see what Egeus says about the
situation (Act I, Scene I):
This passage brings out the first misunderstanding about taking an-
other person’s perspective. It is not simply a matter of thinking about
the other person as having motivations, thoughts, or intentions. It is
not just about ascribing mental states to others, as philosophers say.
Without taking anybody’s perspective other than his own, Egeus
nonetheless succeeds in thinking that Lysander intended to seduce
his daughter and that Hermia has been seduced and is now stubbornly
refusing to do what he wants her to.
Looking over the passage again, it is apparent that his is a very pe-
culiar picture of a love affair: one seen entirely from the perspective
of someone whose plans and projects are thwarted by it. Egeus’s view
of the situation is hardly objective; it is a warped way of seeing things
only in terms of how they affect him. Consequently, the thoughts and
motives he imagines the lovers having are just bizarre. The way he sees
it, Lysander set out to seduce Hermia in the worst sense of that term;
he cunningly filched her heart. Hermia, on her part, is now refusing to
marry Demetrius for reasons that are as bad as Lysander’s ill-advised
seduction: out of stubborn harshness. And though Egeus acknow-
ledges that she is as much a victim of Lysander’s cunning as he is, he
still insists on her untimely death. A more Freudian interpreter might
note that “stubborn harshness” applies as much to Egeus’s own actions
as it does to her unwillingness to yield to his will, if not more so.
Shakespeare invites us to see the situation differently. Lysander
“feigns” love and steals Hermia’s heart by means of various “conceits,”
Egeus says. But why? If Lysander didn’t love her, why fake it? Perhaps
to gain sexual favors. But Lysander intends to marry her. Perhaps he
will gain social advantages he would not otherwise gain by marrying
her? But, if Hermia is right, he is as well placed socially as is Demetrius.
Isn’t, then, the best explanation of why he courts Hermia that he loves
her? The story Egeus tells doesn’t add up. The situation is not much
improved when we focus on his view of Hermia. Is her refusal to marry
Demetrius simply “stubborn harshness”? She is no doubt stubborn, but
she is not only stubborn. She can’t imagine life without Lysander or
being shackled to a man she doesn’t want. Moreover, her father’s insist-
ence that she marry his candidate just because it is his seems inconsid-
erate at the very least. Perhaps it is something like this Hermia wants
her father to see.
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a project for anyone to take on. Chapter 1 takes us through this de-
bate and out the other side. It shows that the current debate involves
a profound misunderstanding of what we are aiming for in adopting
another’s point of view. It is not to become fully identified with that
person. Instead, it is to make sense of them from a standpoint between
ourselves and them. We must use our own knowledge, character, and
inclinations to understand them in their situation. However, we are not
positioned so differently vis-à-vis others as we think. Although there is
a gap between how we think of ourselves and how we think of others,
there is also one between our experiences in the present moment and
our experiences in the past. And they are quite similar. If we can ever
understand ourselves outside the present, we are about to see, we can
also understand others—at least in principle.
the Turks, forget the history of Europe between the years 1602 and
1918, be Miguel Cervantes. Pierre Menard studied this procedure (I
know he attained a relatively accurate command of seventeenth-cen-
tury Spanish) but discarded it as too easy.
The joke, of course, is that the method was thought to be too easy. And
yet recovering the Catholic faith, etc., would only be a fraction of what
it would take to be Cervantes. It is little consolation to point out that
the project is not to become another, but to understand him better by
imagining being him in a particular situation. For if understanding
Cervantes during his writing of Chapter XX of Don Quixote, for ex-
ample, really required imagining having the Catholic faith of the time,
fighting the Moors, forgetting European history between now and
1602, and so on, our task would only be slightly easier—which is to say
that it would be impossible.
The idea that it is ultimately not possible to imaginatively trans-
form oneself enough to imagine being in another person’s situation, as
if one were that person, has weighed heavily on philosophers’ minds.
It is the very same concern that a teenager has when, upon her mother
trying to console her after being jilted by her lover, she maintains
that her mother simply doesn’t understand what it is like to be her.
Although teenagers do lack experience, their ultimate concern is real
enough. Philosopher Peter Goldie puts it this way: People have unique
characters, particular ways of reasoning, certain types of biases, etc.,
many or all of which they remain unaware of, but that nonetheless
affect how they react in a situation. What it is like to imagine living
at the time of Cervantes is very different from how Cervantes ex-
perienced it. He was embedded in a time and a place without much
consideration of this fact. Menard’s simulation, by contrast, would be
based on an extensive reading of history, and would lead to different
reactions to, say, Moors. The hostile attitude of Cervantes is in his
bones; in Menard it is a conscious affectation.4
If we are to have any chance of taking another person’s point of view,
then, we cannot be required to fully imagine being them in their situ-
ation. But then what should we do to make up for the differences be-
tween ourselves and the person we are trying to understand?
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We might get a better sense of why full identification with the person
we are trying to understand is not simply impossible but also unde-
sirable by looking at another fictional example. In Lars von Trier’s
1984 movie The Element of Crime, Detective Fischer uses a method of
identification to help him catch a serial killer, whose targets are girls
selling lottery tickets. And like Pierre Menard, he puts his back into
it. He doesn’t sit idly in his armchair with a furrowed brow trying to
bring up the right mental images or change the right kinds of beliefs.
No, he goes on the road. He uses an old police report to re-enact the
movements of the suspect. The idea is that by placing himself in the
same situations as the suspect and by following the same (limited) tra-
jectory as him, he will eventually gauge his plans and catch him. He
checks into the same hotels, takes the same medications, even sleeps
with the killer’s mistress. The danger is, of course, that the identifica-
tion becomes complete. And, sure enough, Fischer turns into the killer
he is trying to catch. Or, more precisely, he turns into another, but very
similar, killer of Lotto girls. The original killer is already dead. Killing
a girl himself—seemingly by accident—brings him no closer to un-
derstanding the killer’s motives. Indeed, the more he becomes like the
killer, the less he understands him. “I cannot stop until I understand,”
he says. But he never does.
Full identification, then, won’t help us understand the other person
because we have ceased to be. We are now the other person or, more
precisely, a doppelgänger of that person. We can’t be another person,
exactly, because any person is unique. But we could be an exact replica
of that person. If we have become such a replica we have, of course,
ceased to be ourselves. This may seem surprising at first. But imagine
we strip you of all your individuating characteristics: your character,
your experiences, your beliefs, and your preferences. What is left is a
center of conscious activity. A philosopher like René Descartes might
call it a Res Cogitans, or a Thinking Thing. Without your memories,
your character, and so on, there is nothing to distinguish you from an-
other Thinking Thing. You have been stripped bare; you are only there
in the minimal sense that you are capable of conscious activity. Once
we fill you back up, as it were, with the other person’s memories, beliefs,
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etc., you have become a replica of that person. You cannot understand
the person you set out to understand because you no longer exist.
This line of thinking might seem like a sophism. Why wouldn’t you
just switch back after you have occupied the role of the replica for a cer-
tain amount of time? You could then use the memories that you have
acquired to understand the person whom you replicated. Why, for in-
stance, doesn’t Fischer return to his own self in good time and bring the
understanding he has achieved in the role of the killer to bear on the
case? The reason is that he can’t. Thoughts and experiences don’t work
that way. Any thought, desire, or experience takes place against the
background of other thoughts, experiences, and desires, and is made
sense of in that context. Remove the background, and the thoughts
lose meaning. Change the background, and the thoughts change their
significance. Philosophers call this mental holism.5
Holism is initially a puzzling concept, but it can be made quite clear
with some choice examples. Stephen Stich uses the following: Imagine
that you are visiting an old aunt, who suffers from dementia. As you sit
down to chat, she says, “President McKinley was assassinated!” You in-
dulge her and try to have a conversation about this. It quickly becomes
clear, however, that she no longer knows what a president is, and she
denies that a person who has been assassinated is dead. What sense
can you now make of her statement? She surely doesn’t believe that
President McKinley was murdered. This general point carries over to
all forms of thought. And it is not just knowledge gaps that are relevant.
The entire context of a person’s environment, access to information,
desires, etc., is relevant.6
Borges illustrates this idea very nicely. Remember Pierre Menard,
who thought it was too “easy” to become Cervantes? Well, he decides
to use his own experiences to rewrite Don Quixote instead. He knows
he cannot succeed fully, but he manages to reproduce certain passages
perfectly. But, the narrator of the story says, these pieces are “almost in-
finitely richer” than Cervantes’s original. I quote at length:7
I criticize the way she does it,” I thought. “I’m an awful person!” I began
to apologize profusely. But Julie was pretty cool about it. “At first,”
she said, “I couldn’t understand why you were getting so upset. Then
I thought about how I would feel if Timothy drove my car. And I would
totally feel the same way.” (Timothy is her husband.) And everything
was okay again. As the French say: tout comprendre c’est tout pardonner
(“to understand all is to forgive all”).
Julie saves the day by putting herself in my situation. But notice how
she does it. She does not fully project herself into my situation. If she
did, she would imagine sitting next to herself and thinking critically
about how she was driving. But she didn’t think she was driving ir-
responsibly at all. And, let’s face it, she probably wasn’t. She was just
driving differently from how I would. So simple projection would
not have helped. Instead, she imagines herself in the passenger seat
of her own car. Then she imagines someone she is close to—not her-
self—driving that car. If you think it’s simple, you are wrong. She first
identifies what the problem is. It’s not actually the way she is driving so
much as the fact that she is driving my car. She then imagines another
person driving her own car while she watches from the passenger seat.
From that position, she finds it easy to imagine getting agitated about
how that person drives her car, even if that person—her husband—is a
perfectly good driver. What drives this transformation is her replacing,
in the imagination, objects that are related to me in a certain way for
objects that are related to her in a very similar way: her car, not mine;
her husband, not her. That is what is perspectival about perspective
taking. That is what it is to imagine what happens to another is hap-
pening to you.
There is a puzzle, though. Because Julie replaces a number of things
in my situation with objects that have a certain significance for her and
then imagines her own reactions, in what sense does she understand
what I am going through?
the other person, and not simply how we would react in their situation.
Because we must provide the psychological background to their situa-
tion, we always get stuck with ourselves. Perspective taking invariably
fails to give us what we want. The world is disappointing that way.
I have no quarrel with the world being disappointing at times. It’s
just another fact. What I do object to is the idea that we cannot truly
take other people’s point of view. I think we can. That is why I’m writing
this book. To see why I have this confidence, let’s take a little detour
through the history of philosophy of mind.
Writing in the 17th century, French philosopher, mathematician,
and scientist René Descartes had a profound impact on Western
thought. His ideas have been so influential that he is known as the
father of modern philosophy, which presumably makes Plato or
Aristotle the father of ancient philosophy. (Sadly, philosophy appears
to be motherless.) Descartes is associated with rationalism, dualism,
and the Cartesian coordinate system. You might know him from the
many recent bashings of his ideas in popular science circles, such as
Antonio Damasio’s Descartes’ Error. Undergraduates, however, usually
know him from his Meditations on First Philosophy. In this work, he
aims to provide a foundation for science by re-examining all know-
ledge. Descartes’s reasoning goes like this. The big bugbear of phi-
losophy dating all the way back to the ancient Greeks is skepticism.
Can we ever know anything? Or are we merely stuck thinking that we
know? Sense perception is pretty persuasive, but then again, how can
we know that our experiences of the world correspond to the actual
world? Put differently, it seeming to me that I see a duck walk across my
lawn is not enough for me to know that there is a duck walking across
my lawn. There must actually be a duck walking across my lawn. How
do I figure that out? I can’t. Because to truly do that, I must be able to
access the world other than through my perceptions of it. But that’s not
possible, right? Maybe.10
Faced with the rather obvious problem that we are often deceived by
our senses and that there is no way to be sure that we are not, Descartes
came up with a criterion of truth he thought we can rely on: certainty.
What we are certain of, we cannot doubt. If we cannot doubt some-
thing, Descartes reasoned, we are certain of it, and if we are certain
of it, we know it. We use the power of our own minds to get at reality.
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minds the way we access our own. As a philosopher would say, my mind
is transparent to myself, whereas your mind is opaque to me. And vice
versa, of course. On this picture of the human condition, the epistemic,
or knowledge, gap between people is insurmountable, permanent, and
ineradicable. It is what gives rise to what is called “the problem of other
minds.” I know what you’re thinking. And you’re right. Other people
are often troublesome, but this is not what philosophers are concerned
about. They wonder how we can ever know that other people exist at
all. Perspective taking is meant to help bridge the gap between my
mind and yours, by replaying in my own mind, whose contents are im-
mediately available to me, what I imagine goes on in yours. Perspective
taking is a form of introspection via (partial) identification.
And yet, perspective taking can’t bridge the gap between knowing
my mind and knowing yours even when I take your perspective be-
cause it doesn’t give me the kind of access to your mind that I have to
mine. This is often seen as the fundamental difficulty. There is no way,
the thinking goes, of bridging the knowledge gap between my mind
and yours. However, the truth is more interesting and surprising. There
is a gap between direct and indirect access to the mind, of course, but
it is much wider than we thought. The problem is not that I am me and
you are you, and that we are therefore locked each inside our ineradi-
cable subjectivity. The real issue concerns how a person’s psychological
background—her knowledge and experience, her wants and needs,
her habitual ways of thinking, and so on—interacts with the partic-
ular experience she is having in a situation. And that changes even
within the life of a single person. To see this, let’s have another look at
Descartes’s cogito argument.
When Descartes proved that he existed as a thinking thing, he
seemed to assume that he, René Descartes, existed as the person he
is, except for his body. But does his argument entitle him to assume
this? Imagine that you are Descartes. You have doubted everything
you thought you knew, except these indubitable facts: I am doubting,
which means that I must be thinking, and therefore I exist. When you
conclude that you exist—albeit only as a thinking, and not also as an
embodied, thing—do you not assume that you, as the person you are,
exist? You are the person who takes yourself to have grown up in La
Haye en Touraine, who has a great facility with mathematical proofs,
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who thinks your mother died when you were only one year old, who
once wanted to be a military officer, and so on. But if it is the self-veri-
fying nature of thought that proves your existence, because there must
be a thinker of thoughts, surely all you are licensed to conclude is that
something thinks. To say that that thinker is me smuggles in more
than that.
Nothing about the nature of thinking can ensure that what does the
thinking is identical with what did the thinking that is now remem-
bered. In other words, when I run through the cogito argument, I can
conclude that I think, but only if ‘I’ refers to whatever is doing the
thinking. That is not necessarily me, Heidi Maibom, as a person who
was born in Rødovre, who sat down to write this morning, and so on.
For all I know, the thinker of thoughts passes out of existence each time
a thought does. The only certainty we can have, it seems, is that for
each act of thinking there is something that does it. I cannot be sure
that it is me in any robust sense. And so, the gap in knowledge is not
simply between our minds and other minds. It is between the unshak-
able knowledge that I have that ‘I’ am now thinking this or that, and
that this ‘I’ is the same as the ‘I’ of previous experiences that can be
brought to mind. None of this provides any certainty that the ‘I’ that
thinks these thoughts is the same person who conceived of writing this
book, for instance.11
My point is not that Descartes was wrong. He was. The problem is
that so are we, for we all think that being able to recollect a past makes
it our past. We take for granted that we exist over time. I think I am
the same person now as I was when I got up this morning. Why?
Because I can recall getting up in the morning. My certainty seems
immediate and is not based on further ideas about the probability of
memory swapping or implanting, and so on. The point of the matter
is, I can be no more certain that I am the same person who got up this
morning than I can be that you are thinking about Descartes right now.
Introspection gives me access to my inner mental life now, but it leaves
my continued existence as doubtful as the existence of others. I cannot
be sure that any of the things I remember doing or thinking or wanting
were actually “my” doings, thinkings, or wantings. I may never have
experienced what I think I did. The lesson is this. My relation to my
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For two years of this time I went through a very bad experience,
which almost drove me mad. I had fallen violently in love with a
girl who, young as she was, had a spirit of coquetry like a cat. As
I look back on her now, I hate her, and wonder how I could ever
have fallen so low as to be worked upon to such an extent by her
attractions.13
The man goes on to describe the courtship and the point at which he
suddenly fell out of love. Once out of love, he can no longer “see” how
he could have been so infatuated with the girl. If I am not much mis-
taken, falling madly in and out of love in ways that later seem incom-
prehensible happens at least once to many of us. Although we know
that, as a matter of fact, we had the experiences we had, we don’t under-
stand why. We can’t even recreate the experience in the imagination.
This is particularly true of very passionate states. We have changed
and, as a result, can’t make sense of our former selves.
The fact that we constantly change illustrates that we need have no
better understanding of ourselves in the past than we have of another
person who is as different from who we are now as is our former self.
The barrier remains. The problem, then, is not subjectivity. It is that we
must understand from the standpoint we occupy now. This would be
bad news were it not for the fact that at least some of the time, we can
gain something of an understanding of ourselves in the past, even when
we have changed a fair bit. Having a child is something that changes
you. New things begin to matter to you, you have new experiences, and
old ways of living fade into the background. Things you find you were
worried about missing when you settled down are now almost entirely
out of mind. Crowded bars with loud music, once something sought
after and enjoyed, have lost their appeal. When you then think back on
your former childless self and the things that mattered to that person,
the things she worried about, you might find a bit of a stranger there.
But—and this is the important point—it strains the imagination to in-
sist that you simply cannot understand your former self in principle.
What is true is that looking back, you feel somewhat alienated from the
you years ago. If you try, however, you can probably connect with her.
How? By using the very same method you would use to understand
others: by putting yourself in her shoes.14
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and that is by looking at our senses, particularly vision. That kicks off
our exploration of perspectives and what they are, which is the topic of
the rest of Part I of this book. Chapter 2 explains what a visual perspec-
tive is and why it serves as a metaphor for the way we relate to the world
as actors. It turns out that the way we perceive things is a function of
our being embodied and our doing things. We aren’t the disembodied
thinkers that much intellectual history assumes we are.
By Chapter 3, we get to what is special about the perspective we have
on ourselves compared to the perspective we have on others, and that
exploration continues into Chapter 4. What we find is that the reason
perspective taking is possible and useful is because the perspective of a
conscious, embodied, perceiving, and acting human being has formal
and invariant features that fundamentally inform how such a being
experiences and thinks of the world. This includes a certain way of
thinking about oneself compared to other people. Because a perspec-
tive does not differ from person to person in its bare architecture, by
changing my perspective to yours, I am in fact capturing part of your
subjective experience. I am relating everything in your situation to you
as if you were me, that is to say, egocentrically. This one unifying aspect
of perspective taking tends to be ignored. Mostly, researchers discuss
all the background thoughts and feelings that need to be adjusted, and
this tends to focus our attention on our differences. But there is one
glaring similarity we all have in common: We are all agents making our
way in the world.16
As we go on to see, having a perspective is what makes us who we
are. We can’t not have a perspective. To some, this might suggest that
we can never be objective or impartial. To be objective, Thomas Nagel
has argued, requires us to have a view on something from no particular
place. Since we are, by nature, creatures that have a view from some-
where, namely ourselves, it is an ideal we will probably never meet.
I think differently. I agree that objectivity is an ideal, in the sense that
we can never meet it. But I don’t think objectivity is about removing
every vestige of a perspective. Instead, it is about including as many
different perspectives as we can. This may seem counterintuitive if
you fix on the dictionary definition of “objectivity,” which, at least in
Merriam-Webster, includes “not influenced by personal feelings, inter-
pretations, or prejudice.” We cannot understand the world without
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What Is a Perspective? 37
Almost all the figurative paintings we are familiar with now are in
perspective. They present foreshortened figures and objects that di-
minish as they recede from the focal point of the painting. A painting
in perspective represents how the world looks to a person seeing the
scene from a particular position in space. This stands in contrast
to earlier figurative art, which had been as focused on representing
what the artist knew about the objects and the space he or she was
painting as on how they looked. These pictures are beautiful in their
own right, but they do not represent scenes as we might see them
if we were looking at them. They are also less informative as to the
layout of the space they represent. The fact that perspective and in-
formation about spatial layout go together reveals something impor-
tant about seeing. Not only do we see the world through an egocentric
frame but we also see it in a way that allows us to extract information
about distances to, and sizes of, objects relative to us, and relative to
one another.
Seeing reveals a deeper truth about how we exist in the world. We
are not contemplators, or objective spectators, of the world first, then
actors second as we learn to translate our perception and knowledge
into know-how. By the time we start reflecting on the world, we have
already been enmeshed in it as situated and embodied agents, as we are
about to see. There is therefore an expanded sense in which we have
perspectives on the world. The world reflects our interests, our desires,
our emotions, and our plans. Why? Because they affect what we see
and how we see it. It is therefore not true that we experience the world
objectively. We experience the world relative to us. Fortunately, that
relativity is not completely subjective. Being situated in the world by
means of our bodies is our common fate. The particular way we are sit-
uated makes a difference, but despite that difference, we can still all ap-
preciate pictures painted in perspective. Perspectives have formal and
invariant features that we are able to capture and that allow us to take
up different vantage points than our own despite being dissimilar to the
person whose perspective we adopt.
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When you first learn to draw in perspective, you start with a one-point
perspective. Draw a horizon. Determine where your vantage point
is going to be. The vantage point is the spot from which the scene is
viewed. It will be somewhere below the horizon, most commonly in
the middle of the picture. The direction upward from there is your van-
ishing point, the point where all orthogonal lines converge. Imagine
yourself at a railroad track looking directly down it. Off in the distance
directly ahead of you the two rails converge. Now, we all know that the
rails do not actually converge but that they continue side by side. But
we can only see so far. We can only see part of our environment, and
what’s more, what we see isn’t particularly objective. We do not, in the
general run of things, see the true size of objects. The perceived size of
an object is a function of its actual size, the distance from the eyes, the
angle from which the object is seen, and certain other factors (such as
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size constancy). Of course, vision doesn’t just work with one vanishing
point. There may be many, just as we see in more complex works of art.
But the point is that in order to draw objects in a scene how they would
look to a perceiver, we don’t draw them as they are, but distorted in a
way that is relative to the vanishing point or points, which is a function
of the place from which the scene is seen (Figure 2.1).
You might remember that Gombrich talked about the laws of per-
spective. These laws regulate how lines intersect at the vanishing point
and the gradual diminution of objects as a function of the distance
from the focal point (the viewer). This is not simply some random
quirk of vision. The size of objects relative to one another within one’s
visual field combined with the converging lines at the vanishing point
makes it possible to determine the distance between objects. This is
why Gombrich says that pictures drawn in perspective allow you to
see the spatial relation between objects represented in that picture.
This is immensely useful for figuring out how to move your body so
as to complete your goals. How wide should your grip be as you pick
up this particular object? How far away are the trees? Can you hang
your hammock from them? It turns out that the perspectival world is
an actionable world. It practically shows you how to move your body
through space, gives you a sense of how long it will take to get to a par-
ticular place, and so on. So whereas Hellenistic paintings were fairly re-
alistic when it came to the particular objects portrayed, they obscured
their spatial relations to one another and to the viewer.
Another way in which visual perception gives us an actionable
world is by giving us the experience of a three-dimensional world,
even though our retinas are only capable of creating two-dimensional
images. Seeing in three dimensions might not be particularly impor-
tant if we were immobile viewers of the world. For creatures who move
around in it, however, it is extremely useful, if not absolutely crucial,
for survival. But three-dimensionality or depth is not only a feature
of space. It is also a feature of objects. Since we see always in perspec-
tive, we only see an object from a particular angle. And yet instead of
experiencing surfaces, the light reflecting off which is all our eyes de-
tect, we experience whole objects. In other words, although we do not
see the other side or the fullness of the object, we visually experience
the object that we see from a certain angle as being a full three-dimen-
sional object. Philosophers and psychologists call this ‘amodal comple-
tion.’ Amodal completion gives us three-dimensional objects, albeit
not a comprehensive view of said objects (we do not see it simultane-
ously from all sides). As Alva Noë puts it, “When you look at a circular
plate, held up at an angle, you experience its circularity in its merely
elliptical shape.”2
If you are not into art, videogames may be a better illustration. If
you are as old as I am, you might remember when videogames first
appeared. I recall spending the bulk of my confirmation party up-
stairs with my friends playing table tennis on a small handheld de-
vice (Pong, see Figure 2.2). We took turns. In those days, your avatar
(you in the game) was represented as just one object among others,
albeit usually a distinctive-looking one. You were able to control this
small homunculus by pushing certain buttons. Still, you saw your-
self in these games, typically from a bird’s-eye perspective or from
the side at a distance. Playing these games was fun enough, although
personally I never took to doing so. Then came the first-person
shooter games (see Figure 2.3). They are radically different. Instead
What Is a Perspective? 41
of seeing yourself fully in the scene among all the other things—
mostly creatures bent on killing your alter ego—you see only as much
of yourself as you would in real life and, just as importantly, you see
where you are in the same limited way. You can look ahead of you,
look to the side, or turn around and see what is behind you. Whereas
in the old videogames you could see what would approach you from
many sides—if you were paying attention, that is (which I never
seemed to do)—you cannot see what is outside your line of vision in a
first-person shooter game.
First-person shooter games are much more immersive than are
first-generation video games. And it is not simply because the virtual
world stretches out in front of your eyes just as the real world does. It is
also because when you turn your avatar, the scene changes, and when
you move her backward or forward, things get closer or move far-
ther away. As you move, the environment changes. You explore what’s
around you. You are not simply a passive viewer of it. It seems like you
are there in the scene. It feels real.
In Figure 2.3, you are mostly implicitly represented. You are the van-
tage point. You are able to see your arms and your hands, but not your
42 Perspectives: What Are They?
body as a whole. You don’t know where you are because you see your-
self being somewhere, as in old-fashioned computer games. Instead,
you know where you are in the game-world because of the way that
world looks. You are the focal point of everything you see. The visual
world radiates out from your body, and all objects are seen in rela-
tion to it. Space itself is represented on an egocentric frame of refer-
ence. Think of how you think of the objects around you: as being near,
far, tall, or reachable. These are all relational properties. They are not
properties the objects have intrinsically, that is, purely in virtue of the
objects that they are. They are relationships to other objects. In this in-
stance, they are relationships to you.
First-person shooter games help us understand the nature of the
visual world. As you explore your world, “you” are largely an implicit
self. But you are implicit in everything you see. This is a fact that rarely
occurs to us as such. You don’t think of yourself as seeing from a cer-
tain perspective every time you see something. There is no reason
you should, since this is the only direct visual experience of the world
you will ever have. There is nothing to compare it with. As Ludwig
Wittgenstein once said, “The aspects of things that are most important
What Is a Perspective? 43
for us are hidden because of their simplicity and familiarity (One is un-
able to notice something because it is always before one’s eyes).”3
The way we see things does not simply reveal that we are embodied
because our perceptual organs are bodily structures, but also because
our seeing things the way we do requires coordination with other
senses, such as proprioception (our ability to sense our bodies’ posi-
tion in space), and with systems controlling locomotion. It turns out
that in order to experience yourself as moving through the environ-
ment, as opposed to experiencing it coming toward you (a crucial
difference), your visual system must access information from sys-
tems that control movement. In other words, your ordinary visual
experience of the world as you move in it is not the result of visual
calculations alone, but of visual and motor information. We see the
way we do because of the bodies we have and our ability to move
them. Can this be faked? Of course it can. A determined skeptic might
even use videogame technology to make his point. And whereas first-
person shooter games are pretty good, virtual reality technology is
even better at simulating our exploring new worlds. But assuming
that we do not actually have bodies but merely experience the world
as if we did is not the best explanation, of course. The best explanation
is that we have bodies.
This embodied, physical self is very different from the Cartesian
‘I’ we met in the previous chapter. As embodied conscious creatures
we always experience the world from a certain vantage point. Just like
Cartesian selves is impoverished compared to our real selves—they are
pure centers of conscious activity—our embodied selves are what some
call “naked selves.” What that means is not that you are unclothed, but
rather that you are empty. The stuffing that is usually what you think of
as yourself (your past, your current projects, or your character) is not
required in this characterization. Instead, the naked self is what you
come to occupy if you are a protagonist of a body-switching movie,
such as Freaky Friday. You now take up this much space, see things
from this height, and are able to reach this far or run this fast. A dif-
ferent way of putting things is that there is something distinctive about
occupying a visual perspective that isn’t personal. And, as a matter of
fact, this is not special to vision. It is a characteristic of how we think of
and refer to ourselves. What do I mean by that?
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about the nature of self, about the existence of a soul, you know, am
I me? Is Malkovich Malkovich? . . . Do you see what a metaphysical
can of worms that portal is? I don’t see how I can go on living my life
the way I’ve lived it before.
They draw big crowds. Everybody wants to be someone else, even for
just a quarter of an hour, particularly if that someone is a famous movie
star. Craig’s wife wants in on the fun too and makes him take her to
his office after hours. Like him, she has a profound experience. She
dialogues with him about it:
Lotte: “It was like everything made sense, you know. I knew who I was.”
Craig: “But you weren’t. You were John Malkovich.”
Lotte: “I was, wasn’t I? I was John Malkovich!”
To the logical mind, this makes no sense at all. Lotte can’t be Malkovich
because Malkovich is Malkovich. Or is he? Later in the movie, Craig
figures out a way not to be ejected from Malkovich’s mind when his
15 minutes are up. No doubt thanks to his puppeteering experience,
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the central embodied aspect remains the same (or largely similar) and
that, we shall see, is what matters.
yourself, who would see these pictures? You can’t be seeing them
if by ‘you’ we mean the person we usually refer to, because this pic-
ture is supposed to be inside your mind. So, do you have a little ho-
munculus—or, in Austin Powers speech, a “mini-me”—inside who is
watching them? Does this mini-me have eyes? If so, doesn’t the same
problem arise again? If mini-me imagines things visually, then there
must be a mini-mini-me who sees these images. But if this mini-mini-
me imagines things visually, then . . . It doesn’t take many iterations to
realize that this way of thinking leads to infinite regress. Second, we
imagine seeing things that are more determinate than a picture could
represent. Take a look at Figure 2.4. You will see a cat running either
up the stairs or down the stairs. You can flip the picture any way you
want, but you are interpreting it as one thing or the other. This is the
result of seeing the picture as representing one determinate thing. In
other words, imagining pictures can’t explain what we do when we
imagine seeing something; we also need to imagine an interpretation.
Third, while we do sometimes imagine something more specific than
a picture can represent, most of us are unable to visualize a scene or a
person with the same degree of specificity as a picture. I might imagine
Figure 2.4 Cat running up or down the stairs? Illustration by Peter Bruce.
What Is a Perspective? 49
two people kissing but rarely the particular hue of their skin, their hair
color, and so on.8
A more promising idea is that imagining seeing is like seeing in
many ways. For instance, the process of imagining (visually) is like the
process of visually perceiving objects. Although the two are evidently
different also, the difference is a matter of degree, not kind. Perhaps
mental imagery is constituted by partial enactment of the percep-
tual acts that one would perform were one actually perceiving what
is imagined. The idea, first proposed by psychologist Ulrich Neisser,
enjoys the support of some intriguing evidence. People who imagine
watching a game of table tennis, for instance, move their eyes (i.e.,
saccade) in ways that would be expected were they actually watching
such a game. Other studies also suggest that seeing something and vis-
ually imagining that thing are organized similarly. People take longer
to respond to objects at the periphery of their visual field compared to
objects at the center of it, for example. When a person visually ima-
gines a scene, she also takes longer to respond to what she imagines
at the periphery. Again, when we imagine seeing something, we are
doing much of what we do when we actually see that something. Lastly,
it would seem that the rapid eye movement that gives REM sleep its
name is related to the exploratory saccades during ordinary vision.
That is, when we dream, our eyes move behind our closed lids in the
way they would were we actually seeing what we only dream we see.
Seeing isn’t a spectator sport. It isn’t seeing pictures. Neither is imag-
ining seeing.9
The important point here is that since we imagine the world in
vision-like ways, and since vision is essentially perspectival, we have
every reason to think that our imagination is perspectival too. You
can test the idea yourself. Just imagine the stairs in your house. You
will imagine seeing them from some perspective or other. So, whether
we actually perceive it or we merely imagine it, the world is always ex-
perienced in perspective. When we experience things in perspective,
things are put in relation to us. They are facing us, running away from
us, in our way, towering over us, or barely visible. We do not experi-
ence an objective world, as from a God’s-eye point of view, and then
try to determine our relation to it. We are already situated physically in
the world, which we represent in ways that facilitate acting in it. What
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bodies matter to the way we perceive, and are able to act in, the world,
wherefore it must also be foundational to our way of thinking about
it. But philosophy has a long history of being mind or idea focused.
Just think of Plato’s Ideas. Such ideas are more or less ideal objects that
we may hope to grasp (or recollect) after long and arduous thinking
and debating with other curious and intelligent individuals. Once we
grasp them, we avoid being at sea in the constantly changing landscape
of experiences and objects. Of course, the question then arises, “What
have we gained knowledge of?” It certainly isn’t the world we live in.
But I digress. Looking back, it seems a bit embarrassing that we should
have ignored the body for so long. But the devaluing of the body and
the lionizing of the mind is also a long-standing sociological phenom-
enon, so perhaps it isn’t so surprising.
Despite his focus on tools, or objects as tools, Heidegger didn’t go
into much detail when it comes to the contribution of the body to ex-
perience. The part of the body most associated with Heidegger’s phi-
losophy is, unsurprisingly given the focus on tools, the hand. We see
things, Heidegger would say, either as ready-to-hand (zuhanden),
i.e., as things to be used in one way or other, or as present-to-hand
(vorhanden), namely as objects of theoretical or scientific exploration.
This relative oversight of the rest of our physicality allowed Merleau-
Ponty to stand out as the phenomenologist of the body. Heidegger
stressed our action-based orientation toward the objects of our expe-
rience. Merleau-Ponty distilled that idea into the notion that the world
is a space of possibilities. These possibilities are partly determined by
our bodily capacity for movement. Skills open up new possibilities for
us, new ways of engaging with the world, and therefore a new way of
thinking about it. Our intentionality is ‘motor-intentionality,’ he says.
Instead of thinking of action and perception as distinct, he suggested
they form part of the same act. Kant believed that conceptual cate-
gories organize our experience, but Merleau-Ponty argued that the
organizing principle is based in our readiness to engage with objects
the way we do. For instance, my seeing objects as full objects with a
front and a back even as I am presented with only one of their sides
is not the result of some complex conceptual mathematics, but issues
from my being able to do certain things with such objects, such as
move around them, turn them, avoid bumping into them, and so on.
What Is a Perspective? 53
larger than the one surrounded by big circles. Nevertheless, if you ask
a person to grasp a circle or even just touch it, the illusion is reduced
by around 30%. The hand also plays a role in the amount of visual pro-
cessing of the objects close to it. Objects close to hand, or that one ima-
gines reaching for, are attended to much more carefully and appear
more detailed in perception. Their details are also remembered better.
And they are not related as much to the subject’s background know-
ledge as are objects out of reach. What that means is that we don’t think
about the larger significance of objects within our reach as much as we
do when it comes to objects outside our reach. Instead, we focus on
their perceptual characteristics. Things we can reach with tools, which
are typically held by our hands, are also attended to more carefully
and appear closer to us as a result of their reachability, it seems. Even
more bizarrely, Jessica Witt and James Brockmole found that holding a
gun makes you more likely to think another person is holding a gun,
even when they are not. This is an intriguing line of evidence that lends
some support to Heidegger’s insistence that being ready-to-hand is a
distinct mode of experience.16
But although hands are quite important, the body, as a whole, and its
capacities exert a big effect on how we perceive our environment. For
instance, people with ankle weights see jumpable gaps as being longer
than they would have perceived them to be were they not wearing
those weights. Researchers theorize that this is because we calculate
the size of gaps we can traverse in terms of the body’s ability to jump
over them. The heavier the weights, the harder it will be, wherefore the
distance seems greater.17
Even more intriguing is that people’s emotions also play a role in
how they see things. Spider phobics, for instance, see spiders as being
closer and running faster than people who are not afraid of spiders.
This has led emotion theorists like Lisa Feldman Barrett to argue that
emotions influence perception to the extent that the visual system uses
affective information to disambiguate and interpret visual stimuli.
What we see, she says, is in large part the result of what we expect to
see. In order for perception to work as fast and effectively as it does,
we cannot sit around and wait for visual information to be carefully
processed. Instead, we must guess what’s there based on rudimen-
tary information. Cognitive scientists will recognize this process as
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It should now be clear that we don’t experience the world like scientists,
but rather in a way relativized to our physical bodies and our animal
natures. We are always in relation: to things, to other people, to plans,
and so on. We are fully immersed in the world, not removed from it
as disinterested observers. This might not come as a surprise. That is
presumably why we need scientists. But there has long been a tradition
in philosophy—and in psychology—of thinking of science as an ex-
tension of common sense. The basic scientific outlook—for instance,
that an impartial view is the better view, that we must have consist-
ency in our thinking, and that our ideas of the world should be based
on observation of it that can be repeated by another person—is not
that different from the way a sensible person would think, the story
goes. On top of that, it turns out that ordinary people have a relatively
sophisticated—though at times wrongheaded or misleading—view of
the world, and one that seems to track the nature of the objects they are
concerned with. People make generalizations about the capabilities of
various animals partly based on the species or genus that they are part
of. Doesn’t this show that these people have a theory of animals, a sort
of folk biology? And can’t this be true of our understanding of other
people (folk psychology) and the physical world (folk physics)?
The picture just presented obviously conflicts with such a view. Folk
theories clearly represent a more reflective and spectatorial view of the
world, whereas the ideas I have presented assume that we act in the
world first and reflect on it second. But of course we do reflect on the
world and attempt to think of it as independent of our relation to it. We
can be relatively detached observers. As Thomas Nagel says, this is a
way of thinking of the world not in terms of how “it looks, feels, smells,
tastes, or sounds.” We are, he says, ultimately aiming at understanding
the world in a way that has nothing to do with a perspective; we are
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out, our primary way of doing so. Since we are capable of both fully
immersed engagement with and distant contemplation of the world,
the two viewpoints inevitably infect one another to some extent. Once
we have studied herbs, for instance, we do not come to them quite the
same way as we did before. Even so, a new dichotomy inevitably arises
from the old: one of an immersed use of the world and the other of a
distanced contemplation of it.20
That our primary way of engaging with the world is as embodied
and situated human agents with interests and concerns all of our own
is the heart of subjectivity. This subjectivity is not, however, solipsism,
but intersubjectivity. A good part of what constitutes our experiences
are features that most human beings share: our physical structure, the
capabilities of our bodies, species-and culture-relative interests, and
so on. These are exactly the kinds of things that we can adopt in taking
another’s point of view. Doing so gives us a fundamentally different ex-
perience of someone’s world than the one we have while observing that
person from a distance. This will become clear as we move on to the
research on psychological perspectives in Chapter 3.
2.6 Conclusion
We are not located in the world as objective spectators in it, who then
learn how to use our knowledge of things as they are in themselves to
manipulate them. Instead, by the time we start reflecting on it, we are
already enmeshed in it as embodied agents. We have a point of view
on the world as a function of the beings that we are, our situation, our
interests, and our capacities. We can distance ourselves from our paro-
chial interests and distinctive sensory modes, but we are unlikely ever
to be able to conjure up a world that is not interest laden. We always
occupy some perspective or other even as we lean toward abstraction.
Our representation of the world is perspectival to the extent that it
represents it on an egocentric frame.
Part of that egocentricity is no doubt unique to each individual, but
the general structure of the frame is more universal. The relational
framing, the primacy of action, and the importance of bodily struc-
ture and capacities form a relatively invariant structure. As humans we
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Table 3.1 Interpersonal communication between husband and wife.
to grow, survive, reproduce, and raise offspring. But there are many
differences also, given our particular bodies, abilities, environment,
etc. Nonetheless, the relation an agent bears to the world is similar
to that of other agents. What do I mean? I can recollect things about
my past, I am aware of feelings in my body, and I have access to the
thoughts that I am having (or at least to some of them). When it comes
to others, I don’t have such access. I can, however, see how they move,
the way they express themselves using their bodies, the way they come
across to another person, and so on. Although I usually know when
I move my body and what I say, my relation to those things is from the
inside, whereas my relation to your movements and speech is from the
outside. This discrepancy gives rise to my thinking about myself and
what I do in one way, which psychologists usually call an “actor per-
spective” (I call it an “agent perspective”), and my thinking about other
people in another way, which they call an “observer perspective.” Put
slightly differently, my perspective on the world is one in which I am an
agent and an observer of you. Your perspective is one in which you are
an agent and an observer of me.
In a series of experiments, psychologist Bertram Malle and
colleagues asked people to describe and explain actions, both their
own and those of other people. They found that we are less likely to
mark beliefs as such when we report on our own compared to when
we report on those of other people. In other words, I am more likely
to explain another person’s actions by saying things like “she took the
potion because she believed that it would save her life,” rather than “she
took the potion because it would save her life.” I tend only to mark my
own beliefs as beliefs when I doubt their veracity. “I think I put the vase
in the downstairs cupboard” expresses a belief that I put the vase in that
cupboard, but also a degree of uncertainty. Had I been absolutely sure
where I put it, I would have said, “I put it in the downstairs cupboard.”
This suggests that when we think about someone’s reasons for action
in terms of explicitly represented beliefs, we are withholding judgment
as to whether or not those beliefs are true (and thereby marking a po-
tential disagreement). By contrast, we usually do not to think of our
own beliefs as beliefs. We see through them to the world, in a manner
of speaking. Summing up, a person tends to think of her own beliefs/
thoughts as unproblematic reflections of reality, whereas she is aware
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Why did Ian work 14 hours a day for the last month?
(Reason explanation) To make more money
(Reason explanation) A project was due
(Causal-historical explanation) He is driven to achieve
(Causal-historical explanation) That’s the cultural norm
thoughts about what we want in the right way, and therefore that we
decide what we do.6
Causal-historical explanations are almost the inverse of reason
explanations. They typically bypass a person’s agency and instead de-
scribe her actions directly in terms of external events, influences, or
parts of her nature. The person is seen more as an object in a web of
causes that she, herself, is part of, and less in terms of someone who
causes her own actions. Ian, in the earlier example, is not likely to
decide to work 14-hour days because he realizes that he is driven to
achieve or because that is the norm at his job. Such explanations can
form the basis of later reason explanations, but as they stand, they are
not the sorts of things someone would consider when deciding what to
do. Thinking of my hard work in terms of my ambition is a strange im-
personal and dissociated way of thinking about my actions. It robs me
of my responsibility for that work. Because we are doers, what stands
out to me is that I worked hard so as to complete the project on time.
However, it doesn’t seem odd to us at all to describe someone else in
terms of her ambition or drive.
This difference leads to a particular way of thinking about our own
agency, freedom, and reasonableness. Clearly, we do think of other
people as agents, because we hold them responsible for their actions,
we allow them to hold us responsible for what we do, and we reason
with them. But the fact that we think more of our own actions in terms
of reasons and more of their actions in terms of their causal-histor-
ical provenance betrays the fact that we have a tendency to think of
others as objects in the world and as profoundly influenced by their
background and environment. At some level, we understand that we
are too. We know that we are sometimes driven by external influences,
but that is not our experience. When we are in the flow of life, it is hard
to believe that our actions are determined by circumstances beyond
our control. It is only when we sit back and reflect in the proverbial
philosopher’s armchair that we realize that we too are subject to laws
of nature. But our natural, or primary, tendency is to think of ourselves
as freer than we are and of others as driven by external influences more
than we are.7
A third difference between our explanations of our own actions is
in terms of the types of reasons we give. When it comes to our own
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and slightly behind the swimmer, which gives a sense of where and
how far one swam. Points of view, then, are perfectly suited to capture
certain types of scenarios and impart certain kinds of information.19
Time affects the types of perspectives in recall also. Older memo-
ries are more likely to be observer memories than field memories.
Most psychologists take this to support the view that field memories
are characterized by their vividness and detail, and so the further one
moves back into one’s past, the harder it is to retrieve those aspects.
Hence, the observer perspective becomes the favored one. But other
factors are associated with the observer perspective, such as discrep-
ancies between the former and the current self, for instance. If we have
changed a lot, we recall our past more from an observer perspective.
Power is also related to the observer perspective, but inversely so.
People who feel in power take such a perspective on themselves less
than do people who do not. This ties in nicely with research that shows
that women are more likely to remember potentially objectifying situ-
ations from an observer perspective than are men.20
In sum, if research on memory and imagination is correct, we often
take an observer perspective on ourselves, which, as we saw, is just an-
other first-person perspective but with oneself as object. Sometimes,
we even flip back and forth between a field and an observer perspective
when recalling a single experience. Researchers suspect that the reason
we do so is because each perspective is helpful in recalling different
aspects of an event. Now, a field perspective is the perspective of an
actor immersed in the world. In other words, it is nothing but what we
called an agent perspective before. We can therefore add the following
characteristics to the list of what differentiates an agent from an ob-
server point of view:
The asymmetries just mentioned are not the only ones; there are many
others. But for now, let’s make do with these asymmetries: the volun-
tariness of beliefs, the importance of psychological needs, degrees of
psychological understanding, and sources of psychological under-
standing. Most of these discrepancies are readily explained in terms
of what is salient to us about ourselves compared to what is salient to
us about others. Nonetheless, they are views it makes no sense for us to
hold upon reflection.
An obviously absurd view we appear to hold, unearthed by Emily
Pronin and fellow psychologists, is that we understand others and
ourselves better than others understand either us or themselves. In
other words, Bob thinks he understands George better than George
understands him. He also thinks that he understands himself better
than does George. And, even more interestingly, he thinks he
understands George better than George understands himself. Bob,
then, turns out to have quite amazing abilities. The problem is that
George thinks he understands Bob better than Bob understands him,
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etc., too! Obviously, Bob and George can’t both be right. In fact, they
are both mistaken. But why did they end up with these beliefs in the
first place? Because of differential access and a high degree of confi-
dence in their own beliefs. When it comes to knowing others, it turns
out, we think that external characteristics, such as what people do, say,
or express, are more characteristic of who they really are than are in-
ternal characteristics. In our own case, however, we are quite insistent
that internal characteristics are the true determiners of who we really
are. What this asymmetry tracks, then, is access. Each person has priv-
ileged access to their own momentary thoughts and feelings. When
it comes to other people, their access to such thoughts and feelings is
more limited, whereas their access to what people express, how they
behave, and how they come across is quite good—better, in fact, than
in their own case. This doesn’t, of course, explain why they should
think they understand others particularly well. This work is done,
philosophers Asbjørn Steglich-Petersen and Mattias Skipper argue,
by our tendency to accommodate ambiguous evidence in a biased
manner.21
The thing is that behavioral evidence allows for many interpret-
ations. Once we have formed a view of another person, which we do
quite quickly, it is not too difficult to provide an interpretation of their
behavior that fits our pre-existing notions. This tendency is particu-
larly obvious if we are trying to glean people’s true beliefs or feelings
about something from what they say or do. Just think of our opening
example from Sillars. As researchers, we are faced with prodigious ev-
idence that people understand others much less well than they think
they do. This comes up again and again. I recently had my students
do group work on Sillars, and many of them blankly stated that Sillars
must be wrong because we obviously understand others, particularly
friends and family, quite well. It is a particularly insidious belief. And it
is maintained by our rarely asking for clear evidence about what we are
assuming about others (“What were your thoughts when I said . . . ?”)
and our understanding that other people sometimes have unreason-
able ways of thinking about themselves, such as overly charitable inter-
pretations of their own behavior, self-flattering construals of their
motivations, and blatantly foolish ideas about their character, which
they regularly contradict with their actions. The trouble is that we
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assume that we are much less subject to this tendency than they are.
Because we hold that what is truly diagnostic of us is information only
we have privileged access to, we can hold on to the idea that we un-
derstand ourselves better than do others. What we fail to notice, how-
ever, is that we also think that behavioral evidence is more diagnostic
of others than of ourselves. This doesn’t make for good psychology. In
fact, it’s quite absurd. But it does reflect our experience. We simply do
not experience ourselves as revealed in our actions to the extent that
we experience others as revealed in theirs for the simple reason that we
experience ourselves differently (from the inside) than we do others
(from the outside).
We find a similar tendency to privilege information or feelings
that we have immediate access to in our own case, but not in the case
of others, in a recent paper by Juliana Schroeder and Nicholas Epley.
They decided to test the idea based on typical responses to marginalized
groups. People tend to assume that people belonging to these groups
mainly need their physical needs met, but that their other needs, par-
ticularly more psychological ones such as self-esteem or respect, are
not that important to them. This tendency, it turns out, is general.
Schroeder and Epley organize needs into three categories. Physiological
needs involve food, drink, and sleep. Physiological/ psychological
needs include a sense of belonging, love or affection from others, and
feeling safe. Feeling respected, being free to make one’s own choices,
realizing one’s potential, and having meaning in life are high-level psy-
chological needs. As it turns out, each person believes that their own
high-level psychological needs are more important to them than these
types of needs are to other people. This shows up in test after test. It also
manifests itself in judgments concerning intrinsic and extrinsic motiv-
ations. Intrinsic motivation includes interest, ambition, care, and so on,
whereas extrinsic motivation is typically reward or punishment driven.
Students tended to think of themselves as being driven more by intrinsic
than by extrinsic motivation, but they regarded their fellow classmates
as driven more by extrinsic than intrinsic motivation. Again, this effect
seems to be the result of salience; our own needs for belonging or re-
spect are evident to us because they are the sorts of things that we have
privileged access to, but others do not. For this reason, our experience
is of a world in which our own need for love, respect, and so on is quite
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salient, whereas the need for food, shelter, and safety is more evident
when it comes to others. This experience creeps into our more consid-
ered judgments also. This is unfortunate because it means that we are
not very good at meeting other people’s needs. In the case of charity, for
instance, recipients far prefer gifts that will allow them to exercise con-
trol on how to use them than gifts that simply cover their physiological
needs. Donors, however, overwhelmingly choose these less preferred
gifts because they underestimate the importance of their recipients’
high-level psychological needs.22
The tendency to underestimate the degree to which other agents
are affected by psychological states and experiences that are not vis-
ible to us directly is also reflected in our attitudes toward pain. Loran
Nordgren, Kasia Banas, and Geoff MacDonald found that people sys-
tematically underestimate the importance of social pain in others, such
as might result from ostracism, shaming, or bullying. What is different
in this case is that they also underestimated their own psychological
pain in the past. When put in a position where they experience exclu-
sion, however, people are less likely to underestimate the seriousness of
social pain.23
Let’s just look at one more example, namely how we acquire and
maintain our beliefs. Here too we observe an interesting discrepancy.
Corey Cusimano and Geoffrey Goodwin report that people tend to be-
lieve that others have more voluntary control over what to believe than
they, themselves, do. This is due to the fact that when they reflect on
others, they tend to think of belief and belief control in a generic way,
whereas when they reflect on their own beliefs, they typically focus on
the evidential support for those beliefs. To sum up, then:24
When a person thinks about other people, she tends to think that
(25) what is most diagnostic of them are external characteristics,
such as what they do, say, or express;
(26) others understand themselves less well than she does and they
understand her less well than she does;
(27) their high-level psychological needs are less important to them
than their physiological or physiological/psychological needs;
(28) they are more driven by external motivation than by internal
motivation; and
(29) they have a substantial amount of control over what they
believe.
It is pretty clear that there are different ways of thinking about people.
There is the one from the inside, which is closely connected with one’s
agency, or ability to act, and the one that is more closely connected with
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observing those that act. I’ve called the immediate unreflective way of
thinking about ourselves and our actions from “inside our agency” an
agent perspective, and the natural way of thinking about others and
their actions from “outside their agency” an observer perspective. We
have seen that there are structural, or formal, differences between the
two perspectives. Experiences—such as perceptions, sensations, and
emotions—are closely connected with actor perspectives. It is not sur-
prising, of course, but notable. It is what makes empathy and perspec-
tive taking so special because both are ways of relating to the other in
the way we naturally relate to ourselves. The research helps us see the
details of what that difference consists in. Agent perspectives in recall
and imaginings are realistic ways of putting ourselves in situations
where we are connected, personally and emotionally, to the situations
or events that are brought to mind. It is as if we actually experience
what we only imagine experiencing. As a result, such a perspective
carries a transparent relation to the world. We don’t see our beliefs
as beliefs, just as we often don’t see our desires as desires. We do see
things as desirable, delicious, dangerous, or foul, however. Moreover,
since our memories seem more real and cause more affect when they
are field memories—that is, from an agent perspective—we should ex-
pect agent perspectives in other areas to be the same. The connection
with affect also means that we regard our own emotions as more in-
tense. Thinking of an event from an agent perspective, then, will make
it seem more real, more emotionally engaging, and more immediately
relevant. It will be more like being in the situation than other ways of
thinking about that situation. It is more immersive. This is further illus-
trated by the fact that we tend toward thinking of our own actions in
terms of our own competence or efficacy in carrying them out than in
terms of their consequences for other people.
Because an agent perspective is so tied to the experience of the
world, as opposed to abstract reflection on it, it is also useful in helping
us access information about the perceptual properties of things: the
way they look, feel, or operate within the space close to our bodies—
the actionable space, if you like. The agent perspective links us to the
world we inhabit as embodied beings with all its distortions relative
to our bodies and our interests. I see a key as an unlocking device, the
person walking down the street as a friend, etc.
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us are other people’s motivations for acting as they do. These appear
less reasonable than ours. Background influences, such as someone’s
history or previous experiences, for instance, are more salient than
their reasoned beliefs. Their actions are not as tied to facts as our own.
Others have biases, prejudices, and erroneous beliefs much more so
than we do, at least as far as we are concerned. Moreover, they are moti-
vated to a higher degree than we are by their desires and by extrinsic
rewards.
So far, it seems like an observer perspective is a somewhat unchari-
table view of others. Although it may be in some respects, in others it is
a more clearheaded one. Because we are not lost in the moment, we can
see what is done in more abstract terms. Our ways of thinking about
others’ actions tend toward context, impact on others, and greater sig-
nificance. We understand better that the way they regard the world is
a way of relating to it that can go awry. We see how powerful desires
can be in shaping a person’s actions, and we have a much better sense
of what kind of person someone else is compared to our grasp of what
kind of person we are. Our social selves—the person we are to others—
can be something of a mystery to us. Who others are, in this sense, is
usually not.
The observer perspective offers a different way of thinking about
persons, not a wrong one. This becomes very clear when we consider
observer memories. Why do people have them? Well, in some cases,
they help distance the person from very emotionally charged mem-
ories. Observer memories are not as involved and do not affect the
person as much. An observer perspective is somewhat disengaged. It
is often seen as more objective, but as you can tell from the research
here, it is merely different. It brings out some features of the person
while hiding others. When we train an observer perspective on our-
selves, we see ourselves as we see others. In fact, it may only be through
an observer perspective that we really see ourselves as people. Much of
who we are is invisible from inside the agent perspective. However, the
observer perspective is always in danger of denying a living being its
inner reality, its intrinsic value, and its agency. The further we distance
ourselves, the further the features that are so central to an agent per-
spective recede into the distance.
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Victims and Perpetrators 87
thinking about a wrongdoing from the point of view of the victim and
from the point of view of the perpetrator. But in the case of victims and
perpetrators the points of view are not those of actors or observers;
they are points of view of people involved with one another. Someone’s
position in an interaction affects how she experiences it. Again, this
difference seems to be formal; it is relatively invariant across different
people and different situations. Our perspective on a situation depends
on whether we are involved actors, distanced observers, or engaged
interactors. The next two chapters develop this interactive perspective.
As we shall see, it admits of degrees as a function of the particular rela-
tionship with the other person.
I first present a somewhat extreme example of different perspect
ives on the same action. This serves to illustrate the idea that
perspectives can be surprisingly different depending on whose it is.
The differences are not simply due to the psychological background
of the person but owe much to the particular role he or she occupies
in an interaction. I then go on to present the evidence from social
psychology about how victims and perpetrators regard an action and
finish by illustrating these differences by returning to Hermia and
her father from our opening story.
The movie opens at the Rashomon gate between Kyoto and Nara.
A priest and a woodcutter are sheltering from the rain. They have just
returned from the trial of the bandit. They are joined by a commoner,
eager to escape the downpour. They chat for a while and then tell him
what is foremost on their minds: the wildly conflicting testimonies
of the bandit, the wife, and the spirit of the dead samurai. But this is
not all. After recounting the story of the trial, the woodcutter admits
to knowing more than he has let on. Instead of merely finding the
samurai’s body, he witnessed the whole thing. The samurai, his wife,
and the bandit were all lying, he says. But he knows the truth. He didn’t
tell his story at the trial because he did not want to get involved. Or so
he says. Here are the stories of each of the protagonists:
The Bandit’s Tale: As he walks through the forest, he spots the sam-
urai and his wife. He catches the samurai and ties him up. Then,
he persuades the wife to have sex with him. She resists at first but
quickly succumbs to his charms. Afterward, he asks her to leave her
husband behind and join him in his travels. She agrees on one condi-
tion. He must fight her husband for her. He releases the samurai and
they go on to duel honorably. Eventually, he gains the upper hand
and kills the samurai. But instead of joining him, the wife runs away.
The Wife’s Story: As she and her husband are traveling through
the woods, they are set upon by a bandit. He overpowers her hus-
band and ties him up. He then rapes her. Afterward, he takes off. She
rushes to untie her husband. He, however, will have nothing to do
with her on account of the rape. In his eyes, she has been defiled.
This distresses her so that she begs him to kill her with her own, quite
valuable, knife. When he fails to respond to her, she faints. When she
comes to, she finds her husband dead with her knife in his chest.
herself and run away. The bandit cannot catch her. He returns to the
samurai, unties him and leaves. Subsequently, the samurai commits
suicide to save his honor.
The Woodcutter’s Confession: The bandit rapes the wife while the
samurai is tied up. Afterward, he begs her to marry him. She, how-
ever, is not interested. Instead, she frees her husband. The bandit
assumes she wants them to duel, but the husband is uninterested in
fighting for her now that she has been dishonored. They circle each
other aimlessly, seemingly at a loss of what to do, until the wife eggs
them on to a fight. They duel pathetically and reluctantly. The bandit
gets lucky, defeats the samurai, and kills him. The wife runs away.
And this is how the woodcutter came to find the samurai’s body.
role in the events. Even when we agree about who is the main culprit,
our opinions diverge about how badly that person acted and why they
acted that way. This is what we come to next.
Roy Baumeister works on evil, among other things. Like Socrates be-
fore him, he thinks that evil actions do not usually spring from a de-
sire to violate moral norms but are usually justified in the eyes of the
perpetrator. As Socrates said, no one does wrong willingly. Socrates
didn’t think it was in our human nature to desire something bad. On
his view, people who do something bad do not do so with the under-
standing that it is bad. Rather, desire naturally aims at the good. The
problem is that we can be mistaken about what is good and bad. What
wrongdoers come up against is their own ignorance. This ignorance is
the cause of their wrongdoing. What is actually wrong was thought to
be good or right (at the time). A similar idea was expressed by Jesus in
his prayer regarding the Roman soldiers who crucified him: “Father
forgive them, for they know not what they do.”2
Baumeister doesn’t quite believe that all evildoing is based in igno-
rance, but he certainly believes that wrongdoers have very different
thoughts about what they are doing compared to the people who are
affected by their actions. Most murderers, he claims in his book Evil,
do not actually regret their actions, but instead believe they were justi-
fied in committing them. Many avow that they would do it again given
the chance. Exploring whether this attitude is a general feature of the
way people—and not just violent criminals—think of wrongdoing,
Baumeister and his collaborators studied university students’ attitudes
toward wrongdoing.
Baumeister first asked students to think about a time when someone
angered them, figuring that people would be more forthcoming about
such incidents than situations that involve more profound hurt or
shame. He also thought that most of those situations would involve
wrongdoing. He was right on both counts. The student participants
were then asked to provide the full story of the incident. To deter-
mine whether certain ways of thinking and feeling are characteristic of
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If these student reports are representative, then it seems that the very
same person magnifies an offense when he is the victim but minimizes
it when he is the offender. This cannot be because people tend to recall
more serious transgressions when they see themselves in the role of the
victim than the perpetrator, for recall that the incidents reported on
were similar in regard to severity. More likely, it is another manifesta-
tion of the self-serving way of thinking I have emphasized in previous
chapters. This is not to say that the different access people have to their
own thoughts and feelings compared to those of other people is not
significant also. A perpetrator typically knows what he or she felt and
thought at the time of the action, whereas victims are often left to infer
that from the action as they experience it. Conversely, a perpetrator
often has to work at understanding the impact his or her actions have
had or will have on the persons affected by them. What takes work is
often ignored.
Baumeister and his colleagues speculate that conflict is often the re-
sult of a basic failure to understand the other person. One of the points
that stands out is that whereas victims see the transgression they are
concerned with as more of what they have already been exposed to in
the past but have patiently put up with, perpetrators tend to see their
actions as more singular and less connected to previous events. This, in
turn, suggests that they were not aware of the victim’s reaction to these
previous events. Victims, however, were clearly already upset by the
pattern of behavior that they finally see as a wrong worth reporting on.
But they also often report not reacting. A typical conflict, then, might
have this shape. The one person repeatedly engages in a particular kind
of behavior, but often in a milder form than the one that finally makes
the other person react. The other person sucks it up without making
their displeasure felt. But turning the other cheek is hard work, par-
ticularly when it becomes a repeated activity. It usually makes people
angry. When, therefore, the same kind of action is repeated or a worse
version occurs, the victim experiences the impact not only of that ac-
tion but also of the ones that went before it and reacts accordingly. The
perpetrator, who is unaware of having provoked the victim in the past,
is therefore liable to think the victim is overreacting. As far as the per-
petrator is concerned, they committed a wrong, not many. From the
point of view of the victim, it is incomprehensible how the perpetrator
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could just continue to act in this upsetting way, particularly after how
nice she has been about other mishaps in the past. The perpetrator,
however, thinks of the isolated incident and has no problem explaining
it in terms of his being busy, preoccupied, or something like that.
It is somewhat intriguing that even though the study required
students to recall their attitudes as victims and as perpetrators back
to back, it did not make them any more aware of the fact that, in each
recalled event, their perspective was likely to differ from that of the
other person.
Not every difference in point of view on a wrongdoing can be
explained in terms of what information is readily available to whom.
The tendency to implicate victims in the wrong that was done to them
cannot, for instance. This is more readily ascribable to our tendency to
see our actions in the best possible light. Victims tend to absolve them-
selves of responsibility in the wrongdoing; perpetrators also do so, al-
beit in a slightly different way. Because they cannot disown their own
actions, they tend to focus on extenuating circumstances, such as being
busy or stressed, or on how their actions naturally flowed from the situ-
ation, their character, and/or the victim’s actions. Put concisely, victims
tend to maximize the wrong done to them, whereas perpetrators tend
to minimize it. This general pattern is broken by people who are in rela-
tively satisfying romantic relationships. Here, victims of transgressions
do not maximize the wrong, but the perpetrators continue to mini-
mize it, only not as much as perpetrators who are not romantically in-
volved with victims. It is easy to tell a story about how these tendencies
also spring from self-interested motives: to maintain a positive view of
the relationship, for instance.5
The pattern here holds of everyday wrongdoing. Baumeister also
believes it is true of more serious crimes. But there are obviously many
other factors at play in such cases, so we should be a bit careful about
simply extending these results to understanding interpersonal crime
generally. Nonetheless, the pattern demonstrates something important
about perspectives. Your view of an event is a function of the nature of
it and the relation you bear to it: Were you the one who did something
that upset another or were you the one who was upset? Acknowledging
the existence of distinctive victim and perpetrator perspectives puts us
on the path of solving the puzzle at the heart of Rashomon.
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Harold and Arthur were suite mates here at CWRU. They knew
each other fairly well but did not consider each other to be “best
friends.” One fall semester, Arthur was enrolled in an upper-level
engineering class that Harold had completed the previous spring.
Harold had prepared very thoroughly for this class and, as a result,
had done very well (A+, quite an accomplishment!). One day, he
made a vague sort of offer to assist Arthur on any course work in
that particular class. As it turned out, there were to be no exams,
rather a final paper that counted as 75% of the grade. The paper was
due Wednesday before the reading days started.
The semester passed without incident, as both suite mates
attended classes, prepared assignments, and tried to squeeze in some
fun as well. One week before the paper was due, Arthur reminded
Harold of his earlier offer, stating, “I need you to help me write this
paper.” Harold responded, “No, I said I would help you with exams
in the class.” Arthur replied, “But there are no exams this semester,
just this big paper!” Harold sighed, “Oh, well I guess I can help you.”
(Harold didn’t mind helping Arthur with an exam, just not a paper.)
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The two suite mates decided to get together to work on the paper the
Tuesday afternoon before it was due.
On the designated day, 1 week later, Harold did not show up for
his appointment. He stumbled in 2 hours later, drunk and a bit surly.
It seems that he forgot about having promised to assist Arthur with
the paper and made plans to go out drinking with his buddies. (It
was “$2 pitcher night” for margaritas.) As you might expect, Harold
was of little help to Arthur. To add to the pressure, Arthur’s computer
was on the blink, making it difficult to get any work done. While in
his inebriated state, Harold again promised to help Arthur with the
paper, although not until Thursday. Arthur was forced to ask his pro-
fessor for an extension (due supposedly to his computer problems).
The professor was not happy with the request, but he agreed to the
extension.
On Thursday afternoon, Arthur went looking for Harold and
found him in his suite. Harold now refused to help Arthur, as he
had too much to do and time was running out. He did apologize for
the situation but was firm in his refusal to help. Later on that night,
Arthur hit a snag in his paper and stopped by Harold’s room to ask
a quick question. Harold was on the phone and motioned to Arthur
to come back later. Arthur stopped back at 11:45 pm and again at
12:15 am, but Harold was still on the phone. (Arthur found out
later that he was talking long distance to his girlfriend. It seems that
they were discussing a change in their Christmas vacation plans
because their relationship had not been going well.) After a time,
Arthur gave up and returned to his room to complete his paper on
his own.
This particular class was central to Arthur’s major. Before the
paper, he had a B in the class. After turning in the paper, his grade
dropped to a C, as he received only a C on the paper. The TA who
graded the paper made comments that included “Good ideas, but
where is the theory?” and “Your reasoning is faulty. What are you
trying to say?” As a result of this experience, Arthur ended up
majoring in English at another university.
Here the situation is less cut and dried vis-à-vis wrongdoing. Imagine
yourself as either Arthur or Harold and read through the story again.
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Victim perspective
Perpetrator perspective
We can summarize the basic idea this way. Victims tend to max-
imize the wrong done to them, be it via condemnation of the action
or the actor’s intentions or in terms of their emotional reaction to it.
Perpetrators, on the other hand, usually minimize the wrong they
have done, whether by implicating the victim as partial culprit, pro-
viding justifications, or minimizing the negative consequences of their
actions. In their own way, these are expressions of the egocentricity
that, we have seen, characterizes the agent perspective. The relativizing
that we saw dominating the visual perspective—everything seen in
terms of where I am in relation to it (big, small, far away, flat, etc.)—
expresses itself here in a relativizing to the interests of the person in
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hostile actions. But they agreed more with the Adam pretenders that
Brian started it than with the Brian pretenders, who insisted that
Adam started it. In other studies, observers agree more with victims.
But usually they agree with victims about certain things, agree with
perpetrators about others, and disagree with both about yet other
things. Observers recognize the severity of the action for the victim
while at the same time acknowledging the perpetrator’s extenuating
circumstances, apologies, and other mitigating factors.10
If observers agree neither with victims nor with perpetrators, then
it can’t be that if I am the victim and you are the perpetrator, I occupy
an agent perspective on myself and an observer perspective on you.
I can’t view both of us from the agent perspective either. So, we need
a third category, one where people are interactors. For lack of a better
word, we can think of it as an interactor perspective. Such a perspec-
tive characterizes a person’s way of thinking of someone whose actions
directly affect her and who is affected by her actions. When we interact
with others, they are more intimately tied up with us and our interests
than are people we merely observe. They are sucked into our sphere
of interests, and we into theirs. A victim doesn’t just observe a perpe-
trator. He is directly impacted by the perpetrator’s actions. Similarly,
the perpetrator does not observe the wrong; he commits it. However
fractious, victims and perpetrators are involved with each other in a
way that agents and observers are not.
The victim and perpetrator literature supports the idea that our per-
spective on the world is very much a function of how we relate to it.
The agent point of view is one that sees things in terms of how they
relate to our interests, our bodies, or our needs. But such relationships
vary depending on the object. We relate to all animate creatures dif-
ferently than we would relate to physical objects like sticks and stones.
We relate to human beings and to people who are close to us in yet
different ways. When we are involved with other people, we think
of them as owing certain things to us and ourselves as owing them
something. What matters for us now is the fact that when we interact
with others, it changes the way we relate to them. This is true even in
conflicts, where our own interests very much color our interpretations
of our interactions. The victim is usually not simply an object to us, nor
is the perpetrator. We are not observers because our interests are too
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she had no hand in her husband’s dying (10, 11). If the woodcutter is
right about how the duel started, she dissimulates by leaving out in-
formation. Rashomon shows some of the ways victim and perpetrator
perspectives work, and how each person’s view on the events serves
his or her interests. It also teaches us is that there is no single partici-
pant who is a perfectly objective observer. The woodcutter is probably
better than the three protagonists, but his perspective too is a function
of his interests. There are only people and their perspectives. There is
no God’s point of view.
For those who find the radically different perspectives of Rashomon
hard to swallow, Shakespeare’s summer play may be more congenial.
At the start of the play, Egeus presents himself as the victim. He has
been wronged, not only by Lysander, who randomly decided to seduce
his daughter, but also by Hermia, who has “hardened her heart” against
him. Lysander and Hermia’s conspiracy of the heart has caused him
such vexation that he has been forced to bring his case to the powers
that be, to ask permission to have Hermia put to death. This request
is not unreasonable at all; it is more than justified by the situation.
Evidently, Egeus magnifies the wrong he has suffered (since Lysander
is as eligible as Demetrius) (1), finds it incomprehensible (seduction
out of nowhere, Hermia’s hardened heart) (3), and believes that con-
tinued anger is justified (punishing his daughter with death) (5).
But Egeus is not the only one with a skewed view of things. The main
culprit, Lysander, has a bad attitude too. Instead of showing contri-
tion for his behavior, or any understanding of Egeus’s predicament, he
mockingly tells Egeus to marry Demetrius himself, since he loves him
so (7, 13). He then goes on to enumerate his own virtues, throwing in a
slight of Demetrius for good measure (Act I, Scene 1):
In other words, Lysander did no wrong (7, 9). He is only pursuing his
right, a right generated by Hermia’s love (no doubt to everyone’s sur-
prise) (9–11). Not only that, but his fortunes are as good as, though
most likely superior to, those of Demetrius, who at any rate is a lady’s
man and completely unreliable. Note that at no point does he respond
to Egeus’s charge that he seduced Hermia. That part is ignored, and
the other noble aspects of his character paraded in front of the Duke.
He refers to “his right” as a way to either justify his action (Hermia’s
love commands him, perhaps) or mitigate its wrongness (but Hermia
loves me!). He points to all his other excellent qualities and, to top it
all off, gets people to focus on Demetrius’s seduction of Helena, mean-
while leaving his own unaddressed. It is all rather clever, and very
much in keeping with the perspective of a perpetrator.
For being the protagonist of all this drama, Hermia has precious
little to say. Perhaps she found the Duke comparing her father to a
god—“To you, your father should be as a god . . . ”—perplexing. Her
only response to her father’s charge is that Lysander is as eligible as
Demetrius, “whose unwished yoke my soul consents not to give sov-
ereignty” (9–11). In effect, she references mitigating circumstances
and, like Lysander, does not directly address her father’s accusation of
disobedience.
You are in an observer role with regard to this drama. What do you
think? It is hard to find either Egeus or Lysander entirely agreeable as
they each present their case with bombast. But knowing what we know
now, it is easy to see why they act as they do. They are merely giving
expression to their points of view. These viewpoints are not the result
of devious machinations on their part, but a natural way of focusing on
the parts of the world of particular relevance to them in their situation.
Later on we will examine how switching perspectives helps transcend
these partial interpretations of events. But first, let’s look more at the
interactive point of view.
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Scheler is saying that there is something special about being with an-
other person, which is quite different from thinking about them in a
more clinical or distanced way, as an observer of them. Such being with
gives us access to their feelings—and perhaps other mental states as
well—in a special way. This, in turn, affects our perspective. In the pre-
vious chapter, we saw how victims and perpetrators regard each other
differently than do actors and observers because they are interactors.
But there are many other ways of being with others that profoundly af-
fect our perspective on them. In extreme cases, our own perspective
may be obliterated by those of others. Scheler notes: “It is certainly true
that in judging our own case we all too often succumb to the infection,
as it were, which is transmitted by the attitude of other people towards
us; their estimate of us seems to displace the immediately given value of
our own self-appraisal and hides it from us.” In many other cases, our
perspective takes into account features of the perspectives of the person
with whom we are interacting. How this works is what we turn to now.3
There is little systematic empirical research on what I call “the
interactor perspective” that can mirror our actor-observer or victim-
perpetrator asymmetries, but there is plenty of evidence that others’
perspectives influence our own when we are with them. First, let’s look
at the simple case of how the presence of someone else’s perspective
influences our own. We can then move on to our tendency to “catch”
other people’s emotions, our propensity for mimicking their bodily
posture, movement, speech pattern, and, apparently, brain activity.
It seems that in many cases, we co-create a mental space between us
that reflects neither my nor your perspective, but a sort of “third” one.
Lastly, the psychological category “personal distress” reveals just how
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enmeshed our emotions are with those of other people. These are
all examples of interactivity, which is its own particular perspective
heavily influenced by those of others. The step beyond that is perspec-
tive taking, which is the subject of Part II.
Figure 5.1 In this picture, the person in the room sees only once disc. You,
however, see two. Illustration by Peter Bruce from Samson et al. 2010.
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discs on them. Inside the room was an avatar facing either of the three
walls. Sometimes the avatar was facing the same wall as the person in
the experiment. In other words, sometimes there was an overlap of
visual perspectives, and sometimes there was not. The experimental
subjects were then asked how many discs either they or the avatar
could see. Samson and her collaborators were interested in whether
it made a difference that the person and the avatar had the same per-
spective. If it did, then we have evidence that the visual perspective,
other than the one the person is being asked to take, interferes with
completing the task. It turns out that when the avatar and the viewer
see different numbers of discs, the viewer takes longer to respond than
when they see the same number of discs. So, for instance, suppose the
viewer sees three discs, but the avatar faces another wall where there
is only one. The viewer is asked to report how many discs she sees.
Easy, right? Perhaps, but people take longer to give the right response
(three) when the avatar sees one disc than when the avatar faces in the
same direction as them and sees three discs. It works the same way
the other way around too. If, faced with the same room layout, the
viewer is instead asked how many discs the avatar sees, she also takes
longer to respond. Why? Presumably because of the conflict between
the two perspectives, for in cases where the perspectives did not differ,
people were quicker to respond. This means that the subjects must be
aware, at some level, of what both they and the avatar see. When asked
about one or the other, they must disregard the information about the
other perspective they computed, and that takes time—roughly 700
milliseconds.4
What does this mean? Well, it means that the presence of other
perceivers changes our perspective. What they see becomes part of our
experience. Samson and her collaborators conducted another study
to determine whether we automatically take into consideration how
others see things as well. We don’t. Whether someone can see some-
thing can be determined by a relatively simple process of tracing a
line between their vision and the object of interest. This is often called
“Level 1 perspective taking.” How someone sees something is often
called “Level 2 perspective taking,” and it does require perspective
change proper. More precisely, studies indicate that the person has
to imagine herself physically located where the other person is. Our
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Figure 5.2 Which of the smaller groups of objects does the large square
belong to? If you focus on the local or low-level features, then it belongs
to the group on the right, but if you focus on the global or higher-level
features, then it belongs to the group on the left. Illustration by Peter
Bruce from Luan and Li 2020.
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reveals the way you have construed the object you have seen. Alone,
people gravitate toward the low-level construal, but when observed by
others, they gravitate toward the high-level features. Does this sound
familiar? It should. Remember Libby’s work on recollection from a
field or from an observer perspective? It follows the same logic. When
we recall from a field perspective, the lower-level features of objects,
situations, or activities stand out; when we recall from an observer
perspective, the higher-level ones do.6
Social psychologists talk about “social facilitation and impairment.”
Put briefly, it is a phenomenon wherein the presence of others affects
performance. Sometimes it facilitates it; at other times it hinders it.
It is the result of our paying a certain amount of attention to these
people. Split attention makes us perform better on simple tasks be-
cause it forces us to pay attention only to the most salient features of
a task, an object, or another person. But when it comes to complex
tasks, the presence of others reduces our ability to perform well. For
instance, we tend to ignore less obvious, but nonetheless crucial, in-
formation, as well as anything at the periphery or outside the cen-
tral task we are performing. The presence of someone in charge, a
respected individual, or simply a dominant person also tends to make
people “choke.” That is, even someone who is excellent at a task, say
mathematical puzzles or chess, is more likely to freeze up and under-
perform in the presence of an authority figure. This may be because
while they are performing our task, they are also considering how
they look to others, and that extra load interferes with performance.7
In general, we are more alert or aroused when we are with other
people than when we are alone. But when others are able to see us, we
get the effect Samson and colleagues talk about. We automatically no-
tice what they can see, and their presence has an effect on object cat-
egorization: we tend toward higher-level characterizations. It will be
interesting to see what other differences we find in how people view
their world when in the presence of others compared to when being
alone. Although this research is still in its infancy, it does rather seem
to support the phenomenologists when they insist on the importance
of the personal encounter. The presence of others—and the way we re-
late to, or interact with, them—makes a difference to how we see things
and our ability to act. It also affects how we feel.
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People taking care of young children know that one infant’s crying can
unleash a flood of tears in others. And most of us know that watching
someone cry in the movies can set off the waterworks. Crying is con-
tagious; so is yawning—in both humans and chimpanzees. All you
need to get your dog barking is another dog barking. It’s hard not to
automatically smile when someone smiles at you, or to laugh when
someone else does. This is not just hearsay; we have hard evidence—
well, as hard as psychological evidence gets.8
Contagious crying is not just a behavior. There is feeling behind
it or, if you like, in it. You don’t simply cry when you catch another’s
sadness; you also feel it. Similarly, when you yawn as a result of an-
other yawning, you begin to feel tired. Dogs likely don’t just bark, but
they also experience the affect connected with the bark. Unless people
are faking it—to manipulate you, for instance, or because they are ac-
tors—the same goes for their emotional expressions. The person who
cries is sad (or, in some cases, overwhelmed with positive feelings), the
dog that whimpers is in pain, and the child who cries is distressed. So,
when we mirror each other’s emotional expressions, we usually come
to feel the same emotion as the person we mirror. I feel sad with the
person who is sad, I am joyful with the person who is happy, etc. We
don’t just catch expressions; we also catch emotions. We usually do so
through expressions, although, as we shall see, there are other ways of
catching affect. The fact that we catch others’ emotions is not always
obvious, however. More about that in a minute.
Quick aside: Remember the opening quote from Scheler? He
implies that it is a mistake to think that there is the emotion and then
the expression of it, where the latter is just a way of communicating
the emotion to others. Instead, we should understand the expression of
emotion as part of the emotion itself, even if it is sometimes possible to
fake an emotion or to suppress its expression. The expression of emo-
tion and the experiencing of it are much more tightly linked than this
“faking picture” would have it. Scheler’s contention is supported by the
fact that if you ask someone to exaggerate the way she expresses her
emotion, she comes to feel that emotion more strongly. If, instead, you
ask her to inhibit the expression of what she feels, it reduces the degree
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activity with the other in some way but are often unaware of the way
we do it.19
I don’t think Chemero knows how we create synergies with others;
he simply observes that we do. And the fact that we do it so well shows
that we are better at discerning the fine details of how others move,
talk, and express affect than we are aware of. We are equally unaware of
mimicking others or synchronizing our behaviors with them. But, by
contrast to Hatfield and colleagues, Chemero maintains that our coor-
dination with others is skillful, not automatic. Why? Perhaps because
the activities he is interested in are ones where people have to learn to
do things together. Improvising together and herding sheep are activi-
ties that take place within a certain context with another person. We re-
spond to our environment in ways that enable synergistic relationships
by our learning to modify our behavior in rhythm with it. This is not
a reflective activity. It is immediate and thoughtless and yet extremely
sophisticated and complex. The larger point of Chemero’s suggestion is
that there is what we might call true intersubjectivity, whereby we come
to form part of a larger whole with the other, however momentary. In
certain types of skillful interactions with others, we become entrained
with one another so that although we are two separate persons, in this
moment we form one system. Notice this is different from saying that
we become one with the other, as in becoming fully identified with him
or coming to form part of him. We are both absorbed by this larger
unity we form together, as it were. And our ability to affect the world
as part of this larger unit often goes beyond anything we could do on
our own.
This evidence about how we act together, feel together, or simply
are together contrasts with more traditional ways of thinking about
human interaction. When I was a philosophical baby, the common
wisdom was that we were able to interact with others well only because
we ascribe mental states to one another. I am able to figure out what
to do because I have certain beliefs about your beliefs, desires, and
intentions, and vice versa. The problem with such accounts, though,
is that they quickly involve us in a series of increasingly complex
ascriptions of knowledge to people, which makes any type of interac-
tion seem, if not impossible, then at least like a towering intellectual
achievement. Consider what would be involved in being able to act in
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concert with someone else. Does our partner not also need to know
that we know what he is to do (so he can do his part), which in turn he
can only know if he knows what we are to do (so we know our part)?
Moreover, to know that he knows that we will do our part so that he
can do his part, will we not also need to know that he knows that we
know that he knows that we will do our part? The story now becomes
so dizzyingly complex that it is hard to believe that coordinated human
interaction is possible at all, as Adam Morton once pointed out. And
yet, here we are in the Anthropocene. Synergistic accounts don’t seem
so silly against this background.20
It turns out that there is another thing that tends to synchronize
people’s brain activities, namely sharing emotions. So, we are back to
the idea of emotional contagion. Only now we are beginning to sus-
pect that it is more ubiquitous than we thought. In the words of Lauri
Nummenmaa, who led the study that found that experiencing similar
emotions synchronizes brain activity, “by enhancing the synchrony of
brain activity across individuals, emotions may promote social inter-
action and facilitate interpersonal understanding.”21
Notice how Ogden’s thoughts concern (1) his own feelings of empti-
ness, (2) the patient’s feelings about his place in the world, and (3) the
co-created experience of the hollowness of their attempts. The three
are interweaved in an overall experience of the self and other within
the context of being together.
This is, of course, somewhat vague. And it would be desirable to
have a more precise and tangible description of the process. We do not.
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other than oneself. The problem is that desires or ideas that we don’t
want to have don’t just go away because we don’t like them. We retain
some degree of awareness of them. A way to relieve the anxiety that
results from having such desires or ideas is to make it appear that our
awareness of them is a result of others having them. Projection helps
maintain a stable, nonconflicted, and relatively anxiety-free self by
disowning unwanted psychic states. A classic example of projection is
that of the spouse who defends against her own nonconjugal sexual
urges by suspecting that her partner is unfaithful. Although first intro-
duced by psychoanalytic theory, projection, as a defense mechanism, is
now an undisputed psychological phenomenon. It turns out that if you
lead people to believe they have characteristics that they find threat-
ening, they are much more likely to see such characteristics in other
people.26
Projective identification, or introjection, describes the act of
accepting another person’s projections. An example of projection is
when someone feels intensely angry with you, but because they are
unwilling to recognize their anger, they deny experiencing it and see
you as the one who’s angry. In this case, projective identification is
when you internalize that projection and you also come to see your-
self as angry. From a highly individualistic view of people, which sees
each person as an island, such flagrant errors about the true source of
emotions seem bizarre. However, once we realize how deeply coupled
we often are, the mysteriousness of projection and projective identi-
fication starts to dissolve. The issue comes down to who is willing to
acknowledge and take ownership of the emotions that flow between
us. The irony of this is that people who are willing to take ownership
and be empathic are vulnerable to the very damaging experience of
having others’ unwanted emotions foisted upon them. Thus, empathic
perspective taking can be harmful to the individual, causing them to
carry the burdens of others as well as their own. It is an issue I return to
in Chapter 9.
The phenomena of projection and introjection show that the lines
between who thinks, wants, or feels what are actually more blurred
than our individualistic psychology would have us believe. The fact
that we project so easily indicates something rather fundamental about
the thoughts that occur to us. If we were aware that we were, say, sexist
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and then went on to believe anyone in sight was too, it wouldn’t make
much sense. But what if thoughts and desires sometimes occur to us
in the absence of a clear owner, for instance, when we are with other
people? Then we have to consider whether the thoughts, feelings, or
desires originated with us or with someone else. If this sounds crazy,
consider that this is exactly what we do when we catch other people’s
emotions. We can either own them, and they become truly ours, or we
can disown them, in a manner of speaking, and they become someone
else’s. The latter is the recipe for empathy. But what happens in the
former case is worth dwelling on for a moment.
how easy it is to escape the cause of the distress, namely the other’s
need. If it is hard to escape exposure to the other’s distressing situation,
even people who report experiencing as much distress for themselves
as for the other person help.28
Distress at others’ distress is interesting and strange in ways that
have been underestimated by philosophers and psychologists alike.
Psychologists tend to insist that it is personal, namely that it is distress
that has as its object yourself and your situation. Philosophers, on the
other hand, tend to maintain that distress at someone else’s distress can
at least sometimes be empathic, that is, be distress that is about the other
person or her situation. But what if, instead of focusing on whether dis-
tress at others’ distress is personal or empathic, we asked ourselves why
it is so difficult to figure out?
When we ask this question, what stands out is just how weird and in-
teresting contagious and empathic emotions are. It is truly as if people
are sometimes confused about what to do about the emotion. They
might decide either, with my friend’s ex, that the other person is making
them feel bad, or that they feel what the other person feels, after which
they might come to the other person’s aid. But, and this is the impor-
tant point, in many cases it is one and the same emotional state that
sets them off in one direction or another. This is not usually true of our
emotions. If a bear frightens me, it is not because I caught its fear and
then decided it was making me afraid. Instead, I am afraid because the
bear constitutes a threat to my physical integrity. That affect can turn
either personal or altruistic is rather unique to contagious emotions. If
we were not ideologically wedded to an individualistic way of thinking
about thoughts and feelings, we might conclude that contagious affect
is neither clearly yours nor clearly mine. When I feel sad because you
feel sad, my sadness is a window onto your sadness. I only feel it be-
cause you feel it. So, the sadness I feel is experienced in part as yours.
But, at the same time, it is also mine because I feel it. If I focus on you,
then what I feel is really empathic sadness. But if I focus on me, then
what I feel is just sadness. It is, at one and the same time, your sadness,
my sadness, and our sadness.
Some think the idea that we can share in others’ experiences is ab-
surd. Max Scheler, for instance, insists that although we can take
another’s perspective and thereby understand what she is going
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through, any emotion we may feel during this event, or as a result of it,
is always simply our own. Scheler is particularly concerned to discredit
the idea that we ever share the other person’s emotions. Recently, Dan
Zahavi and Philippe Rochat have reiterated this view. Sharing is a re-
ciprocal relation that requires mutual awareness that the one person
feels what the other feels. In other words, the empathizer must know
that the target feels what he feels, and the target must know that the
empathizer feels what he feels. Sharing in this sense rests on a pre-ex-
isting self-other differentiation.29
Whether there really is such an unbridgeable self-other gap be-
tween people as Zahavi and Rochat suggest or not, emotions can be
experienced as not clearly being your own, but possibly those of an-
other person, even if you are neither schizophrenic nor paranoid. For
instance, enjoying an interaction with another person, we are not al-
ways aware of where our own enjoyment stops and another’s begins.
In emotional contagion, as we have seen, the person catching the other
person’s affect may be similarly confused. It is possible to experience
something as yours that is not. This isn’t just true of emotions. You
might have heard of the rubber hand illusion. This illusion illustrates
my point because even if you are a purist about self-other boundaries
in one sense, you might still accept that you can experience something
as yours that is not and that you also know is not yours.30
So, what is the rubber hand illusion? Once upon a time in a lab-
oratory far away, Matthew Botvinick and Jonathan Cohen invited
some ordinary people into their laboratory for some safe psycholog-
ical experimenting. They were seated at a desk on which were placed a
screen and a rubber hand. They were then asked to rest their hands on
the surface of the desk, but in such a way that their left hand was con-
cealed behind the screen. As a result, when they looked to the left, what
they saw was the (left) rubber hand instead of their own left hand. An
aid of the experimenter would then sit down opposite them and stroke
the visible rubber hand and the unseen left hand simultaneously. The
effect of this simple manipulation was nothing short of astounding.
After a short period, of around a minute, the person in the experiment
suddenly began to feel the rubber hand being stroked. In other words,
the rubber hand was experienced as his hand. This rather extraordi-
nary feat is a result of how the brain constructs our body map. It does
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so on the fly by using input from our visual and tactile systems. On
the basis of statistical correlations, the synchronicity of the seen and
the felt strokes is detected, and the brain produces a representation of
the body, which includes the rubber hand but not, it seems, the actual
hand.31
Just as you can feel the rubber hand as your own, you can feel an-
other person’s emotion as your own. When I say, “I feel your pain,” it
may well seem to me that I am. Or perhaps I experience the affect in a
relatively undifferentiated way, which might be why most people say
they experience it directly as if they were distressed, but also empathi-
cally, namely for the other person. If, or when, I see my distress as dis-
tress for you, I adopt your perspective because I react to your situation
as if I were you. Deciding that I feel what you feel is a form of perspec-
tive taking, as we are about to see.
The variety of ways in which either the mere presence or the attention
of others affects how we experience them and our common world is
quite complex, and the overview here merely scratches the surface. But
the context in which we are with others, how we relate to them, and
what sorts of mental occurrences erupt all play a role in how we are af-
fected. Let us look at a couple here.
We have reached the end of Part I. Hopefully, you now have a sense
of what a perspective is. As agents, we regard ourselves in a way that
differs subtly, but significantly, from the way we regard others as obser-
vers. When we are engaged with others—in collaboration or conflict—
we take an interactive perspective. This is also true of the interpersonal
encounter where we are affected by the mere presence of another
person.
PART II
HOW TO TA KE A NOT H E R
P OIN T OF V IEW
6
Perspective Taking
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had her brain zapped, and going after Glory cannot change that. It can,
however, get you killed. Her perspective on what has happened is an
observer perspective. Once she recenters her evaluative framework on
Willow, things change. How does she achieve this change of perspec-
tive? By imagining that Glory has done to Dawn what she has done to
Tara. With this move, a flood of realizations come upon her. And she
understands perfectly what Willow will do.
Now, it is common knowledge that people who feel wronged will
often seek revenge. But even if Buffy hadn’t known this, she would
still have arrived at the same conclusion by imagining that she had
been wronged in a similar way. This is what Dawn realizes as she tries
to persuade Buffy to take Spike’s and her concern seriously. But how
does Buffy recognize that she wants revenge? One way is through
emotion. She thinks of Glory draining Dawn’s brain and leaving her
a vegetable and it angers her, after which the motive for revenge nat-
urally presents itself. Revenge is the natural complement to anger, as
we are about to see. Other than coming to feel what Willow feels—or
something close to it, at any rate—Buffy doesn’t need to do anything.
She doesn’t have to speculate about human psychology. Why? Because
she is human psychology incarnate. All of us are. By empathizing with
Willow, Buffy realizes how she feels, what she’s thinking about, and
what she is about to do.1
This chapter is about perspective taking in the form of empathy. First,
I discuss what it is to change one’s perspective, and I give examples
of the particular transformation that is typical of imagining being in
another’s situation. It does not involve imagining being the other person
in any substantial sense, but it does involve recapitulating their web of
relationships in our own psychology. Second, I give a quick overview
of what emotions are. That overview serves to make clear that when
an organism experiences an emotion, it adopts a certain perspective
on the world, which affects not only what it feels but also how it thinks
about the world, what it attends to, and what it is motivated to do. In
section 6.3, I show how empathizing with someone makes us adopt
their perspective. To make that claim stick, however, I have to show that
emotions are not simply the result of already thinking about the world
a certain way, but that they actually cause us to see the world differently
when we experience them. In section 6.4, I present a couple of literary
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things a certain way that may or may not conform to how the other
person sees them. Instead of arguing about who is right, it may be far
more useful to adopt the other person’s point of view to try to under-
stand how they see things. The drawing suggests that if we do this,
we may come to see that we are both right, although perhaps in dif-
ferent ways.
The illustration seems simple, but it is actually quite clever. Consider
the numeral. It seems fair to say that it must either be a 6 or a 9. It cannot
be both at the same time. But now we have to ask, who decides which
numeral it is? Perhaps it is the one who drew it. But, of course, the one
who drew it drew it precisely so that it would be a 6 to the one person
and a 9 to the other. So, who gets to decide? The illustration draws our
attention to the fact that it is indeterminate whether the numeral is a 6
or a 9. There is no ultimate fact of the matter. Facts about experience
are much like this.
To change our visual perspective, we imagine seeing whatever the
person whose perspective we want to take sees from their position. This
is what I called Level 2 perspective taking in earlier chapters. Doing so
reveals how the thing looks to them. It gives us the object’s aspectual
shape, as philosophers of perception like to say. Put in terms of our
example, the man to the left in Figure 6.1 will now see the 6 from the
other side, where it looks like a 9. Its appearing like a 9 is the numeral’s
aspectual shape. Imagining seeing an object from another angle is, as
we have seen, realized by our visual system performing gradual shifts
to its current visual image in a process that is best described as mental
rotation. It’s a neat trick to be sure.
It may seem that there is no clear psychological equivalent of taking
up the visual perspective of another. But there is, of course, and we
have already been introduced to it. Remember our discussion of auto-
biographical memory? When we recall a scene visually, we can either
recall it as we saw it, from a field perspective, or from a perspective
outside ourselves, namely an observer perspective. Not only are we
able to take these different perspectives on experiences in our past, but
people can also be made to switch back and forth. A person who nat-
urally recalls an experience from a field perspective can be induced to
recall it from an observer perspective. And when she does, the experi-
ence is recalled in slightly different ways along the lines we discussed in
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(Level 1), but we don’t yet know what it is (Level 2). This suggests that
going from an observer perspective to a field or agent perspective is
hard work. It requires attention and cannot be carried out well if we are
otherwise engaged in listening to a person, carrying out another task,
or thinking about what we see. Nevertheless, life is full of examples of
people managing to do so.
In our Buffy example, Buffy takes Willow’s perspective, but not by
going through the hard imaginative work of mentally transposing her-
self into Willow. Dawn does the work for her. All Buffy has to do is im-
agine that what happened to Tara happened to Dawn. And off she goes.
It is at one and the same time quite simple and extraordinarily clever.
Buffy takes Willow’s perspective without imagining being Willow at
all. She does it by instead reflecting on a relationship of her own of
comparable significance to Tara and Willow’s. Julie does much the
same in our earlier example. As she tries to understand my backseat-
driverism, she doesn’t imagine being me, Heidi Maibom. Instead, she
imagines herself in the passenger seat, while someone else is driving her
car, someone she cares about, and who cares about her. She thereby
replicates two of my “relationships,” namely that between me and my
car and that between her and me. Since she owns a car, the first is easy.
And she chooses her husband for the guest role of offending driver so
as to replicate a relationship of mutual warmth and care.
Let us return to A Midsummer Night’s Dream for a moment. Suppose
our good man Egeus decides to do what Hermia wants him to: see with
her eyes. Okay. So, there’s this young man outside my window, offering
me sweetmeats and locks of his hair, holding forth about his undying
love for me, etc. Seriously? You get my point. This type of projection
clearly doesn’t work. But it would also be absurd to suggest that Egeus
should imagine that he has the body of a teenage girl, that he thinks of
the sorts of things teenage girls think of, etc. We rejected this type of
self-transformation as a model of perspective taking back in Chapter 1.
Instead, what Egeus must do is imagine something that has the same
charge for him as the situation with Lysander and Demetrius has for
Hermia. He can then mentally substitute his resultant response for
Hermia’s. In this way he can adopt Hermia’s perspective on the situ-
ation without imagining being her, but also without simply projecting
himself into her situation. Whereas visual perspective taking captures
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the spatial relations between a seer and the world he sees and the spa-
tial relations between the objects within it, psychological perspective
taking captures interest relations.
Taking up another’s perspective, then, involves adopting an agent
perspective on the world as opposed to our more usual way of thinking
about that person from an observer or an interactor perspective. This
involves replicating the agent’s relationship to his or her world. If you
want to imagine how I might feel about someone scratching my car,
imagine someone scratching your car. If you want to imagine how
I might feel about my wife betraying me, imagine that your wife is
betraying you or, even better, if she has already betrayed you, think of
how you felt then. If you don’t have a wife, imagine your husband, your
lover, or your best friend. Or you might just empathize with what I feel.
It is this approach I want to focus on now. In order for such a simple
approach to work, however, it must be true that emotions present us
with a psychological perspective on the world; they must instantiate
powerful human interests all on their own. Consequently, by feeling
one, we come to embody those very interests. To see whether this is the
case, we have to look at what emotions are.
Emotions
(1) are triggered by a relatively narrow range of situations or events
(elicitation conditions);
(2) involve a value- laden way of thinking about the eliciting
conditions (appraisals);
(3) involve changes of the body;
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for themselves and for the victim. If, therefore, we can experience the
same emotion, perhaps even the same mood, as someone else, we are
de facto adopting their perspective as long, of course, as we are aware
that we experience the emotion because the other person experiences
it and don’t simply take the emotion to be our own.
Why empathizing with others can be such a powerful engine of un-
derstanding cannot be appreciated without first seeing how emotions
affect the way we view the world. Only then will it become obvious
why empathic emotions help us understand others. In the next section,
I begin with some literary examples to bring out the force of emotions,
and then I move on to empirical data. The aim is to show that emotions
aren’t simply the result of seeing the world a certain way, but that when
we are in the sway of them, they affect the way we view it. When, there-
fore, we empathize with someone, we don’t first have to know what she
thought before the emotional episode, but we can content ourselves
with considering her situation from the point of view of someone who
feels an emotion very similar to hers.
This view of her sensuality is turned on its head shortly after. They are
both inexperienced, and their fumbling first full encounter ends with
Edward prematurely ejaculating on her leg. Florence is shocked and
disgusted, and after manically drying herself off with a pillow, she runs
from the room. Edward is left alone and confused. “With his thoughts
no longer softened or blurred by longing, he was capable of registering
an insult with forensic objectivity.” And he then gives in to anger. For
a moment, when he reflects on her touch, “fresh sharp-edged arousal
began to distract him, enticing him from these hardening thoughts,
tempting him to start forgiving her. But he resisted.” He thinks: “She
is unsensual, utterly without desire. She could never feel what he felt.
Edward took the next steps with fatal ease: she had known all this—
how could she not?—and she had deceived him.”12
Edward’s thoughts are a powerful demonstration of how affect
colors our thoughts of others. Florence is sensual and sexually ex-
cited when he is longing to possess her. Once his desire dissipates,
he “understands” that he has been insulted. And as he gets angry, it is
clear to him that Florence deceived him. Her actions change with his
affect. Because McEwan chooses to give us access to both Edward’s
and Florence’s first-person perspectives, we know that Florence never
meant to deceive him; we understand that his quickness to judge her
is the culmination of a long history of unrequited passion; and we see
clearly how these characters are ensconced in their own view of things
enhanced by the strong feelings they experience.
A similar distortion of facts takes place in Herman Melville’s Moby
Dick. Captain Ahab sails the world seas seeking to kill the eponymous
whale that once took off his leg as he was trying to kill it. When his chief
mate accuses him of being “enraged with a dumb thing,” he responds:13
All visible objects, man, are but as pasteboard masks. But in each
event—in the living act, the undoubted deed—there, some unknown
but still reasoning thing puts forth the mouldings of its features from
behind the unreasoning mask. If man will strike, strike through
the mask! How can the prisoner reach outside except by thrusting
through the wall? To me, the white whale is that wall, shoved near
to me. Sometimes I think there’s naught beyond. But ‘tis enough.
He tasks me; he heaps me; I see in him outrageous strength, with an
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We cannot exclude that there was something about the cases that made
people particularly angry, nor can we exclude that the anger was based
on a prior appraisal of stupidity or self-involvement. Nonetheless, the
results are rather suggestive: Anger makes us think rather poorly of the
person who angers us.15
In a similar vein, Jon Maner and colleagues made their subjects feel
certain emotions in order to see what effects it would have on their as-
cription of emotional states to others. The guiding idea here was that
people would see others in terms consistent with their emotion-in-
duced motivational state. For instance, if someone felt afraid or defen-
sive, they would be more likely to experience others as being angry.
After all, someone being angry with us is a threat. What they found
partially supported that idea. If someone or something was already
associated with threat, and the person was made to feel afraid, then
they overascribed anger to that someone or something. Interestingly,
the experimenters also found that men, but not women, who are ei-
ther “romantically” or sexually aroused (due to watching a film clip
of a romantic date) overattribute sexual arousal to attractive female
faces. Other men had previously rated the faces as having a neutral ex-
pression. Thus, men who were not aroused did not think these faces
expressed sexual interest or arousal. And so, this study provides fur-
ther support for the idea that what we feel affects how we perceive
the world around us. Consequently, it affects how we think of other
people. When McEwan has Edward see Florence as sexually aroused
one minute and completely frigid and scheming the next as a result of
his emotions changing, he is correct about human psychology.16
Christopher Hsee, Elaine Hatfield, and Claude Chemtob also found
evidence that people’s emotions affect their view of things. They were
interested in how people would react to a person who reported one
emotion but expressed another. To explore this, they made up a story
about a company trying out computer software to dub foreign movies
into English. The people who had volunteered for the study—all psy-
chology students at the University of Hawaii—were asked to listen to
a tape of the translation and a separate clip of the person whose voice
was translated. They then rated the degree to which the person was
happy or sad and the degree to which they felt happy or sad. The audio
clips were translated by a person of the opposite sex and read in a
monotone computer tone so as not to betray any affect. The clips were
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sometimes matched in terms of what the person said they felt and
the emotion they expressed on their faces. But sometimes they were
mismatched, so that a person who looked sad claimed to be happy,
and a person who looked happy claimed to be sad. In these cases, the
person said things like “although I did not look happy, I was actu-
ally extremely happy.” What the other person said they felt influenced
people’s beliefs more than did the emotion they expressed. Despite
this, they thought the other person’s emotion was less intense than
they claimed it was. When it came to their own emotions, subjects
were affected equally by the other person’s facial expression and what
they said they felt. That is, they did not experience as much happiness
when the person who looked sad said they were extremely happy as
they did when the person both looked happy and claimed to be happy.
This evidence is preliminary, but it does give us an indication that our
feelings really do influence how we think about things. In the exper-
iment, it seems that people’s evaluations of others’ happiness or sad-
ness were affected by what they felt in response to these other people’s
feelings.17
Emotions affect the way we see the world, then. They affect our goals
or motives. This is true even if we have not previously evaluated the sit-
uation in that emotion-congruent way. In fact, at least some of the time
our thoughts are the result of the feelings we have. As we shall see, what
we feel affects us and our outlook in many other ways as well. If, there-
fore, we are interested in understanding how another sees the world,
we do well to take that into consideration. And what better way to do
so than to feel what she feels? Although experience teaches us that cer-
tain types of affect are associated with certain types of action, our ex-
plicit knowledge of what affect goes with what outlook, motivation, or
ways of thinking is usually quite limited. This is why psychologists get
paid to unearth it. But if you empathize with someone, that informa-
tion comes for free. Empathy presents someone’s motives from the in-
side, because being in a consonant emotional state yourself, you feel
the pull of those motives. Philosopher Karsten Stueber has said that
empathy is needed for you to understand a reason as a reason. I don’t
know that we should go that far, but empathy certainly helps you see
from the inside—from an agent perspective, that is—why someone is
moved to do or think as they do.18
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and how they think about a situation or other people. What that means
for us is that when we empathize with another person’s emotions, we
are apt to experience the world in a similar way—as aggravating, won-
derful, or what have you. And along with that comes the way we at-
tend to certain things, what we feel motivated to do, and so on. Because
emotions are such expansive clusters of interests involving everything
from attention to motivation, they are some of the most powerful
tools for understanding others. Nonaffective ways of putting ourselves
in others’ shoes are great also, but they don’t give us as much as em-
pathy does.
7
Knowing You
When it first became known that the United States’ military was using
waterboarding on so-called enemy combatants, a heated discussion
followed about whether or not it was torture. Christopher Hitchens
and Erich Mancow were on the side of those who thought it wasn’t.
They were convinced it couldn’t be that bad and voluntarily underwent
waterboarding themselves to prove it. To their dismay, they both real-
ized that waterboarding is, in fact, that bad. Here is what Hitchens had
to say about his experience:
You may have read by now the official lie about this treatment, which
is that it “simulates” the feeling of drowning. This is not the case. You
feel that you are drowning because you are drowning—or, rather,
being drowned, albeit slowly and under controlled conditions and
at the mercy (or otherwise) of those who are applying the pressure.
The “board” is the instrument, not the method. You are not being
boarded. You are being watered. This was very rapidly brought home
to me when, on top of the hood, which still admitted a few flashes
of random and worrying strobe light to my vision, three layers of
enveloping towel were added. In this pregnant darkness, head down-
ward, I waited for a while until I abruptly felt a slow cascade of water
going up my nose. Determined to resist if only for the honor of my
navy ancestors who had so often been in peril on the sea, I held my
breath for a while and then had to exhale and—as you might ex-
pect—inhale in turn. The inhalation brought the damp cloths tight
against my nostrils, as if a huge, wet paw had been suddenly and
annihilatingly clamped over my face. Unable to determine whether
I was breathing in or out, and flooded more with sheer panic than
with mere water, I triggered the pre-arranged signal and felt the un-
believable relief of being pulled upright and having the soaking and
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stifling layers pulled off me. I find I don’t want to tell you how little
time I lasted.
“It is way worse than I thought it could be, and that’s no joke,”
Mancow said, likening it to a time when he nearly drowned as a
child. “It is such an odd feeling to have water poured down your nose
with your head back. . . . It was instantaneous . . . and I don’t want to
say this: absolutely torture.”
Neither Hitchens nor Mancow was able to imagine how bad water-
boarding was. Their actual experience did not match their imagined
experience. This should have surprised no one. After all, the ability
to imagine an experience must rely, in large part, on recalling similar
experiences in the past. But who has had experiences similar to water-
boarding? It is here that things become strange, because both Hitchens
and Mancow had had such experiences. They almost drowned as chil-
dren and found the experience traumatic. But waterboarding just is
controlled drowning of a person. Could Hitchens and Mancow have
missed this fact? Unlikely. Look up any definition of the term, and
you will find it described as simulating the experience of drowning. It
therefore seems that having had the relevant experience did not help
them imagine what waterboarding is like.
These examples highlight a charge that is commonly made against
perspective taking. It simply doesn’t work. Once we are faced with
people different from us or with different experiences, we are incapable
of imagining their experiences correctly, or even remotely correctly.
You might have heard people insist that they can’t imagine stealing if
they had nothing to eat, or not protesting loudly if sexually harassed.
And yet we have evidence that most people do the opposite. The issue
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not seem impressive, but it is a fact that figuring out another’s attitude
toward us—are they hostile, belittling, friendly, or supportive—is one
of the most important tasks we have, and one that occupies a great deal
of our thinking about other people.
recall of previous events may be, it can still be fairly inaccurate. Recall
the story in Chapter 1 about my friend who had fallen down the stairs
as a child, but remembered it as taking place in the house that his
family moved to after the fall? Despite his knowing this, he still viv-
idly remembers falling down those stairs. We should still keep in mind,
however, that the fall and its impact is most likely recalled correctly.
It is the location that is wrong. This is comforting since when we rely
on memories in perspective taking it is usually the significance of the
event, emotional and otherwise, we are trying to access.
Our reliance on semantic memories leads to what psychologists
call “focalizing” or “the focusing illusion.” When we focalize,
we focus almost exclusively on the central feature of a situation.
Suppose, for instance, that you recall going to the dentist. You
home in on something like the following scenario. You are lying
prostrate on an old reclining chair in a white, clinical room with
bright lights, completely defenseless with your mouth open and
a person rummaging around in it with sharp implements, while
you are trying to breathe. As you lie there, you worry about bad
news from the frontlines. Do you have a new cavity? Do you need
a root canal or, God forbid, an implant? Going to the dentist, how-
ever, involves many other things, such as getting there, whether
by foot, bicycle, car, or public transit; encounters along the way;
a wait in the waiting room; a chat with the receptionist; and so
on. Focalizing can make things seem better or worse depending
on what is in focus. In the dentist case, it typically seems worse
than it is.9
When our thinking is focalized, then, we represent a certain situa-
tion in a de-contextualized fashion. But the context in which an event
takes place makes a difference to someone’s response to it. Imagine
eating a plate of spaghetti with meat sauce (if you are a vegetarian, im-
agine a plate of risotto). It’s good, right? If you are like the students
Wilson and colleagues asked, your imagining how delightful that plate
of food is won’t be affected by whether you imagine eating it in the
morning or in the evening. However, when the students actually did
eat the plate of spaghetti, they enjoyed doing so more in the evening
than in the morning. Why? Because they focalize, Wilson writes. They
think merely of eating the spaghetti, not the context in which they are
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eating it. One reason we do not always get good results from imagining
from scratch, then, is that we imagine the situation in an impoverished
way, and not properly situated in the flow of life.10
Our tendency to focalize tells us something important about the im-
agination. We do not typically imagine expansive scenarios. Imagined
situations tend to be denuded, populated only by the main actors and
events. It resembles a modern play with minimal stage setting more
than a lavishly set ballet or opera. We probably imagine things as they
never are: isolated from their usual setting. This may not be too dif-
ferent from how we imagine seeing or hearing things. When I imagine
hearing someone sing, I imagine hearing it, but in a void of silence.
In real life, I almost invariably hear other sounds too, even if I do not
focus on them. The difference between not focusing on something and
not representing it at all is crucial. In real life, what we do not focus
on sometimes influences our thoughts and actions in ways we do not
foresee. We can also direct our attention to it almost effortlessly. What
we do not imagine can have no such effect.
Focalizing is the price we pay for having effective episodic memo-
ries. It is no doubt a price worth paying. But the fact that we focalize
must be taken into consideration when we simulate being in someone
else’s situation. The personal experiences we hope will teach us impor-
tant lessons about life, and help us understand others, involve fairly
abstract and stylized representations that may also be affected by
our current evaluations and sense-making. But things are not as bad
as they seem. Gilbert’s results mainly find that focalizing prevents us
from getting the degree and duration of affect right. If your favorite
sports team wins an important tournament, you will not be as happy
for as long as you predict. You will, however, still be happy. Similarly,
even if you are wrong about the particular stairs on which you fell, the
experience of falling is likely still correct. Put differently, imagination
and memory faulty, but they are not that faulty.
Let us return to the Mancow and Hitchens case because we are now
in a better position to answer the question why they didn’t think wa-
terboarding was that bad despite their childhood near- drowning
experiences. A first pass at an explanation is that since the experience
is visceral, it is difficult to re-create in the imagination, if possible at all.
As such, it could have left them ignoring just how awful drowning was.
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This probably isn’t the right explanation, though. Notice that Hitchens
stresses that he was being “watered,” not “boarded.” This suggests
he didn’t connect waterboarding with his drowning experiences.
Moreover, even though visceral experiences cannot be retrieved vis-
cerally, they are certainly recalled as deeply unpleasant, something that
should have given both pause when it came to volunteering to try it
out. It is, of course, a possibility that having survived drowning, they
may be like the subjects we met before, who thought less of people
having difficulties overcoming what they had overcome. But this is
doubtful. There is no reason to suppose they took the perspective of
a suspected terrorist, and every reason to suspect they didn’t. People
tend not to take the perspective of those they dislike and certainly
not the one of the villain in the piece. Part of the reason is lack of re-
ward. Several studies have found that when people are rewarded for
accurately understanding others or for emotionally empathizing with
them, they do better than when there is no reward. This suggests that
there is a tight relationship between empathic success and reward. If
people are better at taking others’ perspective when they are rewarded
for getting it right, they are probably worse at doing so if it is likely to
make them feel bad. In the case of waterboarding, both Hitchens and
Mancow had a vested interest in waterboarding not being “that bad,”
because they supported the practice as an interrogation technique. It
is, however, hard to defend torture—better to insist that the interroga-
tion technique isn’t “that bad.”11
This leaves us with the option that Hitchens and Mancow
most likely didn’t connect waterboarding with their own pre-
vious experiences of drowning at all. They failed to connect these
experiences with anything they imagined a suspected terrorist going
through. Looking at evidence from psychology, this is not at all an
uncommon mistake. Just think of how oblivious people were to the
fact that they, too, had let other people down, when they recalled
been let down themselves, as we saw in Chapter 4.
What are the implications for perspective taking of such failures
of memory? Well, we can’t assume that people will automatically re-
call a similar experience when they try to take someone’s perspec-
tive in a certain situation. And even if they do, they will not be able
to conjure up the visceral impact of the experience. Moreover, they
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And:
(17) people who have impaired ability to take another’s perspective
or to empathize with them experience a range of interpersonal
problems, e.g., people with psychopathy or autism.13
Second, the results that Epley point to may not show that much
about perspective taking in the end. More than half the studies he
considers were classical theory of mind tests that we wouldn’t expect
to show much about perspective taking. As I have been at pains to point
out earlier, taking another person’s perspective is not the only way to
understand others. It is a first-person way of doing so distinct from
other methods. This means that it may be useful for a certain kind of
understanding, but not any kind. For recognition of emotions on faces
shown in photographs or videos, we shouldn’t expect change of per-
spective to do much at all With no contextual information—either
about the person or the situation they are in—the perspective takers
won’t have anything useful to go on. It is no coincidence, therefore, that
perspective takers reported the task to be more difficult and their con-
fidence being right lower than did people who were only asked to iden-
tify the emotion expression.
The other group of studies Epley considered were more promising.
Here, he asked partners to take each other’s perspectives and had them
predict preferences. This seems more in line with what someone like
Sillars has been advocating. But here, too, people were no more ac-
curate than people who were merely asked to predict their partner’s
preferences. They were, however, more confident about being right
(but so were the controls). This may seem to present quite a challenge
to perspective taking, but there are reasons to be cautious about such
studies. One might, for instance, be skeptical about perspective taking
being useful in our predicting what our partner might want to eat in
a Chinese restaurant or what movie he wants to watch. That’s usually
why people ask!16
Epley is right in pointing out that there are a number of limitations
to perspective taking. It may not always be helpful in predicting spe-
cific opinions, tastes, or predilections although, as we saw in our Buffy
example, it can help us predict how someone will react in a certain sit-
uation. But the real strength of perspective taking may be that it helps
us understand why someone reacts as they do. In our original story in
Chapter 1, Hermia wants Egeus to understand how vehemently she
opposes her proposed marriage to Demetrius, and how invested she
is in marrying Lysander. Egeus doesn’t have to predict whether she
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words because if I say she wanted to keep safe, I already knew that be-
fore taking her perspective. But I understood it now from the position
of someone (myself) wanting to keep safe. Part of that involved the rec-
ognition that I, too, might ask a friend to stay fairly isolated for a while
before a visit. Doing so, it was now clear to me, had no implications for
our friendship, or my eagerness to see her. I did not quite see this be-
fore taking her perspective.
Often what we are trying to understand about others is not what
are their exact thoughts or feelings as from the outside. Instead, we are
interested in why they think or feel that way, what implications it has
for them. Another thing that evidently is very important also is un-
derstanding their attitude, whether towards the situation, towards us
specifically, or towards other people. To see this, consider another ex-
ample from my exciting life speculating about other people’s motiv-
ations. While I was writing this book and using the example of Julie
taking my perspective to understand why I got so upset about the way
she drove my car, I had a small epiphany. I used to go out with a man
who was quite possessive about his car. I was rarely allowed to drive it,
and when I was, I was under close scrutiny. Needless to say, that makes
you drive worse than you would have were you left alone. I resented
him for it. I thought his attitude expressed poor confidence in me and
a lack of respect. As I reflected on how I acted toward Julie, I suddenly
realized that perhaps he had felt the same as I had when she drove my
car. I had read too much into it. I had a feeling that I “got” it finally
and felt quite forgiving as a result. Our respective reactions to others’
driving our cars were not reasonable if by that we mean “rational.” But
they were certainly understandable.
My understanding my ex’s backseat-driverism wasn’t an under-
standing of why he felt that way. I didn’t understand why I got so
exercised when Julie drove my car either. Instead, what became clear
to me is that you can come to feel inordinately insistent that your car
be driven as you drive it, and that any underlying respect for the person
doing the driving need not be implicated at all. I understand it be-
cause I experienced it myself. This is part of the magic of perspective
taking. I may not be able to put into words exactly what I understand.
Sometimes all I can say is that “that’s what it was like,” where “that”
refers to some experience of mine. Of course, I don’t know for sure
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whether what my ex felt was what I felt when Julie failed to downshift
taking the corners. And in a way it doesn’t matter. What is important is
that I realized that the hostility or lack of respect I assumed was behind
the haranguing was probably not there at all. Here, perspective taking
opens up a new space of possibilities. I see that there is at least one al-
ternative explanation of my ex’s behavior. In fact, there are probably
many. However, let’s suppose I got things almost right. We can then see
that there is a functional equivalence between my simulation and his
attitudes at the time, meaning that similar things made both him and
me react in similar ways without implying anything sinister about our
relationship to the offending driver.
In my story, I am concerned about what my ex’s complaining im-
plied about his attitude toward me, the state of our relationship, and my
own sense of efficacy. As long as I get these things right, the particulars
are largely irrelevant. I am not saying that it is irrelevant to me pre-
cisely what others think. But what I am saying is that that is often not
our main concern. We worry about the quality of their intentions: Are
they good or bad, friendly or hostile? To see this better, let us return to
Sillars’s relationship research, discussed in Chapter 3. Sillars points out
that, although the most obvious way of achieving an understanding
of your partner, parent, or child is to communicate your thoughts
directly,17
available evidence suggests that direct talk does not guarantee un-
derstanding. A few studies have considered the connection between
directness and understanding within the empathic accuracy par-
adigm. Simpson et al. (2003) reported nonsignificant correlations
between empathic accuracy and conflict avoidance in marital
problem-solving discussions. Further, there was no relationship be-
tween empathic accuracy and perceivers’ ratings of how clearly part-
ners conveyed their thoughts and feelings.
This explains a lot, right? And it does more than that. It suggests that
Epley’s insistence that we simply ask others what they want, or think,
is not as great a solution as he makes it seem. Because a person must
inevitably interpret what the other person says. And that interpretation
takes place against his or her own interests, goals, and concerns. This
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the other person thought of their action, which, we have seen, is going
to be conceived of more in terms of their own agency, skill, intent, and
so on. Perhaps we fix on some of those interpretations, but we don’t
need to. Perspective taking may be a stepping stone to knowing what
to ask to improve one’s understanding of the other person. Perspective
taking without communication can be a bit of a wild goose chase, but
communication without perspective taking may not be much better.
In fact, in conflict situations, communication is often quite ineffective.
For instance, Judith Feeney and Andrew Hill examined diary entries of
relationship partners and found that ambiguous communication con-
tributed to diverging ways of thinking about hurtful events. For good
understanding, then, both perspective taking and communication may
be needed.21
Summing up, perspective taking can perform a variety of functions,
depending on our needs and, of course, our ability to do it well. It can
give you a more precise idea about somebody’s particular and unique
thoughts and feelings. As we have seen, it can be difficult to get this quite
right given the structure of memory, and we may have to work more on
it than we might naturally do to get it right (make sure we connect with
the right memories, adjust for visceral sensations, etc.). The focus on
this type of accuracy, however, ignores a number of other functions of
perspective taking that are at least as important, if not more so. When
we do so, we capture a space of options for interpretations that is wider
than our own pre-reflective one. It helps us to consider other interpret-
ations of someone’s reaction. It is also helpful in capturing the quality
of the intention or experience of the other. Sometimes we do so by
creating a functional equivalence between us and the other person by
seeing how we would think, feel, or act as that person. Sometimes it
does it by our experiencing emotions very similar to the ones the other
person is feeling. Most importantly, perhaps, is perspective taking’s
ability to capture what matters, what is significant about the situation
to the other person from inside someone whom it affects directly like it
affects the other. Perspective taking captures value.
Let me just give one more example of understanding in the absence
of knowing the precise details of what we understand. Consider a good
map. If you have visited London, you might recall the iconic map of
the tube, which is posted in all carriages. It represents the relationship
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between the various lines. In the middle, you have the distinctive bottle
shaped Circle Line. It may shock you to learn that none of the lines
are geographically accurately represented on that map. For instance,
the Circle Line is neither circular nor bottle shaped. Moreover, the
distances between the stops on the map are not an accurate representa-
tion of the physical distances between the actual stops. But if you make
a subway map that is more accurate, it becomes a mess. So, the map is
simplified and falsified with the objective of making it more usable.
We might insist that someone who thinks of the London Underground
in terms of the map does not have accurate knowledge of the precise
details of the Circle Line. But it would be weird to say they don’t un-
derstand how it works. And they may, in fact, be better at using the
tube system than is a person with knowledge of the minutiae. Similarly,
we can understand others enough to know their general intentions
and attitudes toward us or others without understanding their precise
thoughts or feelings.22
7.3 Summing Up
more contextual factors to avoid focalism, and we can imagine that the
person we are trying to empathize with is someone we really care for.
We should be careful to use perspective taking when we already favor a
certain outcome or when we feel hostility toward the target.
But what about the typical cases people are worried about, such as
more privileged members of society trying to understand what those
less privileged are going through? The worry is that the vastly dif-
ferent experiences of each person will create a gap between them that
is very difficult to bridge. One must exercise good judgment and un-
derstand what types of reactions one is in a good position to under-
stand and which ones are beyond one’s ken. However, since the way
we relate to our world is, to a large extent, the result of our humanity,
our embodiedness, etc., there are many similarities between how we
react to similar situations. This is what the literature on the so-called
fundamental attribution error showed. The best way to predict what
someone will do, Lee Ross claimed, is not to think about what kind
of person they are, but to consider what kind of situation they are in.
Situations are often powerful enough to cause similar reactions in
people of very different personalities, backgrounds, and experiences.
That, in part, is why we are able to do psychological research. And it
is why the US military had no problem figuring out how to torture
people from the Middle East.23
Perspective taking, however, is not merely a matter of taking an
agent point of view on someone else; it is also sometimes taking an ob-
server perspective on ourselves. This is what we turn to next.
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As you are there at the door spying on the lover who spurned you, say,
you do not think to yourself, “I am spying on Albert” (substitute as you
like). Why not? Because you are too busy spying to notice what you are
doing. You are neither aware of yourself as a person nor aware of your
act as spying or peeping. You are, as they say, in the moment. In other
words, you are unaware of perceiving, thinking, or feeling as such. The
unreflective first-person point of view is consciousness not of our-
selves, but of the world. For many of us, this is what our life is typically
like: immersed in-the-moment living. Because it is so unreflective, and
because it represents the ordinary, we rarely think of what it is like. This
is what Sartre is trying to bring out.
The other aspect of the first-person perspective is the way the world
becomes an extension of you. The keyhole is present only “to be looked
through close by and a little to one side.” That is, the keyhole is seen in
terms of what it affords you: a peek at Albert or, even better, the other
person in the room. The objects around you are viewed as potential
instruments to carry out your goal. You do not see them in their own
right; they are, if you like, objects for you. All this changes when you
suspect you are seen. Now you become aware of yourself and what you
are doing:
own conception of what he was doing was radically different from how
we think of his actions now. And yet, I argue, he can be held respon-
sible for doing what he did not think of himself as doing. The reality is
that we don’t decide what we do. How our actions land on others help
determine what they are. When we are blind to these effects, we are
unable to truly choose our actions, and we get into social trouble. This
is clear in psychopaths, whom I discuss next, and who appear uniquely
entrenched in their own view of things. I then move on to show the
effects of balancing our own views with those of others when it comes
to our own actions and round off by discussing the limits taking an
outside view on ourselves has for understanding what we do to others.
language like that elides the true nature of their relationship. . . . She
wasn’t Jefferson’s mistress; she was his property. And he raped her.
Danielle is right when she points out that Hemings was Jefferson’s
property by US law. She was therefore in no position to consent. She
couldn’t refuse him. But once we look into things, they are a good
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deal more complicated than that. Jefferson began his relations with
her while residing in Paris as minister to France. Slavery was illegal in
France, however, and therefore Hemings was not, technically speaking,
his slave during their sojourn there. Hemings entered into an agree-
ment with Jefferson, whereby he promised to liberate any children that
would result from their relations, when they came of age, were she to
return with him to Virginia. He kept his promise, liberating the two
girls during his lifetime and making provisions for the liberation of the
sons in his will (at least two other children died young). He never lib-
erated her.
If we are to believe Danielle, Jefferson repeatedly raped Hemings.
But a charitable interpretation of Jefferson must surely be that he
did not see himself as raping Hemings. Hemings probably didn’t re-
gard the situation in quite those terms either. It was not unusual for
slaveholders to bed their female slaves, particularly when they were as
beautiful as Hemings apparently was. And she got better conditions
than most. Offspring of such unions usually remained slaves. We
don’t know whether Hemings understood that she was not a slave
when Jefferson first approached her, but she must have known prior to
departing to Virginia with him. But then again, his estate was the only
home she’d ever known. Her family was there. To use the fact that she
was not, technically speaking, a slave in France to argue that Hemings
consented to a decades-long sexual relationship with Jefferson ignores
the larger reality of her situation. On the other hand, Jefferson came
from a slave-holding family and was part of a cultural milieu, where
taking slave concubines, particularly after being widowed, was not un-
usual. Sally Hemings was probably, herself, the half-sister of Jefferson’s
late wife, and her mother was also the offspring of a planter-slave union.
Jefferson was a strong proponent of the thesis, popular in the South at
the time, that African slaves and their descendants were intellectually
and physically inferior to white people. And since women were already
regarded as being inferior to men, that placed Hemings pretty far
down the social pecking order. What we think slavery involves today—
holding equal human beings in bondage against their will—is not what
Jefferson thought he did. And the possibility that he raped Hemings,
much as he might rape a white woman, probably never occurred to
him. If we focus on the way Jefferson saw things, and the intentions
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behind his actions, to insist that Jefferson was guilty of the crime of
holding slaves and repeatedly raping one of them is wrong. Technically
speaking, he had slaves, but he did not believe he acted wrongly by
keeping equal human beings in bondage.
But if we go down this route with Jefferson, we have to be willing to
do the same with other persons from the past. But typically, we don’t.
Hitler saw himself as liberating Austria, for instance, but we happily de-
scribe him as having invaded the country. He believed he was ridding
Europe of the plague of Jews, whereas we say he instigated genocide.
I don’t think many people would be happy about Hitler’s description
of what he did. Fixing on a description of an action is not merely a
word game. It points to something larger. That larger thing is respon-
sibility. We only ever hold people responsible for actions under certain
descriptions. When we condemn Hitler, we do so not as the liberator of
Austria, for instance. Instead, we describe his actions as we see them,
then hold him responsible for them. What this means is that we hold
Hitler responsible for doing something he did not see himself as doing.
We don’t think this is a problem. But there is an interesting question of
why that is the case. Does a person do what others claim she does even
when she does not intend to do so? Who gets to decide?
Although we can describe an action in all sorts of ways—some more
outlandish than others—there are canonical ways to describe most
actions. For instance, as I return home to my house in the dark, I open
the door and turn on the light. “Turning on the light” is an agreed-
upon way of describing my flipping the light switch. Perhaps we could
use these types of descriptions to fix responsibility. Doing so, however,
faces two problems. First, the canonical way of describing things is pre-
sumably the culturally normative way of describing things. But then,
Hitler describing himself as liberating Austria seems just fine. Second,
the reason I can be said to turn on the light must at least be because my
flipping the light switch causes the lights to come on. But flipping the
light switch also causes my cat to wake up and the prowler at the back
of the house to be alerted to my presence. So why should we not also
describe what I do as waking up my cat and alerting the prowler? After
all, neither description is particularly fishy. We are in need, it seems, of
a better explanation of why this canonical description is the right one.
Now, Donald Davidson, the philosopher whose example this is,
argues that since I do not intend to wake up my cat or alert the prowler,
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whose presence, at any rate, I am unaware of, the only action I perform,
strictly speaking, is turning on the light. This is because I flip the light
switch so as to turn on the light. The other results of my flipping the
switch are side effects of my main action; waking up the cat is probably
foreseen but unintended, and alerting the prowler is unforeseen and
unintended. The only action I perform, then, is one that bears the right
kind of relation to the intention with which I set my body in motion
(i.e., flip the switch), and a good canonical description of that is that
I turn on the light.5
Now, suppose the Russians have rigged the light switch so that
flipping it makes the building next door explode. Did I blow up the
building? No, Davidson would say. But suppose my position is
terminated by the spy agency I work for because I should have suspected
that the switch was rigged. I don’t have a great imagination, so please
don’t make me work out the details. I leave it to you. There are surely
dozens of spy movies that have a plot that fits. If I could have known
that the switch was rigged, then I was negligent. If this example seems
too farfetched, then the following might do better. Suppose you are ir-
ritated and in a rush, so you fly onto the highway without much cau-
tion and cause a car to veer dangerously into the other lane to avoid
colliding with you. You did not intend, nor foresee, that this would
happen. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have done it. You are not a monster,
after all. But, when a cop pulls you over, he charges you with reckless
driving. Will it shock you that your argument that you did not intend
to drive recklessly does not hold sway? Probably not. After all, from
the legal standpoint, you were negligent. According to the Cornell
Legal Information Institute, negligence is a “failure to behave with the
level of care that someone of ordinary prudence would have exercised
under the same circumstances.” You were failing to do something you
should have done, in other words. Even if you did not see yourself as
driving recklessly at the time, you still did.6
Now, what does any of this have to do with Jefferson? The key to
Jefferson’s responsibility is not whether he knew, in the sense of ac-
tively entertaining the relevant thoughts, that he was forcing another
human being, whom he kept in bondage against her will, to have sex
with him. The question is, could he have known? Could he?
In reckless driving, the driver is negligent because he does not con-
sider the consequences of driving the way he does. Why not? Because
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their false beliefs in the moral permissibility of their actions and the
false values from which these beliefs derived may have been inev-
itable, given the social circumstances in which they developed. If
we think that the agents could not help but be mistaken about their
values we do not blame them for the actions those values inspired.
So far, I have presented a case for perspective taking lifting us out of our
immersed and biased perspective on our actions and enabling us to see
what we do in a new light. But at this stage, it is all rather theoretical or,
as some say, philosophical. What you want to know is whether it is true.
So, let’s look at some empirical research. A variety of mental disorders
affect people’s capacity to empathize. Psychopaths often emerge as the
favorite example of pro-empathy researchers because the condition is
so extraordinary. Psychopaths are responsible for a staggering amount
of crime given that they constitute a mere 1% to 2% of the population.
According to recent estimates, 94% of male psychopaths in the United
States are imprisoned, on parole, or otherwise engaged with the crim-
inal justice system. Psychopaths are callous, manipulative, uncaring,
and narcissistic and have a substantially reduced capacity for experi-
encing fear, love, shame, empathy, guilt, and remorse. The core of their
issue is interpersonal. It is therefore not surprising that many psychop-
athy researchers pinpoint lack of affective empathy, or sympathy, as the
root cause of their antisocial and immoral actions. But what is often
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beyond his reach. Fallon thrives on risky behavior, and that might also
be a reason he doesn’t quite get what he puts others through. But notice
how he does not justify his actions this way. No, he will only accom-
modate others as long as it doesn’t get in the way of his doing things he
loves to do. Their dying as a result of what he does doesn’t really matter
to him. These are not the reflections of someone who does a poor job
at taking other people’s perspective. Instead, he evidences no perspec-
tive taking at all, just like the robber in the earlier example. The only
person’s point of view that he sees is his own. This doesn’t just create a
problem for his truly understanding what he does to others, but also
for his self-conception. In his book, he often says he’s a nice guy, and he
seems to believe it. But clearly, he’s just the opposite.12
One of the first people to study psychopaths in detail, American
psychiatrist Hervey Cleckley, said that a psychopath13
the patients Cleckley had sent home because he deemed him incurable
later sent him a letter extolling the usefulness of treatment and the great
change it caused in him. These are the types of ludicrous behaviors we
would expect from people who fail to consider how others might see
them or, even, how they might see themselves as from the outside. It is
therefore not surprising that a recent study found that the one emotion
different subgroups of psychopaths are all deficient in is shame.15
Psychopaths are known for their double standards. They expect spe-
cial treatment while being unwilling to show others even the most basic
respect. Should they feel unfairly treated, they will stop at nothing to
avenge themselves. Fallon recounts gleefully how he always gets people
that he feels wronged by in the end. Does he stop to consider how he
would like it if people did the same to him? Not at all. It doesn’t even
cross his mind. He fails to think of himself as he thinks of others. This
makes it easy to have one standard for oneself and one for other people.
Why? Because you are not like other people. You are special. Why?
Because you are the only lens through which you see the world; you are
always the one in the driver’s seat; you don’t try to imbue another with
your own agency through perspective taking. When you fail to do this,
you are, of course, always the subject and the other person remains the
object. Stuck in this state, you are likely to miss what to others is the
most relevant aspect of what you do. Perhaps, then, a psychopath’s in-
sistence on taking exception to himself—he is allowed to do to others
what he does not allow them to do to him—is really a failure to see
what he does as being on par with what others do. This failure may be
due to their lacking the ability to take others’ point of view, or it might
just be the result of their failing to do so. There are reasons to suspect
it’s the latter. Why? Because if instructed to imagine that they are the
person in need, even those who generally show a lack of concern for
the well-being of others (and so would score higher on psychopathy
than most people) experience more empathic sadness for the target.
By comparison, simply being instructed to “feel with the target” had no
such effects on them. The data suggests that psychopaths just don’t care
about other people’s point of view.16
But people with no history of mental disorders can show the same
shocking lack of perspective taking as do psychopaths. And they too
exhibit a bizarre way of viewing the world as a result. In January 2015,
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Brock Turner is seen outside a frat house having sex with an uncon-
scious woman. He is chased away by two graduate students. At the
trial of what became known as the Stanford rape case, he pleads not
guilty but is nonetheless convicted of raping the girl. A number of
statements from him, his father, and former friends betray a single-
minded focus on his situation and a startling lack of comprehension
of the consequences for the victim. For instance, his childhood friend
Leslie Rasmussen writes:17
I don’t think it’s fair to base the fate of the next 10+years of his life on
the decision of a girl who doesn’t remember anything but the amount
she drank to press charges against him. I am not blaming her directly
for this, because that isn’t right. But where do we draw the line and
stop worrying about being politically correct every second of the day
and see that rape on campuses isn’t always because people are rapists.
Rasmussen denies that Turner is a rapist even as she uses the term
“rape” to describe his action. Psychopaths jailed for grievous bodily
harm are known to sometimes describe themselves as nice and caring.
Notice also that Rasmussen give no consideration to how the victim
might see things while at the same time appealing to the judge to take
Turner’s perspective on the effects that going to jail will have on his life.
More seriously, the statement implies that having sex with unconscious
people is a problem only for people who are all wrapped up in some
superficial correctness nonsense. You might recognize this as a perpe-
trator perspective. Ironically, of course, Rasmussen is taking someone’s
perspective, that is, Turner’s. What she fails to consider is that of the
woman he raped.
Addressing the defense, here is what the victim had to say:18
Lastly you [Turner] said, I want to show people that one night of
drinking can ruin a life. A life, one life, yours, you forgot about mine.
Let me rephrase for you, “I want to show people that one night of
drinking can ruin two lives.” You and me. You are the cause, I am the
effect. You have dragged me through this hell with you, dipped me
back into that night again and again. You knocked down both our
towers, I collapsed at the same time you did. If you think I was spared,
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came out unscathed, that today I ride off into the sunset, while you
suffer the greatest blow, you are mistaken. Nobody wins. We have
all been devastated, we have all been trying to find some meaning
in all of this suffering. Your damage was concrete; stripped of titles,
degrees, enrollment. My damage was internal, unseen, I carry it with
me. You took away my worth, my privacy, my energy, my time, my
safety, my intimacy, my confidence, my own voice, until today.
The court’s opinion was pretty clear. Turner was sentenced to a mere
six months in jail. The (male) judge clearly found it easier to worry
about what a jail sentence might do to Turner’s life than to consider
the long-term harm done to the victim, which is now enhanced by the
judge’s leniency. And yet, it is not hard to see that taking the victim’s
point of view and understanding the impact the rape had on her life
is essential to understanding what Turner did. Rasmussen’s statement
clearly shows that if you do not, you can blow off “rape” as a merely un-
fortunate event, showing nothing about the character or culpability of
the person who did it.
Understanding how the people most affected by our actions see what
we do is rather crucial to understanding what we’re doing. This is ob-
vious in a victim-perpetrator story, like the Stanford rape case. We
need to counterbalance the way we think of our actions—which tend
to be mainly, sometimes exclusively, in terms of what we are trying to
accomplish—with another point of view. Sometimes that other point
of view captures what is most important about our action. But the
other point of view need not be that of the victim or the benefactor of
your action. In Sartre’s scenario, the person we are wronging is the one
we are spying on, Albert in my imaginary case. But it is not Albert’s
perspective I adopt or that makes me see what I am doing. It is that of
the unknown person coming down the hallway. I know nothing about
him. But he is about to see me bent over next to the door, so obviously
caught in the act of spying. This brings home the uncomfortable truth
of what I am doing.
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projected his own desires, thoughts, and feelings about how he should
live or be treated onto his slaves? Quite the contrary. He dehumanized
them to such an extent that any identification with them was impos-
sible. Had he instead simply projected his own desire for liberty and
autonomy onto women and slaves, he would have done better. One
of the greatest problems when it comes to how we treat others is usu-
ally not that we assume that they are too much like us, but rather that
we don’t give them the consideration and importance we would give
ourselves. Their pain does not move us the way our pain does. History
shows that imagining that others are more like us than we assume
prevents many injustices. Indo-Tibetan Buddhists talk of “exchanging
self and other” as a tool for developing greater compassion. Although
the term “exchange” here is highly metaphorical, it touches on some-
thing rather basic to perspective change. Being willing to exchange
your point of view for that of another person is already an admission
of the equal value of that person. Resisting such a change of point of
view amounts to a rejection of the equal worth of others and the equal
importance of their experiences. What this shows is that, once again,
being right about another person’s particular thoughts or feelings is
not the main issue. The person you imagine being when you train
your eye on yourself is often not a specific person at all. It is, if you like,
a representative of humanity. What is important is that you imbue the
other person with the significance you have to yourself. The partic-
ular thoughts or feelings you imagine having may not matter much
at all. What matters is that you imagine your actions from the other
side, as the one affected by them, as opposed to the one performing
them. Incidentally, we may apply this lesson to our treatment of non-
human animals too. Factory farming is not the horror it is because
we are failing to fully appreciate the differences between us and cows,
pigs, and chickens. It is because we deny them feelings, suffering, and
a wish for autonomy. In other words, it is because we deny that they
are like us in these crucial respects.
In the case of Jefferson, part of his blindness may have derived from
his position of power. Psychological research shows that people in
power are less likely to take other people’s perspectives. More precisely,
a power relation sets up an asymmetry whereby the ones in power
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are less sensitive to the perspective of the ones they have power over,
whereas the ones with less power are more likely to take the perspec-
tive of people who have power over them. The point is not that power
impairs a person’s ability to take other perspectives, but rather that it
affects her tendency to do so.21
In one of the most straightforward studies of power and perspec-
tive, Galinsky and colleagues made their participants feel powerful by
first asking them to recall an incident in which they had power over
another person. They were then given two tasks to test their coordina-
tion skills, or so they thought, namely snapping their fingers as quickly
as possible and drawing an ‘E’ on their forehead. The last task was,
of course, a perspective-taking task. People primed to feel powerful
had a greater tendency to draw the E egocentrically so that someone
looking at them would see an ‘∃,’ whereas people primed to feel less
powerful were more likely to write the ‘E’ non-egocentrically so that
someone looking at them would see an ‘E.’ This research is supported
by other studies that show that people with great power over others
have less interest in what these others are thinking than these people
do when it comes to the ones in power. Those with more power also
experience less empathic distress and compassion for others, and ex-
perience less motor resonance with them. Further evidence suggests
that the reason is that people with power regulate their emotional
reactions to less powerful others in distress, because people with
power regulate their negative emotions more than do people with less
power. On a Machiavellian worldview this makes sense. It is not in
the interests of the powerful to be concerned about the thoughts and
feelings of those who have little capacity to affect their access to re-
sources. In fact, doing so might make them be less exploitative, which,
from a purely self-interested perspective, is clearly bad. By contrast,
people with little power have incentives to figure out what the more
powerful think and how they feel, since this might affect their own
competitive standing.22
Power, then, is an impediment to interpersonal understanding.
The point is one of motivation, not capacity. This cannot be stressed
enough; people with power can take the perspective of those less pow-
erful, but they tend not to. The effect of power can be overcome, of
course. Famously, the historical Buddha was a pampered prince driven
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by great compassion for those less powerful than he. One trick to over-
come one’s tendency not to empathize with those one has power over is
to switch the way one thinks of power. If one focuses on one’s respon-
sibility toward those one has power over, it actually increases one’s ten-
dency to take their perspectives, studies show.23
One can push this line of thinking too far, of course. The Golden
Rule is known for better helping us see what we should not do than
what we should do. People do differ from us and it would be absurd
to suggest that I can understand how any of my actions might impact
you by just using myself as a model, without any consideration of your
individuality. It all depends, of course, on what the aim of our perspec-
tive taking is. It is also worth keeping in mind that the way you see my
action may not actually help me better understand what I do, because
your view may be dangerously distorted. More of that in Chapter 9.
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she could not defend herself with timid words and furtive deeds.
Xavière existed; the betrayal existed. “My guilty face exists in flesh
and bone.”
It would exist no more.
[...]
It is she or I. It shall be I.
She goes to Xavière’s room and turns on the gas, thereby killing her.
This part of the story parallels our peeping Tom in the last chapter.
Françoise is presented with a point of view on herself that is uncom-
fortable, but which she can’t dismiss. But instead of accepting her guilt,
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she kills it in the form of the person who accuses her. With Xavière
gone, the person she wronged is no more and, by sympathetic magic,
her transgression is erased.
This is evidently not a healthy way to deal with others’ perspectives.
But it is easy to appreciate Françoise’s dilemma. Here are two
contrasting versions of the same series of events, and the two are not
easily reconcilable. Xavière’s accusation rings true. Sure, Françoise did
not only betray Xavière; she started an affair with Gerbert because of
their mutual affection. But she also betrayed Xavière by sleeping with
her lover and hiding that fact from her. Even if she had no intention
of betraying anyone, she did. However, Xavière’s view is also partial.
“How you must have laughed at me!” she says to Françoise after dis-
covering the truth. But it’s not clear that Françoise seduced Gerbert to
avenge herself. Xavière sees the affair purely in terms of how it affects
her. Still, Françoise did not consider Xavière’s feelings or the situation
she put her in. She asks herself, “How had that innocent love become
this sordid betrayal?” Good question.3
The conflict between Xavière’s and Françoise’s way of looking
at things is an extreme example of a relatively mundane situation
we find ourselves in daily. Perspectives are sometimes complemen-
tary, but not always. And when our view of things differs markedly
from other views, what should we do? How do we balance different
points of view against each other? I begin to answer this question by
taking us to the origin of de Beauvior’s inspiration for her book: Georg
Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel’s master and slave dialectic. This dialectic
describes the battle of consciousnesses that we see illustrated in She
Came to Stay. The early stage of this dialectic is similar to what we
call gaslighting these days, which I discuss in section 9.2. In section
9.3, I discuss false confessions and false memories, which show that
most people are surprisingly impressionable. This brings us to how
to handle our tendency to be overly influenced by what others think
of us and the world around us. The answer is also Hegelian: We need
a synthesis between our own view and that of the other person. I dis-
cuss that in section 9.4. You might wonder whether taking an unin-
volved observer’s view wouldn’t save us the trouble. The answer is no,
and I explain why in section 9.5.
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9.2 Gaslighting
The term “gaslighting” derives from the 1938 play Gas Light—most
memorable in the film version starring Ingrid Bergman from 1944—
which portrays one man’s attempt to convince his wife that she is in-
sane. He does so by staging certain phenomena—footsteps in the attic
or flickering gas lights (hence the title)—and denying that they are
occurring, so as to make her believe that she is imagining things. In
the play and the movie, the husband is engaged in an elaborate manip-
ulation. But “gaslighting” doesn’t just refer to such instances; it is used
to describe any pattern of behavior whereby one person acts so as to
make another person doubt their version of reality, for the purpose of
exerting control.
Academic research is almost entirely silent on gaslighting. Only
in recent years have people begun to show interest in this field. Yet,
if you google “gaslighting,” you will find more sources that you can
check. There are YouTube self-help videos, blog posts, and discussion
boards, and Psychology Today has a series of articles on the issue. The
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onerous and provides good, reliable results. But in more typical cases
of gaslighting, the contested facts are more slippery. They may con-
cern someone’s intentions, what they said, what the other person said
(we are all familiar with the “he said, she said” conundrum), or how
tasteful, good, or fashionable something is. In these instances, fact
checking requires the collaboration of the other person, who, if he or
she is a gaslighter, won’t be forthcoming; reliance on one’s memory; or
trust in one’s pre-existing values and commitments. But—and here is
the kicker—any reasonable person must be open to the fact that they
may misremember something, may be wrong about something, or
have values that are outdated or problematic. Such a person is, there-
fore, vulnerable to gaslighting.
A successful campaign of gaslighting leads to victims doubting their
version of reality, becoming convinced of their own badness, while
defending or protecting the perpetrator. It would have been better for
the victims, of course, had they resolved the cognitive dissonance by
rejecting the other person’s reality distortion instead. Psychotherapists
are fond of pointing out that people with trauma, anxiety, or depres-
sion are more likely than people without these disorders to fall into
the snare of someone who gaslights them. They are right. Statistically,
people who were abused as children are more likely to end up in abu-
sive relationships as adults. A recent British study shows that one-third
of people who were abused as children were also abused as adults, com-
pared to only 11% of people who had not been abused as children.13
The problem with focusing on prior abuse is that it ignores the very
reasonable impulse to doubt oneself once one is confronted with an
alternative portrayal of facts, which is presented forcefully and re-
lentlessly. Malcolm Gladwell in his Talking to Strangers uses the term
“default to truth”— relying on the work of psychologist Timothy
Levine—to denote our tendency to believe others are telling the truth.
Depending on who you are, it’s either a profound or an obvious truth.
Because we assume that people tell the truth, we tend to believe a liar
even when the lie strains our credulity. Should we happen to think
we know otherwise, we are liable to at least doubt ourselves for a mo-
ment. The people who never experience the slightest tendency to
doubt their own version of the truth are not quite as reasonable. In
fact, the tendency to hold on to one’s beliefs come hell or high water
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9.4 Synthesis
Hegel promises that the World Spirit moves in the direction of greater
synthesis. In his master-slave dialectic, that is surely the desirable
result. But how do we find synthesis at the interpersonal level? In
Chapter 8, I made it clear just how important taking another’s point of
view is to our self-understanding, but we have now seen the dangers
of doing so. If we simply accept that person’s construal of what we do,
we haven’t achieved synthesis so much as a takeover. In some cases,
the takeover may be friendly and ultimately helpful, but in other cases,
such as the ones we have considered here, it is decidedly hostile. What
should we make of it all?
On a first pass, it seems that if we can only determine whether other
people suffer from mental illness, addiction, or just a bad character, we
can protect ourselves against undue influence. This is good advice, no
doubt. But it also presents a fundamentally misleading way of thinking
about intersubjectivity. More precisely, it pathologizes what Hegel saw
as a natural urge in all consciousnesses, namely to be recognized. Not
in a superficial way, like being checked out in the pub—the need for
recognition goes deeper than that. A conscious being desires recog-
nition of its experiences, its way of seeing the world, its point of view.
The problem, as we saw, is that only another conscious being can give it
this recognition, but such a being also invariably represents a different
point of view. Another person is a blessing and a curse at the same time,
if we allow ourselves to be dramatic about it. On the one hand, she
validates our existence as conscious beings by acknowledging that we
too are a source from which the world is experienced. On the other, she
might invalidate our point of view, even if she acknowledges our status
as the haver of such a view. Nobody is ever going to see exactly eye to
eye with us. And so others deny us the freedom of simply taking the
way we think of ourselves, our experiences, our actions, and the world
in general as a reflection of how things are. Hence, a clash is inevitable.
De Beauvoir describes such a clash in She Came to Stay, although
the love triangle at the center of it hardly counts as an everyday occur-
rence. Nevertheless, the story certainly helps bring out the logic of the
master-slave dialectic, even if no synthesis is reached. Instead, we have
a final revolt against the hostile takeover, which leads to the oblitera-
tion of the master-consciousness. The unhappiness of the master-slave
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says without accepting all of it and replacing her own experience with
Xavière’s. But, returning to our number guys, it doesn’t have to be like
this. Given the evidence available to them, it is perfectly understand-
able why they would believe what they believe. But now that they have
seen the numeral from a different angle, they should also be able to ac-
knowledge that it could be a 6 or a 9. The synthesis in this case is clear,
even if unsatisfactory. It is a 6 or a 9 or, perhaps, both (for the devious
artist).
What would a synthesis look like for Françoise? Well, she unde-
niably went behind Xavière’s back in her relationship with Gerbert,
whom she knew was involved with her. Sure, all these characters are
happy about open relationships, but it does seem as if there is one
rule: transparency. Xavière was transparent about their affair, as
was Pierre. Françoise was openly supportive of it. She suffered in si-
lence. Xavière’s complaint that she was kept in the dark is valid, then.
Moreover, whereas Xavière made sure she had Françoise’s blessing,
Françoise doesn’t care to make sure that Xavière is okay with what she
does. On the other hand, the Gerbert affair was probably not a way of
taking revenge on Xavière. But, then again, we read that “Françoise
suddenly felt very tired. The arrogant heroine she had so passionately
hoped to vanquish, was there no longer; there remained a poor, hunted
victim, from whom no vengeance could be exacted.” Perhaps, then, we
ought to say that Françoise did not only get involved with Gerbert to
exact revenge. Gerbert seduced her. She did not resist. But, as she says
to Xavière, “I did not laugh at you. . . . I only thought more of my-
self than of you.” It’s not a difficult synthesis. Xavière exaggerates the
wrong done to her and just how callous Françoise was, but Françoise
did nonetheless betray her confidence.20
The problem, then, is not that a synthesis is out of reach. The
trouble is that any synthesis that will do justice to her own actions and
intentions is unacceptable to Françoise. She cannot bear to see her-
self as having betrayed her friend, even if her friend has been a bit of
a nightmare to her. She must be innocent; she must be in the right. In
killing Xavière, Françoise is killing off part of her own conscience. She
recognizes her guilt, can’t live with it, and so shuts it down. By doing so,
she shows that she has failed to come to terms with the existence of The
Other. Why? Because it interferes with her own good view of herself
(even as she recognizes that this view is false).
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gaslighted. You have lost your own point of view, only the view you
are adopting is not that of a hostile, dominant other, but of someone
who has no particular interest in you or your relationship. It is an er-
satz solution, which is to say it is no solution at all. Second, you also
discount the perspective of the person with whom you are in conflict.
And despite Xavière’s early manipulation of Françoise, we see that she
has a valid point. Françoise too sees it, before she decides to kill it off.
Perhaps an uninvolved observer would catch the betrayal, but they
are unlikely to capture how the betrayal is experienced. Something is
inevitably left out of the picture by shutting out the point of view of
someone you are involved with altogether. It might, of course, be nec-
essary if you are in the clutches of a particularly problematic person,
but it should be the exception rather than the rule. And third, a large
part of this book is an attempt to persuade you that taking up the point
of view of another agent is essential in many cases. Without it, you can’t
fully understand the other. And so, although there may be cases where
downplaying, even ignoring your own or another person’s point of
view is recommended, in the general run of things you ought not to.
It is worth dwelling on why agent points of view matter so much. It is
tempting to think, particularly when faced with entrenched conflicts,
that if we could all just be objective, things would improve. Hopefully,
I have already convinced you that there is no objective point of view,
since that would be a view from nowhere. But it is easy to wonder
whether we shouldn’t get ourselves into a state of being as little invested
in a particular conflict as we can be, in order to see our way out of it.
The problem is that the more we move away from engagement, the
more indifferent we become. And it is not at all clear that indiffer-
ence toward the feelings and experiences of human beings serves any
human project. There is another danger that lurks here, and that is that
dehumanizing is a mark of the ultra-objective stance. You might get rid
of conflicts this way, but only at the cost of dispensing with humanity.
Experiences matter. And an experience is always somebody’s. It is al-
ways had from a perspective. To appreciate that experience, we must
attempt to take up the point of view of someone having that experi-
ence. You know the story by now.
Whereas the perspective of an uninvolved observer cannot re-
place the perspectives of people in an interaction exactly, it can serve a
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9.6 Conclusion
For much of the last century, Robin West argues, the idea that em-
pathy is essential to good juridical decisions was entirely mainstream.
Knowledge of the law was not enough. Only if the judge also consid-
ered empathically the claims of both parties could she make a judg-
ment appropriate to the case at hand. The application of the law on
this picture is historical, backward-looking, and particular. It relies on
common law, natural law assumptions, moral sense, and legal prece-
dent. Judicial reasoning therefore relies in part on analogy to past cases.
But to determine whether one case is sufficiently like another, the judge
must “know something about the subjective feel of promising, and of
warranting, and of diagnosing, and of discriminating. Analogous rea-
soning by definition seemingly requires empathic understanding, at
least where it is people’s utterly subjective situations, problems, fears,
anxieties, suffering, opportunities, dreams, and foibles, from which,
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Who is the perfect judge? And what makes her so? At the beginning
of this book, I talked about the debate surrounding Sotomayor’s con-
firmation hearing. She was attacked for having an empathic stance to
applying the law and for claiming that a wise Latina woman would
reach a better conclusion, as a judge, than a white male who hadn’t lived
the life she had. The worry was that she would introduce bias toward
white nonminorities. Why? Perhaps the idea goes something like this.
A Latino person, and perhaps especially one as aware of being Latina
as is Sotomayor, is overwhelmed by her identity to such an extent that
she is incapable of rendering verdicts that are fair to anyone outside
her ethnic group. Instead, she’ll give Latinos a pass for more serious
crimes and reserve her harsher sentences for white people. Justice will
no longer be blind.5
The unquestioned underlying assumption is that white male
justices do not have an ethnic identity that affects their ability to render
judgments fairly and in accordance with the law. You don’t have to have
read this book to be suspicious of that claim. It seems fishy because it
is fishy. Of course, white men belong to an ethnic group. And if group
identity affects a person’s objectivity or impartiality, it affects theirs too.
It is therefore easy to see Sessions’s opposition to Sotomayor’s nomi-
nation as willful blindness and posturing. But this belies a deeper, and
more troubling, fact. People who belong to the majority group, whose
vision of life and well-being is culturally sanctioned and promoted
in social policy, popular culture, and the arts, find it easy to ignore
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that their vision of life, of other people, and the world is a vision. It
is easy for them to regard other ways of seeing things as perspectives.
This is, of course, a magnified version of the agent perspective, but its
magnification is important. It is made possible by being comfortably
ensconced in a position of power where your point of view, in its most
general outlines, is shared and unquestioned. This is exactly what gives
support to Sotomayor’s claim that she might be better at judging im-
partially than is a white male justice.
Sotomayor’s claim is not that her bias will counterbalance the bias
of white male judges so that overall, the total judgments rendered by
the courts will be less biased against racial minorities. It is, of course,
true that only 7% of sitting lower federal court judges are Latino and
only 27% are women. Comparatively speaking, the population share of
women is 51% and Latinos 12.6%. If she were as biased as white male
judges, and in the same way toward the groups she identifies with, we
would expect overall bias to change. And that would be fairer than the
current situation. But Sotomayor doesn’t propose this at all. Instead,
she claims that she is better able to supersede her identity and provide
more impartial judgments than a white male judge. Why? The fact is
that women and minorities are painfully aware of perspectives because
the dominant one is not their own, nor does it center on them. The
reigning cultural perspective in the United States, Canada, and Europe
is still that of a white male, a fact that is brought home to women
and minorities every day. To adapt, you must adopt that perspective.
People who are unreflective may fail to notice it. But those of a more
reflective mindset are apt to see it writ large in the world they live in.
As a white male it is easy to bumble through life without stopping to
consider that you have a point of view. If you live safely in the main-
stream, you won’t face much fundamental opposition. The advantage
of someone like Sotomayor is not simply that she is a racial minority
and a woman and therefore biased in ways different from a white male,
but that her status has led her to recognize prevailing biases and actively
work against them. One way to do that, she says, is to empathize with
the people toward whom one is biased. This sounds very good in the
abstract. But it may be hard to figure out how it works in practice. To
see how it might be implemented, let’s think about the role of intent in
criminal law.6
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how jurors judge the severity of the crime committed against them.
The Capital Jury Project, a country-wide research program focused on
determining whether jurors’ sentencing decisions in capital cases con-
form to the constitution or are biased, has revealed that victim charac-
teristics influence jurors’ tendency to recommend the death sentence.
For instance, if a murder victim was randomly chosen, was engaged
in an everyday activity, was of good moral and social standing, was
married, had children, or was a woman, the jury is more likely to rec-
ommend the death sentence. If, on the other hand, the victim was un-
married or divorced, was relatively friendless, had personal troubles,
used drugs or alcohol, or was personally involved with the perpetrator
in some way, jurors are more likely to recommend life. Assuming that
harsher sentences track the wrongness of the act, we can conclude that
who the victim is affects how wrong murdering them is thought to be.
That the nature of the victim influences jurors can also be seen in the
time spent discussing the victim during deliberation. Forty-three per-
cent of jurors said they spent a great deal (11%) or a fair amount (32%)
of time discussing “the reputation or the character of the victim.”
Thirty-nine percent said that their jury spent a great deal (18%) or a
fair amount (21%) of time debating the “victim’s role or responsibility
in the crime.” The longer a jury deliberated a victim’s character or role
in the crime, the less likely they were to recommend the death sen-
tence. (I am not recommending the death sentence, by the way, but
merely using this evidence to show how jurors’ judgments are affected
by the characteristics of victims.) In other words, defendants who got
life were more likely to have killed someone whose character or re-
sponsibility was under debate. A person’s moral character, therefore,
even affects judgments about what was done to her. How culpable was
she for her own murder? It is worth mentioning that such cases are
not restricted to drug deals gone bad or arguments between the victim
and the perpetrator. In one instance, a victim who was picked up late
at night by another man in a sleazy bookstore was thought to be partly
responsible for his own subsequent murder.9
When it comes to the accused, the United States has fairly complex
laws about the permissibility of character statements. However, jurors
have plenty of information upon which to base character judgments
even in the absence of such evidence. The Capital Jury Project was
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It is at this point that the typical empathy enthusiast goes on the of-
fensive. If perspectivism implies partiality and bias, then we need
to explain how we might overcome such partiality and bias. I have
explained how, once we recognize that we already have a perspec-
tive, and therefore are invariably partial and biased, it is obvious that
to become less biased, we must adopt more perspectives. In doing
so, we adopt other sets of biases that give us a new way of thinking
about things. This is only a solution, of course, if we then step back
and balance these various perspectives against one another to reach an
overall assessment of the situation, whatever that might be. Empathy
is not simply empathy, if you like. It is part of a process. In a dispute,
for instance, you might take the perspective of the other person and
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family, etc.? Would they still follow God? To find out, God allows Satan
to kill Job’s wife, all his children, and his livestock and strike Job with
disease. Only once Job submits himself fully to the will of God does he
relent. And thus does God win the bet with Satan. To reward Job for his
faithfulness, he heals him and gives him a new wife, new children, new
cattle, etc. “So Job died, being old and full of days,” the book ends. This
“happy” ending is extraordinary, Art points out. It shows a striking
blindness to the value of individual human life, human attachments,
and human experience. A wife or a child cannot simply be replaced
with a new wife or new children, even if those children are more nu-
merous and more beautiful (as the book says). The trauma suffered due
to sickness, ostracism, suffering, and loss is not erased by becoming
well again or respected again. In fact, one might describe the attitude of
the God of Job as callous and cruel, completely lacking comprehension
of what matters to a human life—perhaps exactly what one would ex-
pect from an Ideal Observer.17
The problem with the Ideal Observer we have introduced to ensure
impersonal impartiality is its inhumanity. An Ideal Observer would,
among other things, be unable to experience “surprise, disappoint-
ment, the anxiety which springs from ignorance of the future,” says
Richard Brandt in his critique of the view. Being omniscient, it will
know the facts. But what are the facts? And is it enough to know them?
Is the ability to experience feelings irrelevant to their moral impor-
tance? This is less clear. Experiential or affective knowledge is, at least
intuitively, different from abstract knowledge. When Job complains to
God about how he has been afflicted, he points out that since God has
no body, he cannot suffer. And because God cannot die, he cannot un-
derstand mortality. As Art argues, this means that an “invulnerable,
immortal God cannot understand the two most important experiences
of vulnerable, mortal humans. Job concludes this makes it impossible
for God to be an ideal moral observer of humans.” This, Art continues,
highlights the necessity of a bridge between the divine and the human,
which we later find in the human being of Jesus of Nazareth. We will
return to that shortly.18
Margaret Urban Walker also raises the alarm. She questions, like
me, whether the purported judgments of this Ideal Observer are rele-
vant to our morality. Ideal observers, she writes,19
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do. It removes the notion that some ideal presence can adjudicate the
case at hand. It’s just us here. Instead of appealing to some fictitious
Divine Parent, we must negotiate how to play nice with each other.
It is worth contrasting this view of impartiality with the new,
improved legal ethos we encountered in section 10.1. By focusing on
how judgments affect social welfare in the abstract, keeping in mind
baselines and means, judges increasingly ignore the individual. The ac-
tual person lodging a particular complaint about a certain contract,
say, is now largely irrelevant to the judgment that must be rendered.
Instead, the judge is to consider a rational agent—whose rationality is
usually reduced to market choices—in the abstract. As philosophers
are well aware of, it is difficult to give an account of rationality, let alone
rational wanting. And, as my friend Tony Jack would add, it is a mis-
take to think reason is just one thing. Empathy is a form of reason!22
The reason law took this turn is instructive. The move arose from
skepticism about the knowability of other people’s preferences. If we
could only suppose that we all have the same preferences, then we
could proceed to think about welfare on that basis. But we can’t, of
course. Empathizing with others does no good because we are simply
too different from one another to get good results, the thought goes.
But then how do we do justice to subjective preferences? If this worry
sounds familiar, it’s because it is. This was the concern we started out
with. Over the course of the book, we have seen that it is overblown. It
nonetheless permeates recent liberal thought. A liberal society allows
its citizens to pursue their interests, whatever they may be, provided
they do not conflict with other citizens pursuing their interests. The
authors of the US Declaration of Independence made it very clear that
a person (or a white propertied man, at any rate) has a right, not only
to life and liberty, but also to the pursuit of happiness. One person’s
idea of happiness, however, may not be another’s. For those who were
escaping religious persecution in Europe, this was far from being a
mere philosophical point. If, then, we want our laws and morals to be
general enough to allow for substantial differences in ideas of happi-
ness, we cannot rely on our own ideas about what happiness is or what
leads to a good life. What to do? The reduction of welfare to market-
place choices promises to solve the problem, economist Hayek argued.
Calculating people’s preferences “objectively” in terms of what they
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is hard, for instance, to imagine that the Jesus who insisted that the
Golden Rule was the core of his teaching would have made a bet with
the devil the way the God of the Book of Job did.24
I have argued that to understand yourself, the world, and others better,
you must take the perspective of other people. You can do so by imag-
inatively occupying a position in a web of interests, concerns, and
relationships that mirrors theirs or, more simply, by empathizing with
their emotions (which achieves similar results). But what are we to do
about the darker sides of empathy? Empathy isn’t just criticized for
its bias. We discussed the problem of overidentification in Chapter 9.
Here we saw that although the dangers are very real, they are not un-
manageable. The error lies in thinking that because empathizing with
others is a good thing, we ought to do it all the time, indiscriminately,
or as much as possible without taking into consideration the context,
who the other person is, the possible results of doing so, etc. Bloom,
who extolls the virtues of rational thinking over empathy, makes this
mistake. But it is a poor empathizer who sets aside the other tools at his
or her disposal and only empathizes in all situations. Of course, we need
to consider whether empathizing with someone in a certain situation
is useful, whether it will lead to good results or not, and perhaps also
whether the other person would want us to empathize with them in
the first place. Fritz Breithaupt, in his ominously titled The Dark Sides
of Empathy, cautions that empathy is better for the empathizer than
the recipient of it. Why? Being empathized with is disempowering, he
says. I do wonder whether he has in mind pity more than empathy.
I rarely hear people complain about being empathized with too much.
It is usually the other way around. Nonetheless, it is perhaps polite to
ensure that one’s empathy is desired before one proceeds to give it.
Another worry of Breithaupt’s is also voiced by Bloom. Empathy
leads to violence and hatred when we empathize with victims. So-
called moralistic violence is actually quite common. As Breithaupt
insists, “People imagine that empathy can help resolve tensions in
cases of conflict, but very often empathy is exactly that thing that
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the study actually shows is that the conservatives did a bad job at
taking a gay person’s perspective and that the perspective-taking in-
duction was poor. If you are a socially conservative heterosexual man
and you imagine having sex with a male partner, you are not taking
the perspective of a homosexual man. It would be like a homosexual
man imagining having sex with a woman in an attempt to put himself
in a heterosexual man’s shoes. Neither one is realigning his interests
with those of the other person. Instead of imagining having sex with
someone he does not sexually desire, he should imagine having sex
with someone he loves. Failure to do so does not show that perspective
taking is bad, only that it is hard.26
Nonetheless, there is no denying that taking someone else’s perspec-
tive is sometimes worse than not doing so. Jacquie Vorauer and Stacey
Sasaki, for instance, have shown that when the person, whose perspec-
tive we are encouraged to take, has negative characteristics (is rude or
callous), performs negative actions (pushes people, ignores those in
need), or constitutes a threat to us or our self-image (a member of a re-
pressed group), taking their perspective can make us judge them even
more harshly and increase our hostility toward them. The pattern is
predictable. We are happy to identify with people who have character-
istics we regard as positive, but we distance ourselves from those with
traits we disapprove of. It seems that we ascribe negative intentions to
those who perform negative actions, we ascribe hostility to those we
feel threatened by, and we don’t look beyond the negative traits we see
in others. This tendency is unfortunate since it is often those we dis-
approve of that we are most in need of understanding from the inside.
But there is reason to be optimistic. Most of the studies that show
these negative effects of perspective taking are studies where students
are being asked to take another’s perspective. They are not independ-
ently motivated to do so. A person who really wants to understand
another can try harder. Indeed, she often does. It seems almost too
obvious to point out. But the literature often ignores this fact. Trying
harder in this instance involves seeking out more information about
the other person. Studies show that self-serving biases are usually
the result of our failing to consider evidence that goes against our
preferences. One reason to be optimistic about the prospects of suc-
cess when we work hard at getting more information about the person
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10.4 Conclusion
We have reached the end. If I have been successful, you are now firmly
convinced that each one of us sees the world in a way that is a func-
tion of both the way the world is “in itself ” and who we are, what we
want, where we are, and who we are associated with. We understand
the world in a way that is relative to our interests and our concerns.
A perspective is often seen as a bias. And bias, we are told, is BAD. The
best thing to do, then, would be to cancel perspectives. But attempts to
do so are doomed to fail. Perspectives are inevitable, I have argued, and
are a part of our humanity. The solution to the dark side of perspec-
tive is not to attempt to excise every fragment of subjectivity from our
worldview. Instead, it is to multiply perspectives, and in doing so bal-
ance them against one another. Bias is not bad in itself. Without bias in
what we attend to, few of us would be alive, because instead of reacting
immediately to danger, we would be considering all the other aspects
of the situation we are in. Bias keeps us alive. Bias helps us pursue our
interests. Bias helps make us happy. But bias can also lead to trouble.
It leads us to understand what other people do and why they do it in
terms of how it affects us, our previous experiences with actions of
that kind, and so on. We are also biased toward thinking of our actions
more in terms of what they accomplish for us and less in terms of how
they affect other people. To solve the dual problems of limited self and
other understanding, we must learn to take other people’s perspectives.
This is far from an impossible feat because of interpersonal differences;
the relatively invariant nature of perspective enables us to take the per-
spective of other agents because we are agents ourselves.
How does it work? Instead of remaining centered on ourselves, as we
usually are, we recenter ourselves on the person whose perspective we
want to take. To do so, we have to shift our survival interests, physical
capabilities, relationships and attachments, and hopes and interests so
that they radiate out from the other person. This involves identification
and projection. But it involves a lot more than that. Had perspective
taking only involved projection, Julie would have failed to understand
me, I would have continued think my ex-boyfriend didn’t respect me,
and Buffy wouldn’t have saved Willow. When we shift our center to an-
other person, we correct for our differences by replacing what we know
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Introduction
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
1. See, e.g., Alberti 1435/1991 and Gombrich, 1995. The quote that follows is
Gombrich 1995, pp. 114–15.
2. Noë 2004, p. 167.
3. I owe the term ‘unrepresented focal point’ to Naomi Eilan 1995. See
also Wittgenstein 1921/1961 for the idea of the experiencing subject as
the point of view from which the world of objects is present, and John
Campbell 1994 for the egocentric representations of perceptual experi-
ence. For the quote, see Wittgenstein 1953, section 129.
4. Perry 1979.
5. For others pointing to the essential action directedness of the essential in-
dexical, see Nichols 2008 and Rey 1997. For the vanishing point of the
world, see Sartre 1943/1966, Part 3, Chapter 1.
6. Locke 1690/1979, Chapter 27. (Chapter 27 only appeared in the second
edition from 1694.)
Notes 251
the processing is directly for. But the argument made here is actually dif-
ferent. We are not concerned with the fine print of visual processing, but
with the experience of seeing. Our ability to move, the idea is, forms part of
our ability to perceive (see also Noë 2004, pp. 11–12).
15. For the hand and size perception, see Linkenauger, Ramenzoni, and
Profitt 2010.
16. For the reduction of the Ebbinghaus illusion, see Vishton et al. 2007. For
the closer attention to objects within reach, etc., see Brockmole et al. 2013.
For seeing guns when holding guns, see Witt and Brockmole 2012.
17. For the ankle weight experiment, see Lessard, Linkenauger, and
Proffitt 2009.
18. For spider perception, see Cole, Balcetis, and Dunning 2013 and Riskind,
Moore, and Bowley 1995. For emotion and perception more generally, see
Barrett and Barr 2009.
19. See Nagel 1986. The quote is from p. 14.
20. For a recent book about how science is molded to fit the human mind, see
Potochnik 2017. The idea that an engaged and a detached way of seeing the
world are not absolutes, that they infect each other, and that new contrasts
arise from such “infection” is also observed by Nagel 1986.
Chapter 3
1. The table is from Sillars 2011. Sillars notes that this is not an exact tran-
script, so as to protect the privacy of his subjects. Nonetheless, it is closely
modeled on one such interaction.
2. For instance, when conducting family therapy, Sillars reports that parents
and adolescents were partially right about each other about a quarter of
the time, and only quite accurate about the other 10% of the time (Sillars,
Koerner, and Fitzpatrick 2005; Sillars 2011). When it comes to taking
another’s point of view, he observes few spontaneous attempts at it. This
suggests that people assume that they know their partners’ intentions.
3. Malle et al. 2000.
4. Of course, as all philosophers know, Davidson 2001 argues that reasons
ultimately are causes.
5. The example is from Malle 2004, p. 104.
6. Nagel 1979b and 1986.
7. For this and the other actor-observer asymmetries to follow, see Malle
and Pearce 2001 and Malle, Knobe, and Nelson 2007. Some people might
Notes 253
wonder why I don’t talk about the person and the situation, as the lit-
erature on the fundamental attribution error encouraged many to do.
The reason is lack of evidence, as Malle’s 2006 meta-study convinc-
ingly shows.
8. Malle, Knobe, and Nelson 2007. See also Malle 2004, Chapter 7. The ex-
ample of the nonvoter is from Malle, Knobe, and Nelson 2007.
9. According to Malle and Pearce 2001, agents pay up to twice as much at-
tention to their inner mental states as do observers, who pay up to twice
as much attention to agents’ actions or unintentional behaviors (such as
sweating or nervousness). Overall, people pay more attention to actions
or experiences than to unintentional behaviors and thoughts.
10. For our tendency to overestimate how transparent our psychological states
are to others, see Gilovich, Savitsky, and Medvec 1998 and Kamada 2007.
For psychopaths, see Maibom 2019, 2021.
11. Wojciszke 1994 and Wojciszke, Bazinska, and Jaworski 1998. The two
big dimensions are sometimes called the agentic and the communal, e.g.,
by Abele and Wojciszke 2007 or Paulhus 2019. For a review of the litera-
ture, see Fiske, Cuddy, and Glick 2007 and Abele and Wojciszke 2014. For
the description of the two dimensions, see Fiske, Cuddy, and Glick 2007;
Paulhus 2019; and Wojciszke 1994. For the importance, see Fiske, Cuddy,
and Glick 2007 (review). For observer focus on warmth, see Wojciszke
1994. For political candidates, see Sherman, Mackie, and Driscoll 1990.
12. Foulkes 1994. The quote is from p. 681.
13. Foulkes 1994. The quote is from p. 681.
14. Freud 1899/1950 and Nigro and Neisser 1983. Rice and Rubin 2009
found that recalling using multiple perspectives is fairly common. But see
Radvansky and Svob 2019 for evidence that many people have no observer
memories at all. This study contrasts with a whole body of studies that
show the opposite, so should be taken with a grain of salt.
15. Lisa Libby and Richard Eibach have conducted a number of studies on the
characteristics of imaging from the first-person vs. third-person perspec-
tive—cf. Libby and Eibach 2013; Libby et al. 2014; Schaeffer, Libby, and
Eibach 2015. The quotes that follow are from Schaeffer, Libby, and Eibach
2015, p. 534, and Libby et al. 2011, p. 1158.
16. See Libby, Schaeffer, and Eibach 2009.
17. For better recall of emotion, see Nigro and Neisser 1983, McIsaac and Eich
2004, and Robinson and Swanson 1993. For the more detailed character-
ization of emotional memories, see Siedlick 2015 and Sutin and Robins
2010. The neuroscience study is Jackson, Meltzoff, and Decety 2006. The
asymmetry in intensity of affect is from Haslam et al. 2005.
254 Notes
18. For the connection with dissociation and trauma, see Kenny et al. 2009,
Kenny and Bryant 2007, and McIsaac and Eich 2004. For the tendency to
remember traumatic events from an observer perspective, see Cooper,
Yuille, and Kennedy 2002. For shame, Libby et al. 2011 found no main
effect of perspective on shame. However, once you examine the data
from people with high self-esteem and people with low self-esteem sepa-
rately, you find that the latter are much more likely to feel ashamed when
recalling a personal failure from a third-person than a first-person per-
spective. There was no such effect for people with high self-esteem. For
evidence that people with chronic social anxiety tend to retrieve memories
of social experiences from an observer perspective, see D’Argembeau et al.
2006 and Wells, Clark, and Ahmad 1998.
19. For favored views on situations, see Rice and Rubin 2009.
20. For older events being remembered more often from an observer per-
spective, see Nigro and Neisser 1983 and Robinson and Swanson 1993.
For other factors influencing an observer memory stance, including per-
sonal change, see Sutin and Robins 2009. For power and perspective, see
Galinsky et al. 2006. For women remembering objectifying situations
more from an observer perspective, see Huebner and Frederickson 1999.
21. Pronin et al. 2001 and Steglich-Petersen and Skipper 2019.
22. Schroeder and Epley 2020. For agent-observer asymmetries regarding in-
trinsic vs. extrinsic incentives, see also Heath 1999.
23. Nordgren, Banas, and MacDonald 2011.
24. Cusimano and Goodwin 2020.
25. Darwin 1838/1985.
Chapter 4
1. Takaku, Weiner, and Ohbuchi 2001 and Exline et al. 2008; Gospel of
John, 8:7.
2. Baumeister 1997, especially Chapter 1. For Socrates on nobody doing evil
willingly, see Protagoras 358a–d and Gorgias 466–68 in Plato 1997. For the
Jesus quote, see Gospel of Luke, 23:34.
3. Baumeister, Stillwell, and Wotman 1990.
4. The effects reported here are an amalgam of results from three studies,
namely Baumeister, Stillwell, and Wotman 1990; Kearns and Fincham
2005; and Zechmeister and Romero 2002. All three studies found
that victims were still angry and felt their anger was justified; victims
described the perpetrator’s actions as incoherent or incomprehensible
Notes 255
and inconsistent; and perpetrators felt their actions were justified, that
there were extenuating circumstances, and that the victim overreacted, yet
they nonetheless regretted their actions and blamed themselves. Two out
of the three studies found that the victim saw the action as the culmina-
tion of multiple provocations and was more likely to regard it as immoral,
and that the perpetrator thought the victim provoked the action and that
the action could not be helped (Baumeister, Stillwell, and Wotman 1990;
Zechmeister and Romero 2002). Baumeister, Stillwell, and Wotman 1990
and Kearns and Fincham 2005 found that the perpetrator had a tendency
to deny that their actions had negative consequences.
5. Kearns and Fincham 2005, Study 2.
6. When the interaction was unambiguous, the results narrowly failed to
reach significance (p < .057). I’ve written out the somewhat clipped de-
scription of the video with the ambiguous beginning from Mummendey
and Otten 1989 presented in their Appendix I. Instead of using A and B for
the boys, I have substituted names.
7. The reported results are from Mummendey, Linneweber, and Löschper
1984 and Mummendey and Otten 1989.
8. The quote that follows is from Stillwell and Baumeister 1997, p. 1171.
9. The data reported here is an amalgam of several studies, including Stillwell
and Baumeister 1997 and Baumeister, Stillwell, and Wotman 1990. In
their replication, Kearns and Fincham 2005 verify the general pattern of
victim maximization and perpetrator minimization but find additional
differences on a number of the variables. I report only those attitudes that
were found in Baumeister, Stillwell, and Wotman 1990 and that were rep-
licated either in Study 1 or Study 2 in Kearns and Fincham 2005 and/or
in Zechmeister and Romero 2002. The pattern of victim maximizing vs.
perpetrator minimizing was also found in Gordon and Miller 2000.
10. See Stillwell and Baumeister 1997 for the distortion of victim and
perpetrators compared to observers. Gordon and Miller 2000 and
Mummendey and Otten 1989, pp. 35–36, claim that observers have a more
balanced view.
Chapter 5
1. For versions of these protests, see Zahavi 2014 and 2017, Hutto 2011,
Gallagher 2008 and 2017, and Ratcliffe 2007. For the scientistic attitude
toward others, I am thinking about the theory theory, defended by Fodor
256 Notes
1987, Churchland 1970, Stich and Nichols 1995, Astington and Gopnik
1991, and Maibom 2003 and 2007. The most extreme versions of this are,
perhaps, Ryle 1949 and Sellars 1963.
2. Scheler 1912/2008, p. 10.
3. Scheler 1912/2008, p. 6.
4. The original paper is Samson et al. 2010. Celia Heyes has argued that there
is no automatic visual perspective taking, but that Samson et al.’s result
can be attributed to other factors (Heyes 2014; Santiesteban et al. 2014).
However, there have been a range of replications of the results that rule out
Heyes’s alternative explanation. See Furlanetto et al. 2016; Baker, Levin,
and Saylor 2016; and Conway et al. 2017. For examples of how conflict is
related to latency, see Kornblum, Hasbroucq, and Osman 1990.
5. For the study of whether Level 2 perspective taking is automatically com-
puted in the same way as Level 1 perspective taking is, see Surtees, Samson,
and Apperly 2016. For the difference between Level 1 and Level 2 perspec-
tive taking and what is required for their representation, see Michelon and
Zachs 2006. For evidence of Level 2 perspective taking being embodied
because it requires a deliberate movement simulation, see Kessler and
Rutherford 2010.
6. For the original study, see Luan and Li 2020.
7. For an overview of the social facilitation and impairment literature, see
Belletier, Normand, and Huguet 2019. For the fact that presence causes
arousal, whereas attention of some sort is required for most of the other
effects, see footnote 4 and Mullen, Bryant, and Driskell 1997 (for arousal)
and Claypole and Szalma 2018 (for the necessity of attention).
8. For contagious crying in infants, see Simner 1971 and Sagi and Hoffman
1976. For contagious yawning in humans (but not in people with au-
tism), see Provine 1986 and Senju et al. 2007. For contagious yawning in
chimpanzees, see Madsen et al. 2013 and Campbell and de Waal 2011. For
a general review of emotional contagion findings, see Hatfield et al. 2014.
9. Kopel and Arkowitz 1974; Lanzetta, Biernat, and Kleck 1982; and
Zuckerman et al. 1981 show the enhancement or reduction effect of fa-
cially expressing emotions. Asking someone to adopt a facial expression
affects how they feel; for a review, see Hatfield, Cacioppo, and Rapson
1994. For emotion regulation, see Gross 2014.
10. The pencil-in-the-mouth classic study of facial mimicry is from Strack,
Martin, and Stepper 1988. For a failure to replicate, see Wagenmakers et al.
2016, but later Marsh, Rhoads, and Ryan 2019 replicated the result. Some
people argue that the way we recognize emotion is through the subtle mim-
icking of that emotion, e.g., Goldman and Sripada 2005.
Notes 257
28. See Batson 2011. For the specific study regarding the types of distress,
see Batson, Early, and Salvarini 1997. For the philosopher and psychol-
ogist: People high in personal distress help as much as people high in
sympathy (empathic concern). In other words, not every person in the ex-
periment ends up helping, but the vast majority do.
29. See Scheler 1912/2008 and Zahavi and Rochat 2015. One wonders whether
more iterations are needed. Does the empathizer need to know that the
other person knows that he knows that he feels what he feels as well? If so,
where do we stop?
30. A former student of mine, Max Gatyas, has argued that people can share
the same token emotion (Gatyas 2021).
31. Botvinick and Cohen 1998. For more about illusions of self along these
lines, see Metzinger 2009. Recently, Lush et al. 2020 have argued that the
rubber hand illusion is best explained by suggestibility. Their evidence is,
however, purely correlational and fails to provide a proper account of what
is the best explanation of how our minds build our body map. Should the
illusion turn out to be due to suggestibility, not all is lost. There are plenty
examples of our integrating objects into our body maps, such as canes, to
use a famous example by Merleau-Ponty 1945/2002.
Chapter 6
1. Since Aristotle, it’s almost universally agreed that anger involves a desire
for revenge. The most famous passage is from The Rhetoric, 1378a31–33,
where he says that anger is a “desire accompanied by pain for conspicuous
revenge caused by a perceived slight” (Aristotle 1984). However, see Silva
2021 for a dissenting view.
2. For switching field and observer perspectives, see Sutin and Robins 2010.
3. Malle and Pearce 2001, Study 3, found that the asymmetries were nei-
ther eliminated nor reversed. Since people reported on the difficulty of
doing so, they probably failed to take the perspective of the other some
of the time, which can account for the failure to reverse actor-observer
asymmetries.
4. For emotions not requiring previous judgments or appraisals, see
James 1884, Robinson 1995, and Prinz 2004. The startle example is
from Robinson 1995. For fear, see LeDoux 1996. Méndez-Bértolo et al.
2016 provide support for the existence of a low road of fear and of short
pathways from perceptual systems to emotion areas.
260 Notes
5. James 1884. Jesse Prinz, who is a Jamesian in spirit, has argued that
emotions may be experienced unconsciously, and so gets around the ob-
jection that one might be feeling, say, happy without feeling any bodily
changes (Prinz 2004, Chapter 9). For a vociferous opponent of this way of
thinking, see Nussbaum 1997.
6. Damasio 1994. But note that Robinson 2020 argues that aesthetic
emotions don’t really impel us to do anything except, perhaps, continue
gazing on the artwork.
7. See Forgas 2000b.
8. See Schwartz 1999 and Fiedler 2000. My own favorite work on anger, and
the lack of analytical thinking involved in it, is Lucius Annaeus Seneca’s
De Ira (On Anger) (Seneca 1995).
9. For the difference between moods and emotions, see Forgas 2000a; Prinz
2004, Chapter 8; and Griffiths 1997, Chapter 10. Norbert Schwartz explic-
itly claims that emotions have the same effects on thinking as do moods
in his 1999 paper, but he provides no evidence to this effect. For people
inhibiting the effects of emotion on their thinking when they are aware of
their emotions, see Berkowitz et al. 2000.
10. Nummenmaa et al. 2012, p. 9602. If you think this sounds a lot like the
interactor perspective we have just been discussing, you are right. The dif-
ference is that people were watching a movie and they were not watching it
together.
11. McEwan 2007; all quotes are from p. 27, including the indented one.
12. McEwan 2007; the quotes are from pp. 133, 134, and 135, respectively.
13. Melville 1851/1981. The first quote is from p. 153, and the second, in-
dented, quote is from pp. 153–54.
14. Keltner, Ellsworth, and Edwards 1993.
15. Oatley 2000 and Oatley and Laroque 1995.
16. Maner et al. 2005.
17. Hsee, Hatfield, and Chemtob 1992. The quote is from p. 123.
18. See Stueber 2006 for the extended argument or go straight to Stueber 2017
for the short version.
Chapter 7
1. Hitchens 2008.
2. Pollyea 2009.
3. Takaku, Weiner, and Ohbuchi 2001.
Notes 261
4. Batson et al. 1996; Ruttan, McDowell, and Nordgren 2015; Krznaric 2014.
5. For problems recreating visceral experiences, see Morley 1993;
Loewenstein 1996; and Levine, Lench, and Safer 2009. The quote is from
Loewenstein 1996, p. 284.
6. The quote is from Gilbert and Wilson 2007, p. 1354.
7. For visceral affect and issues with forecasting generally, see Morley 1993;
Loewenstein 1996; Gilbert, Gill, and Wilson 2002; and Van Boven and
Loewenstein 2005. On hunger, see Read and van Leeuwen 1998 and
Gilbert, Gill, and Wilson 2002. For thirst, see Van Boven and Loewenstein
2003. For the possible implications for empathy and perspective taking,
see Maibom 2016.
8. For an engaging and accessible introduction to memory research, see
Schacter 1996. This is his definition of episodic memory: “In order to be
experienced as a memory, the retrieved information must be recollected in
the context of a particular time and place, and with some reference to one-
self as a participant in the episode” (p. 17). For the rapid fading of episodic
memories, see Robinson and Clore 2002 and Levine, Lench, and Safer
2009. For implicit memories, reference Levine, Lench, and Safer 2009.
9. For focalism, see Wilson et al. 2000. Schkade and Kahneman 1998 call it
the “focusing illusion.”
10. The spaghetti example is from Gilbert, Gill, and Wilson 2002.
11. For cognitive and affective empathy being affected by reward, see Epley
et al. 2004; Hess, Blaison, and Dandeneau 2017. Men typically perform far
worse than women on tests where they are supposed to figure out what
others think or feel—unless, that is, they are rewarded with money. Women
appear to find understanding others rewarding in itself. You might think
about that next time your husband acts clueless or, if you are the husband,
the next time you are tempted to be clueless (see Klein and Hodges 2001).
12. For our ability to correct for forecasting errors when attention is explicitly
drawn to other features of the situation, see Dunn, Forrin, and Ashton-
James 2009.
13. (1) Bernstein and Davis 1982 and Israelashvili, Sauter, and Fischer 2019.
(2) Erle and Topolski 2017; Goldstein and Cialdini 2007; and Goldstein,
Vezich, and Shapiro 2014. (3) Dovidio, Allen, and Schroeder 1990; Carlo,
Allen, and Buhman 1999; Fennis 2011; Dovidio, Allen, and Schroeder
1990; Myers, Laurent, and Hodges 2014; Pahl and Bauer 2013; and
Goldstein, Vezich, and Shapiro 2014. (4) Goldstein, Vezich, and Shapiro
2014; Davis et al. 1996; Davis et al. 2004; Galinksy, Ku, and Wang 2005;
Galinsky, Wang, and Ku 2008; Myers and Hodges 2011; and Laurent and
Myers 2011. (5) Galinsky et al. 2008; Neale and Bazerman 1983; Trötschel
262 Notes
et al. 2011; and Gilin et al. 2013. (6) Decety and Yoder 2016 and Berndsen
and McGarty 2012. (7) Eisenberg, Zhou, and Koller 2001 and Hoffman
2000. (8) Walker 1980; Eisenberg, Zhou, and Koller 2001; and Mencl and
May 2009. (9) Arriaga and Rusbult 1998. (10) Gordon and Chen 2016;
Long and Andrews 1990; Long et al. 1999; and Franzoi, Davis, and Young
1985. (11) Konstam, Chernoff, and Deveney 2001; Zechmeister and
Romero 2002; and Takaku, Weiner, and Ohbuchi 2001. (12) Hepper, Hart,
and Sedikides 2014. (13) Galinsky and Moskowitz 2000; Todd, Galinsky,
and Bodenhausen 2012; and Vorauer and Sasaki 2009. (14) Moore 2005;
Todd et al. 2011; Shih, Stotzer, and Gutiérrez 2013; Shih et al. 2009; and
Vescio, Sechrist, and Paolucci 2003. (15) Mohr et al. 2007; Richardson,
Green, and Lago 1998; and Nemerovski 2010. (16) Macrae et al. 2016.
(17) For psychopathy deficits in empathy, see Maibom 2017a and Blair,
Mitchell, and Blair 2005; for perspective taking deficits in psychopathy and
children with oppositional defiant disorder and high callous-unemotional
traits, see O’Kearney et al. 2017; for people with autism and empathy and
perspective-taking deficits, see Baron-Cohen 1995, Sigman et al. 1992,
Rogers et al. 2007, Anastassiou-Hadjicharalambous and Warden 2008,
and Hirvelä and Helkama 2011. (I should note that many papers claim
that psychopaths have intact perspective taking [e.g., Mullins-Nelson,
Salekin, and Leistico 2006], but that is almost invariable because of how
psychopaths fare on self-report tests, like the Interpersonal Reactivity
Index [Davis 1980], or on other measures concerned with theory-of-mind
tasks [e.g., the Diagnostic Analysis of Nonverbal Accuracy, Nowicki and
Duke 1994] that do not require perspective taking as I have described it
here. Psychopaths are notoriously mendacious and may have poor in-
sight into their own incompetence, and so one cannot rely on self-report
measures.)
14. Eyal, Steffel, and Epley 2018. A later meta-study by Israelashvili, Sauter,
and Fischer 2019 found a small-to-medium effect of perspective taking on
facial emotional expression recognition.
15. Epley 2014.
16. Some studies appear better suited to test perspective taking, like the false
belief task. But it is doubtful that true perspective taking is required for
passing this task.
17. Sillars 2011, p. 201.
18. Keysar et al. 2000, p. 32.
19. Sillars 2011, p. 205.
20. My feeling understood as a result of someone taking my perspective is not
related to that person having an accurate view of my thoughts and feelings.
Notes 263
Chapter 8
and my action as something that I no longer have control over that gives
rise to shame, but that I am caught doing something shameful, which
I only see as shameful once I see what I am doing as another would.
4. Declaration of Independence. For the relations between Jefferson and
Hemings, see Gordon-Reed 2008. For the Washington Post article, see
Danielle 2017.
5. Davidson 2001.
6. https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/negligence. My thoughts on this have
been much influenced by Sher 2009.
7. Wolf 2003. For a more developed critique of her view along the lines that
follow here, see Maibom 2013.
8. For these details, see Burstein 2005, particularly Chapters 4 and 5. The
quote is from Gordon-Reed 2008, pp. 99–100. Jefferson lost the case, but
the slave managed to escape to the North.
9. For the full report, see http://hayesinternational.com/wp-content/uplo
ads/2016/06/28th-Annual-Retail-Theft-Sur vey-PR-Stats-Thoughts1.pdf.
Employees who steal from their employers are unlikely to think of them-
selves as thieves. Why? It turns out that what is stolen often determines
whether the thief thinks of it as theft or not. Psychologist Dan Arieli
studied this phenomenon both in the laboratory and in real life. Those of
you who have lived in dorms know that food and drink items have a ten-
dency to go missing. Does this mean that people in dorms are just thieves?
Not quite. When Arieli put six one-dollar bills in a stack and a six-pack of
coke in the fridge, nobody touched they money, whereas all the cans of
soda were gone in a couple of days (Arieli 2008). What seems to be going
on is that people think of certain acts of stealing as not really stealing at
all. Perhaps the person reasons that he or she will replace the soda at some
point. I have certainly helped myself to a drop of cream from a common-
room fridge more than once thinking vaguely that I’d bring a pint of cream
soon, yet never did. The Angel quote is from season three, the episode
“Offspring.”
10. For features of psychopathy, see Hare 2004 and Cleckley 1982. For the
recent statistic mentioned, see Kiehl and Lushing 2014. The first quote is
from Hare 1993, p. 44, and the quote that follows is from p. 41.
11. Fallon 2013. The quote is from p. 205.
12. One recent study shows that psychopaths do not automatically take
the visual perspective of other people (Drayton, Santos, and Baskin-
Sommers 2018). Along with the anecdotal evidence, from both experts
and psychopaths themselves, this gives us very good reasons to suppose
this capacity is impaired in this population. It explains their poor self-in-
sight, their grandiose sense of self-worth, and, of course, their “profound
Notes 265
lack of empathy and a callous disregard for the feelings, rights, and welfare
of others,” as Hare writes (Hare 2004, 39). Note that if you peruse the lit-
erature, you will find papers claiming that psychopaths—at least primary
psychopaths—have unimpaired perspective taking. This is usually because
what the researchers call perspective taking is not what I have described as
perspective taking here, but merely theory of mind (or: the capacity to as-
cribe psychological states to others); see, e.g., Mullins-Nelson, Salekin, and
Leistico 2006.
13. Both quotes are from Cleckley 1982. The first is from p. 214 and the second
from p. 216. His book was originally published in 1941 but has undergone
several revisions.
14. Cleckley 1982, p. 216.
15. Cleckley 1982, p. 214 and p. 216 in that order. For more on this line of
thinking, see Maibom 2017b. For the recent study regarding shame, see
Mullins-Nelson, Salekin, and Leistico 2006. This study also found intact
empathy, but through self-report tests, which won’t work if psychopaths
either are lying (the standard view) or lack self-insight.
16. For psychopaths and ability to experience empathy, see Hare 1993; Blair,
Mitchell, and Blair 2005; and Maibom 2022. Psychopaths may be capable
of affectively empathizing with others, as suggested by Decety et al. 2013
and Meffert et al. 2013. Recent studies suggest that psychopaths’ attention
is grabbed by people in distress, but they fail to continue being focused on
them and do not experience anything like the strong defensive reaction
normal people do. However, this appears to be due to emotion regulation
and is under conscious control. Marsh 2014 argues that psychopaths may
have difficulties empathizing with fear specifically, but that could be due
to their own deficient fear responses, which are well documented in the
literature. Fear recognition also appears to be a problem for them, and they
don’t seem to comprehend what an awful emotion fear is for most people.
Since psychopaths are also known to have shallow emotions—i.e., short
lived, often explosive, but without their usual depth and color—their em-
pathic affect should be equally shallow. And yet, going by how charming
and engaging many people find them, we should at least expect them to
experience if not empathic, then, certainly, vicarious joy and excitement.
A recent study supports Marsh’s contention that it is the ability to empa-
thize with fear specifically that is impacted in psychopathy (Deming et al.
2020). For the study of improvements in empathy due to being instructed
to imagine yourself in the other’s situation, see Beussink, Hackney, and
Vitacco 2017.
17. Webber 2016.
266 Notes
18. Webber 2016. Does better appreciating the effects on the victim prevent
rape? It is hard to say. Most research is done on convicted rapists, which
constitute a fairly heterogeneous group. One study of an Irish interven-
tion program showed increases in victim empathy and empathy with
women as a result of treatment; cf. O’Reilly et al. 2010. But the sample size
was small (N =35). A large study of the effectiveness of the SOAR pro-
gram in North Carolina showed no effect of treatment—which included
an empathy element—on recidivism; cf. Grady, Edwards, and Pettus-
Davis 2017. This might have been because the group was very unlikely
to recidivate anyway, suggesting that treatment groups are often self-
selecting. It is unclear whether sex offenders have reduced empathy in ge-
neral (whether perspective taking or affective empathy), as most tests rely
on self-report. However, there is some indication of a selective deficit in
empathy for the victim group (i.e., in pedophiles for boys, and in rapists
of girls for girls); see Curwen 2003 and Geer, Estupinan, and Manguno-
Mire 2000.
19. There may be cases where I judge myself as I imagine a certain type of
person would judge me, even if I do not, myself, judge others that way. This
complicates the story told here somewhat, but not beyond recognition.
20. The Egyptian saying is from The Eloquent Peasant from the period of the
Second Kingdom (Gardiner 1923). For Thales of Miletus, see Laertius
1988, I:36. For Confucius, see Confucius 1988, Book XV, Chapter XXIII.
For the saying of Jesus of Nazareth, see Gospel of Matthew, Chapter 7, verse
12 (The Bible. The Authorized King James Version. 1998).
21. For an excellent introduction on exchanging self for other in Indo-Tibetan
Buddhism, see McRae 2017.
22. Galinsky et al. 2006. For a review of the literature, see Galinsky, Rucker, and
McGee 2016. The experiment showing less interest of those with power
in what people think is Tjosvold and Sagaria 1978; the one that shows
reduced motor resonance is Hogeveen, Inzlicht, and Obhi 2014; and the
one showing less empathic distress and compassion is van Kleef et al. 2008.
This latter study was also the one that suggested that emotion regulation
is responsible for reduced empathic distress and compassion in people
with greater power. This idea is supported by Leach and Weick 2020, who
show increased regulation of negative affect in people with more power
compared to people with less power. Other unfortunate power effects in-
clude reduced cooperation; see Kanso et al. 2014. This study also supports
the idea that one of the big factors in this power blindness to others is
motivation.
Notes 267
23. Chen, Lee-Chai, and Bargh 2001 and Overbeck and Park 2001 and 2006.
24. From the poem “Sacred Emily,” Stein 1922.
Chapter 9
Chapter 10
12. For consequentialists and effective altruists, like Peter Singer and Peter
Unger, this goes without saying. But it is a very common view in ethics. It
is forcefully expressed in Railton 2017, p. 173. Railton argues that morality
and science are alike in (1) seeking impartiality, (2) seeking generality,
(3) seeking consistency, (4) seeking independence of appeals to special au-
thority, and (5) guiding thought and action. Morality, however, is also con-
cerned about (6) harms and benefits to those involved.
13. Perspective taking increases interpersonal liking (Dovidio, Allen, and
Schroeder 1990; Goldstein, Vezich, and Shapiro 2014) and helping (Carlo,
Allen, and Buhman 1999; Fennis 2011; Dovidio, Allen, and Schroeder
1990; Myers, Laurent, and Hodges 2014; Pahl and Bauer 2013; Goldstein,
Vezich, and Shapiro 2014) and reduces bias and prejudice (Moore 2005;
Todd et al. 2011; Shih, Stotzer, and Gutiérrez 2013; Shih et al. 2009; and
Vescio, Sechrist, and Paolucci 2003).
14. The idea that morality is often, implicitly, thought to concern mainly the
social sphere spurred Martha Nussbaum to reconceptualize the public
sphere (see Nussbaum 1999a, 1999b). Alighieri 1472/1986.
15. Williams 1981.
16. Hume 1739/1978 and Smith 1759/1976. The quote is from Hume 1739/
1978, 3.3.1.30.
17. Firth 1952. Given that the Ideal Observer theory derives from the Scottish
sentimentalists, it’s surely a little odd that Firth imagines his Ideal Observer
to be entirely lacking in affect, including sympathy. But the world is a
strange place. Art, unpublished manuscript. The quote is from The Book of
Job, Book 42, verse 17 (The Bible. Authorized King James Version. 1997).
18. Brandt 1955, p. 409. Art, private correspondence.
19. Walker 1991, p. 767. Walker is aware that, technically speaking, such de-
bate or interchange is not explicitly excluded from such pictures, but they
are passed over, giving the appearance that the Ideal Observer arrives al-
most instantaneously and privately at a judgment. For more thought along
these lines, see also Friedman 1989.
20. For an introduction to the psychological literature on imagined
interactions, see Honeycutt, Zagacki, and Edwards 1990 and Zagacki,
Edwards, and Honeycutt 1992.
21. Harman 2000. Both quotes are from p. 189.
22. See, e.g., Boyatzis, Rochford, and Jack 2014 and Friedman and Jack 2018.
23. West 2011, Metcalf 2017, and Hayek 1945. On skepticism that each person
is authoritative about what their happiness consists in, see Haybron 2008.
24. The Armstrong quote is from Badruddin 2018. Jesus formulated the
Golden Rule in Matthew, Book 7, verse 12. My complaints about the God
of Job should not be taken as a comment on Judaism. Rabbi Hillel famously
270 Notes
told a Gentile who wanted to be taught the whole Torah that “That which is
despicable to you, do not do to your fellow, this is the whole Torah, and the
rest is commentary.” Talmud Bavli, Shabbat 31a. I ignore here the vigorous
debate about whether the rule is best conceived in its positive version (do
to others) or in its negative one (do not do to others), or possibly both.
25. Breithaupt 2019. The quote is from Lambert 2019. Bloom 2016. For sym-
pathy/compassion increasing punishment, see Pfattheicher, Sassenrath,
and Keller 2019. There are additional problems with Bloom’s preference
for sympathy or compassion. If he has in mind empathic concern, it is sub-
ject to the same biasing effects as empathy, as is clear in Batson’s work (e.g.,
Batson 2011). Sympathy also correlates more heavily with helping, and it
is the indiscriminate helping of victims of disasters more than victims of
more longstanding problems (childhood malaria, malnutrition, etc.) that
worries Bloom.
26. For in-group vs. out-group and perspective taking, see Tarrant, Calitri,
and Weston 2012 and Skorinko and Sinclair 2013. For social conservatives
and homosexuality, see Mooijman and Stern 2016. Tony Jack helped me
think through, more clearly, the errors in this research. For reduction of
the positive effects of interacting with out-group members due to perspec-
tive taking, see Vorauer and Sasaki 2009.
27. For the Fiennes interview, see Darnton 1994. For increases in dislike of
people who transgress moral norms, see Lucas, Galinsky, and Murnighan
2016 and Miller, Hannikainen, and Cushman 2014. Dislike of people we
think dislike us is the topic of much of Vorauer’s work, e.g., Vorauer and
Saski 2009 and Vorauer and Sucharyna 2013; for a summary, see Vorauer
2013. And lastly, for our tendency to seek out less information regarding
things we prefer not to be true, see Ditto and Lopez 1992.
28. Bubandt and Willerslev 2015. The quote is from p. 5.
29. For the original versions of the trolley case, see Foot 1967 and Jarvis
Thomson 1985. For later elaborations used in psychological and neurosci-
ence studies, see Greene et al. 2001 and 2009. For criticisms of the use of
trolley cases, see Kahane et al. 2018.
30. Krznaric 2014.
31. This is also a theme in Robbins and Jack 2006.
32. Maibom 2014 and Kant 1781/1998.
33. de Beauvoir 1949/ 2011. For some psychological evidence about the
positive effects on the receiver of perspective taking, see Bruneau and
Saxe 2012.
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Name Index
For the benefit of digital users, indexed terms that span two pages (e.g., 52–53) may, on
occasion, appear on only one of those pages.
For the benefit of digital users, indexed terms that span two pages (e.g., 52–53) may, on
occasion, appear on only one of those pages.
impartial observer. See ideal observer interactive, 7–8, 86–87, 139, 246–47
impartial spectator. See ideal observer Level 1, 129, 137–38, 256n.5
impartiality, 3–4, 5, 9, 56, 222–23, 228– Level 2, 129, 136, 137–38, 256n.5
31, 232, 233, 236, 237, 238–39, 247 memory, 60–62
intersubjectivity, 85, 117–18, 120, 121–22, observer, 7–8, 60–62, 70, 72, 73–75, 76,
202, 214 80–81, 83–85, 128–29, 136–37, 139,
introjection, 122–24, 205–6 177, 183–84, 212–13, 217–19, 231
perpetrator, 86–87, 91–99, 100–5, 136–
justice, 1, 6, 8, 165, 166 37, 158–59, 183–84, 191, 193
psychological, 60–63
master-slave dialectic, 201, 202–7, 214–15 third-person, 71, 72–73, 183–
memory, 23, 60–62 84, 193–94
autobiographical, 136–37, 158, 159–60 uninvolved observer (see observer)
episodic, 161–62 (see also victim, 86–87, 91–99, 100, 105, 136–37,
autobiographical) 158, 183–84, 192, 193
field, 72 visual, 38–43, 108–11, 135–36
implicit, 161 perspective taking
observer, 72, 84 and bias, 9
semantic, 160, 161–62 Buffy example, 133–34, 138
Moby Dick, 148–49 imagine-self, 17–18, 158–59
moods, 129, 142–43 imagine-other, 17
moral dilemma, 242–43 Julie example, 25–26, 138, 170–
mutual recognition. See recognition 71, 244–45
and power, 195–97
negligence, 183 and self-awareness, 179–80, 214
Pierre Menard, el autor del Quijote, 18–
objective. See objectivity 19, 21–22
objectivity, 3–5, 6–8, 56–57, 84, 218, 228, prediction, 24–25, 144
233, 247 problem of others minds, 28–29
On Chesil Beach, 147–48, 149, 153–54 projection, 17–18, 122–24, 138–
overidentification, 202, 207, 239 39, 244–45
projective identification. See introjection
partiality, 2, 228–30 psychopathy, 68, 166, 187–90, 194, 197
personal distress, 107–8, 124–26
perspective Rashomon, 86–91, 94, 97, 102–4
actor (see agent) recognition, 1, 13–14, 202–4, 214, 247
agent, 7–8, 62–70, 75–76, 79–82, 83, Reid interrogation technique, 210–11
85, 137, 139, 177, 217–19, 222– responsibility, 8, 66, 94, 101–2, 149–51,
23, 245–46 179–87, 196–97, 226, 246
and power, 203–5 rubber hand illusion, 127–28
and visual art, 36–37
and videogames, 40–43 self-alienation, 203–4, 217–18
field, 71, 72, 73–75, 128–29, 136– self-awareness, 179, 203
37, 212–13 self-consciousness. See self-awareness
first-person, 7–8, 60–62, 71, 72–73, She Came to Stay, 199–202, 214–17
158–59, 178, 179 simulation, 18, 175–76
General Index 307