Topic 7 Johari Window

CPvt Gianne Xeniah I Nivera 4Cl

http://kevan.org/jh/gianne+xeniah

1) How easy or difficult was it to select the adjectives to describe yourself? Why?

Personally, I found it quite easy to break down my personality into simple things. I know
that I always put others first, I can never say no to my family, I have a very high regard for my
duties, I am independent, and most of all, among all of these responsible and traits, I am still a
very shaky ball of anxiousness. I am not as confident and bold as people make me out to be—I
just come off as relaxed because I like to always be prepared.

2) How easy or difficult was it to select the adjectives to describe the members of your squad? Why?

I decided to base it off how they acted in our group chat—how their typing mannerisms
looked like, how they interacted with people, and how often they replied back to me. I also based
it of our video discussion—how they talked, how they presented themselves, and how
cooperative they were all in all.

3) How did the responses of your friends and family differ from the responses of your squadmates?
After comparing feedback, what were you surprised by?

The responses were more similar than I initially expected. Though looking back on and
reflecting a bit on myself, I can actually see why my old friends and my new squadmates had the
same impressions of me. As seen the Johari Window, my main traits are friendly, loving, and
cheerful—all perfectly accurate words to associate with me on our first meeting and even of we
are long time best friends. At my core, my priority is always being a people pleaser. I want to
make people heard and be able to provide them with what they need from me, and in return, all I
 desire the same love and acknowledgement from them. As an anxious kid at heart, validation is
what I crave and in order to do that, I have to be the best that I can be so that people would flock
to me and have a very positive view of me as a person.

The only person who had a unique and more personal answer was my mom. She didn’t
start off by saying that I was friendly and cheerful. She began by saying that I was mature,
sensible, and independent—all three traits that came of me after being an only child for almost 17
years of my life. I forced to do a lot of things alone and often ended up learning things all by
myself, leaving me to develop the philosophy that I have to volunteer if I want things done right.
It’s stressful, but it’s what got me through many tough times of my life.

4) What can you do to reduce your Blind Spot and/or Facade, and move those traits into your Arena
instead?

I will try to loosen up a bit more instead of trying to keep up a wall that only tires me out.
I will be less harsh on myself when I make mistakes and when things don’t go perfectly the way I
wanted to. I will let myself have more limitations and be more honest with my friends when I
want to say no. I will be kinder to my body and my mind.

5) How can you apply what you learned about you and your teammates to improve collaboration?

I will continue being as helpful as I can and try to learn more about what my squadmates
are capable of. I’ve noticed that online introductions aren’t really the most honest way of getting
to know other people—actually being able to see them and listen to their voice helps.

6) What have you learned in the process of constructing your Johari Window?

There are still a lot of things about myself that I haven’t fully revealed even to my oldest
best friends and I am not sure if that thought is supposed to feel comforting or alarming. Deep
down though, I personally believe that putting up walls between people you are close to can help
in protecting yourself from being potentially hurt. No matter how close you get to others, the
chances of these people eventually leaving you for something better is always there and for me
personally, it is good to have something left for yourself that they can’t take away no matter how
much of yourself you have already given to them.