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Contents
§ 1. Debunking the 8 dating Myths
§ 2. The Basic Principles of Dating
§ 3. The Three Do's of Flirting
§ 4. Why Confidence Is More Attractive Than a Six-
Pack and Cash
§ 5. Four Things You Need To Do To Get Women
§ 6. Three Things Women Find Sexy That Have
Nothing to Do With Sex
§ 7. Real Men Take Risks
§ 8. Why Women Like 50 Shades of Grey
Debunking the 8 dating
myths
One fact that we all have to accept is that dating sucks and it obviously
sucks to be rejected by crazy hot women and it also sucks to be alone. It
sucks to be nervous around women. It sucks when you babble on and on
about useless junk that she's not even interested in and it's even worse to
act like a stud and have her slap you in front of all your friends and
buddies. What makes matters worse is that at the end of the day you're not
satisfied with being yourself and with being alone, and you want to change
to become one of the best dudes out there. So what's the solution? Get out
and date, and deal with the inevitable rejections. Learn from it, and have
fun with it. Eventually, make the proper corrections that will put you in the
right spot to become better at dating. Most men are intimidated by myths,
misconceptions, and of course, their denial of their power as men.
However, it is imperative to understand these myths and the solutions that
will leave you free to do whatever you want and date whomever you want
when it comes to women, sex and relationships. Right now, I've listed
quite a few dating myths but these are the most important ones that you
must always keep in mind and watch out for some of your friends and
buddies who might also use them as an excuse.
Dating means flirting. You have to initiate a conversation and start the
interaction. When you start running the game, pulling all these attraction
techniques and flirting techniques and creating a genuine connection with
this girl if you want to get her. When it comes down to it unless you make
the first move and go out there and pursue them you're not going to get
any women no matter what you do. As a matter of fact, many supermodels
that I have spoken to complain that they cannot get a date because most
men are afraid to approach them. After all, they automatically assume
because she's smoking hot she's going to reject them anyway. That means
that puts you in above almost 90% of the dudes because they're not even
approaching her in the first place. So go out there and approach women.
Be ahead of the pack.
Myth number 3; If You Listen To Her Problems She'll Give You Sex.
This falls into the same category as The nice guy" ploy. However, this one
is slightly worse. I've seen this myth play out time and time again usually
by lonely losers who are trying to score with women. The idea behind this
plan is that a horny guy sees a woman he wants to date then he becomes
friends with her and all of the sudden he thinks that listening to her
problems and trying to solve her emotional problems will lead to sex.
However, to his surprise, his plan falls flat in his face because instead of
her wanting to date him all that happens is now she suddenly starts
discussing every single problem she has with him. Not only that but now
she also suddenly realizes that she has a mini therapist she can go to for
free to get her problems solved. Next thing you know she starts bringing in
her problems with other men. She goes out and dates jerks and brings
those emotional issues to him, and all he is is an emotional whoopee
cushion for her to beat up because at the end of the day all you're doing is
being a good friend, and no woman is going to date a good friend. It's a
one-way trip to the friend zone and nobody wants that.
Myth number 6; Pursuing Women Takes Too Much Effort & Time.
Guys complain that trying to get a good woman is as hard and as complex
as brain surgery when in fact it's not and doesn't need to be. There are
simple skills you can learn to attract women effortlessly and if you're just
willing to put in the work in the initial phase the rest of your life will have
you attracting women with great ease and without many obstacles getting
in your way. So change your mindset and instead of thinking there's not
enough time and effort to get women, just think, "I need to learn to get
women first before I can put more effort into pursuing women on a larger
level." Remember, learning a new skill will almost always take time but
once you understand how to and where to meet women you'll take less and
less time. After everything is said and done being able to get women will
be easy as pie.
Myth number 7; Women Know What They Want & Will Tell You.
Women do not know what they want and they will not tell you what they
want. They are emotional creatures governed by the genetics of evolution
and that is to think with emotion instead of logic. Men, on the other hand,
are logical creatures. What they say is what they mean, but women will
say one thing and do the total opposite. So always pay attention to her
actions and always look for hints and clues instead of trying to get a
definitive answer from her. Because the fact of the matter is a woman will
never be able to tell you exactly what they want in a man. They can only
tell you what they think they want and there's a huge difference between
the two. Women love men who are generative and creative. If they have to
tell you how to get them, what to be like and how to behave at every step
of the way, then one thing you need to understand is that they will not be
turned on by you. This is why they prefer not to tell you what they want
and expect you to know because it feels better to realize that, "This guy
just gets me", in her words. Understand this if you want to understand
women.
After a few weeks of studying through the hottest “Get Laid Quick” books
on the market, and armed with a few splashes of pheromone-scented
cologne, Steve was ready to pick up a woman. He went up to the first
attractive woman he saw on the crowded dance floor. She was stunning
and seemed like a willing target. After glancing at her, Steve immediately
used a pickup line that has been "proved to work every time." "Your father
must have been a thief because he took all the stars in the sky and put them
in your eyes," he said in his first attempt. The sexy babe responded with a
cold blank stare. Steve shrugged off the rejection and approached the next
attractive woman who caught his eye. This time Steve tried a slightly
different approach. He approached the next woman and said,
“Congratulations! You’ve been voted the most beautiful girl in this room
and the grand prize is a night with me!” The woman, sure enough, got
angry and slapped Steve and told him to leave her alone.
You must decide how quickly and how far you can push things while
dealing with a woman. I've observed that when you first meet a lady,
you're usually in one of three scenarios: you have days or weeks to seduce
her, you have a few hours to seduce her, or you have a few minutes to
seduce her. You need to have a unique strategy for each circumstance and
be willing to assume varying degrees of risk (as it takes more courage to
ask a woman you've known for two minutes out than it does to ask out a
woman you've known for months). The three scenarios are summarized as
follows:
In the first scenario, you only have a few hours to seduce the woman.
Examples include talking to a woman on the train or in any other situation
where time is not on your side, including meeting a woman at a party, bar,
or any other gathering. You must act fast and purposefully in these
circumstances if you want to win her over. The master seducer will take
full advantage of the short period of time to progress swiftly through the
seduction stages.
In the second scenario, you have a few days or weeks to seduce the
woman. You have the time to woo the woman in this situation. A few
examples include the waitress at your preferred dining establishment, the
cashier at the grocery store, or a woman at your neighborhood gym. You
either know where they work or have some other "reason" to run into her
again in this circumstance. Then you can plan to "bump into her" once
again and continue to develop your seduction over time.
Finally, in the third scenario, you only have a few minutes to seduce the
woman. If you don't speak up and take action in these circumstances, the
woman will be gone. You must act quickly. A few instances like this are
conversing with a woman in a store or while standing in line, or when
sitting next to her at a coffee shop table. In these circumstances, you must
establish rapport and trust right away. You must be willing to take a bigger
risk and have the courage to ask for her contact information, and email
address, or to set up a date right there and then when there isn't much time
left. You must also understand the various stages of creating rapport—that
is, a good-feeling connection—with a woman. Here is a brief description
of the steps you will probably take to have sex. It's crucial to maintain
your concentration on the objective at each stage so you can go to the next.
Here is an overview of the rapport-building phases. Study these and apply
them in any dating situation with a woman. You can quickly identify
which stage you are on and how to go to the next step by having a firm
understanding of these stages.
STAGE I: Breaking the ice, small talk, and getting to know each other.
STAGE II: Establishing trust and experiencing some good feelings
together.
STAGE III: Develop romantic/sensual feelings. Having her consider you
a potential lover.
STAGE IV: Some form of physical touch, kissing, or handholding.
STAGE V: Either setting up the next date or initiating an intense sexual
connection.
You really must use this idea, but in reverse, to flirt successfully. You
must give her the feelings of romance, attractiveness, and arousal that you
want her to experience in exquisite detail. As you describe these feelings,
she’ll start to have them. The idea is straightforward: in order to
comprehend what someone is talking about when they explain something
to you, you must be able to picture it. You can't help but visualize what my
new car looks like if I tell you it's a minibus and that it's grey while
explaining it to you. Even if I tell you not to imagine something, you have
to imagine it to know what not to think about. If I tell you not to imagine a
mini-van, you must think of one, so you know what thought to avoid. The
same thing happens when you describe a feeling to a woman. Whether she
wants to feel the feeling you are describing or not, she must imagine it to
know what you are talking about. The extent to which she feels it is
dependent on how well you are at describing the feeling.
Why Confidence is better
than Cash or a Six pack
What attribute did more than a thousand women say they found most
appealing in men when a survey was conducted? Would you like to take a
guess? Well, I'll tell you regardless. It was confidence. Looks came
nowhere near the top of the list. Why do women find a confident man so
alluring? What is it about self-assured men that makes them so seductive?
Allow me to enunciate.
A man who exudes confidence is aware of his worth and is proud of
who he is. What do you think she will perceive you as if you don't
think you are good enough yourself?
A man with confidence feels at ease at all times. When you interact
with a woman and feel uneasy, you put a stop to the building
chemistry. If there is no chemistry between you two, how can a
woman like you?
A self-assured and confident man wants a woman more than he
needs one. Women find needy males to be highly unappealing, and
they can sense it right away.
A self-assured and confident man gives a woman a sense of security.
A man who exudes confidence is a masculine man. She will feel
more masculine than you, and all attraction will be lost, if you
approach a woman without confidence, and expect her to assume the
dominant male position and initiate the approach. Women desire to
feel feminine, not masculine.
A lady will be attracted to you more the more feminine you make her feel.
How does the man achieve this? Practice, practice, practice! Low self-
confidence is generally caused by five things: severe self-judgment;
unrealistic expectations; fixation with fear and anxiety; a lack of skills and
talents; and insufficient experience. Gaining experience, sharpening your
skills, and honing your talents (picking up, conversing with, or
approaching women) are fundamental.
Snap yourself out of the fear.
There isn't a secret recipe for confidence that you can get in a book or on
the Internet. Confidence will give you everything you need to approach a
woman and be yourself, but you must work to get it. Lastly, do not confuse
cockiness or arrogance for confidence.
Three Things Women Find
Sexy That Have Nothing to
Do With Sex
Believe it or not, some of the sexiest things you can do to turn a woman on
happen outside the bedroom. The sooner you under this the sooner you'll
get her craving your presence in an actual bedroom. It may surprise you to
learn that some of the sexiest things you can do to entice a woman take
place away from the bedroom. The sooner you realize and understand this,
the better.
1.Passion for Life. You must be leading a life that ignites your enthusiasm.
She will eventually want to learn more about you, so if you have any
interesting tales to tell her, you'll already be in a good position to tell her
about something . Skateboarding, Crossfit, and learning to surf were
terrific as far as helping me meet women, not necessarily because of
meeting the women in these places, but more because it gave me
something great to talk about when I did go on dates. A statement that
always seems to turn on women: "I really want to try (worthwhile goal),
and so I have been (preparing for worthwhile goal)."
2 Self-Control. There are many, many ways that this might manifest, but
these are the ones that mean the most to me. Do not feel compelled to
immediately share these stories. Let her talk, and then you can share. Not
only will you appear courteous, but smart and selfless as well. Talking less
means a lower chance of putting your foot in your mouth. It's a solid
indicator that she's someone you should not get associated with if she
never asks you about your life.
o You must feel at ease carrying your side of the conversation while
letting her handle hers. This implies that you can't always fill in the
blanks and never be too afraid to allow for breaks or pauses.
o When she says something spectacular or intimidating, like, "I used to
play professional netball and now I model," or "I manage my own
business and have so much money that I never have to work again,"
you must learn to remain unfazed.
o Heartfelt and sincere appreciation is almost always appreciated. But
be extremely careful not to compliment her too much. Ironically, the
more compliments you offer after the first, the less real they appear
to be.
On the one hand, we want to make the girl feel comfortable, but on
the other hand, we also want her to invest in the conversation and be
slightly self-conscious.
Let's face it, gaining confidence used to be much simpler. Males were
always at risk of not eating, getting attacked, and contracting diseases. The
list is endless. Every man had to take a risk every day, no matter how tiny,
in order to survive. Except for tasks he sets for himself, modern man has
no risks or difficulties. If he chooses, he can live in security, comfort, and
protection. Sadly, the majority of men opt for this path.
I'm going to set you the task of taking tiny risks each day. Here are a
handful to help you get going:
i) Today, give five strangers a smile.
ii) Say "hi" to any pretty woman you see. Then, if you'd like, leave. The
approach itself poses the risk.
iii) That one woman you've been holding off on asking out? Ask her
out.
Here’s the bad news: not all women want to be chained up, spanked, or
blindfolded. Think against the notion that, "Oh, that's what I have to do;
bind a lady with ropes and use her as my sex slave, since that's clearly
what all women want in their hearts." Keep in mind that the relationship is
inflated in the book because it's fiction. But even though you might not
have a helicopter or be a 27-year-old billionaire, there are certain
important things you can learn when it comes to what women want. A lot
of men who read this book would believe that Christian Grey's youth,
good looks, and wealth are the main factors for Ana Steele's attraction to
him. Nevertheless, the female readers cannot actually see Christian Grey;
they cannot take a ride in his helicopter. What really engages them, what
really turns them on, all occurs within the mind. There actually isn't any
sex until way beyond the 100-page mark!
What does this tell us, exactly?
Christian Grey is attractive for more than just his directness, though. He
also wins Ana's trust by demonstrating to her his vulnerability, hidden
beneath his dashing demeanor. He speaks of prior tragedies, revealing that
he is not always as in complete control as he initially appears to be. Instead
of turning Ana off, this makes him more alluring. She has the impression
that he is sincere, and passionate, and that there something more is going
on beneath the exterior—that he is only in love with her.
Wouldn't it be great to walk into any situation knowing that you can attract
any woman you want, even if there are high-value men lurking? Wouldn't
it be awesome to have the necessary self-belief to get hot babes because
you possess both the nice guy's heart and the bad boy's alluring charisma
and attitude that women can't help but swoon over?
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