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13 Most Popular Gratitude Exercises &

Activities

We usually show our gratitude to others when we feel indebted to them, when we
have benefitted from their actions, and when we want to make our feelings towards
them known.

Showing gratitude is sometimes a required or expected thing, but at other times, a


spontaneous “thank you” to someone who has unknowingly made our day. On
most occasions, we show gratitude to bring the good feelings we have been gifted
back to the gifter.

While it is admirable to want to share our gratitude and good feelings with others,
we rarely stop to think about what giving others our gratitude does for us.

As it turns out, it does quite a lot for our brains and mental wellbeing.

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This Article Contains:


 13 Most Popular Gratitude Exercises and Activities
 A Gratitude Trick That Marie Forleo Learned from Robert
Emmons
 Gratitude Exercise: The Can of Heinz Beans
 2 Gratitude Quizzes and Questionnaires
 Handy Gratitude Worksheets
 Examples of Gratitude Interventions for Adults
 4 Gratitude Lesson Ideas for Teachers
 Gratitude Games and Ideas for Kids
 How to Develop Your Own Gratitude Ritual
 Gratitude Apps That Help You Stick to It
 7 Podcasts Focused on Gratitude
 A Take-Home Message
 References
Research shows that gratitude can:

 Help you make friends. One study found that thanking a new acquaintance
makes them more likely to seek a more lasting relationship with you.

 Improve your physical health. People who exhibit gratitude report fewer
aches and pains, a general feeling of health, more regular exercise, and
more frequent checkups with their doctor than those who don’t.

 Improve your psychological health. Grateful people enjoy higher wellbeing


and happiness and suffer from reduced symptoms of depression.

 Enhance empathy and reduces aggression. Those who show their gratitude
are less likely to seek revenge against others and more likely to behave in a
prosocial manner, with sensitivity and empathy.

 Improve your sleep. Practicing gratitude regularly can help you sleep longer
and better.

 Enhance your self-esteem. People who are grateful have increased self-
esteem, partly due to their ability to appreciate other peoples’
accomplishments.

 Increase in mental strength. Grateful people have an advantage in


overcoming trauma and enhanced resilience, helping them to bounce back
from highly stressful situations. (Morin, 2014).
With all of these benefits to practicing gratitude, your next question is probably
“How do I do it?”

If so, you’re in luck! Read on to discover some of the most popular exercises and
activities for this, as well as tips to cultivate your own gratitude practice.

13 Most Popular Gratitude Exercises and Activities


There are infinite ways to show our gratitude to others, to ourselves, and to a
higher power or even “the universe” itself. However, it can be tough to get started
without practical ideas. These gratitude exercises and activities are some of the
most well-known and proven ways to practice and enhance your gratitude.

1. Journaling

Writing down a few things you are


grateful for is one of the easiest and most popular exercises available.

The purpose of the exercise is to reflect on the past day, few days, or week, and
remember 3-5 things you are especially grateful for. In this way, you are focusing
on all the good things that happened to you in a given set of time.

What is the appropriate amount of journaling one should do per week? Some
people propose doing it every day while others suggest once per week. The
arguments against doing it every day are that it can be tedious and forced. It
becomes a practice you feel you should do or need to do instead of something you
want to do.

When journaling becomes a banal task and not an enjoyable practice then you
need to adjust the amount of journaling you do.

Besides the benefit of focusing on the wonderful things, this practice actually can
increase your quality of sleep, decrease symptoms of sickness, and increase joy
(Marsh, 2011).

It is important to cater your practice to what you need. Perhaps journaling every
day for a short amount of time works for you, but over time, it feels better to
journal every Friday.

Paying attention to what you are grateful for becomes easier as you practice it.

Imagine your life without the things or people that matter to you, before you begin
writing. That should definitely boost your gratitude barometer.
2. Gratitude Jar

The gratitude jar is a stunningly simple exercise that can have profound effects on
your wellbeing and outlook. It only requires a few ingredients: a jar (a box can also
work); a ribbon, stickers, glitter, or whatever else you like to decorate the jar; paper
and a pen or pencil for writing your gratitude notes; and gratitude!

Step 1: Find a jar or box.

Step 2: Decorate the jar however you wish. You can tie a ribbon around the jar’s
neck, put stickers on the sides, use clear glue and glitter to make it sparkle, paint it,
keep it simple, or do whatever else you can think of to make it a pleasing sight.

Step 3: This is the most important step, which will be repeated every day. Think of
at least three things throughout your day that you are grateful for. It can be
something as benign as a coffee at your favorite place, or as grand as the love of
your significant other or dear friend. Do this every day, write down what you are
grateful for on little slips of paper and fill the jar.

Over time, you will find that you have a jar full of a myriad of reasons to be
thankful for what you have and enjoy the life you are living. It also will cultivate a
practice of expressing thanks.

If you are ever feeling especially down and need a quick pick-me-up, take a few
notes out of the jar to remind yourself of who, and what, is good in your life.

3. Gratitude Rock

This exercise may sound a little silly. You may be thinking, “A rock? How can a
rock help me practice gratitude?”

The secret to this exercise is that the rock is a symbol, a physical object you can
use, to remind yourself of what you have.

The instructions are about as simple as instructions can be: just find a rock!
Make sure to pick one you like, whether you like it because it’s pretty because it is
smooth or has an interesting texture, or because you picked it up from a special
place. If you have another small object you’d rather use instead, feel free to
substitute that for the rock.

Carry this rock around in your pocket, leave it on your desk where you will see it
throughout your day, or even wear it on a chain around your neck or your wrist.

Whenever you see it or touch it, pause to think about at least one thing you
are grateful for. Whether it’s something as small as the sun shining down on you in
this moment or as large as the job that allows you to feed yourself or your family,
just think of one thing that brings you joy or fulfillment.

When you take the stone out of your pocket or off of your body at the end of the
day, take a moment to remember the things that you were grateful for throughout
the day. When you put it on or in your pocket again in the morning, repeat this
process to remember what you were grateful for yesterday.

Not only will this help you remember the things you are grateful for, but also it can
trigger a mini-mindfulness moment in your day. It will bring you out of your head
and into the present moment, giving you something to focus your attention on. It
can also act as a switch to more positive thinking.

When you flip this switch multiple times a day, you will likely find that your
average day has become much more positive.

4. Gratitude Tree

The gratitude tree is a great activity for children, and it can also be effective for
adults who are open to experiencing a childlike sense of fun and wonder. You will
need several double-sided colored sheets of paper, string or ribbon, scissors, twigs
or tree branches, some stones or marbles, a vase, and a sense of gratitude.

Step 1: Make one or more leaf cutouts to use as a template for your leaves. Trace
leaves on your colored paper.

Step 2: Cut out the leaves, punch a hole at the top of each leaf, and loop your string
or ribbon through each hole.

Step 3: Put the stones or marbles in a vase and stick the tree branch or twig in the
middle.
Step 4: Have your (or your child) draw or write things that you (or your child) are
grateful for on the leaves. You can also use photographs if you’d like.

Step 5: Hang the leaves from the branches, and behold your gratitude tree!

This activity is easy and results in a pretty reminder of the things that bring you or
your child joy throughout your daily life. It may be intended for kids but there is no
age limit on finding creative ways to cultivate your gratitude, so get to drawing!

Here’s a quick how-to video on the gratitude tree:

5. Gratitude Garden

The gratitude garden activity is a good activity to follow creating gratitude trees.
This is also intended for children, but adults can certainly follow along to get into
the gratitude spirit.

Follow these steps to journey to the gratitude garden.

1. Start the Journey: Stand up in front of the group, with the


Thankfulness/Gratitude Tree in clear view. Explain that you are all going on
a trip to the Grateful Garden, but to get there you have to go through three
dangerous places. (Insert a word other than “dangerous” if more
appropriate to the age group). The Thankfulness Tree will help you get
through each one so you can make it to the Grateful Garden.

2. The Frowny Forest: The first stop is the Frowny Forest. Have the kids all
mimic you as you frown, cross your arms, and hunch over. There is a lot of
wind in the Frowny Forest, so mimic being tossed about by the wind,
turning back and forth as if you are trying to fight it. The only way to leave
the Frowny Forest is to feel happy again, so ask the kids to shout out things
they are grateful for (using the Thankfulness Tree as a prompt). After they
have named a few things, mimic great relief, with a big smile.

3. The Sad Swamp: But, oh no! Just beyond the Frowny Forest is the Sad
Swamp! Hunch over again, swing your arms down low, and walk (in place)
in big, heavy steps, as if walking through mud or water. Again, have the kids
shout out things they are grateful for, so you can all leave the Sad Swamp.

4. The Mad Mountain: Past the Sad Swamp is the Mad Mountain. Have them
imitate you as you pretend to climb up the mountain with great effort,
making angry faces. Again, have the kids shout out things they are grateful
for, so you can all feel happy again.

5. The Grateful Garden: Finally, you have all arrived at the Grateful Garden!
What a good job they have done! To celebrate, everyone can do a Happy
Hop! (All Done Monkey, 2012)

Going through each of these negative emotions can be a fun and interactive
learning opportunity for kids. For older children (or young-minded adults!), you
can even add in a few other, more complex negative emotions, like the “Disgusted
Dock” or the “Petty Pier.”

To read these instructions, click here.

6. Gratitude Box

The gratitude box is a thoughtful way to share your feelings with loved ones and
cultivate your own sense of gratitude.

This is another easy activity that requires only a box, some paper, and a pen or
pencil to write down gratitude messages. You can make the box yourself or buy
one, the prettier the better!

On the paper, write down a heartfelt message of gratitude to your loved one. If
you’re not sure how to start, here are some suggestions to begin your message:

1) “Thank you for…”

2) “What I love about you…”


3) “My holiday wish for you…”

You can also collect messages from others about your loved one, to pack the box
with multiple messages of gratitude and love.

Place the message(s) into the box, wrap it up or put a bow on it, and give it to your
loved one as a special gift, to both your loved one and yourself.

Read more about gratitude boxes here.

7. Gratitude Prompts

Gratitude prompts are a great way to get started, continue your practice, or kick-
start a stalled gratitude practice. This is also a relatively simple exercise, with only
one instruction: fill in the blank!

These prompts provide several ways to begin a gratitude statement, with infinite
possibilities for completion. They cover multiple senses, colors, people, and things.
The goal is to identify at least three things in each category that you are thankful
for.

The prompts include:

 I’m grateful for three things I hear:


 I’m grateful for three things I see:
 I’m grateful for three things I smell:
 I’m grateful for three things I touch/feel:
 I’m grateful for these three things I taste:
 I’m grateful for these three blue things:
 I’m grateful for these three animals/birds:
 I’m grateful for these three friends:
 I’m grateful for these three teachers:
 I’m grateful for these three family members:
 I’m grateful for these three things in my home:
 I’m grateful for these three people who hired me:
 Etc.

This simple exercise is a great way to identify all the things you are grateful for. To
see all of the categories and examples for each category, click here.
8. Gratitude Amble

This exercise only requires your sense of


gratitude and a pair of feet or wheelchair.

When you are going through a particularly rough time, try cleansing your mind
with a gratitude walk. Just as the combination of meditation and gratitude can
combat stress or increase feelings of wellbeing, walking with a gratitude focal
point can offer the same remedy.

Walking is therapeutic in itself.

It has health benefits like increased endorphins that decrease stress, increased heart
health, and circulation in the body, decreased lethargy, and decreases in blood
pressure. Couple this activity with a grateful state of mind and you are bound to
nurture a positive mind and body (Rickman 2013).

The goal of the gratitude walk is to observe the things you see around you as you
walk. Take it all in. Be aware of nature, the colors of the trees, the sounds the birds
make, and the smell of the plants. Notice how your feet feel when you step onto
the ground.

The effects are more potent when you can enjoy a gratitude walk with your partner
or a friend. In this way, you can show them an appreciation for being able to spend
the time walking together.

9. Gratitude Reflection

Reflection is an important part of mindfulness meditation and the cultivation of a


sense of self-awareness. These practices can lead to an enhanced sense of
wellbeing, among other benefits, although enhanced wellbeing is enough of a
benefit for most of us.

To practice gratitude reflection, follow these steps:


1. Settle yourself in a relaxed posture. Take a few deep, calming breaths to
relax and center. Let your awareness move to your immediate
environment: all the things you can smell, taste, touch, see, hear. Say to
yourself: “For this, I am grateful.”

2. Next, bring to mind those people in your life to whom you are close: your
friends, family, partner…. Say to yourself, “For this, I am grateful.”

3. Next, turn your attention onto yourself: you are a unique individual,
blessed with imagination, the ability to communicate, to learn from the
past and plan for the future, to overcome any pain you may be
experiencing. Say to yourself: “For this, I am grateful.”

4. Finally, rest in the realization that life is a precious gift. That you have been
born into a period of immense prosperity, that you have the gift of health,
culture, and access to spiritual teachings. Say to yourself: “For this, I am
grateful.” (Still Mind, 2014)

To read more about how impactful this exercise can be, click here.

10. Gratitude Flower

The gratitude flower is similar to the


gratitude tree, except that instead of creating leaves of gratitude, we create flower
petals of gratitude.

Start by cutting out a circle from colored paper. Yellow is a popular color for this
piece since it will be the center of the flower.

On the circle, write “Things I’m Thankful For” or write your name or family name,
or even an overarching thing you’re grateful for (i.e., “my family”).
Next, use a template or freehand cut to create flower petals. You can use several
different colors for a bright and vibrant flower, or the same color for a more
uniform looking flower.

On the flower petals, write down things you are grateful for. These can be things
like the sunny weather, having wonderful parents, or a promotion at work.

Glue or tape these petals to the center to create a flower. This is your gratitude
flower!

11. Gratitude Letter or Email / Gratitude Visit

This might be the most powerful


gratitude exercise. Write a hand-written letter to a person you are particularly
grateful to have in your life.

Be detailed. Express all the wonderful qualities about this person, and how they
personally have affected your life for the better.

If you have the time personally deliver this letter to the person yourself.

Do it unexpectedly. Your level of gratitude should skyrocket, as you observe the


bliss the receiver gets from your generous act. It will probably be one of the
greatest gifts you will ever receive.

The positive effects of this gratitude exercise were researched and carried out by
Kent State professor Steve Toepfer, associate professor in Human Development
and Family Studies.

In his 2007 study, his undergraduate students experienced enhanced levels of life
satisfaction and happiness, as well as decreased symptoms of depression. Toepfer’s
goal of this study was to determine the psychological benefits, if any, for the
authors of these gratitude letters (Vincent, 2007).
The results of this study are quite straightforward. If you wish to increase your
gratitude and happiness levels then intentionally script letters to inspiring people in
your life.

If you are feeling down and maybe even depressed, you should most certainly give
this practice a try. For an even further joy boost hand deliver your letter to the
receivers so you can witness the receiver’s reactions for yourself.

This activity can be either an email or a letter which you can send off in the mail or
deliver personally.

Think about a person who has recently done something good for you, to whom you
have not yet expressed your gratitude. This person may be a friend, family
member, coworker, teacher, or mentor.

Try to pick someone who you can visit within the next week if you are practicing
the visit component.

Next, write them an email or letter. Use these guidelines to write an effective and
grateful letter:

 Write as though you are addressing the person directly.


 Don’t worry about getting your grammar or spelling perfect (unless you are
sending the email/letter to them).
 Describe what this person has done that makes you grateful, and how they
have impacted your life. Be as concrete as possible here.
 Describe what you are doing in life now, and how frequently you
remember their act of kindness or generosity.
 Try to keep your letter to about 300 words or so.

If you are writing an email or a letter to be mailed, go through the letter to make
sure it is clear and you get the intended message across. Hit the “send” button or
drop it in a mailbox.

If you are delivering your letter in person via a gratitude visit, follow these steps:

 Plan a visit with the recipient. Let him or her know you would like to meet
with them to share something, but be vague about what you have to share.
 When you meet this person, let them know that you are grateful and that
you would like to read them a letter you wrote expressing your gratitude.
Ask that he or she does not interrupt you until you are done reading the
letter.
 Take your time reading the letter. While you read, pay attention to the
reactions of both you and the recipient.
 After you have read the letter, listen to his or her reaction to the letter and
be ready to discuss your feelings together.
 Remember to leave the letter with this person when you leave.

If you are located far away from this person, you can arrange a phone call or video
chat instead.

12. Meditation

Gratitude meditations are a double-


whammy for wellbeing. You are performing two of the most impactful happiness
practice at the same time.

Meditation isn’t always easy especially when the mind is aggressively wandering
and distracting your attention, but if you practice this kind of mediation
consistently be prepared to experience incredible upgrades in gratitude and joy.

Unlike a normal meditation where intentionally become aware of your breath and
keep your mind clear, during a gratitude meditation you visualize all the things in
your life that you are grateful for.

It is important to give each person or item the concentration it deserves. You can
take the time to go through all the people you are grateful for or all the physical
objects you are grateful for.

I like to simplify this sometimes and show gratitude for the things that are often
taken for granted: the ability to breath, hands to touch, eyes to see, legs to walk and
run, etc. There are numerous advantages to meditating. These advantages magnify
when you take the time to target your reasons for gratitude.

Spend some time really taking stock of the things you are grateful for and I am
certain you will feel much better afterward. It is a powerful exercise.
13. Collage

This is similar to the gratitude journal, except you are going to take pictures of all
the things you are grateful for. This gives you the opportunity to visualize your
gratitude.

Try taking a picture of one thing you are grateful for every day for a week. Notice
how you feel. Take a look back at the pictures every week. You don’t have to find
grandiose things to be grateful for. A simple picture of a flower will do.

The more you do this the easier it will be for you to spot out the things you are
grateful for. You will no longer take these simple things for granted.

Perhaps you will document multiple pictures in a day. After a given time period
put all your pictures together in a collage and simply be grateful for all that you
have.

A Gratitude Trick That Marie Forleo Learned from Robert


Emmons
The following video shows the results of a USC study where students kept a
gratitude journal for 10 weeks. Watch what happened when the three groups had
different prompts—and results.

If one of the three prompts mentioned in the video resonate with you, why not give it a try? If not
for 10-weeks, for 2 weeks? You might be surprised with the slow and steady benefits this simple tip
brings.
Gratitude Exercise: The Can of Beans

The following gratitude exercise was invented by Seph Fontane Pennock. For this
exercise you’re going to need:

1. A can of white beans


2. A can opener
3. A spoon

Many of us can buy a can of white beans without thinking much, let alone the food
many of us are fortunate to put into our bodies. For this exercise, we invite you to
have a meal of a can of beans. Nothing else that night. Just the beans.

There’s no warming them up or pouring the beans into a nice cup. That beats the
purpose of the exercise. You simply grab a spoon, open up the can, imagine you’re
sitting around the campfire at the foot of the Sierra Madra, and dig in.
What is the purpose of the exercise?

The purpose of this gratitude exercise is to realize and appreciate what we have.
Appreciation. It can make you realize that every day, you are able to eat all sorts of
foods, flown or shipped in from all over the world for you to eat. It is quite
extraordinary if you think about it, but it can be easy to take for granted for those
who have food security.

During this exercise, you may start to compare the beans that you’re eating with
other meals you crave. This allows you to take a moment and appreciate those
usual foods, and how they fuel you.

The benefits:

Performing this gratitude exercise once a


week:

1. Makes you a more mindful eater.


2. Makes you appreciate what you have in life, or at least, what you eat.
3. Makes you realize that we don’t need so much in order to satisfy our basic
human needs.
4. Allows you to actually enjoy the ritual and experience positive
emotions while your eating beans that tend to last throughout the whole
evening.

The most powerful thing about this gratitude exercise is its simplicity. Performing
this exercise is easier than its alternative, which means cooking up a whole meal
(and ending up with the dishes).

What about your spouse or kids?

In case you are living with someone or if you have kids, you’re going to have more
of a challenge in performing this exercise.
You can either explain the exercise to them and invite them to join you if they wish
(it’s important that they decide to do so themselves), or do the exercise on one of
those evenings that you don’t get to eat together with your family or spouse.

2 Gratitude Quizzes and Questionnaires


Looking for a quick way to assess how grateful you are? These quizzes and
questionnaires are readily available on the internet.

1. Greater Good at Berkeley Quiz – This 20-item quiz is based on a scale


developed by psychologists, Mitchel Adler, and Nancy Fagley. It is available
online, and completion will give an overall gratitude score, as well as being
given steps on how to promote further gratitude in life.

2. This is the GQ-6, a brief questionnaire that may take as little as about 30
seconds to complete. It was devised by Michael E. McCullough, Ph.D.,
Robert A. Emmons, Ph.D., Jo-Ann Tsang, Ph.D. The GQ-6 gives an
impression of how grateful a person is already. It consists of 6 questions,
with responses in a Likert-type scale from ‘strongly disagree’ to ‘strongly
agree’.

Handy Gratitude Worksheets


If you like easy to follow worksheets, we have several suggestions that can help
you get started practicing gratitude. Try one of the following worksheets.

Gratitude Exercises

This handout describes several useful gratitude exercises, some of which are
included above, in a short paragraph. Consider this your master list of the best
gratitude exercises with a quick and easy explanation.

You can find this worksheet here.

To learn about these gratitude exercises in more detail, try the worksheets below.
Gratitude Journal

This worksheet is a quick and easy way to document the things you are grateful for
each day. It begins by noting that keeping a journal helps to improve your mood.
The worksheet then instructs the user to write at least three entries for each day.

This simple worksheet lists each day of the week with five sections of blank space
to fill out with things that make you grateful.

Why I’m Grateful Worksheet

This simple worksheet helps you find things you are grateful for, complete with
prompts to get you started. These prompts cover multiple areas of life and dive
deeper into your sense of gratitude.

Instead of just helping you identify what you are grateful for, this worksheet digs
into why you are grateful.

The prompts include:

 “I am grateful for my family because…”


 “Something good happened this week…”
 “I am grateful for my friendship with… because…”
 “I am grateful for who I am because…”
 “Something silly that I am grateful for…”
 “Something else I am grateful for…”

Simply fill in the blanks on this worksheet to discover more to be grateful for in
your life! Click here to use this worksheet.

Worksheets for Therapists

This comprehensive resource offers the latest gratitude worksheets for therapists.
It includes, for example, a positive journal worksheet, star jar worksheet, and life
story worksheet.

Gratitude Letter

Produced by Allina Health, this sheet looks at ‘overlooked blessings’ and


reflections on positive things about the individual’s health and body, activities they
enjoy, and relationships they are grateful for.

Finally, the worksheet prompts individuals to write a gratitude letter.

Daily Gratitude

This worksheet provides a template for a daily gratitude journal, with room to
record three things in the last 24 hours the client is thankful for, and three things
that they are looking forward to in the next 24 hours.
Gratitude Journal Activity

This provides a gratitude journal activity creating a list of 100 things an


individual is grateful for by completing 5 mini-lists, each containing 20 lines. For
example, the prompt for the first list is to “list 20 things that you are grateful
worked out for you…evidence that the universe is on your side.”

Examples of Gratitude Interventions for Adults


Many of the gratitude exercises described above have been used in interventions to
increase gratitude, with varying results. Check out the following studies.

Gratitude as a Psychotherapeutic Intervention

This paper by Robert A. Emmons and Robin Stern describes how gratitude can
have a positive impact on patients and clients in therapeutic relationships.

The authors also outline several different methods of applying gratitude


interventions to adults, including keeping a journal. The article includes a case
study of a woman facing severe stress and multiple challenges in her life.

Susanna was suffering from thoughts of leaving her marriage, her husband’s
motorcycle accident, the reveal of an extramarital affair on the part of her husband,
and finding out that her husband had been hiding a gambling addiction that had
nearly bankrupted them.

Susanna’s therapist worked with Susanna to develop a course of treatment that


heavily incorporated gratitude. Her therapist encouraged Susanna to reflect on all
of the things she had to be grateful for and helped her “self-right” her perspective
to truly appreciate each moment in her daily life while building a new life that
better suited her strengths, weaknesses, and her circumstances.

This treatment improved Susanna’s ability to function and helped her to remain
emotionally available to her children and more self-aware.

The authors end by noting the ways that gratitude interventions differ from most
other types of interventions.

First, the prosocial and relational nature of gratitude can build unique pathways to
happiness and wellbeing. Gratitude is also a fulfilling practice, facilitating an
appreciation of both the current moment and one’s past.
There is much evidence that gratitude interventions result in many positive
benefits, and that incorporating gratitude into therapy can help clients and patients
realize these benefits.

To read this paper for yourself, click here.

Using a Gratitude Intervention to Enhance Wellbeing in Older Adults

This article utilized the “three good things” exercise to enhance gratitude in adults
60 years and older. This exercise involves writing down three good things you
have to be grateful for each day, generally at night.

The study was conducted on a group of 88 healthy adults aged 60 or over and
lasted for 45 days. Results showed that this gratitude intervention improved
wellbeing via flourishing, at multiple points throughout the duration of the study.
Perceived stress also decreased over the first 15 days.

This intervention was effective whether administered via paper or online and
showed that gratitude journaling can have a significant positive effect on older
adults.

Gratitude and Wellbeing: The Benefits of Appreciation

This piece by Randy A. Sansone and Lori


A. Sansone explores the effects of gratitude on wellbeing.

The authors describe several studies that have provided evidence of a link between
these two constructs.

For example, the authors describe three journaling methods for investigating these
effects undertaken by gratitude researchers Emmon and McCullough, including
one group that journaled about negative events or hassles in life, one group that
journaled about things they were grateful for, and one group that journaled about
neutral life events.

The group focusing on things they were grateful for reported significantly higher
wellbeing than the other two groups.

Another study pitted a group who completed the “counting one’s blessings”
exercise, in which participants wrote about things they were grateful for or for
which they felt blessed at the end of each week, against a group who identified
challenges or hassles in life and a control group. Those who counted their blessings
seemed to experience a boost in wellbeing.

The authors conclude that gratitude can be an effective way to enhance wellbeing,
and suggest several exercises that can be used as interventions in therapy,
including:

 Journaling about things for which to be grateful.


 Thinking about someone for whom you are grateful.
 Writing and/or sending a letter to someone for whom you are grateful.
 Meditating on gratitude The “count your blessings” exercise.
 Practicing saying “thank you” and really meaning it.
 Writing thank you notes.
 If you are religious, incorporating your gratitude in prayer.

To read about these examples and learn how to measure gratitude, you can read the
paper here.

4 Gratitude Lesson Ideas for Teachers


The modern classroom sees teachers educating about far more than literacy and
numeracy. Social and emotional learning is now incorporated into the curriculum.
Teaching gratitude provides students with powerful life-skills. Here are some
resources to utilize in planning gratitude lessons.

1. What is Gratitude?

After an initial ‘activation of thinking’ exercise, brainstorm about gratitude. Then,


students can watch a video, such as Gratitude HD, Moving Art on YouTube, and
jot down reflections from it on post-it notes. Then, in pairs, students work through
guiding questions and the teacher introduces a book that is age-appropriate.
After the story, in pairs, have students discuss what they noticed in the book, what
they connected with, and what they are thankful for.

Use photos, calendar images or Visual Talking Cards to provide a starting point for
a discussion about gratitude and sharing knowledge among the class. Before
closing the lesson, use an ABC Brainstorm Template (available from the link
provided below) to generate a list of things students are grateful for.

Find the lesson idea here at its source (Heart-Mind online, 2014).

2. Acts of Kindness (Grades K – 2)

This lesson is designed for students to be given the opportunity to identify ways
that they have acted with kindness and caring towards others.

Firstly, provide an explanation to the class about feeling grateful and have a
discussion. Then, have the students close their eyes and visualize someone they
have been kind to or helped, and to recall how this made them feel as well as what
the other person said or did.

Ask students to open their eyes and share what they visualized. Then, ask students
to draw a picture of what they visualized and write a caption to go with it.
Alternatively, students could write a short paragraph about it.

To extend this lesson, older students could be encouraged to record times when
they show kindness to others, the reasons why they did, and how they feel, in a
gratitude journal. Or, the class could be prompted to talk about an act of kindness
they could do for someone in the school and the teacher can help them put this into
action.

3. Food Gratitude (Grades 3 – 5)


The class lists as many different fruits as they can. Then, they vote on which fruit
is the favorite fruit for most people in the class.

Guide students through a visualization of all of the people or resources who made
it possible for them to enjoy this fruit.

In groups of four, students discuss the visualization and on a large piece of paper,
draw all of the people, tools and natural elements necessary to produce the fruit. As
students draw, discuss the many people involved in the process of making the fruit
available, and prompt the class to think about how they would show gratitude to all
of the people—they then add this to the drawing.

The following day, bring in some of the fruit that the students selected (being sure
no student is allergic) and ask them to think of all of the properties of the fruit and
reflect upon all the people involved in its production.

Finally, before the class enjoys eating the fruit, invite them to recall
the expressions of gratitude that they wrote on the drawings and to feel that
gratitude.

4. People Who Made a Difference (Grades 6 – 8)

This exercise is designed to help students understand that they can feel gratitude to
people whose actions benefit the whole of society and these benefits can last for
centuries.

Students identify a historical figure who did something that they feel grateful for.
Then, helps students visualize the person, what it would be like to be with them,
and the sense of gratitude the student has. Following this, students write an essay
looking into what the person did that they were grateful for, and consider the
intention and motives of the person.

Students should also think about the ‘cost’ of the figure’s actions, not only in terms
of money but more general personal sacrifices. Ask students to reflect upon how
they have benefited from the person’s actions and how the whole of society may
have benefited.

To conclude the lesson, the class can present brief summaries of the historical
figure they researched.

Here are the original sources for Lesson Plans 2-4 above (Zakrzewski, 2016).
Gratitude Games and Ideas for Kids

By now, you’re probably thinking about all the good things that can happen when
gratitude is incorporated into one’s life. This is particularly true for children and
using gratitude to boost resilience, enhance wellbeing, and encourage a positive
outlook on life.
7 Tips for Fostering Gratitude

This piece describes seven ways to encourage the development of gratitude in


children.

These tips include:

1. Model and teach gratitude. This is the best way to teach any trait you want
your child to develop.

2. Spend time with your kids and being mindful with them. Quality time is not
only a positive experience for both children and adults; it also offers
opportunities to model empathy and cultivates a sense of appreciation for
the things you love.

3. Support your child’s autonomy. Allowing your children to be semi-


autonomous helps them to build their strengths and talents, and
encourages them to take ownership of their actions.

4. Use your children’s strengths to fuel gratitude. Create opportunities for


your children to be helpful and cooperative with others, enhancing their
ability to feel and express gratitude.

5. Help focus and support kids to achieve intrinsic goals. In steering children
away from the pursuit of materialistic goals and toward intrinsic goals, you
can help children fulfill their own higher-level needs and aid in their
development. Savor their accomplishments with them as one way to boost
their sense of gratitude even more.

6. Encourage children to help others and devote time to nurturing


relationships. Volunteer to help others with your child, and encourage
them to offer a helping hand to loved ones in need of support. Helping
them to develop strong, positive relationships is a great way to make sure
they have something to be grateful for

7. Help kids find what matters to them. Assisting your child in finding what he
or she is passionate about is a good way to help them find gratitude as
well. A sense of purpose or meaning in life helps us all to discover what we
love, contribute to society, and practice gratitude.

More information on cultivating a sense of gratitude in children can be found here.


Gratitude in the Classroom

If you’d like to build gratitude in your


children or the children you teach or mentor, try these suggestions:

1) Create a classroom gratitude book for each child to take home and add a page
of pictures and descriptions of what they’re grateful for. Switch out each week so
every child has the opportunity to add a page.

2) Take a picture of each student holding a large piece of paper with one thing they
are grateful for written on it, frame the picture, and send it home as a gift.

3) Create a gratitude collage or bulletin board, with pictures of things each student
is grateful for.

4) Have each child write down something they are thankful for on strips of paper,
and use the strips to create a gratitude chain, which can be hung around the
classroom.

5) Hold a “Special Friends Day” before Thanksgiving, in which each student


brings someone special to class. Each pair will write or draw something they are
thankful for, which will be posted on a bulletin board.

6) Have the children create gratitude surprise sticky notes. Hand these sticky notes
out to students and have them write down something they’re grateful for in regards
to someone else around the school, then encourage them to “deliver” the note to
that person’s locker, mailbox, or classroom door.
For many more classroom gratitude ideas, visit this website.

Gratitude Exercises for Children

The website www.blissfulkids.com also provides some popular gratitude exercises


that can help develop gratitude in children.

The top three gratitude exercises according to Chris Bergstrom and Blissful Kids
are

1. The Gratitude Journal. Provide your child with a journal and encourage them to
write down five things they are grateful for each day. Bedtime is a great time to
practice this exercise since children will have the whole day from which to choose
what to write about.

2. The ABCs of Gratitude. Have your child sit comfortably and close their eyes.
Tell them to list things they are grateful for, beginning with “A” and working all
the way through the alphabet to “Z.” Don’t be surprised if this exercise gets a little
silly—it’s bound to get silly at some point, so just embrace it and enjoy the
laughter with your child!

3. Bedtime Thank Yous. This can be incorporated into the gratitude journal or
practiced as a standalone exercise. Help your child to think of happy things that
happened to them during their day. They can simply say these things aloud, write
them down in their journal, draw a picture of them, or simply think of them. This
exercise can ensure that your child drifts off to sleep with a heart full of love and
gratitude.

How to Develop Your Own Gratitude Ritual


Creating a gratitude ritual can be tough, just as starting any new habit can be
difficult to stick with at first. Like most other practices, the more you do it, the
easier it will get.

Try these tips to help you cultivate a fulfilling and impactful gratitude ritual:

1) Sit comfortably, close your eyes, and take several slow, deep breaths.

2) Think of something good that has happened to you recently.

3) Think of a person or animal you love.


4) Think of an occasion when you were honored or appreciated by others.

5) Think about your present situation and what is going on in your life. (Rodrigues,
2017)

The popular website www.tinybuddha.com also provides several useful


suggestions on implementing and sticking to a gratitude ritual.

Their steps are as follows:

1. Commit to your practice. There will be days when you feel like doing
anything other than finding reasons to be grateful, but pushing through
these days will empower you and help you build the strength and resilience
necessary to push through other challenges.

2. Begin your practice. Just do it! Sit down with a pen and paper or a
computer and start simply, with a prompt like “I am grateful for…” You may
need to sit and think for a while, but that’s okay. If you give it time and put
in the effort, it will come!

3. Write it down. Sometimes thinking about what you are grateful for will not
be enough. Be sure to write down what you are grateful for. Writing can
have a powerful impact that just thinking may not bring about.

4. Feel it. Allow yourself to fully experience gratitude. Let it come up from
your heart and throughout your body. Savor the feeling.

5. Choose a set time of day. This can be extremely helpful when starting a
practice. Some popular times to practice gratitude are first thing in the
morning and last thing at night, but choose a time that works for you.

6. Practice present-moment gratitude. While you may be writing these things


down at the beginning or end of the day, make sure to notice all of the
things for which you are grateful as they pop up throughout your day.
Allow yourself to be in the present and to fully appreciate each thing you
are grateful for as it arises.

7. Share the gratitude. Find a gratitude partner to share your list of things you
are grateful for with, to discuss your challenges and your successes with,
and to motivate you when you are not feeling up to the task (and vice
versa).

8. Don’t stop when you start noticing results! Although counterintuitive, it can
be tempting to stop any practice once you start seeing the benefits. Make
sure you are committed to your practice, whether it feels beneficial in the
current moment or not.

9. Allow yourself to be human. It’s alright to miss a day once in a while, and
it’s alright to feel grumpy about having to follow through on your
commitment when it’s the last thing you want to do. We are human, and
we will make mistakes. If you’re having trouble coming up with anything, at
least write something like “I am grateful I am writing my gratitude list.”
(Russell, 2016).

The popular dating website eharmony also provides tips on how to cultivate
gratitude, especially in the context of dating and relationships. They suggest four
steps:

1. Breathing. Simply close your eyes and take a deep and intentional breath,
repeating until you feel calm and grounded.

2. Awakening your awareness. Allow yourself to meditate on your truth in the


present moment.

3. Recognize your blessings. Think about what you are experiencing with your
five senses if you have trouble getting started.

4. Emotions flow. Allow your emotions to come and go, to rise and fall as they
will. Focus your attention on enjoying the feeling of gratitude working its
way through your mind and to your heart.

5. Finally, Chris Libby from www.livehappy.com provides four rituals that you
can implement to build gratitude in your life.
These rituals are:

 Amazing Grace. Reflect on what you are grateful for at the dinner table
before you begin eating, whether alone or with your family.
 Focus on the “Haves.” Instead of thinking about what you are missing, think
about what you have. Write down at least three things you are grateful for
each night.
 The Write Stuff. Write a letter to someone you are grateful to or for, and
read the letter aloud to them if possible. you can find more instructions for
this exercise earlier in this piece.
 Thankful Awareness. Try something new and fulfilling, such as volunteering
at a food bank or soup kitchen, or handing out toys at a children’s hospital.
Witnessing the trials and challenges of others can often be a spur for you to
notice the good things in your own life. (Libby, 2016)

Gratitude Apps That Help You Stick to It


Sometimes, even when we know all of the right steps and have all of the right tips,
practicing regular gratitude can be difficult. This is where an app can help! Try one
of the gratitude apps described below to help you keep a regular gratitude practice.

1. Gratitude Journal

This classic gratitude exercise is put into digital form, with a daily journal for you
to fill with things you are grateful for. It includes space for writing down several
things each day, ratings of your feelings, daily quotes, and up to three photos per
journal entry.

This app is available through iTunes here.

2. Gratitude Journal 365

This app is a bit cheaper than the Gratitude Journal app, but it can be just as useful.
It also allows the user to create a daily gratitude entry with space for the one thing
you are most grateful for. You can also share your gratitude on social networks,
edit and add filters to your gratitude entries, and add frames to photos.
The entries are organized by a calendar and can be used to track progress on goals
as well as count your blessings. You can find this app here.

3. Mojo App

The Mojo app is another app based on gratitude journaling, but here you can also
tag it with emotions and emoticons, add pictures, and import entries from other
apps.

This app is currently offered on special with a Wonder Woman emoji, and you can
find out more about it here.

4. Gratitude Garden App

This app not only allows you to recall and record the things you are grateful for
each day, it also rewards you with points for journaling. You can build up a
gratitude garden with these points, a pretty space that can bring you joy by
reminding you of what is good in your life. You can also receive gratitude cards,
which contain suggestions for further actions that can increase gratitude and
happiness.

This app is free, and you can download it on iTunes here.

5. Grateful: A Gratitude Journal

Grateful was developed to make expressing gratitude both easy and fun. By
recording your blessings in Grateful, during those ‘down’ moments you can be
reminded of all the things in your life that you have to be grateful for.

Available here from iTunes.

6. Happyfeed

This is a private gratitude journal app allowing you to record happy moments each
day. As well as securely recording these moments as they happen, Happyfeed also
writes fun, silly, and informative daily reminders. The more you use this app, the
more valuable it becomes.
Head here to get the app.

7 Podcasts Focused on Gratitude


Podcasts are a convenient way to hear from experts, and can also be a good use of
time such as when on public transport. There are some available on the topic of
gratitude. Here they are…

1. The Gratitude Podcast is by Georgian Benta. It is devoted to all things


gratitude, with over 500, 000 downloads. It includes interviews with
successful people and getting them to share fascinating stories about how
gratitude has helped them get to where they are now.

2. Episode 18 of the ‘Being Well’ podcast sees Dr Hanson and Forrest discuss
the 5th of 12 strengths to be examined in the series – gratitude. They look
at the role of positive emotions generally and especially the value of
“thankfulness”.

3. This podcast, “Why Gratitude Works” is by Christine Carter and Rona


Renner. In it, these experts discuss the science of gratitude and the reasons
why consciously practicing gratitude can improve people’s happiness so
markedly.

4. This podcast looks at the power of gratitude. The presenters explain how
being grateful is actually scientifically proven to be beneficial. Shawn Achor,
sometimes known as “The Happiness Guy” also shares his ideas on why we
ought to be thankful. There is also a discussion of the small things in the
presenters’ lives that they are grateful for.

5. Featuring acclaimed author and grounded theory researcher, Brene Brown,


the topic of this podcast is “On gratitude, vulnerability, and courage”.
When gratitude and the power of appreciating the smallest moments were
discussed, the podcast became emotional.

6. This relatively short podcast, featuring Lewis Howes from the School of
Greatness, looks at developing an ‘attitude of gratitude’. Howes shares
both expertise and personal experience – such as almost losing his father in
a car accident, and how he learned not to take things for granted.

7. This podcast is slightly different to the others discussed above. It looks at


gratitude as a skill, and how to build this skill. There is a lot covered in the
podcast. If you don’t have the time, or the inclination, to listen to a podcast
a summary of the points covered is available on the site which is accessible
from the hyperlink provided.

A Take-Home Message
I hope you have found this piece useful. I’m grateful for you, as a reader, who took
the time to process some of these ideas.

The “gratitude muscle” is like any other muscle, in that it must be flexed
periodically to remain strong.

Return to this page whenever you need a reminder about why gratitude is
important to practice, or suggestions on how to boost your own sense of gratitude.
Visit the section on developing gratitude in children to encourage your own
children, clients, or students to commit to a lifetime of gratitude and happiness.

Thank you for reading, and please be sure to find at least three things to be grateful
for today.

Do you have a regular gratitude practice? Are there other gratitude exercises that
work for you? Please let us know in the comments section below.

We love hearing from you!

BONUS: Gratitude Exercise (PDF)

Here is an additional gratitude exercise for you from LivingWhole.net as a


downloadable PDF.

For further reading, please see:

 The #1 Reason Why We Want More And More (And More)


 The Neuroscience of Gratitude and How It Affects Anxiety & Grief (Incl.
Exercises)

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