CUSTODY OF A CHILD

Two houses, two homes

Two kitchens, two phones

Two couches where I lay, two places that I stay

Moving, moving here and there

From Monday to Friday, I’m everywhere

Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that bad

But often times it makes me sad

ALISHA’S PART (life would be easy if there were two of me)

Splitting up isn’t easy. Entire novels and pop songs have been written about it. And when children are
involved, divorce can be an especially sensitive situation.

First of all, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Among lawful things, divorce is the
most hated by Allah.” (Reported by Abu Dawud).
‫ نب ﷺ ر‬، ‫رض ہللا عنہما س روایت کرت ہی‬
‫’’ ہللا ےک ہاں حالل کاموں می سب س‬: ‫ن فرمایا‬ ‫حضت ابن عمر ر‬
‫محارب بن دثار ر‬
‫ “ناپسندیدہ کام طالق ہ ۔‬dawood 2178

Thus, spouses should avoid divorce to the best of their abilities, and if they have difficulties and
problems, they should try to work out their differences and seek help from their relatives, friends, or
professional counselors(Mallams and Imams/ even Christian Counselors). They should also consider and
think of the future of their children and the destructive effects of divorce on their children’s future.

However, if the differences are irreconcilable, divorce is then permissible, but it should be done in a
decent manner.
‫اور جب تم عورتوں کو )دو دفعہ( طالق دے چکو اور ان ک عدت پوری ہوجان تو انہی یا تو حسن سلوک س نکاح می ر‬
‫رہن دو یا‬
‫بطریق شائستہ رخصت کردو اور اس نیت س ان کو نکاح می نہ ر‬
‫رہن دینا چاہن کہ انہی تکلیف دو اور ان پر زیادت کرو۔ اور جو ایسا‬
‫ر‬
‫کرے گا وہ اپنا ہ نقصان کرے گا اور خدا ےک احکام کو ہنیس )اور کھیل( نہ بناؤ اور خدا ن تم کو جو نعمتی بخیس ہی اور تم پر جو‬
‫کتاب اور دانات ک باتی نازل ک ہی جن س وہ تمہی نصیحت فرماتا ہ ان کو یاد کرو۔ اور خدا س ڈرت رہو اور جان رکھوکہ خدا ہر‬
۲۳۱﴿ ‫چی س واقف ہ‬ ‫﴾ ر‬

Surah Baqrah 231

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) says,
“No harm shall be inflicted or reciprocated in Islam.
‫ رسول ہللا ﷺ ر‬، ‫رض ہللا عنہ س روایت ہ‬
‫’’ نہ ) پہل پہل ( کیس کو نقصان پہنچانا اور‬: ‫ن فیصلہ دیا‬ ‫حضت عبادہ بن صامت ر‬
‫ر‬
‫ نہ بدےل ےک طور پر نقصان پہنچانا اور تکلیف دینا ۔‬، ‫تکلیف دینا جائز ہ‬

Sunan ibne maja 2340

ALISHA’S PART (As for male kids, they should remain with their mother until they reach the age of
puberty, and then shifted to their father in order to get acquainted with the traits of manhood.)

Third, the maintenance of children is obligatory upon the father according to scholarly consent, whether
he keeps his wife or divorces her, and whether the wife is poor or rich.

So she is not obliged to spend on the children if the father is around. If the children are in the custody of
a divorced woman, then their father must support them, and the mother who has custody of a child who
is still breastfeeding has the right to ask for payment for nursing the child.
‫اپب وسعت ےک مطابق خرچ کرنا چاہین۔ اور جس ےک رزق می تنگ ہو وہ جتنا خدا ر‬
‫ن اس کو دیا ہ اس ےک‬ ‫صاحب وسعت کو ر‬
‫موافق خرچ کرے۔ خدا کیس کو تکلیف نہی دیتا مگر ایس ےک مطابق جو اس کو دیا ہ۔ اور خدا عنقریب تنگ ےک بعد کشائش بخش‬
۷﴿‫﴾گا‬

Surah al talaq ayah 7