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UNIT V
This would be pretty difficult or totally not possible for any culture to
remove the need of belongingness. This innate need presumably has an
evolutionary basis. Development, formation and maintenance of social bonds
has both survival as well as reproductive benefits. Many of the survival tasks
like searching for food and defending oneself against foes can be best achieved
by group work or team co-operation.
Does affiliation desires increase with anxiety?
In the “high anxiety condition”, participants were told that the shocks
would be quite painful but would cause no permanent damage. In the “low
anxiety condition”, they were led to believe that the shocks were virtually
painless. In actuality, no shocks were ever delivered. The main intention was
merely to make the participants believe that they would be soon receiving these
shocks.
After hearing this information, the women were told that there would be a
ten-minute delay as the equipment was being set up. The participants were told
that they could spend time waiting either alone in a room or in a room with
another participant in the study. The preference of the participants was the
dependent variable in the study.
It has also been found that cues that suggest possible harm, such as
illness, danger, and disaster, seem to increase the need to affiliate with others.
Adults who are able to form attachments are more supposed to reproduce than
the one who fail to form them. Competition for limited resources also is a very
powerful factor that leads to formation of interpersonal connections.
Situational factors can also affect the need for affiliation. It is generally
observed that after accidents or natural disasters, people come together to help
and comfort each other. Schachter’s (1959) work showed that participants
expecting to get an electric shock preferred to be with others as compared to
participants who did not expect to get a shock. This is because affiliation
provides an opportunity to communicate, compare oneself to other people and
make a decision. All this gives cognitive and emotional clarity to the individual.
The need for affiliation is also shaped by cultural variables. Research has
shown that people living in individualistic cultures have a greater affiliation
need as they have to develop relationships on their own. They must also learn to
establish relationships in various social settings. Even though the relationships
may be numerous in these cultures they may not be intimate. Hofstede’s (1980)
study of 22 countries showed a positive relationship between the degree of
individuation in a culture and the affiliation needs of its people.
It is generally said that close proximity fosters liking. Two people are
likely to be acquainted if there is physical proximity between them. Whether it
is classroom seats, hostel rooms, residential flats or office desks, proximity is a
very important factor in attraction. However, with the advent of internet and
social media this may not stand to be very true but still it is a very important
factor. Students sitting on adjoining chairs are more likely to become friends.
According to Zajonc (1968) repeated exposure to a new stimulus results in an
increasingly positive evaluation of that stimulus. Research by Moreland and
Beach (1992) has shown that the more times a particular assistant attended class
the more she was liked. With repeated exposure there is a decrease in negative
emotions while an increase in positive emotions increase. However, it has been
seen that the repeated exposure effect does not work when a person’s initial
reaction to the stimulus is negative.
It can be said that the best predictor of two people being friends is how
far they live from each other. Close proximity has also been found to affect
intimate relationships. Bossard (1932) conducted a study in which he plotted the
residences of each applicant on 5, 000 marriage licenses in Philadelphia. A clear
relationship was found between proximity and love. In another study, Festinger,
Schachter and Back (1950) found that the closer people lived, the more friendly
they became. They studied the development of friendships in married graduate
students staying at the MIT in USA. After World War II, these couples were
assigned randomly to 17 different buildings. Then the couples were asked to
name three of their closest friends in the housing units. Results showed that
two-thirds of couples’ friends remained in the same building and about two-
thirds were living on the same floor. Also people were about twice as likely to
become close friends with somebody who lived next door to them (20 feet
away) than to somebody who lived two doors down (40 feet away).
Physical attractiveness
What is attractiveness?
Apart from the main factors affecting interpersonal attraction, there are
many other factors. A very important factor that affects attractiveness is
clothing. Other important factors are neatness, clothing color, perceived age,
height, body type, modesty etc. Another very important determiner of
attractiveness is a person’s first name.
Scholars have explored the reciprocity effect ever since Backman and
Secord (1959) published their landmark study. Reciprocity effect refers to the
tendency where people tend to be attracted towards others who tend to like
them. In the 1950s, researchers argued that people are attracted to each other on
the basis of complementarity of needs. According to this principle, we tend to
like those who like us and dislike those who dislike us.
This emphasis on the reward potential of being liked by others is emphasized by
interdependence theory and social exchange theory which states that the social
approval of others is a “generalized reinforcer.” In one set of studies, Walster
and colleagues (1973) sought to demonstrate that men tend to be attracted to
women who “play hard to get” but their conclusion based upon six studies was
that men are attracted to women who are easy for them to get but hard for other
men to get. The above findings suggest only if the liking makes them feel
special, people tend to be attracted to others who like them.
Familiarity
When people come across a novel situation, they try to assess the extent
to which it signals danger. This helps in ensuring survival and well being. The
preference for familiar others is hence adaptive. Additional evidence in support
of the attraction-promoting effects of familiarity comes from research on the
mere exposure effect, which suggests that people tend to experience greater
attraction to familiar stimuli, including familiar people, than to unfamiliar
stimuli (Zajonc, 1968).
One of the main reasons why familiarity promotes attraction is that the
humans have an inbuilt need to bond with others. In one of the studies, pairs of
completely unknown strangers had an experience of greater attraction toward
one other when they were randomly assigned to stare into eyes of each other for
at least two minutes than if they were assigned to stare at one other’s hands or
were engaged in asymmetric eye contacts(Kellerman, Lewis, & Laird, 1989).
The results of this give an idea that experience of brief intimate moments with
the other individual causes sense of attraction towards that individual even if the
choice of the individual was to not interact with the other individual.
D. INTERDEPENDENT RELATIONSHIPS
Family
Most of the people grow up in a family with atleast one sibling. Sibling
interactions contribute in learning about interpersonal behavior. Sibling
relationships often involve a lot of feelings like affection, hostility and rivalry. It
has been found that children with no siblings are less liked by their classmates
and are more aggressive. This could be due to the lack of interpersonal learning
experiences.
Friendships
Romantic relationships
Love is one of the most important emotions in our lives. The basic
difference between love and friendship is sexual attraction or physical intimacy.
Romantic relationships generally start with affiliation, proximity, and mutual
liking. A very important feature of romantic relationships is interpretation of
one’s emotional arousal in the presence of another person as a strong attraction
which includes some potential for love and sex.
Males
Companionate love
When all the components are balanced it results in consummate love which is
the ideal form of love.
Functions of romantic love
1. love as attachment
2. love as caregiving
3. love as sexual attraction
Marriage
Marriage is one of the most important events in the lives of most people.
Marriage involves a commitment to remain in the relationship forever.
However, for many people this commitment doesn’t last long. Given the
importance accorded to marriage as an institution, a lot of research focus has
been directed to it.
Attachment style has also been found to affect marital happiness. For instance,
individuals with fearful-avoidant attachment style have been found to have less
satisfying relationships. Other factors affecting marital happiness are
neuroticism; anxiety, negativity; attachment style etc.
Minding relationships
Though close relationships are an essential part of our lives, sometimes we fail
to maintain them.
1. Cost and benefit analysis – marital satisfaction occurs when benefits are
maximized and costs minimized. However, in the opposite scenario,
marital dissatisfaction occurs.
2. Finding out that there is lesser similarity between the partners than
assumed before. 3
3. Conflicts and disagreements between the partners.
4. When love is linked with material success
Loneliness