Charting Your

Love Maps

Gottman research has found that emotionally intelligent couples are intimately familiar
with each other’s worlds. This is having a richly detailed Love Map: the term for that part of
your brain where you store all the personally important information about your partner’s
life.
It’s that simple: knowing the little things about your partner’s inner world creates a strong
foundation for your friendship and intimacy.
Love Maps are your ongoing and ever-evolving understanding of your partner. You should
update your Love Maps regularly.

To test your knowledge of your Love Maps for your partner,

fill out this quiz, then send it to them so they can do it too!
 Charting Your Love Maps

1. Name your partner’s two closest friends.

2. Name one of your partner’s favorite hobbies.

3. What stresses your partner right now?

4. What is your partner’s biggest life dream?

5. What is one of your partner’s greatest fears?

6. What is your partner’s favorite way to spend an evening?

1. Name your partner’s two closest friends.

2. Name one of your partner’s favorite hobbies.

3. What stresses your partner right now?

4. What is your partner’s biggest life dream?

5. What is one of your partner’s greatest fears?

6. What is your partner’s favorite way to spend an evening?