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OBJECTIVES
Your Cue Example Your Situation
Outside. What is happening outside I’ve been offered a promotion at
of me in the environment? What work.
caused or prompted me to react?

Beliefs. What am I saying to I’ll probably fail. I’ll make a fool of

myself about this event? What myself. Better to stay where I am
are my thoughts? because it’s safer.

Judicial. Be critical, evaluating the Who knows if I’ll fail! Maybe I’ll
reality or veracity of my beliefs. be the best damn manager they’ve
ever seen! I’ve been preparing for
this move.

Emotions. What am I feeling about I’m scared, anxious, and excited at

this? the same time.

Consequences. What will happen If I respond to my first thought, I’ll

if I respond to my beliefs or avoid. If I respond to my fear, I’ll
feelings? avoid. If I respond to my
excitement, I’ll probably take the
job.

Time. Is this the right time to do Knowing this company, I probably

it? Is it based on emotion or
thought that I conclude this is or
isn’t the right time? Am I
avoiding or being impulsive?
won’t be asked a second time. I
either do this now or forgo the
probability of future career
advancement with this company. Of
course, I could always take a job
elsewhere and repeat my chances
of promotion.

Introspection. Have I really I’ve been struggling with my

worked this through sufficiently? perception of my abilities for a long
What are the variables? time. This is probably not anything
impulsive.

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Values. Is this potential response
consistent with my values? Is it
meaningful and important?
Endings and Exposure.
I have to make a decision, take a
risk, let myself succeed or fail.
Short-term and long-term. Did
what I just do serve my short-
term needs or my long-term
needs? I need to compromise
between the two.
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I like my job. I think what I do is
important. Therefore this is about
my feelings of worthiness, and I do
want to promote myself. My new
work will be meaningful to me
also.
I’m going to expose myself to this
anxiety, take this job, and see what
happens.
I’m serving my long-term needs.
I’m exposing myself to something
frightening in the now (the new
job), so I’m not satisfying my
short-term needs. I need to do
something now to make myself
relax so I’m better prepared to
tolerate the anxiety of the new job
in the future.
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