Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Chapter One
Introduction
A person's lifespan is filled with various social ties. One key aspect is a romantic
relationship with their partner. It provides companionship, joy, and the sense of being
esteem can result from a romantic relationship. As a result, romantic relationships can
individual. Despite these divergent points of view, there are certain behaviours of a
partner that are considered ‘unhealthy’. Therefore, despite the positive aspects of love
which one partner wants to control the life decisions of another, demands complete
attention, expects the partner to prioritize them above all else, has no room for consent,
has an excessive tolerance for abuse, lies, blackmails, stalks, and feels pressured to act
in a certain way.
These traits are often apparent and identifiable in certain relationships but can
also be subtle and passive in others. Identifying harmful behaviors in relationships can
be challenging, and partners may refuse to work on them. Despite this, some people
research studies have demonstrated the detrimental effects that toxic and abusive
movies across languages have been noticed to promote such toxicity by romanticizing
such behaviour . Various articles have been written to point out different movies that
the lead characters. Some Indian movies that romanticized toxic behaviours include
Kochu Santhoshangal (2000), Happy Husbands (2010), Husbands in Goa (2012), Remo
(2016), Minnale (2001), Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi (2008), Vellimoonga (2014), Hey
Sinamika (2022), Haseen Dillruba (2021), Love Today (2022), Fidaa (2017), Kaatru
as a major activity, and when a woman says no to their proposal, they do not take it as
a ‘no’; they take it as a yes. So they stalk the girl continuously and make her fall in love
when she clearly shows that she is not interested in him but gradually falls in love with
years, even after being rejected several times. At the end, she also likes him back. In
C.I.D. Moosa (2003), Sahadevan stalks Meena after he falls in love with her at first
sight, which leads her to lose her job. But again, at last, the heroine falls in love with
3
him. Stalking is also glorified in Annayum Rasoolum (2013) and Premam (2015) as
well. By romanticizing such scenes, it sends the wrong message to the young,
impressionable audience that such acts will make women fall in love with them.
One of the most taught lessons to women in Malayalam movies is how to become
an ideal wife. In Njangal Santhushtaranu (1999), the hero Sajeev, a police officer, tries
to make his wife Geethu, a modern girl and daughter of his superior officer, an ideal
wife by harassing her, but she fights back. So to make her perfect, they mentally harass
her by disclosing her identity as an adopted daughter, and at the end, she becomes an
ideal wife who wears a sari and learns Malayalam. Meanwhile, in the movie Kochu
Kochu Santhoshangal (2000), Gopan leaves his wife Asha, taking their child with him,
because she became a famous dancer and wanted to continue in her profession. He
never tried to meet her again; moving to the end of the movie, he met her, and she had
already given up her dream of being a dancer the day he left. The film ends when she
happily dances for her son and husband. Women should give up their profession and
passion for their families; that is what these films teach us.
In many Malayalam movies, it is shown that an ideal woman should not leave or
give divorce, even if the husband is wrong. In Happy Husbands (2010), the three
women forgive their husbands even when they find out that their husbands were
cheating on them. Instead of questioning their husbands, they confront Diana, the bar
dancer with whom the husbands had a relationship. When Diana makes them
understand how much the husbands love their wives, they forgive them, ignoring the
fact that they tried to cheat them, and like the title implies, the husbands are still happy
because even when they cheated, their wives forgive them. A similar pattern can be seen
new identity as an excuse to stalk a girl you love just shows how crooked someone’s
mind works. It is worse in this film because she is already engaged, and Remo’s idea
itself is to break her engagement and make her love him. If this form of love is
romanticized, then it just gives more men the opportunity to use these crooked ways
and justify them in the name of love. Kavya should have rejected Remo straightaway.
Because this cannot be considered love in any way. There are similar movies, such as
Minnale (2001) and Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi (2008), in which the male lead impersonates
to make the female lead fall for him. Vellimoonga (2014) is such a movie in which the
male lead Maamachan proceeds to get one of his friends to pretend to be a prospective
groom for Lina, the girl whom he loved, to marry her with her father’s consent. After
marriage, when he reveals the truth to his wife, she slaps him and then, within a minute,
smiles and forgives him. He literally played with her life and fooled her and her family,
However, the solution is mutual consent, separation, or divorce, surely not setting up
your husband with a psychologist in an attempt to woo him away from you. The movie
Hey Sinamika (2022) crossed lines of boundaries, trust, love, and everything else that
is fundamental for a relationship. Some movies like this have the female lead being
toxic, like Haseen Dillruba (2021), which revolves around a highly toxic storyline
about a put-together married couple, Rani and Rishu, who end up murdering Neel, with
whom Rani went intimate, to live together. While in Love Today (2022), the story
revolves around two people in love, Pradeep and Nikhitha, who hide their bad deeds
from each other. There’s an instance when the male lead says, “I’m indeed a bad guy,
but not very bad” (1:39:34). But the movie ends up saying that the heroine should be
5
pure. There’s a problematic scene in the movie Fidaa (2017), where Bhanumathi pranks
Varun into waking up at 3 a.m. and taking pictures of him bathing and wearing
traditional attire. She also blackmails him with those pictures, but that scene is so highly
Anyone who has watched Kaatru Veliyidai (2017) knows that it portrays all the
red flags in a relationship. Varun’s anger issues and sexist comments are problematic.
But Leela deciding to give Varun a chance repeatedly, even after he mistreats her, is
even more problematic. After the movie was released, it gave a lot of men a chance to
normalize dominance and control by imitating Varun’s character. This movie should
have never been romanticized and surely should not have made the final cut. Similarly,
the movie Arjun Reddy (2017), in which the title character is an alcoholic but super-
efficient surgeon who just can’t manage his temper, is also a prime example of a movie
that normalizes toxicity. He bullies his way through college and takes a fancy to a shy
girl, Preeti Shetty, who gradually accepts his aggressive, threatening ways. He dictates
who she should talk to and does not hesitate to slap her. Arjun goes on a self-destructive
path after she is forced by her family to marry another man. And at the end, they both
end up together.
Like the above-mentioned examples, a lot of movies are noticed to set negative
abuse, and stalking as a ‘romantic’ way of expressing one's interest in their partner. This
project aims to analyze four such movies, namely, Vandanam (1989), Love Today
(2022), Arjun Reddy (2017), and Haseen Dillruba (2021), to explain how these movies
influence the audience by normalizing toxicity. Quoting some instances and dialogues
from the above-mentioned movies helps in conveying the idea of this project.
6
Chapter Two
Vandanam—classic or toxic?
numerous really negative turns. Yes, it was a 1980s movie, but since this is often
that it portrays. The entire story revolves around Unnikrishnan (Mohanlal), who acts as
an undercover police officer in order to capture a criminal who has escaped from the
prison. To find out his whereabouts, Unnikrishnan keeps a watch on the convict’s
Even though the plot is serious in nature, the movie is famous for its many
comedy scenes. Even the scene where Unnikrishnan ‘accidentally’ witnesses Gaadha
changing her clothes is captured in a comical manner (47:17). Maybe the comical angle
is the reason why people do not think that this scene is toxic. Accidentally being in a
girl’s room is acceptable, but if she changes clothes and you decide to keep your eyes
wide open and watch, it is not funny but creepy. Soon after this scene, he claims to have
fallen in love with her, and despite her lack of affection towards him, he proceeds to
literally stalk her and even blackmail her into saying “I love you” to him (1:33:33).
stalks Gaadha and even harasses her by slapping her buttocks (1:07:51). He slapped her
buttocks twice in the song, which ends with Maggie Aunty (Sukumari) slapping his.
7
For a long time, it was considered endearing and romantic for a hero (and they
always make sure he has the most gorgeous face ever) to pursue a heroine; in fact, the
story wouldn’t be complete without the obligatory stalking. It was as much a given as
people still think he is simply being romantic. This is one of those classic Malayalam
Ranganathan) and Nikitha (Ivana) and their lives following their phone exchange.
‘Trust the people around you’ was the movie’s main lesson, illustrated by the
However, the seed becomes a tree when he gives it time to settle and has faith in the
process.
The movie focuses on Gen Z and how youngsters don’t trust their lovers. And the
essentiality of basically believing in each other. Pradeep concludes the movie by saying,
“We just need to have some faith” (2:30:04). The filmmakers are attempting to portray
The younger generation seems to have the courage to end a relationship when we
see signs of toxicity, despite the fact that we can be impatient at times. There could be
a variety of explanations for people who claim that marriages used to last fifty years or
longer. There is pressure in our society to maintain marriage, despite its hardships.
8
But now, after a lot of awareness and talk about putting ourselves first, things are
gradually improving. Youth today tolerate a lot less nonsense, which is a good thing.
Rather than relying on their ‘god-like’ husbands for the rest of their lives, women are
now far more independent and free to leave whenever they wish.
Being honest and upfront with one another is an excellent way to build a
relationship. It’s true that one can never share everything with a partner, but no one
would be able to blindly believe their lover after they lie to go for a long drive with an
ex or hide the fact that they text women posing to be a film director asking for tribal
pictures.
But the movie justifies lying, cheating, stalking, and perverting behaviour and
asks the viewers to trust each other in a relationship. It is not limited to that but also
The movie placed a lot of emphasis on the idea that ‘men will be men,’ regardless
of how they sexualize women without her consent or engage in vulgar chats. It even
gave thought to the toxic line from the movie Kavan (2017), where Vijay Sethupathy’s
character Thilak states, “Scorpions sting, serpents bite, and men will be men. It’s a
In this way, movies have started justifying men behaving poorly. Why? Because
‘men will be men’. As he says, “I’m indeed a bad guy, but not very bad” (1:39:34). The
audience gets carried away for a moment and believes Pradeep did nothing wrong.
Nikitha secretly stayed in contact with her ex, went on a long drive with him, and
hid the fact that her boy bestie proposed to her. And without Nikitha’s knowledge, our
innocent hero, Pradeep, claims to be single, tries to contact his ex, flirts with customer
service employees, asks random women for their ‘sexy’ pictures by tricking them,
9
claims to have deleted all of Nikitha’s private images but keeps them, follows his ex on
a fake Instagram account, and supports disgusting activities by his friends that are
Nikitha. When she confronted him, he defended himself by stating that he watched it to
not misbehave with her (1:37:15). How kind and thoughtful! He did her a great favor,
didn’t he?
This is not to justify infidelity both ways; however, it is annoying how they
present Pradeep as cool and casually getting away with it. Both she and he had hidden
things. Which is the same, right? But no, Nikitha ‘sinfully wronged her boyfriend’, and
Pradeep is a saint because ‘boys will be boys’. Not only that, the movie imposes on the
Pradeep doesn’t have a problem talking vulgarly about other women without their
consent. But he has a problem when he assumes Nikitha has a sexual life. The viewer
gets no idea what he would have done if it were her video. What if she was intimate
with her ex? While everyone is concentrating on Nikitha, Pradeep’s past remains
unseen.
She should have blocked Pradeep for presuming and asking such a disgusting
question. The most alarming thing is Nikitha’s persistent attempts to persuade her that
she hasn’t had a sexual relationship. It glorifies and promotes blatant sexism.
That’s what people were led to believe by the movie and the hype surrounding it.
At first, it seemed convincing that men would behave in this manner and that women
should be trusting men and not questioning them. However, upon re-watching the
The movie had such an effect that a mature individual cannot imagine its impact
on the target audience—the young, sensitive minds. The cliché and pointless climax
Nikitha’s co-worker shares a morphed video of her online. Pradeep trusts her and
asks his friends for help. They eventually track down her coworker and report him to
the police. But in the process, they reveal the actual lady in the video. They didn't care
Nikitha’s father slaps her when he gets the news. The large number of victim-
blaming scenes in modern movies is shocking. Although her father claims to support
intercaste marriage, he never takes the time to talk to his own daughter like a mature
Pradeep says, “I am sincerely sorry if I hurt you” (2:25:48), after all the emotional
damage he caused. At the very least, the audience anticipates a genuine apology. More
than that, the surprising thing is that Nikitha ends up with him.
Openness and trust are thought to be the most crucial aspects of a healthy
relationship. But having blind faith in someone is not the same as trust. It does not mean
A person finding out that their significant other is unfaithful to them out of the
blue, despite having placed so much faith in them, is painful, for sure. Let’s not give it
all away to blind faith. Being honest with one another is another essential quality of a
relationship. If they are not, there is definitely something wrong with the relationship.
The movie could have suggested reasonable solutions, like boundaries and couple
counseling.
11
This is not to say that the movie is all bad. It is worth noticing the portion where
it discusses problems with body image and how love is more than just physical
appearance. The portions with Dr. Yogi and Divya were sweet. When Yogi stepped
away when Divya received a call, it highlighted boundaries. Even though Yogi is
insecure, he reveals why he doesn’t give phone access to Divya because of body
shaming and bullying. It was adorable, even if they should have discussed it much
First of all, what’s wrong with Arjun Reddy is that not only Arjun Reddy (Vijay
Devarakonda), but also Preethi Shetty’s (Shalini Pandey) character has been greatly
MBBS student who has accepted her identity as his ‘love interest’.
Arjun kisses her without her consent, makes her skip classes, provides her
individual tutoring sessions, and decides on her friend and roommate for her. And after
she injures her foot, he also decides that she will move in with him (53:59). Preethi
gives herself over to Arjun with each decision he makes. Because, after all, director
Sandeep Reddy Vanga had to win over the viewers by portraying the so-called ideal
woman on screen. Her limited number of dialogues made her appear even more
submissive.
The physical assault part is next. After giving her a slap, Arjun gives her a six-
hour deadline to persuade her parents to approve of their marriage (1:24:12). Although
the audience might think that the scatter-brained girl’s blinds would be lifted, that isn’t
12
the case. As a last attempt to get her family to approve of her relationship with Arjun,
the viewer witnesses her angrily explaining her sexual life to them in the next scene
(1:26:59).
Despite getting married to another man, she moved out of that marriage and
waited for him. As he came and confronted her about her pregnancy with her husband,
she replied, "I didn't let my husband touch at least my little finger" (2:55:23). This
shows the patriarchal mindset of a woman towards having only one man.
Indian movies have long featured dysfunctional male leads. But never before has
the female lead character been so foolish or the male lead’s chauvinism been so praised.
One of the main problems with these kinds of movies is that they portray males
Perhaps what Vanga attempted to do and what the audience found impressive was
a unique love story with a protagonist who wants to break free of the traditional shackles
imposed upon couples. And the guy wins the girl at the end of the film.
The movie’s conclusion is what ties it all together, which raises a serious red flag.
Since then, our Indian audience has developed an addiction to romance movies.
Furthermore, this movie—along with its regional remakes, Kabir Singh (2019), Adithya
Varma (2019), and Varmaa (2020)—provides the ideal justification for patriarchy to
Anyone watching one of these films must be curious as to why they are made in
spite of the negative reviews and the toxicity they spread. The tendency for violent and
13
characteristic by viewers over time. The formula for successful movies involves
Kabir Singh, the first regional remake of Arjun Reddy, became a megahit within
two weeks of its release, almost reaching the Rs. 200 crore milestone. And why? The
words, “When you’re deeply in love, deeply connected with a woman, and vice versa,
there’s a lot of honesty in it. And if you don’t have that physical demonstration of… if
you don’t have the liberty of slapping each other, then I don’t see anything there.” (Film
Companion 2:15-2:35)
Both men and women are influenced by the content they watch, whether it’s
Arjun Reddy, Kabir Singh, Adithya Varma, or Varmaa. This leads to the encouragement
Going into Haseen Dillruba, written by Kanika Dhillon and directed by Vinil
Mathew, the expectation was to watch an intriguing thriller with a femme fatale
disappointment.
The movie initially presents Rani (Taapsee Pannu) and the unassuming Rishabh
(Vikrant Massey), who is arguably the eventual protagonist, when he’s on his way to
meet a woman for marriage. It is told that Rishabh, aka Rishu, is still hanging over
Let’s look into this dynamic duo’s first meeting. She is determined to let him
know that she is ‘sundar’ and ‘susheel’, and he is enamored. Prior to the meeting, Rani,
who appears to have witnessed a few failed romances and is getting closer to thirty, is
advised by her aunt to settle for this simple guy and stop looking for a ‘rangeen kitaabi
romance’ because she is manglik and has only received two marriage proposals in the
previous two years. “Let’s see, who wants to go to Jwalapur?” she responds. (5:33)
Their married life officially starts at this point, and Rani is hit hard by the realities
of living in a small town. It doesn’t help that every time she tries to initiate intimacy,
he becomes uncomfortable, saying things like, “How beautiful you are?” (34:20) Both
of them are out of sync. About a week into their marriage, Rishu completely cuts off
communication with Rani after hearing her make fun of him for his shortcomings in
bed with her mother and aunt. What follows are weeks of awkward silence.
The arrival of Rishu's cousin Neel Tripathi rocks the boat of Rishu and Rani's
(non)marriage even more. Finally, Rani, who is reportedly a lover of ‘kitaabi romance’
but lacks the intimacy she craves in her marriage, gets to play the ‘Haseen Dillruba’.
(47:34)
It was a disappointment to see her rebuild herself and transform into the kind of
daughter-in-law Rishu’s mother always expected her to be the moment she received
some validation and attention from Neel. Her innocence shines through when she starts
to dream of a happy life with her new lover, only to find him gone at the end of the day
that she, a vegetarian otherwise, has spent preparing mutton curry in the kitchen.
By this point in the movie, the audience realized that it was not going to be an
entertaining.
15
That was until Rani, in her own words, encounters Rishu’s third avatar—a
‘lover’— after her husband and an engineer. Rani begins to fall in love with Rishu the
minute he follows Neel to avenge revenge for his betrayal and makes two unsuccessful
attempts to assassinate him. Even after her husband wildly threatens to kill her if she
doesn’t, her refusal to leave him is fueled by love, guilt, and stubbornness.
Was that love that worked here? After barely spending any time with him as
newlyweds for months, why was she now experiencing attraction towards him?
It is not strange to think about falling in love and losing oneself in a place where
violence and bare affection coexist. Even in this educated and urban life, it is very much
form of love to strive for. Especially in a society where the deaths of women from
domestic abuse are not unusual and where women must unlearn for years before
realizing they are more than just meat to please entitled males and that they should have
Even if this may not be the romantic, daring vision of love one yearns for, let’s
hope that our filmmakers will at last recognize the distinction between portraying
Chapter Three
Conclusion
intimacy, self-improvement, and self-esteem, but they may also result in mental and
romantic relationships differ, yet certain activities are regarded as harmful, resulting
relationships.
An unhealthy relationship entails one person having entire influence over the
other’s life choices, demanding continuous attention, prioritizing them, lacking consent,
having an extreme tolerance for abuse, deception, blackmailing, stalking, and feeling
relationships can be tough, but some people may opt to continue for a variety of reasons,
different tongues are promoting sexism, misogyny, physical abuse, and stalking as a
Romantic dramas and comedy movies have always been about passionate, sincere
love and happily ever afters. However, the majority of them represent toxic and
constructed very well, making the toxic traits often overlooked and romanticized by the
audience.
It is true that the majority of movies are works of fiction. Certain characters in a
movie have toxic relationships that were created specifically for the plot, only to
entertain the audience. Despite this, it’s still necessary to recognize the warning signs
when you see the adorable couple you’ve been waiting around to end up with, even if
it’s just a portrayal of romantic fiction. Besides, who wants to become entangled in a
toxic relationship?
explore relationships—are the target audience for these movies. As a result of these
kinds of movies, a generation that isn’t fully aware of the distinction between a healthy
and unhealthy relationship is produced, which elevates the possibility that they will
For a long time, it was thought endearing and romantic for a hero to pursue a
heroine; in fact, the story wouldn’t be complete unless the mandatory stalking occurred.
It was as obvious as the pre- consummation foreplay in some movies, like Vandanam,
Being honest and open with one another is a great approach to building a
relationship. True, one can never share everything with a partner, but nobody would
trust their lover if they lied to go on a long drive with an ex or disguised the fact that
18
they texted ladies, acting as a movie director asking for tribal images, like in the film
Love Today. The film praises and promotes obvious misogyny, and the film’s formulaic
romanticizing toxicity.
Passion and love never mean that a person can be forceful or violent towards their
partner or anyone else for their partner’s sake. Movies like Arjun Reddy and Haseen
of passion’, with headlines referring to the man as a ‘spurned lover’. This is nothing
more than victim-blaming and softening the horror of the act for the sake of the man.
In Uyare (2019), when Govind (Asif Ali) boards a flight in which Pallavi
(Parvathy Thiruvothu) is working as an air hostess and harasses her to drop the case
against him, there’s a tense moment when she has the chance to fling a cup of hot liquid
on his face and scar him. But she chooses not to do so, throwing plain water instead and
telling him that she does not want to do what he did to her, flinging acid on her face.
Whatever the equation between two people, there can be no justification for violence.
Govind’s lawyer informs the judge in the courtroom that his client is still willing
to marry Pallavi. Govind believes that because Pallavi can no longer be a pilot and no
guy would marry someone who looks like her, she has no alternative but to return to
him. Pallavi, on the other hand, is taken aback when the judge places the ‘offer’ in front
Uyare has the feel of a fairytale, despite the fact that the protagonist isn’t a fairy
tale princess. Pallavi not only finds genuine individuals like Vishal (Tovino Thomas) to
support her, but she also refuses to give up on her dreams. She remains confident in her
19
abilities. Pallavi tells her father that it is not necessary for him to inform her about the
court’s ruling the next day. She’s also unconcerned about Govind’s latest attempt to kill
himself.
She has moved on from her past and is now free of the chains that held her to the
earth. Her life has been stormy, but a calm landing is yet conceivable.
Uyare, on the other hand, depicted the brutal realities of toxicity and advocated
Thappad (2020) is about Amrita’s (Taapsee Pannu) and Vikram’s (Pavail Gulati)
arranged marriage and how the two of them manage to fit in with each other’s
financially imbalanced yet friendly families. Sure, Vikram loves his wife, but he has
created a monster out of his career goals, which the better half wholeheartedly supports
and harbors. When Vikram slaps her in front of both families and others, her life is
turned upside down, and even both sides of the family are split on what is right, what
is wrong, and how much is too much, as well as the marital norms in our Indian context.
Regardless of the opinions flung at her, Amrita is fiery, resolves to embrace her inner
fighter, and stands up for what she genuinely believes—that even one slap is outrageous
and unacceptable.
Thappad is more than just a rambling tirade about borderline domestic violence;
it exposes the years of conditioning that a woman is subjected to by her own family and
the culture in which she lives. Other women in focus include one who is bearing the
brunt of a family’s name and legacy, one who is stuck on the idea that marriage is the
ultimate destination, one from the poorer section of society who is compelled to believe
that being thrashed by the husband is the norm, and one who has loved and lost a fine
husband and is now struggling to find a replacement who outdoes the former. The
20
filmmakers manage to weave all of these storylines together and juxtapose them at the
appropriate points without being too obvious about it. It works marvelously
Thappad showcases that marriage doesn’t mean being in chains; it is just a mutual
partnership.
The Great Indian Kitchen (2021) is a reminder of the underlying injustices in the
women bear, with a focus on the dull routine of unpaid everyday household work that
many women across India put up with. The movie raises various questions regarding
sexism and misogyny in Indian households, but it also persuades global audiences to
modern society.
skilled dancer but finds shortly after her arranged marriage that her job in the family is
secondary to the two men, her husband and her father-in-law, and that she has no
opportunities to pursue a career. The men in the family have complete control, and they
The wife’s day is packed with domestic activities, and she spends a significant
amount of time each day cooking three fresh meals. Indian cuisine takes time and effort,
especially if you insist on doing everything from scratch: washing, cutting, and
chopping the veggies and other materials; grinding the spices; cooking; and garnishing.
It is simple to spend hours in an Indian kitchen, and it can be enjoyable, but it is difficult
to do so on a daily basis while meeting the needs of each family member. That is what
The demands of the two men, the father and son, are indicative of what a
daughter-in-law must endure, as well as the tremendous hold patriarchal traditions have
on women.
The film also addresses more issues that many Indian women face. For instance,
while the woman is menstruating, she is considered dirty and untouchable and is not
permitted to enter the kitchen. She is forced to spend the week in a dark room while her
aunt, a family relative, takes over the kitchen. The video masterfully incorporates the
Sabrimala controversy, which shook India some time ago. While the wife waits in her
seclusion chamber, TV news networks broadcast a debate over whether women should
be permitted to attend the Sabrimala temple, which has traditionally been open only to
state.
social systems as well as bring to light our society’s prevalent toxic masculinity. The
plight of the wife in the film is similar to that of many women in India, where domestic
labor is not only not recognized but is required as part of the marriage structure. For the
benefit of her husband’s family, a married lady should set aside all her ambitions,
aspirations, and wishes. Not only is this discourse completely mainstream, but opposing
are now working outside the home, often in high-profile roles, the expectations at home
have remained relatively the same. In fact, the lady now faces a double burden. The
only way to combat this type of toxic patriarchal society is to fight toxic masculinity
The Great Indian Kitchen is a film that seeks to highlight existing disparities
while also empowering women. Despite the film’s focus being on India, it effectively
addresses the subject of unpaid domestic labor and the necessity to value such work
socially, politically, and economically in order to give women fair authority worldwide.
The movie had a regional remake in Tamil with the same title, The Great Indian
Kitchen (2023).
In the opening scene of Jaya Jaya Jaya Jaya Hey (2022), we witness a woman
getting ready for work in the kitchen and then a shot of a man, who is probably her
husband, who is still sleeping. The viewer wonders if The Great Indian Kitchen, has a
sequel. Then, the viewer quickly learns that it isn’t because Jaya Jaya Jaya Jaya Hey
delves deeper than the woman’s existence in a kitchen. It is still about the bias against
the female gender in our society, patriarchy in many forms, male chauvinism, and toxic
masculinity, but not without establishing the way out for women. In that sense, it is a
Jaya Jaya Jaya Jaya Hey, which is set in a small town in Kerala, tells the story
brazen, conceited, ill-tempered, and rude man who slaps his wife at the drop of a hat,
without being able to follow her dreams of education and career. His recovery plan is
to take her out to supper right away and give her what ‘he likes’ to eat. The story ends
with the girl’s triumphant and empowered escape after dealing with this man.
Both the movies The Great Indian Kitchen and Jaya Jaya Jaya Jaya Hey speak
demonstrated to be closely correlated with movies. The opinions of people on love and
23
relationships are shaped by romance movies; therefore, how couples are portrayed in
This is not to argue that it is always bad for toxic relationships to be portrayed in
movies. They can offer social commentary and advance the plot of a story when done
well and with the aim of toxicity, but they never give the impression to viewers that
But still, it’s necessary to make films about imperfect relationships. Of course,
there are problems in every relationship. But ‘imperfect’ does not equate to ‘unhealthy’.
It’s time to stop idealizing relationships that aren’t perfect but are certainly healthy.
relationships better.