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and forced to realize that its implicit solipsism is mere illusion. This
threatens self-consciousness with inessentiality, and it thus seeks the death
of the other. Beauvoir’s fictional portrayal of the struggle for recognition,
however, ends differently from Hegel’s. While in Hegel, self-consciousness
risks death in the hope of recognition, Beauvoir’s account ends in the actual
death of Xavière. Recognition does not occur in She Came to Stay. Whereas
some scholars have taken Beauvoir’s ethics as a rejection of the Hegelian
struggle, I situate it at the heart of Beauvoir’s conception of the ethical
relation between self and other for two reasons. The first is that Beauvoir
affirms that the struggle for recognition is a stage that self-consciousness
must go through before reaching a more ethical bond of recognition and
reciprocity with other subjects. Second, the structure of this struggle
reveals the epistemic gap between self and other that I consider crucial for
Beauvoir’s ethics.
The master–slave dialectic as cast in She Came to Stay occurs not
between the primary partners in the romantic relationship but, rather,
between Françoise and the other woman, Xavière. If being faced with the
self-consciousness of another is what gives rise to the struggle for recogni-
tion, why is it that, long before Xavière entered the scene, Françoise and
Pierre never had such a struggle? Why did they never seek recognition
from each other? My claim is that what Beauvoir draws out is that roman-
tic relationships often bring about a conflation of self-consciousnesses
between their members rather than a struggle between them. Because of
the intimacy of such a relation, deepened through repeated sexual union,
communion via shared intellectual standpoint, and the recounting of one
another’s daily activities through conversation, two subjectivities become
fused into what appears to be a unity.5
For Beauvoir, the unification of self-consciousness between the lovers
occurs on a variety of levels—corporeal, cognitive, affective—all of which
find their locus in the fantasy of complete knowledge of the other. I find
it useful to dub this desire for complete knowledge of the other “epis-
temic unity.” The yearning for union with the lover does not pertain to
the kind of reciprocal love Beauvoir will later describe in The Second Sex
but, rather, to a kind of possessive love—we might characterize it as love
in bad faith—that is not to be striven for in a truly ethical love. While
Beauvoir recognizes that “in all love . . . exist at once selfishness and gen-
erosity, desire to possess the other and to give the other all,” the tendency
toward the unification of the self-consciousnesses of lovers is, rather,
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she will be able to sustain her illusion of epistemic unity with Pierre. She
thus pursues a double goal: on the one hand, to internalize Pierre’s love
for Xavière by developing a romantic relationship with the woman herself
and, on the other hand, to treat Xavière as an object in order to deny her
independent self-consciousness.8 However, Xavière resists Françoise’s
attempts, her relation to Pierre developing further in passionate directions
that Françoise can never fully grasp. This leads Françoise to feel an ines-
sentiality that is “like death, total negation, an eternal absence.”9 Whereas
the dissolution of self-consciousness in her relationship with Pierre is not
threatening, because it is the melding of two self-consciousnesses, this
dissolution in the face of Xavière is a total annihilation. This sense of anni-
hilation drives Françoise’s decision to murder Xavière. She gains resolve
before acting by recalling to herself the intolerable essentiality of Xavière’s
consciousness: “Annihilate a consciousness! How can I? Françoise thought.
But how was it possible for a consciousness not her own to exist? In that
case, it was she who did not exist. She repeated, She or I, and pulled down
the lever.”10
Beauvoir offers a more prescriptive account of love in The Second Sex.
This alternate vision of love is characterized by reciprocity, or the recogni-
tion of another self-consciousness without attempting to fuse with it or
annihilate it.11 However, the lesson of She Came to Stay cannot be forgot-
ten in analyzing the meaning of reciprocity as a foundation for Beauvoir’s
ethics. Specifically, one must be cautious about misreading reciprocity as
a kind of relation in which one recognizes the other in oneself or a kind
of relation in which one can know another completely. We have seen that
these attempts are destructive, unethical, and based on illusion.
For Beauvoir, reciprocity between individuals is possible but extremely
rare. It stems from the overcoming of desire for possession or annihilation.
This reciprocity demands the acknowledgment that the other is never mine
and that, while the lines between self and other may certainly be blurred,
there is nevertheless a self–other relation that fundamentally constitutes
one’s experience in the world. Pierre and Françoise attempt to attain this in
their relationship, and yet She Came to Stay shows that these attempts are
extremely difficult even for lovers committed to loving each other as other.
Beauvoir tells us, “Françoise had made up her mind to love him even in
his freedom, but she detected too easy an optimism in such a resolution.”12
Loving another as other, which for Beauvoir is tantamount to loving the
other in his or her freedom, is eminently difficult to achieve.
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about the essential otherness of recognition and reciprocity in love can also
be located on the level of one’s own self-consciousness. Beauvoir offers an
account of subjectivity that is radically marked by a lack of transparency.
While other people are always necessarily other to me, I am always also
other to myself.
This acknowledgment of otherness within the self must be taken into
account in any analysis of Beauvoir’s ethics of reciprocity. It is not that
reciprocity demands recognition of myself in the other but, rather, that reci-
procity demands recognition of the otherness of the other, the otherness of
myself, and the otherness of the other within him- or herself. This ethics
must be based on an acknowledgment that human subjects are never self-
transparent, never in full possession of themselves. The lesson that She
Came to Stay offers is that any attempt to unify my subjectivity with that of
another is doomed to fail and based on a fundamental illusion of the self
as epistemically transparent. What the figure of the “other woman” teaches
us is that I can never know another person fully, and we find that, in turn,
I can never know myself fully. One can only ever move toward the other,
both within and without, in an erotic motion that risks the possibility of not
being recognized by the other and that acknowledges the impossibility of
ever possessing or knowing another or oneself.
notes
1. See, for instance, the work of Penelope Deutscher, Debra Bergoffen, Ursula
Tidd, and Julie K. Ward.
2. Penelope Deutscher, The Philosophy of Simone de Beauvoir: Ambiguity,
Conversion, Resistance (Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 2008); Debra
Bergoffen, The Philosophy of Simone de Beauvoir: Gendered Phenomenologies, Erotic
Generosities (Albany: State University of New York Press, 1997).
3. Simone de Beauvoir, She Came to Stay, trans. Yvonne Moyse and Roger
Senhouse (New York: W. W. Norton, 1954), 402 (originally published as L’Invitée
[Paris, Gallimard, 1943]).
4. Ibid., 7; translation modified. Moyse and Senhouse translate conscience as
“conscience,” but I have chosen to alter their translation to render conscience
as “consciousness,” which more accurately reveals the Hegelian undertones of
Beauvoir’s use of the word.
5. Toward the outset of the novel, Pierre tells Françoise, “You and I are simply
one. . . . Neither of us can be defined without the other.” Françoise echoes, “We are
simply one” (ibid., 25–26).
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