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Client
Worksheet
r This person has told me that I am crazy or that other people think I’m crazy.
r This person has told me that friends and loved ones have said horrible things about me.
r I suspect this person is hiding my items and blaming me for losing them.
r This person is very focused on whether I am cheating, with no reason to suspect this.
r This person has told me that I am irresponsible with money and must turn over my finances
to them.
r This person has told me we must go to couples therapy to figure out what is wrong with me.
r This person often tells me that what I have seen or heard didn’t happen.
r When I set boundaries with this person, they blame me and get very angry.
r I have caught this person in lies that don’t even make sense.
r I was treated exceptionally well at the beginning of the relationship, but now I am
mistreated.
If you identified with one or more of these statements, you might be experiencing gaslighting.
Your therapist can help you determine whether you have been subjected to this form of
emotional abuse.
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Client
Worksheet
Characteristics of Gaslighters
The following are characteristics of gaslighters—people who manipulate you into questioning
your reality. To determine whether gaslighting may be occurring in one of the relationships in
your life, put a check mark by any red flags you have noticed about this person:
r They are focused on their social status. r They seem to “mirror” your likes
and dislikes.
r They look good on paper (e.g., educated,
accomplished), but the facts don’t r They deny that you saw or heard them
add up. do something.
r They have substance abuse issues. r They don’t manage their finances well.
r They always talk about themselves. r They believe that everything is always
someone else’s fault.
r They refuse accountability for their
behavior. r They punish, shame, and guilt you.
r They are generally dishonest and lie r They showered you with attention and
about trivial things. affection early on in the relationship but
quickly became confrontational.
r Their stories are constantly changing.
r They threaten suicide if you set
r They have cynical, negative views of
boundaries or tell them you are
others.
leaving them.
r They make promises but don’t follow
r They lack any long-lasting friends.
through.
r They boast about their “excellent”
r They blame you for being upset at their
relationship with their children but
inappropriate behavior.
rarely see them.
Even if you only checked a few of these items, this relationship might not be healthy for you, so it
is essential to speak to your therapist about your experiences.
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Client
Worksheet
r You’re so sensitive.
r No wonder your [sister, brother, mother, father, etc.] can’t stand you.
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Client
Handout
When a gaslighter tries to manipulate you with these tactics, how should you respond? By not
responding. Nothing you say will make the other person gaslight you less. A gaslighter will use
anything you say against you, so the best thing to do is to walk away. As difficult as it may be to
resist, know these three tactics are just that—tactics. They are not the truth. Remember that it is
a choice to not buy into what the gaslighter is telling you. Not giving them a response sends the
message that you aren’t buying what they are selling. It’s a powerful message that is best said
with silence.
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