UNITED STATES

UNITED STATES
STATE OF NEW YORK

AFFIDAVIT

1. I was becoming frustrated by the endless dating circle I found myself in. I

have always been particular about the kind of men I went out with. On this

particular day in November, I was speaking with a friend of mine on the

phone when he casually mentioned that he had a friend who so much loves

African women and would want me to meet him. At first, I was skeptical but

I thought to myself that it was just a harmless meeting and so, after some

days, I called him back and agreed to meet his friend. Few days later, I got a

call from a number not registered on my phone. The man on the other side of

the line introduced himself as Leroy and mentioned that his friend had told

him about me and passed my number across to him. I also introduced myself

to him and acknowledged that his friend was my friend too. We talked for

some time and he was really cool. I liked his personality over the phone.

From that day, whenever he has time, he makes sure he calls to say Hi. One

day while we talked, he said would really like to get to know me. He told me

he was neighbors with our mutual friend who had matched us at the
 moment. I was skeptical about what he said but again I thought that there is

nothing wrong with having a new friend so I agreed to his friendship

proposal.

2. After that day, Leroy calls me every day and he texts me a lot too. Over

time, I started to enjoy the attention I was getting from him so I also picked

up on reciprocating his sweet gestures. One day in November 2019, he

called and asked if we could go for lunch sometime, which I accepted. We

agreed to grab lunch the next day at Frames Bowling Lounge 550 9th

Avenue, 40th Street, New York.

3. When we went out, we got to talk more while we played games. He told me

about himself and how he came to live around our mutual friend. We talked

about our experiences, likes and dislikes, things we have in common, culture

and all. He was really more fun to talk to in person. He also told me how

African women have been his friend over the years and how he wishes to

travel to African countries to explore their culture. I was beginning to like

him but I was really holding back because it still felt weird being

matchmaked by my own friend. That day he asked me out to be his

girlfriend. It was so sudden and I told him I would think about it.
4. We kept on communicating and sometimes, we would defy the New York

cold weather to go out together to grab food. One day, I invited him over and

made lunch for us. It was something very basic but Nigerian and he enjoyed

every bit of it. Soon, it became a regular thing for him to come over and

spend some time in my apartment. We cooked together, played games and

had engaging conversations. On one of his visits to my apartment, we were

cleaning up after dinner, one thing led to another, we made out right there in

the kitchen. It was great and I realized that I had developed a soft spot for

Leroy. That evening, he asked me again if I had given his proposal a thought

and I told him I would like to be his girlfriend.

5. Leroy was a baby in every way I could think of. My relationship with him

was a very fun one. He really knows how to treat a woman right. He is soft

with me, caring and attentive to my needs. He is thoughtful and kind and

treats me with respect. With him, I never lacked all the attention I needed

and he is always there to pamper me and help me. He knows I love surprises

and he does his best to do that most of the time. He celebrates my wins like

his and consoles me when I feel hurt. He was my best friend in every way. I

also try to reciprocate all his love and show of affection but I never matched

up with him.
6. One day during the beginning of summer, we were at a beach , when I

mentioned that I would like to get some sunscreen. Few days later, Leroy

was knocking on my door bearing the complete set of my skincare products

and included some tubes of sunscreen and a bikini set. I was pleasantly

surprised. He said he loved my skin tone and wouldn’t want it dented so he

decided to appreciate me for taking care of my skin really well. I was so

speechless and all I could do was kiss him passionately. I asked him to

spend the night with me and we had sex too.

7. Although Leroy was everything I prayed for in my dream man, something

was off about him. He never mentions or invites me to his house. When I

pointed this out, he gives one excuse or another and sometimes says that he

just prefers my house to his own. I mentioned this to the friend who

introduced us but there wasn’t much he could say. I let it go because we

enjoyed each other’s company and it would be ungrateful of me to poke

holes on him.

8. Our disagreements do not last. Whenever we have a fight, he does well to

apologize whenever he is wrong and I do as well. After which we talk about

it and later make up. Sometimes too we had heated arguments and Leroy

would threaten me with break-up. He would later come back and apologize

for overreacting and I do forgive him. We loved ourselves really much.

9. After a few months of dating, Leroy asked me to marry him, I couldn’t

refuse. It was a memorable day for me, a dream come true.

10.On 9/24/2020, Leroy and I got married at Port Chester, NY. It was one of

our happiest days and I was really looking forward to spending forever with

my man.

11.After our wedding, we moved in together at 56 Waverly Place, Staten Island,

NY. I couldn’t be happier being Leroy’s wife. He showered me with so

much love and affection. He was really the man of the house. He was very

handy around the house so much so that sometimes he would ask me to relax

and let him do things in the house for us.

12.Leroy was a very sweet man and he always find ways to make me smile. It

felt like we became closer after our wedding. The little surprises never

stopped. I have never been one that is so fixated on expensive things and he

knew this while we were dating so he little things he did to make me smile

were very much appreciated and made me love him deeper with each day.

From surprise dinners, to small gifts, the love and affection he showered me

was overwhelming. I couldn't have for someone better than Leroy. My life

was almost perfect.

13.Before we were married, I knew my husband had a temper but it was never

something to worry about because he always made up for it and apologized

immensely. Sometimes my husband would go to get groceries for the house

and would spend lengthy hours and when he gets back, he would blame it on

some trivial things. I didn’t put it in mind. This was happening before we got

married so I saw nothing wrong with it. But when we got married, at any

slightest provocation, he would leave the house and come back very late and

sometimes, the following day, leaving me very worried. When I asked where

he went, he went to the bar and made it my fault. I would apologize for

what I didn’t know, just for peace's sake.

14.Everything between us was going fine until one day, he took my phone

without me knowing and saw a chat between our mutual friend and I. He

asked why I was in constant communication with him. I reminded him that

he has always been a very close friend even before we met. I asked him if he

was suspecting me of cheating on him with his own friend and he got really

angry even when I tried to convince him that it was an innocent chat and

nothing serious. He stormed out of the house. I cried all through the night

because I couldn’t imagine my husband suspecting me of infidelity with the

only person who has had my back since I came to NY. This caused an issue

for both of us that my husband refused to talk to me for days even when he
 came back. After some days of keeping malice with me and rejecting my

food, my husband came bearing gifts for me and suddenly apologized for

mistaking my friendship with our mutual friend for me cheating on him.

15.After that incident, my husband started getting paranoid about my activities.

He always wants to know what I am doing with my phone or where I am

whenever I am out of the house. He even calls me on video call or asks me

to pin him my location. I did all he asked just to let peace reign in the house.

I just wanted to be the submissive wife to my husband. He stopped me from

wearing certain types of clothes because he thinks they show too much of

my body. Gradually, I started losing myself, becoming withdrawn and

gloomy.

16.All this was going on and I had to endure everything so as to have peace in

my marriage and make it work. Whenever I try to remind him of our good

times and how we started, he gets very angry and at some point, attempts to

hit me even though he never does. He starts to call me all sorts of names and

say vile things to me but he will end up apologizing and mandate me to

collect his gifts in public and smile like all is well with us in the company of

friends. I started leaving in perpetual fear of my husband.

17.The straw that broke the camel’s back was when I found out that he was also

in a romantic relationship with a lady at the mall he frequented. This broke

my heart. I never could have imagined that my happy life and marriage

would take such a sad turn. When I confronted him about my finding, he

was not remorseful. Instead, he told me he had every right to do as he

pleased and I can’t do anything about it.

18.To me, cheating has always been a dealbreaker for me and I decided I was

going to leave the marriage, only for my husband to threaten me that I am

not going anywhere and he is the only person that can say the marriage is

over. He made sure I stopped talking to my friends and went through my

phone so as to check who I called or texting with.

19.The cheating persisted and he does not hide it anymore. He rubs it in my

face most times and tells me that I am so ugly and bad in bed. I refused him

having sex with me because I was scared of getting infected with an STI but

sometimes, my husband comes home drunk and forces himself on me. I will

cry all through the night and in the mornings. My husband would wake up

and find me crying and he would not care.

20.The whole situation has left me traumatized and emotionally wrecked. I

could not believe that my once perfect marriage could turn into a nightmare
 for me. I am seeing a therapist at the moment with the hopes of moving

forward from all that happened.

21.I make the above statement freely and with the intention that it be relied

upon immigration proceedings and with the knowledge that I may be called

upon to testify as to the truth or otherwise my statements as stated in my

affidavit.

Sincerely,

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Sworn to me this Day of ……………………………………………………., 2022.