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Foreword
Introduction
1 ‘You fellar goin’ walkabout?’
2 Our farm Bidgi Park
3 The Corner Store
4 Living in Toogoolawah
5 The biggest surprise ever
6 Getting to know the locals
7 Life as a dairy farmer
8 Our Queensland workers’ cottage
9 Back to nursing
10 Murray Greys
11 The Brisbane Valley Book Club
12 The big move
13 Living on the Downs
14 Home nursing
15 Ralph
16 Home alone
17 Making the most of a disaster
18 Walkabout to England
19 Happenings in St Lucia
20 Mt Olivet
21 Wedding at Straddie
22 Straddie
23 Becoming a jetsetter
24 Adventures in Kenya
25 A crash landing
26 A dolphin, a whale and a Territory vehicle
27 Bob
28 The things I carried
29 ‘Gone walkabout with Bob’
30 A change of direction
31 Carraman
32 Our first flood
33 A lucky escape
34 Our first home
35. Yamba Stud
36 Rupert
37 Settling into Narrandera
38 The Sturt Ladies Club
39 The magpies
40 The Rocky Waterholes Bridge
41 The Wiradjuri
42 A little bit of history
43 Nine lives or more?
44 Rain and more rain
45 Wave Hill/Jinparrak Art
46 A momentous moment
47 The process of having a book published
48 On the move
49 Back to Wave Hill
50 The Gurindji Freedom Day
51 Where to now?
52 The dollarbirds odyssey
Acknowledgements
Foreword
Once the siren song of the Outback took over Thea’s heart there was
no turning her from her chosen destiny … to live her mothering
years as a station nurse, hostess and housekeeper, married to the
manager of one of Australia’s largest remote Outback cattle stations,
Wave Hill in the Northern Territory, in the wilds of Central Australia.
Thea and her husband Ralph stood behind Prime Minister Gough
Whitlam on the momentous occasion in August 1975 when he
poured a handful of red Wave Hill soil into the hands of tribal
Aboriginal man Vincent Lingiari. It was Australian history in the
making.
All this could not have been further from her childhood years in
the city and for that matter, her early expectations of life.
Yet her sense of adventure, her gaiety, humour and tolerance,
combined with her innate practicality, made her a perfect fit for the
life she chose.
This is the first part of Thea’s story, as told in her first book An
Outback Nurse (Allen & Unwin 2014).
But her story continues! Her spirit burnished in the Outback sun,
Thea and her husband Ralph moved closer to civilisation; but city life
was never to be her choice again, and nor was age to deter her from
continuing her trajectory of laughter and adventure.
Thea’s story is one of hope and inspiration. To meet her is to
understand that age is just a number, serious illness just a hiccup,
and love and friendship the grist of life.
Between the pages of this book is a fantastic story. And what’s
more, it’s an ongoing story. Do your sums and you will be amazed at
the fact that when many—if not most—people are sitting on the sofa
and sipping cups of tea, Thea is still well and truly on the go. Her
future stretches before her as a canvas to be painted.
Enjoy the many canvases this book contains.
Jane Grieve
Author of In Stockmen’s Footsteps
Introduction
Our last day, and our last smoko on Wave Hill. Penny, the youngest
of our four children, raced ahead. Ralph and I wandered slowly
across to the smoko area between the kitchen and the recreation
room at the new Wave Hill Station homestead, at the site of Number
One bore. The Wave Hill mob were all waiting there to join us for
one last cup of tea together. Twenty years previously, in 1960, I had
walked onto Jinparrak (the Gurindji name for old Wave Hill Station)
smoko veranda, paved with flagstones with an outside wall of
paperbark and a roof of spinifex, having just arrived on the mail
plane from Alice Springs to take on the position of station nurse.
Tom Fisher, the manager of Wave Hill Station, had picked me up at
the airstrip, driven me to the station, and after showing me my new
home, called a donga—a galvanised room with paperbark veranda
and outdoor shower—said, ‘I’ll see you at smoko on the smoko
veranda at 3 p.m. You’ll hear the bell.’
I did hear the bell, and nervously walked out onto the veranda to
meet the Wave Hill mob. And my life changed forever.
Ralph was the shy, handsome improvement overseer who gave me
an inquisitive look as I was introduced to the enquiring staff of Wave
Hill; the man I fell in love with, married, and with whom I spent
twenty years on cattle properties in the Outback.
Now, in 1979, the time had come to move on.
Ralph hated the thought of leaving. He had gone to Wave Hill as a
young jackeroo in 1955, giving twenty-five years of his life to the
Vestey Company. Ralph, who could speak the languages of the
Gurindji and Warlpiri people, had grown up on stations in the
Northern Territory. He was little more than eighteen months old
when his father and mother, Dick and Mary Hayes, in 1936 accepted
a management position with the Vesteys at Waterloo Station in the
Northern Territory (Waterloo is east of the Ord River Scheme, where
the famous Argyle Downs Station was pioneered by Patrick Durack,
as written about by Mary Durack in her book Kings in Grass Castles).
Ralph was loved by the Aboriginal people, especially by his
Aboriginal nanny Murrawah. When Ralph became the manager,
Murrawah came to live at Wave Hill. Ralph was always there to help
the Aboriginal people; someone with whom they could discuss
problems in their own language, share stories and tell jokes. One of
his great mates was Vincent Lingiari, who became the head of the
Gurindji tribe.
By the end of the seventies, there was far too much alcohol
consumed on the station, even though it was controlled by our social
club. In preceding years, the Vestey cattle stations were ‘dry’,
meaning no alcohol was permitted for anyone but the manager, and
that was mainly for him to share with VIP visitors. Occasionally
someone’s ‘hide would crack’; they felt desperately in need of
alcohol. A vehicle would sneak off to the nearest watering hole
which in our case was the Top Springs roadhouse, 160 kilometres to
the north, and of course, after that, staff wouldn’t turn up for work
for a day or so.
Ralph and I felt that the time had come for our staff to be able to
enjoy a drink. Times were a-changing—dry stations were a thing of
the past. After contacting head office, we were allowed to start a
social club. Each evening, those who wished could buy two drinks at
the bar in the recreation room. On Saturday night, six drinks were
allowed. But when staff from other stations arrived at the weekend
with requests of ‘let’s have another carton’, consumption of alcohol
started getting out of hand. The Aboriginal people were also getting
their six cans of beer every Saturday night. The Aboriginal women,
who didn’t drink, gave their allocation to their husbands. The nurse
on the station had her hands full on Sunday morning stitching up
split heads, attending broken limbs, cuts and bruises, the result of
drunken brawls in the Aboriginal camp. Introduction of alcohol to
Aboriginal people in the Northern Territory was passed by the
Legislative Committee in 1964. It was the law: the Aboriginal people,
men and women, had the right to drink.
It had been four years previous to that last smoko at Wave Hill
that we had started thinking about our future. The thought of our
boys leaving school, without us being there to guide them, was not
on the cards. We wanted our own place, a farm of our own,
somewhere ‘down south’.
During our holidays every second year, we would look at small
properties in South-East Queensland. Ralph’s brother Milton and wife
Madeline purchased a farm at Toogoolawah, 100 kilometres north
west of Brisbane, and while staying with them, we found a property
that suited us and suited our pocket. Ralph’s mother also lived at
Toogoolawah.
Our new property was a lush 640-acre dairy farm, without a
milking quota, on five deeds, with irrigation and good cultivation on
the hills just outside Toogoolawah. Yes, it was rundown, but we
could see the potential to eventually go into beef cattle. It was close
to town—an hour’s drive to Brisbane—and up in the hills. We even
had our own rainforest.
We employed a very competent man named Owen Ward and his
family to run the dairy while we went back to Wave Hill for another
four years.
And now here we were, about to take off from Wave Hill Station.
It was the ‘show place’ for the Vesteys in the Northern Territory, with
it’s beautiful everything—accommodation, furniture, garden, lovely
staff and dear Aboriginal people. But we were determined to give
‘down south’ a go.
I was packing for weeks before we left, as well as trying to master
the knack of backing and turning a heavily laden horse float with our
Toyota LandCruiser, with Ralph yelling instructions in the
background. Our personal gear, plus the radiogram, was all to go in
the horse float. It was nerve-racking, but I got there in the end.
We had a large farewell party with guests from all the
neighbouring properties, plus Jimmy the cook put on a silver service
lunch down at the Five Mile Creek.
I don’t think the Aboriginal people at Wave Hill realised we were
leaving for good.
‘You fellar goin’ walkabout?’ they asked us.
I felt very sad to be leaving them and took photos of them all in
family groups; photos that I still have today. They would miss Ralph
very much, but he was happy that his Aboriginal friends were
established in their jobs on the station and being paid their rightful
wage.
Finally, we were off. Penny and Pluto, our Rhodesian Ridgeback,
accompanied me in the Toyota. Ralph drove the borrowed station
truck, laden with his four camp horses, Penny’s pony Pepper and our
Beale pianola, well protected from the horses.
One of the Wave Hill stock inspectors Peter Flanagan came to help
Ralph drive the truck the 3502 kilometres to Toogoolawah and then
was to drive the truck back to Wave Hill. We camped at local
showgrounds along the way, yarding and feeding the horses each
night and morning; eating at roadhouses on the way. One night we
stayed with friends Nora and John Kirsh and their ten children at
Maxwelton. Pepper wasn’t travelling well, so we gave him to the
Kirsh children without telling Penny, as we knew we probably
wouldn’t get back for ages to pick him up. It was late June and such
a cold winter that we nearly froze one night at Roma. We had one
big swag for the three of us; Pluto made four when we pulled him
into our swag to keep us warm. Penny thought it was great fun, and
so did Pluto. The trip would take us ten days including our stay with
the Kirshs.
Two of our teenage sons, Anthony and David, were boarding at
Downlands College in Toowoomba at this stage, having moved from
St Joseph’s College Hunters Hill in Sydney during the Christmas
break. We had left our youngest son, thirteen-year-old Jason, at
Toogoolawah with Ralph’s mother Mary to spend two years at the
local school before going to Downlands as well.
After calling in to see the boys at Downlands on the way through
Toowoomba, we went straight to Toogoolawah. We had a new life
ahead of us; we wanted to work on our own property and be able to
enjoy life without being so isolated from family and friends. We were
going to make it work for all of us.
2
Living in Toogoolawah
With Ralph heading off to the farm I needed staff at the store, so we
employed several Apostolic women to help, which made life more
bearable in the shop. But I still hated being there, and the thought
that I could be there for years thoroughly depressed me.
I kept thinking about ways to get rid of the shop.
Maybe getting the Mafia to burn it down?
Of course, I didn’t know anyone in the Mafia, or even anyone who
might have criminal connections. I never asked anyone; I was just
feeling so desperate.
One of our neighbours, a very nice couple, were working on the
wife’s parents’ property just down the road from us. One day they
called in to see us, telling us that they had left her parents’ dairy
farm and were now looking for work around the district.
We had been invited to Pricey’s—one of my nursing friends from
RPAH—daughter’s wedding in Sydney and were keen to go. Anne
Price and I had become great friends when we worked together at
Royal Alexandra Hospital for Children in Sydney during our three
months in paediatrics, a requirement during our general nursing
training at Royal Prince Alfred Hospital, Sydney.
Ralph and I had been to Anne’s wedding to Harry in Sydney, when
on holidays years before. Anne and Harry bought a small, rundown
thirteen-bed hospital in the Northern Suburbs of Sydney and over
the years enlarged it to a fifty-two-bed hospital with two operating
theatres.
There is no doubt about us nurses.
We asked the couple who now found themselves at a loose end if
they would like to relieve us for two weeks—milking the cows,
feeding them on the irrigated pasture, irrigating and running the
store—while we went to Sydney for the wedding. They jumped at
the chance to be employed for two weeks.
Off we went, Ralph, Penny and I. We had a wonderful time. Ralph
thoroughly enjoyed the break from the exhausting hours of the farm
and for me it was such a relief to not have to go into the store. I
was dreading the thought of going back.
On our return, the couple said, ‘We have something to tell you.’
‘And we think, Thea, you had better sit down to hear this.’
I wonder what this is all about, I thought as I grabbed a chair.
‘We want to buy your shop.’
‘Wow,’ I screamed with joy and amazement. I couldn’t believe it.
‘Tell me that again. I can’t believe it.’
The sale went ahead. We moved everything out to Bidgi Park from
The Corner Store house.
It took me ages to get used to the idea that I didn’t have to go
into the store every day. It had taken two years, two months and
one week to sell.
As it turned out, we had done very well in The Corner Store
business. We sold the shop for a good price, lived well—despite
working very hard—and were able to keep our children educated in
a good boarding school.
6
When Ralph took over the milking, our previous dairy man Owen
gave him a hand until Ralph was able to employ young people, one
at a time from the Ipswich Social Services, to help him. Having no
other accommodation except our house, that’s where they had to
live. They were a diverse lot of unemployed youth, sometimes
turning up for work and sometimes not. Some showed an interest,
and some couldn’t have cared less, and in general the girls were
much more reliable than the boys.
After I found one of the young men in our bedroom, about to help
himself to something from my dressing table, Ralph and I realised
this set up was not going to work. Our house was too small to
accommodate both our family and the hired staff. The alternative
was for me to help Ralph with the milking.
I had never milked a cow before and the only time I had seen
cows milked was when I was eight years old, when my mother,
brother Terry and I camped with a friend on a dairy farm on the
Macquarie Rivulet on the road to Bowral. Terry and I would go to the
dairy nearly every day from our campsite to watch the milking;
having never been on a farm before, we were fascinated.
After running a corner store, I didn’t mind milking at all—anything
was better than being a shopkeeper, so I became a dairy farmer with
my husband.
Ralph would get up at 4.30 a.m. and ride up to the back paddocks
to bring in the dairy cows, while I made him tea and toast, a pre-
milking cuppa.
Penny was now going to and from school on the school bus, which
picked her up at the end of our driveway, 200 metres from the
house.
We had a walk-through dairy. The cows would come into the yard
and be ushered into the bales. A chain would be put across their
rumps. One cow, Snake, was always cranky so she had a leg rope to
keep her from kicking. They would all get a measure of grain; their
teats were washed and milking cups were applied. After they were
milked, the gate in the bales was pushed open and the cows went
off to feed for the day or night or to graze on irrigated pasture.
At no time in my life had I ever complained of a bad back until I
started milking. Sitting on a forty centimetre block of wood, leaning
forward and down to place the dairy cups on the teats of each cow,
then back down to take them off while looking up to see the flow of
milk all the time, was excruciating. Not only did I have a pain in my
back but in my neck as well. After the first week I couldn’t wait to
get to a chiropractor. I became a regular visitor to Mr Kennedy’s
chiropractic practice in Toowoomba.
After milking the 120-odd cows, we would take them down to the
electric fenced area full of rich ryegrass which was constantly
fertilised and irrigated. Fertilise and irrigate, fertilise and irrigate;
every day the same. Have you ever carried and laid irrigation pipes
after a huge frost? Our aluminium irrigation pipes were twenty feet
long, we had to move them every morning to a new section of
ryegrass, which had to be fertilised every day with the fertiliser
spreader, before we started irrigating. When we had a frost, the
pipes were like ice, but we still had to pick them up, carry them to
the new site, connect them together and then turn on the pump.
Ralph and I enrolled in a five-day artificial insemination course at
the University of Queensland farm in Brisbane, to learn how to
inseminate a cow with semen from a bull. It meant getting up at 4
a.m. to milk the cows to get down to the university farm by 8 a.m.
We were instructed in how to watch for oestrus (the heat period in
a cow that lasts twenty-four hours). Artificial insemination or AI
needed to be carried out twelve hours after oestrus. We had lessons
on the anatomy of a cow and how to insert the semen. I guess
being a nurse helped with the anatomy.
We were taught how to insert a straw of semen from a liquid
nitrogen canister into an AI gun and hold it in the right hand, while
inserting a gloved left hand into the anus to feel for the cervix
below. We then had to insert the gun into the entrance to the uterus
and inject the semen. But it’s not easy to feel the cervix with your
hand in the rectum and to find the cervical opening. It took Ralph
and most of the other pupils two days to get ‘the feel’, but I still
couldn’t get the hang of it.
What’s wrong with me? I began to think.
Suddenly, on the third day, I could feel ‘it’—the opening of the
cervix—and everything fell into place. One Holstein Friesian cow was
so large I had to stand on a stool, with my face level with her anus;
thank goodness she saved her business for later.
It would be early evening by the time we returned home after the
AI course, and the old girls in the dairy yard would be getting
agitated waiting to be milked.
It was a very educational week, enabling Ralph and I to AI our
dairy herd with great success. It’s a great feeling when you help
create a living creature, and when the calf is born you feel so proud.
In 1985 when Sir Joh Bjelke-Petersen was premier of Queensland
and the South East Queensland Electricity Board employees went on
strike, I remember we only had power for two hours in the morning
and two in the evening. We faced a dilemma: would we feed
ourselves or milk the cows? The cows took precedence and we didn’t
have a hot evening meal any night that week.
We were dairying when the Commonwealth Games were on in
Brisbane in 1982 at the QE11 Stadium. It was wonderful to watch it
all on TV after milking in the morning and before milking in the
evening. We also went to Expo 88 in Brisbane in 1988. A quick trip
down and back. The theme of Expo 88 was ‘Leisure in the Age of
Technology’, and the mascot was an Australian platypus named Expo
Oz—a life sized platypus in bright colours, framed by a Ken Done
sculpture of the word Australia. The site of Expo 88 was across the
river from the CBD where old houses and wharves had existed. It is
where South Bank is today. Thirty-five nations took part. It was a
World Fair, a wonderfully exciting time, and promoted Brisbane as a
tourist destination throughout the world. We enjoyed it so much, we
envied the Brisbanites who could go anytime.
Our dairy herd improved, and we gradually changed from Jersey
and Shorthorn to Holstein Friesians. We even became serious about
showing heifers at a Friesian heifer show in Toogoolawah—a great
education in the daily handling and conformation of cattle, which
was so very different to station cattle in the Outback, which were
usually handled less than once or twice a year, if that.
But the relentless dairying lifestyle was very hard to take. In 1983,
after a few years, we decided to sell our dairy cows and change to
beef cattle.
There hadn’t been a dairy sale in the area for years and the locals
were predicting a very good result for us. Of course, I wanted to
have the best auctioneers, choosing a Brisbane firm in preference to
a local. My first mistake.
At this time dairies were being advised to test their herd for EBL—
Enzootic Bovine Leucosis, also known as Bovine Leukaemia.
As not many local herds had been tested and since ours appeared
very healthy, we decided not to test. However, when the sale
catalogues arrived, the auctioneer had put on the cover ‘Dairy Cows
EBL Free’. Instead of demanding a new catalogue be printed,
without ‘EBL free’, we decided to test. When the results came back,
we were devastated. Forty-six of our best cows were diagnosed with
EBL and sent off to the meat works.
It was absolutely tragic. For weeks I would wake up in the middle
of the night with the number ‘forty-six’ illuminated, flashing in and
out of my brain.
A month later we had our dairy sale, conducted by the local
auctioneer, Shepherdson and Boyd. It was pretty ordinary—121 head
of dairy cattle were sold—but at least we were out of dairying, and
could concentrate on building up a herd of Murray Grey cattle.
8
Life was so busy, and with The Corner Store and the property there
was no time to worry about the state of our Queensland workers’
cottage, with its flyspecked, tongue and groove walls and rough
wooden floors; a far cry from our last home at Wave Hill Station.
Ralph, of course, had to live out there when he took over the milking
—it became a ‘bachelor pad’. Jason moved to the farm to help Ralph,
catching the bus to school each morning, while Penny and I lived at
the shop. We planned to think about improvements when I moved
out of the shop and onto the farm. This was our very first home of
our own and we had plans aplenty to improve it. But as long as we
had no visitors, renovating could wait until later.
A Queensland workers’ cottage can be very attractive, with an
open front veranda, a front door in the middle and two windows on
either side. Unfortunately, the previous owners had at some stage
hung a killer (a beast killed for meat) from a rafter on the front
veranda, which collapsed the beam. The quickest solution for us, not
knowing at the time that we would disfigure the essence of a
Queensland workers’ cottage, was to have the front veranda closed
in. We really needed the extra room, but the house never looked
very attractive after that.
Some friends of ours, Pat and Grey Lapthorn from the Gold Coast,
came to visit just after we purchased the property. Pat and I were
discussing renovation ideas, when I asked Grey’s opinion on the
removal of a wall to enlarge the lounge room.
His reply? ‘Well, Thea, I know what I would do. I’d hire a bulldozer
and knock the whole house down.’
Well, really! This was our very first home and Ralph and I were
quite sure we could improve it.
Tim and Faye, my brother and sister-in-law, and their children flew
out from America to visit my mother in Wollongong. I flew down
with Anthony and Penny to meet them for a family get-together.
David and Jason stayed home to help Ralph with the milking.
It was wonderful to see everyone. My other brothers Tony and
Terry were there too, and everyone wanted to know all about our
new place. Especially Tim and Faye.
‘Dying to see your property,’ they kept saying.
Oh no, I thought, the house is so horrible. But I said, ‘Oh yes, I’d
love you to come!’
They quickly agreed. I hadn’t realised they were serious about
coming to see our farm.
After Anthony, Penny and I returned, Ralph drove down to pick
them up at Ellerston, Kerry Packer’s Hunter Valley property, just out
from Scone in NSW, which some of our friends were managing.
As soon as Ralph had left, I rang my mother-in-law, Cudge, and
asked her if she would come out to the farm to help me do an
urgent make-over on our dilapidated farmhouse. For three days we
cleaned, scrubbed, painted and put grass matting all over the old
floorboards. Brightly coloured cushions and quilt covers were thrown
around with gay abandon and by the time we had finished the place
had been transformed—well, up to a point. The kids and I were
sitting around our now much more stylish house, pretending it
always looked vogue-ish, when Ralph arrived back with Faye and
Tim.
Ralph looked around and exclaimed, ‘Good heavens, what the hell
have you done to this old dump?’
Thanks, Ralph, for giving the game away. We did have a good
laugh when Tim and Faye heard of the panic we had been in.
During my first year on the farm I started painting the inside of
house, as the boys were home for the school holidays to help Ralph
in the dairy. I painted for weeks, filling in the gaps of the tongue and
groove wall panels with loads of the miracle product ‘No More Gaps’.
I carefully painted the unique scrolls above the doorways and in the
hallways that came with all Queensland workers’ cottages.
As soon as the painting was finished—seemingly using hundreds
of tonnes of ‘off white’—we had a free-standing wood-burning stove
put in the lounge room.
Our attempts to beautify the floors were not as straightforward,
particularly in relation to the faux-lino cork tiles in the kitchen. After
a day at the local races, Ralph dropped a bucket of hot ashes on the
lino, wanting to light the barbeque outside, causing much damage to
the floor. After repairs, it was then my turn to be the centre of a new
lino drama: I dropped a red-hot frying pan onto the floor. By then
the carpet and tile man had no trouble finding our property. We
ended up with three layers on the floor. No drafts coming up through
the floorboards now.
Our pianola brought us much enjoyment. We would all stand
around singing as we followed the words on the rolls. But it was
hard to find a pianola tuner, which is necessary to keep the pianola
in tune—it needs to be done once a year. Fortunately, we had been
told of a pianola tuner, John Rowse, who was the only one in
Queensland and came each year to tune our pianola, before making
a date for the following year.
One year I completely forgot the date of his visit. Visitors were
coming for lunch, Robyn and Graham Fulcher our Territorian friends,
bringing Miriam and Alan Hagen from Muckaty Station, near Renner
Springs in the Northern Territory, where David had worked as a
jackeroo. This particular time, the dining room table was just in front
of the pianola where we were all sitting eating, when John the
pianola tuner knocked on the door.
I greeted him and apologised, saying it wasn’t a convenient time.
Could he come back another day?
‘No, I’m sorry, but I won’t be back for another year.’
My poor guests had to put up with the ding, dong, gong, song,
ting, again and again and again for about ten minutes. We couldn’t
move anywhere else as we were in the middle of our meal, so we
sat on, hardly hearing one another talk. Everyone except me thought
it was so funny.
Every couple of months we would get together with the Dorans
and the Fulchers who also lived in South-East Queensland,
reminiscing about our lives in the Outback. Jocelyn and Tim Doran
were great friends from the Northern Territory who worked on
several Vesley properties before moving south. We had a Territory
reunion one year, partying on until the early hours. We loved getting
together with our Territory mates.
My mother came to stay at the farm for a couple of weeks from
Wollongong, where she lived unhappily in a retirement village. ‘Full
of old people,’ she said.
When she was seventy-eight, my mother had a deep-seated
cerebral haemorrhage. We were still at Wave Hill at the time, but I
flew down to Wollongong expecting the worst. She recovered, even
flying up to Wave Hill for a visit and to America to visit Tim and
family in the following year. Knowing she was unhappy at the
retirement village, I wanted her to stay and live with us in
Queensland, but she said ‘no’. I wasn’t surprised—at the time our life
with a corner store and a dairy wasn’t an especially pleasant option
for a woman of her age.
About a year after her visit to us, my beautiful mother passed
away aged eighty-two, from another cerebral haemorrhage.
After the boys left school and worked or went to the university in
Toowoomba, they often brought their friends down to the farm. We
always had someone visiting.
Over the years we employed Mark Gardner, a farmer friend,
builder and great carpenter to help us improve the house. At one
stage the site for the washing machine was on the ground outside
the back door. We removed walls, enlarged the kitchen and
bathroom areas, and added verandas to the back and side of the
house. Years later, when I came to Toogoolawah for my dear friend
Jill Roughan’s funeral, I stayed the night at Bidgi. It seemed much
bigger than I remembered, and I was surprised at how comfortable
and pleasant it looked.
9
Back to nursing
With the boys still away at school, expenses were very high. I
decided I would go back to nursing, and in 1982 applied to Esk
Hospital where I was asked to relieve the night sister for a month. I
had been away from hospital work for twenty years, so it was a real
challenge, especially as I had to learn how to do x-rays and take
blood for pathology.
Esk Hospital was a small, thirty bed hospital 28 kilometres south
of Toogoolawah in the Brisbane Valley, mainly a nursing home for
the district but was also used for emergency cases. Critically ill
patients would arrive at the front door and ring the bell. The doctor
would then be called for and only first aid would be performed by
the nurse in charge until the doctor arrived. Seriously ill patients and
women in labour would be sent on to Ipswich Hospital by
ambulance.
It was a little nerve-racking, especially when I heard some of the
horror stories about patients who arrived too late.
A young teenager who had won a ticket to ride in a horse trial,
similar to a Quilty ride, through the town of Esk, had an enormous
allergic reaction to horsehair and died of an asthma attack on the
steps of the hospital.
Another story was of a young girl who, after spraying tomatoes
with a chemical spray, accidentally squirted some on her face, and
before she could get atropine she died in the car outside the
hospital, with her mother blasting the horn. Atropine is an
intravenous medication used to treat certain types of nerve agents
and pesticide poisonings.
There was a snake bite incident where the patient was bitten by a
brown snake on the ankle, which he had wrapped in his shirt.
Fortunately, he arrived at the hospital and was given the antivenom.
Though it saved his life, it took a year for the wound to heal.
Another case I heard of, but not at Esk, was a snake bite victim
who decided to drive himself to hospital instead of calling for help
and immobilising the wound. By the time he arrived at the hospital,
he was bleeding from every orifice and died.
With these stories in mind, I was lucky to have the Esk general
practitioner, who lived on the outskirts of town, to call when needed.
I would do my rounds as the registered nurse, with my assistant
nurse checking on the patients, particularly the incontinent ones.
This involved making a list of duties for the morning; collecting urine
specimens; taking blood and completing observations—temperature,
pulse and respiration—of all my patients.
Thankfully, nothing too drastic happened when I was on duty.
Several times I had to ring the doctor with lacerations, a broken
arm, and a patient with hypertension who hadn’t taken her pills.
While working there, I found a list of accidents from the Sky
Diving Ramblers at Toogoolawah. It was enough to turn me off ever
doing a parachute jump.
At the end of my month at Esk Hospital, I applied for night shift
work in a nursing home near Cloudland, in Fortitude Valley, Brisbane.
Cloudland Ballroom was an iconic entertainment centre in the
1950s–70s on the hilltop at Bowen Hills, and was the stuff of
dreams.
Not so the ward in the nursing home where I started work as the
night nurse. I had one floor of the nursing home in my charge, with
twenty or so elderly patients. Every morning I had to bathe or
shower every one of my patients before the morning staff came on
at 7 a.m. That meant getting them undressed and washing them, as
very few could wash and dress themselves. I was horrified at having
to start waking them up from 4.30 a.m.—and not before, so I was
told—so I would leave it a little later and then had to go flat out to
get them finished. Thank goodness bathing before breakfast is
forbidden in nursing homes today, unless the patient is incontinent.
After each ten-hour shift I would drive home to Toogoolawah, 118
kilometres away, feeling exhausted, so after a few weeks I left and
found a nursing home in Ipswich where I was offered day shifts in
one of their wards. This nursing home was for people who did not
need to be in hospital but could not be cared for at home. I still
remember the little old ladies there lying in bed in the foetal
position, being fed medications for all their bodily functions, just
waiting to die. All very sad to witness, but that is life and I did my
best to make them comfortable.
I only worked there for a month, as soon after, Bidgi Park was sold
and we moved to Murrawah, Oakey.
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