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depending on your That's my Limit!

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personal interests, Neutral.

don't be shy. I'll do it to you.

Wanna try.

At the core of communication and consent lies If you need further Like it.

the art of kink play. Baring your deepest, most Love it!
explanation of any of
FUCK YES!
intimate sexual encounters is an act of the kinks, you will
BUCKET LIST
vulnerability that can bring about a sense of find it in the
liberation and connection like no other. definitions of kinks.

If you're trying to spice up your sex life and peak your

partner's interest in having more kinky encounters, have
them try it, too!

Alright lets start off with a must have when doing any
scenes, Safe Words.
Color your preferred method or add in your own.
Be safe and enjoy!

Safe words
Unicorn
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Pineapple
Banana
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Lets start easy. . . Vanilla Control your Dress up time!
Kissing Orgasms Playsuit Babies
Cuddling Allowance Collar
Petting Bladder Mouth Gag
Handjob Style Latex
Cunnilingus Gender School Uniform
Sex Speech Nude
________________ Technology Use Blindfold
________________ Body Chastity Cage
Whole Life Cross-dress
Leather Leash
Right now the boring stuff is out of the way, lets have some fun. . .
Lingerie
Set toys Kinky, but how kinky? Uniform
Vibrator Dirty Talk High Heels
Clit Stimulator Rough Sex Pet Play
Nipple Clamps Deep Throat Horse Play
Anal Beads Swallowing Worn Clothes
Cock Ring Edging Pony Play
Handcuffs Face Sitting Embarrassing
Rope Teabagging Gimp
Ball Gag Tease / Denial
Ring Gag Ruined Orgasms
Anal Hook Balls licked
How are you going?
Bite Gag Rim job
Confused on some of the
Blackbooting Anal
definitions make sure to read
Cane Anal Toys more about them in the
Cat O'Nine Anal Fisting definitions provided below.
Tails Anal Penetration Then get coloring!

Clover Clamps Fingering

Crop Facials
Knife Play Hatefuck
Strap on
 Now the real fun.. well for your partner / dominant
Positions that get you going. . . Punishments by category below:
Doggy Style DISCOMFORT REFLECT
69 Tickling Chores
Standing 69 Anal Plugging Writing Lines
Cowgirl Pegging Corner | Bedtime
Reverse Cowgirl Mouth Soaping Wasting Time
Superman Enema _____________________
Scissor Sounding _____________________
Happy Scissor ____________________
Soap n Group HUMILIATE
Side Saddle Verbally RESTRICT
Forbidden Fruit Public Shaming Hand Cuffs
Missionary Degrading Leashed
Bowstring Petticoating Bondage
Butterfly Body Writing Cage | Celled
Arch Begging Reduced Privilege
Kneeling Doll Sex
Lusty Leg Lift Small Penis MENTAL LIMIT
Grasshopper Expose me Ignoring
Eating Gross Stuff Slut Shaming
Bite you, but how hard? Blackmailing
Mild Pain Bitchslapping Make me cry
Severe Pain Whipping
Leave Marks Clothespins
How should I get you to do
Trampling Genital Torture
something?
Caning Needles
Wax Play Fire | Heat Forced
Pinching _____________________ Trained
Biting _____________________ Persuaded
Choking _____________________ Tempted
Clamps _____________________ Told
Ice | Cold _____________________ Expected
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ASMR Hermaphrodite Now and then
Breath Play Other Cum Once a week
BBC Scat | Vomit Daily
Chasity Play Snot Play 24 / 7
Cosplay Smoking
How do you like your dominant ..
Drugs
TENs Machine Things you like to worship. . . is strict

Exhibitionism Pussy is gentle

FinDom Cock is mean

Food Play Ass is confident

Furries Breasts is cruel

Gang Bang Feet is playful

Glory Hole Shoes makes fun of me

Hair Play Panties leads me

Praise Kink your friends loves me

Hypnosis praises me
Where you like it
Lactation At home Call you. . .
Make up A safe place Daddy
Messy Stuff Open Locations Master
Monsters | Aliens Anywhere Mistress
Peeing Public Princess
Piercings How many fingers Fuck toy
Pregnancy 1 Finger petting Slut
Spit Play 1 Finger Teasing Whore
Tattoos 1 Finger in Pussy Bitch
Voyeurisms 2 Fingers in Pussy Sissy
Whore me out 3 Fingers in Pussy
Earwax & Toe jam Fist in Pussy
Electro Play 1 Finger in Ass What's your submissive level?
Flaccid 2 Fingers in Ass
Forced Intox 3 Fingers in Ass
Fist in Ass
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_____________________ Abduction Play Role Play
_____________________ Abrasion Play Swinging
_____________________ Age Play Watersports
_____________________ Anime Wax Play
_____________________ Animal Play Zantai
_____________________ Bagging Play Dominatrix
_____________________ Ball Busting Play Teacher
_____________________ Bastinado Therapist
_____________________ Blood Play Matriarchy
_____________________ Camming Play Keyholder
_____________________ Chemical Play Hotwife | Cuckold
_____________________ Cock Milking Sex Slave
_____________________ Creampie Prison Play
_____________________ Cruise Party Toilet Play
_____________________ Cuckqueen Play Medical Play
_____________________ Dollification Play Adult Baby
_____________________ Edge Play Footstool
_____________________ Electro Play Maid | Servant
_____________________ Frigging Stupid Whore
_____________________ Forced Orgasm Incest Play
_____________________ Gender Play Harsh Trainer
_____________________ Hair Bondage Predicament
_____________________ Hypno Play Bondage
_____________________ Impact Play _____________________
_____________________ Interrogation Play _____________________
_____________________ Japanese Bondage _____________________
_____________________ Mummification _____________________
_____________________ Needle Play _____________________
_____________________ Play Party _____________________
_____________________ Pony Play _____________________
_____________________ Queening _____________________
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KINKLIST
DEFINITIONS
At the core of communication and consent lies
the art of kink play. Baring your deepest, most
intimate sexual encounters is an act of
vulnerability that can bring about a sense of
liberation and connection like no other.
 Kinklist TIME TO EXPLORE
Color every Kink 'O' Meter
based on your interest
That's my Limit!
Welcome to the Slave's Kinklist, where we celebrate all
delightful kinks! Neutral.
I'll do it to you.
We're here to help you embrace your inner submissive and
Wanna try.
explore all the kinky corners of your mind.
Like it.
So come on in, let your kink flag fly, and get ready to Love it!
discover just how wonderful you really are!
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Spilling the beans about your bedroom desires to your
Dominant or Partner is like opening a treasure chest of
kinks and quirks. It's a wild ride of discovery and adventure
that will leave you both feeling like explorers of the erotic
unknown.
But let's be real, with all the kinky possibilities out there,
trying to make a definitive list is like trying to catch a
unicorn - it's just not gonna happen. Use the blank spaces
to add any desired sprinkles of spice and flavour to your
experience.
If you're looking to add some sizzle to your bedroom
shenanigans and ignite your partner's passion for more
adventurous escapades, why not encourage them to join in
on the fun?
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Bucket List
We've got a brand spanking NEW feature that'll let you spill
the beans on your deepest, darkest desires to your dom or
partner. Time to let them know what's on your kinky bucket
list!
Ah, yes, the elusive kink circle. It's like a secret
handshake for the BDSM community. Don't forget to give it
a little tickle when you're going through your list. It's the
universal sign that says, "Hey, I'm into some freaky stuff and
I'm not afraid to show it."
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STATING EASY, VANILLA
Kissing Let’s make out!
Cuddling to cuddle or not to cuddle.. can be used for after care soothing
or to start igniting the flame.
Petting Pat me, stroke me, Cuddle me and get a little handies.
Handjob Let your hands do the talking.
Blowjob Nothings better than a big dick in your mouth. Suck it!
Cunnilingus Lick me out, or I'll eat you out. You'll be begging me to stop.
Can be used as a form of torture if done right.
Sex You want to fuck?
LETS GET A LITTLE KINKY!
Dirty Talk Shut Your Mouth Or I’ll Leave You Tied Up And Walk Away.
You’re Going To Have To Earn This…
Rough Sex Tell me how rough is rough but if you say no limit then
prepare to be left with marks.
Deep Throat Open wide and say AHHHH, that's it take a cock until you
gag on it.
Swallowing Didn't mummy ever teach you to not waste meal. Now
swallow whole.
Facial Nothing like a little protein facial.. its good for your skin.
Edging Lets see how long you can last before you break and beg to cum..
Face Sitting When the Dominant sits on the submissive’s face as part of
D/s play
Teabagging How do you like your tea, white or black or just hairy?
Tease / Denial You can look but you cant touch… or cum! Enjoy how hot
as fuck I look making you horny.
Ruined Orgasms I love nothing more than to build you up, pull you
harder and harder, and push you to the limit. Then maybe I'll just stop.
Lets see how long you can last.
Rimjob I love nothing more than to build you up, pull you harder and
harder, and push you to the limit. Then maybe I'll just stop. Lets see how
long you can last.
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Hatefuck Sometimes I need to release my angry on you when we fuck. I
wont be soft and sweet.
Anal Fingering It's starts with the pinky and next...
Anal Fisting … you'll want the whole hand.
Anal Toys From vibrating eggs to prostate stimulation, I know how much
you fancy it when I shove any toys up your ass.
Anal Penetration Or maybe you'd my strap on or one of my friends dicks.
BITE YOU, BUT HOW HARD?
Mild Pain More about fun than punishments. But the sting will ignite the
flames inside or below.
Severe Pain Ouch that one stung.. one more time for good measure.
Leave Marks There's a fine line between pain and pleasure. Not here, you'll
have hand prints for days. Make sure to buy a pillow to sit down.
Bitchslapping A slap will bring you back inline.
Spanking Lets count to 10. Bend over, pants down, 1, 2, 3, pussy rub, 4, 5,
nipple squeeze, 6, 7, 8, clit flick, 9, 10...
Caning Bring back any school memories to you? They still hurt, now go
fetch my best cane.
Wax Play Drip, drip, drip.. so many places to drip hot wax over your skin.
Some cause pleasure.... some pain.
Pinching Hurtful pinches in your nipples, your genitals anywhere I can grab.
Scratching Getting claws out in sex. The kitten way.
Biting A little love bit, or maybe something harder for punishment.
Choking Yes it's sexy but. Do not attempt without proper education and
safety precautions
Ice & Coldness From ice cubes running down your body to cocksicles being
left inside you. Pain or pleasure depends how good you've been.
Trampling Do you like the feel of my heels on your cock, what about your
face?
Clothespins So many places to put clamps...
Genital Torture ahh someone likes pain. Pulling, twisting sound like fun...
Fire & Heat How does a chilli being inserted sounds...?
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DRESS UP TIME!
Playsuit Babies A little onesies maybe a nappy, while playing in your cot?
Blindfold Can intensifies your other senses.
Chastity Cage Steel or plastic cage that fits around your dick. Makes it
very tricky for your hands to touch. It usually comes with a lock.. don't
piss off the keyholder.
Collar Symbol of submission goes around your neck. Great to attach a
lead to and make you follow wherever I go.
Cross-dress Fancy a dress and fishnets...?
Mouth Gag Ball gags, dirty socks, or duct tape will help prevent you from
begging for release.
Latex A sexy look. Make sure your have the correct body lube to squeeze
into it.
Leather outfits are sexy, smooth, and have this irresistible BDSM style.
The smell can also heighten senses.
Leash Lets go for a little walk pet. Walk, Stop, Sit, Stay. You'll be tied up
until I let you play free.
Lingerie Comes in all shapes sizes, styles.
Nipple Clamps When attached, they are painful and are again very
painful when removed but can bring a very intense orgasm if timed just
right.
Uniform A sexy little sissy maid. You pick the uniform that brings the fire
out in you. But be warned, I'll treat you as whatever you dress. Start
cleaning the toilet!
School Uniform Football jock or nerdy boy.. what's the teachers fantasy,
High Heels The higher the sexier... they always say you should never
judge until you walk a mile in someone else shoes.
Nude birthday suit.
Embarrassing Let me dress you so all your friends, work mates laugh
when they see you in your Tootoo.
Worn clothes Off to the op shop to or the trash bins out the back. Same
clothes to be worn day after day.
Accessible Much easier to touch you whenever I want.
Gimp A body suit often with a face covering, sometimes with genital
openings made of plastic, pvc or leather often used for humiliation or
predicament
PUNISHMENTS
Reflect
Writing Lines Write 100 times "I'm a little sissy with flithy kinks"
Corner- / Bedtime Time out!! Go sit in the corner or to your bedroom and
don't come out until I say so.
Chores Bad behaviors = bad chores. Go pick up the dog poo with your
hands.
Wasting time Go fold the washing, then toss it on the ground and fold it
again.
Restrict
Hand Cuffs Taking away the ability to use your hands can turn many people
on. I can already tell you like it.
Leashed You'll be by my side when I need you and chained up when I don't.
Bondage Well-done bondage can leave some pretty beautiful rope marks. I
can do anything I want while your bound tight.
Cage/Cell me Cage training isn't only for dogs. . . Don't worry I'll put a mat
down if you need to pee.
Privilege reduction To have the right taken away from sleeping in your bed
or sitting on the couch.
Mental limits
Ignoring enough said. . .
Slut-shaming Let's face it, is it really slut shaming when I'm just being
honest.
Blackmailing if you pay my bills and keep my house clean I'll let you cum. . .
maybe
Make me cry Not hard to make you cry, your such a pussy.
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Discomfort
Mouth Soaping If you have a dirt little mouth than there's only one way
to clean it... open wide.
Tickling I have to admit the thought of tickling you until you piss your
panties is sexy as fuck!
Enema Administering enemas to yourself, leaving the masturbate-as-you-
expel bit out, and ask your doc if that’s a problem.
Anal Plugging How long can you last. Will your work find out your
naughty little secret.
Sounding Inserting objects into the urethra for sexual and/or mental
pleasure.
Humiliate
Verbally You like to be verbally assaulted and called names.
Public Shaming I love watching you squirm in shamed in public in front of
your friends and family. I can see you already getting a boner.
Degradation Well you are fucken useless arn't you.
Petticoating Forced feminization that involves dressing a man or boy in
girls' clothing as a form of humiliation or punishment, or as a fetish.
Body Writing Should I write me name on your face or just a big fat penis
then send you out to get groceries.
Begging Please, let me cum at least once a month, pleeeease!“ music to
my ears when I hear you begging for release.
Sex with a Doll You wanted to fuck a girl, here meet Cindy. Dress her like
a whore and fuck her like one too.
Small Penis I don't know who's punishing you.. I have to look at that tiny
thing..
Diapering Let's face it you just want to be mothered and shit your pants.
You wont enjoy it when I leave you to sit in it.
Expose me Of course you also like people to know how small your cock
is. Come to meet my friends and let them see that small penis.
Eat disgusting Instead of a cup of coffee you'll be enjoying a cup of pee.
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WHAT'S YOUR SUBMISSIVE LEVEL?
Be honest, so I know where you stand. It's hard to let go and have someone
take over for a while. Life can be hard but I'll make it that much sweeter.
WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO WORSHIP?
Tell me what you like to worship, my toes, my feet, my armpits. I want to
know everything that turns you on.
HOW DO YOU LIKE YOUR DOMINANT ..
What makes your dominant unique, what mood do you like best, and what
behaviour ignites fire inside you?
SEX TOYS
Anal Plug Like a dildo but shaped slightly different, with a flared base to
prevent it from entirely entering the rectum
Ring gag A type of gag consisting of a metal ring which is then placed into
the mouth as a way to hold it open
Cane A thin rod used from striking commonly made of hardwood bamboo
or acrylic
Clover Clamps A specific type of nipple clamp with a level mechanism to
which a chain is affixed in such a way that pulling increases pressure on the
clamp
Cock Ring A device put around the penis to keep an erection
Collar A symbol used to represent a submissive or slave is owned. Can be
an actual collar but can also be an anklet, bracelet, or anything the couple
decides on
Vibrator A device used for massage or sexual stimulation
Clit Stimulator A device used for massage or sexual stimulation
Anal Beads Grab some lube. You can use anal beads alone or with a
partner.
Handcuffs Used as a form of restraint. Would be terrible if I lost the key…
Rope Sex play that involves tying, restraining, or binding a person with rope
Ball Gag A rubber ball that is attached to a collar and is used for the man or
woman to bite or suck on during sexual activity. Like sucking a mans
massive testicle.
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Anal Hook A hook that is placed in the anus and used for control
Blackbooting Using a shoe heel as an anal dildo
Bit Gag A style of mouth gag that is cylindrical
Cat O'Nine Tails Whip with nine tails or lashes
Crop A think flexible tool used for striking, sometimes made from
bamboo, wood or acrylic
Knife Play This involves using a knife blade to either psychologically
induce an adrenaline rush by gliding a knife across the body, or with
actual cutting. Considered a form of edge play
Strap on me or you everyone loves a bit of pegging or DP
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Breath Play Many different ways to do breath play however it can be
dangerous so make sure you understand the correct methods and use
safe words, phrases or signals throughout.
Big Black Cocks We can work up to it, but once you go black you never
go back.
Chastity Play No jerking off for you any time soon.
Cosplay Is it Kyoko Kirigiri from Danganronpa or Tinker Bell from Peter
Pan. I'm down for it all.
Drugs Other drugs that enhance the sex experience. Be curious but
cautious when experimenting. Always remember to be safe.
TENs Machine Play Especially for beginners, it’s a weird sensation and
could turn into punishment with I flick of a switch. Bzzzz!
Exhibitionism I bet you love exposing your wee willy wonka to poor
unexpecting strangers.
Findom Financial domination - send me a message NOW. You dom
demands it.
Food Play Cover me in whip cream and call me desert.
Furries Thats a good little boy, come here and let me pat you.
Gang Bang Nothing like a whole football team to use you like their little
slave.
Glory Hole We all know you've fantasied about sucking a random cock in
the public toilet glory hole.
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Hair Play Touching, smelling, plating it. Or do you want to shave it? Either
way hair play can be very sensual.
Hypnosis I'll have you eating out of my hands while your doing the chicken
dance and you wont remember a thing.
Lactation Ah a mummy's boy. You want mummy to feed you honey? Come
here I have the perfect tits full of delicious milkies.
Make-Up Want to do a girls night and put on each other makeup?
Messy Stuff This could be anything from rolling in mud to messy food play.
Monsters & Aliens Nothing like a bit of fucking a big alien cock if it means
saving the planet right..?
Peeing Watersports are my favorite, nothing gives me more pleasure than
you eating my pussy while I piss on your face.
Piercings Dydoe/king’s crown, Prince Albert there's many to choose from.
Pregnancy The beauty of pregnant lady. This is something to worship.
Spit & Snot Oh, that’s so easy and degrading. Spit in your mouth and call
you a slut.
Earwax & Toe jam Do you the best place to collect earwax? My ear buds,
come have some breakfast.
Flaccid play Such an ugly droopy thing when soft. Let me flick it.
Forced Intox Enhance this with alcohol or other drugs.
Hermaphrodite Or the Japanese term Futanari. You want the best of both
worlds, mostly a feminine body with male and female sexual organs.
Others Cum Do you know how much other animals cum? Come here and
find out I have a surprise for you.
Scat & Vomit Some people are into this.
Smoking Does the smell of smoke in your face disgust you. Come closer.
Tattoos hmm let me choose what tattoo I’ll make you wear for life. Nothing
says mine like my face… 😉
Voyeurisms You like to sit in the corner and watch me actually enjoy
myself. Fine, be my guest.
Whore me out With pleasure, let me make some calls.
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Age Play When one person takes on an older role and one person takes
on a younger role, such as a father-daughter scenario.
Dominatrix A ruthless lady in charge who tortures you to death. Well it
will feel like that after she is done with you...
Teacher hmm nothing sexier than naughty cheerleader or those short
school skirts.
Therapist Lay down, let your therapist explain why you are so pathetic
and need to worship your dominant.
Medical Play Bend over and pants down. Doctors here to check your
temperature. Enemas, piercings, the options are endless with this doctor.
Prison Play Want to be left in a cell, forced to masturbate or maybe you
need be to whipped to get in line. Let me get my prison guard outfit.
Matriarchy Who runs the world, GIRLS. Accept it.
Keyholder Someone who holds the key to your cage or Chasity belt..
don't piss me off wouldn't like me to misplace it.
Rape Fantasy Some people like to be feel forced into doing something. It
can be sexy. Just be safe and always use a safe word, phrase or signal.
Sex Slave You will do as your told. If I tell you to suck my friend off, get
on your knees.
Stupid Whore Ah another dumb blonde. Bend over and do as your told.
Toilet Play Do you like watching people at the toilet, cleaning some dirty
toilets, or even being a toilet yourself?
Adult Baby Tell me what turns you on, is it diapers, being cared for from
mummy or you just want to sit there and stuck your thump?
Footstool My legs are sore, come here I need to put them up.
Maid/Servant I like my maids naked so i can see that everything is clean.
Pet Play Come here pet I want to pat you.
Incest Play Oh so dirty, so is it step sister, step brother... mother?
Harsh Trainer Get down and give me 10, then 20 and when you fail ill
whip you.
Abrasion Play Using something rough like sandpaper or a brush to
provide stimulation
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Hair Play Touching, smelling, plating it. Or do you want to shave it? Either
way hair play can be very sensual.
Anime A style of animated cartoon developed in Japan in which some
people find a fetish dressing up or having sex with a partner who is dressed
as an Anime character
Animal Play Kink where one partner, usually the submissive pretends to be
an animal often at the amusement, training, grooming, and affection of the
Dominant
Bagging Play Suffocation using a bag over someone’s head as a turn on.
Always be SAFE.
Ball Busting Play The act of inflicting intense pain to a man’s genitals, either
by kicking, punching, slapping, caning, etc for his pleasure
Bastinado Impact play involving the soles of the feet
Blood Play Drawing of blood during play
Bondage Acts Involving the physical restraint of a partner
Breath Play A form of play when one participant controls the breath of the
other. This may include choking or asphyxiation
Camming Play Sex via the internet, with the use of webcams to view either
or both directions
Chemical Play Using chemicals to produce sensation – such as tiger balm,
menthol, rubbing alcohol, toothpaste, wintergreen oil, Tabasco sauce,
ginger, peppermint
Cock Milking The practice of forcing a male to discharge semen through
the penis through prostrate massage without experiencing a pleasurable
orgasm. This can be done in domination humiliation play to arouse, frustrate
or humiliate a submissive
Creampie Visuals of male ejaculate dripping, squeezed or overflowing from
the vagina or ass hole in which it was ejaculated
Cruise Party A party set up with the purpose of bringing people together
who may be interested in hooking up with someone for play
Cuckqueen Play The female role who has sex with other men while her
partner watches for the means of control and humiliation
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Dollification Play Turning into a living dol, often as a desire to be owned,
as in Owner/doll which is similar to Master/slave or Dom/sub. This
inclused physical traits of stiletto heels, rubber suites, dresses, makeup,
etc and metnal traits such as objectification and subservience
Electro Play Kink play that involves electrically-charged objects such as
violet wants, stun guns, cattle prods
Figging Inserting a prepared ‘finger’ of ginger root into the anus, the
burning sensations is said to bring intense pleasure
Forced Orgasm Play An orgasm that is induced on a person against their
will
Gender Play A type of BDSM play when an individual in a scene takes on
the role of the opposite gender.
Hair Bondage Technique where the hair is secured in a way as to limit
mobility of the head and also done for the sensation it gives
Hypno Play Kink play where a Dom hypnotizes a sub in order to make
them believe they are bonded
Impact Play A type of BDSM play that involves striking the body. This
can be done with whips, canes, paddles, a hand, flogger, riding crop, or
other instrument
Interrogation Play A play scene that includes cross examination or
torture
Japanese Bondage A more common term is Shibari, where one partner
ties the other in beautiful and intricate patterns of rope as a method of
restraint but can also be an art form
Mummification Immobilizing the body by wrapping it up usually with
layers of food film or shrink wrap that creates a feeling of total body
helplessness and sometimes used as sensory deprivation
Knife Play This involves using a knife blade to either psychologically
induce an adrenaline rush by gliding a knife across the body, or with
actual cutting. Considered a form of edge play
Neddle Play This involves using needles on a partner, involves sticking a
needle (temporarily) through a body part or erogenous zone
Play Party Social gathering where guests can engage in BDSM activity
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Predicament Bondage A type of bondage where the intent is to place the
bound person in an awkward, difficult, inconvenient or uncomfortable
situation
Pony Play Where the submissive takes on the role of a horse, some are into
dressage, being paraded around on show, grooming, etc
Queening When a woman (the queen you must worship) shits on your face,
another term for face-sitting, often used in D/s play
Role Play When one or more people take on a different identity during a
scene to fulfill a desire or fantasy. Examples may include teacher-student,
doctor-patient, or boss-employee role plays.
Swinging Non monogamous recreational sex with the consent, knowledge
and often reciprocal participation of one’s partner. This often does not
include a romantic relationship with the swinging partner and can be just
one night, at a swinging party, event, or otherwise one off act
Watersports Play that involves urination, also referred to as golden shower
Wax Play When the top drips hot wax onto the bottom
Zentai A socially popular subculture derivative from Japan – Zentai is a
skintight stretchy full body suit often made from nylon or spandex, that
covers everything. Zentai means different things to different people – for
some it is anonymity, for others, it means liberation from judgment.
Wearing the Zentai suit takes away or diminishes the senses at the same
time it warps them, since touch, sight, smell, is hampered, emotions become
heightened. Often worn for events, grinding parties, in dance, or cosplay,
they heighten the fetish, kink and bondage experience
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 forbidden
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SEX POSITIONS

missionary
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lusty leg lift

bowstring
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butterfly

kneeling
 THE BDSM
CONTRACT
At the core of communication and consent lies
the art of kink play. Baring your deepest, most
intimate sexual encounters is an act of
vulnerability that can bring about a sense of
liberation and connection like no other.
 contract BDSM
____________(Dominant’s Name) and ___________________ (submissive’s
Name) agree to the following, effective from _______________ (Date) to
_______________ (Date), at which time this contract will end or be
renegotiated.
Any participant may also choose to end this contract before that time,
for any reason.
MEDICAL CONSIDERATIONS:
List any medical conditions, disabilities, or medications that might be relevant
during play.
Dominant:
_________________________________________________________________________________
Submissive:
_________________________________________________________________________________
Additional Participants:
__________________________________________________________________________
OTHER SAFETY CONSIDERATIONS:
List emotional safety considerations and needs, including potential triggers.
Dominant:
_________________________________________________________________________________
SAFE WORDS AND SIGNALS:
The following words or signals will be used to stop play immediately:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
The following words or signals will be used to mean “slow down” or “I’m
approaching my limit” (optional):
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
PLAYING WITH OTHERS:
Indicate whether, and under what circumstances, participants may play with
others.
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
SOFT LIMITS:
List any acts, scenarios, language, or locations that may cause discomfort and
require additional conversation/frequent check-ins:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
HARD LIMITS:
List any acts, scenarios, language, or locations that are off-limits and should be
avoided during play:

Submissive: _________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
Additional Participants:
__________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
TERMS OF ADDRESS:
The following names or titles will be used by participants to refer to each other
during play: DEVICES AND EQUIPMENT:
List devices, toys, equipment, or accessories that may be used during play.
Dominant:
_________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
Submissive:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
Additional Participants: _________________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________
 contract BDSM
SUBMISSIVE’S BEHAVIOR AND RESPONSIBILITIES:
The submissive agrees to respect and serve the Dominant, and to abide by the
following rules of conduct:
Mealtimes:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
Dress:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
Appearance and grooming:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
Serving the Dominant:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
Self-pleasure and masturbation:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
Public conduct:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
Other:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
DOMINANT’S RESPONSIBILITIES:
The Dominant agrees to respect the submissive and act in a way that promotes
their health, safety, and wellbeing. The Dominant will be responsible for guiding
and training the submissive in the following areas:
Serving the Dominant:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
Pleasing the Dominant sexually:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
Proper behavior in private and public:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
Other:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
AFTERCARE:
List any activities needed or desired after play has concluded to help
participants transition back to everyday life.
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
 contract BDSM PUNISHMENTS AND DISCIPLINE"

RITUALS AND ROUTINES:

The submissive will be punished for the following:

List any special activities that you’ll engage in together to:

Failing to use proper terms of address for Dominant
Punishment(s):
Initiate a scene:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
End a scene:
_________________________________________________________________________________
Showing disrespect to Dominant
_________________________________________________________________________________
Punishment(s):
_________________________________________________________________________________
Reconnect after time apart:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

Remind each other of your commitment:

_________________________________________________________________________________
Violating rules of conduct
_________________________________________________________________________________
Punishment(s):
_________________________________________________________________________________
Other rituals:
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
Other Punishment(s):
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
 contract BDSM SIGNATURES
BDSM CONTRACT
BREACH OF CONTRACT:
This contract will be considered null and void if:
PARTICIPANT 1
Any party ignores or disregards safe words or hard limits.
(DOMINANT)
Any party fails to discuss/check in before proceeding with an act listed
DATE: ________________________________
under “soft limits.”
Any party causes lasting harm (physical, psychological, or emotional). NAME: ________________________________

SIGNATURE:__________________________________
CONFIDENTIALITY:
All parties agree to hold in confidence the terms of this contract unless
discussed and agreed upon in advance: PARTICIPANT 2
_________________________________________________________________________________ (SUBMISSIVE)
_________________________________________________________________________________
DATE: ________________________________

NAME: ________________________________
ADDITIONAL CONSIDERATIONS/RULES/REQUESTS:
_________________________________________________________________________________ SIGNATURE:__________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
ADDITIONAL PARTICIPANT 1
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________ DATE: ________________________________

_________________________________________________________________________________ NAME: ________________________________

_________________________________________________________________________________
SIGNATURE:__________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________ ADDITIONAL PARTICIPANT 2

_________________________________________________________________________________ DATE: ________________________________

_________________________________________________________________________________
NAME: ________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________ SIGNATURE:__________________________________

_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
 SCENE SET UP
Negotiations
It's a shame there aren't more resources out
there on how to negotiate a scene. I mean,
when starting out how are we supposed to
know what to say or do to get things going in
the right direction?

It's like trying to find a needle in a haystack,

but instead of a needle, it's a kinky
conversation. We need some guidance on how
to get the ball rolling, if you know what I mean.

Don't be shy, my dear kinksters! Let me break

it down for you. These tips will have you
negotiating your kinks and BDSM like a pro.
Get ready to spice things up in the bedroom!
Scene Set up NEGOTIATIONS
Are you ready to get kinky with your partner and explore the
world of BDSM? Let's talk about your deepest desires and
create a scene that will leave you begging for more.
Time to ask yourself a few questions:
What do you crave to do?
What naughty desires are lurking in your mind?
Do you want to be tied up and teased mercilessly? Or
perhaps you yearn to be spanked until your cheeks are
rosy red? The possibilities are endless, my dear.
Do you crave your partner to submit to you or will you
surrender all control let them dominant you and be taken
on a wild ride of pleasure and pain?
And what kinky scenarios are playing out in that dirty
little mind of yours?
What kind of kinky sensations are you craving? Do you
want to tremble with fear, quiver with arousal, or giggle
with amusement? Let's explore the depths of your
desires and see where they take us.
Once you've got the basic idea, it’s time to start building a
scene in a way that makes sense to you.
Will there be impact play? Are we gonna make your
cheeks rosy and your heart race with every smack? What
wicked desires do you have!
Tell me, what tools of torment do you crave to have
inflicted upon your helpless body or on your partners?
Do you yearn for a good old-fashioned penetration or do
you simply want to be toyed with in all your naughty
nooks and crannies?
Where do you desire to be tied up and punished?
Now that you've got a kinky idea of what you want to
happen, and you'll have a loose concept in your head of
how things will occur... It's time to get kinky and have a safe
word.
If you're the one approaching your sub, do so with a paddle
and willingness to administer punishment. All jokes aside,
always have open communication and discuss all soft and
hard limits before entering a scene.
If you're the sub being approached, the choice to engage in
play with someone is completely up to your….. dom. But
hey, don't worry, you can always use your safe word if
things get too spicy for your vanilla taste. No pressure, just
pleasure. But again always have open communication and
kneel before your dom and ask questions, confess your
confusion and express any concerns before entering into a
scene.
Kink shaming is a big no-no in our BDSM community. If your
partner wants to get freaky and you're not feeling it, just
safeword out. BDSM is all about communication and trust.
When it comes to BDSM, it's always best to assume that
anything not explicitly discussed during negotiations is a
hard limit. So, if your partner didn't mention they're into
being tickled with a feather duster, don't even think about
bringing it up. Stick to the script, folks!
Use the Negotiation checklist on the next page to create
your desired scene.
If you need inspiration refer back to your Kinklist tab.
NEGOTIATIONS CHECKLIST

DOMINIANT IMPACT PLAY BONDAGE

SUBMISSIVE MARKS SENSATION METHOD TYPE METHOD

SWITCH YES | NO For today Stinging Hands Suspension Rope

For a week Thudding Feet Decorative Leather
For a month Both Toys: Floor Cuffs
For a year Other _____________ Other: Other:
Serious Degraded Other:
Forever _____________ _____________ _____________ _____________
Playful Beautiful _____________
None _____________ _____________ _____________ _____________
Erotic Peaceful _____________
Submissive Relaxed _____________
MENTAL PLAY RESTRICTIVE PLAY
Dominant Sadistic _____________
TYPE TYPE
Platonic Masochistic _____________

Edge play Shaming Gag Blindfolds

Dirty talk Humiliating Collars Restraints
Fingers Toys: Will condoms
Mind fuck Exhibitionism Cages Breath
Penis _____________ be used?
Sensory Other: Other:
Tongue _____________ YES
Deprivation __________________ _____________ _____________
Other: _____________ NO
_____________ _____________
_____________ _____________
_____________ _____________

Safe Word - STOP Kissing Biting _____________ Water 0-5 minutes

__________________________ Hair pulling Hand touch _____________ Snacks 5-15 minutes
Safe Word - Proceed with caution Licking pressure points _____________ Socialising 15-60 minutes
__________________________ Cuddling playing with hair _____________ Sleep over Let me be
Safe Word - more please! Tickling Groping _____________ Conversations ______________________
__________________________ Orgasms Sex _____________ Checking in tomorrow ______________________
Safe cues - Non-verbal STOP
__________________________
 TOOLS FOR SCENE NEGOTIATIONS
Okay Kinksters, select the highlighter options or pen

Touch & impact and get ready to mark your territory on that
drawing.

zones Show me where it's safe to touch and where you

want to feel the impact. Let's get creative and make
this a masterpiece of pleasure and pain.

Make sure to show me where it already hurts hurts.

Circle any body part that has any pre-existing
conditions ie. like that low back pain.

GREEN = SAFE ZONE YELLOW = USE CAUTION RED = NO ZONE

EXAMPLE

FRONT BACK
HEALTH INFORMATION

PHYSICAL CONCERNS / CONDITIONS

NAME

CONTACT

ROLE

ALLERGIES
_________________________________________

_________________________________________

_________________________________________

MEDICATION
NAME

CONTACT

RELATIONHIP

MENTAL HEALTH CONCERNS / CONDITION (List any triggers, if applicable and things you find
helpful for grounding)
 Before you dive into the kinky abyss of BDSM,
make sure you're aware of the importance of
aftercare.

Don't leave your sub hanging (literally or

AFTERCARE
figuratively) without some tender love and
care afterwards.

BDSM aftercare is like the cherry on top of a

deliciously kinky sundae. It's the perfect way to
make sure your sub doesn't end up with any
lasting scars...unless, of course, that's what
you're going for!

But even if your scene isn't too intense, a little

aftercare can go a long way in keeping your
sub feeling loved and cared for.

Discover how indulging in some kinky

aftercare can help soothe the delightful agony
that comes with a mind-blowing scene.
 Aftercare Your mind and heart may be drained, your connection with
your partner may be on the fritz, and you might be
scratching your head over why you're getting off on this
kinky sh*t. Oh, don't worry, my dear sub you may feel so
You don't want your sub to be a hot mess, do you? Plus,
disoriented and disconnected from your body, this is
who doesn't love cuddling.
common and known as sub drop
A BDSM scene is always a powerful thing, even if you've
Other symptoms may include:
done it a hundred times before. It's like a good cup of coffee
- it may not seem intense, but it'll still give you a kick in the
Lethargy
ass. Your filthy flesh vessel will quiver with delight as you
Inability to regulate temperature
push it to its absolute limits, begging for more punishment.
High or low blood pressure
Nausea
That rush of adrenaline and endorphins is gonna leave your
Pain
body in a deliciously temporary state of imbalance. Oh, the
Headaches
sweet agony of those chemicals abandoning your being,
Dizziness
commonly referred to as sub drop, can be just as unsettling
Weak muscles
as a clown at a funeral.
Lack of focus
Unconsciousness
Let's talk about cortisol - the kinky little hormone that gets
released when you're feeling stressed. It's like your body's
This could be quite the shock to your system, but isn't that
way of saying "yes, please, give me more!" you naughty
what you secretly crave? It will be sweet relief of having
little thing! You might be begging for more of these kinky
your dominant guide and care for you after a wild ride of
activities and even find them to be the ultimate stress
pleasure and pain. They're like your personal BDSM
reliever, but your body will react accordingly. If you're
therapist, helping you come down from subspace with ease
continuously stressed your body will keep pumping out
and comfort.
cortisol like a sadistic Dom on a power trip. And we all know
what happens when your immune system gets compressed -
Aftercare is the perfect time to whip off the handcuffs and
it's like being tied up and gagged, unable to fight off any
reconnect on a deeper level. Perhaps you've been
pesky viruses or infections.
transported to a kinky dimension by your dom, or maybe
you've just gone full subby and retreated into your own mind
If you were on the receiving end, you might be sore from
dungeon.
receiving deliciously painful punishments or being bound in
positions that make you squirm with pleasure. ;)
Giving and receiving BDSM aftercare is like a kinky version
of "I scratch your back, you scratch mine". It's the perfect
way to bond with your partner after a wild session of
domination and submission.
 Aftercare 3. Physical Contact and Relaxation
Post-bdsm cuddles and care.
Aftercare's touchy-feelyness depends on your bond. Some
like it slow, some like to snuggle. Get kinky with a sensual
After all, we can't just leave you hanging there
massage! It keeps you connected and soothes those sore
The craze for snuggling and stuffing your face after a scene
muscles from all the naughty play.
has resulted in BDSM aftercare being dubbed as "cuddles
and calories." However, there are several kinky activities
Orgasms = happy. Keep the mood up after playtime.
that are effective in providing aftercare for your submissive.

Wrap up your sub in a snuggly blanket or robe for some

1. Tenderly Tending to Bruises and Welts
post-scene TLC! Cosy PJs, slippers, and cuddles boost
Make sure to give those bruises and abrasions the proper
oxytocin!
punishment they deserve. And don't forget to give them
some TLC afterwards, because after all, we want them to
4. Zzzz...
heal up nicely for the next round. ;) This could involve
Get some rest after a wild BDSM session, it's important!
scrubbing and wrapping up wounds, massaging a tender
Some need a nap, some need a full night's rest. Let's repair
butt that's been spanked to a rosy hue, or chilling out with
and return to normal together ;)
an ice pack to ease swelling in any naughty bits.

5. Talk and giggle!

A kinky first aid kit is an absolute must-have for any BDSM
BDSM scene done? Time to chat and giggle with your
enthusiast. You never know when a flogging session might
partner! Let's chat about what we loved or want to switch up
get a little too intense or when a ball gag might accidentally
in our scene! Hold off on critique for BDSM babes.
cause a choking hazard. Plus, nothing says "I care about
your safety" like having a well-stocked medical kit on hand
6.Bath and Beauty Playtime!
for all your post-play needs. So go ahead, add some extra
Bath time = ultimate aftercare. Bath bomb or bubbles? Soak
spice to your BDSM play and make sure you've got a first
and soothe! Light some candles or incense to set the mood.
aid kit ready to go. Safety first, kinksters!
;)
2. Refill time, baby!
Beauty = Stability for some women. Pampering yourself with
Drink up, baby. Water or Gatorade? Electrolytes are waiting.
hair, makeup, or lotion after a shower can relieve stress and
Sip some tea, kinky. Thirsty skin, sunkissed eyes, parched
make you feel fabulous!
mouth, and speedy breaths mean you need more water!

7. Chillaxin' Fun!
Snack time for body balance! Pick a fruity snack to recharge
Chill activities are great for aftercare! Reading can be kinky
after playtime! Munching on salty treats can perk up your
fun. Some people like to colour because it is repetitive and
potassium levels after dehydration. Sip a sweet smoothie to
relaxing. Playing video games might help you regain your
fix sugar and thirst in one go!
grounding.
 Aftercare
8. The Entertainment of Choice
Don't forget to put on some soothing tunes or watch your
favourite flick to unwind after a scene! Well, that's no fun!
Ah, the classic plot twist! It's like a rollercoaster ride, but for
your emotions.
Final comments on aftercare
Aftercare is like a warm, fuzzy blanket for your soul after a
BDSM session. It's the cherry on top of your kinky sundae.
Don't skip it.
Whether you're a naughty sub or a bossy dom, you might
find yourself in dire need of some kinky aftercare every now
and then.
It's a no-brainer that you wouldn't want to play with
someone who isn't willing to give you the proper aftercare.
But let's be real, the type of aftercare you need varies as
outlined above.
Ah, sweet masochist, don't forget the importance of
aftercare, even if you're playing solo. Give yourself some
love and attention, you deserve it after all that fun. Some
people enjoy a bit of self-flagellation. It's their responsibility
to tend to their whipped flesh and ensure they don't end up
in the ER. Safety first, but pain and pleasure always. Oh,
baby, self-bondage can be a real thrill. Just make sure you
don't get yourself into a sticky situation you can't get out of.
Unless, of course, that's what you're into. *wink* Perhaps
you should consider recruiting a loyal companion to assist
with your aftercare needs, lest you find yourself in a state of
solitary distress.
As crucial as BDSM aftercare is, it can sometimes be as
simple as a spank on the butt and a pat on the head.
Sometimes, your sub's desires may seem daunting or kinky,
but it's your duty to ensure their emotional and physical
well-being.

Aftercare is something that can be discussed or written into

BDSM contracts, but the former is more common. For some,
aftercare is as natural as a safeword during a spanking
session. You might not even have realised that the spanks
you share with your sub after a BDSM interaction are part of
BDSM foreplay. Oh, they are indeed! And they better be
ready for some kinky fun!
POST SCENE
REFLECTIONS
Reflecting on the scene is a kinky way to
gossip about what went down between you
two after the fun and games.

Each submissive can kneel before their

dominant and confess what went well during
their last scene, what they'd like to be
punished for, and what kinky desires they
want to explore next.

It's a fantastic way to ensure that the Dom and

Sub are on the same kinky wavelength.
SHORT RECAP OF THE SCENE

THINGS THAT WENT WELL

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 Kink roulette
Why not spice things up by playing a game of "Kink Roulette"? Blindfold yourself and pick a number between 1- 6 and a letter
between A - F. Your partner | Dom will use the grid below to work out what the secret kink will be tonight. Will it land on "spanking"?
"Role-playing"? "Wearing a clown nose"? Who knows! It's like a surprise party, but with more leather.

A b c d e f
Dress up Tied up
1 Spank Naughty Tickling Blind folded
Teacher Ear plugs

2 Pegging Wax Play Anal Good girl

praise

Dress up
3 Swallowing Creampie Whore
Watersports
No touching
Dress up Face Sex
4 each other
Self play only
Edging Pony play sitting Slave
Latex Tied up Dress as
5 Biting Outfit Blind folded
Ear plugs opposite sex
Nipple Leather Good girl
6 Clamps Leash praise