16 Personalities, Love and Apology Languages

How do they connect? What do they tell us about ourselves?

CLC 12 Curriculum Essential Questions
 How do we incorporate our personal worldviews and perspectives into our lived
values, actions and preferred futures?
 How do we identify self-advocacy strategies while building social capital, transferable
skills, including intercultural, leadership, and collaboration skills?

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Now that you have completed the Love Languages, Apology Language and Anger Assessment
quizzes; it is time to reflect again on your 16 Personalities results.

Write the four letters of your 16 Personality Type (NOT THE NAME – THE LETTERS):
ISFP-T

Look up your type again on www.16Personalities.com.

What is the NAME of your personality type?

Adventurer

Write down your top 3 discoveries about yourself according to your 16 Personalities Portfolio
under Romance.

1. Under the Romantic Relationships section of the 16 Personalities test, it says that
Adventurer types are quite guarded and hard to get to know. This is because they are
very emotional and keep their guard up, preferring to listen rather than talk with their
partner about their emotions. ISFPs don’t like to dictate the tone of the conversation and
prefer to match the other person’s energy.

2. ISFPs prefer to let their partner lead the relationship. Apparently, they are not great
long-term planners, but love to live in the moment and be spontaneous. Adventurers
love to surprise their partner, and quality time is the most common love language
among these types.

3. ISFPs want validation and need to feel like their partner values their attention. Their
feelings get hurt if they feel under appreciated, but they are not the type to confront their
partner when feeling down. Often, this type is vulnerable to criticism and conflict, and
avoid confrontation at all costs, because they don’t want either person to feel hurt.

Bonus: ISFPs are scared of commitment / long term relationships 😄

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How do they connect? What do they tell us about ourselves?
Click on the Friendship tab. Write down your top 3 discoveries about yourself according to your
16 Personalities Portfolio.
1. In friendships, ISFPs are open-minded, empathetic and have deep appreciation for
people who are different than them. They are the types of friends that are there for you
in every situation, and always offer a shoulder to cry on. Adventurers are great at
picking up emotional cues and are great listeners.

2. ISFPs are generally reserved and sensitive, but doing fun activities with their friends
helps them get past their shyness when it comes to meeting new people. It takes time
for Adventurers to build up trust with new people, but when they are with friends that
they trust, they can relax and enjoy themselves. They get along with almost anyone
since they are non-judgmental, but if the person they are meeting is demanding or
arrogant, they will not connect.

3. ISFPs appreciate friends that are easygoing and supportive and are usually happy to be
with that person in any situation. Lots of personal space and freedom is essential in
friendships with Adventurers, since they like to figure things out on their own.
Adventurers also respect others’ boundaries and don’t usually give their personal
opinions on someone’s life.

Do you believe this is an accurate depiction of how you view/treat friendship? Why or why or
not?
I think this description is a very accurate depiction of how I behave within friendships and
relationships. I tend to be very shy and closed off to people that I don’t know or don’t trust, but
once I am comfortable, I am the type of friend that is the biggest cheerleader. I am open-
minded and not quick to judge, but don’t like people who seem arrogant or materialistic. One
thing that I don’t agree with is where the website says that ISFPs value actions over words. I
appreciate being in the know, or feel like I know what’s going on, and I like to be assured with
words. As for relationships, I am definitely someone who stresses over the future and I am
scared of planning long-term goals. I am a pretty “live in the moment” type of person, so that
part resonated with me. The website also says that quality time is an ISFP’s primary love
language, which is definitely accurate for me. Overall, this description is scary accurate, and I
feel like I resonate with 99% of the statements in these categories.

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How do the Friendship and Romance sections of 16 Personalities relate to your apology and
love languages? Be specific.
Since ISFPs are empathetic, non confrontational and good listeners in their friendships and
relationships, it makes sense that my main form of apologizing is expressing regret. I am the
type of person who will let it be known how remorseful I feel for jeopardizing our relationship,
and then show them how I will change in the future. According to the quiz, my apology
languages are 36% expressing regret, 28% planned change, 16% accept responsibility, 12%
request forgiveness and 8% make restitution. For me, this order is kind of like an action plan
for whenever I make a mistake. I think that since ISFP types tend to pick up emotional cues,
they will use a different apology type depending on who they are interacting with to make the
other person feel better. If someone wrongs me, I appreciate when they show me how much
our relationship means to them and that they actually take action to do better in the future.

Click on Workplace Habits. Read the section entitled Subordinate.

Write down your top 3 discoveries about yourself as a subordinate employee according to your
16 Personalities Portfolio.

1. ISFPs prefer to receive orders rather than to give them and are strongly willing to
incorporate feedback to do their best on a project.

2. They need clearly defined goals and a supportive work environment to achieve their
fullest potential.

3. ISFPs are passionate problem solvers and love to figure out new solutions to existing
problems. They are also great at handling customer interactions as they remain calm
under pressure and stress.

Read the section entitled Colleague.

Write down your top 3 discoveries about yourself as a colleague to other employees according
to your 16 Personalities Portfolio.

1. ISFPs like to work in a team to give and receive practical advice in order to solve
problems. They may become exhausted in an excessive social situation, but they have
great networking skills.

2. Adventurers are friendly and highly tolerant, so they will do whatever is necessary to get
the job done even if their colleagues are lacking.

3. ISFPs need to know that there is purpose to their work, so they need to know that their
efforts are recognized and appreciated. They value constructive feedback and praise for
good work.

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Read the section entitled Manager.
Write down your top 3 discoveries about yourself as a manager/leader to other employees
according to your 16 Personalities Portfolio.

1. Most ISFPs feel unnatural or uncomfortable in management roles, as they don’t tend to
like taking control of others, planning long term or disciplining people. Despite this,
Adventurers make excellent managers for the following reasons.

2. They are great listeners and will align the purpose of a task with subordinates’ personal
motives. Adventurers give their subordinates freedom.

3. ISFP managers like to work along side their subordinates to fully see their perspectives,
and these managers tend to have strongsuits in inspiration and cooperation.

What is your biggest takeaway from this process of reflection? What have you discovered about
yourself?

I have discovered that even though I may not want to get out of my comfort zone, according
to the test I will find a way to navigate things that make me uncomfortable. For example,
taking on a management role may be outside of my comfort zone, but as long as I get the
support and feedback that I need I should be okay. Inside relationships, I already knew how I
acted but it was interesting to see how it impacts how my friends see me. The biggest
takeaway I have from this reflection is that I realized how much I value praise and validation. I
often don’t consider my personal feelings in relationships, as what makes me happy is seeing
my friends happy, but looking into all of my friendships now, I have the strongest bonds with
the people that recognize the effort I put into our relationship and the time I dedicate to their
emotions.

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