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Shivan: Hi, Doctor Keesha Ewers is with me. She is one of the most eclectic
healers that you will probably hear from on most of the summits that you
attend. She is a true healer and a true advocate for anyone who is seeking a
higher path, who is a survivor of trauma. She's the one who taught me about
the ACEs studies, which I know she'll be talking about here. She's the one
who really helped me see the science behind a variety of childhood experiences
and later experiences in terms of your health, your mind, your body and your
spirit. She's also a cookbook author. She does women's retreats. She is so
cool, you guys. I will let you experience her for yourself. Hello, Keesha. Thank
you so much for being here.
Dr. Ewers: Thanks for having me on. I've never been called eclectic, but it's
totally true.
Dr. Ewers: I know, it’s totally true. In my mind they all fit together very well.
Shivan: Look at you. You're a living vision of health, and balance, and joy. So
speaking of which, let's all try it out, I'll have what you're having. How does
trauma impact our lymphatic system?
Dr. Ewers: Well, first I want to tell you a little story and then we'll tie them
together. So a lot of people have heard my story from my book, Solving the
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Autoimmune Puzzle, where I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis when I
was in my early thirties. And I traced it back and discovered that my early
childhood sexual abuse had something to do with this auto-immunity that I
was experiencing. Within six months, I was able to reverse it, never went on
meds. Well, this other story, I don't think I've ever told on your summit before,
10 years later my son was home from college. I have four children and my two
older boys were home from college. And my second son sat me down and said,
“Mom, I need to talk to you.”
And I said, “That sounds serious.” And he said, “Well, it kind of is.” And so we
sat down at the dining room table and he said, “I just needed to let you know,
it feels like the right time that Cameron,” his older brother, “And I were
sexually abused.” By the neighborhood boy that I had had babysit them a
couple of times and I of course lost it. And I said, “Why have you not told me
this before?” And he said, “Because of this. I didn't want my entire childhood
to be defined by this one event.” And he said, “You such a good mom.” And all
of these different things and he said, “It just felt like it was time to let you
know.”
So I went into action and I found the young man who was 12 at the time who
had done this with my boys. And when I called him, he said, “Mrs. Ewers, I've
been waiting for this call for 15 years.” And I knew like this has impacted
everybody in our field. And so I had him pay for part of their counseling. I
facilitated this amazing forgiveness process when it was time between my kids
and him. And it was just this amazing process that occurred. Well, four
months after that was settled out, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. And
when I went in, the radiology oncologist was over my left breast where I had
felt something, and there was this huge blood supply going to this tumor. It
was so healthy. And I looked at it on the screen and I said, “I know exactly
where that came from.”
And I said, “Give me a month and then I will come back and I will listen to
what you think needs to happen. But for right now, I know what has to
happen in this moment.” And it was right in my left breast, right over my
heart. The minute this came out of Collin's mouth when he told me, I could
feel like my heart shatter and guilt and shame, and the very worst thing I
could imagine for my children because of my own experience. That I had been
responsible for this happening and all of this stuff.
So here I facilitated this forgiveness between them and even helped the
perpetrator with his stuff, but I had not forgiven myself. So physically, what
had happened was my lymphatic system was congested. My liver wasn't
draining, my brain was on fire. And yet from the time Collin sat me down to
10 years prior to that when I'd reversed my rheumatoid arthritis, nothing that
I was eating, my lifestyle choices, my exercise, my sleep, my hydration, the
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way that I dealt with stress, nothing had changed. The only thing that had
happened was this tremendous amount of guilt and shame that even as I talk
about it today, woof, right under the surface. And so my lymphatic system was
congested as hell in my left side, only right here. So you have to wonder, is
this really just physical? Is this just about the liver? Is this just about the
brain? Is this just about, you know what I mean? Is this just about cellular
metabolism and detoxification processes that are on a physical plane? And in
my experiences, absolutely not. And so what I did to get rid of that cancer was
in four weeks, it was gone.
Dr. Ewers: Four weeks, it was gone. And I had to go in and I had to do this
deep trauma therapy, deep. Can you imagine forgiving yourself for something
like that as a mom?
Shivan: I am not a mom. So my heart breaks for you and do you know that
that's actually why I decided not to have kids. I could not handle it. I know
myself well enough that I couldn't handle it. So God bless you in all the ways.
Dr. Ewers: It was either to do it or die. And my genetics are that I do not
metabolize estrogen very well. My mother has had breast cancer, my
grandmother has had breast cancer, but isn't it interesting that it arrived in
that moment? My genetics, my liver's inability to process estrogen, all of that
came to her head right there. My father has chronic lymphocytic leukemia
today. He has had it since 2004. I have genetics that go with like really
messed up lymphatic system. And yet it only really came to my head and
manifested on a physical plane when I got that information and had to
actually go in and do this deep forgiveness process. And then when I went
back and I had to know that ultrasound, could you just believe all of those
little veins that were feeding that tumor were just hanging there and there was
this open space right there.
Dr. Ewers: He said, “I can't even believe what I'm seeing right now.” And I
said, “No, don't try.” I just knew exactly what was going on here and not
everybody does. And so why I don't tell this story very often, and the reason is
because I don't want anyone walking away saying, “Well, I just have to think
myself out of cancer, or I have to go do therapy and my cancer will be gone.” It
just happened to be there. I just knew why it was there, and I knew why
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everything had slugged and why it was stuck and why all this was going on.
And so the science behind this then, there are several studies, but the one
that's the most famous was conducted between 1995 and 1997 by Kaiser
Permanente and the Centers for Disease Control. And it's the one that you
called the ACEs study, Adverse Childhood Experiences study is the largest
study that's ever been done of its kind. It had over 3000 participants that were
Kaiser enrollees.
And it started because in this weight loss clinic which was very successful,
people were enrolling through Kaiser and losing their weight. But there was a
certain percentage of population of that weight loss clinic that was
successfully losing weight, but dropping out before they got to their goal. And
luckily the director of the clinic was curious and went and started
investigating this and found out that most of them had been sexually abused
in childhood. And so found that fascinating and said, “This needs to have
more investigation.” And joined with the Centers for Disease Control and they
did this study.
And what they did is they asked the participants, over 3,500 of them, before
the age of 18 did you experience any of these 10, what they called adverse
childhood experiences? And they're the things that we call Capital T trauma.
That's how I label it, lowercase T trauma and Capital T trauma. They're the
things that you ordinarily think of when you hear the word trauma like sexual
abuse or domestic violence, or emotional neglect, abandonment, having a
parent that is addicted to a substance or incarcerated or died, divorced,
abandonment, all of these things that are very traumatic for children.
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If you said yes to any of those, you had a score of one, if you said yes to two
and so on. So I had a score of two at least. And sure enough, the findings of
this study said the higher your ACE score, the higher your risk for every single
physical ailment we have in our society, all the chronic illnesses, including
cancer and auto-immune disease. And so I wound up with rheumatoid
arthritis, but my grandfather had had it. I wound up with breast cancer while
my mother and my grandmother had had that. So you could say like my
doctors both said when I went in with these things, “It's genetic.” But at the
end of the day, you have to ask, “Well, what made that gene express itself
now, rather than a different time. So again, with the RA, I was able to reverse
that.
And I had to do a lot of trauma work because what I figured out was the
sexual abuse from my childhood had to have had something to do with this
auto-immune disease, because back in those days, at the age of 10, it was at
the hands of a vice principal in my elementary school, I wanted to die. I was
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trying to tell people what was happening. Nobody could really get what I was
saying. I didn't have the right language, and so I wanted to die. And so when I
went back and I visited that little girl version of myself at that time period, and
I saw how badly she wanted to die, I thought, yeah, she wanted out, this has
to be connected. And sure enough it shows in science that it is.
And I conducted a study in 2013 called the Healing Unresolved Trauma study,
and discovered that there's a whole pathway that gets set up with this first
initial hurt. You actually have an emotion that gets attached to it. For me, it
was panic, whenever the intercom would go off in the classroom, I would have
it. And then from that, you attach a meaning to that sympathetic nervous
system response. And the meaning that I attached was, I'm not safe, which
was true for that little kid.
And then there's going to be a belief and a behavior that gets attached to that.
It's an adaptive response for that age. And remember that our brains are not
fully developed till we're 26 years old. So whatever we think in that time period
makes sense to that age, but then it doesn't really work in adulthood. So the
belief I created was that people in charge can't really be trusted, which I could
find evidence for today, for sure, but it's not always true. And then my
behavior was to be perfect because I figured if the vice-principal’s telling me
this is my fault because I'm a bad kid, then I need to be perfect. So there
perfectionism was born.
And I always say that people with cancer and auto-immune disease actually
have these Ps in place, perfectionism, people-pleasing and holding onto the
poison of past pain. And it's holding on to that poison of past pain part that
sledges up our lymphatic system. And Ayurvedic medicine, which is the sister
science of yoga from 10,000 years ago actually says, and this is what got me
on the right path for healing myself. I started investigating, what else can I do
besides Methotrexate? Is there something else out here? And sure enough,
Ayurvedic medicine says, “Auto-immune disease, cancer, tumors, it's actually
undigested anger.” Well, when you think about undigested anything, what are
you thinking of? You're thinking lymphatic system on a physical plane of
undigested stuff sitting in the emotional and mental plane. And I went, “My
gosh,” because I remember sitting back in front of the computer going, “But
I'm not an angry person.” And then thinking that might be a problem. Maybe
that's a big problem. Not that I'm not an angry person, but I actually don't
even permission myself to have anger and express it. I don't even know how to
do it. And I, of course, didn't have great role models for that growing up either.
And so I had to learn all this. I had to learn how to digest emotions properly,
and then guess what happens to my lymphatic system.
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Dr. Ewers: Fatty liver, Ayurveda says the same thing? It's like, you've got a
bunch of undigested anger in there. Well, I don't think you can still drink a
bunch of alcohol, eat a bunch of sugar, if you have an APOE4 gene, eat meat
and then meditate a lot and have that work. You’ve got to do all of it. And
Ayurveda talks about these five layers of us. We have our physical layer, the
one that we feed, and water and take care of, then we have an energetic layer
called the pranamaya kosha. And that energetic layer is those 72,000 chakras
that are inside of us, where our nerves cross actually connects to our
emotional layer and our mental layer. So those belief systems that we created
in response to our events in childhood are stored here and they connect to the
physical body through that energetic system. So this whole thing becomes
important for detoxification. It's not just physical.
Shivan: When you say you did a lot of forgiveness work, let's say, someone's
sitting here like weeping, because they can relate so much and you're telling a
story of their lives and your version of it. And they realize now, “Okay, I have
to do something.” Give me a couple of first steps.
Dr. Ewers: I have this whole forgiveness practice that, this is my eclectic part.
I was in India and I was in a cave and went into this meditation and
downloaded those lot of years ago. And it's what I used when I had to do this
work. I call it the mirror exercise, and it's in my book Solving the Autoimmune
Puzzle, but here's how it goes. So let's say that you're triggered, let's say that I
was late for our appointment today, like 10 minutes late, I didn't show up.
And that time was really important to you and you got really irritated. Okay.
So what you would do with this forgiveness process in the mirror part of it is
you would go, “Okay, so what's the ego trait or the personality trait that I'm
assigning to the other person?” So is time really important to you? Would you
be irritated if I were 10 minutes late?
Shivan: Probably not, but I get the idea. So maybe I would think that you
were selfish or something.
The last one was really hard for me bigotry. So I was like, “I am not a bigot. I
lived in the Navy, which meant all over the world.” I was like, “I am not a
bigot.” And then I started realizing we were in an election with George W.
Bush and I live in Seattle and there are all these people that are really upset
by the outcome of the second election. And I thought, “I'm actually really
intolerant to people that are intolerant.” And I got it that all of Seattle was,
we’re intolerant to intolerance, we're bigots in our own way. And I got this
cultural bigotry and I went oh. And so the thing that you get from doing that
is not a forgiveness for the behavior. You never have to forgive sexual abuse
ever.
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But what you can do is you can get into this place where instead of coming
from the pulpit where you're like, “I would never do that to another person.”
So you have the self-righteousness, which actually puts you in a judgment
seat, which actually congests your lymphatic system. When you're tight like
that, you can just feel it like self-righteous, indignation and anger. You can
feel like the same as a bra would cut off your lymphatic drainage out of your
breasts. So you can feel that.
So what it does is it takes you off of the pulpit. It puts you as humans right
here, and you go, “I see what you've taught me here. And thank you for being
my teacher.” So now I can watch cruelty, bigotry, and misuse of power. And at
the same time, I don't need to reconcile with that person. People get confused.
My whole doctoral dissertation was about forgiveness and so I know all the
statistics around why people don't forgive and one of the main root causes of
unwillingness to forgive another person, is you think they're going to get away
with something. But in the end of the day it's not up to you. You can hold on
to that all you want, but you're only making yourself sick.
And actually, I think Mark Twain and the Buddha are both credited with
saying, “If you don't forgive somebody, you dig two graves instead of one.” And
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there's a reason for that. You really do congest your mind, your brain and
your lymphatic system. Everything is so rigid. So I was able to forgive him
without reconciling with him. You never reconcile with someone that's hurt
you if they haven't demonstrated contrition and safety. So you can do all this
inside of yourself. I don't have to call up Mr. Johnson and say, “Hey, I just
figured out we’re the same. Should we have tea?” You just don't do that. So I
got to do this process and drain. I always say, resentment is the most toxic
chemical created on the planet. And it's not created by a corporation and
dumped into our air, water and soil. It's created within us and dumped into
this terrain, which then affects our microbiome, affects liver detoxification,
affects our lymphatic system, our mood, our weight, our hormonal balance, all
of it.
Dr. Ewers: Just know that resentment will kill you faster than BPA.
Dr. Ewers: Well, I'm writing a book right now called Healing Trauma through
the Chakra System, and it goes into more detail. Solving the Autoimmune
Puzzle does have this process in it. And I talk about it in the same way, but I
go deeper into let's really get this done in the Healing Trauma through the
Chakra System, which I have as a program which I'm happy to do something
with your community if you want to. But it's so powerful because that
resentment bath that we put ourselves in, the resentment hot tub, it's the
most damaging thing that we can do to ourselves. And like I said, that doesn't
mean you have to go out and go reconcile with all the people that have hurt
you in your life. But the other piece around this, one that I think is so
important to understand is that we have been the perpetrator also.
And while I may not have bought tanks and taken over Poland and committed
genocide like World War II and Hitler, I am like Hitler. And I can find the same
ego traits inside of myself as Hitler had that drove him to those actions. I just
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have done it differently. And so the Cherokee said that beautifully where they
have the parable of the little boy going to his grandfather, the chief of the tribe
and saying, “Grandfather, how do I become a good man, not a bad man.” And
the grandfather saying, “Grandson, every man and woman has within them a
black wolf and a white wolf. And whichever one you feed the most to is the one
that grows the strongest.” And the thing that we don't seem to understand is
that we're feeding that dark wolf when we stay in our victim stuff, when we
stay in that place. And that literally will cause the lymphatic congestion that
does kill us. So it's not at someone else's hand, it's in our own.
Shivan: That's some heavy, really liberating stuff. It really is. It's
revolutionary, and it's infinite, and it's universal. And so everyone take a
breath because this is really powerful. It's a really powerful. I so appreciate
you for helping us expand our perspective and our consciousness and doing it
in such an elegant way and using the technology of Buddhism and the science
of Western medicine all at the same time. So like I said, not just eclectic, but
really very special. Something can be eclectic and not special, but you are very
much both. Thank you so much.
Shivan: Always a treat. So we'll look forward to learning more from you in
future summits. Thanks so much Doctor Ewers.