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LETTING Go OF EMOTION'" STATES

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Tn the business worM , the single Ihrea(llhat com''''!l~ highly talented PI'<),
pl~ who fail to aclneve lh~i r potemial is def~nsiwl\<'SII . A dpfensive trader
is at an equal d,sadvantage in his profL'SSlonai hfe. Defensivenpss prevents
a tTad~r from 11~"ri"g tI,e important f<wback that he nttds to ;mpro"" his
p('rfomlanc(', his r<'lmionsrups, and his busin..,.,., It stan"" bt-Iw('('n him and
t he n~"ibili(y he n.-eds to adapl «, (he perpetually changing '"arkelS ""<l
it
prC"Cllts him r"'lll growi"g. A trader's dl'fensiwn..ss mak<'S hi", ""In era·
ble and build~ a wall ar"und him (hal i ..,lall'S him frum opening him..,.,lf up
to positive chang""
[fa trader came from a critical andjudgmental ('nvironment, he learned
early in life to become defcns;.·" ""!lOOn as (1,(' feedback "",und",1 chaUcng-
;n~ . That auwmatic Mfensi>'en""" comes from i,""",urity, a "",n"" of pow_
ertessness, and r.... tings or IIl1wonhiness. A dl·r,·nsive trader can l><.~ol1le
a lea", player thar ..,spon'l~ I(J prubl" ms with cu ntld"n~ " and a demon·
stealerl willjngn",,-" to lislen, acknow]erlge, and to St)]ve the problem. The
proc<'SS for unlearning defensiven<'SS require!! courage. commilment. and
perhaps some outside help, but Ihe resu il will be a slrung and succ<'SSru]
trader with the social skills to succ...ro .

r eeling bad Ita.s /lw .same flll'llst asjeei.iug good bul willi a
I!''gatit''-' outcome. What is !l0" /" elwin?