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Its almost Christmas and Ive got a special treat for you We are going to discuss something all ladies men do. In fact, its so important that you cannot be successful with women without doing it. (Can you guess what it is, ?) Sadly, most guys use it in a way that kills all attraction. In this letter, Im gonna teach you how to avoid this pitfall so you can get into her pants ASAP, . To read the letter, click here.

A smug smile creeps across Brads face. Jens heart screeches to a still and Miranda rolls her eyes. His laser eyes paint Jens face crimson red but make Mirandas dinner come back up to say hello. He says, I noticed you over there noticing me. Jen bites her lower lip while Miranda narrows her eyes into almonds and says, Really? Youve got to be kidding me. Brad shares something in common with all ladies men: he exudes cockiness. But Brads no ladies man: while his air of cockiness melted Jen into a crush-stricken schoolgirl, it froze Miranda into an ice princess.

And get this Jen and Miranda are different facets of the same person. Cockiness simultaneously attracts and repulses women. Its what I call the Cocky Man Paradox. Most cocky men are like Brad. They initially pique a womans interest. Youve seen these guys at bars and nightclubs holding court with a semicircle of hotties, tongue wrestling with one love-a-luscious titty babe after the next, and entering every 10s number into their phone over the course of the night. But, alas, they struggle to seal the deal. More often than theyd like, their cockiness prevents women from calling them back, going on dates with them, and, most importantly, sleeping with them. However, this rule doesnt apply to an elite swath of cocky men. They can act cocky without making women run, Forest, run. Often, we refer to these men as Lotharios, Don Juans, Casanovas, players, and ladies men. How do ladies men turn up the attraction and turn down the repulsion? Whats their secret? Well get to that in a second, but first, Ive got a question for ya Do you know what the word cocky means? Most dictionaries define cocky as arrogance; conceit; or an exaggerated, inflated, or false opinion of ones own dignity. But within the context of seduction, cocky has a slightly different meaning. (Most dating coaches dont understand this and it explains why their students get half-baked results at best.) Lets dig deeper All male-female sexual interactions have an underlying meaning that assigns a role to each participant. I call this the meta-frame.

In our culture, the default meta-frame defines the woman as the Prize and the man as the suitor trying to win her over. But heres the cold-hard truth If you dont look like Brag Pritt, descend from the Rockefellers, or star in Oscar winning films, the default meta-frame will foil your mushroom-headed battle sword from entering a womans lady sheath. Unless youre cocky. So this begs the question: within the context of seduction, what is cocky? Simply put, cocky is 1) Knowing that the roles we play in male-female interactions are not set in stone but determined by changeable meta-frames. 2) Reversing the default meta-frame, so that youre the Prize and the woman is the suitor trying to win you over. 3) Maintaining this new meta-frame through your entire interaction with her. Lets look at a cocky example If a woman innocently touches you, maybe say, Hands off the goods. Im more than a sausage with feet. Notice the meta-frame reversal. Conventional wisdom purports that men treat women like sex objects. But this playfully inverts the frame, turning her into the pervert and you into the sex object. Lets look at an even cockier example If a woman says, Im gonna get a drink, maybe say, Trying to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me, eh? Im not so easy. This pulls her into your meta-frame even further than the last example because youre accusing her of scheming to get you into the sack. Lets try one even cockier than the last

When a sexy vixen crosses her arms in mid-conversation with a hapless Joe, he panics that hes losing points with her. Not with me. I view it as an opportunity to pull her into my meta-frame. Ill say, Im the coolest guy in here and you give me nothing but crossed arms. Surprisingly, most women respond with, Sorry, and then uncross their arms. By complying with your request, theyre taking a step into your metaframe. Each successful cocky line or behavior brings her deeper into your metaframe, gradually modifying her perception of you. At first, you had the worth of a smeared gnat on a white wall. But now youre moving towards the center of her universe and anytime you ration her a minute of your oh-sovaluable time, she lights up like a pinball machine. Big warning: When you reverse the default meta-frame it ousts her from her pedestal and puts you in absolute control over the interaction. While effective, inverting the power dynamic can drive a few resistant neurons somewhere in her frontal lobe into an infantile fit of repulsion. The day after meeting you, she may check her phone on the hour to see if youve texted or called. When your call or text shows up on her phone, shell start to call you back til those feminazi brain cells intercept with, Get a slice of dignity and dont call him back, woman. When you have a date with her, those homunculi will yell out, Dont show up. Ive got a bad feeling about this guy. When things are hot and heavy, those mini Gloria Steinems will advise, Dont sleep with him. He just wants to use you as a masturbation pocket. How do you exterminate these verminous cock blockers? Electroshock therapy? A lobotomy?

Although effective, it would turn her brain into a quivering glob of tapioca pudding and erase any memory of you. Far easier and safer solutions exist, such as humor and self-deprecation. The notorious pimp turned bestselling author Iceberg Slim says, A pimp is happy when his hos are laughing because he knows that theyre asleep. In other words, when women laugh, their critical factor abates, making it easier to pull them into your meta-frame. With self-deprecation, the benefits are twofold: One, some women construe cockiness by itself as band-aiding insecurities. But when a cocky man pokes fun at himself, he comes across as genuinely confident. Two, self-deprecation melts away a womans worries that your meta-frame has rendered her powerless. I suggest combining self-deprecation with humor. But be careful. Most men dont use self-deprecating humor correctly. Take my 300 pound friend Stew, for example. A month back, I was at a charity event with him. A blonde marched up to us and smiled big but not as big as her cleavage. She said, I love your Space Invaders shirt Where did you And he interrupted with, I charge twenty dollars a minute for my time go. He pelted her with cocky banter, prodding her deeper into his meta-frame. Then he gave her a soft kiss. A kiss that wouldve made her peruse his Facebook profile again and again at her office desk until the senior partner yelled, Are you going to gawk at your computer screen all day or finish my reports? But, alas, things took a turn for the worse when he said, I know how to make you cry.

How? Take off my shirt. One glance at my purple stretch marks spider-webbed across my hanging gut and flopping moobs, and youll be screaming for your life. She looked at him with horror and he tried to laugh but it came out more like a donkeys bray. Ee-aw, Ee-aw, Ee-aw. All of the attraction decayed into pity and all of the pity rotted into disgust. Making jokes about things that bother you might net a hearty laugh from a woman. But it makes you look insecure, gives her back control of the metaframe, and kills all attraction. So heres what to do Make a list of personal quirks, flaws, and stupid things youve done. Cross off the ones that make you squirm. Circle the ones that fail to rouse shame, insecurity, or embarrassment in you. This is your fodder. These subjects will provide you with a treasure-trove of self-deprecating humor. My personal favorite topic to goof on is my cockiness. For example, a few weeks back I met this cute brunette. We chatted a few minutes and then I excused myself. Ten minutes later, she stood next to me at the bar. So I said, Oh you again. Following me around, eh? And she stammered, I I was just ordering a drink. I raised an eyebrow, let out a sarcastic, Mhmm, and walked away. Four beers later, she tripped and fell into me. I caught her and said, I dont know what to make of you Either youre stalking me or have a kindergarten crush on me. Playful banter ensued. But part of her was resisting my meta-frame.

So I said, I dont know what it is about this bar but girls always stalk me here. Last week this crazy woman wouldnt leave me alone. If she wasnt so hot I would have had the bouncer throw her out. Later in the night, I was ordering a drink and felt a hand squeeze my butt. I was slightly annoyed but a little turned on. So I relented and told myself: Im gonna make out with her. I turned around and a guy wearing a pink baby tee said in a Barry White voice, Hey cutie. After I regaled her with this harrowing tale, she was putty in my hands because I demonstrated a sense of humor about my cockiness. Although self-deprecating humor is powerful, using too much of it makes you look like youre fishing for pity. As a general rule you should make no more than one self-deprecating joke for every five cocky things you say or do. I may not know you personally but Im willing to bet youve got some sticking points with women you want to disappear. It may be getting phone numbers from girls, having them call you back, going on dates with them, kissing them, sleeping with them or something else. And whats standing in your way is some negative emotion or critical judgment whirling around inside womens heads. It might be caused by you. Might not. Nonetheless, its preventing you from getting what you want. What if you knew how to make these cancerous mental states go bye bye? That would make life a lot more enjoyable, right? In todays letter I taught you one technique for doing this. But inside my Natural Vibing course youll learn dozens of techniques for annihilating any negative thought, emotion, or judgment thats preventing a woman from fulfilling your desires.