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The Key For Successful Living
The Key For Successful Living
The 7 Habits of
Highly Effective People
• A paradigm is :
– A frame of reference, a model
– A perception, assumption
– The way we perceive, understand &
accordingly interpret and judge things. A
mental map.
• Two people can see the same thing,
disagree and yet both be right.
• The more we examine the way we see
things, the more we can test them against
reality.
• Listen to others and be open to their
perception, to get a far more objective view.
Being Is Seeing
Be See Think Feel Behave
PUBLIC
VICTORY
Independence
1 PRIVATE
Be VICTORY
proactive
Dependence
Character Competence
CHARACTER COMPETENCE
Integrity Technical skills
Maturity Qualifications
Abundance Mentality Knowledge
Interdependency Experience
JUDGEMENT
EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT
CIRCLE OF
INFLUENCE
CIRCLE OF
INFLUENCE
Habit 1
BE PROACTIVE
1
Be
proactive
Three theories of determinism affecting our
response to a certain stimulus
Self-
Awareness
Independent
Will
Imagination Conscience
• Proactive people:
– Behavior in the product of one’s decision based on
values
– Personal leaders
– Take the initiative and are solutions to problems
– Successfully handle direct, indirect and no control
problems
PROACTIVE MODEL
• Reactive people:
– Behavior is the product of one’s condition based
on feelings
– Unhappy people who feel victimized and
immobilized, who focus on the weaknesses of
other people
– Blame other people and circumstances they feel
are responsible for their own stagnant situation.
Reactive Language Proactive Language
There's noting I can do Let’s look at our alternations
That’s just the way I am I can choose a different approach
He makes me so mad I control my own feelings
They won’t allow that I can create an effective presentation
I have to do that I will choose an appropriate
response
I can’t I choose
I must I prefer
If only I will
No Concern
Circle of Concern
Circle of Concern
Circle of Influence
Circle of Circle of
Concern
Concern
2
1 Begin
Be with the
proactive End in Mind
• Start with a clear understanding of your
destination
• Picture deeply what kind of husbands, wife,
father or mother would you like to be?
• What kind of son or daughter or cousin?
• What kind of friend?
• What kind of working associate?
Assumptions
• Assume at your funeral, how would family,
colleague, friend, church, etc talk about you
• Assume today’s the last day in your life
• Assume:
• Body - Had a heart attack; Mind – Life of
your profession is 2 years; Heart – Other
person is clairvoyant; Spirit – You met with
the Almighty
Habit Two
Begin with the End in Mind
The Habit of Personal Leadership
Mental Creation Precedes Physical Creation
Power
Our four life-supporting factors derive from
the very center of our circle of influence
Mission Statement
A powerful document that expresses your personal sense of
Purpose and meaning in life. It acts as a governing
Constitution by which you evaluate decisions and choose
behaviors.
Define Leadership &
Management
Leadership deals with Direction
(Doing the right things)
Things which
matter most must
never be a the
mercy of things
3
Put First
which matter
Things First
least.
1
Be
proactive
Mission
Statement Roles Goals
LONG-TERM ORGANIZING
Schedule
WEEKLY ORGANIZING
Two Factors to Define Any
Activity
• Urgency - An activity is urgent if you or
others feel that it requires immediate
attention.
• Importance - An activity is importance if
you personally find it valuable, and if it
contributes to your mission values, and
high-priority goals.
Time management matrix
I - Procrastinator 2-Prioritizer
Urgent Not Urgent
Important Important
I II
. Crisis . Preparation
Important
III IV
Not Important
Distraction
s Time
NOT IMPORTANT
Wasters
Habit Three - Put First things First
The Habit of Personal
Management
– Keeping commitments
• Keep a promise you have made or explain the situation
and ask to be released from it.
– Clarifying expectations
• Conflicts arise form ambiguous expectations about roles
and goals
PRINCIPLES OF INTERPRSONAL
LEADERSHIP
• Six major deposits
The first three habits help develop a deep base of character and
personal security . Once these 3 habits become part of who you are
you are then ready to begin building rich enduring highly
productive relationships with other people and that’s where habits
four, five and six come in.
Habits Four, Five & Six
We have
Think committed the
Win/Win
4 Golden Rule to
memory; let us
3
Put First
now commit it to
Things First
life”
1
Be
proactive
Six Paradigms of human
interactions:
• Win/win
• Win/lose
• Lose/win
• Lose/Lose
• Win
• Win/win or no deal
Win/Win
• Seeks for mutual benefit
• All parties feel good about the decision and feel
committed to the action plan
• Sees life as cooperative, not competitive
• There’s plenty for everybody
• Believes in the third alternative
• Listens more, stays in communication longer, and
communicates with more courage.
Habit Four - Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal
Leadership
Lose-Win : People who choose to lose and let others win show high
consideration for others, but lack the courage to express and act on
their feelings and beliefs. They are easily intimidated and borrow
strength from acceptance and popularity.
Characteristics
•Voices no standards, no demands, no expectations of anyone else.
•Is quick to please or appease.
•Buries a lot of feelings.
Habit Four - Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal
Leadership
Win : People who hold a win paradigm think only of getting what
they want. Although they don’t necessarily want others to lose,
they are personally set on winning. They think independently in
interdependent situations, without sensitivity or awareness of others.
Characteristics
•Is self-centered.
•Thinks “me first”.
•Doesn’t really care if the other person wins or loses.
•Has a Scarcity Mentality”.
Habit Four - Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal
Leadership
1 2 3
– Maturity:
• The balance between courage and consideration
• The ability to express one’s won feelings and
convictions balanced with consideration of the
thoughts and feelings of others
Abundance Mentality
– You can best achieve win-win solutions with win-win systems and
processes. But if Changing your systems to win-win feels
overwhelming and out of reach, remember to work from the inside
out. As you first develop a win-win character and then Win-Win
Agreements and relationships, you will expand your Circle of
Influence and be Able to work on processes.
• Processes:
– A four-step process:
1
Be
proactive
Principles of Empathic Communication
Take as a guide:
Synergize
6
In crucial things
unity
In Important things
3
Put First
Things First diversity
1
Be In all thing
proactive
generosity.
Principles of Creative Cooperation
LEVELS OF COMMUNCIATION
High
Synergistic (Win/Win)
Synergy
The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
Synergy takes place when two or more people
produce more together than the sum of what
they could have produces separately.
Habit Six - Synergize
The Habit of Creative Cooperation
•Having a mutually agreed-upon end in mind. •Group think (giving in to peer pressure).
Celebrate
Value
Accept
Tolerate
Habit 7
SHARPEN THE SAW
PRINCIPLES OF BALANCED SELF-RENEWAL
Sometimes
when I
consider what
tremendous
consequences
come from
3
little things…
Put First
Things First
I am tempted
1
Be
proactive
to think..
There are no
little things.
• It’s preserving and enhancing personal PC.
The greatest asset we have. It’s we.
PHYSICAL
Exercise, Nutrition,
Stress Management
MENTAL SOCIAL
Reading, Visualizing, Service, Empathy,
Planning, Writing Synergy, Intrinsic
Security
SPIRITUAL
Value Clarification &
Commitment, Study &
Meditation
Habit Seven - Sharpen the Saw
The Habit of Renewal
Physical (Body):
We build physical wellness through proper nutrition, exercise, rest
And stress management.
Mental (Mind) :
We increase mental capacity through, reading, writing, and thinking.
Habit Seven - Sharpen the Saw
The Habit of Renewal
Spiritual (Spirit):
We develop spiritually through reading inspiring literature, through
meditating and praying and through spending time with nature.
Habit 1 We are a product of our environment We are a product of our choices to our
and upbringing. environment and upbringing.
Habit 2 Society is the source of our values. Values are self-chosen and provide
foundation for decision making. Values
flow out of principles.
Habit 3 Reactive to the tyranny of the urgent. Actions flow from that which is
Acted upon by the environment. important.
I choose my attitude,
emotions, and moods
Be Proactive. Be Reactive.
Proactive people take Reactive people don’t
responsibility for their own take responsibility for their
lives. They determine the own lives. They feel
agendas they will follow victimized, a product of
and choose their response circumstances, their past,
to what happens around and other people. They do
them. not see as the creative
force of their lives.
SEVEN HABITS OF
HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
HABIT 2
TEACHING
RELATIONSHIP
EXAMPLE
EFFECTIVE HABITS
Knowledge
(what to, why to)
HABITS
Skills Desire
(how to) (want to)
CHARACTER COMPETENCE
Integrity Technical skills
Maturity Qualifications
Abundance Mentality Knowledge
Interdependency Experience
JUDGEMENT
FOUR UNIQUE
HUMAN ENDOWMENTS
1. Self-awareness
2. Conscience
3. Imagination
4. Willpower
FOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTS
1. Self-Awareness
We begin to become self-aware and
explore the programs we are living out. We
come to realize that we stand apart from our
programming and can even examine it. We
also realize that between stimulus and
response, we have the freedom to choose. This
self-awareness then leads to the ability to look
at other unique endowments in our secret life.
FOUR UNIQUE HUMAN
ENDOWMENTS
2. Conscience
Our conscience is our internal sense of
right and wrong, our “moral nature.” It is the
“greater harmonizer” and “balance wheel” of
all the principles that govern our behavior. Our
conscience gives us a sense of the degree to
which our thoughts and actions are in harmony
with our principles.
FOUR UNIQUE HUMAN
ENDOWMENTS
3. Power of Imagination
We can visit the power of the mind to
create or to imagine that which does not exist
now. In that imagination lie our faith and our
hope for the future. We look at what is possible,
what we can envision.
FOUR UNIQUE HUMAN
ENDOWMENTS
6
Use own judgement, not necessary to report
5
Use own judgement, report routinely
4
Use own judgement, report immediately
3
Bring recommendations
2
Ask for instructions
1
Wait for instructions
PERSONAL IMMUNE SYSTEM