“Defective Teens – NOT!!!

”
Based on: “The Seven Habits of Highly
Effective Teens"
by Sean Covey
 The 7 Habits of Highly
Defective Teens:
• Habit 1: React. • Habit 5: Seek First to
• Habit 2: Begin with No Talk, Then Pretend to
End in Mind. Listen.
• Habit 3: Put First • Habit 6: Don't
Things Last. Cooperate
• Habit 4: Think Win- • Habit 7: Wear Yourself
Lose. Out.
 Defective Teens

• “As you can see, the habits

listed above are recipes for
disaster. Yet many of us indulge
in them...regularly (me included).
And, given this, it's no wonder
that life in this world can really
stink at times.”
--Sean Covey
 What are the 7 Habits of
Highly Effective Teens?
• Habit 1: Be Proactive.
– Take responsibility for
your life.
• Habit 2: Begin with the
End in Mind.
– Define your mission and
goals in life.
• Habit 3: Put First Things
First.
– Prioritize, and do the most
important things first. • Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw.
• Habit 4: Think Win-Win.
– Have an everyone-can-win
attitude.
• Habit 5: Seek First to
Understand, Then to Be
Understood.
– Listen to people sincerely.
• Habit 6: Synergize.
– Work together to achieve
more.
– Renew yourself regularly.
Habit 1: Be Proactive
• Listen to your
reactive language
• Victimitius virus
• Proactive pays
• Circle of control
• Setbacks to
triumphs

proactive
Be Proactive

• Rise above
• Change agent
• Proactive muscles
• Can-do
• Push pause
• Tools in action
Habit 2: Begin With the End
In Mind
• Crossroads
• Who’s leading?
– Personal mission
statement
• Your talents
• Three watch outs
– Labels
– All over syndrome
– Wrong wall
Begin With the End In Mind
• Go for goal
– Count the cost
– Put it in pen
– Just do it!
– Use momentous
moments
– Rope up
• Goals in action
• Weakness to
strengths
 Habit 3: Put First Things
First
• Pack more into life
Procrastinator – Procrastinator
Prioritizer – Prioritizer
– Yes-man
– Slacker
• Use a planner
(agenda!)
Slacker Yes-Man
– Rocks story
Put First Things First
• Courage zone
– Vrs. Comfort zone
– Fear and decisions
– Rising after falling
– Hard moments
– Peer pressure
• Ingredient of
success
Relationship Bank Account
• Keeping promises
• Small acts of
kindness
• Be loyal
• Listen
• Say you are sorry
• Set clear
expectations
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
• Win-lose,
– totem pole
• Lose-win,
– doormat
• Lose-lose,
– downward spiral
• Win-win,
– all you can eat buffet
Think Win-Win
• Private victory
• Avoid tumor twins
– Competing
– Comparing
• Fruits of win-win
spirit
Habit 5: Seek First to
Understand , Then to Be
Understood • 5 poor listening
styles:
– Space out
– Pretender
– Selective
– Word
– Self-centered
• Judge
• probe
Seek First to Understand ,
Then to Be Understood

• Genuine listening
• Talk with parents
 Habit 6: Synergize
• Synergy is
everywhere
• Celebrate
differences
• All a minority of one
• Roadblocks
• Stick up for diversity
Synergize
• Getting into synergy
– Define problem
(or better –
OPPORTUNITY!)
– Their way
– My way
– Brainstorm
– High way
• Teamwork and
synergy
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
• Balance is better
• Take time for a time-
out
Sharpen the Saw
• Care for your body
– You are what you eat
– Use it or lose it
– All about how you
feel
– Quit whenever you
want
– The refusal skill
Sharpen the Saw
• Care for your brain
– Sharpen your mind
– Find your niche
– School in way of
education
– Post high school
– Mental barriers
– You gotta wanna
Sharpen the Saw
• Care for your heart
– Sex and
relationships
– Laugh or you’ll cry
Sharpen the Saw
• Care for your soul
– Back to nature
– Teen’s best friend
– Spiritual diet
– Disturbing my sleep
– Fried frogs
– Get real
Keep Hope Alive
 Hope
So be sure when you step We've been warned against offering
Step with care and great tact the people of this nation false hope.
And remember that life’s But in the unlikely story that is
A great Balancing Act. America, there has never been
And will you succeed? anything false about hope
(98 and ¾ percent guaranteed) ~President Obama
Kid, you’ll move mountains
~Dr. Seuss