TY P ES OF R E S P ON S E S
HOW WILL YOU
How will you react when
you are falling in line and
you saw someone sneak
in because she knew
someone in there?
REACT?
How will you react when
you saw your boyfriend
laughing or giggling with
another girl?
How will you react when
you hear someone talking
negative about you?
3 TYPES OF RESPONSES
 • Behaving passive means not expressing your

PASSIVE RESPONSE own needs and feelings, or expressing them so

weakly that they will not be addressed.

• A passive response is not usually your best

interest because it allows other people to
violate your rights.

• Yet, there are times that being passive is the

most appropriate response.

• “I’ll feel really bad if I ask them to stop doing

that.”

• “Will I feel silly...”

• “They won’t like me if I do that.”

• “I’ll feel guilty about turning them down.”.

 • Is a style in which
PASSIVE RESPONSE individuals have developed
a pattern of avoiding
expressing their opinions
or feelings, protecting their
rights, as a result,
individuals do not respond
overtly to hurtful situations
or anger-inducing
situations.
AGGRESSIVE RESPONSE • Behaving aggressive is asking for what you
want or saying how you feel in a threatening,
sarcastic or humiliating way that may offend
other people.

• An aggressive response is never in your best

interest, because it almost always leads to
increased conflict.

• Being aggressive is often defined as

establishing one’s rights in a way that violates
or ignores the rights of others: In other words,
getting your own way at other people’s
expense.

• Aggressive behaviour often involves putting

people down, making them feel guilty,
intimidated, small, incompetent, foolish or
worthless.
AGGRESSIVE RESPONSE• Defined as establishing one’s
rights in a way that violates or
ignores the rights of others.
• Getting your own way at other’s
people’s expense.
• Aggressive Behavior involves
putting eople down, making
them feel guilty,
intimated,small, incompetent,
foolish or worthless.
ASSERTIVE RESPONSE
• Behaving assertive means asking for what you
want or saying how you feel in an honest and
respectful way that does not infringe on another
person’s rights or put the individual down.

• An assertive response is almost always in your

best interest, since it is your best chance of
getting what you want without offending the
other person’s.

• But, not all the time being assertive is

appropriate like in situations if tempers are high,
if people have been using alcohol or other drugs,
if people have weapons, or you are in an unsafe
place.

• Simply put, the more you make your opinions

known; the more you ask for what you need; the
greater chance you have of achieving your aims.
ASSERTIVE RESPONSE • Balance response , being
neither passive nor
aggressive, with self
confidence playing an
important part.
• An assertive person
responds as an equal to
others and aims to be open
in expressing their wishes,
thoughts and feelings.
ASSERTIVE RESPONSE • Assertiveness can help you
control stress & anger and
improve coping skills> It
means that you express
yourself effectively and
stand up for your point of
view, respecting the rights
of others & beliefs of
others.
EXAMPLES:
Passive:
Geneva is standing in the line, and not saying anything even though she saw girls
sneaking in and the ticket office will run out of tickets before she gets to the head of
the line.
Aggressive:
If Geneva calls the girls names or threatens them, she may feel strong for a
moment, but there is no guarantee she will get the girls to leave. The girls might
respond aggressively and will start a fight.
Assertive:
If Geneva tells the girls they need to go to the end of the line because other people
have been waiting, she will put not the girls down, but merely state the fact of the
situation.
 ACTIVTY: AM I ASSERTIVE?
• ASSERTIVENESS IS THE ABILITY TO EXPRESS YOUR WISHES AND BELIEFS IN A POSITIVE WAY. TOO
LITTLE ASSERTIVENESS CAN MAKE YOU A DOORMAT. TOO MUCH, AND YOU CAN BE BOSSY AND
AGGRESSIVE

• 1. THINK OF A TIME WHEN YOU WERE A DOORMAT.

• WHAT HAPPENED? _______________________________________________
• WHAT DID YOU DO? ________________________________________________
• HOW DID YOU FEEL? _______________________________________________
NOW THINK OF A BETTER WAY TO HANDLE THAT SITUATION IN THE FUTURE. WRITE
A BETTER RESPONSE AND PRACTICE IT.
 ACTIVTY: AM I ASSERTIVE?
• ASSERTIVENESS IS THE ABILITY TO EXPRESS YOUR WISHES AND BELIEFS IN A POSITIVE WAY. TOO
LITTLE ASSERTIVENESS CAN MAKE YOU A DOORMAT. TOO MUCH, AND YOU CAN BE BOSSY AND
AGGRESSIVE

• 1. THINK OF A TIME WHEN YOU TOO BOSSY.

• WHAT HAPPENED? _______________________________________________
• WHAT DID YOU DO? ________________________________________________
• HOW DID YOU FEEL? _______________________________________________
NOW THINK OF A BETTER WAY TO HANDLE THAT SITUATION IN THE FUTURE. WRITE
A BETTER RESPONSE AND PRACTICE IT.
 ACTIVITY: GET A GRIP ON ANGER

•WRITE / LIST SOME WAYS THAT ARE

USED TO DEAL WITH ANGER. • EXAMPLES
•INCLUDE BOTH GOOD AND BAD  THROW THINGS
METHODS. WHEN YOU HAVE FINISHED  SCREAM
WITH A LIST, DECIDE ON THE METHODS  COUNT TO 10
THAT ARE HEALTHY WAYS TO DEAL
WITH ANGER.