Get Your Life Back!

30 fast & efficient steps to recover from your setbacks
Beginner’s mini-guide
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GET YOUR LIFE BACK!
Beginner’s mini-guide from Orthodox Therapy series

Self-help work-handbook
by
Author Name: Marilena Hardon
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BLESSINGS:
A WORD FROM ME, MARILENA, THE AUTHOR
Make this, your first step towards your new life, a clean one, from the outside garbage, that got somehow
stuffed in your life, making you responsible for all the drama and all the set backs.
Maybe in part you are to blame for some stupid things you have done. But hey, its not about being perfect,
its about being fair, and being sane, and no person on this Earth will be striving to her or his setbacks and
failure, no one designs his life with the pure purpose to suffer all kinds of pains and humiliations, no one
desires for himself a poor health condition, no one dreams to be homeless, no one craves debts and a life filled
with unpaid bills, no one want this kind of life, with no love, no family, no friends in it, to enjoy all the benefits
of being alive on this planet.
So no one can really tell you that it is only and solely your fault for being in this low damaged life
condition, because I will never agree with the fact that you are the only responsible for this. No one actually is
to blame for his misfortune. But for now, we will focus on you. Ok?
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IF NO ONE G AV E Y O U T I M E T O F O C U S O N Y O U , NOW YOU H AV E IT!
TAKE BACK YOUR POWER!
Start loving yourself, start knowing yourself
Stop asking others for answers that they them selves don’t know
Be your own leader
Respect yourself
You worth your weight in diamonds, did you knew that?
You deserve to cater for yourself.
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BIBLIOGRAPHY & GUIDANCE
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The base of this mini guide is rooted in the field of orthodox knowledge, but also in the field of management
of human’s life quality. Both fields have a lot in common, if studied and understood properly. Apparently
they don’t share the same ideology, but in fact, the management of human’s life quality has a lot of his roots
founded , with or without intention, deep in the old knowledge of monotheist religions that were alive in the
neo-pagan era, before Christianity. At least this is my perspective on it.
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There for, I am able to mention as bibliography: the laic orthodox/ monotheistic lifestyle, a lifestyle known
for thousands of years in the Carpathians Mountain region, in Eastern Europe, through a process of
conscious or unconscious reconnection to their ancient Thracian and pre-Thracian roots, mixed also with
the official one, which is translated into orthodox religion, orthodox Christianity, - the holy book of
Orthodoxy being The Holy Scripture, or the Holy Orthodox Bible.
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Dust yourself off!!

Get up!
Wash up!
Dress up!
Make up/ groom up!
Show up!
Get it done!
Have eyes only for you!
Have ears only to your spirit!
Be your first fan and supporter!
Be your best friend, the one that never fails you, the one that stands by you no matter what,
Be your ride or die partner!
Don’t take no for an answer!
Break them walls!
Be brave!
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30 fast & efficient steps to recover from your setbacks Beginner’s mini-guide from Orthodox Therapy series
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We all experience, at least once in our life time, the confusion of You will feel reborn, all things will begin to make sense, and you
not knowing where to go, from where to start, what to do will finally be able to take back your life from all those who
specifically, at least to declutter our mind, to let clarity in, like inflicted on you drama, negativity, bulling, their misbelieves, their
the rays of light get thru the clouds of a storm, and then restart , doubts and mistrust.
or start all over again our life.

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As silly as you might find the 30 steps I wrote below, if you will I will not do here, all the introduction of myself and my
follow them, I promise your life not only will get better, but you experience with what I call Orthodox Therapy, simply because it
will find new ways to improve it, beyond your imagination. is not the purpose of this guide. The purpose is to keep it short
and on point, so you can spend no time at all with extra extra
unnecessary things.
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------------------------------------Along this work hand-book , you will find the left page especially created for you: to be able
to take notes, to write your own thoughts, your plans, your ides, your goals, your revelations.
And trust me, you will have a lot of them.
Just be open, don’t rush, read and reread, think deep, feel your spirit. It will work side by side with you, to help you and
guide you thru this first process of decluttering your life.
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What is Orthodox Therapy? There for, you don’t need to be a Christian, or a believer
in God, neither your religion will conflict with this
Orthodox Therapy is an ancient eastern way of life, its therapy. Simply because is a positive spiritual therapy.
roots go way back BC era, and its first appliance was in Does not praise evil.
the same area where Romania (Eastern Europe) is today,
even before this country was born: in the Carpathian The common things that both this fields share are simply
Mountains region. because they both rise in the middle of the same
geographical region, where the same population and
In some sense, Orthodox Therapy is related with culture rise time after time, under different names and
Christian-Orthodox religion, without being one and the civilizations. And yes, I am Romanian, born and raised in
same thing. They don’t have in common only the name, but Romania. There for I am a reliable source of orthodoxy.
also a big part of the main coordinates.
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WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON READING THE PAGE ON YOUR RIGHT?
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
Getting back to our sheps, as an old proverb Keep in mind: this cannot be done, unless
would say: you will follow that exact steps, with most
precise accuracy. You really need to do your
best, and until you are not satisfy with the
The whole purpose is to get you back on track, result, do not stop .
moving on with your life, to give you back
power that you lost without knowing you have  How will you know you are satisfied with
it. Why do I say you didn’t knew you have it? the result ? Simple: we all know, honestly,
Because if you knew, I mean REALLY knew deep down inside us, how things should be.
the magnitude of that power, you could not It’s that inner compass, our ‘’Stradivarius
standard’’, that give us that inner
lose it just like that, you would have fight to
satisfaction of a well perfect done thing.
the death to keep it and never lose it, no matter
what life would have thrown at you.
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You can compare the ‘’Stradivarius standard’’ with
God alike attitude when He made/create the World: Do not go forward with the reading, and do not
He took a few steps back, watched and evaluate His proceed to the application of the 30 Steps before
own work, and declared HimSelf satisfied with the
you will make sure you understood every single
work He did.
thing you’ve read here.

Another advise/imperative recommendation I must
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Why is this soo imperative and absolute
give you is this: every time you read a word in this
necessary?
mini-guide, and either rings a bell in your head, or
you simply don’t understand it/you don’t understand
its meaning , go to a book - dictionary, or even Because your brain, our brains, peoples brain
Google and search for a Dictionary. But be careful, work in such way, that if one does not understand
not everything you will find on internet is trust the meaning of what he reads, he will easily forget
worthy. it, get bored, and procrastinate the actions he need
to take in order to complete and reach a goal.
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This being said, let’s get to it by preparing yourself How do you prepare?
mentally, emotionally and physically, because it will be no
easy cake to fix your life, or to get it back. Do not think
Keep in mind this is a must, and you can not
for a second that those who put you down will not try to
keep you down forever, or that they will put no fight to avoid this things by not giving them the necessary
keep you on the bottom of the ladder. credit and power.
Even if you will get all the help in the world, you will I will shortly explain every effect, everything have
still need to put work into it, work that will drain you on
on you, and why is necessary, but I will explain it in
one side, but energize you on the other. Like Nature
short, and you will need to take it by faith. Where
Water System you will filter everything , and this will
possible I will give you also the available options.
take some effort .
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This 3 days do intermitting fasting, if you can,
but the meals should ONLY contain boiled
The preparation will last between 3 to one week, but vegetable: no raw fruits, no grill veggie, no meat,
minimum 3 days . no eggs, no milk, no sweet. The only thing sweet
allowed is tea with honey. And only if you really
need it.
You will need to stay unwashed, yes you read that  If you can’t do it 3 days, at least 1 day do this,
right: do NOT shower 3 days, and for those 3 days wear but it should be the third day of those unclean,
the same clothes, do not change, not even the underwear, unwashed. For example, if you start on Monday,
your 3 days should look like this: Monday and
use wet wipes if you need them for your private body
Tuesday : no shower + same clothes + you can
parts, if this is too much for you, but do not wash them, eat everything, absolutely everything you like,
do not! The only thing you are allowed to wash is your your fav meals, but in normal quantity,
Wednesday: no shower + same clothing from
face in the morning, always with cold ice water, and your
Monday and Tuesday, food: boiled veggies,
hands thru the day and before you will go to sleep. veggies soup. It would be better if you will start
at the end of the week, so you will have no need
to leave home 3 days.
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The next thing you need to attend in this Now… why you will not shower? Why you will eat
three days is to keep yourself away from first your favorite food, then only boiled veggies?
anyone, and I mean anyone that give you
bad energy, cheap talk, and waste your time.
By not showering you will be able to feel your self
Why? Because you will need to focus only on
on every level: mind body soul. And once you will
your life, on your self, and think deep and
analyze your life and identify your true identify your true self, you will need to focus on
problems. knowing your self, and later on establishing a
connection with your inner true spirit. /not washing
Check by phone with everyone in your
life, this way they will feel no need to call your body helps a lot with this, by opening portals
you very soon. Then lock your self in the you could never imagine and will make you see the
house, talk to no one, tell no one what you real level of duality you live in. (there are more
want to do , neither why you want to do it. different levels of realities, based on the duality
Later you will understand why. Just do the structure you live in)
normal conversation and that’s it.
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The food… if you will not be able to fast 3
days, it means you are too connected to the After this three days, when you keep your body
materialistic things. Fasting helps you to put an
equilibrium in your being: body mind soul, and and your spirit in a cocoon of mystic energy
keep under control the outside influence. The ( because this is what will be happening in this three
outside energy enters in our body in my forms,
days, you will seclude yourself in this cocoon, in this
but most common form is by eating.
energy egg, from which you will be rebirth), you
If you will indulge consciously two days in all can go back to your usual routine: shower
you like, also consciously you will decide its time
everyday, coffee with milk, grilled food, fresh
to do something to put your life on the right
track. And if you read this mini guide it means clothes every day. Make the first shower after this
you do want your life back!, and that the life three days the most exfoliating shower from your
you have right now is not always sunshine's and
rainbows. Also will introduce your being, your entire life: scrub two layers of skin hahaha if you
self to less, but healthier food. Doing this you will feel the need. And I know you will!
acknowledge that sometimes you need to make
an effort to do things less pleasurable , but
necessary.
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It’s imperative to understand that we live in a world
 Now, after the long awaited shower, and some nice
where everybody has an opinion over everything
food, take the most comfortable clothes, a cup of
existing in your life. Everybody know how to fix it,
coffee, cold milk or tea, a pen and a notebook,
but actually they break it and make it worst.
because you will first start writing and analyzing
every step. Every step has a free column on the
We need to keep things out of our lives much often, right, where you can write the first things that
rather to include everyone in our business. This world come thru your head, to help you later to develop
is sick of too much from too much. It is not sick out of your Action Plan.
scarcity, from having less abundance , but from being
suffocated with all there is out there.  This being said, let get to 30 fast & efficient
handbook mini guide steps , to recover your life
We are suffocated with opinions, with bulling, with from your setbacks:
dramas, with ipohondrical over sensitivity …
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I F NO ONE G AV E Y O U T I M E T O F O C U S O N Y O U , NOW YOU H AV E IT!
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3 0 FA S T & E F F I C I E N T S T E P S
TO RECOVER FROM YOUR SETBACKS
1. Your first thought…

Redecorate your room, your house, your living space.
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Also your work space too, do a small change, at least at your
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Do you like where you live? ------------------------------------------------------------
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Are there bad memories that keep you from moving forward in life?
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Everyone teaches you that change needs to start with you, and with
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your life. The truth and the matter is : that you are not always to
blame for your setbacks! And sometimes it is not you who need to ------------------------------------------------------------
change, but the enviroment you live in! ------------------------------------------------------------
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Breathe deep and Start with your room.
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Clean, clean and deep clean everything you ----------------------------------------------------------
have: from your body, to your clothes, your ------------------------------------------------------------
entourage, your kitchen, your bedroom, your
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bathroom, your garage, to your desk at your
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office, your work place.
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Clean everything. And I mean EVERYTHING.
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List everything you have, and how it needs to ------------------------------------------------------------
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3. Your first thought….

Organize your work agenda and your
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personal agenda, always having in mind
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3.what is only urgent
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4.what is neither important+neither urgent,
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but you want to do them anyway.
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IF N O O NE G AV E Y O U TIME TO F O CU S O N Y O U, NO W Y O U H AV E IT!
TAK E BA CK Y O UR P O W ER!
Y O UR SECO ND TH O UG H …
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4.
Repair and upgrade everything around Your first thought…..
you: from your pc, phone, apps with your
phone, your window maybe, maybe some ----------------------------------------------------------
clothes need to be sew, maybe the flower
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from your hotchpotch needs to be
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your car is standing in the garage without
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the last checkup done, maybe the sink needs
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Fix everything, repair everything, and ------------------------------------------------------------
upgrade everything. ------------------------------------------------------------
Keep the same, with no upgrade, only
things that are for daily usage, simply ------------------------------------------------------------
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learning new things like a new app or a new
online game
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5.
Relax: is very important: Your first thought….
Find a spa you enjoy, go there for an entire day, and then
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make it a habit to have your own home spa, with essential oils, ------------------------------------------------------------
sea salts, milk and honey, find whatever relax you the most ------------------------------------------------------------
and do it, twice a week, at home, and once a month in a spa.
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Why is it important to do it at home, even if you afford to go
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downtown to get a luxury spa treatment? Well, is vital to do it
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for your rebirth. You need to stay in, to gather yourself, your ------------------------------------------------------------
vibes, your energy, your unicity, your… …yourself. Do more ------------------------------------------------------------
more of you alone.
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Sleep always 7 to 8 hours. No excuses. If -----------------------------------------------
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SLEEP SLEEP. Just sleep. Forget about
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the outside world and sleep. Focus on you
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and your goal, and sleep.
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Establish a schedule for each day,
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considering the week days and weekend
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7. Your first thought….

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healthy. If you take breakfast at 7 o’clock
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everyday, keep it always at 7 o’clock. The
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same goes for lunch and dinner. Keep in
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Make clear future goals for your life: on personal level: on ------------------------------------------------------------------------
professional level: on social level. Decide NOW who needs --------------------------------------------------------------------------
to be in your life and who don’t. --------------------------------------------------------------------------
Do not lower your standards simply because you don’t get --------------------------------------------------------------------------
what you want. Have patience. Time will show you why you --------------------------------------------------------------------------
didn’t receive what you wanted from life. Decide how much --------------------------------------------------------------------------
you need to socialize and most important WHY you --------------------------------------------------------------------------
socialize? If you do it for others, ask your self: are those --------------------------------------------------------------------------
others the same ones that put you down? Are you in this --------------------------------------------------------------------------
mess because of this extra socialite activity of yours? If so,
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Make sport at least 20 min -----------------------------------------------------

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Go to your doctor and also do
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Don’t back down if you need help in achieving all this: search
Your first thought…
for the right people that can help you, use everything you have
and everything you know to do accomplish every single task , ----------------------------------------------------------
with FAIRNESS and JUSTICE.
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Doing everything you can , and everything that you know, is not
always the right thing to do. So keep an eye open on your own ------------------------------------------------------------
character and attitude. Always. ------------------------------------------------------------
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So, who can you trust and who can help you with this: cleaning,
sports, redecorating etc : remember that putting your trust in
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11. Your first thought ...

Never be afraid to say NO, if necessary. ----------------------------------------------------------
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Every time you get busy with your own business,
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someone else happens to need you. If is not a matter of
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life and death, say no to them, your life is for real a
matter of life and death, if you will be pitch bottom and
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Always ask yourself: would they do the same for me? ------------------------------------------------------------
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Even if I told you about the ‘’Stradivarius ----------------------------------------------------------
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Don’t kill yourself over things that simply cannot be
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Evaluate everything you need to do, using the ----------------------------------------------------------
below question list , accordingly to the agenda ------------------------------------------------------------
you made (above we talk about it, remember ------------------------------------------------------------
yes? If not, check it up, then move forward.) ------------------------------------------------------------
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• why am I doing what I am doing? ------------------------------------------------------------
• what am I actually doing?
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For every task you will have to -----------------------------------------------
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15.
Your first thought…
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Define every problem you have, with the most
detailed aspect of it: a well identified problem is half ----------------------------------------------------------
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ability to resolve all problems before they arise.
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Trust your instincts: if your heart tells you to avoid ------------------------------------------------------------------------
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Identify all the causes for your problems: is the ------------------------------------------------------------------------
cause of your problem your entourage? Your job? --------------------------------------------------------------------------
Your family? Your lack of education? Your lack or --------------------------------------------------------------------------

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courage? lack of money? Lack of self-trust? Do you
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something Supreme? From where are your problems
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• R=realistic : can I really sing or am I a goat screaming;
• T=time framed: when I want to sing?
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OTHER ADVICES
1. when something is not right, admit it to yourself first: if you are not true
with yourself, you wont be able to fix anything, because you will not have the real
definition and dimension of the problem: no one can fix something he doesn’t know.
2. every time you feel anxious, preoccupied, worried, make an action plan: do
not delay in attending everything that needs to be fixed: in time they will clutter
and create chaos in your life, and you will not know from where to start, and where
the disaster ends.
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 3. Always try to diferentiate the main problem, from the secondary connected problems
Sometime we are too blinded by secondary problems, the ones that derivate
from the main one, simply because they seem to hurt us more, or their construct is
more ,,shiny’’.
This are the cover up problems, and their purpose is to distract you from the real enemy,
the real problem.
You will run to fix them, while all along the real problem still stands there unsolved,
doing damage unbothered.
 4. Work on self-control. Always. This is your superpower. If its not, MAKE IT.
Self control is attained thru the power of daily habits
Do not fall for the trap of getting out of your comfort zone!:
Monotony, repetitiveness, predictability, is the Mother of all success.
Self control is attained with patience.
Rock patience. Crazy patience. Out of this world patience.
Self control is attained when you have a clear mind and a clear perspective on things.
(see no. 1 advise)
A clear mind and a clear perspective comes from seeing the truth and accepting it as it is,
sweet or not.
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5. Take a look over the activities you loved to do before your life fall into chaos:
did you practiced any sport, did you sing, dance, play any instruments, paint ,
maybe you were into gardening, maybe you were into a business opening, maybe in
writing, etc. What was you enjoyed? Restart doing things you enjoyed.
6. Work your virtues, develop your character. Remember knowledge is not
character. Look into this character thing, there are a few archetypes, but with many
variations. Find books and courses on this subject and start building your inner
strength and inner power.
7. Always remember that what we sow, we reap. There are actions that have
an instant effect, and actions that need your time and patience to be fruitful
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8. Do not fall into temptations. How you will do this? By knowing yourself, your
strengths and weaknesses, and by dogging, improving, correcting, working on yourself.
People do not become what they think, but more they became what they do. The
thinking process is only a possibility, but never a first hand reality.
9. Be faithful to yourself first! Try not to waste time will peoples opinions and
negativity. Are you happy with the choises you make? If the answer is yes, if deep
down in your gut you feel that everything you do is ok, then don’t give it another
thought, just follow your spirit.
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10. Respect as much as possible the order of all activities you set and need to do.
11. You need to find everything you own, day and night, with your eyes closed, in your own life, in your own house, in
your own closet, in your own relationships. What does this means? It means to set a clear and well defined place for
everything in your life, leave no place for misunderstanding, confusions, misplaced, misinterpretations. This is
imperative. No matter the outcome, no matter who will like it or not. You need to set boundaries, set things clear, gain
respect, have power. You do not need to excuse your self for wanting to be in charge of your own life. This is your birth
right!
If you do not know where things stand in your own house, how are you the owner of that home?
If you have no idea where your relationship is going, how will you know if is a good or a toxic relation that you are in?
Set things clear. All of them. Some will hurt, some will make you feel free as a bird, some will bring you immediate
satisfaction.
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12. If you will respect every decision you will take, it means you will put in into practice,
which further on will give results. You can only see results if you stick to your decisions and
your choices. Be faithful to you and your work plan and you will be able to measure the results.
13. Do not let people delay your plans. I am thinking here to those you will delegate, those
who supposedly will help you with your tasks. Every postponement work against you. And
this is a matter of fact. Time is a limited resource.
14. Do not be very opened with people’s indecisions. Hesitant people only delay your success,
not theirs. Always evaluate if their indecisions is really due to your actions or to their
irresolution. Yes and No are perfectly fine answers. At least you have an answer from which you
can move forward.
Their indecision is your delay. Not an answer.
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15. Always remember that

 Thinking generates Beliefs.
 Beliefs generates Faith.
 Faith generates Attitude.
 Attitude generates Behaviors.
 Behaviors generates Results.
 Results generates a Lifestyle.
You will need a drive and perseverance that knows no limits, because you will put
an effort beyond your usual course of action, there for you will need to have the
precision and the focus of a laser , for details.
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MY THANKS TO YOU
First I want to thank you for having the interest in reading this mini-guide. Know that even if I have written all this for you, I
am still working on my self, still improving, still fighting setbacks, still working on my character, still trying to understand the
world I, and we live in.
Know that everything is perfect thru the simple fact that it can be worked on. That can be mold into what is fit for us and our
needs. And everyone that criticize you and make you feel less than you are, have only a poor perspective on your infinite
potential.
Most of the time, those who set you below them as value, they them selves are unhappy and miserable with their own lives
.Why is so? Because every success they parade is not theirs, is a product of either of a work team, or circumstances, or simply is
fake. If your life is not a product of your work, you wont be able to manage it, and you will always be a puppet attached to the
strings and the will of others.
Usually peoples lives are a chaos because they let others take control of their life, they give up their power, knowingly or
unknowingly: of course your life is a chaos: who knows better then you your needs, your dreams, your limits? No one. Even the
most well educated will tell you in their moment of sincerity, that no one, absolutely no one knows by heart another’s persons
limits and potential. They might have an idea, but not the whole truth of you, of your being. Why? Because human being is a
vast and extremely complex form of life. Human arrogance pretend to know everything about humans, but I am writing this
mini guide in the mist of a global pandemic: Covid19. This is the whole proof one need to prove that the level of human
civilization is a facade , not a reality.
So bear in mind that no one has the key to your being, unless you give it to them. Do not help no one enslave you and take
your freedom. Ever.
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HERE IS WHERE YOU CAN FIND ME:
Contact:
Email:
marilena.hardon@gmail.com
Facebook:
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2. 30 fast & efficient steps to recover from your setbacks…………..page 13
3. Other advices……………………………………………....page 43
4. My Thanks to you ………………………………………...page 50
5. Where you can find me……………………………………..page 51
6. Table of Content ………………………………………….page 52
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30 fast & efficient steps to recover from your setbacks

Beginner’s mini-guide from Orthodox Therapy series

Start loving yourself, start knowing yourself

Be your own leader

You worth your weight in diamonds, did you knew that?

You deserve to cater for yourself.

Dust yourself off!!

PLEASE, WRITE THEM BELOW…

Beginner’s mini-guide from Orthodox Therapy series

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Beginner’s mini-guide from Orthodox Therapy series

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YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

1. Your first thought…

YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

2. Your first thought…

YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

3. Your first thought….

YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

6. Your first thought…

YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

7. Your first thought….

change as being regulate, everyday and ------------------------------------------------------------

YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

8. Your first thought…

YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

9. Your first thought…

Make sport at least 20 min -----------------------------------------------------

YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

11. Your first thought ...

YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

12. Your first thought…

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YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

13. Your first thought…

Check list questions: ------------------------------------------------------------

YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

14. Your first thought…

For every task you will have to -----------------------------------------------

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YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

16. Your first thought…

some persons, not to talk to them, not to confide in --------------------------------------------------------------------------

them: LISTEN YOUR GUT, YOUR INSTINCT, --------------------------------------------------------------------------

YOUR FEELING. --------------------------------------------------------------------------

YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

17. Your first thought…

cause of your problem your entourage? Your job? --------------------------------------------------------------------------

Your family? Your lack of education? Your lack or --------------------------------------------------------------------------

YOUR SECOND THOUGH…

18. Your first thought…

go to its roots, not to its peak. Always fix ------------------------------------------------------------

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YOUR SECOND THOUGH…