GOOD MORNING!

Hope you’re having a great start of “TODAY”

 NESHAMA:
A VISIT TO YOUR INNER SELF

Tour Guide - Thun Waddy La Min

 Neshama
• Introduction to our assistant tour guide and the
visitors’ guidebook
• Location 1 : Jail
• Provided Equipment : Radio
• Pain Vs Suffering
• You won’t Get Today Back
• The Bit Players
• Location 2 : Italy
• Welcome to Myanmar
WELCOME ABOARD!
Let the journey begin!
Introduction to our assistant guide and the
visitors’ guidebook
Lori Gottlieb
-American writer / psychotherapist  New York Times
Bestseller
 Published in 2019
 Nonfiction/
Autobiography
(memoir)

Maybe You Should Talk To Someone: A

Therapist, Her Therapist and Our Lives
Revealed
Destination 1 :JAIL
GET ME OUT
OF
Have you ever felt trapped? HERE!!!!!!!
SAVE ME!!!!!!
• Depression/ Anxiety /Despair
• Loneliness/ isolation
• Guilt
• Competence
• Family problems
• Toxic relationship
• Unenjoyable job
• Low Self-esteem/ Search for identity
• Commitment issues
And many more
“All the prisoner has to do is walk
around. But still, he frantically shakes
the bars. That’s most of us. We feel
completely stuck, trapped in our
emotional cells, but there’s a way out –
as long as we’re willing to see it.”

.. YOU
YOU ARE
ARE YOUR
YOUR OWN
OWN JAILER
JAILER
 RADI
O
Hidden stations you don’t know
Stations you listen to they exist
◦ Everyone’s-life-is-better-than- ◦ My-life-is-as-good-as-everyone-
mine Station else Station
◦ I-can’t–trust-people Station ◦ I-can-trust-compassionate-people
◦ Nothing-works-out-for-me Station Station
◦ I-can-make-it-work Station

Change the Station. Walk around the bars.

Who’s stopping us but ourselves?
“Freedom Involves Responsibility, And There’s A Part Of
Most Of Us That Finds Responsibility Frightening”

-Lori Gottlieb
Stop 1:
What if you are suffering due to external forces?
Pain Vs Suffering

“There’s a difference between pain and suffering. You’re going to

have to feel pain – everyone feels pain at times- but you don’t have
to suffer so much. You can’t choose the pain but you can choose
whether you suffer or not.”

Is it something that’s being done to me or am I doing it to myself?

The answer gives you choices but it’s up to you to make them.
“Between stimulus and response there is a space.
In that space is our power to choose our response.
In our response lies our growth and freedom”

-Viktor Frankl ( Man’s Search for meaning)

Stop 2:
How often do we talk about future?
• I’m going to lose weight.
• I’m going to start exercising.
• We’re going to take a vacation this year. Process and
• In three years, I’ll get that promotion. Progress
• After Graduation, I’ll find a highly-paid job. (Ending
• I’m saving to buy a house. Result)
• We want to have a second baby in a couple of
years.
• I’ll go to my next reunion proudly in five years.
YOU WILL NEVER
GET TODAY BACK.
[Daily Reminder]
Stop 3: Introduction to the Bit Players

Julie Dara
A 33-year-old Successful University Professor
Newly-married to a lovely husband (Dated for 3 years)  Mother of a child with Severe Autism
Honeymoon on a beach in Tahiti
Severe autism
Pregnant
Found out she has Breast Cancer on their first Prenatal -Endless Hitting / head banging
Appointment
-inability to have a conversation
3 Miscarriages afterwards
Breast Cancer Cured -cannot eat by himself
6 Months Later, -Multiple Weekly Therapy Sessions
Was scanned with a rare form of Cancer
 There is no hierarchy of pain.
Suffering shouldn’t be ranked, because
pain is not a contest.
Your Feelings are TRIVIAL.
HOW HAS COUPVID
AFFECTED YOU?
Be Honest!
Destination 2 :
ITALY
Welcome to HOLLAND?!!!! What do you mean
Holland! Holland? I Signed Up for Italy! I’m
supposed to be in Italy. All My life
I’ve dreamed of going to Italy.

There’s been a change in the flight plan.

We’ve landed in Holland and you must
stay.

ITALY’s where I was supposed to

go. That’s what I had planned!
But….. If you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you
may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things……about
Holland.

-Emily Perl Kingsley ( Welcome to Holland )

Overview
 Jail : You are your own jailer. Walk around the bars ( be willing to find a way out )
 Radio : Change the station. Turn your negative thoughts into positive ones.
 Pain vs Suffering : Will you suffer or not? The choice is up to you.
 You won’t get today back : PRESENT is more important than Future.
 The Bit Players : Your Feelings are Trivial – do not repress them.
 Welcome to Holland : If you mourn too much on what u didn’t get, you cannot appreciate
what you have now.

The only thing you have control in the whole world

is your own mind.
Hope you had a nice trip inside your
“neshama”
Thank u for giving me 40 minutes of your “TODAY”
(& welcome to Myanmar!)