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"He said, "I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allah, and I know
from Allah that which you do not know." - Surah Yusuf: 86-
Fear protects us from unwanted
things. Fear of failure for example,
motivates us to learn and make
necessary preparations.
Consequently, if there is
something we fear, study it,
understand it or consult the expert
group in the field.
WHAT IS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
• Emotional intelligence is the ability to
recognise and understand emotions in
ourselves and others, also the ability to use
this awareness to manage our behaviour
and relationship. (Bradberry T. & Greaves J.,
2009).
• A person’s ability to recognize and
understand own and those of others’
emotions, also managing emotions
effectively in others and oneself. (Goleman D.,
1995)
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE MODEL BASE ON GOLEMAN
HOW DOES EI WORK?
1 ACTIVATING EVENT
FRONTAL LOBE
LIMBIC SYSTEM
(AMYGDALA)
+ HEART
3 RESULT:
GOOD RESPONSE
HOW MIND & HEART CAN WORK TOGETHER?
3 RESULT:
GOOD RESPONSE
EMOTIONAL
INTELLIGENCE STRATEGIES
1. SELF-AWARENESS STRATEGIES
Few steps to build self awareness in dealing with people.
Strategies to build high EI
Utilize an assertive style of
• When something unexpected happens, firstly know your hot buttons/ triggers. communicating. Brave to say “No”
Source of feeling and what is your true feeling that time.
Know hot • Example anger
about work that you cannot do.
button
Respond instead of reacting to
conflict.
• Alert Body reaction toward the feeling Utilize active listening skills. Be a good
How body • Example : clenched fists, sweating, trembling listener
response
Be motivated. Put goals and ambition
high to push your internal locus of
• Realised your triggers impact your behaviour control
• what you feel physically that let you know your button are being pushed
Recall physical Practice ways to maintain a positive
feedback
. Write down your ‘hot button’ issues then recall
attitude.
Practice self-awareness.
• Write how you typically or automatically respond when trigered.
• Example: Body shaking Take critique well.
Automatic
responses Empathize with others.
Aware of Your Hot-buttons or triggers and Its
Impact to Your Response or Behaviour
Someone commented the temperature rise, dry High tone, retaliate, hit
way you do your task throat, tremble hands… the table, cursing…
harshly, yet, that
someone did not do his /
her potion as expected.
• Assess your strengths.
2. SELF-MANAGEMENT STRATEGIES • Prioritize your
responsibilities. Do a
• Few steps in develops self management: notes and put the
• Take a deep breath/ istighfar/ smile/ count down 10-1 importance work to do at
the first.
• Create an emotion responses together with reason • Develop organizational
triggers list (help to identify root cause of your systems.
responses) • Create strict deadlines.
• Having the emotional and rational responses list help • Perform one task at a
you to choose the best option rather than allowing time. Systematic
your emotion to hijack the situation. working
• Practice patience.
• Incorporate time to process your emotion.
Always practice calm
• Take care of your health
and wellness.Follow the
Ministery of Health
Example of EMOTION, REASON,
emotional and rational response
EMOTION REASON EMOTIONAL RATIONAL
RESPONSE RESPONSE
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