WHAT IS A PERSONAL

RELATIONSHIP?
 PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP???
- 'The way in which two or more people,
groups, countries, etc. talk to, behave toward,
and deal with each other”
- “ the way in which two or more people or
things are connected.”
 Personal Relationship??
-Privacy and Intimacy are two characteristics
that define personal relationship. Personal
relationship also involves a degree of
commitment to another person or persons.
-In contrast, an impersonal or informal
relationship may have commitment not to a
person or group of persons, but to entity such as
business organization, a principle or a cause.
-The very first meaningful relationship every
human being encounters is with one’s mother.
Even before birth, the mother-child relationship
is already established.
-The intimacy that is nurtured during the nine
months of pregnancy will be enhanced and
developed further after the birth of the child.
There are three attachment styles as
defined by Ainsworth, Blekar, Walters,
and Wall (1987), these are:
1. Secure Attachment- Is when the primary
caregiver is most of the time present and
available and when all the emotional needs
of an infant are met, providing a sense of
security to the infant.
-more secure and stable relationship.
There are three attachment styles as
defined by Ainsworth, Blekar, Walters,
and Wall (1987), these are:
2. Avoidant Attachment- Is when the primary
caregiver is cold and detached, and even
unresponsive to a child’s needs. The child senses
rejection and this often leads to premature
detachment and self-reliance.
- A person who experienced this style of attachment
in infancy and childhood will oftentimes experience
unstable relationships in the future.
There are three attachment styles as
defined by Ainsworth, Blekar, Walters,
and Wall (1987), these are:
3. Anxious-ambivalent attachment- when the
primary caregiver is not consistent in terms of
presence and in meeting the child’s emotional
needs.
-a person who experienced this style of
attachment in childhood may develop separation
anxieties with a loved one or commitment when
entering into a meaningful relationships.
According to Fisher, there are three stages of
falling in love:
1. Lust- Is driven by the sex hormones,
testosterone, and estrogen. These hormones
affect both sexes.
2. Attraction- Is described as the lovestruck
phase, which involves neurotransmitters in the
brain such as dopamine, norepinephrine, and
serotonin. This is the stage when a person loses
sleep and appetite over someone, and swoons
while daydreaming of this special person.
According to Fisher, there are three stages of
falling in love:
3. attachment- when the couple in love decides
to continue with the relationship, they enter
attachment stage where long-lasting
commitments are exchanged and may lead to
raising a family.
The Rozenberg Quarterly mentions several
theories and research results related to
attraction and liking. These are:
1. Transference Effect- there are times we meet
people who immediately like or dislike. Usually,
these people remind us of someone in the past
who has affected our sense of self and our
behavior.
The Rozenberg Quarterly mentions several
theories and research results related to
attraction and liking. These are:
2. Propinquity Effect- we often develop a sense
of familiarity with people who live close to us,
work with us, or go to school with us, which
leads us to liking them more.
The Rozenberg Quarterly mentions several
theories and research results related to
attraction and liking. These are:
3 . Similarity- We often like people who we have
similarities with, such as social class background,
religious belief, age, and education.
The Rozenberg Quarterly mentions several
theories and research results related to
attraction and liking. These are:
4. Reciprocity- We like people who like us back.
According to research, reciprocity is a stronger
basis for liking another person than similarity.
The Rozenberg Quarterly mentions several
theories and research results related to
attraction and liking. These are:
5. Physical Attractiveness- Several research
studies were conducted to confirm that physical
attractiveness is a major factor in liking
someone, and usually, first impression counts a
lot.
The Rozenberg Quarterly mentions several
theories and research results related to
attraction and liking. These are:
6. Personality Characteristics and Traits-People
get attracted to two characteristics that lead to
liking the other person, these are: emphatic
persons, who exude warmth and sympathy and
who are also optimistic and maintain positive
views and socially competent persons who are
good communicators.
 Assignment
1. Describe how you express your attraction for
someone.
2. Describe how you express your love for
another person and how you show your
commitment to this person or persons.
STENBERG’S TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE

1. Intimacy- That lovely moment when someone

understands and validate us.
-Being intimate with another person is about
being open and vulnerable to that person whom
we deeply trust, we feel connected with, and
who values us with unconditional positive
regard, which is viewing the other person with
complete trust and devoid of suspicion or
negative thought.
2. Commitment – it is an act of deciding to
consistently fulfill and live by agreements made
with another person, entity or cause, and where
the values of integrity and respect serve a guide
to one’s behavior and thinking.
3. Passion – the intense state of being that
drives and consumes a person to pursue an
interest, a vision, or a person. In terms of
romantic love, passion connotes sexual
attraction, as well as intimacy.
 Some important responsibilities that are
necessary in a relationship to make it flourish
and stay beneficial
1. Be responsible for what you think and say to
other person.
2. Be responsible for what you promise to do or
not do.
3. Ensure the relationship is mutually beneficial.
4. Respect the other party or parties involved.
5. Be ready to provide support when needed.
 Activity
Create a plan on how you can improve your
relationships for the future. Draw a mind map of
your plan.