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INTELLIGENCE
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Introduction
Aristotle spoke about a rare ability
• To be angry with the right person
• To the right degree
• At the right time
• For the right purpose
• And in the right way.
To be successful, you do not just need to be intelligent, but you need to be emotionally intelligent.
That ability to use emotions effectively is important for relationships.
• It is a person ability to
• Perceive emotions in oneself and others
• Understand the meaning of these emotions
• Regulate one’s emotions
• Knowing your feelings and using them to make life decisions
• Being able to manage your emotions without being hijacked by it.
• Not being paralyzed by depression or worry or swept by anger
• Channeling your impulses to pursue your goals
Why do we focus on EI?
• Today in our education system we are told that technical intelligence etc, is
important.
• But this is not the only type of intelligence we need to survive in today’s
world.
DEFINITION
We can only manage ourselves effectively to the extent that we are self aware,
and we can only manage our relations with others effectively to the extent that
we are aware of them and their feelings
ASPECTS OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
1.Self-awareness
2.Self-management
3.Social awareness
4.Relationship management
5.Assertiveness
6.Independence
7.Empathy
1. Self-awareness
• It is the most important aspect
• It is the ability to recognize how you are feeling and why your are feeling a
certain way and the impact that it will have on others.
Example: you had a fight with your friend over something. And you are
angry. The first thing is to recognize that you are angry.
Sometime people don’t know why they are feeling in a certain way? It
indicates lack of self-awareness.
Our feelings have impact on others. After the fight you go home and don’t
eat. This upsets your mother.
In order to be self-aware, we need to conduct a self assessment.
• Ask yourself; what am I positive and what am I negative
• What am I good at and what am I not good at;
• What kind of a person am I?
Using your gut feeling you understand why you are feeling in a certain way.
• Ask yourself which was the strongest emotion you experienced in the last week?
• How did you become aware of this particular emotions?
• What are the areas in my life that I need to work on?
• What are my strengths and weaknesses?
• How do others perceive me?
2. self-management:
• It is the ability to manage the emotions that I am going through.
• All of us go through emotions.
• It is important to control those emotions.
• Recognize
• Understand
• Label
• Express
• Regulate
• Adaptability
• We need to adapt to the situation that we are put into
• Example: we are put into this covid-19 situation.
• Instead of complaining, how do we adapt and make the best use of it.
• Self-control
• Transparency
• Stress management
3. Social awareness; being aware of the people around you.
• Understanding people’s non-verbal communication
• Understanding and responding to the needs of other people we
are not islands
• We live in the midst of people.
• We need to be socially aware of what people are going through.
• Am I able to the emotions portrayed on people’s faces.
4. Relationship management
• It means using personal information and information about others to handle one’s relationship and
develop interpersonal skills.
• Example: you go to the office and find your team-mate upset. Using the information that you have ask
him,
• Hey you look upset. Is there anything that I can do for you?
• He feels, look I have someone who cares about me and wants to know about me. And he shares his
problem. Thus the relationship is established.
• Get curious, not furious- Watch what you say especially when frustrated or
annoyed. Reframe negative emotions into curiosity - " ... this makes absolutely
no sense to me" can be replaced with, "Do you see something in this that I must
be missing”