Building and

maintaining
relationship
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According to Ciccarelli and
White (2014), there are
seven rules of
ATTRACTION:

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PHYSICAL
.CTIVENE
ATTRA
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Attraction usually starts
because physical beauty
influences the choices of
person.

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proximity
.
Refers to being physically near someone
like living along the same street, seating
next to each other, or working in the
same company.

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similarity
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People with similar attitudes,
beliefs, and interests are engage
in similar activities or behaviors

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complementary
.
Complementary qualities are
characteristics in one person that
fill a need in the other.

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Reciprocity of liking
.
Strong inclination to like a
person because you knew
he/she likes you too; norm of
reciprocity

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Biblical
definition
- The definition of love given is already the perfect
kind of love: love that is selfless and all giving.
- An ideal standard to strive for in a relationship.
- 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “Love is patient, love is
kind”

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A scientific
perspective
Love is a powerful drive that excites the brain
and sets a neurological condition, such that
neurotransmitters release different chemicals
in the body. Such neurotransmitters elicit are
dopamine, norepinephrine (adrenalin), and
serotonin.

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Philosophical
foundations
Philosophers of ancient Greece had pondered on
love. Their thoughts led them into thinking about
love in different ways.
- “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting
two bodies.” – Aristotle
- “At the touch of love, everyone becomes a
poet”
- Plato
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Four kinds of love according to
philosophy
Eros - sexual or passionate love, and is the type
most akin to our modern construct of romantic love
Philia – brotherly love that characterizes friendship
Storge – love for family and close companions
Agape – divine and unconditional love of God for
man

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 Passion
Physical aspect
of love; hugs,
kisses,
Intimacy appreciating Commitm
Shares common looks of the
emotional ties to person ent
one another; Choice one makes
attachment about a
relationship
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Forms of LOVE
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Liking (intimacy only)
-When the person feels a
sense of emotional
closeness such as sharing
deep information about
each other.
- True friendship.

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Infatuation (passion
-only)
“LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT”
- Physical attraction is what
keeps the relationship
going
- Often experienced by
adolescents

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Empty love
(Commitment only)
Fixed marriages for example
can start as an empty love
wherein the person is likely
to stay in the relationship
even without intimacy and
passion.

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Romantic love (Intimacy + Passion)
- Attachment are not caused
by physical attributes but
emotional aspects.
- Usually kind of love
experienced by couples
who
are about to get married.

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Compassionate love
(Intimacy + Commitment)
- Usually observed in some long-
time marriages where passion
(physical closeness) was gone
but emotional closeness and
commitment persist.

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Fatuous love (passion + commitment)
- Whirlwind courtship
- Hardly know each other
and already decided to
be in a relationship and
soon get married.

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Consummate love
(intimacy + passion + commitment)
Ideal and perfect kind of love that many
people would like to have but
apparently only few can achieve.

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 This means that
adolescents whose
relationship become
longer may have more
chance of performing
sexual acts.

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YOUNG ADULT FERTILITY& SEXUALITY (YAFS4) STUDY
University of the Philippines
Population Institute (2013)

Since 1994, there

has been a rise in
the proportion of
18-24 old youth
having sex before
the age of 18.

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YOUNG ADULT FERTILITY& SEXUALITY (YAFS4) STUDY
University of the Philippines
Population Institute (2013)

Among 19,178
respondents showed
1 out of 3 Filipino
youth had
premarital sex, most
of them young
adults aged 20-24
(54%).
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Do you know…
× Adolescents usually engage in
vaginal intercourse.
× Some participate in anal or oral
intercourse to
avoid early pregnancy and maintain
virginity.
× These activities may lead in acquiring
sexually transmitted infections.
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Premarital sex
A sexual activity done by
people outside the
boundary of marriage.

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Teenage pregnancy
According to National
Demographic and Health Survey
(2012), as reported by the
Philippine Statistics Authority,
one in ten Filipino teenage
women (from ages 15 to 19) has
begun pregnancy.

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Outcomes
 Poor/less education
: Socio-economic status (poor family)
 Drug use
 Inadequate food intake – low birth weight
and
poor prenatal care
 Possible premature delivery – high risk of
having developmental disabilities
 Financial difficulties
 Lacks maturity, skills and social support to
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 “That’s why it is imperative
to enable them to develop
into responsible adolescents
capable of making rational
decisions based on adequate
information and better
understanding of
reproductive health,”
-Sec. Leonor Briones (2018)

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Sexually
transmitted
infections
Are acquired through sexual contact
and are usually acquired by
teenagers with early sexual activity
exposure and/or unprotected sex
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Genital
warts
- Caused by the human papilloma virus
(HPV) – leading cause of cervical cancer
- Soft skin growths that occur on the
genitals
that can cause discomfort or itch.
- It may also appear on other areas of the
body like mouth, tongue or throat if the
person had oral sex with an infected
person.
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 WARNING

SENSITIVE
PICTURES AHEAD
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Pharyngeal
gonorrhea
- Very common infectious disease that can
be transmitted through sexual activity or
can be spread prenatally from the
mother to the infant during childbirth.
- It contaminates the cervix, uterus, and
fallopian tubes in women and urethra in
both men and women.

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Genital
herpes
- Chronic, recurring, often painful and
highly contagious disease which affects
the immune system or a newborn
infant if the mother is infected at the
time of childbirth.
- Sores typically look as blisters on or
around
the area of genitals, rectum or mouth.

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Human immunodeficiency virus
(hiv)
- The virus that causes acquired
immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS) is
acquired by bodily fluids such as the
blood and semen through sharing
intravenous needles or sexual contact.
- It attacks the immune system that will
put
the person at risk in acquiring fatal
diseases.
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Human immunodeficiency virus
(hiv)
- HIV stands for human immunodeficiency
virus, which is the virus that causes HIV
infection. The abbreviation “HIV” can refer
to the virus or to HIV infection.
- AIDS is the most advanced stage of HIV
infection (AidsInfo, 2019).

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Healthy expressions of
love
× Respect each other
× Exercise give and take in
the relationship
× Give each other space to
grow
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Personal responsibility
you must always consider
taking full responsibility
of your own emotional,
spiritual, physical and
mental well-being

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