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For instance, “ The Love and Logic” Authors, Foster Cline and Jim Fay
categorized parenting styles in to four- Let’s see them
Parenting styles
1. Helicopter parents
2. Drill Sergeant parents
3. The Laissez-Faire parent
4. The Consultant parents
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1. Helicopter parents
As we know:
Helicopters make a lot of wind, noise, and vibration
Their role is to hover, rescue, and protect
But what if the helicopter hovers overhead when there is no
emergency? It is a problem
When parents` insist hovering to provide constant
protection, it is a pain. It can hinder normal life. Those
who use this approach are called helicopter parents
They stay close by in order to rescue their children whenever
a problem arises.
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They jump in to shield their children from teachers,
playmates, and other apparently hostile environment.
They involve in every committee the school may
organize., some of them seem to be at school more
than some of the teachers.
They seem so caring, and they are always “there” for
their kids
Helicopter parents often do things for their kids
because of the way they-the parents feel
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Out of “love” or guilt, they will refrain from imposing or
allowing consequences, because they feel uncomfortable
with consequences
When their children hurt, they bail them out-because they
hurt too.
Helicopter parents behave the way they do because they
confuse love, protection, and caring.
These parents don’t allow their children to fail. If their
kids fail, they mistakenly reason, it means they are un
caring and unloving parents.
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These parents are obsessed with the desire to create a
perfect life for their kids-children never have to face
struggles, inconveniences, discomforts, or
disappointments. Parents do much of the work for
these kids
Covertly they have a message “you are fragile and
can’t make it without me”
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2. Drill Sergeant parents
“ Do it or you are grounded” they bark
Raising kids by barking orders at them is not effective.
They believe that children must submit without protest to
their parents. Children are expected to fit in more than
think themselves.
The parent may say “ I don’t care how you feel about it –you
get it done now.”
Children of drill sergeant parents don’t know how to make
decisions- they have been orderd around all their lives,
listening to voices coming from outside of their heads.
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Make “ do as I tell you” message
Covertly communicate, “ you can’t think for yourself, so I
will do it for you”
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3. The laissez-Faire parent
They let their children raise themselves
They don’t set boundaries to their
behaviors or actions
Believe a theory that children are born
with the ability to govern themselves.
“ whatever will be, will be” approach
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4. The consultant parent
Consultant parents ask questions and offer choices
Instead of telling their children what to do, they put the
burden of decision making on their kid’s shoulder
They provide options within safe limits.
Parents can prepare their children for the real life
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On the other hand, Dr. Phil, in his book, “ Family First”,
categorized parenting styles into three
1. Authoritarian (similar to Drill Sergeant)
This parents tell a child what to do, the rules are clear
and usually inflexible
An authoritarian parents control most of the decision
making process.
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2. Equalitarian (similar to consultative parents)
This category of parents give their children a role in
making choices; children are involved in decision
making process
There is a room for flexibility.
The parents are responsive, attentive and sensitive
to children’s need
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3. Permissive:- ( similar to The laissez-Faire
parent)
Keep children within broad boundaries- Armstrong,
Albert Einstein, and Thomas Edison had permissive
parents
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Steven Covey is known for his book “ The 7 habits of highly
effective people” but he also have a book entitled, “ the 7
habits of highly effective Families”-in which he focused
on certain principles to be followed in parenting our kids
and building our families:
Habit 1-Be proactive- becoming an agent of change in your
family
Habit 2- Begin with the end in mind-Developing a family
mission statement
Habit 3- Put first things first- making family a priority in a
turbulent world
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Habit 4-Think “ win-win”- moving from “me” to “we”
Habit 5- Seek first to understand-then to be
understood-solving family problems through
empathetic communications
Habit 6-Synergize-Building family unity through
celebrating differences
Habit 7-Sharpen the saw-Renewing the family spirit
through traditions
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In conclusion , regarding parenting styles,