S K ILLS OF S EL F -

D EVELOP ME NT
Md Atiqur Rahman Sarker
PhD Researcher (Management)
KENMS, IIUM
E m a i l : s a r k e r. l i m o n @ g m a i l . c o m
OUTLINE

• Self-image
• Self-grooming
• Etiquette
SELF-IMAGE
• Self-Image is how you see yourself.
• It is the mental picture that you have of yourself that has been created by
numerous self-impressions that have built up over time.
• It encompasses your physical attributes as well as your personal characteristics,
traits, and abilities.
• Self-image also incorporates how you view and assess your strengths and
weaknesses.
• This assessment of your abilities, attributes, and characteristics form a
collective representation of who you are as you see yourself – your self-image.
YOUR SELF-IMAGE INCLUDES:

• What you think you look like

• How you view your abilities
• How you view your personality traits
• What you believe others think of you
POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE

• You will see yourself in a positive or negative way depending on how you feel
about yourself.
• If you feel good about yourself, you will have a positive self-image.
• If you have a positive image of yourself, you recognize your strengths and
potential while being realistic about your shortcomings and limitations.
• Conversely, if you do not feel good about yourself, you will have a negative image.
• If you have a negative image, you focus on your faults and weaknesses, often
playing down your strengths while exaggerating your failures and imperfections.
OBJECTIVE AND SUBJECTIVE ASSESSMENTS

• Self-image stems from both objective and subjective assessments.

• Objective assessment are those that are not influenced by personal feelings or opinions and
represent facts.
• Objective assessment may include such attributes as height, weight, hair color, eye color, and
IQ.
• Subjective assessments, in contrast are those evaluations that are based on or influenced by
personal feelings or opinions. 
• Subjective assessments for your image may include such traits as caring, patient, generous,
stubborn, and humorous.
SELF IMAGE !!

• Self-image is generally resistant to change.

• However, it is not permanently fixed.
• You continually take in and process information to
evaluate yourself in multiple areas such as physical
appearance, performance, and relationships.
INFLUENCES
• Your self-image is influenced by both events (life experiences) and personal interactions
(relationships) that affect you.
• Your interactions with family members, peers, and friends can significantly affect the way you
view yourself.
• Therefore, if they are positive and encouraging relationships, chances are you will have a
positive image. 
• For example, if you have supportive parents who reinforce your positive attributes and
abilities, that will help create a positive image.
• However, if those relationships are destructive and disparaging, you may develope a poor
image.
• For example, if you are criticized and berated by your peers, you will often develop a poor
image.
INFLUENCES (CONTD..)
• Life experiences and events can also influence your self-image in many
ways.
• For example, failing at a task can cause you to look at yourself negatively.
• Your image can also be affected by other experiences such as information
you take in from sources such as the media.
• For example, the media may portray the perfect body type differently
from your body type, which may cause you to have a different perspective
on your body.
IMPORTANCE OF SELF-IMAGE
• Self-image is important because how you view yourself affects how you feel about yourself
and how you interact with others.
• It can help shape your experiences and relationships.
• For example, feeling good about yourself can lead to a better performance on a task.
• If you have a positive self-image and feel good about yourself, you will have an optimistic
attitude.
• People like other people who have positive and optimistic attitudes.
• Therefore, when you interact with other people, those interactions will be uplifting and
rewarding.
• In turn, that constructive relationship continues to feed and positively influence your image.
HOW TO DEVELOP SELF-IMAGE
• Think about what is affecting your self-image
• Avoid negative self-talk
• Connect with people who love you
• Learn to be assertive
• Set yourself a challenge
• Focus on your positives
• Take care of yourself
• Get support if things get too much
WHAT IS SELF-GROOMING?
• It is an act of improving and caring for your own body and appearances. 
• Self-grooming is far too essential for career development; essential for
leadership role. Self-grooming involves bathing daily, personal hygiene and
even dressing. 
• You might have realized before that when you smile, people take it as pleasant.
• On the other hand, when you display a rude attitude on your face, people tend
to drift away from you.
11 TIPS ON GROOMING YOURSELF FOR LEADERSHIP

• Be confident in your opinions

• Ask questions
• Keep learning
• Find a mentor
• Know what your organization offers, and the requirements for obtaining those positions
• Practice executive thinking
• Plan, plan, plan
• Stand out
• Accept responsibility
• Be trustworthy
• Be authentic
ETIQUETTE
• Etiquette is defined as the behavior of others that is customary or accepted by
society.
• The unseen or energetic foundations of etiquette are part of being a
successful leader and include three core components that can make or break
the human connection required to be an exceptional leader in business today.
• Three examples of etiquette in action for business are integrity, dignity and
humility.
• Every leader should possess and develop them daily.
• When a leader has these three foundational traits, they can become a magnet
for all things good in their personal and business life.
TOP TEN LIST OF BASIC ETIQUETTE
• Reply when someone speaks to you
• Give appropriate eye contact
• Give compliments to others
• Dress appropriately
• Practice active listening
• Open the door for others. This is often tough for men as well as ladies
• Speak clearly; don’t mumble
• Be punctual, which means be on time. There will be times when you have no control over
circumstances, but for the most part, be known as someone who arrives on time
• Use table manners
• Leave things cleaner than when you arrived
CONCLUSION
• Leaders are not born. Rather, everyone is born
to become a leader.
• Good leaders are not born but are made over
time, by making good choices.
THANK YOU