BUILDING AND MAINTAINING

RELATIONSHIPS
ACCEPTABLE AND UNACCEPTABLE EXPRESSIONS OF ATTRACTIONS,

PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP – ATTRACTION, LOVE, AND COMMITMENT

AND

BECOMING RESPONSIBLE IN PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

Aiyls D. Malubag-Batan
 OBJECTIVES
•At the end of the lesson, learners are expected to:
• Enumerate acceptable and unacceptable expressions of
attractions
• Share one’s expressions on how to show affections
towards another person or people
• Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship
ATTRACTION IS A
FORCE THAT
UNITE PEOPLE.
 AFFECTION IS
ONE OF HUMAN
BEINGS’
GREATEST
EMOTIONS.
INFATUATION IS LOVE
WITHOUT
ENGAGEMENT OR
INTIMACY.
PEOPLE DIFFER IN
WHAT THEY
CONSIDER
ATTRACTIVE.
RELATIONSHIP
IS A ONEWAY
TRAFFIC.
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP IS
A FORM OF RELATIONSHIP
CLOSELY LINKED TO A
PERSON AND WHICH CAN
ONLY BE IMPORTANT TO
THAT PERSON.
 AFFECTION IS
ONE OF THE
QUALITIES IN A
RELATIONSHIP
THAT EVERYONE
LOOKS FOR.
 ACCORDING TO
RESEARCH STUDY,
PEOPLE DIFFER IN
WHAT THEY
CONSIDER
ATTRACTIVE, AND
CULTURAL
INFLUENCES ON
ATTRACTIVENESS.
 LADIES WITH
BROAD
SHOULDERS AND A
SMALL WAIST ARE
NOT ATTRACTIVE
TO MEN.
 INTIMACY IS A
SHARING OF
DETAILS,
EMOTIONS, AND
INTIMATE
THOUGHTS
 PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP
A form of relationship closely linked to a person and which can only be important
to that person.

KINDS OF PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

Privacy and Intimacy
Two attributes describing personal relationships and level of commitment to
another person/s
Impersonal Relationship
commitment to an organization like a business entity, a principle or purpose.
Attraction
A force that unites people and can grow into an attachment which eventually
leads to commitment
WHY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP ARE IMPORTANT?

Healthy relationship are vital component of health and wellbeing.

There is compelling evidence that strong relationships contribute to a

long, healthy, and happy life.

conversely, the health risks from being alone or isolated in one’s life are
comparable to the risks associated with cigarette smoking, blood
pressure, and obesity
 HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP CAN HELP YOU:

1. LIVE LONGER.
2. DEAL WITH STRESS
3. BE HEALTHIER
4. FEEL RICHER
 UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP CAN LEAD YOU:

1. DEPRESSION
2. DECREASED IMMUNE FUNCTION
3. HIGHER BLOOD PRESSURE
 WHAT MAKES A HEALTHY AND ACCEPTABLE
EXPRESSION OF ATTRACTIONS?

• Mutual respect
• Trust
• Honesty
• Support
• Fairness
• Separate Identities
• Good Communication
 10 THINGS THAT ARE UNACCEPTABLE IN ANY
RELATIONSHIP
• Cheating • Self- destruction
• Putting you down
• Not supporting your dreams
• Controlling
• Lack of communication
• Unreliability
• Forgetting the memorable
day
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Affairs/ Infidelity/
Cheating - This includes
emotional infidelity, one
night stands, internet
relationship(including
‘sexting’), long-and short
affairs and financial
infidelity
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Sexual Issues, particularly

loss of libido and including
questions around your
gender, or your partner’s
gender
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Significant differences in
core values and beliefs
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Life stages - you have

‘outgrown’ each other or
have ‘changed’
significantly for whatever
reason
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Traumatic and/or Life-

Changing Events
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Responds to prolonged
periods of Stress, such as
Work-ralated Stress, long-
term illness, mental health
issues, Financial Problems,
Problems with the children,
infertility and many more
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Bored in or with Your

Relationship
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Dealing with jealous

partner
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Having ‘Blended’ family

issues
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Domestic violence, which

includes verbal as well as
physical abuse:

THE most serious

relationship problem
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Knowing you should not

have got married in the
first place!
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Lack of responsibility
regarding finances, children,
health an many other issues
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Unrealistic Expectations-
still thinking your
partner/spouse is the
princess/knight and not
seeing the ‘real’ human
being
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Addiction - substance
abuse
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Excessive reliance on social

media, at the cost of the
relationship
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• lack of support during

particularly difficult time
from people that matter to
you
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Manipulation or over-
involvement in your
relationships with family or
friends
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Lack of communication
about important matters
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Poor division of and/or one

sided lack of responsibility
for chores and tasks. it is
not always women who
complain about this
relationship problem!
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Perceived Lack of
concern, care and
consideration/attentivenes
s: feeling the relationship is
one-sided is a big one!
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Significant personal
disappointment and
traumas that lead to a
change in relationship
dynamics
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Long term stress,

particularly when not taking
responsibility for doing
something positive to
address the cause, or about
learning to handle it if it
cannot be changed
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

• Unsupportive partner during

pregnancy and/or
significant problems after
the birth of your baby.
 IMPORTANT CONCEPTS OF PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

•Attraction- the action or power of

evoking interest, pleasure, or liking
for someone or something; and a
quality or feature that evokes interest,
liking, or desire
 IMPORTANT CONCEPTS OF PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP
• Love-
(a) strong affection for another arising out of kinship
or personal ties;
(b) attraction based on sexual desire: affection and
tenderness felt by lovers;
( c) Affection based on admiration, benevolence, or
common interest.
 IMPORTANT CONCEPTS OF PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

•Commitment – it refers to the

feelings and action that keep
partners working together to
maintain the relationship
 HOW DO YOU
Stay happy
EXERCISE
EXPRESSING
Be emphatic
YOUR
AFFECTIONS
Keep an open communication
AND DEVELOP
INTO A
Always Trust
COMMITMENT
FOR ANY
Show respect
KINDS OF
Be a helping hand
RELATIONSHIP
6 MAJOR ELEMENTS OF BECOMING RESPONSIBLE
Mutual RespectIN A RELATIONSHIP
Value Quality Time
Trust and Honesty
Well-communicate love
Reliability and security
Non-judgmental listening and presence
 NURTURE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
•Connect with your family
•Practice gratitude
•Learn to forgive
•Be compassionate
•Accept other
•Create rituals together
•Spend the right amount of time together
 10 RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-
LASTING AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIP

•You must love yourself first

 10 RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-
LASTING AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIP

•PARTNERING IS A CHOICE
MUST NURTURE THE
RELATIONSHIP
 10 RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-
LASTING AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIP

•Creating love is a process

 10 RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-
LASTING AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIP

•Relationships provide
opportunities to grow
 10 RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-
LASTING AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIP

•Communication is essential
 10 RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-
LASTING AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIP

•Negotiation will be required

 10 RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-
LASTING AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIP

•Your relationship will be

challenged by change
 10 RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-
LASTING AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIP

•You must nurture your the

relationship for it to thrive
 10 RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-
LASTING AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIP

•Renewal is the key to longevity

 10 RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-
LASTING AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIP

•You will forget all this the

moment you fall in love
• Activity 1
List down 5 acceptable and unacceptable Expressions in
a Relationship that you have experienced or witnessed
• Activity 2
Compare ways in showing an affection to someone
( teenagers in 90s vs teenagers in 2021)
• Activity 3
List down at least 5 essential keys on becoming responsible
in a relationship that is applicable to you.