MARRIAGE & FAMILY

JENNIELYN M. TAMAYO
FACULTY, BSE & BTLED
 CHAPTER 1: LOOKING TOWARD MARRIAGE

• The Youth: Their Relationship with Family, Friends, and Members of the Opposite Sex

• Healthy Boy-Girl Relationship

• Importance of Friendship in the Choice of Mate

• Love and Infatuation

• Kinds of Dating, its Benefits and the Social Graces Recommended During Dating

• Going Steady

• Courtship: A Step Towards Engagement

• Comparison of Old and Modern Courtship

• Stages/Processes of Courtship and Elements of Love

• Factors to be Considered in Choosing a Lifetime Partner

• Engagement: A Step towards Marriage and Responsibilities of an Engaged

 LESSON 1: THE YOUTH: THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH
FAMILY, FRIENDS, AND MEMBERS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX

• Youth Relationships with their family- Family relationships are often reorganized
during puberty. Teens want more independence and more emotional distance
between them and their parents. A teen's focus often shifts to social interactions and
friendships. This includes same-gender friends, same-gender groups of friends, and
cross-gender groups of friends. Supportive and close family relationships protect
your child from risky behaviour like alcohol and other drug use and problems like 
depression. Your support and interest in what your child is doing at school can
boost their desire to do well academically too.
 BUILDING POSITIVE FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS WITH
TEENAGERS: TIPS

• Love and appreciation-Show your child how much you love and appreciate them. This can be as simple as saying ‘I love you’
each night when they go to bed or giving them a high-five.

• Family meals
Regular family meals are a great chance for everyone to chat about their day or about interesting stuff that’s going on or coming
up. If you encourage everyone to have a say, no-one will feel they’re being put on the spot to talk. Also, many families find that
meals are more enjoyable when the TV isn’t invited and mobile phones and tablets are switched off!
• Family outings
Try setting aside time for fun family outings – you could all take turns choosing activities. A weekend away together as a family
can also build togetherness. Our article on teenagers and free time has more ideas for things you can do as a family.
• One-on-one time
One-on-one time with your child gives you the chance to stay connected and enjoy each other’s company. It can also be a chance
to share thoughts and feelings. This might be as simple as going for a walk together, watching a movie, or telling your child a
story. Or you might find a regular hobby to do together, like cooking or yoga.
• Celebrate your child’s accomplishments
Celebrating your child’s accomplishments, sharing their disappointments, and supporting
their hobbies sends the message that your child’s interests are important to you. You don’t
have to make a big deal of this – sometimes it’s just a matter of showing up to watch your
child play sport or music, or giving them a lift to extracurricular activities.
• Family traditions
Family traditions, routines and rituals can help you and your child set aside regular dates and
special times. For example, you might have a movie night together, a favourite meal or
cooking session on a particular night, a family games afternoon or an evening walk together.
• Household responsibilities
Agreed household responsibilities give children and teenagers the sense that they’re making
an important contribution to family life. These could be things like chores, shopping or
helping older or younger members of the family. It helps to give your child some say in
which responsibilities they take on.
• Family rules
Agreed-on rules, limits and consequences give teenagers a sense of
security, structure and predictability. They help your child know what
standards apply in your family, and what will happen if they push the
boundaries. When your child is involved in making your family rules,
they’re more likely to see them as fair and stick to them. Negotiating
rules with your child can also help you to reduce and manage conflict
with your child.

• Family meetings
Family meetings can help to solve problems. They give everyone a
chance to be heard and be part of working out a solution.
 THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR
FRIENDS
• Friendships are important to teenagers on many different levels – from being a support
network to providing both positive and negative influences.
• Learning to start, change or maintain friendships is a skill teenagers all need to learn
and work on.
• Friendships can be a network of great support and can offer protection against negative
peer relationships such as bullies.
• Learning positive friendship skills can help them socially so they feel happier and more
confident.
 THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR OPPOSITE
GENDER

1. Understand each other

Traditionally, male is assumed to be tough, independent, calm, sensible and strong while
female is assumed to be gentle, mild, thoughtful, sensitive and fragile.

   
2. Accept each other
Everybody is unique. Everyone has different background, personality and thoughts. If you
understand the basic differences between both genders, then learn to admire each other's
strengths and accept each other's shortcomings, you will get along well and harmoniously.
• Learn from each other
You can learn from each other's characteristics and strengths. Boys do
not need to force themselves to be extremely masculine; on the other
hand, girls do not need to force themselves to be extremely feminine.
You can both be strong, confident as well as caring and gentle.
• Look for similarities
You should look for each other's similarities, for example, interests,
hobbies, personalities, etc. You can join activities in which you are
both interested, sharing each other's experience and feelings. If you
have similar opinions, it is easier to establish rapport and develop
precious friendship.
• Choose friends carefully
You should look for friends who are respectable and trustworthy,
good friends can help you to improve. Do not judge from one's
appearance. You can decide whether you should spend more time
with him/her or stay away from him/her through observing his/her
speech and manner which often reflects his/her personality.
• Be sincere
You have to be sincere when you are making friends with the
opposite gender, appreciate and respect them, feel free to show your
concern, pay attention to other's reaction and beliefs, be considerate
and supportive.
 REFERENCES:

• https://raisingchildren.net.au/pre-teens/communicating-relationships/family-relationships/relation
ships-with-parents-teens
• https://parents.au.reachout.com/skills-to-build/wellbeing/friendships-and-teenagers
• https://www.studenthealth.gov.hk/english/health/health_se/health_se_ts.html
• LEARNING ACTIVITY 1
• WHY IS IT IMPORTANT FOR TEENS TO HAVE A STRONG
RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR FAMILY?
• WHY ARE FRIENDS SO IMPORTANT TO TEENAGERS?
• CAN YOU BE FRIEND WITH THE OPPOSITE GENDER WHILE
IN A RELATIONSHIP?
• WHAT ATTRACT YOU MOST ABOUT OPPOSITE GENDER?
 LESSON 2: HEALTHY BOY-GIRL
RELATIONSHIP
• Healthy sexual relationship. Dating partners engage in a sexual relationship that both are
comfortable with, and neither partner feels pressured or forced to engage in sexual activity that is
outside his or her comfort zone or without consent.
• these friendships show kids different ways of playing, getting along and solving conflicts,
 WAYS TO HAVE HEALTHY BOY-GIRL
RELATIONSHIP
• You have socialize to meet more relationship
• Remember, that the best way to win and keep friends to become good friend of yourself.
• Be cheerful always, greet your acquaintances with by first name and be socially pleasant.
• LOVE YOUR SELF! And accept your self as you are
• Always wear a SMILE and compliment others.
 COMMUNICATION

• In a healthy relationship, you and your partner needs to talk openly to one another.
 INDIVIDUALITY

• It is important to accept and be comfortable with what you have and who you’re engaged in a
relationship.
 HONESTY & TRUST

• Honesty builds trust is an essential part of a happy relationship.

 RESPECT

• It means you value the opinions, beliefs and ideas of your friend.

Keep Things In Perspective-You need to find balance between your relationship and other aspect in
life.
LESSON 3 IMPORTANCE
OF FRIENDSHIP IN THE
CHOICE OF MATE
JENNIELYN M. TAMAYO- FACULTY
 WHAT ARE THE TRAITS OF A STRONG FRIENDSHIP
IN MARRIAGE?

• Building and nurturing friendship in marriage requires practice and hard work. How can couples grow their
friendship with each other and what does it look like?  The answer to those questions is often in the form of a “to do
list” of things like…
• Spend quality time together
• Communicate: Talk and share about everyday life
• Find common interests
• Have fun with one another. Laugh together
• Make lasting memories
• Do and try new things together
• To be sure, these are valuable friendship-building skills and techniques that will help maintain and strengthen your
marriage.  But let me suggest three core traits that are essential to a strong a deep friendship in marriage.
 WHY IS FRIENDSHIP IMPORTANT?

• Friendship is important because it helps us build

connections with people who share our values or interests.
Friends help us prevent loneliness or isolation and are
supportive companions as we work toward living purposeful
lives. They can also encourage us to pursue our passions and
dreams and offer support or advice in hard times.
 10 BENEFITS OF FRIENDSHIP
•Gives us a sense of belonging
•Builds our confidence and self-esteem
•Helps prevent health problems like high blood
pressure and heart disease
•Combats social isolation and loneliness
•Teaches us new things and grows our
perspectives
•Helps us grieve the loss of loved ones and family
members
•Provides emotional support when romantic relationships don't work out
•Motivates us to reach our goals and try new things
•Brings humor to our lives
•Helps us leave unhealthy habits behind
 REFERENCES

• https://www.haikudeck.com/healthy-boy-girl-relationship-ed
ucation-presentation-uKE6smpc4Z#slide9
• https://liveatpeace.org/the-importance-of-friendship-in-
marriage/
 LESSON 4: LOVE AND INFATUATION

• LOVE- a great interest and pleasure in something.

- Love is a set of emotions and behaviors characterized by
intimacy, passion, and commitment. It involves care, closeness,
protectiveness, attraction, affection, and trust
Infatuation- an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for
someone or something.
LOVE INFATUATION

GIVING TAKING
LASTS A LONG TIME BURNS OUT QUICKLY
SHOWS CONCERN FOR OTHER PERSON SELFISH, LOOKING AFTER OWN INTERESTS
HONEST MAYBE DISHONEST
DEEP CARING BASED ON PHYSICAL ATTRACTION
SECURE INSECURE
TRUSTING JEALOUSY
MISTRUST
 QUIZ NO. 1 & ACTIVTY NO. 2

• Write down the TITLE and several KEY

LYRICS from the following songs that show you if it

is talking about
• Love or Infatuation.
• Be ready to discuss your view as a class.
 FROM THIS MOMENT
BY: SHANIA TWAIN
I do swear that I’ll always be there.
I’d give anything and everything and I will always care.
Through weakness and strength, happiness and sorrow.
For better for worse, I will love you with every beat of
my heart. 

From this moment, life has begun.

From this moment, you are the one.
Right beside you is where I belong.
From this moment on.

From this moment, I have been blessed.

I live only for your happiness.
And for your love I’d give my last breath.
From this moment on. 

I give my hand to you with all my heart.

Can’t wait to live my life with you, I can’t wait to start.
You and I will never be apart.
My dreams came true because of you. 
From this moment, as long as I live,
I will love you, I promise you this.
There is nothing I wouldn’t give.
From this moment on. Oh… 

You’re the reason I believe in love.

And you’re the answer to my prayers from up
above.
All we need is just the two of us.
My dreams came true because of you. 

From…this…moment, as long as I live,

I will love you, I promise you this.
There is nothing I wouldn’t give,
From this moment.
I will love you as long as I live.
From this moment on.
 REFERENCE:

•https://www.slideshare.net/bchat4/
love-vs-infatuation
 KINDS OF DATING,
ITS BENEFITS AND THE SOCIAL GRACES
RECOMMENDED DURING DATING

JENNIELYN M. TAMAYO
FACULTY BSE & BTLED DEPT.
 WHAT IS DATING?

• Dating has become a popular thing to do before creating a relationship

• In order to fall in love, you need to find out what you want in a person
• A date refers to an activity two people share togerher with the intention
of getting to know each other on a potentially romantic level.
 KINDS OF DATING

• Online Dating
• Double Dating
• Blind Dating
• Casual Dating
• Serious Dating
 ONLINE DATING

• This is one of the most popular dating methods these days because of ease of finding love online.
 DOUBLE DATING

•If you are new to dating, you can ask

some friend of yours to go for a double
dating.
 BLIND DATING

• This is a date of two young people who do not

know each other.
 CASUAL DATING

• Formal dating with no emotions involved.

 SPECIAL DATING

• It has a little degree of emotional involvement because a boy

has already selected special girl for his first date.
 GROUP DATING

• This date provides for deeper acquaintances of

several pairs of young people.
 CONCLUSION

• Dating can be complicated at times, but in

the end, is very rewarding that we are now
allowed to pick who we want to spend the
rest of our life with ad ho mkes us happiest.
 BENEFITS OF DATING

• Dating is a part of exploration of looking to find one person whom you want to enjoy your tme
with and share your exoeriences. Although it can start on friendly can be nurtured until it
develops into true love.
 SOCIAL GRACES RECOMMENDED DURING
DATING
• When boys asks a girl for a date, they should be aware of the responsibilities and privileges that
go with it.
• For a date to be successful and pleasant the following social graces recommended
1. Boys and girls should make it their obligation to inform their parents about their plans.
2. Boys should always take the intiative in making dates, excepts for some instances when girls
needed help.
3. Be considerate when accepting or rejecting a date.
4. A girl should beready when the boys call for her dressed an groomed for th occasion
5. A boy is xpected to arrive at the girls house on time
6. When walking togther the girl must be on the right side of the boy
7. When entering restaurant , the boy pulls out the door for her andfollows her in. He should also
pull chair for the girl and seats her.
8. When the boy takes the girl home after a date, he shoud escort her to the door.If the parents are
witing shemay invite the boy to come in for a while.
9. It is the girl responsibility to say when to go home and to keep track of the time
10. The boy takes care of the expenses of the date for which he has estended the invitation. It can
be a DUTCH TREAT if there is any greement of both to share in the expenses.
 POSSIBLE RISK IN DATING

• Dating usually starts in groups. After a certain period of time and experience in group dating,
two girls and two boys may plan a double date.
• Just as there are benefits which may be derived fromdating,there are also certain risk or danger in
going out when young people are not emotionally stable.
 POSSIBLE RISK IN DATING

• Strong emotional involvement may develop which may lead to marriage before they are ready.
• Financial problems may occur on the part of thebody
• It can be of conflict between the parents an the teenager.
 ACTIVITY NO. 2

• ROLE PLAYING ABOUT DATE/LOVE

CATEGORY 4
RUBRICS FOR GRADING
CONTENT Great job! You offered
(40 %) creative new insight on the
topic
ROLES ( 20 %) Excellent work! Every
member of your group
stayed in character, and it
was clear you took roles
seriously.
PREPARATIO(20%) Your group did an excellent
job preparing and rehearsing
your role-play and it shows
everything went very
smoothly
OVERALL IMPRESSION Excellent your presentation
(20%) was entertaining and
informative
3 2
Your role-play is on topic,
but it is missing some
creativity and insight
Everyone in your group
stayed in character, but
some members, didn’t seem
to really be “into” what they
were doing
Your group obviously spent
some time preparing for the
role-play but some rehearsal
might have helped things
ruin more smoothly.
Good! Your presentation,
while it was fun to watch,
could have been more
informative
The role-play is somewhat
off-topic. Pay more attention
to the direction next time.
For the most part , your
group stayed in character.
Next time, spend more time
preparing for how the
characters might think or
act.
Your group needs to spend
more time preparing for the
role-play. Reading lines
from a script is a sure sign
you’re not prepared
Keep working! Don’t forget
that, though the process is
entertaining to learn
something from it.
1 SCORE
The roles-play is completely
off-topic, as if your group
did not even read the
directions
Your group failed to stay in
character, and it looked like
you had not prepared for ho
the characters might think or
act
It seems that your group
used the preparation time for
something else.
Argh1 I expect much better
work from you next time
 REFERENCE

• https://www.slideshare.net/leiram21/kinds-of-dating-14443992
• https://player.slideplayer.com/26/8735071/#
• https://www.slideshare.net/ElnaPanopio/benefits-of-dating-and-the-social-graces-recommended