Today’s Objective- 15 Dec 2020

• Review Self Management Skills

• Review Self Management Benefits
• Understand Building of Self Confidence
Buiilding Self Confidence
A necessary Self Management Skill
Building Self-Confidence

Self-confidence means having trust in one's own judgement and

ability. It is reflected in one's belief that he is a valuable person and
capable of accomplishing what he wishes to do. Self-confident
people have three main attributes:
• Belief in one's own capability
• Ready to accept any challenge
• Willingness to take risks
 FACTORS INFLUENCING SELF-CONFIDENCE

Confidence is not genetically inherited. Many factors influence our beliefs

about our capabilities. Three most prominent factors that contribute to
building confidence are:
• Social Factors
• Cultural Factors
• Physical factors
Social Factors

Society plays a critical role in shaping and building our self-confidence.

Our society comprises our family, neighbourhood, friends, relatives,
school, and even strangers. Our initial interactions with society leave a
lasting impact on our attitude and outlook towards ourselves.
Evaluations from parents, teachers, schoolmates, and friends can affect
the ways how we perceive ourselves, which then progressively build up
our self-confidence.
 Parents Attitude

The attitude of parents toward their child creates the first

significant impact on him especially in his initial years of his life.
For example, lack of love and attention, harsh physical and
mental punishments, and excessive criticism and derogatory
remarks on a child's mistakes can break his confidence, instil a
fear of failure in him, and make him hesitant to take on
challenges.
On the other hand, overprotective parenting style also hampers a
child's self-confidence, Shielding a child prevents him from facing
any pain and struggle.
 Correct approach for parents

A balanced approach to parenting is necessary to build a child's

confidence. When a child commits an error, parents should
encourage him for trying again and guide him on how to perform
better the next time.
This kind of behaviour prepares the child to accept new challenges,
teaches him to consider failure as a part of life, and helps in
developing self-confidence.
CULTURAL FACTORS

Culture refers to the characteristics of a particular society, community, or ethnic group

reflected in its practices and beliefs.
Culture influences a child's development and behaviour, Children growing up in different
cultures receive specific inputs from their environment. For that reason, there is a vast
range of cultural differences in children's beliefs and behaviour.
Cultural competence comprises an understanding of all aspects of a culture, i.e., social,
educational, and organisational, in which we live and participate.
For example, some cultures value independence, individuality, self-esteem, and
asserting oneself as important aspects of personality. Children from such cultures are
outgoing, eagerly explore new situations, demonstrate competence, and have self-
confidence.
On the other hand, some cultures honour traditional values, relations, and obedience.
Children from such cultures cultivate the need to maintain interdependent relationships.
Traits of Individualistic Culture
Traits of Collectivistic Culture
PHYSICAL FACTORS
Physical factors like healthy physique, healthy mind, good appearance,
etc., play an important role in developing self-confidence in a person.
Moreover, in every culture, good looks are always appreciated and
admired, which affect a person's self-confidence. It is a good practice to
maintain good hygiene and physical appearance, but over-emphasis on the
unrealistic image of beauty, as portrayed in media, may adversely affect
self-confidence.
Physical disability instils a sense of dependency in an individual. If a
physically disabled person suffers from social discrimination and exclusion,
this may lead to low self-confidence.
However, a positive attitude and strong will can surely help a disabled
person to overcome his physical limitations and motivates him to accept
the challenges.
Nicholas Vujicic is an excellent example of success through positivity and
perseverance despite being born without arms and legs.
Nicholas Vujicic

Nicholas Vujicic, founder of 'Life without Limbs', ån international

non-profit organisation is an inspiration to millions. He founded
'Attitude is Altitude', a secular motivational speaking company.
Nicholas was born with Tetra-Amelia syndrome, i.e., without fully
formed limbs. He is one of the seven known individuals on this
planet, who live with this syndrome.
He has starred in the short film 'The Butterfly Circus' and was
awarded 'Best actor in a Short Film' at the 'Method Fest Independent
Film Festival'.
VARIOUS ATTITUDES OF PEOPLE

The above-mentioned factors determine how confident a person

feels. You meet so many people every day, in your school, home,
and neighbourhood.
Some people may strike you as very confident, while some others
may not appear as confident.
Various attitudes of people, reflected in their behavior, body
language, and way of speaking, define their level of confidence.
ATTITUDES OF PEOPLE WITH LOW CONFIDENCE

• Fear: They are anxious about the possibility of failure.

• Value Others' Opinion: They depend on other people's approval and validation to feel good
about their ideas.
• Over Critical: They tend to focus on their shortcomings like physical appearance, lack of
knowledge, etc.
• Poor Time Management: They are unable to decide on priorities and focus on tasks.
• Unpreparedness: Since they do not expect success, they do not put in the necessary
efforts.
• Lack of Initiative: They do not feel motivated to bring about change or improvisation.
• Reluctant to Deal with Others: Such people make excuses and try to evade confronting
people.
• Negative Outlook: They focus on past failures instead of learning from the experiences.
ATTITUDES OF SELF-CONFIDENT PEOPLE

• View to the World: They have a positive outlook towards themselves and situations
surrounding them.
• Realistic View of Self: Confident people are able to recognise their strengths and
accept their weaknesses at the same time.
• Trust Own Ideas and Beliefs: Confident people rely on their own ideas and beliefs
rather than on others' opinions.
• Deal with Mistakes: Confident people accept their mistakes rather than covering or
justifying it. Moreover, they are willing to learn from it.
• Focus on Growth: In spite of recognising their weaknesses, they choose to focus on
the opportunities to grow rather than concentrate on their shortcomings.
Comments on attitude

• We can say that a balance and rationality in attitude are the hallmarks of self-
confidence. A self-confident person shows the willingness and courage to face
new challenges and works hard to attain his goals. This success further
strengthens his confidence.
• Whereas, a lack of confidence puts them in a vicious cycle, where the fear
and unpreparedness prevent them from succeeding, and the failure further
reinforces their sense of inadequacy leading to low self-confidence.
• Self-confidence is an essential attribute as it helps you in making a better and
happier life for yourself. Not everyone is born with self-confidence, however,
it can be developed.
BUILDING SELF-CONFIDENCE

“Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered-just like any other

skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better" -
Barrie Davenport.
Building self-confidence is a process that takes efforts and commitment. It
requires you to cultivate a positive attitude about yourself, to set goals, and
take risks. Following techniques will not only assist you in building your self-
confidence but also in sustaining it in the long run.
Techniques for building Self Confidence:
SWOT Analysis

SWOT Analysis: SWOT stands for Strength,

Weakness, Opportunity, Threat. This analysis is a
useful technique for understanding your strengths
and weaknesses.
It also helps you in identifying both the
opportunities open to you and the threats or
challenges you will possibly face.
The analysis helps you to recognise your talents
and abilities. It also helps you to find or choose
opportunities that utilise your core strengths.
SWOT Analysis Technique

Strengths : Identify Your Core Strenßhs: Make a list of things that you do well. Remind yourself of
your achievements, big or small, and identify the skills that ere needed for the achievement.
Analyse what you enjoying the most. This will help you in identifying your core Opportunities.
Weakness: Identify Your Weaknesses: Examine the areas in which ou need to improve and the
things that often set you back. Ask yourself the following questions:
• What are your negative work habits?
• Which subject or skill hinders your success?
• What are the areas you need to improve upon according to your parents' and teachers' feedback?
Opportunities: Identify the avenues to exhibit and utilise your core skills. Also, find the sources
and support systems that can help you to prepare for challenges and sharpen your skills.
Threat: Research the Internet, read articles, and talk to the experts to get a realistic picture of
the opportunity you want to pursue. Make a list of all the possible challenges and pitfalls. This
will help you o repare aptly for the challenges you are going to face on the way to your success.
Next – SET GOAL

Take on a task that you have been too scared to do. Be sure to set a small goal at first and practise the art of planning
and perseverance and attain success, no matter how small it may seem to others.

For example, take an unfamiliar journey on public transport or volunteer to give a presentation or a speech.

Here, it is important to apply the principles of self-management you have learned in the previous chapter to strengthen
your attempts, stay on task, and attain success. Follow the given steps to build your self-confidence:

• Set a Well Defined Goal: Use the SMART strategy to outline a suitable goal for yourself.
ORGANIZE YOURSELF

Organise Yourself: Apply the organisation skills that you learned in the previous
chapter, such as:
• Break the goal in to smaller tasks.
• Define the time limit for each task.
• Prioritise your tasks and make a schedule, and stick to it.
• Hold yourself accountable and avoid procrastination.
• When you meet any obstacle, remind yourself that this is bound to happen and you
need to find ways to address it or move on despite it. Remember, an obstacle is only
an indication of progress and not failure
• Display reminders of your goal and a vision of your success where you can see them
repeatedly. This will help you to manage your moods and emotions as these
reminders will bring your focus back to your goal.
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• Be Assertive: Have faith in your beliefs and abilities. Do not feel obligated to prioritise others' demands over your
goal and plan. Your goal is as important to you as their plan is important to them.
• Experience: Gaining experience requires you to take the first step no matter how hard it may seem, and then keep
practising. Each incident of success will take your self-confidence a step further. You will also learn to overcome
obstacles and handle failures as you will notice that they are inevitable parts of the process and not the end of the
process.
• Surround Yourself with Positive People: Always keep yourself in the company of positive people. Avoid any negative
or discouraging influences and focus on the positive voices, including your own. It will uplift your thought process and
keep you motivated.
• Care For Yourself and Others: Staying clean and dressing well is positively related to positive attitude and uplifted
mood. A well-dressed and well-groomed person generally commands more respect from others. Also, nothing makes
you feel better about yourself than being useful to others. So, make meaningful contribution to the society by
volunteering for charities that are compatible with your core strength.
• Be Prepared: Assess the requirements of a task and work hard to prepare yourself for it. Your confidence will
naturally rise, if you are good at your job.
Final Words

Self-confidence may seem hard to attain, but it is attainable

through practice and perseverance. Remind yourself of your
qualities and talents, and value them. Treat yourself like you would
like to be treated by others, and you will notice the difference in
people's attitude towards you.
In summation, the key to gaining self-confidence is, to recognise
your strengths and success and learn from your weaknesses and
mistakes.
Recap

• Self-management is managing yourself to achieve the pre-determined tasks

or goals that you have set for yourself by regulating your actions, organising
your time, and being accountable for your decisions.
• Self-management comprises three key skills-Initiative, Organisation, and
Accountability.
• Organisation skills include identifying and defining specific goals, breaking
down goals into smaller tasks (Adopting the SMART strategy), and time-
management.
• Positive results of self-management makes you more organised, instils
discipline, helps in attaining goals, enhances self-confidence, and commands
respect.
Thank You

YOU CAN
YOU WILL