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Week 9
Week 9
Interpersonal Attraction:
From First Impressions to Close Relationships
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10.2 How have new technologies shaped attraction and
social connections?
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10.3 What is love and what gives people satisfaction in
close relationships?
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10.4 What does research demonstrate about romantic
breakups?
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– Similarity
– Demographics
– Attitudes
– Values
– Dissimilarity in attitudes
• Physical attractiveness
• Gender differences?
– Large eyes
– Prominent cheekbones
– Large chin
– Big smile
– Symmetry is preferred
• Propinquity
• Similarity
• Reciprocal liking
• Benefits of beauty
– better earnings
– winning elections
• Halo Effect:
sexually
warm/responsive
Additional Traits Present in the American and Canadian Stereotypes
honest trustworthy
The “what is beautiful is good” stereotype has been explored in both individualistic cultures (e.g., North America) and collectivistic cultures (e.g.,
Asia). Male and female participants in the United States, Canada, and South Korea rated photographs of people with varying degrees of
physical attractiveness. Responses indicated that some of the traits that make up the stereotype are the same across cultures, while other
traits associated with the stereotype are different in the two cultures. In both cultures, the physically attractive are seen as having more of the
characteristics that are valued in that culture than do the less physically attractive.
(Based on Eagly, Ashmore, Makhhijani, & Longo, 1991; Feingold, 1992b; Wheeler & Kim, 1997)
• Self-fulfilling prophecy
• Yes!
• Evolutionary Psychology
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• Benefits
– No gender differences
• Companionate Love
• Passionate Love
• Nonsexual relationships
– Close friendships
• Sexual relationships
• Example:
– Romantic love viewed as more crucial in individualistic
cultures compared to collectivistic ones
• Japanese amae
– Totally passive love object, indulged and taken care of
by one’s romantic partner
• Korean jung
– Connection that ties people together
– Experience
– Expression
– Memory
– Anxious/Ambivalent
– Avoidant
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The Permanence of Attachment Styles
Attachment theory predicts that the attachment style we learn as infants
and young children stays with us throughout life and generalizes to all of
our relationships with other people.
Secure style 56% “I find it relatively easy to get close to others and am
comfortable depending on them and having them depend on
me. I don’t often worry about being abandoned or about
someone getting too close.”
Avoidant style 25% “I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; I find it
difficult to trust them completely, difficult to allow myself to
depend on them. I am nervous when anyone gets close, and
often love partners want me to be more intimate than I feel
comfortable being.”
Anxious style 19% “I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I
often worry that my partner doesn’t really love me or won’t
stay with me. I want to merge completely with another person,
and this desire sometimes scares people away.”
As part of a survey of attitudes toward love published in a newspaper, people were asked to choose the
statement that best described their romantic relationships. The attachment style each statement was designed
to measure and the percentage of people who chose each alternative are indicated.
(Adapted from Hazan & Shaver, 1987)
• Basic concepts
– Rewards
Positive, gratifying aspects of relationship
– Costs
Negative aspects of relationship
– Outcome
Comparison of rewards versus costs
– Comparison level
Expectations
People’s commitment to a relationship depends on several variables. First, their satisfaction with the relationship is based on their comparing their rewards to their costs and
determining if the outcome exceeds their general expectation of what they should get in a relationship (or comparison level). Next, their commitment to the relationship
depends on three variables: how satisfied they are, how much they feel they have invested in the relationship, and whether they have good alternatives to this relationship.
These commitment variables in turn predict how stable the relationship will be. For example, a woman who feels her relationship has more costs and fewer rewards than
she considers acceptable would have a low satisfaction. If she also felt she had little invested in the relationship and a very attractive person had just asked her for a date,
she would have a low level of commitment. The end result is low stability; most likely, she will break up with her current partner. (Adapted from Rusbult, 1983)
This study examined the extent to which college students’ satisfaction with a relationship, their comparison level for alternatives, and their
investment in the relationship predicted their commitment to the relationship and their decision about whether to break up with their
partner. The higher the number, the more each variable predicted commitment and breakup, independent of the two other variables. All
three variables were good predictors of how committed people were and whether or not they broke up. (Adapted from Rusbult, 1983)
• Equity Theory
– Under-benefited
Few rewards, high costs
• Exchange Relationships
• Communal Relationships
• Fatal Attraction
– 30% of breakups
Qualities that attract are the qualities that are disliked the most
at break up.
Threatening to break up
Actually leaving
Going to a therapist
Remaining optimistic
– Gender
• Causes of Attraction
• Attachment Theory
– Social Exchange
– Investment Model
– Equity Theory
• Breaking Up