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Part 1 - Interpersonal Attraction and Intimacy
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You have previously learned
what powers your mind can bring you,
the different parts of the brain, your
multiple intelligence, mental health
and well-being and your emotional
intelligence. You had discovered your
multiple intelligence, not only
intellectually but also emotionally.
CURA PERSONALIS
It is truly loving and caring for your loved ones by being
gentle and valuing acceptable expressions of love.
Teena ge Relationship s
Are you in a relationship?
How do you describe being in a
relationship?
How do you define relationship?
Personal relationships involve the act of relating and allowing the person to connect with others. Family is
another aspect of our personal relationship. Your development as individuals is greatly affected and
influenced by it.
Since your childhood, you have been
relating with others. They can be your
parents, siblings, classmates, peers, and
neighbors. You have probably
established closer ties with them and
started labeling them as significant
people.
Adolescence is the stage when teenagers begin to form a sense of identity. This identity
formation involves shaping of personal values and setting of future goals and begin
exploring “Who am I?”
Te e n a ge Relationships
Th e fol l owi n g a re fo u r basic t ypes of rel at i onshi p s
t h a t t eena g e rs e n g a g e in. Can you name them?
Pa re n ts and Family
Re l a t i onship
Teenagers go home to a family and relate w ith both parents,
siblings and other extended family member.
For adolescen ts, this is a “passing” experience and may not have
a strong reason to look back to.
In fact, at times, this relates w ith casual sexual activity that may
adolescents engage in.
Teena ge Relationship s
U nderstanding the teenage relationship allow s one to
see how love and support are very important to continuously
develop a healthy relationship. A love that is w ell-expressed
and communicated is very essential.
Proximity
People tend to be attracted to people w ho are
geographically to them. The attraction often
comes from how familiar they are w ith each
other based on how frequent they encounter.
FACTORS OF
Similarity
ATTRACTION
Similarities ten to pull people to form a bond. People
tend to pick partners w ho are similar to them. Social
psychologists w ould call it attitude alignment.
R eciprocity
People tend to like others w ho reciprocate their
liking. T his positive feedback en- hances good
feeling. L ove begets love.
STAGES OF
ATTRACTION
C rush Courtshi
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STAGES O F
AT TRA CT I ON
Crush A n adolesence that is attracted to another person may be labeled as a
crush. T here are tw o types of crush.
Identity C rush
It is simply emulating the observed admirable
qualities of the person.
R omantic C rush
T his means having intense infatuation for someone or a desire to
be w ith the person and to experience e scalating thrill and
“magic” of the moment how ever short-lived it may be.
STAGES O F
AT TRA CT I ON
Crush A n adolesence that is attracted to another person may be labeled as a
crush. A nother form of crush is:
H ero w orship
another form of attraction, similar to a “celebrity
crush” and is characterized by admi- ration w ith
the absence of personal contact.
STAGES O F
AT TRA CT I ON
It is a phase of attraction prior to engagement and marriage
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STAGES O F
AT TRA
First Stage—D ating CT I ON
T his stage involves getting to know the person;
spending a fun friendly association w ith him or
her.
Second Stage—Selective
T his is the decision stage on w hether or not
Stages of he/she/they may continue seeing each other.
Crush Courtsh
ip
Is crush the same with falling in love?
Love
Lo v e i s p at i ent , l ove i s ki n d. I t d o es n o t en v y, i t d o es n o t b o as t , i t i s n o t p r o u d . I t d o es n o t
d i s h o n - o r o t hers , i t i s n ot s el f - s eek i n g , i t i s n o t eas i l y an - g er ed , i t k eep s n o r eco r d o f
wr o n g s . Love do es n ot del i g h t i n ev i l b u t r ej o i ces wi t h t h e t r u t h . I t al way s p r o t ect s , al way s
t r u s t s , al ways hop es, al ways p er- s ev er es . Lo v e n ev er f ai l s . Bu t wh er e t h er e ar e p r o p h eci es ,
t h ey wi l l cease; where t her e ar e t o n g u es , t h ey wi l l b e s t i l l ed ; wh er e t h er e i s k n o wl ed g e, i t
wi l l p as s away.
Love
Scientific Definition
Love is defined as a powerful drive that excites the brain and sets a neurological
condition, such as neurotransmitters release different chemicals in the body . The body
manifests signs initially when in love such as blushing, sw eating and fast heartbeat and
it changes w hen going through different
The three components of love by psychologist Zick Rubin include attachment, caring
and intimacy.
A ttachment
It refers to the desire for the presence of the other
person including emotional support.
C aring
It refers to the concern of the other person’s w ell-
being.
Intimacy
It is the desire for privacy, closeness and
communication.
Love
Psychological Perspectives
T he Triangular Theory of L ove
T he triangular theory of love by proponent and expert R obert Sternberg identifies three
major dimensions that include intimacy, commitment and passion.
Intimacy
liking, closeness, connectedness, bonding
Passion
romance, physical attraction, sexual
consummation
C ommitment
shared investments, experiences, adjustments
8 types of Love
N on-L ove
A bsence of all 3 components. Simply characterized by causal interactions.
L iking
Includes feelings of closeness, bondedness, w armth tow ards each other w ithout
feelings of intense passion and long-term commitment (true friends, best friends
forever).
Infatuated love
T here is passionate arousal but absence of intimacy and commitment. When
there is absence of development in intimacy and commitment, this kind of love
w ill disappear (love at first sight).
8 types of Love
E mpty love
T here is presence of commitment w ith no intimacy or passion. e. g. fixed marriages
R omantic L ove
It is characterized by both physical bond and emotional bond in the absence of
commitment.
C onsummate L ove
It is the ideal and complete form of love that everyone w ants to achieve. T his
involves sharing a deep desire to have a long term relationship w ith each
other than anyone else. H ow ever, this type of love is more difficult to
maintain than to achieve.
Love is...
Love ought to show itself
in deeds more than in
words.
St. Ignatius of Loyola
Commitment
The relationship makes the person happy and satisfied. A person becomes
committed to someone because of what he or she gets from the
relationship.
Commitment
According to H. Wallace Goddard, there are three (3) dimensions of commitment in
intimate relationships.
Trust
Honesty
Support
Fairness/Equality
Separate Identities
Good communication
Acceptable Expressions
Glancing at each other
Verbal communication
Saying “I like you” or “I love you”
Smiling
Write love letters
Phone calls or chatting
Giving presents
Expressing attraction on social
media but with limitation and respectful Walking arm in arm or holding hands
Kiss on the cheeks but with permission
Dating with limitations
Recognizing differences
Caring
Sharing
Respect
Freedom
Unacceptable Expressions
Kissing or cuddling in public
Flirting
Invading personal space
Holding hands with no permission
Kissing with no permission
Calling the person with endearments without permission
Intimate activities
Caressing or stroking Jealousy
Violence
Being selfish
Possessiveness
Threats or blackmail
Manipulation
Intimidation
Touching
Proving yourself
Compromise
Becoming Responsible in a
Relationship
Being in a relationship takes responsibility. The following are some of the suggested ways on
how to become responsible in a relationship:
To avoid regrets from heartaches that you may encounter, you
should make sure that you are ready before you enter in a relationship.
But first, commit to yourself that you are ready to handle responsibilities of a
relationship. And while in progress, nurture friendships.
How do you promote a healthy, acceptable and loving teenage relationship to
adolescents like you?
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Part 2 -The Social Self and Social Beliefs and Judgments
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Interpersonal Attraction and
Intimacy
Personal Relationships and Becoming Responsible
Perceived Self-Control
Self-serving Bias
Self-Knowledge
Self-presentation
The Social Self
"bugoy" = "bugoy"
"buotan" = "buotan"
Aggression
Attributions
Helping
Social Beliefs and Judgments
How we perceive information and how we process it, guided by our
conceptions.
We endlessly ask ourselves why things happen they way they do,
especially when they are unexpected or negative.
"If someone smiles at you, would you think that they are just
being friendly or would you rather think that they like you too?"
Kelly's Theory of Attribution
Attributions
Prejudice
Prejudice - is preconceived negative attitude (combination of
feelings, beliefs, and behavior) towards a group and its individual
members.
Obesity Age
Prejudice
Just-World Phenomenon - is the tendency to
believe that the world is just and the people
get what they deserve.
1.Aversive Incidents
2.Arousal
3.Aggression Cues
4.Pornography and Sexual Violence
5.Television and the Internet
6. Video Games
7. Group Influence
Aggression
Catharsis Hypothesis - says that aggression
is reduced when one releases aggressive
energy by acting aggressively or
fantasizing aggression. More hostile in
nature.
Aggression
Aggression can be controlled by countering factors that that
influence or provoke it.
Helping
Are you helpful?
When people are unable to help back, they may feel demeaned
by accepting help.
Helping
Social-responsibility norm - An expectation to help others, even
if they can't reciprocate, such as those victims of circumstance