Cultivating

the Habits of
Jesus
CELL MEETING
10 NOV 23
Jesus
What are
the Habits of Jesus?
John 13:15
15 For I gave you an example that you also should do as I did.
I Peter 2:21
21
For you have been called for this purpose, since Christ also suffered
for you, leaving you an example for you to follow in His steps.
 Habits of Jesus
• The Habit of Seclusion

• The Habit of Prayer (Luke 11:1)

• The Habit of Worship (Matthew 26:55)

• The Habit of Building Relationship (Matthew 9:9-10)

• The Habit of Touch (Matthew 8:15, Matthew 9:29, Mark 7:33, Matthew 10:23-25)

• The Habit of Confrontation (Matthew 21:12)

• The Habit of Challenging the Status Quo (Mrk 7:8)

• Asking Question

• The Habit of Listening (John 4:7-9)

• The Habit of Love

• The Habit of Thankfulness

• The Habit of Faith

Matthew 4:18-20

Compounding of
Atomic Habits
Habits System vs Goal Settings

Is setting Goals Effective

to changing life?
Application Questions
• Winners and Losers have the Same Goals
• Survivorship Bias
• Many who FAIL
• Goals <> Success

• Achieving a Goal is a Momentary Change

• Room Messy, Clean Room?
• Focus on Changing Habit

• Goal achieve happiness?

• They stop improvement

What to Change

What are the type of changes

You have to make ?
Application Questions
• Outcome Change
• Process Change
• Identity Change
• When you embrace your new identity, you more likely to stick to your new habits
• How to Change Identity?
• Decide what type of person you want to be
• Prove it to yourself with SMALL Wins!
• To read a Book or Read a Page
• Identity : Someone who read Books
What to Change

How to Build
Better Habits?
Better Habits
• Repetition => Automatic
• Cue
• Craving
• Respond
• Rewards

• Make the Cue Obvious

• Make the Craving Attractive

• Make the Response Easy

• Make the Reward Satisfying

Effective Change of Habit

How to motivate yourself

To want to change habits?
Effective Change of Habit
• Why are you like that?
• Pointing and verbalizing. Example : “I am Hungry!”

• Keep a Habit Scorecard

• Change eating habits => Write down what you eat each day!
Starting a New Habit

How to start a new habit?

Starting a New Habit
• Time & Location
• Need for a IMPLEMENTATION INTENTION
• I will do this HABIT (WHAT)
• At This Time (WHEN)
• And This Location (WHERE)

• => Intentional Set aside to do it without EXCUSE

• Habit STACKING
• Pair a new Habit with a Current Habit
• After I do this Habit, I will do this New Habit!
• Example : After breakfast, drink a cup of water
Factors affect Doing Habits

What are the factors

Affecting doing habit?
 Factors affect Doing Habits
• Environment
• Try doing with a new Environment
• Make the CUE of Good habits obvious in your Environment!
• Put your Gym clothes where you can constantly see it!
• Suggestive Impulse Buying (Eye Level Item, more likely to buy)
• Addictions can be Dissolve if there is a Radical Change in the Environment
• Don’t follow Instagram Models if you want to quit Pronography

• Make Habit Irresistible

• Make the Habit ATTRACTIVE
• Anticipation of Reward vs the Receiving of Reward?
• Wanting Reward vs Liking the Reward
• Temptation Bundling
• Bundle it with a Task (Craving a Reward)
 Factors affect Doing Habits
• Social Groups
• Close , Tribe , Powerful Group
• (1) Your desired behavior is the Normal Behavior
• (2) You already have something in Common in the Group
Bad Habits

How to find and fix the causes

Of your bad habits?
 Fixing Bad Habits
• Make it Unattractive

• Associate with –Feeling

• Keep reading the dangers of smoking

•
It is a Journey

What are the things to not

About cultivating new habits?
 Cultivating New Habits
• A New Habit requires a lot of effort to Perform (It only get easier, e.g Switching Gear)

• The Law of least Resistance

• Fight Procrastination
• Using the 2 minute Rule
• When you begin a new habit, it should take less than 2 minutes to do
• Any habit can be shortened to a 2 minute version

• Make it Difficult
• A Commitment Device is a Choice you make in the present that locks in better behavior within the future

• Feel Good!
• Give yourself a reward 1st to start out!

• Track and make progress – Keep the habit a live, never miss twice!

• Make it Unsatisfying – Get an Accountability Partner

Goldilocks Rule

People experience the most motivation

When working on Tasks that are close to
the edge of their current abilities
Stock Take

When went well this year?

What didn’t go so well this year?
What did I learn?
Integrity Test

1. What are the core values that drive my life

and work?
2. How am I living and working with
INTEGRITY right now?
3. How can I set a higher standard in the
future?
Summary