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LETTER
www.theletteronline.com VOLUME 21, ISSUE 10 • october 2010

Indiana Youth’s Death Marks 6th Suicide Louisville Hate Crimes


Remain Under Investigation
Within 3 Weeks Linked To Anti-Gay Bullying Louisville’s Fairness
Campaign has expressed
by Dave VanderPol, Executive Editor concern to law enforcement
officials, including the FBI,
Billy Lucas, Asher Brown, Seth Walsh, Tyler following the burglary and
Clementi, Raymond Chase and Caleb Nolt. All six of extensive vandalism of two
these openly gay youth have one thing in common: homes owned by gay couples.
they were victims of vicious anti-gay bullying The two crime scenes are located in the Germantown
immediately prior to taking their life. neighborhood. The crimes took place within approximately
A Fort Wayne, Indiana teenager, Caleb Nolt, has one week of each other this past month.
been identified as the sixth gay youth in the US to Chris Hartman, Director of the Fairness Campaign,
commit suicide within the brief span of three weeks. stated that the crimes that took place at the two homes were
As of press time few details of Not’s suicide were “clearly motivated by prejudicial hate against homosexual
known. However some of his high school classmates couples.” Hartman pledged to “work with (Louisville
have told to police that he had been bullied for being Metro) Police Chief Robert White and the FBI to bring
gay by classmates just before his death. these criminals to justice and set a lasting precedent for
The suicide of 19 year old Raymond Chase, an any individuals considering future illegal acts motivated
openly gay student at a prestigious Rhode Island by prejudice and hate in our community."
university, was the fifth suicide by a gay teenager Harman said that “Louisville is a city of proven
that took place during the same period in September. acceptance and inclusiveness, and we will not tolerate
Police reports indicate that Chase, a Culinary Arts prejudice, discrimination, or crimes of hate within our
major, apparently hung himself in his dorm room at community.” In addition to Louisville’s Fairness ordinance
Johnson & Wales University. See Kentuckiana Agencies Respond that prohibits discrimination in employment, housing, and
Has the incidence of gay teen suicide caused by To Bullying, Suicide Crisis on page 18 public accommodations on the basis of sexual orientation
anti-gay bullying reached the point that it deserves to and gender identity, the city has had an inclusive hate
be referred to as an “epidemic? Some pundits believe this problem isn’t any worse than t was for crimes law since 1990.
previous generations of gay youth. The only difference is that the mainstream media have only In addition to the local hate crime ordinance,
recently begun to more consistently give the problem the attention it deserves. perpetrators of the recent crimes could also face charges
To add insult to injury in the wake of the recent string of gay youth suicides, late last month thanks to the historic Matthew Shepard and James Byrd,
the Rap artist known as "50 Cents" sent out a message to his followers through his Twitter.com feed Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act that was signed into law by
that stated, "Any man over the age of 25 that hasn't eaten pussy should just kill himself." While President Obama last October.
the performer denies his comments were anti-gay, the timing of them certainly shows extreme As of press time no witnesses have come forward
insensitivity. to identify individuals believed to have committed the
Regarding the problem of anti-gay bullying and suicide among queer youth, the following recent crimes. However according to a report posted on
statistics illustrate the widespread nature of these problems. These figures appear on the Lambda. the WLKY-TV website, a “red, full-sized pickup truck with
org website. plastic covering the back window” was seen by a neighbor
• 45% of gay males and 20% of lesbians report having experienced verbal harassment and/or around the time the first burglary is believed to have taken
physical violence as a result of their sexual orientation during high school. place.
• 42% of adolescent lesbians and 34% of adolescent gay males who have suffered physical attack Information regarding the identity of the individuals
also attempt suicide. who committed these crimes should be reported to
• 20% of gay youth skip school at least once a month due to feeling unsafe while there. Louisville Metro Police by calling their anonymous police
• 19% of gay/lesbian youth report suffering physical attacks based on their sexual orientation. tip line at (502) 574-5673.
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Post Office Box 7842 Local Athletes Big Winners At Gay Games VIII
Louisville, KY 40257
(502) 322-4632
by David Williams & Dave VanderPol
She bested her competitors in the 200 has been splashing around ever since. "Who knows? I'm going to keep on
Founded in June 1990 by
Jeffrey Goldsmith & meter freestyle swimming competition. "I can't see myself slowing down," swimming for as long as my body tells
Humphrey Marshall Then she won the 400, 800 and 1500 Catlin says with bubbly enthusiasm. me I can."
meter freestyles and the 50 breaststroke. "I'm not the type to sit in front of the
EXECUTIVE EDITOR/WEBMASTER By the end of this summer's Gay Games TV all day. I've always got to be doing Newport Man Wins Gold in Cologne
ADVERTISING & DISTRIBUTION: VIII in Cologne, Germany, she'd racked something."
Dave VanderPol: (502) 322-4632 up five gold medals. Never mind she Today, her life includes part-time
editor@theletteronline.com
had only four other competitors in her teaching; swimming three and a half
With an estimated readership of over 14,000, age class. At 65, she may be Louisville's miles a week; lifting weights and
THE LETTER is distributed throughout the oldest active competitive athlete. stretching; and tending to the needs
seven state region of Kentucky, Indiana,
Not bad for a woman who had to of an extended family that includes
Ohio, Tennessee, Illinois, & Missouri
have her left kneecap replaced less sharing her partner's two children
REGULAR CONTRIBUTORS than two years ago. from a previous marriage: a gay son
Cubbie Britches It's not Vicki Catlin's first time at who lives with his partner of almost
Mike Buford the Gay Games. In New York in 1994 20 years in Lexington, and a daughter.
Marie Davis she brought home one medal. Twelve The couple now has two growing
Bryan Gatewood years later in Chicago, age (60) 61, she grandsons to fuss over as well.
James Hensley captured seven. All 13 medals, along Out at work, out to her neighbors,
Christy Ikner with other memorabilia, are now she's living the American dream in a
Eric Jost displayed proudly in the dining room fun, quirky way.
Michael Kimmel Lloyd Jones of London, England and
of a comfortable home in a Louisville "I think the next door neighbors were
Bryn Marlow Robb Dorward of Newport, Kentucky
George Morrison suburb she shares with her partner of actually relieved when we moved in,"
almost 30 years. she smiles. "The previous residents (on the right) display Gold Medals
Beth Ann Rubin
Brian Rzepczynski Catlin got her enthusiasm for the were a little too rowdy." they earned at Gay Games VIII.
Ren Scheuerman sport from her father, a swimming Catlin loved Cologne, which has
Fred Schloemer coach in Seymour, Indiana, where she the reputation of being Germany's Robb Dorward, of Newport,
David Williams was born. While still in a bassinet, her LGBT capital. Though the language Kentucky recently took home a Gold
Hazel Zimmerman family brought her to swimming pools barrier was a problem, she refused Medal at the Gay Games VIII. Held n
while her father worked. Age four, she to hang out just with Americans but Cologne Germany, the event took place
Publication of the name, photograph or
likeness of any person, organization, or competed in a race for the first time and sought athletes from around the July 31 - August 7 and attracted over
business in articles or advertising in globe. The city of Cologne set up two 9000 athletes from 69 countries.
THE LETTER or on its companion large plazas that served as athletic Dorward, along with his bowling
website is not to be construed as an villages of sorts, allowing the 10,000+ partner, Lloyd Jones of London
indication of the sexual orientation of participants to wind down and mingle England, won the Gold Medal in
such person, organization or business. after hours. She says her interactions Doubles Bowling, C Division. Second
THE LETTER assumes no with non-American athletes were more place went to a team from Washington
responsibility for unsolicited memorable than if she'd stuck with her DC and the bronze was won by a team
materials submitted for publication. own countrymen and women. from Perth, Australia. Robb and Lloyd
"I met one woman who wasn't in the also bowled together in the 2006 Gay
THE LETTER reserves the right Games but came to visit with her lover Games in Chicago.
to edit or reject any advertisement. and mother. As it turns out, she'd been Back in Kentucky, Dorward bowls
© 2010, The Letter News an Olympian athlete in Los Angeles in with the his local gay bowling league t
All rights reserved. 1984. It was fascinating to listen to her Bellwood Lanes in Bellevue.
open up about her experiences there." Robb's partner, David Wolff,
Now, she's looking forward to competed in the 26.2 mile marathon.
Vicki Catlin is picture with her the 2014 games, which will be held in David finished in 4 hours and 14
NOVEMBER 2010 DEADLINES beloved dog, Flyer. Cleveland. She'll be 68. After that? minutes.

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Advertising reservations must be Halloween Dance on Saturday, October 30, beginning at from 7:00pm.
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Friday, October 22, 2010. There evening will include costume contests, children's activities, door
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OUT CRY

The Deafening Silence:


In The Closet Of Suicide by Joshua Plant
EDITOR’S NOTE: The tragic because they
story of Tyler Clementi, the Rutgers found the ability
University student who was a victim to love. This
of webcam voyeurism, prompted isn't a legislative
Joshua Plant, a New York-based problem; it is
public relations professional, to one of society as
write this op-ed piece.] a whole – Blind-
The recent tragic death of Tyler eye syndrome.
Clementi, an 18 year-old Rutger’s How many
University Freshman whose sexual more people
tryst was broadcast across the Internet need to die before
leading to his subsequent suicidal something is
jump off the George Washington done? The Tyler Clementi
Bridge, has gay activists and advocates M a t t h e w
screaming for a call to action. Shepard Law helps, but it doesn’t do
This story is not that of one, but enough as a preventative measure.
of many. Hazing mainly happens At my high school in Massachusetts,
in school, especially in college, our Gay-Straight Alliance wrote and
when many LGBT individuals are enacted an anti-harassment policy to
discovering their sexual orientation. reduce the level of violence and hate
In the case of Clementi, his unspoken speech at the school. This policy was
sexuality was exposed twice across left practically unenforced until the
the Internet, which begs the question: death of Phoebe Prince, which lead
would this have happened if he were to an anti-bullying state law enacted
straight? in her honor. This law was written in
As someone who has been blood, just like the Shepard law.
personally persecuted by people of Politicians, such as Tom Emmer,
the likes of Dharun Ravi, I tend to the current Republican candidate for
think not. Straight people have sex governor in Minnesota — a candidate
on TV, in magazines and in movies financially supported by major
everyday; gay sexuality is still not corporations such as Target, Best Buy
mainstream. Whether the actions and 3M — feels that our society does
of the college students were out of not need bullying laws. In fact, during
curiosity—or just a sophomoric prank one of his campaign speeches, he said
or bigotry— remains to be answered. that if he were elected governor, he
In high schools and colleges would veto the Safe Schools for All
across the nation, kids and young bill, a bill that includes protection for
adults are forced into silence for students bullied because of sexual
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changes are often short-lived and fellow humans. Not a subhuman
wildly ineffective, since teachers and class that should be persecuted,
others are often too passive to defend ridiculed, and tortured because they
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Now, another person is dead. A problem will persist, more people will
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tortured, and in some cases killed,

“How many more gay teens must be bullied into suicide before
Albert Mohler, James Dobson and the rest of the anti-gay religious
right give a damn?”—Dave VanderPol, paraphrasing sentiments
he and others have recently posted on the Internet
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Homophobic Megachurch Preacher Indiana City Expands Fairness
Accused Of Gay Sex & Spouse Abuse Protection
An Atlanta-area preacher with a history of opposing gay rights, including The West Lafayette City Council voted five to two earlier
marriage equality, is facing charges from four young men that he coerced them this month to insure non-discrimination based on veteran’s
to have sex. status and gender identity or expression. This update to
During worship services on Sunday, September 26, Bishop Eddie Long told the city’s human rights ordinance adds similar protections
his congregation that he is "under attack" and vowed to fight the allegations that are currently provided on the basis of race, color, sex,
against him. "I feel like David against Goliath," Long said. "But I got five rocks religion, sexual orientation or national origin.
and I haven't thrown one yet." The West Lafayette proposal was sponsored by the bi-
Four men, all in their early 20s, claim that Long used his spiritual authority partisan team of Mayor John Dennis (Republican) and
to coerce them into sexual relationships. The men claim Long, who preaches Council President Ann Hunt (Democrat).
a controversial “prosperity message” that embraces materialism, gave them With this change, proposed by the West Lafayette Human
gifts of cash, cars and overnight trips. One man, age 22, alleges in a lawsuit Relations Commission, West Lafayette joins Bloomington
Bishop filed last month that Long paid for shopping sprees and tuition in exchange and Indianapolis in rejecting discrimination based on gender
Eddie Long for having a sexual relationship with him. All of Long’s accusers were of legal identity or expression as well as sexual orientation. Four
age of consent when they claim that Long approached them for sex. other Indiana cities, including Lafayette, plus Tippecanoe
When long became pastor of New Life Missionary Baptist Church in 1987, the congregation had County include sexual orientation in their laws. Executive
300 members. When the church opened their current facility in 2001 that included an auditorium orders from Indiana Governors have extended similar
that can seat 10,000, their membership was reported to be over 25,000. protection to the more than 35,000 state employees for nearly
Long’s ex-wife has some allegations of her own. Since the gay sex scandal erupted in the media, two decades.
Dabara Houston has come forward to claim Long was physically abusive to her. Houston and Long The West Lafayette Human Rights resolution provides
divorced in 1985. Houston told ABC News that Long had a vicious and violent temper. She claims protection for all residents to education, employment, access
that Long even beat her while she was pregnant. to public conveniences and accommodations, and acquisition
Long, who has frequently preached against gay marriage, is currently married to his second through purchase or rental of real property regardless of
wife. A second marriage? What a great testimony to upholding the “sanctity of (heterosexual) race, religion, color, sex, sexual orientation, gender identity
marriage”! or expression, disability, national origin or ancestry.

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Louisville Mayoral Contest:
C-FAIR Endorses Greg Fischer
The Committee Louisville's Fairness ordinance,
for Fairness marriage equality, and a commitment
And Individual to offer domestic partner benefits to
Rights (C-FAIR), city employees should he be elected
the political mayor.”
action committee C-FAIR also pointed out that
affiliated with Fischer's Republican opponent, Hal
Louisville’s Heiner, has been staunchly anti-
F a i r n e s s Fairness throughout the many years
Campaign, he has served on Louisville’s Metro
r e c e n t l y Council. Heiner voted against the
Greg Fischer announced the city's Fairness ordinance when it came
names of candidates for local and before the council in 2004, and he
state races that have received their contributed $20,000 of personal funds
endorsements in the upcoming general to support Kentucky's constitutional
election. Election Day is Tuesday, amendment banning gay marriage that
November 2. same year. Not surprisingly, Heiner
In the race for Mayor of Louisville, did not even return a CFAIR candidate
C0FAIR has enthusiastically endorsed questionnaire.
Democratic candidate Greg Fischer. For a complete list of local and
According to a statement released state candidates endorsed by C-FAIR,
by C-FAIR, “Fischer has made strong visit www.fairness.org. For more
statements in favor of Fairness issues; information write to CFAIRTeam@
October 15 - 17 including fierce support of Metro gmail.com.
WRANGLER ROUND-UP
Cowboys In The Woods!

October 29-31
HALLOWEEN WEEKEND
State Agency Releases
Friday: Leather Party
Saturday: Costume Party
Confidential HIV Information
Last month Lambda Legal, the how that information was to be used
November 12 - 14
HARVEST American Civil Liberties Union of by a private organization, the AIDS
WEEKEND SPECIAL Northern California (ACLU-NC), Healthcare Foundation.
10% Discount On and HIV & AIDS Legal Services "The state stepped out of bounds
Two Night Stay Alliance (HALSA) sent a letter to when it disclosed the confidential
David Maxwell-Jolly, Director of the records of HIV-positive Medi-
November 25 - 28 California Department of Health Care Cal patients, even including their
THANKSGIVING Services, demanding a full explanation contact information," said Elizabeth
WEEKEND for the unauthorized and illegal Gill, Staff Attorney at the ACLU of
Thanksgiving Dinner disclosures of confidential identifying Northern California. "Medical records
& Dance Parties information of approximately 5,000 contain highly sensitive and personal
HIV-positive Medi-Cal recipients. The information, and DHCS had no right
information was released over a two- to give out that information without
and-a-half-year period, beginning in people's permission."
2007, to a third party service provider. "This is not just a violation of
In addition, Lambda Legal, the ACLU- people's privacy, it's a violation of
NC, and HALSA seek immediate California law," said Peter Renn, Staff
assurances from the state agency that Attorney with Lambda Legal. "HIV
no additional unauthorized, illegal is still a highly stigmatized disease,
disclosures will occur. something the state agency seems
Lambda Legal andACLU-NC became to have conveniently forgotten.
aware of the breach during discussions Especially for those who are extra
about AB 2590, a bill which would vulnerable - like many who depend
have diluted the strong confidentiality on Medi-Cal for their essential
protections under California law for medical care - it is critical to prevent
those with HIV/AIDS and would have improper disclosures of private health
legalized the unauthorized release information, such as one's HIV status.
of such information to an HIV/AIDS Of course we all want people with
service provider. Although current HIV to be able to access quality health
law forbids unauthorized disclosures services. But that does not require
about a person's HIV status, the stripping patients of control over
state agency released confidential their own medical information and
identifying information about HIV-
positive Medi-Cal recipients without (See HIV INFORMATION,
authorization or proper limitations on continued on pg 9)
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Louisville Drag Legend:
Kelly King Remembered by David Williams
When popular drag queen Kelly thought she’d been stabbed to death.
King was featured in an April Others said she’d died of AIDS
1978 cover story in The Louisville and had asked to be buried in her
Times Scene Magazine, it created a favorite black dress. Alleged place of
sensation that lasted for weeks. The internment: St. Michael’s Cemetery.
paper was deluged with countless The truth was much different, and
anti-gay letters, but they didn’t phase sadder. As shown on her California
King. She went on to a successful death certificate, she died of acute
career in Louisville, Pensacola, and gastrointestinal hemorrhage brought
New Orleans before heading to San on by chronic alcoholism. Her end
Francisco. The article occurred in Room 47
is now considered at the Pacific Hotel
a landmark in the in San Francisco’s
city’s LGBT history. Tenderloin District
But local memories on April 24, 1996.
of King faded after She was apparently
she left Louisville cremated.
in the 80s. She was King, born Rex
almost forgotten until Melton Aultman,
an old fan posted graduated from
a copy of the Scene Doss High School
Magazine cover on in 1971 and spent
Facebook this summer. The question two years at Jefferson Community
quickly arose: whatever happened College before taking to the stage.
to her? Most people thought she had The legendary Cissy Blake, aka AIDS
died, but no one knew how and where. activist Darrell Robinson, introduced
The debate caught the attention of her to the world of performing. Her
David Williams, local LGBT historian main local venue was the Odyssey, a
with the Williams-Nichols Archive & gay bar then located at Preston and
Library for LGBT Studies, who began Oak Streets. She lived above it with
to do some digging. another performer.
There wasn’t much to go on. Few Sometime in the 80s she moved
people even knew King’s birth to Florida. Perhaps the only extant
name. When it was found, at first it footage of her can be found on
was misspelled. Date of death was YouTube: a 1988 performance for an
eventually determined, but there AIDS fundraiser at a Pensacola bar.
were no obituaries in any Bay Area Little is known of her life after
papers or the Louisville Courier- leaving Louisville, but her memory
Journal. She seemed to have simply remains alive among her many fans
vanished without a trace. from the babyboom generation.
Then there were the rumors. Some Kelly King, rest in peace.

Workshop To Explore Biblical Teaching


Open Door Community Fellowship, 3938 Southern
Parkway, is hosting an in-depth workshop designed to
answer two questions: Whet does the Bible say about
homosexuality? And what does the Bible not say about
homosexuality? The event will take place Friday, October
22 through Sunday, October 24. Rev. Dr. Lisa Davison, a
theologian who has a doctorate in Hebrew, will be leading
this event.
Rev. Dr. Lisa For more information, including times for the seminar,
call (502) 893-6323 or write opendoorcf@juno.com.
Davison

HIV INFORMATION, cont’d from pg 8 demands that the state agency provide
a full accounting of exactly what
exposing them to greater likelihood of information was released. Lambda
stigma and discrimination." Legal, the ACLU, and HALSA have
The letter, delivered on Thursday, also submitted a request under
September 9 demands that the state the California Public Records Act
agency comply with California law requesting documents regarding
and stop releasing information to the release, with the confidential
third party service providers. It also information removed.
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Jamaica Isn't For Lovers
A GOSPEL FOR LIBERALS
by Michael Petrelis by Rev. Todd Eklof
The U.S. State Department has recently released its annual human
rights survey and the entire chapter on Jamaica was a horrific read. Get AsTo Know Jesus Christ Through His Own Words &
in years past, the chapter's section on gays and people with AIDS/HIV
was particularly frightening. In Light Of Today’s Most Controversial Social Issues
There are "targeted shootings of homosexuals" among other ills
facing our brothers and sisters in Jamaica, giving more impetus to theThis book is so CONTROVERSIAL that a subsidiary of
development of a boycott of Jamaican rums and beers, along with cruise Amazon.com backed out of their commitment to promote it!
lines visiting the island nation.
I'll soon share more information about the boycott andRev. the Todd
demands Eklof is a “recovering Southern Baptist”, turned
that will be made on the government in Kingston. InUnitarian the meanwhile,
Universalist Minister. He lives in Louisville,
give this extract from the State Department 2008 human rights report The Jamaica Forum for Lesbians, All Sexuals, and Gays (J-FLAG)
some attention: where he has served as the Minister of Clifton Unitarian
continued to report human rights abuses, including arbitrary detention,
Church since 1999.
The law prohibits "acts of gross indecency" (generally interpreted as mob attacks, He's gained national
stabbings, notoriety
harassment as anof homosexual patients by hospital
any kind of physical intimacy) between men, in public or in private,prophet
environmental and prison staff, and targeted shootings of homosexuals. Police often
and gay rights activist, and also
which are punishable by 10 years in prison. devotes much of his didtime
not investigate
to Restorative such incidents.
Justice and the
Peace movement. J-FLAG members also suffered attacks on their property, home
Fklof’s background intrusions as people demanded
as a conservative Christiantoturned
know the number of persons and beds
religious liberal, his thorough knowledge of Biblical bombing at the home of two men
in a home, and in one instance, a fire
that left one of them with burns on more than 60 percent of his body. In
scholarship, and his down-to-earth writing style, has
addition homosexuals faced death and arson threats, with some of these
enabled him to produce
directedaatscholarly,
the J-FLAG concise,
offices.and easy-to-
J-FLAG did not publicize its location due
follow treatmenttoofsuch Jesus' life and teachings.
threats, and its officials reported feeling unsafe having meetings
Rev. Todd Eklof
with clients at
www.AGospelForLiberals.com the organization's office.
In February a mob broke into the home of four presumed homosexual
men, killing three of them. The fourth was missing and presumed
dead. The men had reported being harassed for their perceived sexual
orientation prior to the fatal attack. Police made some inquiries in the
LOUIS PHILPOTT case but did not conduct a full investigation or make any arrests by
year's end.
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FAX: (502) 400-2796 Male inmates deemed by prison wardens to be homosexual were
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louissellslouisville@gmail.com in a separate facility for their protection. The method used for
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by the prison system, although inmates were said to confirm their
homosexuality for their own safety. There were numerous reports of
violence against homosexual inmates, perpetrated by the wardens and
by other inmates, but few inmates sought recourse through the prison
system.
Homosexual men were hesitant to report incidents against them
because of fear for their physical well-being. Lesbian women were subject
to sexual assault as well as other physical attacks. Human rights NGOs
Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gays and government entities agreed that brutality against homosexuals,
primarily by private citizens, was widespread in the community.
Coming out? Don’t face it alone! No laws protect persons living with HIV/AIDS from discrimination.
PFLAG is for more than just for parents, Human rights NGOs reported severe stigma and discrimination against
families and friends. We’re also here for you! this group. The ILO worked with the Ministry of Labor on a program to
reduce the stigma of HIV/AIDS in the workplace and to assist employers
SUPPORT EDUCATION ADVOCACY in designing policies for workers with HIV/AIDS. Although health care
facilities were prepared to handle patients with HIV/AIDS, health care
We meet the Third Sunday of the month at 3:00pm at workers often neglected such patients.
First Lutheran Church, 417 East Broadway. Long-time activist Michael Petrelis reports stories the mainstream
Use the west entrance closest to the alley. media choose to ignore. Michael has appeared on The O'Reilly Factor,
Questions? Leave a confidential message and CNN, ABC News, and National Public Radio. He has been quoted
one of our members will return your call. by The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Raw Story, The
(502) 329-0229. Chicago Tribune, The New Republic, and Stars & Stripes. You can
visit Michael Petelis' blog at: mpetrelis.blogspot.com.
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OUT  SPOKEN

Almost Never Been Kissed by Ren Scheuerman


On Tuesday, November 2, 2010 you opportunity to just relax and watch hope so. I am waiting. I do have faith
have one, and only one thing, you old movies. I found the movie Never in my country, but often I feel like the
really need to do. Vote. The entire Been Kissed staring Drew Barrymore, clock is almost to zero. However, while
country is looking at and talking about who by the way is a huge supporter of we wait, let's do something while we
Kentucky. They know we finally fired our community. If you have seen the are on center field, while everyone is
Ann Northup and replaced her with movie, then you know the storyline. A watching.
a very progressive forward thinking young reporter goes back to high school Let's show the country that we are
congressman, John Yarmuth. They to find a story. She, like so many gay indeed moving forward. That we
know we have the obstructionist, very people, was ridiculed in high school can, as Kentuckians, elect people that
narrow minded and poorly spoken just for being herself. But when she re- respect everyone, regardless of gender,
Senator, Mitch McConnell. And now enters high school, she finds a way to race, sexual orientation, education, or
the final chapter in the Jim Bunning take control of the situation and is able class. Sometimes in life you don’t get
book is almost written. to be the person who is admired rather a second chance. Take a leap of faith
The country wants to know if than ridiculed. At the end of the movie, and go vote. Whatever happens, you
Kentucky has turned the corner. Are she takes a leap of faith and goes to the will have voiced your opinion at the
we going to join the sensible-minded center of a baseball field before a game polls. In time the crowd, not just one
mainstream America and elect a fair, to see if the teacher she fell in love with person will rush toward us. Right
open-minded candidate who has feels the same as she does and will now, everybody is looking at you. All
proven to be on the side of the average meet her at the field. The countdown you need to do is smile. And vote.
Kentuckian, Jack Conway? Or are begins. As the clock counts down to
Jack Conway
we going to continue to firmly grasp zero, no one has shown up. Ren Scheuerman and
old ideas that are based on gender, margin of error. It could go either This is, in so many ways, what we his partner, Travis
race, sexual orientation, and financial way. Yes, it is hard to understand how are going through as a community. We Lay, enjoy living in the
superiority that Rand Paul favors? someone could honestly embrace the are all standing on the field, waiting to luxury of Indian Hills
(Northeast Louisville).
Can we show the country that yes, ideas of someone like Rand Paul. But see if we will be accepted. Everyone where they enjoy
Kentucky is on a road of fairness and the only thing you can do is support is watching. Many people are in the building bridges of
tolerance for all Kentuckians? I think the fair-minded candidate, who would stands and are supporting us. They understanding with
we can, but you are going to need to stand up for you as a person within feel that this is their fight as much as their neighbors (the
vote. Don’t assume that Jack Conway the LBGT community. Clearly, that it is ours. But will the country ever vast majority of
which are rumored to
will win this race. The polls show candidate is Jack Conway. finally jump up from the stands to the heterosexual).
the race, at this time, to be within the This long weekend I had the field and actually run to our side? I

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LIBERAL ON THE SAUCE

Stop Whining by David Williams


Stop whining. Yes, that means you we'd be very impressed. and medical centers that allows one
and me both. Sure, President Obama For starters, we have the Shepard- partner in a same-sex relationship
hasn't come through with the many Byrd hate crimes law, which extends to visit the other without restriction.
laws and policy changes we were federal penalties to hate crimes Do you think a Republican president
hoping for 20 months ago, but, hell. committed on the basis of sexual would have done that? Bush could
It's not going to get any better if we orientation and other categories. Do have. He didn't. What does that say
allow Republicans to whittle away at you know how long that bill languished about the Republican Party?
Democratic majorities in the November in Congress? Ten years. Obama got it Yes, gays in the military. Obama's
elections. passed his first. launched a study that hopefully will
President Obama's press secretary He also lifted travel restrictions allow us to serve openly. It's due
Robert Gibbs was right when he against foreigners with AIDS who in his hands by January. I can hear
ranted in August, “Dems need to stop want to visit or move to this country. Republicans laughing that one out of
whining, stop with the circular firing That policy had been in place since the the halls of Congress now if they're in
squad and realize that we're not going heads the Senate. I can't imagine the days of one of our most homophobic charge.
to get everything we want, now or Republicans allowing a single piece of presidents, the unlamented Ronald Twice he's issued proclamations for
ever." He went on to suggest if we progressive legislation get past them. Reagan. Now, for the first time an Pride Month: a relatively simple gesture
don't think Obama's administration is If it doesn't benefit Wall Street or some international AIDS conference is going started by Bill Clinton but scoffed at by
far superior to Bush's, then we may be bloated multinational, it's not going to to be held in this country in 2012. Bush. But he's gone further than that.
in the wrong party. happen. He's extended domestic partnership He issued a Father's Day proclamation
Right again. If you feel Obama In our own community, I think we're benefits for federal employees, a that mentioned families with two dads.
didn't do enough the last year or guilty of overlooking a lot of changes. major step in the right direction, and Wow! The President has also appeared
so, wait until John Boehner is house We aren't peaking enough under the implemented a hospital visitation (See LIBERAL ON THE SAUCE,
majority leader and Mitch McConnell mainstream media's radar. If we did, policy for federally-funded hospitals continued on pg 13)

TRANS FATTY

Soap Opera Homophobia Would Make A Great Soap Opera! by Dave VanderPol, Executive Editor
I miss Kyle, Fish, Luke, Noah and Reid! And when lowest level in the recent history of the show. Surely
will we ever get to see Phillip and Rafe kiss, let alone our gay characters weren’t scapegoats?
make love? Gay characters on The Young & The Restless
I don’t claim to know all of the background are yet to be shown kissing…except from the chest
politics and maneuvering that has played out over down. Showing a same-sex couple in an embrace
the past few years with the folks who write and is OK, just don’t let the camera show them locking
produce soap operas with gay characters. All I know lips!
is what I read on gay entertainment websites like While I’m truly sad that As The World Turns
AfterElton.com and GregInHollywood.com. ended it’s 54 year run on September 17., I believe
What I do know is that I’m perturbed beyond the storylines for Luke, Noah and Reid were pretty
words by the awful handling of the various gay much a joke! It took the writers nearly two years
(male) characters that have appeared over the past before they allowed Luke and Noah to have sex.
few years on One Life To Live, As The World Turns How realistic is that? They went nearly seven months
and The Young & The Restless. I believe that the root between their second and third on-screen kiss! They
cause for the problems with the plots involving these could hold hands, cuddle (fully clothed) and even
characters to be nothing less than homophobia. gaze longingly in each other’s eyes – but NO kisses
With the religious right demanding soaps drop for seven months.
all gay characters, it is truly amazing that any openly What are straight people so uptight about? What
gay character is ever depicted on television, let alone will it take for them to believe that our love is just as
in a daytime drama. At the same time homophobic precious, wonderful and life-enhancing as theird!
viewers are working against inclusion of GLBT If you have the time, I suggest you do a
characters, “our team” is demanding more air time Google search for the phrase (in quotation marks)
and more explicit romantic/sexual scenes for gay “homophobia scale” to learn what researchers long
characters. With pressure from both sides I can ago figured out: NOT all homophobia is “in your
believe the producers and writers of these soaps face”. In fact, most homophobia is very subtle and
experience a level of pressure that is very difficult to many homophobic individuals have no clue that European soap operas are light years ahead of
deal with. they are homophobic at all! Is that really surprising? their US counterparts. Visit our main website,
Kyle and Fish, a gay couple on One Life To How many members of “our team” have struggled www.theletteronline.com, to view a video clip
Live were dropped from the show this past spring with internalized homophobia and NOT realized
from the big gay church wedding that took
because research showed that straight viewers found that they were thinking and behaving out of self-
the guys offensive, which supposedly cause the soap hatred? place last month on the German soap Forbidden
to lose lots of viewers. Yet since Kyle and Fish were (See TRANS FATTY,
Love. Christian and Oliver, shown above, kiss
dropped, the soap’s ratings have are now at their continued on pg 13) moments before cutting their huge wedding cake.

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GAY LOVE DOCTOR

Breaking My Shy Boyfriend out of His Shell by Dr. Brian Rzepczynski, D.H.S., M.S.W.
Q: I’m an experienced dater who is mirror more of the behaviors you’re put in the position of always “taking
dating someone quite shy. Things have seeking. For example, “Thanks for the lead.” Try adding some balance
been going well over the last several sharing your opinion about that. I really to this by providing opportunities for
months, and I’ve been well-behaved like it when you talk about how you’re him to initiate, offer opinions, give
and considerate. I’ve also been sure to feeling.” Reinforce those behaviors that feedback, or collaborate in problem-
live my own life while getting caught you appreciate by acknowledging them solving. It does take two to tango, so
up in all the feelings associated a in the moment, and avoid shaming or after giving the relationship time to
budding “interest.” criticizing his quietness. develop and evolve, assess your guy’s
While things are going well, I’ve Try to plan dates or activities where level of involvement and investment in
vocalized my “like” for him, when in he might shine. Shy men do best in your romance to determine if his level
fact, I’ve got some pretty strong feelings situations where they feel a sense of of engagement matches your personal
for him. He’s so shy and quiet that I’m a basic temperament he was born control, where there’s an absence of requirements for a relationship.
scared to turn him off. And, he’s never with that exemplifies his personality. performance anxiety, and in settings The key to bringing a shy guy
been in a relationship before. So, do Or maybe he’s a little insecure and that are structured and have a purpose- around is to create an atmosphere in
you have any advice? I feel as though has some self-esteem issues that he’s driven format. If you’re looking for your relationship to where he feels
there is a communication deficit and grappling with that might diminish more expressiveness from him, try safe. Once this is achieved, in most
I’d like to bridge the gap, encouraging the more comfortable he becomes asking him open-ended questions cases the inhibitions will decrease and
him to express what it is he might feel with you. Whatever the source, his where further elaboration is required you just might find a wild man on
for me, while respecting his gentler shyness is ultimately his issue and during dialogues rather than simple your hands bubbling just below the
nature. there’s not much control you have yes/no responses. surface, bringing out another aspect of
over whether he’s in or out of his Aside from that, show him the time his nature for you to fall in love with in
A: Kudos to you for recognizing the shell. However, there are a few things of his life! And there’s nothing wrong addition to his sweetness. Enjoy!
value that a shy guy can offer to dating you might try to help break him of his with you sharing your thoughts and
relationship! And while their quiet and inhibitions so he becomes a bit more feelings with him; he may just mirror ©2008 Brian L. Rzepczynski, All rights
innocent demure can be ravishingly of an active participant in the budding your actions. Remember that you have reserved. To sign up for the FREE Gay
attractive, their reticence at the same relationship. the right to ask for what you need and Love Coach Newsletter filled with dating
time can add an element of confusion Help boost his confidence by want, so it’s important not to enable and relationship tips and skills for
gay singles and couples, as well as to
and frustration as you attempt to validating the things he’s good at. shy behavior by not speaking up if check out current coaching groups,
engage them during your courtship. Recognize his talents and give positive your needs aren’t being met. It can programs, and teleclasses, visit www.
Perhaps his shyness stems from strokes for things he says or does that very easy when dating a shy man to be TheGayLoveCoach.com.

LIBERAL ON THE SAUCE, cont’d from pg 12 TRANS FATTY, cont’d from pg 12

before several LGBT functions and invited national I don’t want to accuse any soap writer or producer
LGBT leaders to the White House. Again, a small but involved with the three soap operas mentioned above of THE COMMUNITY LETTER Salutes…
meaningful gesture. overt homophobia because of the way they handled their
In just 20 months, President Obama has done more gay characters. Perhaps the characters were mishandled
for the LGBT community than George Bush ever did
(that is to say, zilch) and dare I say even Bill Clinton,
out of ignorance? Yet, at the very least, these writers and
producers likely deserve the title of “enabler” for caving DAVID MILLER
whose support of don't ask, don't tell and the so-called into the complaints of homophobic viewers. for his many years
Defense of Marriage Act is a major scar on his otherwise Back in the 1960s no soap opera allowed viewers to
of dedicated volunteer
benevolent presidency. see married heterosexual couples sleeping in the same
Get with it! If Republicans take over Congress in bed! So maybe by 2015 we could at least have a soap service on behalf of the
January, forget about ENDA, forget about allowing depict a same-sex wedding? Oh wait, one German soap
gays in the military and forget about rescinding the did that last month. Germans can handle watching a
marriage act. It's not going to happen. gay wedding in a church, but not Americans. Bluegrass Classic
We need to close ranks now, and we need to convince In the meantime I’m all for keeping up pressure – Bowling Tournament
independents to come out in support of Democratic firm yet polite – on the networks to include more LGBT
candidates as well. Otherwise, it may be another 10 characters in daytime and other programming. We
years before we have another golden opportunity like know the well-financed and well-organized religious Know of a community leader
the Obama administration to really change our fortunes right wont be shutting up any time soon, so our voices that deserves to be saluted?
for the better. must continue to be heard.

Tell us who and why:


David Williams is the founder of the Williams-Nichols Institute Agree or disagree, Dave VanderPol would love to know your editor@theletteronline.com
and the Kentucky Gay & Lesbian Library and Archives, which thoughts! Write to him at editor@theletteronline.com or
are housed at the University of Louisville’s Ekstrom Library. call (502) 322-4632.

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GAY & FEMINIST

Gender Identity Is The New Gay by Eric Jost


It's no secret that Angelina Jolie more ostracized than she already does herself under the ever-present watch
and Brad Pitt are queen and king of by having A-list parents. of the media.
the paparazzi. Even when Britney Interestingly, Life & Style was The fact that Life & Style and its
and Lindsay threaten their reign, the reprimanded in March by The Advocate counterparts are so enamored with
couple always manages to come back and GLAAD for its "coverage" of the Shiloh's gender expression highlights
with a vengeance (even if they claim supposed family drama. Then, the our society's desperate need to cling
to be uninterested in the media). It's tabloid painted Shiloh's masculine to preconceived gender stereotypes.
easy when you view the developing traits as harmful and an indicator of Transgendered celebrities like Chaz
countries of the world as giant shopping bad parenting (quoting anti-gay/anti- Bono, Candis Cayne, and Alexis
malls full of babies just waiting to be feminist group, Focus on the Family); Arquette, are less celebrated for any
snatched up at a decent price. and while the magazine apologized, talent they have, and more highlighted
Life & Style magazine, that bastion their ongoing coverage indicates the as curiosities -- a modern-day,
of hard-hitting journalism, took a editors didn't take the message to paparazzi-driven freak show.
break from its 24-hour Lohan coverage heart. They are also furthering parental While I think there are many
to drudge up a news story about the un-ladylike haircut, Shiloh has been gender stereotypes by painting Brad as parenting techniques to critique
Jolie-Pitts: namely, the gender identity allowed to choose the mode of gender the one repulsed by any deviation of Brangelina for, giving Shiloh the
of their biologically female child, expression that suits her best. Angelina stereotypical gender traits. freedom to express herself is not one of
Shiloh. even told Vanity Fair that Shiloh is As someone who played with both them. Let's just hope the tabloids don't
I am partial to Star Magazine, but drawn to more masculine expressions action figures and Barbie, and dressed get the best of them.
I'll take what I can get in a pinch. of gender, and as a result, has been as both Batman and Catwoman (mainly
For months, the paparazzi have given the freedom to adopt the traits Catwoman), I don't find anything Eric Jost is a freelance
been highlighting the supposed she prefers. wrong with Shiloh being given the writer living in Washington,
DC. His work ranges
family turmoil over Shiloh's gender While it is a little too early to know if freedom to actually choose how she from embarrassing
identity and expression. Although Shiloh genuinely feels like a boy more wants to express herself. Had my firstperson narratives to
born female, Brangelina have allowed than a little girl (she is only 4 years old, parents insisted I only played sports commentaries on queer
Shiloh to adopt characteristics that after all) or if she's just a tomboy; I'm or only had male friends as a child, I rights and sex positive
are typically associated with male- glad that we have magazines like Life would have been miserable. The only culture. You can check out
more of his work at www.
bodied individuals -- from wearing & Style to act as the moral compass of tragedy with Shiloh is that she has
eric-jost.com.
pants (OMFG!) to maintaining a short, parenting, and make Shiloh feel even the misfortune of having to discover

Federal Court Dismisses Anti-Marriage Equality


Group’s Lawsuit Challenging Disclosure Laws
A federal court yesterday dismissed a lawsuit argumentative passages” and that it “places an
by the National Organization for Marriage unjustified burden on the court and the [state] to
(NOM) filed last month in Rhode Island. NOM, respond to it because they are forced to ferret out
the leading anti-LGBT force in the country, the relevant material from a mass of verbiage.”
argued that it should be able to run ads on The court gave NOM until next week to file
behalf of Rhode Island Republican gubernatorial an amended complaint that comports with the
candidate John Robitaille, who strongly opposes rules.
marriage equality, without having to report its In its September court filing, NOM said it intends
expenditures or comply with other campaign to “engage in multiple forms of speech in Rhode
finance laws. NOM is embarking on a ruthless
campaign this election cycle to defeat candidates
Island” in advance of the November 2 elections,
“including radio ads, television ads, direct mail
What Path Calls You?
who support marriage equality. and publicly accessible Internet postings.” Rhode
“NOM is boldly trying to circumvent Island law permits “independent expenditures”
campaign disclosure laws in a number of states,” from organizations like NOM – but forbids
said Kevin Nix, Director of the NOM Project for these groups from coordinating any strategy or
the Human Rights Campaign. “They have so far ads with candidates. Candidate John Robitaille clamourunderbridge.typepad.com
failed in Rhode Island as they have elsewhere. stands to benefit most from NOM’s ads – he
Federal and state officials around the country opposes same-sex marriage.
should sit up and take notice of this fringe NOM is fighting campaign finance laws
group’s shadowy financing and questionable in a number of states, including New York,
ethics.”
Judge Mary M. Lisi dismissed NOM’s
Washington, California and Maine, where it
remains under investigation by the Maine Ethics
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complaint on grounds that it violated federal Commission for failing to register with the state
litigation rules. The court, among other as a ballot question committee and refusing to
The Respected Source
things, found that “the factual allegations in disclose the donors to its campaign to overturn For GLBT News
the complaint are buried in… conclusory and Maine’s marriage equality law in 2009.

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OUTLOOK WITHIN

Making It Last by Bryn Marlow


The news hits hard. Friends of ours I’ve taken these words to heart. I am since found something similar? Have
— coupled a few years longer than notorious for wearing tennis shoes until our kids moved to a place of satisfaction
our 14 — are calling it quits on their I walk out the sides of them. To do farm and joy? How can I know? Will I ever
relationship. My husband Dave and I work I slip into a pair of old black dress know?
didn't see it coming. Apparently, neither shoes, their soles strapped on with layer And why the importance placed on
did they. Or at least, not both of them. after layer of duct tape. We lay our table making it last—making anything last—
Less than a week ago we asked one of with cloths that were new 50 years ago. in the first place? Isn’t the message of
the men what he most wants from life. My husband spent this morning sewing life that everything changes? That we
"To grow old with my partner," he said. patches onto one of them. are always in a state of becoming? That
The news of these friends' impending I harbored hopes that my first existence is one long lesson in letting
breakup sends a chill down my spine, marriage could be patched together, that go?
as if someone somewhere is walking my wife and I could make it last as long And yet.
across my grave. It reminds me that at as my parent's “'til-death-do-us-part” Maybe the deeper truth of the proverb
some point my relationship with Dave relationship. It was not to be. My wife — and I have no clue how to say it in
will end. We will part ways by choice, needed a man who needed a woman, Finnish — is that we do have all we need
chance, death or the thousand other who could love her in ways meaningful somewhere deep within. Deep down
ways relationships terminate. We know to her, to join her in a union of opposites. inside us resides the wisdom to know
this. I needed a man to companion, to brother, when to hold on, when to let go, when
I remember an article I read about the How to live in such a world? to twin with, to form a union of equals. to take what is as it presents itself. We
nature and duration of gay relationships. The answer is perhaps scribed on Even so, I continue to sit with the already possess the gumption, patience
The author cited the results of a multiple a plaque that hangs on a wall of our questions raised by the dissolution of and discernment to navigate the river of
choice survey question that showed home. The words are right there in the marriage. Was it best to call it quits? life, the One-River that bears us all along
newly-partnered couples were most front of my face, penned in a flowing Was anything to be gained by making it on its ever-flowing, ever-changing, ever-
apt to predict their relationship would calligraphic hand by my former wife. last? How would life be different—hers, the-same path to the Sea of—what?
last "forever." The longer the partners She copied them from a similar plaque mine, our children's—had we stayed Being? Eternity? Nirvana? Truth?
had been together—25 years, 30, even in my parents' house. I can't read the together? The fallout seems severe: my
40—the more likely they were to predict words. They're in Finnish, language of three sons, now young adults, have
their relationship would last "another my grandparents, but the translation nothing to do with me, nor have they Bryn Marlow (gayfeather.blogspot.com) lives
month." Perhaps with age comes the is etched in my mind: "We have all we had since they were children. with his husband Dave on a 1930s Indiana
realization that nothing is sure, nothing need. What we don't have, we don't But perhaps I overstate the case. I farmstead where they raise chickens and
lasts, everything changes whether we need." Sage advice about how to make have found deep happiness in life since
flowers.
like it or not. do. the marriage ended. Has my former wife

YOUR PEACE OF MIND

“To Err is Human, To Forgive Divine” by Dr. Fred Schloemer, L.C.S.W.


[NOTE: This month’s question is exist on the topic of forgiveness. I don’t a lot of psychic energy to stay mad at
from a client of Dr. Schloemer, rather have a personal favorite but anyone someone. When we let go of that anger,
than a reader.] interested can find a wealth of material we get psychic energy back and are
just by Googling the word “forgiveness.” truly free again from the negative hold
Q: I have a dilemma involving an old While I haven’t read all that there is out the anger had on our hearts.
boyfriend and a very hurtful breakup. there on the topic, I’ve sampled a good So my advice is usually to forgive
I’ll call him “Chad” here. He left me number of the offerings and have found others whenever we can. That’s not to
for another guy right before a big some common themes in the literature. say we should be close or trusting again
commitment ceremony we’d planned abandonment and betrayal I felt when One theme is that forgiveness is with those who have hurt us; in fact,
for months. Through therapy and he left me. something we do for ourselves, not the exercising some degree of caution and
support from friends, I was finally able So what’s your opinion: to forgive or person who wronged us. This idea may self-protection is probably wise with
to overcome the horrible depression not to forgive? seem counter-intuitive at first, but the such folks. But why let their past hurtful
I experienced after the breakup, and A: Of all the questions I hear from common sense of it is this: by harboring actions dictate our behavior now and
have even been very happy in a new clients in my practice, it’s amazing how anger and resentment we really only forever? Better to move forward and get
relationship for the last year. often questions about forgiveness come hurt ourselves, and give the person who on with our lives. Perhaps Hemingway
Here’s my dilemma: Chad recently up. Sometimes, as with this client, the harmed us more power over us than put this idea best when he wrote, “living
contacted me by voicemail and said question is whether we should forgive they deserve. well is the best revenge.”
he’s just been diagnosed with cancer, someone else for the harm they’ve done Another theme is that forgiveness is Whatever this client decides, here’s
the prognosis isn’t good and he wants us. Other times, the question is how a double-edged sword: we all need it wishing him peace of mind.
to try to make amends to me. Honestly, to persuade someone else to forgive from others at times, and we all need to
my first thought was “Karma’s a bitch, us for the harm we did them. Either give it to others at times. To withhold Fred Schloemer, Ed.D., LCSW is a Louisville
dude!” After I calmed down, I began to way, this much is clear: forgiveness it from others when they need it from psychotherapist specializing in GLBT issues.
feel mainly ambivalent … wanting to requires a lot of people, emotionally, us only diminishes us spiritually and
Write him at FredSchloemer@aol.com, visit
accept his amends to ease his conscience psychologically and spiritually, and creates bad Karma.
his website at www.schloemerservices.com,
so he doesn’t have to worry about me decisions about forgiveness deserve Finally, lots of authors who talk about
and order his book From A Land in Between
as he deals with his cancer … also careful consideration. forgiveness also talk about the freeing
wanting to let him feel the same sense of effects of letting go of past hurts. It takes at www.publishmaerica.com.
A number of good books and articles

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Nashville Facility Treats 24,000 HIV/AIDS Patients Yearly
[Reprinted with permission of Out & About Newspaper.]
The Comprehensive Care Center Also moving to the office tower at and the Infectious Diseases Division Through innovative and
(CCC), one of the nation’s largest One Hundred Oaks are the Vanderbilt in the Department of Medicine. personalized disease management, it
and most successful outpatient HIV/ AIDS Center’s clinical research The CCC has been a critical site has prevented -- in almost every case
AIDS treatment facilities, is moving programs and Nashville Pharmacy for Vanderbilt clinical researchers for -- transmission of the AIDS virus from
to Vanderbilt Health One Hundred Services, which specializes in HIV years. Relocation will “allow us to do HIV-positive pregnant women to their
Oaks. therapy. more translational research than we babies during or following delivery.
Beginning this month, most The arrangement “is great for were able to do before,” D’Aquila said. D’Aquila said the relocation will
clinical services to CCC patients will everyone,” said CCC founder and “It means we have a better opportunity strengthen collaborations with
for teaching trainees at all levels.”
now be provided by the Vanderbilt chief medical officer Stephen Raffanti, other AIDS organizations, including
Since it was established in 1994
Medical Group under a new name, M.D., MPH, an associate professor Nashville CARES, and the city and
as a collaborative effort between
the Vanderbilt Comprehensive Care of Medicine at Vanderbilt. Providing Nashville’s hospitals, business state health departments to overcome
Clinic. highly specialized and expensive care community and Vanderbilt University, barriers that prevent early diagnosis,
The CCC, an independent, non- to patients with HIV and AIDS is “an the CCC has enrolled 7,400 patients in access to services and retention in
profit organization, will continue to incredible challenge,” particularly for care. Until recently it was located near care.
administer the federal grants that a small, stand-alone facility, Raffanti Centennial Park. The ultimate goal, he said, is to
support the clinic, and provide a said. Currently the CCC provides “prevent and cure this still-spreading,
wide range of services including “It’s a huge win for Vanderbilt’s care for more than 2,400 patients lifelong infection.”
psychiatric, nutritional and medical research and teaching missions,” in Nashville and through satellite [Copyright 2010, Out & About
case management, and specialized added Richard D’Aquila, M.D., clinics in Cookeville, Columbia and Newspaper. All rights reserved.
care for pregnant women with HIV. director of the Vanderbilt AIDS Center Springfield. Reprinted with permission.]

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DINING OUT

Impellezzeris Pizza: A Far Cry From Your Usual Take-Out by Beth Ann Rubin
[Impellezzeris Pizza: www. that they skipped that cliché. with an appetizer classic, the Breadstix
impellizzeris.com. Three Louisville Although there is ample ($5.99). Six pieces of bread topped
locations: 1381 Bardstown Road, (502) seating, there usually with herbs and parmesan cheese were
454-2711, 4933 Brownsboro Road, is a wait due to the served practically swimming in a garlic
(502) 425-9080 and opening this fall, a popularity of the butter sauce. The slightly chewy “stix”
downtown Louisville location at 110 restaurant. The benefited from the delicious sauce and
West Main Street.] walls in the I could not help myself from double
Ah, pizza! It’s easy to pick up the waiting area dipping. Not for the diet conscious but
phone and order carry-out from one of are filled so delicious.
the big franchises. There are over 300 with several When I discovered that my other
listings for pizza in the Metro Louisville “Best of dining partners had settled on pizza,
yellow pages! Louisville” I thought I would try something
On a recent weekend my family and a w a r d s different on the menu, especially since
I decided to visit Impellizzeris Pizza which made I knew I would be able to sample their
on Bardstown Road and taste some us salivate pie. Some of the hoagies sounded quite
of their highly acclaimed pizza pies. even more in tasty such as the Italian Sausage hoagie
When I first moved to Louisville in anticipation ($7.99) served with homemade sausage
the early ‘90’s, I remember eating at a of our meal. and the Calzone ($8.99) also sounded
much smaller Impellizzeris, also on And for the appealing.
Bardstown Road but in a location where sports enthusiast, I opted for pasta. I could not choose
the biggest business came in the form of there are plenty of between the Pasta and Homemade
delivery and take-out. This newer spot big screen televisions Meatballs ($7.99) and the Stuffed
is definitely geared for those eating on which you can watch Manicotti ($11.99). I was in the mood for
on site and we found through our your favorite team. some meat so I opted for the meatballs.
experience that they truly do deliver an On the night we visited, You can select between spaghetti and
excellent meal. the al fresco area in the front of the mostaccioli. I picked the mostaccioli
The restaurant was clearly designed restaurant was quite busy but we did the menu while enjoying our drinks, I as I prefer a thicker pasta. Imagine my
with classic Italian eatery in mind. not have to wait for a table. noted that the eatery might be known delight when my meal was served with
The walls are dark and lined with We were a bit early to indulge in for its pizza but the menu is much two more breadsticks, also wading in
comfortable booths, checkered cloths the Happy Hour which did not begin more extensive than I expected. There that garlic butter. My pasta was cooked
cover the tables and I half expected the until 10:00pm but that certainly didn’t are a number of appetizers as well as al dente and the sweetness of the thick
token bottle of Chianti with candle at stop me from ordering a glass of the salads and Hoagie sandwiches and a (See DINING OUT,
each spot but was sorely disappointed house Chardonnay. As we perused variety of pastas. We decided to start continued on pg 18)

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VIDEO REVIEWS Kentuckiana Agencies
Respond To Bullying,
BY CUBBIE BRITCHES Suicide Crisis
The String To respond to the current anti-
gay bullying and suicide crisis,
10 community agencies from
Set in arid Tunisia, tall, quiet Malik (Antonin Stahly- throughout Metro Louisville will
Vishwanadan), a 30-year-old Parisian architect, come together on Friday, October
returns to his homeland after the death of his father. 15. The forum, which is free and
He’s greeted warmly by his over-bearing, petulant open to the public, will take place
mother (Cardinale) and is immediately confronted beginning at 4:00pm at Metro
United Way, 334 East Broadway,
with her expectation that he stay and get married.
in the Community Meeting Room.
The now strange world of his youth, his mother’s Louisville Youth Group (LYG) is
pressure and his barely hidden homosexuality set serving as the lead agency of this
off anxiety attacks in Malik, who finally finds relief consortium.
when he meets the darkly handsome handyman, According to Donald Taylor,
Balil (Salim Kechiouche). They begin a tentative LYG Executive Director, “Through
relationship, but Islamic mores, a still class conscience the conversation at the forum, we
society, and the ever-presence of his mother threaten hope to explore the services and
resources available to respond
their young love.
appropriately (and proactively) to
The String is a forbidden love story as well as a anti-gay bullying, answer questions
character study of people lost in rapidly changing the community may have and
cultures. Don’t miss this engaging, insightful and explore a "next step" to ensure that
undeniably sexy drama, which is available for rent Louisville does not experience such
at Wild & Woolly Video, 1021 Bardstown Road a tragic end to anti-gay bullying.”
in Louisville. (French and Arabic with English For more information write to:
subtitles.) donald@teachingtheroad.org.

Impellezzeris Pizza, the Impellezeri’s “Super” Pizza which


cont’d from pg 17 weighs about 12 pounds. Consisting of
pepperoni, Italian sausage, meatballs,
sauce was offset by the boldness of the ham, mushrooms, green peppers,
meatballs. The four large meatballs onions, black and green olives and
were not too dense and delivered a banana peppers, this will set you back
perfect accompaniment to the pasta. $49.99 and a wait time of a little over
There are three different pizza crust an hour. There is no serving size but
options, each with a different price: suffice it to say it should be enough for
original crust, Sicilian deep dish and your entire table.
thin New York style. All are made daily My co-diners went with the original
in the kitchen. crust and split a medium pizza ($14.99
There are ten specialty pizzas from plus additional toppings) with half
which you can choose or you can cheese and half Italian sausage and
make your own from a variety of banana peppers. The crust was
meat and vegetable options. I have to reminiscent of the breadstix and was
mention the one specialty that stands substantial but not overbearing and
out from the menu and that would be complimented the toppings quite well.

Billy Lucas
Asher Brown
Seth Walsh
Tyler Clementi
Raymond Chase
Caleb Nolt

May We Honor
Your Memory By
Working To End
Anti-Gay Bullying

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