Professional Documents
Culture Documents
po County
Just a Moment
By Kalila Volkov
Want to Know Where Your Hassles Are Hiding? Economic Stimulus Opportunities
Launch a “Hassle Hunt!” By Andrea Zeller
feeling of momentum by tackling By the time you read this, President Obama
By Adele Sommers will have signed legislation authorizing the
the easier ones first. A few quick
Is the water feeling successes can really boost morale! nearly $800 billion American Recovery and
a little choppy at #4 Filet: Dissect each high-priority Reinvestment Act. President Obama sought
your place of work? hassle in a group discussion. Con- the creation of an Act that emphasizes infra-
Is your boat bouncing sider a range of potential solutions structure development and public works
around a lot (or even a by brainstorming and analyzing as projects modeled much after the New Deal
little) these days? Are peo- many ideas as possible. Create new, programs created by President Franklin
ple getting seasick and look- digestible recipes by adding ingre- Roosevelt shortly after he entered office in
ing around for the Dramamine—all dients and chopping out waste. 1933. President Obama’s massive economic
because they keep sailing into barriers that #5 Cook: Give everyone a chef ’s hat stimulus package is intended, much like
keep them from getting anything done? and identify actionees to sauté the President Roosevelt’s New Deal programs,
That could be a sign of shark-like “has- solutions. to jumpstart our flailing economy.
sles” surrounding your ship, or giant octopi #6 Serve: Dish up a plan of action to As a business owner, have you thought
waiting to strangle your productivity and meet regularly to track and monitor about what opportunities this legislation
morale. Or, maybe there are just a lot of progress. Start by entering the has- will offer you? The new American Recov-
little sea urchins out there, sucking the life sles, priorities, actionees, and prog- ery and Reinvestment Act brings billions
ress notes into a table, spreadsheet, of dollars in contract opportunities to gov- disabled veteran-owned business enterprise?
out of your people and profitability!
or database, and update it before ernment contractors over the next several Do you understand how to find and bid on
In any case, it’s time to go fishing for
each meeting. years. Do you offer products or services government contracts?
hassles — obstacles, hurdles, and frustra-
that could be used in the various areas There is a parallel tract of things you
tions of all shapes and sizes! Give everyone
In conclusion, with ongoing vigilance, where stimulus strategies are targeted? The need to do to best position your com-
a “fishing license” along with a permit to
demoralizing hassles will stop invading your government likely will award contracts to pany to take advantage of these oppor-
clean up the waters once and for all.
workplace like piranhas in pond. Manage- increase energy efficiency in federal build- tunities. First, get certified. Then second,
ment’s unflagging participation and sup- ings, expand health care information tech- identify which government buyers are likely
Recipe for “Hassle Stew” nology, and continue military construction to need your company’s products or ser-
port throughout this entire voyage will help
#1 Bait and trap: Invite everyone to a ensure your ultimate success! projects. Meanwhile, billions more will be vices, and plan your marketing strategies
“hassle hunt” party. Tell people to provided to state and local governments for to reach these buyers! You want to be sure
bring back a net full of their most shovel-ready infrastructure projects, cre- your targeted government buyers know
annoying hassles. Have people ating business for small and mid-size con- your company and are familiar with your
catch and return their ideas to you struction firms. products and services before the funds from
in advance or simply plan to start For example, infrastructure development the American Recovery and Reinvestment
“fishing” at the meeting. No hassle funds, such as highway and bridge improve- Act begin flowing. Here at Mission Com-
is too big or too small to pursue! ments, will flow federal funds through Cal- munity Services Corporation, we have the
#2 Weigh: Define each problem clearly trans. If you are in construction, be sure resources and connections to help you
in terms of what happens and why your business is certified through the State prepare to take advantage of these govern-
it occurs. of California to access the Caltrans oppor- ment contracting opportunities. Call or
#3 Sort: Prioritize your hassles using a tunities. The Act also contains billions of visit us today.
5-question test. Use these answers dollars to improve health information tech-
to help determine the order in nology, and there’s money for green initia- Andrea Zeller, Executive Director of Mission
which to resolve them. Consider tives. The US Army Corps of Engineers Community Services (MCSC), coordinates
the a) perceived impact or sever- and the US General Services Administra- Women’s Business Partners (WBP) to ensure
ity, b) whether your customers are Adele Sommers, Ph.D. is a business per- tion will have numerous opportunities. all community resources are leveraged and
bothered, c) whether you can get formance consultant who helps entrepreneurs Are you ready for this? If you have a optimized to support entrepreneurial women.
a quick resolution, d) whether you align their life passions with their business product or service that can be used in any WBP serves everyone interested in establishing
can more easily achieve a mission- purpose. She also guides organizations through of these areas, you definitely want to pre- self-sufficiency through small business owner-
critical goal by getting rid of each “tactical tune-ups” and “strategic makeovers” pare and position your company so that ship. WBP can take you step by step towards
hassle, and e) whether the solu- in individual or group sessions. Contact her government buyers can quickly place con- success and can help those who speak only
tion is under your group’s control. today for a free initial consultation at Adele@ tracts with you. Do you know how to get Spanish. Visit www.MCSCorp.org or call 595-
While you shouldn’t ignore the LearnShareProsper.com, or 805-462-2199. certified as a small business, as a women- 1357 to find out more.
obstacles that need more time and owned or minority-owned business, or as a
energy, you can generate a stronger
Beyond Stereotypes
By Heather Mendel
When my husband and I were married
thirty years ago, I inherited the role of ‘reb-
betzin’ that came with marrying a rabbi.
When he proposed, he asked me to think
about what this role would mean and how,
to a certain extent, our lives, and those of
our children, would become more public.
What he did not foresee, or certainly did
not warn me of, was the amusing comment
that, over the years, has continued to amaze
The Business of Yoga
me: “That’s funny, you don’t look like a rab- Photo by duchesssa
bi’s wife.” Always said (and received) with
a smile, these few words have always left By Yvonne Duran municates. (I guess, “Because I said so” and
me bemused as I am not sure what a rabbi’s groupings. Do they apply to us? Instantly “Because I’m the Mom” don’t lead to com-
wife looks like and why I do not fit some we recognize where we match and more “I give thanks to my mother . . . for intro- promise.) For April, it’s a true application of
preconceived notion. If the same people, importantly, where we don’t. ducing me to the path of yoga as a child, having conscious union in relationships and
casually met, would have been aware of my When I was training to become a speech her wisdom and guidance along the way, being present with love and compassion.
outspoken and passionate interests in femi- and hearing therapist in what seems now to and for embarking on this journey we She says staying mindful of these yoga prin-
nism and spirituality, they may have been have been a separate lifetime ago, each ther- undertake hand in hand.” –April Thyrring ciples helps influence the business interac-
convinced that I definitely don’t sound like apist-in-training had to agree, for a period I majored in psychology and child devel- tions with her mom accordingly.
a rabbi’s wife! This comment has certainly of 2 week and in all situations, to ‘become’ opment, so “business” is usually the fur- Additionally, Connie believes they bring
served as a good introduction to my consid- a stutterer to know what this speech dis- thest thing from my mind. But then I took their love of each other and yoga into their
ering the role of stereotypes in our lives. order feels like to the person dealing with a class at Yoga Village, owned and managed business. For example, because April prac-
Surface and substance—where does it. It was a humbling experience indeed. by the mother/daughter team of Connie ticed yoga as a child with her mom as do
one begin and the other end? Our physi- Ask any woman who chooses to wear the Murphy and April Thyrring. As a mother her children with her, they offer a yoga class
cal appearance; apparent strength or weak- hijab in Western society, and especially post of a young daughter, who finds the inter- where families can practice yoga together as
nesses; our gender, race, and nationality; the 9/11, how her choice affects the reaction of personal dynamics of daily tooth-brushing a bonding experience. Then there’s the tea
clothing, colors, and adornments we chose strangers in the streets, or its effects on the equal to negotiating peace treaties, my curi- and refreshments served after class. It’s hard
to wear—all are taken in instantly by those initial moments of meeting someone not osity about such a business relationship was to deny the sense of nurturing experienced
we meet and filtered through a perceptive of her faith, for the first time? What of the peaked. when someone feeds you. A beneficial busi-
lens that has evolved within them through elderly, or those in wheelchairs, who expe- Connie, a yoga teacher since 1980 with a ness practice for their family is that Connie
their life’s experience. Each of us operate in rience invisibility as strangers address who- degree in finance, always wanted to have her can support April’s role as a mother with
the same way, and the more tied we are to ever accompanies them rather than talk own yoga studio. When her daughter April, flexible scheduling and division of labor.
the egoic mind, as described by Tolle, the directly to them? a single mother of two, decided to pursue Both women concur that they have
more we assume that our perceptions of One of the many joys of having Presi- her yoga certification, Connie moved to grown in their mother/daughter relation-
others, gained in this way, are valid. dent Obama in office, is that the barrier the Central Coast to help. The yoga studio ship through birthing a business. This
Such superficial coverings, including the of race has cracked and is crumbling. For became a joint venture, and Connie and March, they celebrate their one-year anni-
personality traits we show to the world, con- the first time, many have been able to see April were in business. versary. Any parent who has ever thrown
ceal, in varying degrees, the essence of who through their own limiting stereotype to As partners, they make major decisions an over-the-top birthday party for an oth-
we are—the former, where our individual- the essence of the amazing man who now together, divide duties based on personal erwise oblivious one-year-old knows the
ity is found and the latter where our simil- leads our country and the world. His mete- strengths, and use their differences to their party is not for the babe, but for the parents
itude resides in the identical divine sparks oric rise, a great gift to us all, has cracked advantage. For example, Connie’s cost-effec- who made it through that first amazing,
that animates each human being as children open the imprisoning national lens that has tive perspective has been balanced by April’s though at times challenging, year. It’s evi-
of One God, splendid in our diversity. separated us, one from another. eco-friendly perspective, better aligning dent in talking with Connie and April that
What is not quite so obvious when we How do we deal with difference? their practice with their philosophy. They their bond and regard for one another is
first meet, is the intangible information we How much trust do we have in stereo- both note an intuitive communication style strong. Whether it’s the yoga or just them,
intuit vibrationally. In an unconscious state, types? How much of our assessment of of effective mind reading and finishing each I’m going to keep bringing my daughter to
we are unaware that we take in information others is tainted because we are unaware other’s sentences that comes in handy when family yoga with me. She loves it, and it’s
on many levels and that surface impressions or unable to see beyond the surface and getting a job done. significantly more mutually enjoyable than
are intricately tied to our own inner voice. the touch the substance of one another? But how is the infamously intimate the mandatory practice of good dental
So often our first impressions have more to Surely widening our perspective and and potentially tenuous mother/daughter hygiene.
do with ourselves than the person we are becoming conscious of the lens through dynamic handled in a business setting? For
meeting. which we each view our lives will assist Connie, it has meant stepping back more Yoga Village is located at 132 W. Branch
It is interesting to view all the sub- us to connect in more meaningful ways. as a mother. The mother/daughter part- Street, Arroyo Grande (located behind the
groups we can identify with in terms of B’shalom nership is multi-dimensional (the mother/ Village Center). Feel free to call or visit their
race, nationality, roles, gender, and sexual daughter hats don’t disappear) and so she is website: www.arroyograndeyoga.com or 805-
preferences (to name just a few) and then to Heather Mendel’s website is more cognizant of what and how she com- 474-9884.
think of the stereotypes that abound these www.dancinginthefootstepsofeve.com
Photo by channah
is to lose yourself in the
service of others.
- Gandhi
With Traditional Chinese Medicine
The Baha’i faith believes that God is Love tionship to each other keeps our bodies
and Love is God and that we’re here to By Clare B. Lowery L.Ac.
functioning at its highest potential. Chi-
express love. Being of service is an expres- Let’s face it. In life, we as women must nese Healers of ancient days observed the
sion of love. It’s the highest form of giv- navigate many transitions. Not just minor changes that the body goes through from
ing. It joins us to the heart of another and the time to succumb to fear. We are being transitions, like the seasonal changes in birth to death and developed many reliable
reminds us that we are all connected. When presented with an opportunity to know California, but major ones: girlhood to methods of treatment with needles, herbs,
we give unconditionally to others, we are that true abundance comes from within. womanhood; a child’s body to a woman’s; massage, and dietary modifications.
actually giving to ourselves. Abundance is not something we acquire; it’s menses and fertility, pregnancy, and meno- If the goal is to stay healthy, balanced,
At the Circle of Spiritual Enlighten- something we tune into. pause. On top of all of these natural transi- and therefore content through life’s pas-
ment, we have a division called the “Circle One step toward tuning into your true tions, we have the pressures of modern life, sages, it is nice to know that there is help
of Selfless Service.” In Sanskrit, “self-less abundant nature is to practice giving your slightly disconnected with nature and nat- out there. TCM offers a welcome balance
service” is called seva. Gurumayi Chidvilas- time, talent, or treasure. For example, if ural rhythms. We worry about our weight, to Western Medicine. Women in particu-
ananda once said that it is seva that acceler- financially you are feeling a sense of lack, financial security, relationships, children, lar can benefit from natural medicine and,
ates the sadhana [spiritual path] of a seeker consider tithing your time or talent to aging, and on and on. through TCM treatment, can avoid unnec-
and lights the path to God. Within the Cir- your favorite non-profit. It doesn’t matter Accepting that this is all part of the pre- essary medical procedures.
cle of Selfless Service, people are offered a how you give but what you give and how cious lives we are given, it behooves us to Traditional Chinese Medicine today
pathway to tithe their time and talent to you give it. The “what” can be your energy, find ways to ease these transitions, to navi- consists of acupuncture treatment with tiny
those in need. The joy and fulfillment expe- support, and attention. The “how” is your gate with awareness and find tools to stay stainless steel needles. Insertion is painless
rienced while giving never ceases to amaze intention, attitude, and awareness. centered when the storms hit. Fortunately, and once the needles are in specific acu-
the “giver.” They quickly discover that giv- There is a saying that it is easy to be a humans have been around for thousands of puncture points on the body the enhanced
ing—without any expectation—allows saint on a mountaintop, but the real proof years and ancient healing systems are still flow of energy often induces a feeling of
them to unearth their own true spiritual comes when you return to the marketplace. available to keep us in balance. euphoria. Herbal remedies are prescribed
nature. Giving, when performed without condi- Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) and tailored to a patient’s needs. Dietary
We also have a saying that “It’s God- tions, is a pathway to awakening. As we is one of the most comprehensive forms and lifestyle guidance, according to prin-
Like to Give,” meaning the nature of God cultivate an attitude of service, we learn of natural medicine available today. Based ciples of balance, are also prescribed. This
is unconditional love and infinite expres- how to make all of our life’s work service to on the concept of the dynamic balance holistic system engages the patient with the
sion. Givers are joyful servants and know God, and all aspects of our life become rich between Yin and Yang, TCM has the tools practitioner in a dynamic relationship of
the meaning of genuine love in ways that with meaning. Ultimately, we come to real- to help women maintain balance through discovery to optimal health.
others cannot. They realize that giving and ize that serving humanity and serving God all of the natural changes we experience in
receiving are the same, inseparably joined are one and the same. life. TCM combines acupuncture, herbal Clare B. Lowery L.Ac. is a Licensed Acu-
together—like inhaling and exhaling. Giv- medicine, diet, exercise, and lifestyle guid- puncturist with a Masters Degree in TCM.
ers understand that our essence is love and Laura V. Grace is the Spiritual Leader for ance to maintain optimal health. She has been practicing since 1990. Recently
that it is best expressed through seva: unin- the Circle of Spiritual Enlightenment in San The ancient Chinese viewed the body relocated to San Luis Obispo, she may be
terrupted loving service. Luis Obispo (www.spiritualcircle.org), an as a microcosm of the universe. The body reached at 805-541-6772.
Giving, when done with a pure heart, interfaith spiritual community. Laura is also is composed of elements, as is the earth.
enriches our lives in many seen and unseen a teacher and spiritual director, and a mem- Keeping these elements in the proper rela-
ways. It opens the channel for abundance ber of Spiritual Directors International. A
to flow in every area of our lives. With syndicated columnist for more than twenty
the amount of fear, doubt, and worry that
people are feeling about the economy, the
publications, Laura has penned 200 articles on
spiritual growth and is the author of the books Creating Change
temptation is to constrict. Yet, this is not Gifts of the Soul and The Intimate Soul.
By MaryAine Cherry
If I loved him enough, he’d take care of me.
Right?! Several years ago I quit again. I quit
Friendship Confirmed another man that needed to keep me small
by controlling and abusing me. I thought
long and hard about giving up my home,
By Jill Turnbow security, retirement, the American dream,
I am fortunate in that I didn’t need to wait and the monster R.V. Can you actually pic-
until my last dying breath before having my ture me in RV parks? I couldn’t either. I just
life flash before my eyes. I just had to sign didn’t fit in.
up for Facebook. If you haven’t discovered There were two or more personalities
this latest obsession, you simply must… living in my body; the ‘in the box’ quiet,
housewife model and the fun, spirited, and A well kept secret is that women are par-
unless, of course, you are in the Witness
smart lady that my friends and clients knew ticularly powerful because we live on a fem-
Protection Program or hiding from your
when I was ‘out of the box.’ My wonderful inine planet. We have the ability to tap into
past. Because believe me, with one sim-
enlightened woman friends were supportive the creative power of Mother Earth anytime
ple click of the mouse, your entire life will
free thinking types and somehow threaten- we desire. We create energy for others.
come flooding forward.
ing to the man. And so woman need more self love and
At first, I signed up simply to connect
“Security” meant my choices were lim- appreciation. It is an internal awareness
with a couple of business acquaintances. but I’m pretty sure the fact that I am clean-
ited and bland, a concession. I had mate- that is ignited by one’s spirit. We teach oth-
But from that first “poke,” the doors were ing the toilet or inspecting the dog for ticks
rial things, but my spirit was dying. There ers how to treat us. That means if we have
thrown open: friends from school, from does not need its own declaration. (by the
were good aspects, but for the price of my respect for ourselves, we will receive respect
earlier careers, from theatre companies... way, I never do either of those things!) But
spirit, they just didn’t measure up. Some of from others. Natural boundaries will come
all popping up one by one, eager to recon- I’ll play along for now. Because I’m lucky
my choices are limited now financially, but easily as we actually live being true to our-
nect. It only took a few days for hundreds that a great percentage of my friends are
the difference is I am not trading my soul selves.
of friends to find me, many I have not seen comedians and their status updates are
anymore. Women are amazing beings; we can
or heard from in decades. And now they are hilarious.
Several times in my life I’ve made the move mountains when we need to and most
posting grade school photos, bringing up If you have absolutely no idea what I
huge decision to become single. It’s scary, of us have at some time our lives. Today I
long-lost memories, and generally parading am talking about, don’t be afraid. Facebook
exhilarating, lonely, and great to make my am birthing a new intention of the woman
my past in front of me. It’s a kick, really. is fun. But you can always tell who is new
own way in peace, quiet, creative joy, and I am. Collectively we can trade in the old
It’s been a joy to realize how many circles I to Facebook. They will throw hypothetical
passion. It’s funny—except for sleeping paradigm and use our incredible hearts, the
have traveled in throughout my life. objects at you, subject you to quizzes and
alone, I’m really not more alone than I was power of intent and love with our resilient
Yet, I must say I am fascinated in this surveys, and poke and poke and poke. Then
when I was married. feminine expressive energy to create joy and
need to update your “status” at all hours after about a week, all that fades and the
Divorce freedom is painful, but some peace. We have options and resources to
of the day. I believe my generation is pick- questions begin. “How are you?” “Where
of my biggest accomplishments have also remember. We are creators and we can be
ing up the younger generation’s uninhib- are you?” “What are you?” I love it. And
come with a high cost: pain. In visualiz- the change we wish to see.
ited belief that every moment of our day is I love that at my age, I can finally answer
a milestone and should be shared with the those questions. ing, some of my good feeling anchors are
the births of my children—glorious, loving, MaryAine Cherry MRET, CMT
world. I have a wonderful, interesting life,
and painful, and hiking to the top of Half RETurn to JOY! Tomorrow is created by
Dome in my forties—amazing at the top your thoughts today! www.return2joy.com
and painful getting there. 805-773-4475
March & April 2009 | www.womenspress-slo.org | Women’s Press Voices 7
Voices Around the Table: How do you make your home a sanctuary?
Susan Lynn Hoffman feeder and experience my backyard as a liv- mornings with breakfast talk and wind The favorite part of my home is our
In answer to what I have found a very ing room. Familiar art and fun mementos down the day with story-telling over dinner. bedroom. Our bed is where both my chil-
provocative question, I’ve been think- provide a dependable backdrop. Supplying Lastly, one must always have flowers—my dren eventually wind up in the middle of
ing why isn’t my home a sanctuary? And, food, quiet, music, and exercise space allow roomies and I like to keep a vase of fresh, the night, both curled up around me and
what does sanctuary even mean? I used me to feel comforted and cared for. brightly colored flowers on our dining my husband. So, my bed is sacred to me.
to believe it meant safety, where no one room table to keep our spirits up; there is To make it a sanctuary, I make sure I have
or nothing I didn’t want in my life could Katy Meter something about flowers—especially the the softest sheets I can afford and have a few
get at me. But turning sixty this past year My home became my sanctuary once pretty yellow ones, that make you feel good scented candles in the room. So all night
has shifted my point of view. My mother I learned to allow in it all the people and inside. long we sleep in a soft, cozy bed filled with
died when she was sixty, and on my birth- things that make me peaceful and blessed the warmth of our children. That is a sanc-
day I chose to be alone in my house, refus- and keep out everything else. There is no Sally Demerest tuary to me.
ing offers from friends to celebrate, refusing other place I have this allowance. When I was single and lived alone,
my own dreamy desire to be in Santa Fe or I made my home feel special by trying to Leslie St. John
even Spain on that day. My birthday came Megan Selby keep it uncluttered and by doing things like I keep it clean. I take baths. I have books
and went quietly in my house, my safe As long as my bed is made, the rest can burning incense and candles. Now, I can’t in every corner and windows to look out.
zone, my sanctuary. But now, approach- fall apart: that makes me feel peaceful in my really do those things because the clutter
ing my birthday this year, I don’t think that house. I accomplished something. keeps coming back, my husband doesn’t Jennifer Ashley
is what sanctuary means anymore. What like incense, and the candles don’t seem My home is not often my sanctuary—it’s
possibly makes my home a sanctuary, and Kristen Tara McNamara safe with a family and a dog. So now? My usually the place where I feel weighed down
always has, is books, even when I was a lit- I try to furnish my home in a way that’s home is a sanctuary because my children with expectations to provide for my family
tle girl holding tight to fairy tales while I inviting to those I love and comfortable call it home, because it’s where I can sneak (by folding laundry, loading the dishwasher,
slept. The words which are imagined or to me. My home is an external extension into their room at night and watch them or cooking some semblance of an edible
researched and then printed on the of my personality—always getting better, breathe. My home is a sanctuary because it meal). Instead, I find sacred alone time at
blank page become a spiritual experience more comfortable, more secure. is where my children feel safe. a cafe or the beach where I can just think,
where my “home” is the whole world and all read, write, and be.
that is in it, whether safe or unsafe. If sanc- Christine Dewart Sarah Taylor Maggelet
tuary is about compassion and wisdom, Fill your home with the things you love! I take a long hot shower at night and Melanie Senn
which I hope it to be as I grow older, it is I have myself a designated cozy area where settle into freshly laundered sheets to read a I really feel we’ve made our home a
found in my home in crowded bookcases, I like to curl up and read a good book, on good book in peace. sanctuary by not having a television. Okay,
stacked on tabletops, tucked under my pil- an amazing bed dressed in flannel and lay- we DO have one, but it’s tucked down in
low, or held lovingly in my hands, with ered with blankets, with an explosion of Denise Gibbons the basement in a cozy corner, and we don’t
gratitude for learning something new. photos and drawings on my wall that make I try to keep it clean because if it is dirty have cable, so we just use it to watch mov-
me smile. I, of course, have a radio preset to I stress out. ies. Upstairs, in our main living space, we
Jeanie Greensfelder country and hip-hop/r&b, and my Ipod is have a big cozy couch and chair, but we
While I like to think my home takes care packed with a variety of playlists—to match Sadie Johann spend most of our time on the floor. We
of me, it does take preparation on my part whatever mood I am in. A home should I make my home my sanctuary by keep- have two big rugs, which are perfect for
to enjoy that illusion. Recliners please me: also always have a social area—in my home ing everything that stresses me out in my lounging, stretching, reading, and playing;
one indoors the kitchen seems to be car (I should mention that I don’t have kids, that’s where the action is. When I was grow-
and a fold- the place where so I’m not leaving them in the car). ing up, the T.V. was always the focal point
ing one out- my roomies and always on. I don’t miss it.
side where I and I hang out Laurel White
can watch the the most. The I don’t add much to my home to “make For the next issue: In these stressed times,
birds at the kitchen is where it” a sanctuary. It is my sanctuary because what do women of the world need now?
we start our that is where I have all the things I need:
Please send responses to
My husband and my children.
womenspress.slo@gmail.com
Jen Kaplan
8 Women’sStories Women’s Press | March & April 2009 | womenspress.slo@gmail.com
that only third-graders would care about. therapists in other women. Cat fights are
Junior high was a growing phase—like most always going to be prevalent in our society,
kids at that time, we were trying to figure but how can we as individuals avoid them? Clare B. Lowery L.Ac.
ourselves out, and our overly introspective How do we create and develop friendships Acupuncture and Herbal Medicine
and mostly self-critical viewpoints separated with other females that are healthy and that
us. We were so worried about ourselves make us feel empowered instead of aggres- Diet, Exercise and Lifestyle Guidance
that the strings that had been holding us sive or upset? These are the questions I
together momentarily loosened. By sopho- will address in the next article, in which I San Luis ObiSpa
more year, though, we were back together will reflect more on the power of my own 4115 Vachell Lane
as a unit. Joined, we felt like nothing could friendships and the observations I’ve made San Luis Obispo, CA 93401
stop us. This was the year that we began to about other female relationships.
805-541-6772
10 LocalPerspectives: Women’s History Month Women’s Press | March & April 2009 | womenspress.slo@gmail.com
One of the most difficult things a family can go through is to watch their loved
one struggle with the use of alcohol or other drugs
Coordinator’s Corner
By Angie King
“Don’t Forget the Ladies”
Abigail Adams’ famous quote to her hus- gress to provide incentives to draw more
There has been much attention given to band, John, while he was at the first Con- women in these higher paying jobs (see
racial factors these days: from our new Pres- tinental Congress, is still apt today. Check wowonline.org for more detail). Women
ident down to art exhibits by African-Amer- out the current Ms Magazine article by business owners deserve more than the Bush
icans at the public libraries, and the critics Martha Burk on the subject of how women Administration’s 5% set aside for women
who say there doesn’t need to be a month are more adversely affected by the current owned businesses when awarding new con-
for African Americans anymore because it’s recession/depression/downturn. And see the tracts for those big stimulus projects.
demeaning and marginalizing to separate accompanying article by one of our NOW Women are almost half the workforce
out a month for blacks. chapter members about her plight (“One and almost half of these women are heads of
Those same arguments are often made Woman’s Reaction”). household. Since many of these jobs are in
woman whose case was heard at the US
about women. Is there a need for Women’s Burk points out that women’s job losses the health care sector and education, Burk
Supreme Court heard), the bill allows an
History Month? Do women need a separate are larger than men’s; in the 2001 recession, urges Obama to reform sectors and fixing
employee to sue for wage discrimination
time to reflect on the achievements against women lost more jobs proportionately and the health care system would not only pro-
based on sex within a time period from
the great odds of our foremothers? did not recover those losses as the economy vide jobs, but would give us all more access
whenever she first learns of that discrimina-
Obviously, yes we do because there is recovered. This time around, while they to health care.
tion, not, as the court had previously said,
still rampant discrimination and margin- haven’t suffered as great a numeric loss, the Lastly, Burk urges preserving federal
from the very first time that discrimination
alization of women both here and abroad. jobs women hold are in low wage part time social programs such as food stamps or
occurred, whether she was aware of it or
Without even going into the issue of sex work with no benefits, often requiring more health care. These measures have the great-
not. Lily had worked for decades at a job
slaves, laws giving men the right to beat than one of those dead-end jobs to make est impact on women and yield big returns
earning less than her male counterparts but
their wives, honor killings and other injus- ends meet. And, as a result, when these for every dollar spent without changing the
didn’t find out until she was almost ready to
tices abroad, there is the screeching dispar- jobs are lost, those women fail to qualify long-term effects on the economy.
retire. She sued her employer for damages,
ity of wages in the workplace, stereotypes for unemployment benefits. That inequality Women may hold up half the sky, as the
but lost because, the court said, she should
which cement down the glass ceiling, should be redressed as well. Chinese say, but currently, we are shoul-
have filed the claim when she received her
harassment and violence against women Burk also points out that the main job dering the larger chunk of the economic
first paycheck.
as a “matter of right” still occurring in our losses have been in heavy industry and downturn. Write Capps and McCarthy and
It is also interesting to note Abigail
own country. the stimulus plan calls for focusing on let them know you support their efforts to
Adams’ quote (in the article about how the
Until these injustices are remedied, we jobs in that same sector—jobs dispropor- include women in all economic recovery
economic crisis affects women): “If partic-
need at least a month for women! We had a tionately held by men. She urges Con- legislation. “Don’t Forget the Ladies.”
ular care and attention is not paid to the
year (1975) and a decade (1980’s) (see article
ladies, we are determined to foment a rebel-
on CEDAW) and yet… sometimes it seems
lion and will not hold ourselves bound by
like it’s getting worse, not better.
There is some good news, of course.
any laws in which we have no voice or rep-
resentation.” Pretty formidable woman, I’d
One Woman’s Reaction
With the change in administration, Con- trol pills, or not have sex at all. Wait? That’s
say, and one of the first American feminists. By Kim Anderson
gress has passed and Obama has signed it…
March is Women’s History Month, and
the restoration of the Title VII provisions I’m a single mom, I have year-old twins, Conservatives called the Medicaid Fam-
we remember the achievements made by
against wage discrimination. Known as I want to go back to school, and I do not ily Planning State Option an attack on
women, many under great odds.
the Lily Ledbetter Law (named after the want more kids (at least now). So, when family values: Because single women like
Obama dropped the Medicaid Family me shouldn’t be having sex, or pap smears,
Planning State Option from the economic or get checked for breast cancer and low-
NOW History and Structure recovery package, I was pissed off. income married women should be popping
The Medicaid Family Planning State out babies as often as possible. Is that what
Once a year we review the history of the rampant discrimination against women in Option allows states to use Medicaid women are for? And nothing helps a strug-
formation and the structure of NOW, as a all levels of public life, these women wanted funds to provide low-income women, who gling family more than having a baby they
way to remind us that we are the organiza- to change that situation, but found instead make a slightly too much to be able to get can’t afford.
tion, at least the action-member-run part of the Commission was prohibited from rec- traditional Medicaid, with family plan- If you’re as mad as I am, take a minute
it, and to fulfill a chapter requirement. ommending any action. ning services, such as contraceptives, to leave President Obama a message at 202-
NOW actually has 3 different parts, each Thus NOW was founded. The structure STD/STI tests, and cervical and breast can- 456-1414. Tell him not to buckle under pres-
with its own purpose. The main one is, of they developed was very grass roots. Chap- cer screenings. sure from conservatives, that women are
course, the member-run action organiza- ters are formed at local levels, sending del- So, women like myself, who are strug- important, and that the last thing we need
tion, whose mission is to bring women into egates to state and national conferences to gling during this economic downturn, must in this economy is to worry about unin-
the mainstream of society in equal participa- determine the organization’s agenda each somehow find the cash to get pap smears, tended pregnancy.
tion with men. I am paraphrasing the state- year. Resolutions are debated and approved. breast cancer screenings, and buy birth con-
ment drawn up in 1966 by the 28 founding Actions (calling for support or opposition
women who became frustrated at the inabil- of proposed laws), boycotts, and marches
ity to take action as part of the President’s
Commission on the Status of Women con-
are approved and then carried out by the
executive committee. Get Involved — Join NOW!
vened by John Kennedy in 1963. Having
researched and presented findings of the Continued in History, page 14 San Luis Obispo Chapter
National Organization for Women
Every woman doesn’t have to join NOW,
just the 142 million who are discriminated against!
Calendar April 18:
• Women’s World Fair, Chicago, 1925 Goals
April 21: • Support reproductive choice • Commemorate Roe v Wade (Jan 22)
March 3:
• NOW regular meeting, 6 PM • Work to eliminate ALL violence • Celebrate Women’s Equality Day
• Harriet Tubman (operated Under-
April 23: against women (Aug 26)
ground Railroad) died, 1913
• Take Your Daughter to Work Day • Fight against sexual harassment • Participate in Farmer’s Market
March 4:
April 25: • Encourage tolerance and diversity • Support feminist politics
• Jeannette Rankin becomes 1st US Con-
• Colorado, 1st state to liberalize • Promote feminist issues
gresswoman, 1917
March 8: abortion laws, 1967
• International Women’s Day April 28:
• Equal Pay Day
Name: _ ______________________________________________
March 15:
• birthday Ruth Bader Ginsberg, 1933 Address: _____________________________________________
March 17: City/St/ZIP: ___________________________________________
• NOW regular meeting, 6 PM
March 24: Phone: ________________________________________________
• League of Women Voters founded, Regular Dues ….$40
1919 Sliding Scale…..$15-39 Amount enclosed: ________________________
April 4:
• birthday of Billie Holiday, 1915
Send your check and this form to General Meetings
April 9: PO Box 1306 11573 Los Osos Valley Rd, #B, SLO
• March for Women’s Lives to support NOW Chapter # CA 565
abortion rights, 1992 PO Box 1306, SLO, CA 93406 SLO, CA 93406 3rd Tuesday of every month
April 10: SLONOW @ kcbx.net Chapter # CA 565 at 6:00 pm
• birthday of Dolores Huerta, 1930 http://groups.myspace.com/~slonow slonow@kcbx.net
March & April 2009 | www.womenspress-slo.org | Women’s Press Women’sCommunityCenter 13
10:00 AM to 5:00 PM When is your best friend or loving relative your worst nightmare?
By Robin Rinzler being helpful by offering advice such
Calling all Creative Women! The Wom- relaxed atmosphere, and immerse them- as: “Are you crazy? You could do much
Core Mediation Services
en’s Community Center of San Luis selves in the sights and sounds of many better. Why are you agreeing to that?”
Obispo County invites you to partici- local entertainers. As a divorce mediator, it is my job to help And before you know it, your friend or
pate in the 35th annual Day with Creative If you create art or handcrafted items, clients that are going through a divorce to family member has talked you into retain-
Women, to be held in Mission Plaza in you are invited to display and sell your come to an agreement that will work for ing an attorney to “do better than that.”
downtown San Luis Obispo on Saturday, works. Entertainers of all types are sought both parties. It’s not as easy as it sounds! With attorneys charging an initial retainer
August 8, 2009. This event has graced the to perform during the day, and food ven- But in my office, couples can negotiate of eight to ten thousand dollars (this
Mission Plaza in San Luis Obispo on the dors are particularly encouraged to partic- and come up with ideas and suggestions is just to get started), and with divorces
second Saturday in August for the last ipate. Non-profit organizations are invited for splitting their assets and their debt, for routinely costing tens of thousands of
35 years and draws thousands of people to provide the community with informa- a parenting plan for their minor children, dollars or more, it’s hard to imagine that
from all around the Central Coast and tion about your services. We encourage and for financial support for the children one would do better when you account
beyond, featuring nearly 100 vendors dis- women in business to submit applications and/or for a spouse. The suggestions and for all the attorney fees. Not only are you
playing their own creative arts. This event for a booth to market your creative skills. workable solutions are often the kind that paying fees you never thought possible,
is an excellent opportunity to experience Booth space is always limited, so reserve would never have taken place had the but the adversarial position that the attor-
the many local and statewide talents of your booth now! couple gone to two separate attorneys. neys place you in makes any civil future
women artists. For more information, contact Robin The concept of negotiation and media- relationship with your ex almost impos-
Day with Creative Women celebrates Rinzler (805-801-3235) or WCC (805- tion is foreign to many attorneys that are sible. This is exacerbated if you have chil-
women’s creativity with music, arts and 544-9313), check the website www.wccslo. trained to put up the good fight (at the dren. So those “helpful” loved ones may
crafts for display and sale, continuous org, or email DWCW2009@aol.com. client’s expense!) be doing you and your children a disser-
entertainment, delicious food, and chil- Funds realized from Day with Cre- So why do I say your best friend vice if they talk you into seeking litigation
dren’s activities. This event provides an ative Women help support the programs might be your worst nightmare? Why over mediation or try to pull you out of
atmosphere where families can come to of the Women’s Community Center, ded- might your sister or aunt be send- your decision to negotiate your divorce.
view and purchase quality hand-made icated to the empowerment of women. ing you down the river? Because after Be cautious and use your best instincts. If
arts and crafts, have a meal or snack in a the hard work of negotiating a settle- after discussing and agreeing to workable
ment that both clients are happy with, solutions, stick to your instinct and don’t
sometimes our friends or a family mem- let others dissuade you.
ber think (that is, they assume) they are
14 CommunityBulletins Women’s Press | March & April 2009 | womenspress.slo@gmail.com
Near Downtown
Deluxe Continental Breakfast
Pool & Spa
Fitness Room
Guest Laundry
Suites
SAN LUIS OBISPO
Dine-in • Take-out • Full Catering Service
2050 Garfield Street All three locations are open: Mon.-Sun. 10:30 AM to 9:00 PM
San Luis Obispo, CA 93401 570 Higuera St., #130 • San Luis Obispo, Ca 93401- tel. 805.544.0861
Toll Free: 800.544.7250 New Locations:
805.549.9911 Fax: 805.546.0734 325 Pier Ave. • Oceano, CA 93425 • tel. 805.473.2383
SUPPORTERS OF WOMEN IN BUSINESS! In Avila Hotsprings • San Luis Obispo, CA 93405 • tel. 805.627.0288
Also, order on line: www.MamasMeatball.com