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Session 9: Practice Using Coping Self-Statements for Anger Coping: Part II

Primary Goals:
1. Continue Self-Instruction and Distraction raining.
!. "ncourage Generali#ation of t$is S%ill to t$e Classroom.
&aterials needed:
Handout 1.3: Goal Sheet
Handout 9.1 9.2
Prize Box
'()ecti*e 1: +e*ie, Goal S$eets and &ain Points from Pre*ious Session
(See Introductory Guide, Pae! 2"3.#
'()ecti*e !: Continue ,it$ Practicing Coping Self-Statements and
Distraction
$. %e&ie'
%e&ie' the !el("control a)e (ro) the *re&iou! rou* !e!!ion u!in the *u**et!.
B. Introduction and $cti&ity
Pro&ide the rou* )e)+er! 'ith Handout 9.1 (,o*in State)ent!#, then introduce today-!
!el("control a)e. .oday ,e are going to play t$e self-control game- (ut t$is time- ,e
are going to let eac$ of you recei*e t$e teasing and practice using self-control. $e
person (eing teased ,ill stand in t$e middle of t$e group. o $elp eac$ of you (e
prepared ,it$ coping statements- let.s ta%e a fe, minutes to re*ie, t$e coping
statements $andouts. During t$is re*ie, time- I ,ant you to c$oose t$ree t$at you ,ill
use for t$is acti*ity. /e $ope t$at you ,ill use more of t$em in t$e future- (ut for today
you s$ould practice using at least t$ree.0
It i! u!e(ul to arrane the chair! in a circle, ha&in the child +ein tea!ed !tand in the )iddle
o( the circle and the children tea!in !tand out!ide the circle o( chair!. 12efore t$e group
actually (egins teasing you- ,e ,ould li%e eac$ of you tell us out loud ,$ic$ coping self-
statements you ,ill use.0 /a0e turn! 'ith each rou* )e)+er +ein tea!ed. I( a child i!
ha&in di((iculty 'ith thi! ta!0, the rou* leader! can a!0 that child to i&e the other rou*
)e)+er! a (e' thin! that he or !he i! co)(orta+le +ein tea!ed a+out. Grou* leader! can
al!o ha&e other rou* )e)+er! ta0e turn! deli&erin the tea!in, rather than ha&in all the
children tea!in at one ti)e. $ third *o!!i+ility 'ould +e to ha&e one o( the rou* leader!
!tand in the )iddle 'ith the child +ein tea!ed, &er+alizin co*in !el("!tate)ent! a! a
)odelin and !u**orti&e techni1ue (or the child. 2ollo'in each child-! turn, a!0 1ue!tion!
!uch a!:
3o, did you feel4
/$at ,ere you t$in%ing or saying to yourself4
/ere you a(le to use t$e coping self-statements4
3o, did t$is $elp you ,it$ self-control4
Did you use ot$er distraction tec$ni5ues4
,. $**lication to ,la!!roo) 3x*erience!
%e&ie' ho' thi! acti&ity can hel* the !tudent! co*e 'ith real tea!in in the cla!!roo).
./$at can you do if someone teases you in t$e classroom4 /$at %inds of coping self-
statements ,ill $elp you feel less angry44
'()ecti*e 6: Assign 3ome,or%
$. $ner /her)o)eter %ecord 2or)! 'ith ,o*in State)ent!
Pro&ide rou* )e)+er! 'ith co*ie! o( Handout 9.2 ($ner /her)o)eter %ecord 2or) 53#.
/he only di((erence +et'een thi! handout and the one u!ed t'o 'ee0! ao i! that, in!tead o(
ha&in a !ection titled 67hat 8id I 8o,- the !ection title i! no' 6,o*in State)ent! 9!ed.-
3ncourae the children to u!e co*in !tate)ent! o&er the cour!e o( each day and to loo0 to
the li!t to (ind !tate)ent! that are u!e(ul (or the). $ lon"ter) oal i! to ha&e the!e
!tate)ent! )e)orized. In the !hort ter), children )ay choo!e to ta*e a !)all *iece o( *a*er
'ith one or )ore o( the !tate)ent! to their de!0!. %e)ind the) that they can earn t'o *oint!
(or returnin their ho)e'or0.
'()ecti*e 7: Positi*e 8eed(ac% (See Introductory Guide, Pae :.#
'()ecti*e 9: Pri#e 2o: (See Introductory Guide, Pae :.#
'()ecti*e ;: 8ree ime (See Introductory Guide, Pae :.#
3A<D'U 9.1
Coping Statements
Things You Can Say to Yourself to Keep Calm
1. It-! not 'orth it to et anry.
2. I 'on-t )a0e a +i deal a+out it.
3. I-) not oin to let thi! et to )e.
:. I can-t al'ay! ex*ect other *eo*le to act the 'ay I 'ant the) to.
;. I-ll u!e )y !en!e o( hu)or and )a0e a <o0e o( thi!.
=. He 'ould li0e )e to et anry. 7ell, I-) oin to di!a**oint hi).
>. I don-t need to *ro&e )y!el( to anyone.
?. $! lon a! I 0ee* )y cool, I-) in control.
9. I-ll ro' u*, not +lo' u*.
1@. I 'on-t et in a (iht.
11. I 'on-t +e a (ool " I-ll 0ee* cool.
12. Ao!in )y te)*er )ean! trou+le (or )e +ecau!e....
13. Stay cal). Bu!t relax.
1:. 8on-t et +ent out o( !ha*e.
1;. 8on-t !'eat it.
1=. /hin0 o( 'hat you 'ant to et out o( thi!.
1>. /here-! no *oint in ettin )ad.
Try using some of these statements the next time you feel yourself getting angry.
3A<D'U 9.1 continued=
Coping Statements
Things You Can Say to Yourself to Keep Calm
1?. Aoo0 (or the *o!iti&e!.
19. 7hat !he or he !ay! doe!n-t )atter.
2@. Cy )u!cle! (eel tiht. /i)e to relax.
21. Aet-! 'or0 thi! *ro+le) out. Cay+e he ha! a *oint.
22. I-) under control. I can handle thi!.
23. I ha&e a riht to +e annoyed, +ut let-! try to rea!on thi! out.
2:. Slo' do'n. /a0e a (e' dee* +reath!.
2;. Aet-! treat each other 'ith re!*ect.
2=. It-! too +ad !he ha! to act li0e thi!.
2>. Bu!t roll 'ith the *unche!D don-t et +ent out o( !ha*e.
2?. It-! really a !ha)e he ha! to act li0e thi!.
29. He-! *ro+a+ly really unha**y i( he-! actin that irrita+le.
3@. I can-t ex*ect *eo*le to act the 'ay I 'ant the) to all the ti)e.
31. She-d *ro+a+ly li0e )e to (ly o(( the handle. 7ell, !he-! oin to +e di!a**ointed.
32. 8on-t !'eat the !)all !tu((.
33. I-) not oin to +e *u!hed around, +ut I-) not oin to lo!e it either.
Try using some of these statements the next time you feel yourself getting angry.
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