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Forgiveness Leads To Anger Management For Healthy Living: Bs Presentation
Forgiveness Leads To Anger Management For Healthy Living: Bs Presentation
BS PRESENTATION
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TO ERR IS TO HUMAN ……..
……TO FORGIVE IS TO DIVINE !!!
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The definition of forgiveness
• Forgiveness is a non-verbal concept that cannot be adequately
captured in words.
• We can best know what forgiveness is when we experience
forgiving.
• Words can help to point in the right direction, though, and in
particular clarify what forgiveness is not. Metaphors can also have
a helpful function in providing understanding where words fail.
• It involves a process of dissolving feelings of anger, resentment
and/or hatred towards an individual who is perceived to have
selfishly or maliciously done one deliberate harm, by means of the
cultivation of some degree of compassion towards the offender,
and/or the acceptance of such positive feelings should they
happen to evolve naturally in the victim’s experience.
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FORGIVENESS IS NOT…
• CONDONING OR EXCUSING AN ACTION
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FORGIVENESS IS…
• GIVING UP THE THOUGHT OF A BITTER PAST AND LOOKING
FORWARD TOWARDS A BRIGHTER FUTURE.
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The power of forgiveness ....
• It is a gift given to the offender that they do not deserve.
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• By letting the offender off the ‘anger’ hook, you can get off it
yourself, and live a happier life. You are no longer attached to the
offender by a hook, and can let them go.
• It is achieved by giving a gift of compassion to the offender, and
seeing their actions as bad, but the person the offender has the
potential to be as good.
• The process of forgiveness can perhaps be helped by a form of
metta bhavana meditation where you wish the person who has
hurt you transformational experiences in a hypothetical universe,
where they learn through difficult experiences the negative effects
of their behaviour, and where, by means of both negative and
positive experiences, they learn compassion.
• It involves a radical acceptance, on some level, of the world as it
is, with all its serious imperfections.
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PROBLEMS IN THE WAY OF
FORGIVENESS
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The experience of ‘unforgiveness’
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• Most people would say forgive those who have hurt you and have
done you wrong and just let go of the past. It is easy to say but
much harder to do.
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WHAT TO DO THEN?
Some suggestive steps which can be followed:
to follow the hurt back into its roots in the past to all those times and circumstances
when you felt the same way.
forgiveness.
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• It’s not easy. But the alternative is to stay stuck right next to them
on that hook. That’s not easy either.
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The effects of unforgiveness
• Psychiatrists find that people who feel incapable of or unwilling to
forgive past hurts experience greater levels of anxiety and
depression.
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ANGER MANAGEMENT
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The truth is, anger may be a “natural”—that is, a
commonly occurring—social reaction to hurt and
insult, yet being natural doesn’t make it good for us.
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Organize your mind
for six minutes every hour to control
anger.
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Say sorry at the right moment to reduce
the anger of others.
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A short pencil is better than a long
memory.
Use it to reduce your anger.
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We cannot change others as easily as we
can change ourself.
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Aristotle’s Challenge