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Section 1: inner Game
1. Your Best self 1.1 1.2 1.3 1.4 Inner Game Change Your life NoW!!!!!!! Q & A on Wings and Cutting old friends Do You Bring Value or take it???? 1 2 13 17 21 26 27 30 34 36 39 40 41 44 47 48 58 60
2. oNe speCIAl GIrl 2.1 2.2 2.3 2.4 oneitis?? Q & A on love Girl Has a Boyfriend, But I Know she likes Me “I Don’t Chase......I replace.”
3. NeWBIes 3.1 to the New Guys! 3.2 Dates: lunch, Dinner, Drinks 3.3 the prescription to Move out of the lJBf Zone 4. opeNING 4.1 Approach Anxiety 4.2 Q & A on Approach Anxiety 4.3 opening Mixed Groups (Guys and Girls)
Section 2: outer Game
5. teAsING & role plAYs 5.1 Q & A: How Can I Make Girls laugh? 5.2 How to flirt with Women, the Art of push/pull 63 64 66 I
6. tAKeAWAYs & sNls 6.1 takeaways for sNls 6.2 same Niglt lay simple pointers 7. 9’s & 10’s 7.1 How Do I Date Hotter Girls? “proximity is power.” 7.2 Braddock and Mr. M (10 Game Audio) 7.3 Dating tip: Become successful with Women by Modeling 8. pHoNe AND text 8.1 8.2 8.3 8.4 text Game text Game Basics by Braddock and savoy text Game: Making the Number solid the ultimate Guide to phone and text Game
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9. ColleGe GAMe 9.1 College Game Videos 9.2 Q & A on College and social Circle Game 9.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to get you laid)
Section 3: LifeStyLe
10. soCIAl CIrCle MAsterY & ColD ApproACH 10.1 10.2 10.3 10.4 When to pull the trigger in Your social Circle Golden rule of Building a New social Circle... social Circle Mastery Interview Audio social Circle Vs. Cold Approach...let’s Just Hug it out 136 137 143 145 146
stICKING poINts 12.11.1 poppin my Colla partna NYC lay report 13.2 soldier of fortune! III .1 Creating Friends w/ Benefits 149 150 153 154 156 157 163 12.1 too ‘routine Dependent’ sticking point 13. lAY reports 13. frIeNDs W/ BeNefIts 11.
When to find New friends 1.Value and its “Identity” 1 .the self Concept .relaxing .Being in the Moment 1.stop Bullshitting Yourself & others 1.4 do you Bring value or take it???? .1 inner Game .setting realistic Goals .3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends .2 change your Life noW!!!!!!! .What it really Means to Have a Wing .covered in thiS chapter: 1.
1 inner Game http://www. some helpful books on these topics.1. However. This is how much confidence you truly feel for a given skill set. Here are a few of the books I have read several times trying to really understand this and internalize it. the difference in the success they enjoy is enormous. with self-deception being third. I highly suggest you do not use this post as a substitute for reading these books cover to cover. and selfdeception. they have had a big impact on my life and game. However. by eckhart tolle living the liberated life. You don’t have to become Mystery or style to enjoy great success. by Maltz the psychology of Achievement. I’m going to try and make this post as short as I can and keep it geared toward pickup.html the self Concept and Being in the Moment: I’ve been reading quite a few books lately on the self concept.com/braddock/61181-braddocks-inner-game. by eckhart tolle Inner Game: If you develop your inner game then you can’t be stopped! Develop good inner game and the outer game will come at double the rate. Making small changes here and there can change your game DrAstICAllY! self Concept: Simple definition - “How much you truly believe that you are capable of doing something. by eckhart tolle realization of Being. psycho Cybernetics...theattractionforums. My notes below are merely the tip of the iceberg. Winner’s edge: What is this? People who dominate any field are only a “hair” better than everyone else. but I picked these two because I think they are most important. by Brian tracy the power of Now. being in the moment. Inner game has many components.” Not wish you could or hope to believe or pretend to believe. I will try to offer some of the key concepts that have resonated with me. I have literally stacks of notebooks full of notes I have taken on each book. 2 .
and the women we deserve.etc. once you play it enough times you could beat that level with your eyes closed. Want to get better at anything? then you Must CHANGe your self concept in that area. I said you have a self concept for eVerYtHING you do!!!!!!! Do you look in the mirror and feel like shit about “who you are” when you first buy a video game and you keep dying on the first level? No. how do we create a better self concept?? first. You won’t get depressed and want to crawl into bed or go read every book on that game. 3 . so. What does this mean? remember. If we develop a strong self concept about our ability to attract women. he would most likely have a low self concept in the area of carpentry. hanging a picture on the wall. He literally believed he was going to make every shot. You will just keep playing it until you understand what every button on the controller does without you even having to think about it. or about how good we are at pickup. It is impossible to act inconsistent with our self image. “My self concept is high”. “My self concept is low. If we move our concept up or down we will act consistent with this new self concept.1 inner Game example: Bushing my teeth. playing soccer. because he has never done it before. A carpenter’s is just as high with carpentry. if we have a weak self concept about the women we deserve.. Your self concept is low in relation to that game. the converse is also true. It is impossible to act in a manner inconsistent with one of your self concepts.1. If we switched these two and asked MJ to build a house.” Your overall self concept will determine your success in life. how you drive. brushing your teeth. but if we want to get better at something. guess what. then it is crucial that we change our self concept in that area. we will start to be more consistent with that. what kind of woman you deserve.) examples: Michael Jordan’s self concept in basketball was extremely high. so. income.. but you know if you play that game and that level enough times you will eventually get the hang of it. our self concept in relation to women). You have a self concept for everything in your life (dress. You have an overall self concept and it is made up of all your individual self concepts. we must stop letting any one of our self concepts control how we feel about our overall self concept (specifically. we will be consistent with that weak self image. He believes on a deep level he can build a house.
and the fastest way is by treating the skill set we want as a process and not attaching our identity to it. for about 3 months I felt anxiety every time I got behind the wheel. would you take that bet???? of course. I had a jeep with a stick shift. You didn’t attach too much meaning to that game. can you see that you just dialed up that one self concept in that area of your life? Now. If you cried every time you lost and turned the game off and didn’t play it for two weeks. Example: (Public Speaking). Generally speaking. during the process of growing your self concept in regards to that game.” Based on the previous statement. I will give you a million dollars if you beat level one. this one skill set DOES NOT define your overall self concept and it does not affect your other self concepts. How can you measure it? When you first played that game. when we know we have not 4 . we know. your self concept is higher now than when you first purchased that game. this is a sound bet. would you have taken the bet??? Noooo. there are 3 occasions that cause us to feel a sense of uneasiness: 1. but if you don’t I’m going to blow your head off. All the positive affirmations in the world will not trick our subconscious mind into believing that we can truly complete the task at a high level.1 inner Game However. I remember when I first started driving. right? Do you ever feel uneasy brushing your teeth? What about driving your car? Were you always good at these tasks? Did you ever feel uneasy about driving your car? I did. the uneasiness went away. After you have played that game for 3 months. If you look at this on a time line from when you got the video game until you could play it with your eyes closed. you are able to grow rapidly. if I had said. for A fACt that we can change our self concept simply by becoming more competent and skilled in the area we are deficient in. However. We never feel uneasy doing something that we are good at. ·We have a scientific formula to change our self concept! Not just some abstract “you can do it affirmation. you never let your low self concept affect your overall self concept. and you can beat level one with your eyes closed. therefore. as my self concept grew. then your self concept would grow at a very slow rate. When we are doing something that we think we are not good at.1. this knowledge should empower you with women and dating. Your self concept tells you.
doing an amazing demo on command for this guy. especially in relation to pickup.e. example 2: When I’m not thinking about the past or the future and I’m really in the moment. if not quieted. then I will likely lock up and perform poorly. example: You hit every shot in basketball practice when nobody is there to watch. You just learn to use your mind to quiet them to a level where your logical brain is running the show and not your emotional brain. You develop a self concept based on one or more bad experiences without allowing enough time for the self concept to align with the idea that you can eventually master the task or skill set. “You’re Braddock. but you are attributing meaning to the people in the stands and the trophy you may win. lead our logical brain to accept the idea that things are bigger than they are. these emotional responses. but we are putting unnecessary importance on the outcome. We might talk it into believing we can get by. if a student says. this doesn’t mean you try to not feel emotions at all.1 inner Game put in the work to obtain the skill. 5 . but saying. the goal is the same height and the ball has the same amount of air in it. but you can’t even hit the rim when the stadium is full and it’s the championship game. We build up how important the game is for our future that we make it impossible to just be in that moment like we are in practice. will only further trigger your mind to remind you where your true self concept is.1. It’s the same shot you couldn’t miss during practice. I read your blog.. I could give millions of examples for this in any genre of life from work to pickup. When we are doing something we know we can do. 3. “I can do this. How do we combat the 3 above in relation to pickup? 1. example: (Girl told you to fuck off on an approach). first we must quiet our mind and put things where they really belong. 2. train your mind to control your body’s emotional responses to outside stimulus. But. I. I can’t wait to watch you in field tonight!” If I attribute a new found importance on a future outcome I cannot control or predict. I personally think this is the most important one.” when you truly know you can’t. When we are doing things that we have had a failed experience with. I will do amazing demos for the students on bootcamp..
would do a number on most people’s emotions and nervous system. you don’t get butter flies in your stomach and your throat doesn’t clench up because you are not attributing any long term meaning to that event. you stay in the moment. collected. in the moment state you enjoyed in practice. Now. dealing with the excitement of being on tV. I agree. this jittery nervous state is creating a new negative self concept. in the championship game. cool.1. calm. He was getting really quiet inside so he could get to that place where all that was forgotten and nothing mattered but the moment. Yes. No doubt.1 inner Game Why? In basketball practice. and most importantly. the noise. I would say that he has the ability to control his mind and emotions allowing him to access his highest basketball self concept more readily than any other who has ever played the game. Michael Jordan was capable of quieting all of that and even using that as a reason to get real calm inside while everyone around him was being deeply affected by these factors. his ability to get there from the tip off while others most likely didn’t get there until the second half. MJ was physically talented. I’m willing to bet that he feels those jittery nervous feelings just like the rest of us. but the difference is his ability to use his logical mind to calm the inner emotional storm and quickly get back to the self concept that he enjoys in practice. controlled. “Why are we having these feelings? Why are we feeling so nervous? this must be important. You are now not playing basketball with the same self concept that you enjoy in practice because that self concept was based on shooting basketballs in a calm. let’s think this out. take Michael Jordan in a championship game. Just like in practice. I.E.” You just shoot. the pressure of a big game. in-themoment state of being. and a loss could send those commercials to another. and the perceived importance placed on a desired outcome act to stimulate an emotional response that causes us to get butterflies. You are not thinking about what will happen good or bad if you make or miss “this one shot. dealing with the awareness that a win could mean millions of dollars in endorsements. I would argue this was necessary but not sufficient to play at the level he played so consistently. on the contrary. your logical mind stays in control. You stay calm. You are aware that if you have a bad practice it doesn’t really matter and that nobody was in the stands to see you perform poorly. collected. However. butterflies. Our logical brain says. you use your logic. What if we have a bad game? What will this mean in the future? What will all these people think about me?” You then get an even deeper emotional reaction from your body. made him seem like a God amongst mere mortals. 6 . But in nerd speech. each time your emotions are taking your mind a little further away from the cool. people say he gets up for big games better than anyone who has ever played the game. Because there is no emotional response. dealing with what the media will write and say. the energy of the crowd.
then my logical mind will quickly get back to its natural state by realizing that I can’t predict how the demos are going to turn out tonight or any night. will he be disappointed? If he’s disappointed. I have learned to control my mind instead of my mind controlling me. smile. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. my self concept is high when I walk into a venue to pickup girls. As soon as he says it. or decide to attribute a bunch of meaning to his statement. once I do this. Can you see how this applies to all levels of pickup? If I said I wanted you to take a publishers Clearing House check to a hot girl. hand her the check. and walk back to your car no problem. maybe the weekend. “Braddock I love your blog. at that time I’m in it.”. if I choose to control that emotion. but I’ll tie it in to my example from above. I can’t wait to see you in field tonight. My self image in regards to game is relatively high. does that mean that I’m really not as good as I say and believe I am? Wow. However. and that him wanting to see them or not doesn’t change the level of importance I need to attach to them. If I am incapable. I think about it from then until that night. It often answers these questions with bad answers. quiet it down to a dull roar.1 inner Game How does this apply to pickup? I think by now it’s probably obvious. and my logical mind races to find answers for that strange emotion I’m feeling. without any extraneous factors. choose not to control the emotion. I will quickly be back on track to enjoying my original self concept before his statement and our super hero Braddock is back to kicking the world in half. You don’t have an emotional response to the idea of completing this task. and I have developed competence with my skill set through thousands of approaches.1.” As you can see. this is a slippery slope to kill the current moment and a whole bunch of future moments. “a statement”.e. so your logical mind stays in control and you don’t run 30 “what if” scenarios through your head that would stir emotions to change your self concept. All I can do is control the moment I’m in. Your self image tells you that you can complete that task with ease. and compartmentalize the students statement as just. You could walk up. 7 . every time I’m on bootcamp. if a student says. ultimately. my body is going to have an immediate emotional response to that. so. and possibly. I hope I don’t get blown out in front of him. I’m attracting the failure that I predicted because that is all I will focus on from the time he makes his statement until I fail miserably allll night long during the demos. Why? You have the skill set required to handle that situation and you don’t attribute more meaning to it than necessary. I have acquired a vast knowledge base and I have mastered being in the moment. then the emotion will manifest in a way that will alter my self concept for that night. you wouldn’t have much of an emotional response to that. “What if we do bad demos in front of him. we better do well tonight. However. I.
You can’t wait to go out tomorrow for an even more plentiful bounty. over the course of the night. You feel like all your study of pickup ebooks and DVD’s on game are finally paying off. Your friend calls and says he is at your house to pick you up. when you got in your friend’s car. these factors have no real meaning or value and can only affect your self concept If You let tHeM!!! let’s look at two very different outcomes to two situations that are in all actuality the same. You lay awake still riding a high.) ok. “Wow. so as you read this input your self concept here. but now that this is all coming together. the three girls get even more interested. I haven’t felt this good in forever.” saturday night you are going to go to the exact same venue as the night before. The first set you open goes ridiculously well. The girls won’t leave you alone. one of your hot friends from college happens to be at the same bar and sees that these girls are all over you. After banging her like a screen door on a battleship. friday night. You are in the moment and you feel like you can’t be stopped! You feel like you could open a set with Brad pitt in it and walk away with the girl. a whole host of external factors are introduced that can either increase your self concept or drastically diminish it based on what level of meaning and importance you attach to them. asshole. each of the three girls reopens you and tries to get your attention.1. she falls asleep. You know you can have your pick. you see that he has brought his loud. and take home your old friend. she runs over and hugs you. I’m actually glad that my ex girlfriend dumped me. you leave the house with your “pickup self concept. Your self concept moves up and you are feeling a new high. You get several numbers. However. You stare at the ceiling thinking. that’s been bothering me forever. judgmental 8 . You are still excited about last night and you can’t wait to get to the venue so you can build on the night before. All three of the girls in the set want you bad. so you leave the house with your self concept and then what happens? All kinds of factors come flying at you from night to night to help increase or decrease your self concept. I’m glad she dumped me because look how good I am getting at this. You can’t hit the door fast enough. You open every good set in the venue for no strategic reason other than that you feel good inside and it just feels right.1 inner Game Now when we take the scenario of going to a venue with the goal of talking to women.” (Whether you are leaving the house with a low or super high self concept is unimportant in regards to the point I’m trying to make here. make out with the best of the 3 set. You can’t even remember what you opened them with and they all responded well to you.
resulting in me questioning my self concept. You wouldn’t have even noticed him because you were in the moment). “Maybe he’s right. (truth is. I hate him. your mind is back in the past rehashing your first blow out wondering what you did wrong with those girls and you are still pondering if the asshole friend knows something about you that you should feel insecure about. but as you walk around. Is he a judgmental asshole or does he see something in me that I’ve never noticed? He’s right to judge me. that guy saw me get blown out and he is giving me that judgmental smirk like he thinks he’s better than me. You don’t want to open poorly in front of him. Damn it! You instantly feel your confidence sag a little. I mean. you shouldn’t give a shit.” You spin around to find your friend and. “Maybe it’s not that I’m letting this guy stir my emotions. maybe last night was a fluke and “most” girls really don’t respond to me like that. You have been so focused on what that guy will think that you have just been running a movie screen in your head the last 2 hours of you getting blown out and this random asshole friend judging you over and over and over. “Damn. you feel it inside your stomach and you won’t stop thinking about it. 9 . You left the house and you were really feeling it. You half ass open 3 more sets. your self concept takes a slight dip. you have an emotional response and you get out of the moment.” You give him no satisfaction with your facial expressions or body language . but you walk up NoWHere NeAr in the moment. And. as soon as you see this guy. While you open these 3 sets. You already started attaching meaning to his judgments and thoughts. you half blame him for putting you in a bad state. last night you wouldn’t have cared what this asshole thought. In your mind. sure enough he’s a loud.1. Your self concept was so high last night. You immediately spin around hoping he didn’t see. because you know how judgmental he is and you can already feel him judging you if you get blown out of a set. judgmental asshole in the car and you worry what he’ll say if you get blown out in front of him tonight. You hit the venue and you do 4 laps around the place and hit the bathroom twice instead of just being in the moment and opening because you aren’t feeling it like you were last night. but part of you questions yourself and says. You finally decide to do a set even though you aren’t feeling it. You open and sure enough you get blown out!!! Now.” self concept takes another dip. it was the first set of the night.1 inner Game friend from work to go out with you guys. you can’t help but wonder.
asshole friend asks you several condescending questions about why those girls were so rude to you.1 inner Game sooo. or something about you betrays your funny jokes and interesting stories and sheds light on a guy who is strangely not in the moment. 10 . Now you have decided that this is solID proof that you are bad with women and that last night was undoubtedly a fluke.this is where the men are separated from the boys.. so.. or the last 3 blowouts. would your night have been completely different? Would I have had a shit night instead? Awww. In the car ride home.. had that first set gone poorly. what the hell???? Your self concept is high on friday! Is it real? Yes. and then gives some asshole a big hug and a deep kiss. they know you have an agenda and they can feel that you subtly are hoping they give you their approval. You grab your friend and his dick friend and head home.. Were you right to feel all of those feelings or is that just being delusional from a bunch of random luck? No. the asshole friend. lay in bed. “I’ve had both of those nights Braddock . but they aren’t having it. and you spend an hour pondering how you could have such an amazing night last night and such a horrible night tonight.1. last night. Your self concept takes another dip. you are using the same openers and material that you used last night. You stare longingly and just a split second longer tonight than you would have if you bumped into her last night when you owned the venue! she sees and feels your needy stare.. Now. You question if all this game shit you’ve read is even real. All 3 sets blow you out worse than the patriot’s did the Chargers in week 3. Her self concept takes a spike up and she gives you some weak ass wave and a half smile. You hate him more. You see a girl you used to date at the same venue and she is flirting with a guy you assume is no doubt better than you in every way possible. Your voice. and wonder if you should have married your ex girlfriend. it wasn’t luck. and now your chest hurts worse than ever before. you thought you were completely over her. his negative judgmental mindsets. those who have great inner game can feel this high regardless of the momentum or lack thereof created by the first set.. You were allowing your true self concept to drive the bus because no external factors got in its way or pushed it down.. the girls in these next 3 sets feel a strange incongruence when you walk up. or your face. they can feel it. You are trying to be funny and interesting. You finally get home. but you internalize some of the horse shit coming out of his mouth as truth.
never opened countless sets. when you open your first set and his judgments mean nothing to you. When the asshole friend in the car annoys you.. remember that your self concept is defined as what you truly believe your skill set is in any given area. and BAM. When you are playing video games. “I think I can. because you need the moon. It can make our game look way worse than it really is. and it annoys you oNlY while your eyes are on his face. does this mean you will never get blown out? Does it mean that you will get every girl? Noooo!! Don’t confuse self concept and being in the moment as the same thing. Gandhi is most likely in the moment at all times. but it carries Zero negative momentum into the next set. you have an honest measuring stick of your self concept in regards to that video game. then you will stay in the moment and your self concept will maintain a constant level all night. allows you to see where your actual self concept is. the sun. our true self concept shines through and we have a great night. and the stars to line up just perfectly every night or you are not going to have a good night. then we get in a good state.1 inner Game The external meaning you are attributing to how your first set goes is determining your entire night. He has never done the reading.1. but that does not mean he can pickup girls in a bar. His self concept in regards to pickup is still low.. (I stand corrected. You know your inner game has reached a high level when you could go 0 for 10 or 10 for 10 in any given night and your self concept is unchanged. Horrible or great at that video game. randomly because a bunch of factors went right or we randomly didn’t attach a bunch of meaning to these outside factors. Gandhi stone cold pimpin! lol) Being in the moment allows you to truly increase your self concept in an area. not what you wish it was. you are completely in the moment. they do feed each other. it’s hard for us to measure our true self concept in regards to pickup. Now. when you leave that set and he gives you a dick head look. aka (being in the moment). once you learn to be in the moment. He only has half of the puzzle. sometimes. and never developed a skill set. but ONLY in the car. and not some bullshit affirmation of. CoMpletelY in that moment. good or bad.” It’s what you truly believe it to be at any given moment. this is a scary place to be. 11 .. but they are two very different things. because we allow our self concept to go up and down sooo much from day to day based on a bunch of meaning we attach to external factors and our complete lack of being in the moment. Being in the moment.
naturals. if you have children who act up. but if you can ever master these two.1 inner Game However. there are soooo many other facets that can help your inner game . I would like to thank all my guests. continue to beat them until moral improves. they are in the moment and have cultivated a skill set. ok. remember. When you hear that someone has “good game”. until next time. this message has been brought to you by the number 4 and the letter l. once we learn to correlate that usually “a bad night” was more about us not being in the moment. this means that he spends more time operating in the moment and that he has a high self concept in pickup. this up and down creates confusion over time espeCIAllY when we have more bad nights than good nights. Not necessarily that he has read more pickup books than you. then you will see a drastic change in your life. Your fearless leader. that’s all the time we have for today. Braddock 12 . I.1.e. and stop attributing it to a lack of knowledge. then our game reaches new heights.
x story. After just a few weeks of going out with that kind of pressure following you. and to break through insecurities and sticking points that have been like chains holding him down. 1. realistic goals for the night. you have measurable. unhappy. so. I love one on one’s because. What you need to do is refocus your mind.” HAHA!! Bullshit! Reading more will not fix this issue. while you are really helping someone get their game solid. you will be burnt out. I just suck at this.theattractionforums. If I do most of these things then I will know that I was successful on the night. then that’s exactly how each one will feel. It’s really fun to watch a guy progress. As a student opens his mind and works through a sticking point. “Why am I not learning this? How come it’s so hard for me? Maybe. you also learn a shitload about yourself. once I dealt with them. or “My friend started reading this when I did. and feel like there is something wrong with you. then I suck. (Example: “I am going out for the next two weeks and I will use x opener. I remembered that these were issues that had once plagued me and really held me back for a long.” this kind of goal setting fucks you hard!!!!!!! the goals are not realistic. relax! If you make pickup so important that you feel like every set is the super Bowl.2 change your Life noW!!!!!!! http://www. Go out with specific goals for the week. it will only be a matter of time before you will no longer enjoy going out. Maybe. After working with this student and he told me what was bothering him. and no matter how great the outcome. x cold read and I will try to isolate at least one girl in every set and I will try to bounce at least one girl around the club and get into deep comfort with her.com/braddock/49480-change-your-life-now. I felt like my game exploded and I had more fun going out and learning pickup. attainable.html Had a one on one in Dallas this weekend. you don’t allow yourself room to grow. What if you fucked an 8. it’s like seeing a new person. long time. after just a few weeks of going out. you don’t allow yourself to build momentum from the small successes. I need to go home and read pickup for 6 hours per day instead of 5 hours per day. x transition.” By setting goals like the ones above. there were a couple of things that I learned this weekend that I want to share. saying.1. opened 5 for 10 and got 3 phone numbers and one of them was a 10? Wouldn’t that have been a damn good night?! 13 . really cool guy. look how good he’s doing. If I don’t do at least as good as he does. “I want to have sex with a 10 and I want to go 10 for 10 with my sets and get 10 phone numbers”.
lol. you would not be down on yourself because your friend went 5 for 5 that day. the same reason I didn’t.2 change your Life now!!!!!!! Not if you are putting bullshit restrictions on how you measure your own success. these guys have all the advice in the world and a million stories that nobody can confirm. It’s so easy to peg the guys on bootcamp who have read everything but haven’t done much field time. ever play sports? If you went 2 for 5 in baseball with a double and a bloop single to win the game. than 60 hours worth of reading. INCluDING Me. but you struck out 3 times. or you have read way too much of this shit and your brain goes haywire in set trying to remember every fucking routine you ever read! 14 . usually better than I do. yet telling everyone how great they are?!?! Why would you do that!??? even if you don’t brag and correct others. “friendly conversation” or if he is making progress toward getting the girl. then. makes. Books that I thought were shit when I first started this mean a lot to me now. You could read for the next 7 years about how to play tennis and then go play someone who had read nothing but took a 30 min lesson. you are still dying inside knowing that you should be doing more. never actually getting on one. DON’T BE LIKE tHAt!!!! What a fucking waste of time and life. and they would likely kick your fucking ass. You do need to do your homework. but damn this is by far the biggest mistake everyone. set. you are sadly. the reading really won’t make that much sense or even help that much until you have been in the field and been in the exact situation the author is talking about. Being an arm chair QB is like reading about how fun roller coasters are. sadly. and love to correct the instructors and other students on what they “think you should do” in said situation. I know why they don’t do it. know all the routines by heart. I’m trying to make a point. when you go out that night. see how ridiculous that kind of thinking is? I used to do that all the time. and books and lines that I thought would be amazing in the field. If you think you are going to read for 6 months. they know all the theory. or they think they are much farther along in set than they really are. In fact. or you are scared shitless of facing the inevitable rejection associated with risking your ego and putting it on the line. they either look gun shy. same applies here. mistaken. Learn in the field: I know everyone says this. Why read all of this shit if you aren’t going to use it??? I’m not trying to be mean. 2. but you will learn more in 1 set in the field. now make me laugh at how shitty they are. after set. You still only half believe it’s real or you are scared shitless of it not being real. or make tons of rookie mistakes.1. I can watch a guy in set and tell you if he is in a. buying every product ever made and then one day you will compile the master routine that will allow you to walk into a venue and rattle off this phantom sequence and BAM! girl’s clothes will just start fallling off.
stop worrying about how good or bad your friends are doing. stop talking about it with your friends good or bad! Your friends will not be much help. they probably know you are lying and just aren’t calling you out on it to avoid an awkward intervention over something stupid. what do I do Braddock??? set realistic goals!!! Go out a realistic amount every week.. not a sprint. stop bullshitting others and more importantly stop bullshitting yourself!!! I have friends who lie about how many girls they’ve fucked in order to impress others. so. Add just one piece of material every couple of weeks and only add a piece after you have done x number of sets.. they will find a way to tear you down a little. Once you have done that to the point where you feel like you can look yourself in the mirror and honestly say. use theMysteryMethod forums to discuss this shit. Nothing makes me laugh harder than when one of my friends gives me or someone else in my circle advice on how to pickup girls when they haven’t put in the time to even know if what they are saying is true. stop giving a fuck about what anyone thinks about you. Go out and do the dirty work. set small goals that add up to equal your big goals. “Wow! I’ve done a shitload of approaches. pay the price. Donald trump doesn’t ask me how to buy real estate and I don’t read his book hoping for advice on how to pickup girls. If you are shitty at pickup. and two. because you will have a point of reference. Just worry about your progress. Nobody gives a shit for one. Going out 3 times per week doesn’t really count as 3 times if you only opened 2 sets each night. but do it in small chunks while realizing that not any one set matters. fYI. I thought some of the stuff I read sounded really fucking gay. stop doing it.” When you can say that. My point is this: you are your own best compass.. but I had to take it as fact in my head because they were supposedly gurus. they will be full of advice that is horrible. second. Make it fun. 15 . they haven’t all gone well.2 change your Life now!!!!!!! You are talking about me. find your own center and go get your hands dirty in the field.1. stop talking about it with them. only take advice from those who have been in the trenches and earned their stripes. soooo. But they don’t talk shit when you aren’t around. then go back and grab those pickup books and start reading. If you do great. It will all make so much more sense and you will be able to go apply the material at a much faster rate. but I have honestly done a ridiculous amount of approaches. you won’t have to take everything they say as fact! I remember when I first started. this is a marathon.
look back in a few months and I think you will be surprised at how much closer you are to reaching some of the larger goals. I would like to do that. PUT THE FUCKING BOOKS DOWN AND GO OUT!!! STOP READING tHIs post AND Go out!!!!! I’m serious. -Have the mental frame that. “Well. I don’t have a good wing. steal the knowledge.000 approaches don’t count. -B 16 . I mean I love my mom and I want to really. they are just things you are choosing not to overcome. read 20% go out 80%.” -fuck excuses.999 approaches to go before it even matters?!?! -set small goals you can reach and journal everyday. the only difference between a guy with a bad ass lifestyle and a guy with a boring one is action. I could look at material and tell what was really useful and what was just some shit that a nerd threw together to make a quick buck. fuCK tHAt.” fuck no! You would open 20 sets in 10 min to save your mom. Braddock . trample the weak and hurdle the dead. because you don’t want your goal bad enough. If I said go open 20 sets or I’ll blow your mom’s fucking head off!!!! Would you say. So. I promise. I just needed a kick in the ass. “The first 2. I had no idea what was what until I had extensive time in field. but go create your own stories and experiences. life is not lived on the computer reading about how someone else is leading the life you wish you had.” How can it be the super bowl if you still have 1. looking back. -stop bitching about other people!!! “If only I had a wing. If only I this or that. His life wasn’t always the shit. I just know how bad my girl situation was at one time. -Don’t beat yourself up over rejections from girls that you’ll never see again.2 change your Life now!!!!!!! After I did a bunch of sets.1. really bad! But. -of the time you allot to pickup. but you won’t open 20 in a week to develop the lifestyle you fucking want and deserve????????? None of this is meant to be mean.
“they’re here somewhere. Here are a couple of questions I received and here are my answers. “let’s see it man. he never fucks it up for me either. It’s really not a political thing. just say. but he won’t say anything to get the girls that are interested in him either. every time you go out they will be like. No one over 21 is interested in going out to the bars. realize that going out alone isn’t as bad you think it is. the best wing for me is a decent looking guy who won’t say anything to fuck it up. lolololol “hippies and weirdo’s. What should I do? “ Question 2: “Do you think I should cut out my old friends and get new ones?” first off. Keep this in mind too.” fuck all that! Just mysteriously become a fucking pimp and when they ask how you do it.html I hope someone finds this useful. I hate hippies! especially hippy girls. But. there is no quick fix to your wing problem. I think the best wings are not the guys with great game.com/braddock/61176-q-wings-cutting-old-friends.1. but I’m apprehensive about going out alone. “I don’t know man. If anyone asks where your friends are just say. 17 . I tried finding wings on the forums and they are scarce too.” lololol The truth is. until you do find a decent wing. I do well when I hit the bar with a wing. I thought you said it worked? Why do you ask them those fucked up questions about your friend’s ex girlfriend? that’s stupid. My closest friends are kinda naturals and I didn’t even want to tell them I was reading this sort of stuff. girls just like me I guess. Just be yourself. I know exactly what you’re going through. As a matter of fact.” that literally made me laugh. it’s just that they always stink and never seem to be hot. My favorite wing goes out with me all the time and I get laid every night and he almost never does. they will accidentally fuck you more than a normal dude. However.” they usually don’t even ask. I also suggest you don’t tell those in your closest circle unless you know you can trust them.theattractionforums. It was extremely hard for me to find friends who were down with this when I first started.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends http://www. I thought you read that shit. I am a 21 year old who goes to a small college in Baltimore that is crawling with hippies and weirdos. they would never have understood. Question 1: “I’m in a sticky situation.
A new guy trying to learn all this shit is often the worst wing . or whatever excuse we often make. You are likely to meet a wing on accident at the bar. then why would you cut them out of your life just because they have no game???????? that’s ridiculous. I know it sucks. because they are trying to run game at the same time you are and it just comes across really weird (not because his game is bad or good.1. this is totally different. just because you have 2 guys excited about gaming and both guys bring it in every set. If you have a great set of friends who are supportive. Most importantly. he never fucks up my game. Nooooooo!!!! When guys say that on here I think it creates great confusion. What I do is go out with my wing or a group of cool guys and I merely use them as a home base between sets. is dead. deeply care about you.) I guess the biggest point I’m trying to make here is that the whole “wing “ thing is not that big of a deal like everyone says it is. tHIs Is Not BeCAuse tHeY DoN’t HAVe GAMe!!!! 18 . but if I bring girls to him he will talk to them and not freak them out or bore them. I’d much rather meet a guy who is already going. you will read posts on cutting people out of your life who you come to realize are toxic. somewhere for me to go when I’m not in set.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends He doesn’t approach really. Answer to Question 2: Notice that in answering question one I did not say ditch all your old friends and get new ones who are good at pickup. but just keep going out and meeting people. I’m genuinely having fun. I don’t count on them for shit as far as pickup. Don’t let not having a wing keep you from developing the lifestyle and game you want. often times you will end up cutting previously close friends out of your life after you have been in the community for a while. the only good thing about having a wing is when he is a motivated mother fucker that holds you accountable and makes you go out: a guy who won’t let you pussy out and say you are tired or this bar. I think if you will read the posts from instructors or guys with a vast amount of experience. and who make your quality of life better. over trying to talk some mother fucker into getting off the couch. 2 guys gaming hard across each other never really works out). (Having people you can genuinely have fun with is ten times more powerful for your game than having a guy who is willing to go open sets. they are fucking horrible! lol But they give me social proof and I actually like the guys so even if I’m not running game.
If you do great. they haven’t all gone well. Make it fun. Nobody gives a shit for one. fYI.” When you can say that. “Wow! I’ve done a shitload of approaches. and two. soooo. 19 .1. stop giving a fuck about what anyone thinks about you. Once you have done that to the point where you feel like you can look yourself in the mirror and honestly say. If you are shitty at pickup.. Donald trump doesn’t ask me how to buy real estate and I don’t read his book hoping for advice on how to pickup girls.. they probably know you are lying and just aren’t calling you out on it to avoid an awkward intervention over something stupid. Nothing makes me laugh harder than when one of my friends gives me or someone else in my circle advice on how to pickup girls when they haven’t put in the time to even know if what they are saying is true. use theMysteryMethod forums to discuss this shit. this is a marathon. Just worry about your progress. I thought some of the stuff I read sounded really fucking gay.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends You are talking about me. but do it in small chunks while realizing that not any one set matters. find your own center and go get your hands dirty in the field. stop bullshitting others and more importantly stop bullshitting yourself!!! I have friends who lie about how many girls they’ve fucked in order to impress others. But they don’t talk shit when you aren’t around. It will all make so much more sense and you will be able to go apply the material at a much faster rate. stop doing it. but I had to take it as fact in my head because they were supposedly gurus. set small goals that add up to equal your big goals. Going out 3 times per week doesn’t really count as 3 times if you only opened 2 sets each night. Add just one piece of material every couple of weeks and only add a piece after you have done x number of sets. stop talking about it with your friends good or bad! Your friends will not be much help. then go back and grab those pickup books and start reading. they will find a way to tear you down a little. My point is this: you are your own best compass. only take advice from those who have been in the trenches and earned their stripes. not a sprint. you won’t have to take everything they say as fact! I remember when I first started. so. stop talking about it with them. Go out and do the dirty work. they will be full of advice that is horrible. but I have honestly done a ridiculous amount of approaches. pay the price. second. what do I do Braddock??? set realistic goals!!! Go out a realistic amount every week. stop worrying about how good or bad your friends are doing.. because you will have a point of reference.
I mean I love my mom and I want to really. PUT THE FUCKING BOOKS DOWN AND GO OUT!!! STOP READING tHIs post AND Go out!!!!! I’m serious. -Have the mental frame that. “Well. -Don’t beat yourself up over rejections from girls that you’ll never see again. I promise. read 20% go out 80%. I could look at material and tell what was really useful and what was just some shit that a nerd threw together to make a quick buck. trample the weak and hurdle the dead. looking back. -stop bitching about other people!!! “If only I had a wing. they are just things you are choosing not to overcome. because you don’t want your goal bad enough. So.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends After I did a bunch of sets. I would like to do that.999 approaches to go before it even matters?!?! -set small goals you can reach and journal everyday. steal the knowledge. “The first 2. -B 20 . look back in a few months and I think you will be surprised at how much closer you are to reaching some of the larger goals. Braddock . really bad! But.” How can it be the super bowl if you still have 1. but you won’t open 20 in a week to develop the lifestyle you fucking want and deserve????????? None of this is meant to be mean. but go create your own stories and experiences.000 approaches don’t count. If I said go open 20 sets or I’ll blow your mom’s fucking head off!!!! Would you say.1. I just know how bad my girl situation was at one time. I had no idea what was what until I had extensive time in field. life is not lived on the computer reading about how someone else is leading the life you wish you had. His life wasn’t always the shit.” fuck no! You would open 20 sets in 10 min to save your mom. -of the time you allot to pickup. I just needed a kick in the ass. I don’t have a good wing. fuck that.” -fuck excuses. If only I this or that. the only difference between a guy with a bad ass lifestyle and a guy with a boring one is action.
A. No offense if you are one. He picked up the info really quick and was kicking ass by the second night. at night.” I’m on the plane heading home. because they have the same feeling a celebrity has at times. As Dennis Miller used to say.... I talked to the guy the day after and he said we changed his life!!! that’s the best feeling ever.4 do you Bring value or take it???? http://www. because you see a side of people you never knew existed. now I’m hot.” 21 ...html this is from my blog. I love flying out of L.. It’s unreal how big this city is. He said when he got home he went out that night and had like 5 make outs and could have slept with several girls..A. I personally can identify with the feeling of contempt that this can create.1. they think you are cool because of what you can do for them. If you ever want to see how quickly the human mind can resort to it’s darker recesses. 10. she’s an l. It was a grind going for 5 days straight. I’m not. I don’t completely blame promoters for acting like dicks. “I don’t mean to go on a rant here but. she made one call and we were in. Nice to know people.A. and I’m sure I could write this about a million different subjects.. Dahunter and I taught our class and it went really well. they all on me. I know a girl who is kind of a socialite out there and she hooked us up. but if I sound like I’m complaining. This weekend was a blast.com/braddock/61179-do-you-bring-value-take. it applies to most people. The first night we went to one of the best clubs in L..A. so all of the club promoters kiss her ass. they don’t think you are cool because of your intrinsic value as a human being... Wednesday and thursday.theattractionforums. It’s like that line out of that song by Mike Jones…. people don’t talk to “you” they talk to the club promoter that they need something from.. just study the club promoters outside of an exclusive club in l.. It was cool to watch. “Back then they didn’t want me.
so you don’t have to be the vampire quite as often or if life forces you to be the vampire. he has attached a deep sense of self to that one piece of value he controls. but they do not make you better intrinsically than others. don’t let it go to your head. they will move on to the next body to suck blood from without so much as a thanks and when you need help they are nowhere to be found. the club promoters that I met this weekend seemed to really buy into their own bullshit. they ask for something without bringing any value to you in return. the best way to handle these situations is to not attach much. identity value to either of these roles and work toward always bringing value in as many relationships as you can. If you have value to exchange then you aren’t the one constantly begging or desperately fighting for the scraps that fall off the table of those that do retain the value that you desire. no solid relationships in his life. Don’t get me wrong. We are all the vampire at times and we are all the leverage holder at times. if you ever find yourself in a short lived or situational setting where you are the value holder. I think you should try to set up as many of these situations in your life as possible. they shut off the fake smile and the charm and move on to the next person they think can help them meet their needs. these vampires like you right now. but the second that your one piece of leverage is gone or they have extracted all the value they can from you. and sleep on his friends couch. you have brought so much value in the past that you are not seen as a desperate value leech. I think a healthy person looks at this for what it is. However. they really think that gate keeper role they play a couple nights per week is who they really are at their core!!!!! lolololol this same asshole may have no education. live paycheck to paycheck. what I found hilarious is how much they seemed to really believe that they are somebody. for 3 hours per night they are GOD!!! They decide whether you get to play in that club or not. 22 .1.4 do you Bring value or take it???? People can have no cooth when they need something and have no idea how desperate and selfish they look. if any. However. everyone wants what they control and everyone pretends to like them in order to obtain access. and then if you can’t give them that value. I’m willing to bet that those guys have little to no value outside of that venue and only have this limited value even here on specific nights. However. Don’t assume that because you have something that people want or need that it makes you better than others. because they do make life easier and they seem to attract more and more opportunities just like this. or just say no. but because he controls a list 3 nights a week.
23 .a great place to meet a ton of friends. even titles you earn mean little to nothing in regard to how you should value yourself and definitely not how you should treat others. they attached a deep identity meaning to the fucking letters on the outside of the door of the house!!! lololol How fucking retarded. Half the guys were cool as fuck and saw the frat for what it was . and network for later in life. drink tons of beer. But being picked to join a frat during rush week is not a title that you earned and it’s not a value that should help you flesh out your core identity. they would talk differently to people who weren’t in a certain frat and treat them like shit and they would suck the dicks of guys in certain frats that they considered cool!!!!???? I can understand you having more or less respect for this company or that company or that team or this team or this athlete or that athlete or this doctor or that doctor because of the work they put into earning that title. I have mad respect for Michael Jordan and might even talk to him a little different than I would most people because I would be excited to meet him. if you’ve ever given a girl more respect than she’s earned than you know how this can blow up in your face! But. the other half of the guys were complete dick suckers who thought they were cool because they were in that frat. If you joined a certain frat so you could jerk yourself off and tell yourself and each other how cool you are and how much better your frat is than that one than you are fucking up bad!!! Hell.1. I personally don’t think you should give people any more respect than they’ve earned. have parties with tons of girls. but sadly I assume he does.4 do you Bring value or take it???? I always wonder if people like him walk around in their normal life acting like they are better than people. I was in a frat for a while in college and I remember it being split in half. If I met John stockton……not so much. It’s merely a group you belong to where the people in the group enjoy you and you enjoy them. this does not mean that you should treat people like shit or with disrespect either. this doesn’t mean you should go around kissing people’s ass or even going all Dale Carnegie on them. Does he walk around treating everyone like he is better than them???? I hope not.
it’s just a tool. I want them because they are all tools to help me develop a fun and interesting lifestyle that I would want. bla bla bla. It will be your frat. Not because it doesn’t matter who you surround yourself with. use it to create great connections in your life that you couldn’t acquire otherwise. but if I couldn’t have them for any number of reasons then I’m still me. tons of options with women. but not because they will create an identity that I desperately cling to no matter what. and great relationships. this is why rockstars and celebrities end up killing themselves. With them. the company you keep can make or break your life. then you just will constantly be trying to fill a bucket with a massive fucking hole in it. Attaching an identity meaning to random sources of value sets you on a slippery slope to an addiction you can never satisfy. then cars. I thought if I had a hot girlfriend then that’s “who I was” or if I was a great athlete or if I hung out with certain people. But if you don’t know that. or if I made this group of people happy or if my parents liked what I was doing. they have attached all their internal meaning to this star they have become. but they also should not be what you draw your core value from. like I said though. learn how to use it to help you meet other ends.1. It’s merely a value that you have obtained and a great one at that. Don’t attach internal meanings to external values. then women. Crush the social leeches that use you as a win for them/loss for you and find the people who are willing to make a value trade with you. then that was me. 24 . are equally disgusting to me.4 do you Bring value or take it???? the frat boy who is delusional about how cool he is because of what frat he is in. The main point here is this. No. I’m not saying all these things are bad. use it to help you obtain shitloads of win win situations in your life. At their core they know they are just people and that at the end of the day all that shit is just a hat they wear. With or without them. My internal value and identity are maintained at all cost. I personally want tons of money. this lesson has taken me years to learn and I learned it the hard way. high status. then money. my identity and core values are unchanged. my life is closer aligned to what I want my life to look like. they buy into their own bullshit. It’s not who they are at their core. use it as such. that’s all bullshit. and the club promoter who thinks he is God. if you ever find yourself in a position like the club promoter just realize that it’s merely a tool.
enough Gandhi shit from me for one day……… sha boy…………………Braddock 25 .1.” Do all this shit because you really just want it in your life. “I have this girl on my arm so now I’m somebody.4 do you Bring value or take it???? Go become the baddest mother fucker you can. but not to define me. I want it for me.e. possessions. Be and do everything you ever wanted to do. but don’t attach your entire identity to external events. or people trophies I. Alright. Go at it like you will fucking die in 6 months.
covered in thiS chapter:
2.1 oneitis?? - fuCK oNeItIs - How to Get over Her - The Benefit of Moving on
2.2 Q & a on Love - the Chemical Additiction - the Dumper Vs. the Dumpee 2.3 Girl has a Boyfriend, But i Know She Likes me - What Would Murder Her Attraction - the right Way to play it 2.4 “i don’t chase......i replace.” - the Abundance Mentality
http://www.theattractionforums.com/braddock/61174-oneitus.html Jazz flute is for sissy fairy boys and so is oneitis. I’ve had a lot of people emailing me recently asking how to get over a oneitis. Here is a post that I made a while back that I think is useful.
losing a girl feels worse than a kick in the fucking nuts. You would do anything to leave this site and just have her back and all your pain would go away! Yeaaaaaahh! listen man, I know this doesn’t help now and it will only help if you’re the kind of guy who takes massive action in the face of crippling pain. But, I’m telling you I was dating a fucking amazingly hot, cool, smart girl. she dumped me. I thought I was going to fucking die!!! bla bla bla right? Worse year of my life. Guess what though man.... I know this is cliché, but I’m glad we are done. Yeah, I still miss her at times, but fucking shit, look where I’ve come! If I had her back now, I’d be the same guy. I’ve pushed myself to new heights in so many areas of my life. If you get back with that “perfect” girl, your pain will leave for a while, but when you’re old someday, you will wonder what life would have been like if you would have fucking let go and became who you are about to be. she was, and is, holding you back. let it sting only for a few moments per day. she is controlling your ass and she doesn’t even want to be. Bitch slap the fuck out of yourself and decide that only you will control your happiness. You enjoyed that girl, you miss her, you are sad at times, but you wouldn’t change a fucking thing. Get tHere GoD DAMN It!!!!! Don’t lay in this shitty feeling. I’ve been there. I almost lost my job over it. I almost didn’t go to law school over it. What a fucking joke. take full responsibility for who you are and don’t look back. In 1 year, if you put in the work, you will laugh at this girl. listen man, I know it hurts, I spent an entire year suffering over a girl. lost weight, neglected my life, and burned a full YeAr of my short life hurting over a fucking girl!! WHAt?!?!?!? 27
understand that there are literally BIllIoNs of GIrls. the guy you will be in a year is not the guy that this hoe rejected, but oNlY if you take proper action. Don’t let that fool you though. Don’t change and become better for this girl. Do It for You!!!! I know. You hurt and you only want to know what will make you feel better in this moment. take the pain, recover and move forward. tHere Are BIGGer AND Better tHINGs out tHere! But, but, Braddock I love her!!! she’s different, you don’t’ understand!!!!” every guy on this site has said that weak shit. You don’t find this site on accident. No Goddamn it, step up to the fucking plate and tell yourself No fuCKING More! this bitch better enjoy today, cause it’s the last day I will giver her my power and allow her to choose how I will feel about myself and life. I will better myself everyday and one day I will reflect on this and realize that she was a cool chick and I hope she is happy. I have taken myself to a new level and it’s all for the better that she dumped me, cause at my new level I would have had to dump her. respect yourself and allow her no more real estate in your head and let’s start moving to positive things. the work will be hard and you will have highs and lows. Decide that you are going to better yourself a little today. A little every day and all of a sudden you will look up and you won’t recognize who you are. You won’t need this bitch’s validation. You will be battle hardened and you will love the new you. right now that is hard to believe. fine. Don’t believe me, just trust me. every day when you wake up and your fucking chest hurts, just close your eyes and say, “today might be tough, but I’m going to take at least one step toward making myself a better person than I was yesterday.” Do this for a full fucking year and you won’t even remember who you were. the alternative is to wallow in your bullshit and piss and moan and wish things were different. “only if you had her back your life would be perfect. If only you had her back, your grades would be good. If only you had her back, you would work out and get the body you’ve always wanted.” BullsHIt! Accept who you are and kill that weak mother fucker. tell yourself you are sad about her, but that something has to die for something new to grow. I miss her, but it had to happen for the new me to become a reality.
take the pain and push through it. Best. Braddock 29 . there is no other option. But what you choose to do right now will determine who you are for the rest of your life.1 oneitis?? step up hommie! It hurts. step up to this challenge and take it head on like a fucking man.2. It hurts so goddamn bad! I know it does. the only way through hell is straight through it.
com/braddock/82719-q-love.2. Question: “Does anyone know how love works chemically?” 30 .2 Q & a on Love http://www.theattractionforums.html I get a lot of emails about this and I also get a lot of emails asking me how to get an old girlfriend to like you again.
your brain will fire off a batch of peptides that will make the experience of the relationship feel in a way that both parties become accustomed to. After feeling this way for a long time. you may know this is a stupid thing to do. On a logical level. you will feel compelled to call her. you will act despite the fact that you know it’s a stupid move. If the pull is strong enough (the addiction). in an attempt to get those feelings (peptide rush/your fix). this is why you might feel sad when you hear a song that you and your old girlfriend used to listen to when you were at your happiest point in your relationship. every person you meet. It has evolved to put this peptide footprint on all of your memories to protect you. email her.2.2 Q & a on Love answer: Based on my reading and study of the brain. that feeling (peptide rush) is a nice safety mechanism to keep you from making that same mistake over and over. every experience (good or bad). it seems that the scientific definition of love would be “chemical addiction. When they do break up. both of their bodies will become so used to feeling this way that they will feel discomfort and pain at even the idea of not having those chemicals (Ie. It makes you sad because you instantly think of that moment when you felt so good and then your body is thrown back to the present moment of realizing that you don’t have access to her and the feelings (peptides) she gave you. love is an addiction to the peptides you have created and associated to a specific person. but if the hurt/addiction is strong enough. or drive by her house. breaking up). In any relationship (good or bad). and to every memory you have. If every memory has a different peptide tied to it. It turns out that our brain is hardwired to attach a specific emotional footprint to everything. you will get a feeling (peptide rush) of anxiety or fear when you look at/go near a stove for the rest of your life. Does anyone have a friend who still talks about his high school football days and he graduated 5 years ago? 31 . It wants you to remember to move toward pleasure and away from pain. this reminder comes in the form of pain. Why would your body do this to you? Why would it put you through this? It’s actually just doing its job. every memory is painful because it is a reminder that you are no longer getting those chemicals. this is why when you burn your hand on a stove at 4 years old. then this explains why it’s so hard to move on after a breakup and why it’s so hard to experience change. this is why you might hear a song that you haven’t heard since high school and you immediately smile and have a flash back of riding in a car with all of your old high school buddies.” More specifically.
It is also likely that nothing in his life has given him an equivalent rush since.No. cheating. He will give you all kinds of excuses and rationalizations for why he needs the drug. and even watches his old high school films because it gives him a small fix of those old peptides that used to make him feel so good. their logical mind tries to pull them away through fighting. If the feeling you shared with that girl created a peptide cocktail that felt so good it made you euphoric.” All this is bullshit. then you will suffer from the exACt symptoms of a drug addict who is suffering from the withdrawal pains the first couple of weeks when they’re in rehab. back. I must have made a huge mistake. the dumpee is CrusHeD not because of the fairy tale bullshit reasons we all hear in love songs and movies…. Take his fix away and you have a mumbling drug addict scrambling around feigning for a hit. Can you see how this plays out in the same way when a relationship ends and why some relationships that loGICAllY should end. even if you were telling your friends a week ago that she annoyed you and that you kind of wanted to shop around. the source of his good feeling (peptide rush). the dumper slowly broke their addiction over time by weaning themselves of the other person until they are no longer addicted. “If I feel this bad. but it’s like telling a crack addict he needs to quit. He had likely been playing football for years and then all of a sudden. they can’t leave because it means an end to the source of the most powerful drug (peptides) their bodies have ever experienced.2 Q & a on Love Why is he doing this? Because if he was good at football then he likely has a very good feeling (peptide rush) attached to any memory of football. 32 . they can walk away with little or no pain. once this happens. then you are ingesting a very powerful drug. If that drug is ripped from you when you aren’t ready. He will think that she must have been the greatest woman on the planet. The pain can be so bad that you will do ANYTHING to get your fix (her). that is the talk of a logical man who is getting his fix. but at the end of the day their addiction pulls them back together so they can get their fix. never do? even though the feelings are long gone and they now hate each other. the dumpee is crushed because someone has taken their drugs when they were still highly addicted. is ripped from him.2. Why is the dumper usually ok and the dumpee always crushed? It’s just like the football player example from above. so.that’s simply the physical form of the true reason…. etc…. He will mistake this feeling for love for her. He is still going through the withdrawals (just like a drug addict). watch ESPN 15 hours per day. he graduates and football. He is an addict. arguing. what he does now is constantly talk about it.
If they never break this cycle they will literally replay the same bad relationship over and over and over with new people for the rest of their lives.2. M and I go into great detail on the role of peptides and addiction in many areas of life. in our new Inner Game seminar. and how it affects us. This is because they haven’t hit pause long enough to get over their current addiction. -Braddock 33 . these people are addicted to having a relationship. every girl or guy they date is almost exactly the same and they may even bitch about not being able to find a good guy or girl.” ever have a friend who CoNstANtlY has to have a girlfriend? Instead of becoming addicted to one person. they will dump one and replace them with one similar and get the same feeling (peptide rush). game. They will just keep finding a new person who fits the bill close enough to give them the peptides their bodies crave. Mr.2 Q & a on Love this is also why so many men and women will “relationship hop.
3 Girl has a Boyfriend.2. we were normal. I’ll tell you what will MurDer tHIs!!! . everything is usual and fine for a few months and becoz this work for me is a temporal work. so the question is. Maybe you are right. i full close her on the 2nd time she was here. so we resume back on msn. jus like how we were in a working environment. we had long conversations on msn. when we first met. for all you know. Maybe that’s not the case. i have a good problem to share here. she told me frm in the early stages of our conversation. how i can find out this and move things further between me and her. i had ran thru EPM there then. she is getting to have her cake and eat it too. 34 . If that is the case. but now. i give a shit. got blown away if i remember correctly coz that was a few months back. 1) she has a bf in that same working environment. i wont be hangin around for long. then i made a date with her on the phone. we wanted to meet and she comes to my place. and i knew about this all along. answer: It would take me 3 hours to write “how exactly to progress things along. But i Know She Likes me http://www. i knew a girl frm a working enviroment. It’s possible that things are rocky and that she is just working out the final death throws of that relationship. obviously she isnt satisfied/happy with her bf but there is something still lingering on between them that is causing her to still be with him. then the worst thing you can do is push or act in any way as if you are emotionally not getting enough from her. so during the last month of my work there. but enjoys banging you.html originally posted by massive Hey guys. they are. right now. things started to heat up.” but instead of that.pushing for a relationship with her. i didnt give a shit then. she fucking loVes this guy. but sometimes. up til a point.com/braddock/108183-girl-has-boyfriend-but-i-know-she-likesme-braddock. We don’t like to think girls are like that. lets hear your inputs.theattractionforums. i seeded stuffs from my home that she HAS to see.
she may even dump this guy. fuck the shit out of her.. remember. -Braddock 35 . Don’t let her know exactly how much you like her. she is having a hard time giving her BoYfrIeND all she has. “look. I found myself being drawn to the other girl. the few girls who have been able to slowly hook me in these situations are the ones that stayed cool. Be spontaneous and fun.3 Girl has a Boyfriend. I might have liked you if we would have kept this up and you would have flipped the script and pulled back on me once you knew I liked you. As loNG As she didn’t get too emotional too fast. and you are stressing me the fuck out).(Yes eVeN If Your CHest Is BurNING AND You HAVe to puNCH A WAll After You Drop Her off) Man up. feel needy and insecure and reach hard emotionally and make you feel like she likes you soooooo much! then when you reciprocate hard and fast. over time. then all of a sudden she feels your distance and starts getting all needy and pushy and kills the whole point of hooking up with her. much less the guy on the side. I think I just need to be single and figure some things out.2. she pulls the rug out from under you and says. In summary: Be cool. but you didn’t. However. value changes focal points. Make her escalate the situation. I just got out of an emotionally draining relationship. laid back. I’m having fun. But i Know She Likes me Have you ever been in her shoes? You were done with one girl. then you start hooking up with a new girl and you are getting to have that fun and free feeling with her. calmly go with it while still making her wonder if she’s got you.” (translation: I liked fucking you. girls are emotional creatures. and when she does. and just straight up made me feel better and have more fun than the other girl I was dating. I just got out of a relationship.. but you had dated her so long that it was hard to walk away. Instead. as we all know.. you are acting like we are dating.
theattractionforums.com/braddock/87246-i-dont-chase-i-replace.html 36 .2...4 “i don’t chase..i replace” http://www...
. He had no other girls (which is no big deal) but even worse.. he would never feel much turmoil over a girl that was giving him the runaround. then you know we have an entire model for running slow burn game) but. this shift in mindset would have been the exact recipe to get the girl to stop being so distant.4 “i don’t chase. I replace.2. he would develop a mini crush on and get messed up inside. the underlying theme is always that of abundance.i replace” It’s been a while since I’ve shared any of the wisdom imparted on by one of my friends and mentors from college I call.. he believed he couldn’t get another one. M and I. It was fucking disgusting! My friend was talking to me and the Godfather and kept rambling on and on about how she treated him like shit and how frustrated he was. strangely. every girl that comes along. texting her all the time. our friend was coming from a really weak place mentally. the Godfather wasn’t trying to be rude. finally our friend who was being a pussy looked at the Godfather and said: Weak sauce: “Hey man. 37 . our buddy was calling her all the time. If he would come from a place of abundance (either through actually dating a lot of women) or simply by accepting and believing that there are always plenty more.” even though my friend was hurting. the Godfather.. it was just a glimpse into his inner game and how his mind operates.. what would you do if you were in my situation?” the Godfather: “I don’t chase man. I couldn’t help but laugh. In no way am I saying you shouldn’t pursue a woman or give up on a girl who is giving you the run around (if you have ever taken social Circle Mastery with Mr. He went on and on and the Godfather just stared at him and said nothing the entire conversation. and would drop anything he was doing to hang out with her if she called him. I remember one time we were talking with one of our friends who was being a complete pussy around this girl he wanted. He kept asking us for strategies and bullshit tactics for how he could get her to come around.
.2. air... this abundance mentality should never end.i replace” It’s ok to “want” a girl.. stop BeING A pussY!!!! As Wayne Dyer says. but the second you “need” her. “I don’t chase.” -Braddock over and out 38 .... you are fucked.4 “i don’t chase. and food..” so start internalizing the mentality. “You need water.you don’t need any individual’s love or approval. If you ever lost a woman during a relationship it is likely because you started to “need” her instead of “want” her. I fucking replace.
Medium fuses .What Would Murder Her Attraction 39 .covered in thiS chapter: 3.3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone .1 to the new Guys! .short fuses .2 dates: Lunch. drinks . dinner.long fuses 3.What types of Girls Are You Working With? .learning Game the right Way 3.
read. Don’t do that!!!! You don’t get good at playing the guitar by reading about the guitar. -Braddock 40 . Whatever amount of time you plan on allotting to pickup whether that is 1 hour per week or 20 hours. read. and then. once your inner game is super solid then your outer game will explode. but they have never actually done it.3. once you’ve been on here a while and you’ve done a bunch of approaches. Work on your inner game an equal amount that you work on your outer game.1 to the new Guys! http://www. Don’t read every post on here and believe it as if it was written by the hand of God. It can change your life with women and make your life better all around. they are not super heroes.theattractionforums. Good luck! stick with it. even the best of the best on here are just guys. make sure that you spend 80% of that time going out and actually doing approaches.com/braddock/61184-new-guys. you play that bitch some more! learn a little piece at a time and only try to add a piece at a time. Most guys get on here and read.html Quick advice I wish someone would have told me when I began: Don’t try to learn it all at once. You play that bitch until your fingers hurt. A lot of guys on here write a bunch of bullshit to sound cool. you will be able to quickly determine which posts are valuable and which ones are written by a guy that has probably never done a single approach.
Dinner: I usually dont do dinner unless if the girl is from my social circle .3.html originally posted by samirnyc View post Hi Guys I just want to hear different opinion about the first date or meeting if you do day game . Sometimes from a logistics point of view lunch makes sence as most girls have nothing set up with BF or friends so they will agree to come out with you more often.com/braddock/108163-dates-braddock-lunch-dinner-drinks. dinner. outing. so I know girls will go out for lunch to get fucked) Drinks are good as the girls know they dont have to sit with you for long if things dont go well. The question I struggle with is ask a girl out for drinks only for the first time .2 dates: Lunch. so you can build comfort and attraction. will engage her again tomorrow (kinda of mini freeze so she knows im not desperate and preserve value) I am wondering should I ask her our for lunch and build comfort & value and then ask her out for drinks on friday or just go for drinks ? Thanks 41 . The reason I ask is b/c I have this new girl HB 9( she upped her dressing) at work and I have done some kino . no sexual escalation at lunch unless you can have lunch sex ( my work wife does it . she did not show up so I ignored her on tuesday and was cool to her today.theattractionforums. drinks http://www. value at first meeting and then asked her to come to a bday party.
“What are you doing? Wanna come over and watch a movie?” skip the middle man and invite her straight to your house. drinks answer: I usually go based on investment and I use the same dynamite stick idea as I use in my phone and text game book.” 42 . she allows you to go sexual. I usually just say. the next time she is cold or distant.pretty much anything is on the table. and only push for the meet up every 4th or 5th time I make contact. she initiates fairly often. she likely would never answer your call or text again.. With a short fuse you have the option of going to get a drink. it goes something like. Long fuse: Girl that rarely replies. medium fuse: This is the category I find most girls in. picture each woman you meet as a stick of dynamite with a different fuse length. a real date. With a medium fuse I would go for the drink or a group meet up.. etc. Short fuse: Girl that wants you really bad. All your jokes hit. she’s on and off the grid. With a long fuse. she wants to hang out. one time she is cool. dinner.2 dates: Lunch.. the times I do make contact and extend an invite. What I do with these girls is patiently and persistently text or call them a few times a week oNlY. It would probably make her uncomfortable if you invited her straight over to your house to hang out. it would be ridiculous to invite her straight to your house.3. However. “You guys should meet us at x.. A drink is a “maybe” but it might still be too much pressure.. I always say play lazy man’s game and get the most done with the least amount of effort.. dinner. With a short fuse. she plays along with all your jokes.
drinks this takes the pressure off of her and leaves her the option of meeting up under laid back conditions. -Braddock 43 . dinner.2 dates: Lunch. the idea is to burn long fuses down to short fuses.3.
girl that I think is cool. Just go game other girls and get more women in your life. but she will not slot me in friend mode. but be willing to lose this girl. listen only mockingly. Allow her brain to lose some of the associations she has toward you. When you do spend time with her. Make fun of her plight and never feel sorry for her on this kind of shit.com/braddock/63998-braddocks-prescription-move-out-ljbf-zone.theattractionforums. If you can’t handle that.. You must realize that you can’t go at her afraid to lose. to try and physically escalate her at this point will feel weird 44 . Don’t be a shoulder to cry on. Don’t set out to make her jealous. get away from her so she can’t affect you emotionally. but not attracted to. move on.. But. Win her? Great! she says no thanks? fine. I don’t know how you act around her. so go for it.. at least you can feel better inside knowing you took your best shot.. If she talks to you about other guys. you are most likely not calibrated to do that without her knowing what you are trying to do.3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone http://www. If I want a girl she may or may not date me. It’s going backwards. pivot. html start with this.3. come back and change the frame. Don’t play therapist. Now. start to slowly treat her differently. Do talk to other girls while trying to get out of friend mode. it’s strategic. the reason you need to get away from her for a while is because it’s hard to change the frame from friend to sexual. then. do’s: After you have spent some time away from her. You obviously like her. As you get better you will fall into friend mode less and less. If you push the envelope with her you are running the risk of losing her for good.. practice staying out of friend mode with new girls. if I make a friend that’s a girl. At least she’ll be around??? fuCK tHAt!!! slowly go for it.. spend less time with her for a while. then just stay in friend mode. fat girl with tons of hot friends. see if this is an isolated situation or see if this is a reoccurring theme. but realize this alone won’t guarantee anything. but don’t laugh at what she says unless it’s truly funny.
3. you will convey them. spend more and more time thinking about other girls and less putting this girl on a pedestal in your mind. think long term not short term. Next time you see her you can send mixed signals and set a new tone for kino escalation. but doesn’t need her. You won’t actually say the words from above..3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone to you and her. but may not change it. the Short term prescription: Get the fuck away from her for a while. usually. you won’t run an opener. time away will help remedy this. stop trying to be the perfect guy for “her.. when a guy falls into friend mode. then you have no use for her.. You don’t have to escalate hard and fast.” fuck the “how can I get her” mentality.. but make yourself scarce. even if you’re dying to see her. You want her in a way that does not include shopping or hearing about her boy problems. Being reactive is not attractive. Becoming a more attractive guy overall and needing her less and less will help you become more attractive to her. but you must kino or it’s off to the friend zone again. If she doesn’t want you in the same way. he started off in comfort instead of attraction and/or he didn’t escalate kino at all. 45 . But. you will just look like you are trying to do something. think I want to become more attractive to women in general. You need to reemerge as a sexual guy who wants her. You seeing her after time has passed allows you to do several things. the always there for her “buddy” is no more. Come back in a few months with a different frame in mind. Don’t avoid her. but you will start alllll over in attraction and run all the phases properly this time. No. You are going to read Magic Bullets if you haven’t and start all over with this girl. if you try to do that tomorrow without time passing. soooo. fuck that. Go get a few other women in your life.
there is no quick fix or line for your situation.3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone Hope this helps. right anyway. come back and pull the fucking trigger. take some time away and then come back and pull the trigger!!!! You can do it man! Good luck. so. Realize. you are going to have to do what I said above. But. if you say. realize and be ok with the idea that you may lose her for good. then. I think this will work itself out over time if you stick with learning all of this stuff. “I can’t risk that. When she does. he will expect her to remove you more and more as her friend and you won’t want to be there to watch her happily with Mr.” just realize that you have already lost her to some other guy although she hasn’t found him yet. -Braddock 46 . and eventually.3.
steps to overcome AA 4.What to say and When to say it - The Benefit of Opening Guys .How to Build rapport with them 47 .Developing the Approach Habit: right Action over emotion .AA remedies 4.covered in thiS chapter: 4.1 approach antxiety .the Approach “Brain” .Your War Against fear .3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) .2 Q & a on approach anxiety .
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you can move to the pitching machine. but mainly because. cool. collected major league baseball player. would he feel anxiety? of course. The first woman you approach essentially feels like it’s the big game. 49 . these guys are not super human. If I took the most calm. and took him a bar. You are feeling nervous for a whole host of reasons. No one is watching and no one is judging you. who never gets nervous in the batter’s box. realize that everyone feels approach anxiety. you will always feel something when you approach.1 approach anxiety your War against fear some of the worst feelings in my life have come when I have chosen to avoid something I wanted out of fear. If you mess that up. we almost always cure 85%-90% of a guy’s approach anxiety by the end of the weekend. In pickup. Knowing that I logically wanted something and then didn’t go for it because I succumb to a bunch of emotional rationalizations that are 95% bullshit. and those who feel it the least are the ones who have done the most approaches. on bootcamp. you don’t get to slowly graduate up to the World Series. They have faced that fear so many times that it has lost its hold. If I took the best dating coach in the world who says he has zero approach anxiety and threw him in the batter’s box against a major league pitcher who throws 100mph. and forced him to approach a beautiful woman he didn’t know. which I will explore in great detail later in this article. By the time the season rolls around. You must cultivate the habit of right action over emotion. you are ready. the weekend forces the guys to get mass exposure like they’ve never experienced. You can do all of this in the off season with no one watching. then a real pitcher. is killer. they have just desensitized themselves to the pain through repetition and carry a mindset focused on long term gratification over short term gratification. you are doing something you have very few reference experiences in. it simply requires you to develop a new habit.4. develop the habit of right action over emotion If you really want your approach anxiety to go away. once you have that down you can start hitting soft toss. but you can manage it. sure. would he feel anxiety? of course. you get to start off on a tee with no one watching. In baseball. once you have that down. no big deal.
we are crippled with the fear of rejection. It is a cancer that can literally hold you in a self-imposed prison keeping you from taking the necessary action required to meet a specific goal. there are several factors in regards to approach anxiety that make this fear of rejection heightened. you would eventually lose the ability to get a rush from riding it. this is done through repetition. we reduce the level of anxiety to a manageable level. far beyond all else. then you will surely feel the rush with the same intensity as you did the very first time you ever road it. However.4. especially early in the learning process. Brian tracy. remember. the habit of courage can be learned just as any other habit is learned. We need to constantly face and overcome our fears to build up the kind of courage that will enable us to deal with the inevitable ups and downs of life unafraid. through repetition. and fear of failure. remove the road blocks in your mind that are holding you back. If you wanted to help a friend get over the fear of riding roller coasters would you have him read 300 books and spend 5 years on a psychologist’s couch.” While there are infinite things we could be afraid of.1 approach anxiety If you rode a roller coaster 500 times in a row. you need to man the fuck up. “Fortunately. or would you put his ass on a roller coaster again and again? Just like any other habit you want to create in your life. at our core. says. the fastest way to ensure that you have approach anxiety for the rest of your life is to only do one or two approaches every now and then. usually. there are certain factors that predispose us to heightened levels of fear or anxiety. let’s look at a few that you can remove: 1. the fear of rejection is the most damaging because it can literally be crippling. By removing those factors. approaching in front of old friends We all know that failure is unavoidable in any new endeavor and that the lion share of failure takes place at the beginning of learning something new. If you only ride that roller coaster once or twice a month. this means that your fear of rejection is not 50 . some of them are unavoidable and in regards to those. My favorite self help guru. several factors are within your control.
You have a well-defined role within that circle. having insight into the feelings of others enables us to understand what they value. richard restak says. you don’t want to be openly ridiculed by them. respond well to us. While this is less important in most situations. but also when 51 . how they feel about us. When I was first learning this stuff. one thing that I see consistently in the books I’ve read on neurobiology is the brain is a horrible multi tasker. and to predict their future behavior. or watch our friends and family experience their own ups and downs. approaching in a Local venue I’ve spent the last 2 years of my life studying every book I could get my hands on that had to do with the brain and how it works. on the nights when you are going out to work on this stuff. get rejected quite a bit when you approach women. especially in the beginning. once you are over your approach anxiety you can start chasing girls in front of those guys and it won’t be such a big deal. You don’t want the role in your group to change. By going out with them and wrestling two demons at once. What can make this even worse is the fact that you are trying to learn this in front of old friends who have never seen you behave in this new way. Dr. I was paralyzed and did nothing. and aren’t judging us. You will. remedy: Knowing that you are trying something new and scary. it’s very helpful when attempting something new and stressful. to offer appropriate support or gain competitive advantage.” The medial prefrontal cortex fires up not only when we actually experience an event. don’t go out with the guys who add to your stress. I couldn’t go out with my older brother and his friends because I couldn’t stand the thought of looking bad in front of them. An area of our brain that this drastically affects is the medial prefrontal cortex (MpfC). and you don’t want to be ridiculed behind your back.1 approach anxiety completely unfounded. As we interact with colleagues. As ridiculous as that frame of mind might be. We all thrive when we deal with people who we feel understand us. and to get rejected in front of them could create a level of social pressure from them that you are not sure you are willing to accept. by simply removing them on the nights I wanted to work on this stuff I was able to fight just one demon that night: my crippling approach anxiety . the last thing you need is extra pressure from your friends. “the MpfC springs into action whenever we direct our attention inward and think about ourselves or outward and think about others. compete with opponents. this retarded my growth on a massive level.4. 2. especially in high stress situations. Go out with the one or two guys who you are most relaxed around and don’t feel like you would be judged. in fact.
your MpfC will be doing back flips trying to assess how they feel about you. or have seen multiple times.4. If you are scared of public speaking and you are speaking to a group of important clients.. this is essentially like driving drunk.over and over etc… each time this happens. What if I get blown out and she knows someone I know? My ex girlfriend is in here. This means that our attention gets scattered and fractionated like crazy in high stress situations. You will oscillate between: full attention on your speech --> What they are thinking about me? --> full attention on your speech --> What are they thinking about me? …. It also fires off when we think about putting ourselves in the shoes of another person looking back at us. this explains why you feel like you are naked on stage when you are in your local bar trying to approach. Now all of a sudden you decide to approach either these groups of people or approach strangers in front of these people. Now you can’t stop thinking about what all these people in the bar who you kind of know are thinking about you. Your mind can’t keep up with all the inputs and it’s almost impossible to focus. he’ll probably say something smart ass to me. what if she or one of her friends sees me get blown out? that asshole I knew in college is in here. If I get blown out in front of him. you are so concerned with what the crowd is thinking that you can’t even talk. the more we are concerned with what the other person thinks about us. scanning to assess how they ‘might’ feel or what they ‘might’ be thinking. you are obviously pulled away from your speech and you lose focus. Before you know it. “What if it goes wrong? I’ll never be able to show my face in here again. What if I use a line and she’s heared it before? she’ll tell everyone in here. the more our MpfC will fire off. You become more and more self conscious every time you lose your place in your speech and the MpfC fires off more concentrated and much more often. You are in a bar full of people you either know.” Now your MpfC is scanning the room at lightning speed trying to assess the feelings of everyone 52 .1 approach anxiety we ‘think’ about experiencing an event. You feel disoriented and anxious as a result. The fear of rejection and failure kicks in and fires off your MPFC. kind of know.
but it will feel more like public access channel 13 at 3am. Your mind never hardwires any of the concepts and you become a master of theory and you actually get worse with women instead of better. 2 hours. I don’t want to be like that. What kind of fool goes up to a woman and says. then at some undetermined time in the future. and then stands there like a moron?” that’s actually a fair point. remedy: DoN’t prACtICe IN tHese plACes!!!!!! It’s that simple. you will still feel the pressure and your MpfC will still scan the room. this kind of thinking is one of the biggest mistakes you can make. If I’m going to go over there. I want to at least have something to say. hi. yet avoidable. Yes. I know I felt the same way when I was learning this stuff. you plan to start approaching. eventually. “Any idiot can have the balls to go over there and make a fool of himself. instead of HBo on sunday night at 9pm. because of approach anxiety. 53 . What really happens is that you read an insane amount of information and NeVer digest any of it.1 approach anxiety in the room. i don’t know what to say this is a pretty common. You will be more apt to keep your composure and stay in the moment. thinking like this can cause more long term damage than you can imagine. You now feel like you have 50 video cameras on you and the thought of approaching feels about as scary as pulling your cock out on national tV. You might be thinking. but not with such ferocity. sometimes even 4 hours away so I could practice in a place where I didn’t feel like I was on national television. What this causes is the death of action and the birth of a guy who reads for months and never actually approaches. When I was learning this stuff and approach anxiety was my number one concern I would drive to cities 1 hour. You begin to think that you should read and study pickup ebooks and memorize every possible routine and funny line. you can slowly test the waters in the places that gave you the most pain.4. your local bar won’t seem that daunting and you will have little or no trouble approaching a woman in these venues. once you get comfortable with your approach anxiety in these places. sadly. 3. You may still feel like you are on tV.
you still can’t think of anything to say. bad or good interactions. because each experience seems to validate that you are completely lost. You read and assume.1 approach anxiety reading without practical application through real world experience causes you to develop major gaps in your learning.000 things there are to learn in game and learn them one at a time. take the 1. You become over stuffed with random knowledge. “A journey of 1. digest those. You feel guilty inside because you feel like you should be really good considering you know theory better than any dating coach on the planet and you wonder how it is possible with all that reading. it goes either horribly bad or just ok. Change your mission.000 miles begins with a single step. will help you connect the dots between each piece of new information you acquire. stick with these 2 things for a while. You are so nervous because you haven’t approached in a long time and when you finally do.4. pick one or two things to open with and one or two things to transition with. stick with them until your approach anxiety drops to a reasonable level and you feel like you have those down. you ever do decide to take action. You build false constructs in your mind of what the author really means and you create some weird mutation of reality. so. your brain locks up and gives you massive approach anxiety because you have all this information in your head.” take one piece of information and go out and master it before moving on to the next. the act of actually approaching and interacting with women. approaching the next girl makes you even more nervous. you simply play a guessing game in your head. Your approach anxiety will go away in direct proportion to the amount of women you approach and your ability to master one step at a time. Advanced concepts mean nothing if your brain 54 . Give up on the idea that you need to have the perfect thing to say before you approach a woman. and if. remedy: As the age-old saying goes. but you have no idea what to do with it or what order it should go in. When you just read all the time or talk pickup all the time. When. they are worthless in bulk. Approach anxiety is the first one on that list. You need to start with small amounts of knowledge. If you can’t open then there is no reason to be reading about the newest qualification technique or sexual frame to have. While the lines and routines are extremely powerful. and really master them before moving on to the next piece. this makes you feel anxiety and frustration.
you can begin to stay longer and longer. it’s about being calm in those situations so you can access what you already know. The first week you do this. You don’t need to memorize 300 lines to talk to an old friend. but for now. the more calm and the more internalized your openers and transitions become.4. You might get nervous on the first few of each night. please. realize that there is no reason why you can’t just walk up. and the opposite end of that spectrum might be smacking a girl on the ass. Go out and give yourself mini missions. transition. as your mind calms down in these highpressure situations. Yes. the recipe: to defeat your approach anxiety. they will make things worse because your brain will feel clogged. you just relax and talk to one another. but most of them will feel like nothing. After numerous approaches over several weekends. If anything.1 approach anxiety and body are engulfed with crippling anxiety. you will become bored just approaching and walking off. Also. and then politely eject. Between those two polarities you can expose yourself to gradual increases. you need to expose yourself to gradual increasing doses of social pressure. no matter how short or long. the more material you can add if you like. you may run out of things to say after 5 seconds! However. Memorizing 300 routines is Not a remedy for approach anxiety or a recipe to get laid. once you hit that threshold. It’s not about memorizing more lines. You do not have to stand there like an idiot for an hour having an awkward conversation. Give yourself a break and tackle this one thing first. the women won’t care and it will take tons of pressure off of you. it’s like going to the gym for your brain. you are just working on beating approach anxiety. the more your brain will calm down and begin picking up conversational reference experiences. please. every time you approach and start a conversation. your brain will allow you more access to the creative side of your brain. trust me when I say that you will never memorize 300 routines and be able to go out to a bar and use them. the lowest form of this may simply be talking to a clothing store clerk. open. right? As you become more and more relaxed with this process. Keep doing the same one until the anxiety it gives you is either manageable or non-existent. right? 55 . move on to the next thing on your list that gives you an increased dose of social pressure. the more times you expose yourself to these situations. You will literally build conversational muscles. in time you will obviously need to stay longer.
the absolute ideal state is indifference. putting yourself in these gradual-increasing levels of social pressure will help you reach indifference much faster. then most/all women must not like them. then getting over the fear of rejection can feel daunting. because you may be used to beautiful women in your old social circles being all over you or even nervous to talk to you. If you are not careful. When you are talking to a friend or an acquaintance. measurable. Because of this fear/pain. They assume that if several women reject them. this can be a mind trip. these small goals slowly give birth to bigger and bigger goals. While you may not be getting laid or getting the women you want for that time. this can create some deep seeded inner game issues that are hard to unwind.” This is why it’s so crucial that. If you are not used to dating very many women or you are new to cold approach. Many guys take it personally. Your goal should be to get it to a manageable level. You will hear “no” from beautiful women and from women you wouldn’t even consider dating anyway. and realistic goals. this is the path that will lead you to dating those women by giving you the positive reference experience 56 . This one single factor is enough to keep most guys on the sidelines their entire lives. At the end of the day. i’m not interested in you”: The fear of rejection can be a heavy feeling when you first start out. it’s them.4. it is not the least bit uncommon to have below average women look at you like you have a dick growing out of your forehead when you approach. You can only pump yourself up for so long and keep telling yourself that it will be ok or that “It’s not you. you are still hitting those small goals. you write out clearly defined. In the sloppy world of cold approach. they assume that the woman sees some deep internal character flaw in them that must be true. even if you are a guy who is lucky enough to have been extremely successful with women in your social circles. you will have to get used to hearing “no” in cold approach. You can gain a ton of confidence by hitting small goal after small goal. it is successful reference experiences that breed confidence. you are not too worried about what they are thinking and you have little or no concern about what the room is thinking. facing the harsh reality of “no. this is the feeling you have when you are talking to a friend or an acquaintance.1 approach anxiety You will never completely eradicate your approach anxiety and that should not be your goal. especially in the first 6 to 9 months. they will be relegated to dating the women that come on to them or they will have to build a dynasty of a social circle and hope it creates enough gravity to draw women to them based on their lifestyle and social alliances.
You would set up a game plan and a business strategy full of subsidiary goals all leading to the attainment of the big goal.4. If you are new and you have MAssIVe approach anxiety…. step back and draw up a realistic 6 month game plan where you can have success. If you wanted to become a millionaire. so.1 approach anxiety you need to build durable confidence. a million dollars. You can do this. would you get your feelings hurt and become deflated if you weren’t a millionaire tomorrow? 3 months from now? 6 months from now? of course not.stop MAKING Your GoAl to Get lAID!!!!!!!! ready for some real talk??? you are not likely to consistently get laid or get an extremely hot girlfriend through cold approach for several months or longer if you are at the stage where you still suffer from severe approach anxiety. stop beating yourself up with ridiculous goals and stop feeling bad when you don’t have some epic sexual conquest or get 5 phone numbers. Do the same with your dating life. just step up and make it happen!! -Braddock 57 .
com/braddock/93683-q-approach-anxiety.4.html Question: What are the steps a guy can follow to go from not really approaching ANY women to approaching at least 1 woman per day with no fear of rejection. do you know which way sunset Blvd is?” “Hi.theattractionforums. if i had to start all over from scratch. and his measure of success on any one approach is either getting a phone number or getting laid. I would give myself fun “mini missions.” I would go in with the mindset of accomplishing one mission: • “I’m going to go open her and transition with a cold read and then eject. Do not approach hoping for a phone number.. If a guy has never done a single approach.e. don’t approach with any outcome in mind. and then eject.2 Q & a on approach anxiety http://www. can you tell me what time it is?” etc… I would do this until my mind calmed down in these situations before I tried to graduate up to the more advanced and lengthy conversations.? answer: He needs to first set realistic goals.” • “I’m going to go open a girl and tease her about something and get her laughing. once that is under control. 58 . When you are first starting out and you are just trying to get over your fear of rejection. i would say: first just start with baby steps.” • “I’m going to go open a girl and high five her for something random. “excuse me. I would tell myself to go out and just open girls with information gathering questions and then eject. then eject.. and i could give myself a little advice. I would just make the mini missions a little harder each time.” I would keep doing these types of things until I could do them with little or no anxiety. then he is setting himself up for long term failure.” • “I’m going to go open a girl and try to ask her one qualifying question before I eject. once I got comfortable with that. i.
2 Q & a on approach anxiety once I felt like I could do them with ease. When you give it the mission of “crawl” the self concept can conceptualize that mission. even once you reach mastery. “Why do I have to lift weights and eat right to have a good body?” -Braddock 59 . don’t waste another second on it. I would create fun new rules. run. Guys get locked up because they are trying to run when they can’t even crawl. and more specifically. It’s like asking. they need to accept that rejection is part of the process and that we all go through it. and pickup is no different. can’t identify with running because it has zero reference points to link too. It is what it is. their self concept.4. jog. Don’t dwell on it and don’t try to understand why. In the army. it locks up and fires off the emotion of fear and anxiety. Accept it and move on. Maybe. walk. “crawl. they have a learning strategy called. Their mind. As a result. that would be a great place to start. I would give myself a “there’s no way out rule” where I wasn’t allowed to eject until she either walked off or until I had her phone number.” this is the proper way to attack any new endeavor.
If they are holding hands or overly comfortable with simple touching. only when the guys are standing around her and she looks bored.html originally posted by tornadopuA Hey guys. I’ve done this a bunch of times and never had an altercation. Tornado answer: 1. “you turn everyone around her into spectators.” It’s pretty awesome when you can make this hit. If I can tell they are dating. If you are getting approach invitations and the guys look like pussies. You can usually tell if they are dating just by watching how they interact with one another. It’s pretty risky and you better make sure the guys around her aren’t meat head guys that get pissed easy. there are too many girls to try to mess with that and it’s a quick way to get in a fight. What’s the best way to open mixed sets? Do you just run any normal opener (e. Drunk I love yous. you can usually tell.) on the guys then ask how everyone know each other and then move on to talk with the girls or do you do some small talk with the guys (on what subjects?) for like 2-3 minutes and then ask him to introduce you to the rest of the group? Thanks. I would either open the girl and introduce myself to the guys if and 60 . but I never do it on a girl that looks like she is truly dating a guy. then I would just go direct on the girl and the guys will usually melt away.g. I move on. you have a couple of options. If you don’t have approach invitations/or the guys look like normal to tougher guys. When actually opening mixed sets.4. B.com/braddock/103560-opening-mixed-groups-guys-girls.3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) http://www. A.theattractionforums. Long Distance Relationship. etc. then I would Not go direct right away. As tim from rsD would say. 2. I always watch for a little while to learn the group dynamic. Is kissing cheating.
Most people in the community dismiss the art of “Guy Game. “this is my girlfriend” even though it’s clearly not. Don’t kiss his ass either. Don’t be a dick and don’t act like you are doing something wrong.4. and don’t act like you did something wrong. and say. 61 . Put his mind at ease by talking to him and getting to know him a little bit. You can open the guy. “You didn’t tell me this is your boyfriend? How long have you guys been dating?” If she likes you she will almost always clarify the situation and make it awkward for the guy. that looks weird. sometimes. the key question that everyone knows you must ask if you don’t know is: “so. I usually smile and turn to her. Be warm to him just long enough to get his respect and then move back to the girl. You weren’t flirting with her technically. If you act like you are doing something wrong then the guy will smell the fear and blow you out. If he’s not. I won’t ask this until I think the girl is somewhat attracted to me or if I can tell the guy is getting mad. If it’s legitimately his girlfriend then don’t just run off. how do you guys know each other?” You can tell pretty quickly after asking this what the score is. Now. Just talk to him as if he is an old friend. He’ll act like a dick and try to dismiss you and the woman will start to act more dismissive to you as well. In that case. pussy orbiter guys will answer the same question with. When a guy like this says that. C. You are just a chatty guy who happened to start a conversation with his girlfriend. Just be polite as if you are meeting a stranger on a plane. Meet the rest of his group if he is a warm guy. find a natural place to excuse yourself and move on.3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) when they tried to come in. just ignore him and continue going after her. but it’s actually quite useful for getting you out of potentially dangerous situations and quite powerful for quickly making friends and getting introductions to really hot girls.” which may sound silly.
“Did you graduate from oklahoma? You look really familiar?” or. then I might say. “You guys celebrating something tonight or what?” He’ll say.whatever he says.. because if a guy did that to me I would laugh in his face and quickly dismiss him. I’ll say. Calabrese says that guys are easy. oldest..” -Braddock 62 ..4. Calabrese. which one are you dating?” He’ll. I make a statement about how he better quit staring at my girlfriend and I point to the fattest... I make a statement about how hot the girls are in there. then I’ll say. or...”Are you friends with Brian Hawkins? I swear I met you at one of his parties. that’s it.. I don’t ever open them with a traditional opener. “I’m kinda talking to that sara girl and that blond over there is dating my cousin. just to get him laughing.. sometimes. has the best “Guy Game” I’ve ever seen.3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) one of our instructors.bla bla bla. because there are only 3 things you need to talk to them about to build rapport: sports. He opens guys quite a bit and almost always ends up meeting one of the guy’s girl buddies. and beer. but that blond right there is single and she is a slut. pussy. “these girls are really cute. I just have a 2 to 3 minute conversation about random shit and then I say.. then (assuming you built a decent rapport) break down the entire group dynamics for you and often times introduce you to girls. woman in the place. is that your girlfriend?” or. “that girl right there is really cute. I usually ask them if x local sports team won that night. It’s too transparent. let me introduce you.” then.
local Vs.the Breakdown 63 .Creating the right push to pull ratio .Why Jokes Hit and Why they Don’t .1 Q & a: how can i make Girls Laugh? . Global themes 5.2 how to flirt with Women: the art of push/pull - The Definition of Push/Pull .covered in thiS chapter: 5.How push/pull Works .
I’m just kidding.. local themes are themes that are funny only if you have been in that exact situation or had that exact very specific experience. a joke about one of those member’s quirks will get a laugh out of everyone.. In humor. 64 . and have seen at least the top movies. then they will get these jokes. been on the same trips.same jokes on girls in cold approach and a God damn tumble weed would roll through the room and you could hear crickets chirp. A girl coming into your preexisting social circle will laugh at jokes she doesn’t quite get to feel accepted or because she can tell everyone else is responding to you well. I had this same problem. “Global” themes are themes that everyone can get and that need zero prior knowledge for them to be understood. You guys build joke after joke off of themes that have been running for years. In cold approach. because it probably actually ties in several “local” themes that have been long running.com/braddock/126791-q-how-can-i-make-girls-laugh. but its really hard to just get into that same mindset with a stranger.. think of it like this. have internet. You’ve seen the same movies... maybe..5. As long as they have been on the planet.theattractionforums. you don’t get that luxury.then.html originally posted by barney stintson: so i can crack an endless amount of jokes and teases when i’m with my close friends. you have “local” and “global” themes.1 Q and a: how can i make girls laugh? http://www. This is what usually manifests with your buddies.any ideas on how to break that barrier? What makes me funny is heavy doses of cheap booze and even cheaper women. I also noticed that women found my jokes much funnier once I dropped in that I had a 13 inch cock. since all members know each member very well. What I figured out is that I was trying to pull them into humor that required too much insider info for a newcomer... watch some tV.. you know specific quirks and character traits of each member of the group. A one liner from a favorite movie will have the group cracking up. Cracking my boys up and girls in my social circle ...
they can get used to you.5. -Braddock 65 .. and then you can start building “local” jokes with them as the interaction progresses. but by starting with these. you can open them up to the idea that you are funny.. or. see your style of humor. Jumping in with the “local” jokes is doable. Introduce a “global” theme and if they laugh. Just tell them you have a 13 inch cock that you want to put in or around their mouth.1 Q & a: how can i make Girls Laugh? these jokes are often less funny. start introducing “local” themes to add spice and conspiracy between the two of you. this can happen really fast.. but it obviously risks them not getting it and making you feel like your cock is hanging out in 2* weather.
how to flirt with Women: the art of push/pull
http://www.theattractionforums.com/braddock/111917-braddock-how-flirt-women-art-push-pull. html In my years of being a Dating Coach it’s become apparent that the most important and easiest way to flirt with women is to use what is called push/pull. Basic Definition: “Saying something nice and dove tailing it with something mean or saying something mean and dove tailing it with something nice.” On a more advanced level of flirting, using push/pull is the art of using both your physical touch/ facial expressions and your words in unison. this could mean that you tease her about something or playfully call her out on something, yet while doing so, you are smiling, you pull her in and hug her just before she gets mad to show her you are kidding. the guys I know who are the best with women when it comes to flirting, building attraction in the first encounter, building attraction in social circle settings, or maintaining a fun relationship are masters of push/pull. to truly master push/pull you must learn to calibrate to the woman. each woman has her own default push/pull blueprint. some girls‘ blueprint is that they respond best when the ratio is 5 pushes to every 1 pull. With these types of women, they will quickly get bored with a guy who tries to compliment “pull” too often. even with these women, the pull must appear at some point or she will give up, lose interest, and assume you are just a jerk. Other girls’ default blueprint is just the opposite. If you want to properly flirt with these women, you will be best off giving light compliments “pulling” maybe 5 times for every one tease “push.” However, even though each woman has her own default blueprint for when she first meets new guys, this blueprint can quickly change relative to your value. that same woman who would have felt massive attraction to a 5 pushes to 1 pull ratio, will not be receptive to a low value guy attempting such a ratio. However, the woman who responds better to 5 pulls and 1 push and would normally get upset if an average guy teased her too much, will have no problem being teased hard by a guy who she considers extremely high value in her social circle, or by a celebrity.
How to Flirt with Women: The Art of Push/Pull
Basic example of push/pull: the push: (underlined) the pull: (Bold) I meet a girl, we are flirting, but 10 minutes in I find out she is from Texas. Since I’m originally from oklahoma, there is a natural reason for immediate push/pull. Braddock: “Damn, you’re from texas. (faking disappointment with face and body language) this sucks, you’re really cute and i was just starting to like you, but now I have to break up with you. I’m going to need my CD’s back and my letter jacket. Now that I know you are from texas, I don’t feel so bad about cheating on you. But, you were amazing in bed. this makes me sad.” (pretend to walk away, then come back smiling. she drops her jaw and playfully punches me in the arm. i pull her in, hug her and kiss her on the cheek). Breakdown of the above: the push? (underlined) Any point in the above where I’m saying something mean, pretend to break up with her, pretend to be disappointed, or fake walking away. Go out and practice pushing as hard as you can without pissing girls off. the sweet spot is when she is almost mad, but you can tell she likes that you have the balls to push her buttons, yet the social savvy to release the tension by intermittently complimenting or physically being warm by “pulling.” Go out for a week and mess this up. I give you permission to piss some girls off. this is the only way you will know what the boundary is with this stuff. the more she likes you and the more attracted she is, the harder you can push. this is how you build deep layers of attraction with women. the farther you can successfully take things with the teasing “pushing”, the better it will feel for her when you do release the tension by being warm verbally or physically, “pulling.” the pull? (Bold) Any point in the above where I compliment her, smile, or physically escalate. When you are trying to flirt with women, don’t kill the sexual tension by over pulling.
How to Flirt with Women: The Art of Push/Pull
Most guys will say, “Just kidding” when the girl wasn’t even mad. save comments like “just kidding” for when you truly piss her off and even then, use it sparingly. Also, don’t kill sexual tension by playfully pushing, but laughing at your own joke too early in an attempt to break the tension, hoping she will ‘be ok with it.’ Have some balls and be ok with creating some tension. this tension is what makes the compliments, “the pull”, actually feel really good. No tension + pulling = no attraction and no secondary gain of the pull feeling good. pulling with no attraction is simply validating her, not causing a connection. Go out and practice complimenting. range them and see what happens. Notice the difference when you give light compliments after several teases. Notice that it doesn’t kill the tension, but actually allows you to push it farther. then try over complimenting too early and being way too nice and notice how it kills the sexual tension and makes it even harder to push the next time. Would you guys like more articles like this? Comment below and let me know. -Braddock
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earliest form of takeaways: • Role Play takeaways: o that’s it. the more you just sound like a chump who is jaded by women. the lighter the takeaways must be. o some girls will need Zero takeaways. o try them out and see how she responds and calibrate accordingly. stolen from Dog Whisper pssst. • Takeaways are best used by acting through your own intentions. but the more you do the less they will hit.1 takeaways for SnLs remember. so go 3 pushes to every 1 pull. the harder the takeaways can be. Change up the push/pull ratio and find her blueprint. o this post is a gross generalization. 71 . “to same night lay a 10. you need to be fucking possessed. but calmly submissive (yes. we are getting a divorce. • The best way to qualify what you are is to disqualify what you ARE NOT.” • The more she likes you. • The less power you have. some girls hate that.6. she will eventually give up or get defensive. remember how push/pull works. every woman has a different blueprint and therefore responds to different things. so go 3 pulls to every 1 push. Some girls like a dick. • To get 10’s on a same night or to get 10’s you will usually need takeaways. • You have to be fucking fearless when you do takeaways. • The less she likes you.. • Here you will do takeaways to punish resistance. As TD would say. o some girls will need 100... If you are all push.pssst). o You can fake takeaways. she likes the jousting and every time you do a takeaway she submits more and more on a sub communication level and eventually she is chasing you and escalating you physically and sometimes logistically. takeaways are a push in nature. o A perfect balance is when the girl is frustrated.
o I fucking hate girls like you. girls like you are bad for me. o (Dubbsy style): “How many dates before I can get in your pants…at least 3 I’m guessing. we aren’t having sex. fights every day. I like you. o You and I would end up hating each other after about 2 months. o fuck this.I know how this story ends. o You are fired.” • “Your friend is starting to piss me off…I think I’m out of here.ok this is date 2…” o This would be all fights and make up sex. passionate sex. You need to run along….1 takeaways for SnLs o that’s it. o Being almost annoyed by her presence. 72 . and a horrible breakup.. I always end up dating girls like you. but if that’s all you think I want from you after talking to you all night then fuck this…. if you stick around I’m going to do bad things to you and I promised myself when I saw you. we are breaking up. o You have been eliminated. pulling stage takeaways: • “You know what. takeaways In Comfort: • Admitting your sexual desires: o “I think you better go.” Beat Her to the punch takeaways: • You are a player aren’t you? • Just so you know. o Give short answers and talk to everyone else (make her feel the burn).I’m out.6. o Girls like you are bad for me. so this is date one. o Ignore her. ok. even though I think you are fucking hot.. let’s go to the bar…. 3 months of crazy. o I can’t keep talking to you. • She says something you don’t like: o Go silent.“ • Running from your feelings: o I need to get away from you. I would just be your friend.
1 takeaways for SnLs logistic takeaways: • “Look. then tonight is a waste of time. -Braddock 73 . I do. I didn’t know you were x. fuck it. if that’s true..” o “look.” • “If you don’t want to be with me then stay here with your friends. if you have to listen to your friends then go. no wait.” • “Go with your friends. if you think that’s all I want.don’t come.” o Girl: “You can’t come in. then fuck this.” o “I had no idea you were this judgmental. You know I like you. but I’m not into one night stands.” takeaways In seduction : • “Promise me this won’t be a one night stand.” • “I want to go.” suck it. but I’m not going to beg you to.” o You: “You know what. I’m not having sex with you. either come or don’t. I’m fucking out. If you don’t trust me….” • “I know this sounds weird.” (organizing principle: “I thought you were awesome.6. I want you to come.”) • Reversals o “I didn’t think you were like this. no wait….
these are just generalities. runs perfect game.. http://www. logistically. remember. it could happen. some women will literally go their entire life and never have sex with a guy the same night she met him because her threshold is so high. Not because she’s “so moral”. even the sweetest girl or most high value woman in the world “could” have a same night lay. the problem is that each woman has a different threshold for what it would take to have sex with a guy the same night. If one of those things was off. and other guys are all about building huge amounts of sexual tension through push/pull until the girl basically pulls them into the bedroom (my personal favorite). Maybe one day I will have time to write extensively on same night lay game. it would almost be impossible.com/braddock/103638-same-night-lay-simple-pointers. and she has to be feeling xYZ feelings etc etc etc. her threshold might only be met by a guy who looks like Brad pitt. it had to be the perfect location. some women’s threshold is so high that it’s impossible for almost anyone on the planet to get there in one night. there are so many things that go into having good same night game and there are so many different styles you can take. and the stars would have to align for someone to have sex with her that night.. every girl has a different blueprint that may take one or several of the things mentioned below. some guys go super sexual verbally and escalate really fast. 74 . some guys are all about building massive comfort. the sun. but because so many strange variables would have to be covered. but for now here are a few pointers that should help… SnL threshold: Any girl can turn into a sNl. she wouldn’t have sex.theattractionforums.6.html If you are a guy that is oNlY looking for same night lays. the moon. some guys are all about sexual framing... tyler D used to say that it’s all about finding her blueprint. If the right guy came along at the right time. here are a few things that will help you have more consistent success. her friends couldn’t know about it. the thought of having sex on the same night for some women might be so taboo that no matter how turned on. and comfortable with the guy she was.. attracted.2 Same night Lay Simple pointers.
.. you need to get good at reading girls thresholds. Who did she come with? Who drove? How far away does she live? etc. (All these assume you understand calibration and assume you have massive attraction) • She flinches multiple times at the idea of bouncing: Most women will give token resistance to bouncing back to your place. she may logistically follow you around the club and would stand there all night long but won’t let you make even the most basic of escalation…. Most girls aren’t like this. in most cases. but a woman with a high SNL threshold will flinch hard every time you even hint at bouncing no matter how attracted she is.MoVe oN!!!! 75 . terrible logistics will override attraction and she will end up not going home with you. I’m just making the case for some women so you don’t beat yourself up every time a woman won’t go home with you. right?” We all know what she can say often times betrays what she really feels. screen for girls that have a medium to low same night threshold. what I’m talking about are things that are obvious red flags that “most of the time” spell an extremely high threshold that will put the brakes on the same night lay later that night. So…. then. if she gives major resistance to any of the below…. etc… If several of these questions get shit answers…. the point is that if you are obsessed with same night lays..2 Same night Lay Simple pointers. I’m talking about the woman who will barely let you hold her hand.neXt Set! If you are obsessed with sNls then you will want to screen any girl out that has a moderate to high threshold. even if you could pull this girl. I suggest you move on.Ie “You know I’m not going to have sex with you. I’m not talking about listening to what she says exactly…. • She flinches when you escalate: I’m not talking about a girl who doesn’t want to look like a slut in front of her friends..MoVe oN!! • Bad Logistics: If she lives 45 minutes away and she is with a carload of friends. No. who wants to drive her back 45 minutes away in the morning? Besides that..find out logistics early.6.
6. sexual teasing.” -Braddock 76 . most of your mom’s fall in the “low sNl threshold.2 Same night Lay Simple pointers.. sexual frames. then I’m moving on. but for you advanced guys it should make sense. same night lays are much more complex than this. remember.” My mom would of course be in the “high sNl threshold. obviously.….. sexual qualification etc. and these are generalities. • She flinches when you joke sexually: Once again I’m not talking about when you don’t have attraction and you are trying to talk sexual like a horny 7th grader.If I can’t put her in at least a semi sexual state. I’m talking about when you know she is interested and she just won’t bite on any kind of sexual role play.
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how do i date hotter Girls? “proximity is power.”
how do i date hotter Girls? “proximity is power”
one of my favorite quotes and the foundational pillars of social Circle Mastery is, “proximity is power.” At the end of the day, you guys wouldn’t be doing this if you didn’t want hotter women in your life. If it was just sex or quantity, then, you could just take down a drunk bar pig every night. However, at the end of the day, I got into all of this to date/bang hotter women. (GoD Help Me If ANYoNe oN Here WrItes tHe GAYest sAYING of All tIMe, “But BrADDoCK ...A Hot GIrl Is relAtIVe. WHAt’s Hot to You MAY Be uGlY to Me.”) fuCK You!!!!! ok, moving on. What I have discovered is that at the end of the day, the guys who date the Hottest women Are Not NeCessArIlY the guys with the best game....No. they are the guys with “enough” game... but superior proximity. they are the guys who have consistent close proximity to beautiful women. I know some of my boys back in oklahoma who have some of the best game I’ve ever seen....who AreN’t dating beautiful women consistently. When they come visit me in lA, they smash it. they are like kids in a candy store. However, in Oklahoma, they are fighting for one of the three hot girls in the club or social circle and the margin for error is insanely small. on the other end of the spectrum, I have buddies in lA who have very average game, but they have access to beautiful women through their social circle, and as a result, they are consistently dating hot women. Guys are always asking me, “How do I get hotter women?” they think I’m going to give them some trick line or inner game shift that will set them free and unleash their inner cocksman. they are usually disappointed by my answers...
... because in that room she is.. “When I get a hot girl I can’t walk away from her no matter how bad the relationship is.” 3...” 4. you are still greatly increasing your odds if you are in a room full of beautiful women.. Guys develop major inner game issues over this very simple distinction.000 times.1 how do i date hotter Girls? “proximity is power” 1.we all do when we only go to shit bars with one hot girl in them and we can feel that we have one shot and it must be a homerun).10 times and not have to be so pushy and desperate. it’s less a measure of skill and more random luck...” this is why sCM is so important.7. because she is so hard to replace.. true 10’s.... you’re 81 .. Do you want to make things easy on yourself so you can see her 3. “stop beating yourself up wondering why you can’t pull the one 10 out of that shit local bar near your house where there are 300 dudes. so things can happen more organically? I do. coupled with game and a few lucky logistical breaks. classic inner Game issues Stemming from this: “I get shaky around hot women... Can you sniper off a 10 in a shit venue? Yes.4. If you pull her. “figure out where there is a large gathering of hot girls..and 1 hot girl.. Consistently? No..” (Guess what..and join that. even if you are limited to cold approach because you don’t have time to build a social circle. I can’t be myself. Create a lifestyle where you are naturally in the path of hot women all the time. wouldn’t you rather go 3 for 10 in a room full of super hot women? I would..5. “fall into friend mode with at least 3 hot girls who have hot friends. Do you get a special blue ribbon if you can? No.” 2. I’m great on 6’s and 7’s. If you normally go 3 for 10 in any club regardless of quality.hobby.. A girl in this club thinks she’s a 15.social club.. “Become friends with a few club promoters. when you snag the one hot girl out of the shit venue after going there 3.get access to all those clubs that won’t let you in.” (Yeah...10 girls.class.
you will get used to being around hot girls.. How to penetrate these places and social circles? that’s a whole post in itself.” just normal guys who get it and understand this naturally.) Am I saying you don’t need good game? of course not.. When you build a social circle full of hot girls and you start penetrating the hottest clubs in your area. get blown out by hot girls..7. -Braddock 82 .. (Not “pickup guys. and land some of those hot girls. Your body will calm down and you will start to feel less stressed about any one girl. :D ok. You will warm up on hot girls. It starts with getting your lifestyle together.you probably just need less than you think.1 how do i date hotter Girls? “proximity is power” going to feel a complete lack of abundance). and surrounding yourself with a team of cool guys who get it. You need to have some skill. getting involved. next caller.
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If your dad was a weak guy who was just happy to have ‘a’ wife. then through watching our friends. who did you accidentally model? Was your dad a smooth. When you think back to your childhood. movies. they are now autopilot responses. modeling family Just because someone we love and look up to did something a certain way doesn’t make it the best/ right way. then you were probably taught to put women on a pedestal and accept any and all behavior to please her. “that guy is a natural”.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling http://www. confident guy? Were you raised by a single mom who was overly religious and guarded? Were you raised by parents who had a healthy. If your dad was a wimp who got pushed around by your mom. etc… When you hear someone say. and caring relationship? Were you raised by parents who fought all the time and were basically roommates? these models have a profound effect on you and will continue to play out in your own life if you are not aware of them and you don’t change them. we learn these behaviors at such a young age. We do them automatically and have a blind spot to how they might be holding us back. loving. you’ll likely find yourself dominating women in relationships. We must be careful about the lessons we internalize and hold as fact. sadly. If your dad was a distant father who cheated on your mom but was loving and charismatic to the rest of the family. If your dad was overbearing and dominated women in an unhealthy way.7. the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree with most people. We tend to be identical to one or a combination of our parents’ belief systems in regards to love and relationships. he probably taught you to be impatient and bitter toward women in general. what they really mean is. It starts with modeling our parents when we are children. you probably learned that deep meaningful relationships with women are unrealistic and you learned to stay distant and guarded.html modeling the most common way we learn our dating habits is through modeling the behaviors of others.com/braddock/116314-dating-tip-become-successful-womenmodeling.theattractionforums. he had some great modeling as a child. these blind spots could rear their head in multiple arenas depending on who you modeled. If your dad married the wrong woman or was cheated on. Maybe your dad cheated on 84 . you’ll likely find yourself in similar relationships.
However. modeling friends I think picking a healthy peer group is one of the most important decisions of your life. doesn’t mean you should model how he handles relationships. You’ll follow his advice even at the risk of marrying the wrong woman and having an unsatisfying relationship for years just so you don’t disappoint him. because that’s what you modeled. you can expect to end up in the same relationship prison. you do the same thing to him unknowingly. then. Well. if you are modeling this. so you went the polar opposite. thought patterns. We often assume success in one area of life must mean success in all areas of life. and unhealthy boundary function.7. or even great at attracting women. You have vowed to never hurt a woman and you’ve taken it so far that you feel guilty if you even tease a woman or shoot her straight. It’s not about connecting and dating their equal. you follow his relationship/dating advice dogmatically because you can’t stand the idea of letting him down. Maybe you have a father who you look up to as if he is a superhero and he is amazing in most areas of his life but has a terrible relationship with your mother. despite this. a good person.” I couldn’t agree more. be careful about modeling their behaviors. some of those great tactics that cause deep levels of attraction can be taken too far and cause a toxic relationship where it’s nothing but fights and jealousy. when you have a son. but this in no way makes them qualified to be a mentor in relationship management. unless you have seen someone you consider successful in a loving. healthy relationship. Just because a friend is a good friend. withdrawal. We’ve all heard the saying. some of the most charismatic friends I’ve ever had who could attract the hottest women and sleep with any girl they wanted were absolutely terrible at keeping an amazing woman or having a healthy relationship. The relationship becomes a constant power struggle where the primary tools of expressing love are jealousy. it’s about dominating a woman and making sure she knows who has the power. “You are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with. I have mentors who are great at attracting beautiful women. great at business. and actions. 85 .3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling your mom and you saw how hurt your mom was.
I did it…. I’d joke negative about women. they are extremely smart and interesting. fake. jump on any opportunity to help my friends find reasons to dump their girlfriends. have deep issues. disloyal. and the damage I probably caused in their lives and relationships. my friends couldn’t help but model my behavior. it was a horribly unhealthy model for my friends to follow. this industry is full of weird guys who hate women.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling even worse is modeling the unhealthy friend who is jaded by women. it probably is.a healthy place? Is it coming from a confident guy who is sharing what works or is he constantly trying to prove himself to an unknown audience? Does it sound like a guy trying to get validation from men by bragging? Is he writing to impress or teach? Does what he say sound WAY too good to be true? If so. and was on a search and destroy mission to find. and. 86 . they spew their negative beliefs onto anyone who is willing to listen. Because I’m a charismatic guy. over hype how good they are with women.7. I remember after one of my girlfriends dumped me there was about a year and a half where I hated women. every woman in the tri-state area. unfortunately. are not as good with women as they say they are. and write tons of blog posts and articles that are half truths at best. these are the charismatic guys who speak from such a place of authority it can be easy to get sucked into their reality and believe what they say and think. I was one of these guys for a while. Model specific behaviors. Be careful about accepting any dating advice as fact and be leery of modeling the thoughts and opinions just because a guy says he’s a dating coach. and because I was still good enough to sleep with women despite being jaded. and crush. Does it sound like it’s coming from a good place….we all do this. Don’t necessarily model someone’s life. I still feel guilty about the things I accidentally taught the guys around me. take the time to read numerous posts from that particular dating coach and try to read between the lines and figure out where he’s coming from. often times. I just genuinely despised them. modeling Gurus one of the biggest mistakes you can make is modeling the wrong dating coach. sleep with. Be very careful about this or you could find yourself running around a club wearing a top hat and 12 inch platform shoes. I saw them as users of men. I’d spew my hate about women to all my friends and look for any shred of evidence I could find to validate my dark views toward them. but because they are either bad with women or were hurt by a woman. and overall proactive thought patterns. overall character. manipulative.
some of the guys I’ve met through this don’t need to be giving advice to anyone and could use a bump in the dosage of their psych meds. Model someone who is getting the results you want. there are guys all over going up to girls and saying rude comments like. If you read this and try to model it. 87 . If you meet a guy who is great with women. they don’t tell you that they do those rarely and the girl usually is average looking at best. Make sure whoever you model is getting the results you want.000 one night stands. Hearing the mindsets and beliefs of guys who are fantastic with women can really set a good course for your dating life especially if you don’t have anyone who is good to model. don’t model the guy who bangs 4 girls per week but hasn’t had a real relationship in his life. Who should you model? Modeling the right dating coach or natural can be extremely helpful.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling Another big problem I have with the community is many of the guys who teach this are not qualified to teach and those that are often write about and teach things that happen 1 out of 100 times instead of teaching about what happens 99 out of 100 times.7. but all the girls he dates are damaged unhealthy women. If you want 1. that doesn’t mean you can’t steal a page out of each guy’s playbook. so good guys end up getting blown out by girls and coming across really creepy. Worse than anything. Going to a bootcamp and watching guys who are amazing with women is priceless. you will find yourself frustrated and might even feel bad about yourself wondering why you can’t get the same results. If you want a relationship. you are modeling a really unhealthy guy and modeling 1/2 truths that aren’t even real.” The idea of negging is fine if it is explained properly. but it’s not. things like “negging” have caused huge problems for guys all over the world. “You have shit in your teeth. you will be setting yourself up to attract the same kind of women. but you’ll want to put your main focus of modeling on people who are getting the result you want. Make sure the guy you are modeling is healthy or you will ultimately pay the price. Guys will over hype things like bathroom pulls and other things that sound exciting on paper. don’t model the guy who is constantly in a long term relationship. A lot of guys give no context for the things they teach or the things they tell you to say. if you are modeling the mindsets of some of these guys. they make it sound like they are going out and pulling super models in the bathroom every night.
7. but you have to keep your identity and be your own person.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling model behaviors and thoughts…don’t try to Be that person. joked. this means changing the subject. Be careful when you model someone that you don’t try to become that person. It was hard. Also. not compete. don’t tell people you are modeling them. It creates a weird dynamic if you go out with a guy and you can tell he’s trying to be you. spend some time going out with these guys and spend some time going out with guys more on your level so you can grow as well. just because a guy is a good model to learn from. doesn’t mean he’s a good guy to continuously go out with. and it creeped out the girls that knew him before he started doing it. I do have family members who I love. I’ve done it 3 or 4 times in my life. that’s ok. came off weird to our friends. A lot of guys who were trying to model Mystery became weird. What if you are forced to be around bad models? You’re not forCeD to be around anyone. spoke. and avoiding certain topics with them. they would get so much attention that I would almost feel worse about myself when I would try to keep up. surrounding yourself with healthy people will help you think. I NeVer discuss my relationships with them and will only discuss theirs if they are asking for advice. I’ve had friends who were drastically better than me in the past. carbon copies of him. if they have a terribly unhealthy relationship. stop letting them give you advice. but are not the best models in certain areas whom I do spend time with. 88 . But. Never try to become the person you are modeling. and behave. When you go out with these guys. stop asking bad models for advice. Also. Don’t let unhealthy people pave the way for your thoughts. It annoyed me. What I’ve done with these people is never give them a platform to taint my thoughts or accidentally corrupt me with the bad models they demonstrate. etc… It was not flattering. I couldn’t get any light to grow. You have to guard your inner game like it’s fort Knox. He would use the exact jokes I would normally say and had pretty much copied the way I dressed. but it was well worth it in the long run. more healthily. It’s ok to tell people you want them to mentor you. but they were so good that I felt like the little tree that was surrounded by trees so big. I had a friend in college who tried really hard to do what I was doing and it got strange at times. for example. You choose who you spend your time with and can choose to go through the pain of clipping bad friends and finding new healthy social circles. use it as an opportunity to learn.
or books. action Step: 1. Hit reset: Become aware that this way of moving through the world isn’t necessarily you. audios. I only know about 5 people like this and they are amazing people. we must have the awareness to recognize a bad model so we don’t blindly follow the same path. Also write down how modeling certain friends‘ beliefs have affected your dating life. were transferred to you. surrounding yourself with good models will allow you to pick up the positive attributes of who they are through osmosis. and healthy. 2. There are those few anomalies who have the entire package. -Braddock 89 .3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling Summary • I personally feel one of the keys to success with attracting women and having a healthy dating life is being able to model certain attributes from different people who are successful in specific areas. not the man in most areas. and attraction. but simply what you’ve learned. Reflect: Write down how this modeling has affected your dating life. dating coaches. DVDs. Now find models that align with what you are looking for in the form of natural friends. You now have a choice to be different and pick new models that are proactive to the goals and dating life you want. • Healthy models are key but at minimum. in all the important areas of life. M and I call these kinds of people guys who are going supernova. Write down how your beliefs might be identical or opposite to either of them. they are blowing up and extremely successful. sex. Mr.7. 3. • Model the behavior and thoughts. You can’t help but be affected by the people you spend the most time with. Develop a sense of awareness: take inventory of how your parents’ beliefs about dating. happy. love.
4. Increasing the frequency and Intensity of Communication . Maintaining or Build Attraction .5. re-initiating Mutual Contact .text Message examples 8. the other side of the Bridge .covered in thiS chapter: 8.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy .1.1 text Game .2.Damage Control 90 . Maintaining or Build Comfort .“pinging” text Messages .3.Braddock’s style of texts .
tonight! .covered in this chapter: 8.4 the ultimate Guide to phone and text Game ..What to text Her 8.3 text Game: making the number Solid .How to solidify a Number.sample Chapter 91 ..
Keep in mind that my style is just one of many.8.html I will try to do a better write up on my text game rules sometime.com/braddock/61180-text-game-braddock. but I think seeing this will be really helpful.. but it’s such a hard thing to teach just by writing about it. 92 .. I don’t have time to type up each category right now. day two style text game. I don’t want a girlfriend and I’m kinda bored with just one night stands unless I’m traveling... I go for more friends with benefits when I’m back home. and friends with benefits text game looks like. I want to show you what one night stand text game looks like. I’m typing up more and more of my text message game and I will try to post more of them by category in the future. Anyway. eventually..theattractionforums.. so. but I will try to in the future.... relationship text game looks like. Decide what you want..1 text Game http://www. It all depends on your personality and your goals. hope this helps.
then you look like you really want her bad. but we have spent time together. 93 . this isn’t how it usually goes. or. As you spend more and more time with any one girl.. You must learn to understand where you are with each girl. never talked to on the phone. fuck it up and lose girls. some girls would stop talking to you if you sent them several messages like this. Crucial point to getting good at text game . If you sexually frame them when you meet. ran great attraction. if they are. I have slept with many girls that I met one time for 20 minutes in a bar. and you have nothing better to do. and then fucked it up texting. short texts that sub communicate that maybe I’m too busy for them or maybe I’m not sure if I’m interested. If a girl and I have already had sex. funny messages where I reply almost immediately some times. then it is a helpful tool to set you apart from the other 10 guys she is talking to. How do you do this? Go get lots of phone numbers and try different things.1 text Game I like to keep my texts fun and light. then texts are a great way for me to “ping” her and keep the attraction alive until the next time we meet. If we’ve already had sex.. then feel free to keep writing her long funny messages.. If you try to be super funny in every message and write a 4 page message eVerY tIMe. some girls love to joke rough and like when I’m kind of a dick to them in a joking way.. I feel it really keeps them off guard and on their toes with you. you can build compliance momentum and the same girl who acted disgusted by a sexually charged joke may send you texts that would make a porn star blush!!! some girls love to write long texts to me and love when I write them long texts back. I like to mix it up and send both long. Certain girls will respond more to certain types of humor and certain levels of comfort. and comfort game. If things are going great and she is writing you 4 page messages back every time. However. but once again the above Must be calibrated. I’ve also had girls that it was super on with at a bar. Just because it worked on one girl doesn’t mean it will work on the next. but I think. but until then. and it only happens because I’ve practiced my ass off at text game. this can change. Not to confuse you even more. I use lots of call back humor. if we haven’t had sex yet. they don’t have to be fun and amazing every time. I’ve also noticed some girls that only respond when I respond with delayed. Just like with everything else in game you must calibrate it. then you would be sruprised how sexual things can get over text before you even sleep with them. and only texted until they came over and we had sex..8. and then be short and business like where I take a while to reply other times. other girls respond more when I show a somewhat sweeter side and respond negatively to rough or sexual jokes. but it does happen. then they can get pretty sexual. qualification. and slowly lost her until she hardly replied.
You will start to see a pattern that takes place and you will start to see different patterns in girls. repeat: the crypts are raiding the liquor store. If you don’t have a sense of humor like mine then this message would come across as strange. you put their first name. Here is an example of how I ping with a girl between meet ups. Just something random and funny that doesn’t really ask them anything and doesn’t ask for much back. or start a word document and save your best stuff. because I think it’s a crucial tool for any guy running cold approach game.” 94 . Copy? over…. it’s crucial that somewhere in the message.kkshh.kkshh. You will know when you need to start slow or when you can jump in and be more sexual. she had a camo skirt on so I was calling her rambo all night.. Get a journal. DoN’t use this exact message!!!! this only works for me because it’s congruent with the guy she met and the guy she has hung out with.1 text Game It happens. then she won’t feel anything towards you when she reads it. I actually have a structure that I use and I teach at my bootcamps. Don’t let it get you down. but keep it up as long as it’s fun. I use call back humor and stay in a theme for a little while. By simply starting it with “What up sara? bla bla bla” or threading her name in there somewhere. It’s just a small thing that I’ll do that just kind of forces them to think about me and not forget that I’m around. Don’t keep it going forever. I’m considering posting it. When you send these kinds of messages. it’s not a reflection of you.. I could write a novel on text game rules. When we met. I repeat: mother bird is in her nest….. Nip/tuck in t-minus 5 min…. Another key point I’ve added recently and it’s really seemed to help is sending a mass text message to like 30 girls. it just means you need to work on it. If it looks like a mass text message. she will feel it was personal. Hence the army theme throughout this text. she will assume you sent it to tons of people.. text to Lauren: Braddock: “echo 1 this is Bravo Company…kksssh.8.
He’s cute as a damn button.” lauren: “Bla Bla Bla…. Divide & conquer all tasks this week.1 text Game lauren: “Bravo company this is echo one and I’m pickin up what you’re putting down but unfortunately I won’t be privy to such luxuries’ as nip tuck. that last transmission was inaccurate.8. Zulu acknowledges message & will return to headquarters w/assignment completed.” Braddock: “roger that lima Bravo. Hoo-rah! lauren: “Bla Bla Bla…. you are so mean! Braddock : (sent pic of parents new puppy) lp: “Do you really think that’s going to make me like you more? Nice try. tango x ray will be in service.” text with me and Lp: Braddock: “How are things with you and the virgin? Is the sex mind blowing?” lp: “shut up jerk. Nip/tuck in t minus 50 minutes. But he is oh so cute.. tonight bc I have other engagements to tend to …such as studying for exams and preparing for my interview tomorrow morning…I’m counting on you to take notes and provide a detailed summary of the nights events.” Braddock: “Cute? More than cute. that’s a 10-28 (loud & clear). Don’t let Charlie see this message…self destruct in 5 secs. Delta foxtrot has tivo ready & waiting for mission. report by land line after your tasks are completed b/c romeo Delta wants a full debriefing of enemy engagements. He’s a virgin like your boyfriend!!! shall I hook you up???!!! lp: “Hahaha!!” lp: “I dumped him you jerk! Are you going to sara’s Bday party?” 95 . think you can handle that?” Braddock: “echo 1 this is Alpha 1.
sorry.1 text Game Braddock: “unless it’s a bible study….Hey lp. but I’m not into toilet humor ………..see! let’s hang out sunday. lp: “lolol that’s not what I meant! sara said she wants to come too.” lp: “Well you never call me. but we’ll try. I’m getting another call….. Can I study at your house?” Braddock: “Is ….” lp: “lol….or something.” Braddock: “so many 3some jokes going through my mind.damn it!” lp: “lolol You are sooo weird!! Where do you come up with that stuff?” Braddock: “Are you being a bitch to me because I’m black? God I hate texas girls. the safety word this week will be fire engine. but I don’t know if I’m good enough for you to name an exact time that you will orgasm.” Braddock : “Why cause I love Jesus? You could learn a lot from him. You guys have to bring cookies… And GoD Help You If tHeY Are CHoColAte CHIp or peANut 96 .” code for group sex? I’m gonna go with no. If we don’t hang out by sunday I’m deleting your number. I have 3 test Monday!” Braddock: “You never call me”……. then I guess I’ll delete it now.8. It’s not that it’s too long. supercalifragilisticexpialidocious is just not working out for me. so closed minded. fine. I have to floss my cat’s teeth…….” lp: “shut up I’m coming at 7!” Braddock: “I’m a human dynamo in bed.” lp: “You are so full of shit. no.It’s 1945 they want your views on not calling boys back when your done with them. Maybe another time. “Study at your house. but I’m going to have to get drunk to scrape that tattoo of your number and pic off my ass…. it just reminds me of my ex wife.
sugar.” lp: “HAHAHA!!!!! Cankles!!! I don’t think sooo and you know I have perfect teeth. I’m getting carpel tunnel..” Braddock: “ok. Well that and the fact that you have crooked teeth and cankles……….well I guess it worked.. probably shouldn’t mention cankles and bad teeth. my thumbs are starting to hurt. I just don’t know what to say.” lp: “lol….” lauren: “lololol…. so I use lots of humor about her being a nurse instead of a doctor or just any joke I can think of about med school or the medical field. Just a start. etc…. so I’ll just hide behind my text messages until I see you sunday. Do you like snicker doodle?” Braddock: “If snicker doodle cookies were a girl….oMG!!!! Who are you? What kind do you like?” Braddock: “Who am I? 2 weeks of marriage and 5 kids and you still don’t know me? that’s exactly why I need this break. You told me you loved them when we met.1 text Game Butter!!! I hate chocolate chip cookies and peanut butter cookies slightly more than terrorism….. I would make out with her.” Braddock: “I was drunk and just trying to get you to bake me cookies. Do we actually have to hang out or can you just drop the cookies off on the porch?” lp: “HAHAHA…just tell them how pretty they are. if I was drunk.oatmeal raisin. 97 . I’d call you later.. but she would never meet mom.fine.8.” LP: “haha…. I would call them a 6.” text with alexis: she is in medical school. but just slightly. I’ll put them in the mailbox…see you sunday brat. but my throat clinches up and I get all nervous on the phone with girls.
fine. etc…. I just don’t know what to say. my thumbs are starting to hurt.” lp: “lol….” lauren: “lololol….oatmeal raisin.” LP: “haha…. if I was drunk. I’d call you later.. I would call them a 6.1 text Game Butter!!! I hate chocolate chip cookies and peanut butter cookies slightly more than terrorism…. 98 . but she would never meet mom. sugar.8.” Braddock: “ok. Do we actually have to hang out or can you just drop the cookies off on the porch?” lp: “HAHAHA…just tell them how pretty they are.. but just slightly.oMG!!!! Who are you? What kind do you like?” Braddock: “Who am I? 2 weeks of marriage and 5 kids and you still don’t know me? that’s exactly why I need this break. Do you like snicker doodle?” Braddock: “If snicker doodle cookies were a girl…. but my throat clinches up and I get all nervous on the phone with girls. I’ll put them in the mailbox…see you sunday brat. so I’ll just hide behind my text messages until I see you sunday.” lp: “HAHAHA!!!!! Cankles!!! I don’t think sooo and you know I have perfect teeth. Well that and the fact that you have crooked teeth and cankles………. probably shouldn’t mention cankles and bad teeth...well I guess it worked.” Braddock: “I was drunk and just trying to get you to bake me cookies.” text with alexis: she is in medical school. I’m getting carpel tunnel. Just a start. I would make out with her. so I use lots of humor about her being a nurse instead of a doctor or just any joke I can think of about med school or the medical field. You told me you loved them when we met.
” Alexis: “I’ll keep that in mind.” Alexis: “And who has u on lock?” 2 hours later….you gotta be the only person who would reference Highlander in a text message.1 text Game Alexis: “Did you find a new love bunny in LA or what!? Did we really break up? Braddock: “We will NeVer break up. Need a 96 for an A in the class!!! (few hours later)…… Braddock: “How did your test go?” Alexis: “About to go take it! After my work out…” Braddock: “Good luck. “there can be only one!!!” Alexis: “HAHA….I’ve been on lock down the last few weeks. I have a Chem test 2day. I’m a man amongst boys. Where u been hiding jerk face!? thought a lion ate ur arm! Braddock: “I know I know…. What are you up to?” Alexis: “pray for me..8. as they say in the movie Highlander. Braddock: “Just been crazy busy with work…. Kick some ass. trample the weak and hurdle the dead!” Alexis: “lol…. Don’t fuck with me on movie trivia…. ur a weirdo : p” Braddock: “Ha.You are crazy! I’m putting that as my myspace quote!” Braddock: “Do you want me to text you the answers for your test?” 99 . You took my virginity.
It’s Italian leather with Braddock in rhinestones. It’s custom made. I believe her breasts are actually buttons. My parents are out of town this weekend. Alexis: “When are u going to actually come hang out instead of working out ur thumbs all day?” Braddock: “Dude.” Braddock: “hmmm… “convinskate.she’s gonna say.” And he’s gonna make us leave the door open and the lights on the whole time you are here……” Alexis: “Well.” Alexis: “You are so weird! My dad use to say. tell them ur going to one of your buddy’s houses and then just come stay with me. You are so mean!!!!!!” Braddock: “Mooohaha..And im a genius anyways…thanks tho babe. “Go ask your dad.” later that night…. you’re one of the nerdiest girls I know….” Alexis: “Do u wear a fanny pack?” Braddock: “Does Howdy Doody have wooden balls?!? Hell yeah I do.” that’s actually an urban legend. that’s why I like you. we gotta ask my mom……. “Does raggedy Anne have cotton boobs!” Braddock: “the answer to your dads question is “no.you jerk! I really am smart.. It’s a dual pocket 2 zipper comfort fit.” lol….8.” Braddock: “I know.1 text Game Alexis: “they convinskate phones…It’s in the testing center….” Alexis: “lol….” 100 .Your genius must be limited to Chem.. Do you wear a pocket protector?” Alexis: “Heck yeah I do!!! everyday in my scrubs….
.1 text Game Braddock: “Nice thinking.. have a great day tomorrow.8.” later later that night…… Alexis: “I’m going to bet. How can we be together if you are gonna lie to me all the time?” bla bla bla.. -B 101 .”(she then messaged me on myspace) Braddock: “sending me messages on myspace? I thought you went to bed. Good night..
8.html have you ever met someone great. Nick savoy.theattractionforums. and in our interview download on phone game. she genuinely would “go out” with you “sometime”… …but it doesn’t always turn out that way. you approach her. for a technology audience.com/braddock/68199-text-game-basics-braddock-savoy.what we call dating science. our overall system is explained in savoy’s book. the president of love systems.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy http://www. but it never seemed to turn into a date? A while back. Here’s what we’ll be covering in this article: Why don’t some phone numbers lead to dates? text message bridges re-initiate mutual contact Increase the frequency and intensity of communication Maintain or build attraction Maintain or build comfort the other side of the bridge Damage control further context Why don’t some phone numbers lead to dates? let’s say you see a very attractive woman at a restaurant waiting for her friends. to see her “sometime” all you have to do is be more interesting than doing 102 . we wanted to follow these up with something focused on text messaging. attract her. Magic Bullets. Going out “sometime” is different from going out thursday night (which is why. and then get her phone number so you can “go out sometime”. this is a bad way to get a woman’s phone number). This article will give a simplified overview of how to use text messages to go from the first time you meet someone to going on a date. At that moment. using our techniques. as we’ve discussed in Magic Bullets. gotten her phone number. wrote an article and did a podcast for this site to introduce what we do .
If she doesn’t know you that well. even if she was attracted to you when you first met. You lose value and emotional momentum (both of these concepts are explained in Magic Bullets but should be understandable in context) with every unreturned voicemail. that’s a pretty low standard. she can agree to that.8. and if you don’t get a hold of each other soon.to get from a situation where a woman might have a low commitment to meeting up again to where the 103 . so. She likes all of the attention and flirting. memories and emotions dissipate.like in the above example when her friends are about to arrive and take her to dinner. work. you need to be more interesting than anything else she could be doing. that’s why we created the “bridging” technique . even if she did. After meeting you just one time. she may wonder if the two of you will really “click”. or any other man she met that night . hobbies. However. Most of what we teach on our bootcamps revolves around this. But sometimes you can’t do this . And.if you noticed her. her commitment to seeing you again can be pretty fragile. not being sure can be enough for some women to avoid a date that might be awkward or uncomfortable. but she doesn’t have time to go on 9 dates this week.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy nothing. especially if she doesn’t know you that well or you don’t know people in common. for her to go on a date. Naturally. Why are you asking her out if you didn’t meet for very long? Are you desperate? Are you a player? *timing. in order to lead to a more intimate situation the same day or to a date that won’t fall through (depending on the situation and your preferences). if she has nothing else to do. *fear of social awkwardness. the best way to deal with this is to make as strong of an impression as possible in your first meeting. many desirable women would still hesitate to answer your call. There are many possible reasons for this - some will apply to some women and some situations more than others: *safety concerns. or relaxing at home. You don’t know what mood she’ll be in when you call or what she’ll be doing. other men did too. most desirable women rarely have “nothing else to do”. like friends. even if she has no reason to think that you wouldn’t. *Analysis. she might actually see you.
or supermodels. and sexy woman who attracts powerful. let’s get into the meat of the system. they are important for a couple of reasons. If you meet someone you really want. Text message bridging has five major components: 1.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy two of you are on a date. what might be overkill when meeting the type of woman who might be attracted to you anyway can be crucially important when meeting a stunning. Increase the frequency and intensity of communication 3. spending time alone. In such situations. we will often still use bridging techniques because A) sometimes we might err and think a woman is more committed or less flaky than she turns out to be B) they won’t hurt. she would likely be highly-committed to seeing you again. kissing. if you’d been introduced to her by a mutual friend and spent a few sober hours really getting to know each other. often. you can get most women to answer the phone and make plans. you can usually just go ahead and call. and successful men. the lower her commitment. However. second. If instead of meeting this woman at a restaurant. asking each other every question under the sun. the more important these bridging techniques. it can be worth doing the work to increase your odds for “likely” to “near certain”. Maintain or build attraction 4. fun. text message bridges Without further ado. re-initiate mutual contact 2. None of us are rich. many of us got involved in dating science because we wanted to date women who would normally be “out of our league”. However. the other side of the bridge 104 . intelligent. wherever she goes.8. some of these techniques may seem like overkill. Almost all of our instructors are formerly bootcamp students. and making plans to see each other. so. they are unnecessary since with good game. Maintain or build comfort 5.
Braddock recently met Katie. they agreed that they both hate clinginess and the words “cuddle” and “snuggle”. so. send something simple like “Nice to meet you [name]. then A) plan to introduce subjects for callback humor next time and B) for now. 48 hours at the most. -[Your name]. she’ll read it when she is. During the initial meeting he teased her about her supposedly evil corporate ways. if she’s not free. this is especially important with younger women with a more intense social schedule who meet a lot of people. And. She has to respond and it has to point the two of you in the right direction. Among other things. Braddock met Julie. it takes far less commitment on her part to return a text message than it does to answer the phone or return a call. Braddock followed up with: “Nice meeting you Julie. the best way to do this is to use callback humor. a banker. but everyone reads their text messages. generalities. Advanced men will deliberately “seed” the initial conversation with opportunities for callback humor. people sometimes don’t answer their phones or listen to their voicemails. Send your first message within 24 hours of meeting her. use a text message to re-initiate contact instead of a phone call. let’s get together for a “snuggle” session AsAp! -Braddock” If you’re stuck. you’ll need to be fresh!! : ) -Braddock “ Another night. This ensures that she remembers as much as possible from your first meeting and that the good emotions she feels toward you don’t dissipate. social or geographic stereotypes relating to your original conversation that you can twist into a joke. ideas. you have to be up early to foreclose on that orphanage of blind kids.” 105 . they talked about relationships and pet peeves. re-initiate mutual contact After you meet a woman. Your first text is crucial.8. for example. texts don’t require much commitment. Have a good night. So his first text drew on this: “Katie the banker! Don’t stay out too late. You don’t have to worry about her mood or her schedule when you text.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy 1. Callback humor involves recalling topics.
(of course. Message her and get her to reply. Don’t try to build comfort. stop now and get Magic Bullets or the interview on phone game. It avoids the “who is this?” text message response. for example: 106 . Chi town . Now communication has been established and you can go from there. which costs emotional momentum. or build attraction. your goal is to build her commitment level to meeting up with you again by increasing the frequency and intensity of your messaging. Going through Braddock’s sent items folder on his phone. these all come later in the conversation. oAp readers should know by now to program your name and number into her phone when you get hers.8. 2. Keep any questions light.20! let me guess. usually this will happen if you do something that assumes a higher commitment level than she actually has. and simple that if she didn’t answer.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy Always sign your name on the first text. we can see some examples of good early text messages: “How did your project turn out? Did they give you a raise or at least give you a small army of interns to boss around?” “Just saw the news. Take things one step at a time. Questions put her on the spot and repeated questions risk putting her in defensive “interview mode” which isn’t exciting or attractive. If you don’t. Don’t try to get her to meet up in the first text message. it’s not like she’s blowing you off. right now it’s just about getting on the map. and don’t ask too many boring “yes” or “no” questions. beach volleyball today?” “Did you know a blue whales tongue weighs as much as an elephant!? that’s ridiculous… Gotta love animal planet during the lunch break…” stay away from things that can end a conversation or lose her attraction for you. increase frequency and intensity After the first exchange of text messages. Keep the conversation moving forward by making statements instead of asking questions as much as possible.
and Challenging). coffee shops. so stay open-minded and let your only judge be how well these techniques work in the real world. Confidence. it’s best done with light-hearted messages that assume a level of familiarity.” or even “I hope your trip to Chicago was great!!! I want to hear all about it. Human attraction does not work the way it does on tV or in movies. some good elements to include are: *role plays *random childish jokes *light sexual teasing or misinterpretation *funny or teasing pet names *Invoking commonalities you found when you met (this also builds comfort. not a specific plan for an individual woman. through text messaging. use your knowledge of her and her personality to calibrate her. she was attracted to you when you met. clubs. Do you have plans friday when you get home?” When you read sample text messages in this article. parks. Social Intuition. and you can use texts to bring her attraction levels back up to the level where you first met and you can maintain it there. not logically. coming up) We can’t cover all of these in detail in this article (and it’s not an exhaustive list anyway). restaurants. But that’s a general guide. Humor. We use what works. Wealth. and lounges interacting with the most beautiful women there. In Magic Bullets we identify and explain the eight most universal “attraction switches” . day. because most of what people have been taught about social dynamics is wrong. but 107 .8. no matter how unusual it seems on paper.things that most women will be attracted to (Health. but this dissipates over time. so. some of them might seem silly. 3. You can’t build a ton of attraction in text messages but you can build some. I would love to see you when you get home. Much of dating science is counter-intuitive. and are flirty without making her uncomfortable. after day. Attraction is built emotionally. Status. even so-called experts are not in bars. contain wit or humor. and actually practicing what they preach.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy rushing to make plans: “I’m so glad we met! I’ve never met a girl like you. Building attraction presumably. Pre-selection.
or hear her voice tonality to truly know how she is reacting to this. Don’t try to impress her through text messages. this is actually easier since building comfort is as much about what you don’t do as what you do. role playing is a powerful technique. and don’t ruin a good situation by playing too many games. Building comfort In addition to maintaining. returning to example of Katie the Banker. 108 . Among other things. he found out that she was from san Diego. Not fair.8.” Katie: “Who is tiny tim?” Braddock : “Wow…. comfort.” Katie: “ohhhhh…. you need to maintain. tiny tim threw me off. I’m kind of a big deal” made her laugh and boosted her attraction. But be careful with this one. You can’t technically see her face. back to work. and don’t always be funny. It’s not just one-liners either. When Braddock met Claire. often has the opposite effect. Don’t always send long replies. trying to thread a bunch of information that you assume will make her like you more. What bank do you work at again? ok. body language. even a silly text message like “I’m ron Burgundy. don’t always reply quickly. and build. 4. : ) [or suitable nickname…this one worked here because she was young and already acknowledged she can be a bit of a brat sometimes]” You still want to be unpredictable and challenging enough to keep her interested. so. attraction. It will make her feel like she has to earn you. they talked about the movie. Varying how and when you reply helps build value and scarcity. we can see this attraction-building conversation: Braddock: “Are you stealing pennies from the elderly or telling tiny tim’s dad that he has to work an extra shift. Anchorman. sometimes the attraction or humor comes from the back-and-forth.wait!!! Now I remember the Christmas movie.missed the scrooge reference?!? Minus 3 cool points….” Braddock : “they let retards play with people’s money!?!? Hmmm…. and building.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy let’s go through a couple of examples. You know this could be tim’s last Christmas……. talk to you later brat.
You had a rose pattern on your skirt last saturday. time and communication will build and maintain comfort for you.there’s nothing special about them in themselves. just act like a positive. If you always respond to her messages right away and are clearly trying too hard. or overly nice. non-threatening environment in her life. right? Hope you are having a wonderful day. *Being too predictable. stay away from a text like: “I just walked past the most beautiful rose garden. a woman will be more comfortable if you seem to be at least a little bit of a challenge. is getting a body slam followed by the people’s elbow! How’s your day?” 109 . but avoid early texts that are overly sweet. fun text messages that add to her day without making her feel pressured create comfort. light. some of the things that break her comfort with you include: *trying to make plans with her too early.” Most women would think this is creepy and that the man is reaching too hard to try to find commonalities. who feels it necessary to smugly inform me. some women may be interested but still don’t always reply or will still send short responses.8. *Implying that she is much more committed than she actually is. Assuming some familiarity is great. (unsolicited I might add) that their 3rd grader made the honor role. It reminded me of you. this might make her uncomfortable. this might make her feel pressured and on the spot. Be real. and don’t try to trade kindness for her approval or affection. just get a sense of the general pattern: “Next coworker. that kills comfort. Don’t react to low commitment behavior by apologizing for making jokes and/or asking what you did wrong. “did you get home safe?” won’t help you unless it’s in a context in which you would ask that of any close friend. Here are a couple of examples . If you become angry or needy. this affects attraction as well. A woman wants a man who is centered and not dependent on her approval or putting her on a pedestal. especially early on. As long as your conversation is going well.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy In general. *responding negatively when she shows low commitment. Always stay positive and unaffected. Generally. Even.
and they’re more likely to actually take place especially with a woman with a very busy social schedule and lots of male attention. Here are some examples of non-specific invitations. If not.8.. the classic formula is “you guys should meet us out”. remember. What are you thinking?!” [obviously this was to someone who said she had an english bulldog] 5.” “[random content]”. We’re trying to get her on a date. And if she doesn’t end up coming out. Any of the examples of good text messages that we’ve already seen would make good [random content] here. she’ll respond. you’ll start to see patterns and know when the moment is ripe.anything .” “[random content]”. It’s like touching a woman’s arm in conversation. The bait is usually a non-specific or low-pressure text about the two of you meeting up.in that slot so the whole text isn’t the invitation. we’re not trying to make a woman fall in love over text message . the object is to get her out so we have a chance to connect with her. you invited 110 .2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy “What’s up crazy? [or suitable nickname] Just saw a guy walking an english bulldog like you said you wanted. and you’re not improving things very quickly in text. let’s get together next week.” If her commitment is lower than usual. you’re not going to get very far just by sending low-commitment texts back and forth. tell your interns to pencil me in for next week or I’m putting “single” back up on facebook. you don’t really lose any ground with her . The [random content] means that you have something . you can start baiting with lower-intensity plans. If she is interested. the other side of the bridge obviously. that poor thing was hideous. With experience and intuition. In the meantime. if we don’t hang out soon then I’m going to start cheating on you..you just invited her and her friends to something you were (in theory) doing anyway and for all she knows.real gains happen in person. and the nonspecific invitation can be tacked onto the end: “[random content]”. you haven’t lost any ground and can keep working from where you are. she doesn’t have to be alone or invest a lot to make these kinds of plans happen. you can test her commitment level without too much risk by using a technique we call “baiting”.
we are going to be at x bar friday night. then. stop the bleeding.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy lots of friends. Here are some more examples: “We are going to be at x bar. Never text her asking if you 111 . Baits should never be overly specific or imply a rejection if she doesn’t say yes or come out. once things start going downhill. even “good” texts at this point just come across as try-hard or supplicative. Your mission. but it’s not necessary. These would be some bad examples: “What are you doing later?” “Hey sara.8. Do not text from the mindset of: “I need to correct my mistake.” think back to a time when a woman chased you when you weren’t giving her any encouragement and how you lost attraction for her. stop sending her messages. it’s really hard to turn them around. if it’s not working. In general. this message will self destruct in 30 sec!!! Hope to see you there…. you and your friends should stop by.” damage control some situations are harder than others and sometimes you will feel like you’re not getting anywhere. send her something light in a few days and pretend like it never happened.” “sara. is to show up between the hours of 11pm and 2am. then just stop texting her for a day or two and give her time to forget about it. if you choose to accept it. How are you? I’m going to x bar saturday with some friends. If it was a minor mistake. Some men who feel a situation slipping through their fingers will make the fatal mistake of trying to reel her back by texting more and/or longer texts.” “sara! x bar friday night! Be there or we are breaking up and I’m not taking you back this time… …I’m signing the divorce papers and fighting for full custody” You can still use [random content] to lead in to these. Would you like to come? It’s going to be fun.
We wanted to close by listing a few good resources for further reading: Magic Bullets .by Nick savoy. The Love Systems Routines Manual - hundreds of specific stories. If it was a major mistake. or apologize assuming you did something wrong if you didn’t.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy messed up. some women just don’t like texting. or try too hard to be funny.8. games. further context This (very brief and simplified) summary will hopefully give some idea on how more phone numbers can be turned into dates and also give you a taste of how dating science can work . -Braddock 112 . and things to say or do in virtually any situation. wait longer before re-initiating. don’t force the issue. In such situations. Hope this helps. openers. just call her. with an analysis of each. or say “just kidding” incessantly. these are word-for-word the things we actually use when meeting women.
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but they are simply bonus points. put your phone back in your pocket. there are a million things you “can” do with the phone. Don’t tell her of course. remember. then.3 text Game: making the number Solid Let me give you something awesome you can start doing tonight to help you reduce flaky numbers and cut your workload in half. Getting her on a date or getting her to come to your house is the only goal that really matters. send her a text message. I just want to give you a way around it. and keep talking to her. Wait a minute or two. I would keep it slightly teasing and flirtatious. just keep talking. The Phone and Text Game book covers this in great detail. I won’t get into why this causes flakes right now. ask her for the phone number. tonight. after you take a woman’s phone number. and move on right after typing it in their phone. stay there. What do you send her? this will depend on how far along you are with that particular woman. What should I do? :) -Braddock” 114 . If it was flirty. but it wasn’t that on yet.8. this is a sure fire way to guarantee you have a flaky number at best. take your phone out as if you are checking the time or you just received a text message. they come in. talk to the woman just long enough to pique her interest. the more physical we have been with one another. She probably won’t even answer calls or return your texts. Example: (Light flirting) (The woman was wearing a blue dress and at some point in the conversation she told me she was from san Diego) Braddock: “This cute girl from San Diego in a sexy blue dress won’t stop flirting with me. one of the biggest mistakes guys make is that they treat the phone number like it’s a hostage and they are a Navy seal trying to extract it. the more edgy I would be. the woman won’t question it. then. just put your phone back in your pocket and keep talking. the goal of phone and text game is simply to get her comfortable enough to meet you again.
she will almost always smile and text you back. you two are having a normal conversation verbally. -B 115 . it’s a continuation of the text message chain from the night before. walked off right after. but flirting with each other and role playing through text all while you are standing within 2 feet of each other. When she notices that it’s you. she is 100 times more likely to respond to you then some guy who took her number. and then text her out the blue from a number she doesn’t recognize. this is such a powerful tool.3 text Game: making the number Solid she’s going to check her phone expecting it to be from someone else. By the time you guys leave the venue you will have a text chain of 5 maybe even 10 texts already rolling. Now. try it out tonight. the next day when you go to text her it’s not just some mystery number.8.
but also become addicted to you. so here you go. so..theattractionforums. tHAt is what you call addiction. the best thing is that you can do this to her. In worse case scenarios. What do I mean by “addicted”? think about it .to literally get her addicted to you. she was the only thing that you could think about. the full path to attaining this sort of “addiction” is what Braddock and I cover indepth in the glorious 150+ pages in the ultimate Guide to phone And text Game Book.8.4 the ultimate Guide to phone and text Game http://www. that’s how powerful phone and text Game can be if you know how to use it.have you ever texted a girl and not heard back from her? How did it make you feel? You checked your phone frequently waiting for her text message. well. that is one of the main aims (if not tHe main aim) of phone and text Game . which took us a year to write. tHAt is what I call super HIGH leVel AttrACtIoN. her lack of reply literally drove you crazy.html used properly.you weren’t sure whether to call. or called her... unable to think of anything except.com/braddock/126263-ultimate-guide-phone-text-game. You literally can cause someone to be addicted to you through phone and text.. but you can get a glimpse of what it takes from the free chapter.. free CHApter of tHe ultIMAte GuIDe to pHoNe AND text GAMe 116 .. whether to text of whether to just do nothing and wait for her reply! the point is that she was taking up your thoughts to the point of distraction. to make matters worse .. phone and text Game can cause a person not only to become more attracted to you. Imagine having the super hot girl that you want sitting there. It’s like you were paralyzed. until she texted you back.. or three times. you. You may have even texted her twice.
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9. Walking on campus: Braddock: “Do you know where the Nielson Hall is?” Girls studying in the library: Braddock: “Do you know what time this place closes?” Girls standing somewhere: Braddock: “You look really familiar. remember you will likely see her again either on campus or out at a party or bar so don’t try too push things to fast or too far unless you get the vibe that she is really into you. and will work. walking across campus first few days and see a hot girl)?” answer: on a true cold approach in a college setting.” which is crucial in a small fish bowl setting such as a college campus. In that case.E. you are better off than if you tried to game too hard when 121 . then just back off and say. if you feel any discomfort on her part or if you feel that it would be pushing it to go for the number or date. Normal openers can. Question: “What sort of openers would you use in a regular college setting (I. I’m Braddock. Did we have class together last semester?” then I would transition into normal conversation and/or tease her lightly. Braddock: “thanks. they aren’t sexy.. but it was nice meeting you.2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game. However. but they ensure that you won’t be called out for “gaming.. I always used situational openers or functional openers. I gotta run.” shake her hand and then walk away with your value intact. but if you ever get caught by the wrong girl it has potential to do irreversible damage to your social status in the eyes of that girl and any girl in her social circle. even if she doesn’t remember you the next time she sees you. I would go for her phone number right there.
However. who gives a shit if you cause irreversible damage with one random set? You will never see them again so it does not matter. resource. If you met in a situation where you were of low or neutral value then you may need to meet a few times or she will have to hear about you several times before you are even on her radar. You remember people who are of substantial value or of potential value. her mind will not focus any mental energy on you. this is why cold approach is so tough. 122 .2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game. Because you will never see her again. this is especially true for people that meet you when you are unavoidably in a low or neutral value situation. she will likely remember you and welcome you as part of her social circle almost immediately. that’s a different post.. mathematically. Does it sound like I’m telling you to pussy out and not close? that’s not exactly what I’m saying. It can be hard to recover from a true cold approach rejection in social circle game. but it might take 6 times for you to see them and greet them as a person you now see as a card carrying member of your social circle. You have an extremely small window of time to prove that you are a high value. scarce.. If she likes you and you are ejecting because you are scared to ask for her number. the less real or potential value perceived by that girl will determine how long the sticky phase will last. If you fail to be seen in such a light. It is essentially a waste of your time to not see if you can get her number or bounce her that night because you will most likely never see her again. that blow out cannot have long term effects on your overall social status. Mr. “Getting sticky. In our social Circle Mastery seminar.” Getting sticky is an old advertising term used to describe a crucial phase where a product must be seen multiple times by consumers in order for them to remember what it is and what it does just by hearing the name. Why would I recommend that you merely open and then eject without pushing for the number? that goes against everything you’ve learned through cold approach. they say that consumers need to be exposed to a product in one form or another at least 6 times before it will be remembered. you are better off to push the encounter as far as possible even if your value is not optimal. it’s the proper move if you sense that attempting to ask for her number or a date would be too much. tactically ejecting is not a cop out. It obviously doesn’t take 6 times for you to remember someone you just met. then. regardless of outcome. the timing wasn’t right and she rejects you. If you had high situational value when you met.9. well. M and I call this tactic. obviously.
” 123 . However. You can always turn up the heat later when the timing is perfect..” Her: “Haha. I want this to focus on opening and becoming sticky. When you are sticky. then you can build your value and comfort over multiple encounters instead of going for the cold approach mindset of “home run or strikeout.. this means it doesn’t even have to be real. your value is low in one situation. It’s covered in great detail in our seminar. I’m not going to detail how to game once you are in the social circle in this post.Nope wasn’t me. or it’s a girl that you don’t have much time or value to work with. It means seeing you with girls. If. You can build your value over time.... I’m a journalism major. and strike at the perfect moment.9.Are you sure because you look like that girl who cheated off me all the time? I meant to tell you that I didn’t appreciate that.. talking to girls. I. if you are cold approaching on campus and it’s a cold set. meaning she now knows who you are and would at minimum say hi if she saw you out or on campus. this means she sees you in an environment where her eyes can see that you are a high value guy. girl buddies running up and hugging you.e. Braddock:”You look really familiar.. smith’s politics of south America class last semester?” Her: “No...” Braddock: “Hmm. example of how to become sticky through cold approach. to an outside eye it looks like maybe you could have those girls. this means she sees you as one of the cool guys in a high value group of guys and/or she sees cool/hot girls respond positively to you. If there is a high probability that she will see you again. and usually is. It could literally be girls hugging you that like you as a friend whom you have no chance in hell with.” that means.2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game. situationally.. were you in Dr. then just use the first encounter to “get sticky” and get on her radar. all smoke and mirrors. this doesn’t mean she needs to see you making out with girls. and you have high situational value. social circle game is much easier and it is much different. situational value can be. you can wait it out and escape witthout losing value and live to fight another day when your value is optimal.
. and go do at least one approach before you come back!!!! Hope this helps. I’m sure I’ll see you around.” (take two steps away) “oh shit.. sorry about that. Braddock: “that’s Cool. Bye.” Her: “Nice to meet you too.” ok. I’ll see you around. london is sick! Hope to see some of you guys at the seminar this weekend.9. Alright.” Braddock: “Nice to meet you Katie. stop reading posts.” Her: “Katie. what’s your name by the way? I’m Braddock. -Braddock 124 .2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game. turn your computer off.
html Mr.com/braddock/89055-spring-break-game-braddocks-definitiveguide-guaranteed-get-you-laid.9. but it’s easily worth it. Logistics….theattractionforums.. 1.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) http://www. this may or may not cost you a little more cash. M and I are doing a bootcamp March 13-15 in Cancun Get a hotel where the action is…. there are usually 1 or 2 125 .
3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) hotels that are where all the action is and where most of the hot girls will be staying. It’s hard enough to pull girls on spring break with a good or bad hotel. My roommate and I once slept in our car!! As far as logistics are concerned. It could be so expensive that only old people are staying there. you can still have a blast on spring break. However.9. so. but what’s even worse is that most hotels now require each guest to wear a special wristband specific to that hotel and don’t allow non guests into the hotel. from there you only have to move her to your room or a place where the two of you can be alone. Don’t assume that just because you are staying at the most expensive hotel on the beach that you will be in the heart of the action. I can’t tell you how many beautiful women I lost on spring break because they couldn’t get into our hotel or we couldn’t get into theirs. It’s worth calling around to figure out which hotels these are. You don’t have to try and convince her to ditch her friends or to come back to some hotel far from where she is staying. 2. you can pull the hottest woman in the world and not get her into your room unless you have a rope ladder and ninja smoke. it is nice when you meet women who are staying in the same hotel room as you because the hotel pulls for you. and you can’t afford to stay in one of the hotels where all the action is. You can still have a good time even if you have to stay in a terrible room. It’s hard to bring a hot. It’s harder to convince girl’s friends to let her leave and stay at another hotel with a stranger. you both are naturally going to have to end up back there. we would not have had to take such extreme measures. like I was in college. mini Social circles staying in a hotel where all the women are puts you at a great advantage when it comes to maximizing your chances with the hottest women. If you make any mistakes or if the 126 . If you are broke as a joke. on one of my most epic spring break adventures. then you will likely have exactly one shot to meet and attract her. After going out. but getting her to go up an elevator 3 floors in a hotel you are both staying is much easier. classy woman back to the roach Motel. we met 3 really hot girls and had to smuggle them past gate security by hiding them under blankets in the back seat!! If we had been staying at the hotel where everyone was staying. If you are not staying in the same hotel as a woman. you may find that your hotel room is a logistical nightmare.
If you aren’t staying where you will see her over and over. You want to see her again and again. but 127 . this means that you must have great game or get lucky. so. and short banter. You will swim with them at the hotel. You should focus more on working your qualification and comfort game. just be aware that most women on spring break are going to have so much stimulation from the beach. you don’t have to be the stranger trying to open. hang out on the beach. You already know each other so the woman is much less likely to flake later that night when you try to pull. party at the club together. touch. they can get attraction and get the woman extremely attracted through dancing. because you have qualified her and built some comfort during the day. and ride home with them from the club. ride to the club together. the women will already know you. A woman you meet on Monday may be cold as ice when you first meet. By simply staying in the right hotel. pre party before going out. Girls are extremely flaky on spring break so you don’t want to have to rely on phone game. on the other hand. Knowing that you are going to see the women over and over allows you to run a much slower and more natural style of game. You can meet an extremely beautiful woman and grind her down slowly over the week. Doing this gives you a HuGe advantage over the competition. this allows you to slowly cultivate relationships with tons of women and strike when the timing is perfect. play volleyball. You can share a van to the club and ride back (this is how the hotel pulls for you). then you will only get one shot to get her. you will be able to crack into multiple groups of women and you will get far more work done with less effort.9. I’m not saying you shouldn’t take numbers. but by Friday she may be all over you. You will have a group of girls at the club that you already know. Most guys will have a hard time pulling girls on spring break because the clubs are so loud that it is very hard to qualify and build comfort. then you will see the same women multiple times each day over the course of the week. that trying to run standard text and phone game will be like trying to squeeze blood from a turnip. and then turning up your attraction game at night when everyone goes out. then you will not get another chance to attract her. if you are staying in a hotel with tons of women.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) timing was just off. You should run a much slower and more limited attraction game during the down time at the hotel. to drinking. to guys hitting on them.
It’s good.9. but to get the really hot girls on spring break you will have better luck grinding them down over the course of a week instead of trying to poach them off at a night club in one hit.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) when they go to pull the woman she locks up because he is still a stranger. people don’t have much time to observe any one person for long. the size of the clubs. Just go direct or situational and open until you find one that hits. and the sheer volume of people creates a situation where you can work the entire room and rarely see the same girl twice. but you will need to quickly get into a topic that is fun. but doing it trying to slowly build social proof is a joke. 128 . the clubs are so big. spring break is all about cutting lose and being crazy. loud. The clubs are so big. This is good and bad. because if you open enough sets you will find one that hits. In a low key bar or club back home. Working the room is a must. Gaming in the clubs… ok. because social proof will not be a powerful tool in your arsenal. While same night lays can and will happen with 9’s and 10’s on spring break. the entire room would see you getting blown out multiple times and they would lose attraction for you. let’s forget the mini social circles for now and let’s talk about how to game within the club assuming you don’t have the luxury of creating a mini social circle. because the mob is so big. blowouts don’t matter. If you try to have a deep low energy conversation. but even more so on spring break. opening: You can go indirect if you are lucky enough to find a quiet portion of the club. that you will inevitably lose some sets. As we all know. It’s easy to get same night lays with skanky drunk girls or even 7’s. you will likely lose the set. Don’t feel bad if you burn through as many sets as you must. on spring break. burning through sets at a high rate could ruin your social proof. Your best bet is to go direct or situational. use this to your advantage. you will have much more success when those women are staying in your hotel. When it comes to 9 and 10 game . coupled with the high energy. it is by no means consistent. your margin for error with 9’s and 10’s is already lower in general. It’s bad. and high energy.
” Braddock : “I don’t think I’ve met you yet. but you are really sexy. In most venues it will be much too loud and crazy to hold a woman’s attention if you try to slow things down and get deep. you need to find out the logistics of your target. If a set has several bad logistical components. guy. Don’t make the mistake of being the serious.” Situational opener examples: Braddock : “I’m sorry. this is done through teasing.9. there’s actually no dancing in here.. I’m not really into tall girls. do you know what time the bible study starts tonight?” attraction Game within the clubs…. but I had to meet you…I’m Braddock.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) direct opener examples: Braddock : “You are cute/hot. and leading. everyone there is in party mode and they did not go to spring break looking to find their next boyfriend..” Braddock : (to a tall girl) “Hi.. Avoid attempting to run deep comfort until you get her back to the hotel or at least until you can get her somewhere quiet like a walk on the beach. I’m not really into short girls.” Braddock : “I’m not sure what to say to you.. there’s actually no drinking in here. philosophical.” Braddock : (to a short girl) “Hi. Anything that takes a lot of attention or effort on the woman’s 129 . role plays. deep. I’m Braddock. If you are looking to hook up on spring break then it’s important to realize that it is a waste of time to talk to even the hottest woman on the planet if she is staying 20 miles down the beach and she drove the rental car so all her friends could drink. dancing. that style of game will not get you far on spring break. Your main emphasis should be on keeping things playful and physical.. what’s your name?” Braddock : “How do you expect me not to hit on you when you look like this?” Braddock : “You are really cute.” Braddock : “I’m sorry.” Braddock : “excuse me.Next set!!!!!! remember that spring break is slightly different than normal club situations. With every set you open. Are there 10 girls staying in one room? Is she staying in fort Knox of a hotel? Are her friends extremely bitchy and judgmental? find out logistics early in set and viscously cut sets with bad logistics. I’m Braddock. but you are sexy as hell.
Dancing can go all the way to make out or even farther without so much as one word being spoken. so you can game them later at night when the vibe is right. If there is an open beach at your hotel with tons of people and most of them are not staying at your hotel. try to mingle and get on girls’ radar. then she will be much more comfortable and relaxed when you bring up the idea of going back to your hotel. that is asking a lot in and of itself. in the middle of the night. once you have the girl’s attention. this limits your attraction game. so you will need to get more done with less. You won’t have to have a fancy opener. then by all means game away. use the dance floor… The dance floor is the quickest way to escalate things physically (even if you can’t dance.9. At the end of the night you are asking the woman to go home with a complete stranger to a hotel room she has never been to. If they remember you that night. Don’t run around your hotel burning down every set. will likely result in you losing her attention. if not all. 130 . she will feel much more comfortable running around with you all night than some new stranger who is trying to game her through cold approach. However. of your attraction game without having to say all that much. Dancing can eat up a ton of time while moving the set forward physically. these clubs are so loud that it can be extremely hard to hold a woman’s attention for very long using a long routine stack. and you have attraction. if you have been moving her around the club all night long. of course you don’t ‘have’ to dance and you can have success without it. then she is slowly getting used to the idea of following your lead. there will be built in familiarity and comfort. for one. especially early in set. it does all of your kino escalation for you. Gaming at your hotel: Mingle.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) part. don’t game. When you see her at a club later that night. Just move her to the center of the mob and grind away). But at your hotel. these places are usually so fucking loud that dancing is one of the most powerful tools in your arsenal. your work is cut in half. you need to move her as much as possible. and it does most. but it will make your life much easier. If she is comfortable following your lead all night.
all day. Don’t waste your day ‘just’ being drunk and passing out. open a woman. I highly suggest that you get involved in as many day activities that allow you to be social. there is the potential of hitting the ‘pre-selection’ attraction switch. although this would obviously be preferred. You guys want to catch a cab over together?” If they say yes. I highly suggest that you use fun or functional openers. introduce her and her friends to your friends. really use this time during the day. Just look for girls that will hang around with you. so be it. Don’t worry if they talk to other guys. then invite them over to pre-party in your room at 8 or 9. so we are going to push faster than normal. but still slower than cold approach. the daytime is the time to get on tons of girls‘ radar so you can open them with ease later in the night. utilize the daytime to make your nights easier.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) think of your hotel as a mini social circle..9. Whatever club they say. they will be much easier to open and merge into your group. If something happens with these girls romantically over the course of the week. so you will know a bunch of people at night. Yes. you guys down to play?” During the day you don’t need to take sets from meet to sex. you say. 131 . get to know them for a few minutes and then move on (unless it is going extremely well. If you hit it off well with a girl or group of girls from your hotel. “Hey.wash rinse repeat. don’t be afraid to encourage it... there will be so many drunk assholes hitting on women that they can become kind of guarded. having a group of girls simply standing with your group will make it easier to open other girls. they don’t have to be super hot. naturally. However. they will see you as much safer. Quickly find a small group of girls to befriend. then of course escalate just like normal game). Good day game/Scm hybrid game makes your nights easier. we need two more girls for our team. ask them what club they are going to that night. play volleyball and use it as your opener. pre-existing girls always put new girls at ease. You only have a week.. but I’m not even worried about that. that is not your prime directive of meeting them and having them around. As a matter of fact. “cool. just like in normal life. If you already have women. I want you to use these women to help other women open easier. I think that is where we are going.
dismiss her. let this happen organically. is going to break off and meet other guys. The women are flaky and spring break is not logistically set up for dates. she will act offended if you ignore her. spring break is all about hooking up ‘now or never’. tHIs Is sprING BreAK!!!! she is not your girlfriend.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) this means you should have music and a few drinks in your room so they will want to stay and will want to pre-party there next time. utilize the fact that these girls are going with you and use it to your advantage. some. WHo CAres??!! Don’t make them or any of their friends uncomfortable by acting jealous. examples of things to make your room fun: • Keg • Music • Beer pong • Flip cup • Beer bong When they come over. don’t push hard to game them or couple up. or. or their group. hooking up with girls in your hotel… Make sure that if the girl is staying in your hotel you don’t sleep with her if she seems like the clingy type you aren’t sure you will want to be seen with all week. If you are the kind of guy that is used to running Day 2 style of game and deep comfort game you may find yourself frustrated on spring break. you will need to set certain frames the night you hook up with her and the morning after. over the course of the night.9. essentially cock blocking you from meeting other girls. 132 . she will try to hang out with you all week. If she is way into you and you hook up. Set the right frames… pre frames (things said well before you get her in the bedroom) spring break is not a place where you are likely to meet your next girlfriend or future wife. Do to the fact that you are hooking up with women you’ve known for only a short period of time. some of her girls won’t like your buddies in that way. it is quite common to get lMr (last minute resistance ) if you do not set the proper frames. this means. and while you are heading to the club. if she sees you talking to other girls.
you’re from the Midwest? So.” • “You are really sexy. Don’t make out with her and run around the beach holding hands.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) What frames Should you Set? You want to set frames that imply sexual intent. don’t act weird. examples of pre frames: • “This is so weird that we met like this. Just be flirty and playful. When you see her the next day. it will destroy the set. It would last exactly 2 months and be nothing but fights and makeup sex. I usually do it in mini isolation (meaning that I do it just out of earshot of her friends). I like that.9.” post frames: on the other hand if your same night lay game is tight. If you introduce it before you have solid attraction.” • “Oh. but it is a good idea to introduce at least some sexual dialogue.” • “It’s a good thing you don’t live in Los Angeles…. Just act exactly like you did the day before. but I can already tell you are too much of a nice girl for me.” • “We can’t hang out.” • “You’re really hot.” • “I love those shoes…if we end up having sex. you are leaving those on. It sucks we only have a week together. the key is the timing. You will find that you can create a situation where you have a stage five clinger following you around all week wondering why you are talking to other girls and not spending your entire spring break with her. this ends in a makeout. you are definitely a total prude. you still have those weird 1950’s views on boys and sex. You also want to wait to set these frames when you have the girl in isolation (away from her friends). right?” • “We could never date. but I can tell you are a bad kisser. Most people are so judgmental and uptight.” pre frame by challenging her Sexually: • “You are really sexy and really cool.we would have sex like 5 times a day. so.” • “You know what I like about you? You seem like you’re really open minded. but I bet you are horrible in bed. then you will run into another problem that needs remedy. If 133 . You don’t need to be overly sexual or pushy.” • “You’re from the south? Ok.
” Girl: “lol…Whatever!!” Braddock: “Mr. and was talking all smooth. What frames can you set post sex to help reduce stage 5 clinger? To avoid any hard feelings or creating a stage five clinger. or how glad you are that you met. the feelings you feel for each other. focus on the fact that “This was hot” and don’t place an emphasis on the connection you made. If you try to sniper a girl right in front of her it might cause problems. but if you are just talking to everyone. Most women on spring break don’t give a shit!!!! they are there for the same reason you are. thank God I’m a moral rock.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) you are just being social in general then she won’t notice that you are actively gaming other girls.” Keep things light/silly/playful after sex. You may or may not hook up with her again on the trip anyway. she will assume you are just a social guy. you know how shy I am in bars and clubs. I will often say something like this to lighten the mood of the awkwardness of being naked in a stranger’s hotel room the next morning. M . When you wake up. M. Do Not treat a woman that you hooked up with on spring break like she is your new girlfriend. but she insisted that I take my clothes off. focus on “how fucking attracted you are to her” and “how much she turns you on. but the fastest way to guarantee that you don’t is to turn into a clingy boyfriend. Don’t let things get too serious or awkward. As a matter of fact. this girl tried to seduce me last night. was uncomfortably touchy feely. I told her that I’m from oklahoma and that we don’t even kiss girls until the second date. most women are just as likely to get weirded out by a guy acting clingy.9.” 134 . example in Action: Braddock : “Mr. there will often be other people in the room (your friends or hers). I was in the corner minding my own business and this girl comes up to me and basically forces me to drink alcoholic beverages. The truth is that you should just avoid the women that you think will be stage five clingers.
M (said in silly Australian accent): “Yeah.. I mean I’m going to have to hold him and explain to him that you aren’t going to marry him. You must steer the ship. don’t let her paint me with an unfair brush. If you take things deep.Braddock 135 .9. As a matter of fact. I think that is more than fair.” It’s all about keeping things silly and light. don’t you think it’s only fair that she buys us breakfast as payment for tricking a sweet. M.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) Girl: “hahaha…. .Whatever. You know I’m saving my virginity until marriage. If you keep things light and fun. Mr. she will stay light and fun. M. he came and talked to me!!!” Braddock: “Mr. she will go deep. innocent oklahoma boy?????” Mr. AVoID Deep!!! Good luck on your spring break adventure.
2 Golden rule of Building a new Social circle .How College Game & DHV stories relate to sC Game .Let’s Just hug it out .A strange paradox .3 Social circle mastery interview audio . farming 136 .4 Social circle vs.the recipe for Compliance 10. popularity second .social Circle Mastery Audio parts 1-7 10.rules to live by 10.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle .Hunting Vs.respect first...Knowing When to pull .covered in thiS chapter: 10. cold approach.
.theattractionforums.com/braddock/93788-when-pull-trigger-your-social-circle. http://www. 137 ..10.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle.html Question: “In my social circle how do I know when to start pouring on the attraction material or when to wait?” answer: social Circle attraction doesn’t begin until compliance begins.
overly pushy gamey guy).. Guys who pull the trigger with women way too late have a hard time getting attraction and asserting themselves in their group. I noticed that in cold approach “fortune favors the bold” but in social circle game this mentality often did more harm than good. Most guys either try to pull the trigger way too early or way too late.e. If it hits. they make the situation very uncomfortable and come across as gamey or sleazy. on the other hand. a Strange paradox…. friend zone). these guys treat their social circle like it’s a night club and basically cold approach and game every girl in their circle.e.” When I used to help the Don on his bootcamps. “Getting laid is probably 70% about getting compliance. I also noticed that the 138 . I can remember spending a great deal of time in all three of these categories before figuring out how to find a balance that was effective.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. I quickly noticed that social circle game was much more about timing and patience... In this article I will show you why that % is even higher in social circle game.but if it doesn’t..” I couldn’t agree more. found pickup literature.. Consequently. on the other end of the spectrum are the guys who try to pull the trigger far too early. he would say. you can create an awkward situation that isn’t going away anytime soon. and are now the guys who are attempting to pull the trigger WAY too early (I. they often find themselves in the friend zone. the third type of guy is the one who used to pull the trigger way too late (I.great. compliance increases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game increases compliance decreases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game decreases Compliance Defined: “A disposition or tendency to yield to the will of others. they have a problem getting attraction because the women of the group see them as try hard and low value.10.. one thing you will notice in social circle settings is that pouring on the attraction material too early can have major repercussions.
if we should trust/like them. be bold…. people become more relaxed and more compliant as a result of any one and usually a combination of these 3 things: 1. we get a more static look at how people will behave on a consistent level. high value: Communicating with someone you consider being a high value member of the group..10. so you are much more likely to bend on something with them that you wouldn’t necessarily bend on with someone you considered lower value. When we first meet. unspoken roles will be defined for each member of the group and as these roles are accepted. so. Over time.. the recipe for compliance: let’s think about how social circles or social encounters for that matter. the less guarded we are and the more we relax around them. they would say and do things around women that if anyone else in the group would have tried. you will naturally start to see what people’s boundaries are. but when these guys did it.everyone does this to some degree or another. peer pressure. time: the more time we spend with people. I can make those kinds of jokes 139 . (Don’t say you don’t do this…. jumping to defend or have their back without concern for the validity of their argument. We use this knowledge as a blueprint to determine the nature of each individual relationship in our life….e.. You might even create rationalizations that paint just average behavior or even poor behavior in a positive light (I. You want their acceptance and you want them to align with you. and what makes them feel good or bad... their weakness. work. stability and comfort are born within the group. the women would have been deeply offended and turned off.. we are out of sync with people and we are not sure what their intentions are. You are hardwired biologically to do so). but hanging out 20 times will give you a pretty good idea. laughing at an average joke way harder than it deserved. 2.but don’t be bold…but do!?!?!?!??. over time. “ok. strengths.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. the women liked them even more. Hanging out with someone 1 time is not a very strong measure of how people are going to treat you consistently.anyone else confused? What a strange paradox. guys in my social circle who were getting laid consistently by the hottest girls were some of the boldest guys I’d ever met. being more accommodating or forgiving of insurrections from them than you would from most people.. if they like us etc… time remedies this because as time passes.
” If someone treats us well consistently and makes us feel good when we are around them. When we have someone we feel extremely close to and consider part of our group. He can ask you to do something within reason and you can ask him to do something within reason. His or her behavior is most consistently like x. and as you hang out more and more. each of you becomes more and more compliant to one another. you begin to figure out each other’s boundaries and you both begin to open up. and as a result. but might have been if a stranger tried them. When you look at a picture of a family member. or neutral) you have with someone. 140 .10. so my mind is not alarmed when he does something out of the ordinary now and then. you may flash multiple good and bad memories and experience a wide range of feelings in a split second. We let them slide because we have tons of shared experiences and time spent together that proves that ‘most’ of the time. As this happens. around Billy.. but they upset sam. bad. think back to the time when you had met one of your closest guy friends. He can tease you. this likely explains why soldiers or athletes that endure hardship together report feeling like brothers or family. the more experiences (good. you can tease him. we are going to bend a lot more and let things slide that aren’t that big of a deal.. As time passes. 3.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. When you first met you were likely fairly formal and both of you were holding your cards pretty close to your chest. this person treats me like x. the more connected you feel to that person. then you will see him as high value to you. “How do all of these help me know when to pull the trigger?” to illustrate the above. I’m not worried about him saying or doing any one thing. but Jenny gets really upset. You didn’t know him that well and you didn’t know his boundaries. Shared experiences: Have you ever noticed that we have a tendency to let our family members get away with saying and doing things to us that we would never allow a stranger to do or say? You likely have an archive the size of the library of Congress full of memories and feelings associated with each family member. over time we will become far more compliant to them than to a stranger or to someone within the group we do not feel good around. If you enjoy your time with each other and your time spent with him makes you feel good emotions.” or… “sara laughs hard when I playfully tease her.
Now.so does compliance.. you are essentially running cold approach game. As you spend time with a woman in your social circle and you share experiences. it should be obvious by now.. shared experiences. and value increases.10. and value with that woman than you do and as a result. Before then. and she does. but now they laugh.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. your attraction game can increase.... but the answer is.... oNlY IN HIs social circle because he has more time. Chalk this up to time + shared experience + value = increase in compliance. ever notice you can joke rougher and get away with snide and edgy comments with women in your social circle? Could you have said those things to those women when you first met? Of course not.no... regardless of how good things were going with you and her? How did he pull her away from you? Is it because he’s “so alpha”.. Have you ever been the new guy at a house party and you were flirting with a woman and it was going pretty well and then a guy from her inner social circle yells from across the room for her to come over and join them.as compliance increases.no...... go back and re-read the above and replace guy with girl... so when do you really turn up the attraction game???? Well. each of you open up more and each of you are more likely to loosen up your boundaries toward each other.. What about a guy friend you met 2 days ago? You are basically back to square one with the new guy. He can get her to do more with less effort. Could that same guy go to any club in America and yell at a random hot stranger and she would break her conversation and walk to him?... shared experiences.. He can pull off this magical feat. 141 .no. You aren’t going to tease him as rough and you wouldn’t ask him for a favor and you would not be too excited about him asking for a sizable favor from you. hoping it hits.he has more compliance from her than you do...... Here lIes Your WINDoW to esCAlAte!!!!! time + Shared experience + value = compliance As time.. Is it because he’s got some quantum game.
1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle.. So remember… compliance increases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game increases compliance decreases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game decreases Mr.. What if compliance decreases for some reason? let’s say she starts dating someone or for whatever reason you can sense that you have lost some compliance since last time you hung out.10.. -Braddock 142 . this could go back and forth tons of times before it finally hits. M and I cover this in great detail in our social Circle Mastery seminar . We’ll be right back after this commercial break from our sponsors. It just means increase the frequency and intensity of your attraction game as compliance increases... then the frequency and intensity of your attraction game should decrease..Well. this does not mean stay in friend mode until compliance is high and this does not mean you should not run attraction game until compliance is high...
Golden rule of Building a new Social circle. http://www. It’s brutal to earn back the respect that you gave away up front. You don’t hand it out unless people truly deserve it. (fuck what everyone thinks) 5. this could and may. and the most. 6. popularity second. I’m sure there are many more.html In our social Circle Mastery seminar. few of the things I think of when I think of respect.. women in any given social circle. 3.. M and I. You are never jealous. you go for both at the same time. strong Boundaries 2. It’s easy to gain popularity. this goes back to the old David D quote of. Your praise is as rare as Gold.” (We’ve all messed this one up). Mr. people must earn your praise..com/braddock/82236-golden-rule-building-new-social-circle. call this the “Golden rule” for starting a new tree. I know lots of guys who are popular.. Abundance mentality (With everything) 7. but the truth is you are only digging a deeper hole. Respect first. but are nowhere near acquiring a power broker seat within their social circle. When you get good.. Authentic at all cost. Honesty at all cost. turn into a 10 page post someday. simply remember the golden rule of building a new social circle.. Don’t give people any more respect than they earn. (see number 6) 143 . shine by actions. “trying to trade status for acceptance and approval. Go for respect first and popularity second. but for now. this does not mean become the lame try hard guy who tries to play leader either. fuck. You can easily gain respect without trying to be the leader.. Just be real and act out of your own intentions regardless of what the group says or does without being too rigid either way. that will get you the opposite of respect just as fast. 4.. this applies with guys and girls.. 1. 8. not by words. sometimes you may try to appease an asshole of the group or try to ‘go along to get along’ by doing what you think is popular.theattractionforums. Guys in the power broker seats date the hottest.
. people who are not self reliant are disgusting!) this does not mean you can’t ask favors or advice. 20. I’ve hated them for it. 18. Has no problem teasing or qualifying people of high value. You are nice to everyone. (May be the quickest way to lose respect. 11.. Don’t let people disrespect your time. values. “Don’t spend major time with minor people. 10. 9. sense of humor.. 16.” -Deleanor roosevelt (I. favorite David D quote. Why would you share them with people who don’t matter? 13.” -George Washington 15. be ok hearing “No. Don’t ask advice from the weak. True friendship is a plant of slow growth. don’t ask advice from anyone who isn’t living the life you want to live. but intimate with few. Most important.. Keep your secrets. but it means a lot when you do. You like. (read this one 100 times. 17.. 12. people with high and low value characteristics.etc) 14.. You just consider them people. this means you are not emotionally fragile and need others approval to know you are ok.. or bend the truth in the face of value. because you don’t consider them higher value. Apologize rarely.. Your time is precious.e. you would never withhold laughter. people who make excuses.. Better yet. they have to earn it.learn to say “No” a lot. Also. yet expect you to respect theirs..” Have a good holiday weekend! If you are going to the lake. only laugh if something is truly funny.) 19. Never change your beliefs. Negative. It’s hard to get “in” with you.Golden Rule of Building a New Social Circle. but don’t need other’s validation. (No courtesy laughs) Yet. -Braddock 144 . and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. “Be courteous to all. I’ve hated myself for it!!! Anytime someone breaks this law around me. wear your arm floaties. every time I have broken this law. and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation. but you don’t get close to just anyone.. Never lean or leak emotionally on other people.
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by letting other people observe you in multiple high value situations. As a matter of fact. having 300 DHV stories. hmm. that is the worst place to try and develop one... but to ditch all the lame old guard community dogma including. I wish I would have found this stuff when I was a freshman in college. opening every set... we advise college guys and anyone gaming within the confines of a small social circle to learn the basic structure outlined in savoy’s book. At Love Systems. getting your sub communications under control.html 21 and under convention. and amoging guys for no reason... but not limited to. I would probably be the baby daddy of like 30 kids. I spent most of my speech trying to hit the highlights of what I wish someone would have told me when I started college. M and I developed for our social Circle Mastery seminar were born out of my college experience. the ultimate DHV is creating a ‘Buzz’ about you.. (I love The Game it changed my life) but trying to develop a super hero pickup persona has it’s time and place..4 Social circle vs. but a college campus is not one of them.Let’s Just hug it out http://www. This trumps any weak DHV story you might develop. It’s impossible not to feed off of that when you are speaking. I think the worst thing that a young guy can do on a college campus is run around trying to emulate what he learned in The Game.. I like speaking to the younger guys.com/braddock/74455-social-circle-vs-cold-approach-lets-just-hugout.maybe it’s better that I didn’t..theattractionforums.. AlWAYs trying to control the frame. In social Circle Mastery we define buzz as having people talk about you when you aren’t around. I couldn’t remember how long I was expected to speak so I prepared about 5 hours of content. I also spent a fair amount time trying to MurDer the sacred cows of classic pickup dogma.. Several of the principles Mr.. peacocking.. They have a lot of energy and they are fired up to learn this stuff. future product? I love speaking about college game because it’s definitely my bag. I’m a little jealous.. I just got back from speaking at the 21 and under convention. 5 hours of college game. and second. Magic Bullets. 146 . I teach guys that in college game and in Social Circle Mastery you are much better DHV’ing by first. I spoke for about an hour on college game.10.. cold approach. Jesus! on second thought..
and deep comfort are the be all end all of game! He’s the self proclaimed best ever!” Yuck..Let’s Just hug it out dhv stories: In the words of Chris rock.10. If that is the case. then social circle game is not possible for you. frame setting. I have this friend and he tells the best stories and girls love him and and and he says cold approach.. It’s not even the second or third best option. you run a high risk of looking insecure. this is why cold approach is such an art form and why it is so tough.but. I would never try to convince someone not to learn it. I’m telling you from first hand experience if you want the hottest girls in your social circle. I have mastered both because I think cold approach is a blast but I have realized that it doesn’t have to be a way of life. I understand.” DHV stories were developed for cold approach because you have one shot at making it happen because you don’t have weeks or months to develop ‘Buzz. Why do you knock it so hard? You are hurting my feelings and making my friend upset. like a braggart. I promise not to hit on any of his 5’s or 6’s.. “You ain’t got to lie to kick it. or are not in college it may be the only means of meeting women you have. running fast paced cold approach game is the Worst option. hunting vs farming: the evolution of Society I like to think of cold approach as hunting and social circle game as farming. “But. Don’t care.4 Social circle vs. Ask him for pictures of these girls. ruN soCIAl CIrCle GAMe!!!!!!! fuck your friend.” Awww. or like you are lying if you constantly look for places where you can slide in a DHV stories..’ therefore. cold approach... 147 . But in social circle or college game. live in a major city and don’t frequent the same venues. tell your friend I’m sorry. “But but but.. I actually love cold approach.but.. If you travel. Braddock.Braddock you teach cold approach. you have to tell DHV stories in order to convey your personality in 30 minutes or less.. I have spent the last few years of my life mastering it. If you have access to a stable of hot girls you are going to see on a semi regular basis..
and sometimes it’s the disease ridden runt. when you are ready to harvest. When you could be spending that time laying inroads for access to bigger better hunting ground... omnivore: When you combine the two. You have a harvest of crops growing.. When you are hunting you have to kill something every time you are hungry... you aren’t even thinking on those terms because you are starving! farming: When you farm you do a lot of work up front followed by intermittent maintenance. cold approach.. leArN BotH!!!!!!!!! -Braddock 148 .Let’s Just hug it out hunting: It is a necessary skill all men should posses...4 Social circle vs. every time you go out and don’t kill something you become hungrier and hungrier. but in a progressive society it slowly becomes more of a sport or a right of passage and less and less of a means for survival.. it’s the biggest. Basically. this is true power. best trophy animal of the herd. sometimes. but you can go hunting for fun to see if you can find the trophy of the herd. you come back and pick the best crops and throw away the weaker crops. then..10. You may have to take what you can get because you don’t know when you will eat next.
An example of How to set-up a friends w/ Benefits Scenario 149 .1 Creating Friends w/ Benefits .covered in thiS chapter: 11.
html originally posted by Cowboy1: Okay. It was supposed to be quick. I have the pernicious question in my head: “I hope that she is not thinking we are in a committed relationship. she said that she likes me more than a friend. 2. she came back in for a moment that turned into lying on the floor together. how they date and are on track to get married and get babies and that wasn’t for me. she has just openly started chasing you.com/braddock/103563-creating-friends-benefits-my-responsered. I usually just smile and/or escalate and ignore it. but sandwich this with some nice cognitive dissonance by saying.11. Avoid saying anything that builds too much comfort.” 150 . Last night. but I’m also not looking for a relationship right now. I am not sure that it helped make sure that we are not going to have a committed relationship. so this may come out all fumbled. or a girlfriend. Though. As she finally put her shoes on to leave.” Could you give me a quick check on what you think and suggestion on how to proceed. By not letting her know what you think either way. a friend came over to pick something up at my place. “I don’t sleep with people who are just friends either”. Afterward. you create a powerful unresolved tension inside her. that some people scare me. leaving them hanging just a little after they put themselves out there is powerful. “I don’t sleep around or with someone unless they are more than friends. Validate her by saying. We ended up going for a walk. I usually don’t get into a big dialogue when girls say this.theattractionforums. (simply smile to acknowledge it. but don’t get into a logical conversation) I like to say less and keep the tension on them! Whether you want friends with benefits. a one night stand. If you feel she is a girl who would get super clingy then there are a few things you could do: 1. I am pretty low on sleep. She said that she can’t have sex with a friend only. I tried setting expectations later by bringing up.1 Creating Friends with Benefits (My Response In Red) http://www.
.11. they don’t get their feelings hurt or have misguided expectations since I don’t verbalize much. Every two people form their own kinds of relationship.”I’m so glad we met. ask her to hand you the alarm clock next to the bed.. set it for 8am (whatever time) and tell her that you have to get up and go to work in the morning/help a friend move/overthrow a small countries government. Don’t stand there waiting as if you two are negotiating a million dollar contract 4. Don’t say that and wait for a response... I didn’t hear the rebellious. After you say something heavy like that. We ended up screwing until sunrise.. It’s not a deal breaker. but they don’t know for sure if I do. and then some more. She had some first experiences.. 5. I say shit like this sometimes. Don’t say shit like. and I build the necessary comfort by making them laugh and have fun. be careful what you say. This.. Not bad.. Just before you have sex. It all depends on the girl and the situation. we make our own rules. this way.etc. I avoid saying anything about how I feel to a girl I just want to sleep with.1 Creating Friends with Benefits (My Response in Red) 3. but not bad. every girl has a slightly different blueprint of what she will feel ok with before having sex/becoming a friend with benefits. say it as if it’s a good thing and simply a statement of fact. is not something I would do the first time I had sex with a girl I just wanted to be my fuck buddy.. “Get the fuck out. Keep it physical and “MAYBe” about how cool she is.just a logical reason for her to get the fuck out without you having to say.. “Baby”. but keeps her from lingering and doing relationship type stuff...” this allows her to leave with self esteem nice and high. However... but you are doing stuff that I only do with girlfriends/girls I’ve slept with numerous times and know the score..’ She kind of nodded. like her first vibrator. rather than following societies model. I gave her the spiel of ‘letting things naturally develop.”you’re so special”.Keep it about how attracted to her you are..”. took a nap. During and just after sex. 151 .. while very fun... A little long winded for this situation... keep escalating like a mother fucker. We ended up washing each other in the shower and had breakfast in the afternoon. they like me and wonder/wish I like them.
but will have a hard time combating that and will passively accept it (if said right).. what is the responsible. “Yes. Setting expectations for the relationship/situation is perhaps the thing that I am struggling with the most.. I am touching both pretty affectionately. but you’re not like that. I can push him toward a relationship. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA You are my hero!!! When we all three hang out.” It’s much like qualification. Though.11. but in her mind she may be thinking. because he did all these things. If so. Situation check and pointers please! 152 . You keep getting the girl to comply to smaller and smaller things and the next thing she knows she is sleeping with you. You:”You know what I think is so fucking hot about you?” Her: “What?” You: “Most girls get all weird and clingy after you have sex and they try to push you into a relationship..1 Creating Friends with Benefits (My Response in Red) Oh. I wanted to be safe.. and she was pretty persistent about bareback. and her room mate is my ex-girlfriend. then. Yet.. I hold hands with more girls.. I can’t stand girls who do that. they get you to comply on small things and then the next thing you know you are at Bed Bath and Beyond picking out decorations for the bathroom you share with your new girlfriend. I am not looking for a committed relationship at this point. Do you think that in her mind we are a couple now? No. We were already holding hands before.” she will be frustrated inside. Also.say. Girls play the same game..if I keep this up and keep getting him to accept these types of things. slightly smooth way to handle expectations? She is cute and all. I think that is so fucking sexy. please fuck both of them and write an awesome 3some field report. Oh. it will be harder and harder to say no. Just after sex .
covered in thiS chapter: 12.1 too ‘routine dependent’ Sticking point .How to Get over using routines .the “Good” and “Bad” About routines 153 .
12. html originally posted by eagle1977 Hey guys.. “You seem like an lA girl..1 too ‘routine dependent’ Sticking point http://www. DC in Sept. it won’t allow you to use routines and it will keep you from asking boring questions. so instead of saying. as I don’t want to keep up bad habits for another 2 months. I’m signed up for Mr. Down the road (in a week or two). He said to go out for a few nights and don’t ask any questions. but for now.M bootcamp in Washington. be playful.” or.. (totally psyched!) and would love to get some suggestions to work on this before the bootcamp. you need to work on how to extend conversations without having to memorize anything. What you learn is that routines are strong when they are used as the salt and pepper. and the more advanced concepts will start to slowly 154 ..theattractionforums. Another thing I did when I was trying to get good is something I read in a Juggler post. either way..I open/transition fine but immediatly after I kinda just feel like I’m going through a manual in my head of attraction routines and sometimes it’s working and sometimes (with hotter girls) it’s just falling flat. Work for a few months at becoming a strong conversationalist who can keep conversations going. “so where are you from?” You have to say. but they are almost worthless and definitely come across weird when they are used as the steak of the conversation. only keep the conversation going by making statements. who can make a woman laugh.. Go in with the mind set for the first week you are just going to try to be funny and make the girls laugh and get them being playful (that’s it)..Thanks! Go out for a week and don’t use any routines (at least consciously). you will have to introduce new topics yourself. you can start adding teeth to this to build attraction.I feel like I’m at a sticking point where I’m too dependent on ‘routines’. I think we all go through a phase where we run around trying to use 300 routines..com/braddock/103566-too-routine-dependent-sticking-point.
say them all in a row. if you think you will ever memorize 399 routines. and you will take a girl home. your responses will be delayed as you try to remember which one to say. then you are crazy.1 too ‘routine dependent’ Sticking point happen on their own. in that you say many of the same things in every set. -Braddock 155 . and every conversation is so different. you will find yourself doing “routines” technically. What you will notice as you get better at things like trigger words and the things I mentioned above. they are also powerful in certain situations. but it will be born out of what you have naturally developed as opposed to going to a bar with 20 routines you have to memorize and figure out where to plug them in.12. I also teach trigger words on my bootcamps and we do several exercises to reduce the emphasis of routines for these same reasons. it would be impossible to create a routine stack that works in every situation. You will go insane trying to memorize them all. However. because they can steer an already good conversation sexual or whatever you need. routines are nice because they can get you a repeatable response while you are learning and help you see what good conversation feels like.
How the set turned Around .‘Man Vs.covered in thiS chapter: 13.2 Soldier of fortune! .1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report . Wild’ .elements that Made the set explode 13.taming the Beast and Claiming the prize 156 .A set with satan .
at this level. those are my favorite guys to work with. so. Dahunter called me after he met him in lA and told me how amazing this guy was. I was excited about NYC because I was going to get to hang with sheriff. Dahunter said in l. Dahunter gets laid like a fucking rockstar and has some of the best game I’ve ever seen.1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report http://www. sheriff ended up getting a BJ from some girl he met in the elevator on his way to bed. Now that I’m not. I had talked to my one on one several times on the phone and he seemed really cool and really excited to learn. M and sheriff were in town early.A. Back to reopen satan! Braddock : “excuse me satan……” 157 . I was excited to meet Mr. They don’t expect you to fix them and they don’t hate life. We had a blast. I used to be one. you’ve got to see Mr. M in action. Well kinda. some social proof.com/braddock/61183-lr-poppin-my-colla-partna-nyc-lay-report. M closed a playboy playmate and that just talking to the guy helps make your game better. ooops! she turned and looked at me slowly from head to toe. one of those “I didn’t know they stacked shit that high” looks. We went to several venues and even though NYC was kinda slow because it was a thursday. He was a really interesting guy. He’s a cool dude and really fun. I said sweeeet! sign me up! since Mr. they decided to go out with my one on one and I just for fun. but I have to admit. I flew out early on Thursday and once again they fucked up my flight. Negative people fucking suck donkey dick to work with and in life in general. he still did well. off to go get that. “Holy shit dude. the student did really well and we had a blast. sheriff is great at watching someone in set and telling them what they can change to take their game to the next level. I can learn something from anyone I meet. Graduated from Harvard. for him to be like. Also. Ha! the student and I went to a really cool club that his friend got us into. so. fine. our hero knows the remedy for such bitchy behavior is social proof. M and sheriff went home and went to bed. that Mr. It was really late so Mr. lived and traveled the world. M. Also. I knew this guy must be the real deal. I open a few sets get locked in and have them touching me and grabbing me.13.theattractionforums. it’s not very often that someone blows me away with their game or with something they can teach me to add to my game. We opened a few sets and then I saw a 2 set at the bar I wanted to open. html NYC was a fucking blast. she didn’t even answer my question and she turned back to her friend! lolol this kind of behavior only excites our hero. I opened the target and not the obstacle. it’s sick”. great energy and outlook on life. I can’t stand being around them. How unexpected.
satan: “I’m sorry I was rude. I don’t look at her. You would just smile and not care. But. that’s all the IoIs you’re going to get from a hot girl that has blown you out hard. so get over the whole this guy wants me thing. smiles and walks away.1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report Satan: Cutting me off before I could even finish my sentence: “Fuck off. I open multiple sets and merge them and bounce around from girl to girl and get locked in where satan can see me.” 158 . can you play nice or is that how you always are?” (social proof was key for all of this.” satan: “I’m sara. take a hint. But. (sIDe Note: Most of the time when a girl blows you out that hard just move on.” Braddock: “I was just going to tell you that you dropped your ID on the floor. If other girls like you then you must be cool. I’ve just had a bad day and we’ve had some weird guys hit on us tonight. I’m Braddock. As I see her coming out of the bathroom I catch her before she gets back to her friends. your moment to strike for the third time is when she breaks off from her friends. she has to stay congruent in front of her friends to the bitch she was earlier.) she goes to the bathroom by herself and she cuts her eyes at me as she is walking. It’s crucial during these shit tests that you remain unaffected by their shit responses. I could tell this girl was attracted or I would have moved on as well. You didn’t look like the normal NYC bar fly so I wanted to meet you.” Braddock : “look I don’t know what all the attitude was earlier. but you don’t need the bar front with me. I know you have lots of options and you can tell I have lots of options. you’re kinda fiery. but I can feel her eyes on me. More social proof!!!! Now it’s time to own the room.13. twice. so. You wouldn’t get mad and yell and you wouldn’t try to look cool by laughing in her face.” our hero bends over grabs her ID and hands it to her. hey nice to meet you too. Braddock : “let’s start over. Don’t get mad and don’t try to act like it’s overly funny. Her eyeing me and staying in proximity also let me know that there was a chance at salvaging it. Just handle that bullshit like you would if a five year old was talking to you. Hi.
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Braddock: “I forgive you, let’s hug it out.” satan: (hugs and laughs) Braddock : “Wow you have normal teeth!?” satan: “lol What?” Braddock : “After the way you acted earlier I assumed you had fangs.” satan: “lol shut up jerk!” Braddock: (handing her my phone) “Here I think this is for you, it’s satan, he said he wants his job back.” satan: “Now you are being mean.” Braddock: “You deserve it. You embarrassed me in front of my other wives earlier. Did you see me crying? You’re lucky I stopped them, they were going to kick your ass.” satan: “oh, you mean all those sluts around you? Yeah I could have taken them.” Braddock : “Would you have used your pitch fork or just shot fire out of your eyes?“ satan: “lol, quit calling me satan.” Braddock : “Yeah you’re probably right, I knew all that shit was just a big front. You’re still evil, but not like I thought. You’re more like the margarine of evil. You’re the diet evil.” satan: “You are funny.” Bla bla bla for another 20 min. Kino through the roof at this point. she is still kinda being a bitch at times, but I know it’s on.
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I tell her I’m leaving because I’m starving (I use this to pull almost everytime, which is usually true, but I never actually get something to eat, which is good and bad lol.) satan: “Wait, let me grab my friend and I’ll go with you.” she grabs her Asian friend and we get a cab. We drop her friend off and she gives the cab driver a “non food address”. It’s like 4 am at this point and the cab driver drops us off about a block from her house. As we are walking toward her apt building she starts with the lMr. I am a beast at destroying lMr for a couple of reasons, especially on bootcamp. I really have no fear of walking away, and because I’m literally leaving in 2 days, I don’t have time for any bullshit. there literally is, no tomorrow. the sexual tension was about to explode between us, because there were so many shit tests and so much drama leading up to this moment that it was ridiculous. However, this kind of state pumping leads to amazing sex if it happens, but it can also lead to lMr if you don’t properly build fear of loss into the set once you pass attraction. I usually thread this during comfort. that way she has invested so much time into the interaction with you that the fear of loss actually means something. If you do it too early then she just lets you go even if she was attracted. You don’t have to be in deep comfort, just enough comfort to where she feels invested in the encounter enough to where she doesn’t want you to leave. so we get to her door and…… satan: “I’m sorry, you can’t come up, I know we will end up having sex.” Braddock: “Wow, of course I want to have sex with you eventually, but I actually just wanted to hang out and get to know you better. I wasn’t worried about what might or might not happen. But, you know what, fuck this shit, I’m not going to let you disrespect me and act like I’m just another guy who wants to fuck you. I could have fucked any girl in that bar tonight, why would I waste my time on the girl who was least likely to have sex with me unless I actually wanted to get to know her?” (Don’t give her time to answer.) “fuck this I’m out.” (start heading down the street trying to hail a taxi.)
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satan: sprinting after me, “Wait, wait!” Braddock: Never breaking stride, never looking back at her, and even shrugging her off when she grabs my arm. “Nope, fuck this I’m going home. What a waste of my fucking time.” satan: “No, wait. I’m sorry. I didn’t mean it like that. please wait. Don’t be like this.” Braddock: “look, I know you like me, but I don’t like all the little bullshit games. I’m only here for 3 days. I don’t have time for all the junior high shit. I obviously like you too. We can either go up to your place and hang out, or I’m going back to my hotel. But if you are going to be all judgmental and bitchy about everything then I don’t want to get to know you. You’ve kinda killed the mood for me and I think it would be better if I just went home.” satan: “No, no, don’t be like that. I do like you, please come up. I didn’t mean it like that. I’m not judgmental at all. I promise! I just didn’t want you to forget I said all that.” she was all over me at this point again. And trying to drag me upstairs. I thought she was going to cry! I lightened the mood a little, but still kept the sexual tension. Braddock: “Hmm… look if you want to go upstairs and watch a movie or something that’s cool, but it better be pG-13 and you better keep you damn hands off me. satan: smiles, she liked that she had worked and won me over. “shut up jerk, let’s go.” We get up to her apartment and she awkwardly fumbles through a few DVD’s and I just grab her and throw her against the wall and start making out with her and then pull her back to her bedroom. I can honestly say it was some of the best sex I have ever had. And one of the greatest turnarounds I’ve ever had. once I got her to her room, the “non judgmental“ frame was set so hard and she had worked so hard to get me that there was no way in hell she was going to stop. moral of the story: There are a few tactics I employed in this set that made it go from flammable to fucking explosive! However, these tactics are not for the faint of heart.
Braddock 162 . flammable: Cocky funny. social proofed the room. where emotions reach extreme highs. explosive: Aggressive takeaways during comfort making it look and feel like she lost me. this stuff is not always necessary. If the set is naturally leading to sex. unreactive to her bitchy blowouts. and you can count on losing a lot more sets. most go like that. this situation in NYC was a little different.13. so don’t always use them. Hell. threading frames that you expect her to live up to or she knows you will walk. this situation needed some extreme push/pull and she had to feel the fear of loss or the bitch shield would never have come down. (thank you sinn). then just let it happen. . Adding drama to the set.1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report running my style of one night stand game has its drawbacks. this girl was hot as hell and a complete bitch. Your fearless leader. It’s totally different than the game I run back home on girls I plan on seeing again. I have a million stories where it reached a point where I knew sex was going to happen and I just shut the fuck up and waited until we were alone.
she started off nice enough.. (her fat friend). I adjusted the aim on my scope and started aiming for a girl that didn’t have horns and a tail…. our game is very similar in that both of us are very sexual and kino big time. Despite all this.. I’m going to try to slow my game down.. here you go. which sucks.13... they are also rumored to be allergic to clothes that fit and low calorie snacks after midnight). You aren’t around each other enough to have tons of inside jokes built up and you aren’t good at reading the other guys game to see how he is trying to push it.. (trolls are allergic to sunlight.. on the second night.. as the reality of the situation set in that Dahunter had every intention of banging her friend.. leading to this glorious narrative. or too nice to tell me that my posts are too long. but he runs a much slower set and he gets great reactions. I jumped on the grenade. I am reposting a lay report that was deeply imbedded in my savoy... he had this hot ass girl (who he eventually fucked). one thing that I’ve found is that it is hard to wing with new guys even if you both have super tight game. the sooner you realize that all of Braddock’s writings will someday be chiseled at the feet of large statue’s erected in my honor. you are wise to bite your fucking tongue. and too lazy to read my blog.. l. He gets the same results I get with half the effort. because if the instructors were around each other more it would be like fishing with fucking dynamite when we were in set together.. Dahunter: After winging Dahunter. This particular troll was an extremely hateful one.” the troll became noticeably frustrated and confused. We wing very well together too.2 Soldier of fortune! http://www. with fake tits and a perfect body crawling all over him. she became more and more of an agitated troll.html thanks to an overwhelming amount of email requests from the platinum members who subscribe to Braddock’s blog that are too fucking lazy. Bootcamp post. “You’re gonna make a really nice friend..theattractionforums. She caught a few live fish with her mouth and talons and then she settled into her cave. once Dahunter had his girl locked up. If you were too lazy to read the whole thing. fuck you!!! If you were too nice to just come right out and say that my posts are too long. When I said. the sooner you will stop being a lazy fuck and read my posts! Anyway. and that I had nothing but friendly. Most troll friends I enjoy chatting with being as they are usually funnier and smarter than their hot friend. However. but her hatred would soon spew forth.. anti-cock block conversation in my pants for her.A.then. once your noble hero Braddock saw that Dahunter’s fake titted girl was stuck to him like glue. 163 . I felt like Dahunter and I winged for each other extremely well..com/braddock/61182-lr-braddock-soldier-fortune. I walked her troll friend back down to the wharf and helped her crawl back under the bridge before the sun came up. as long as I could.
” Braddock : “oh. one that came and talked to my friend.. You think he’s safe or should I go rescue him? I mean. like a snake but much deeper.” HB Asian: HAHAHA “I’m not black. I waited for a natural break in our conversation. you asshole. she is not dumb.. (Braddock cuts off this awkward display of troll anger and bad body languages the troll out of the conversation). even if the troll becomes hateful. My boy is over there with her friend and I’m worried about him. there is something about you.. and by natural. Although the troll has become spiteful. you are the cutest black girl I’ve met tonight. troll: (loud troll hissing. I’ve already answered. however the people’s champ harbors no bad feelings about using the troll as a pawn to make conversation with a fairer maiden).. help us out real quick.(pause so she can wheeze an catch her breath to finish the sentence)….. she looks pretty tough. Braddock feels this stereotype originated thanks to fairytales aimed at America’s youth containing anti-troll rhetoric). I mean.” (troll sticks out her scale covered talon and shakes hands with the HB Asian. you’re Asian?” (back turn) 164 .2 Soldier of fortune! The Tale of Braddock: Soldier of Fortune! I moved the troll mentioned in the above to a place by the bar near a hot Asian girl I had my eye on earlier in the night. Braddock : “Hey. I’m not attracted to that many black girls but.. then I included the hot Asian girl in on our conversation. (your hero isn’t out to hurt feelings. “Her questions three. “Whatever. a short window between the troll’s wheezing and hissing. I’m Vietnamese.. that was rude of me. she knows I am done entertaining her. troll. Braddock : “Yeah so anyway. he’s the…. but doesn’t want to.13.” HB Asian: “ha ha!” about to say something when she is cut off by. this is my friend. then.” Braddock : “oh.” trolls are actually quite smart despite common misconception.
165 .” HB Asian: “HAHAHA You are a fucking smart ass! Why does everyone say that about Asians!? And did you say you can’t marry me? Where did that come from and why would that matter?” Braddock : “Well.” (Kino is pretty heavy at this point and she obviously works out or has only a mild case of bulimia. I don’t know do a spin for me. HB Asian: “HAHAHA!” Braddock : “But Asian’s can’t drive for shit.” HB Asian: “see.” HB Asian: “You are out of control..2 Soldier of fortune! HB Asian: (arm grab. so who cares.13. so I would have to ride in the front all the time to grab the wheel and make sure you didn’t miss turns and stuff and I think we both know guys that ride in the passenger seat with their wives are pussies. I make all of my other wives drive me to and from wherever I need to go and I like to ride in the back because it makes me feel powerful. so there is no way we could get married. you do look good in this outfit. and you have a good smile. Who are you anyway? Braddock : “I’m the one asking the questions around here sucka! look. so. You may know karate.” Braddock: “that’s a bold statement. spins me around) “What was that all about?” Braddock : “Asians can’t drive for shit. hmmmm. Asian’s are always weird kissers. I do have 5 other wives and I don’t really need another one and you can’t drive for shit but. I bet I’m cuter than all your wives.” Braddock : “You know what. Well. but you’re probably one of those girls whose ass looks hot in clothes. but it’s actually not firm at all and who cares anyway.. but I have a rape whistle. you do dress sexy. this just won’t ever work out. got it?” HB Asian: “HAHAHA! oMG.. just because you’re good at Karate doesn’t mean that you get to wear the pants in this relationship.
Braddock: “Damn. Haha! that does kinda sound silly when I hear someone else say it. I like you because you’re just stuck up. however effective). man-hand on her ass).Me and my girlfriends have said that soooo many times... Braddock: “Hey.13. this kind of dialogue goes on for another 30 min or so. Most girls I’ve met in l.. but I’m not going to let you take my virginity.see!” Braddock: “Ha. I know girls like you. well guess what.”(bla bla bla .. whatever Jackie Chan..You are out of control. rough.” HB Asian: “You are such a jerk! I love it.” HB Asian: “HAHAHAHA. HB Asian: “Bullshit! I have a personal trainer and I work out four days a week. quit trying to charm me because you didn’t think that I heard the bartender yell last call. I would invite you along if I thought I would feel safe with you in the back...” (places Braddock’s rugged.. I bet you’re such a little player. ok? Me and my friends just come to dance and we like to look good. Just because I get all dressed up and have my makeup looking so good. and this shirt makes my tits look huge.” Braddock: “Bla bla. but you can’t even keep your hands to yourself in a public place like this and I can’t find my rape 166 .. I think I’m out of here.2 Soldier of fortune! because her body was badass).” HB Asian: “Ahh.. I’m starving....oMG whatever. you are fun to talk to. Next thing you know you’re going to try to put your hand under my bra. tons of push/pull and tons of kino and kino takeaways for arbitrary reasons that make no sense logically. You’re fun to talk to. I do ballades! feel this. get your God damn ass off my hand. I know you want me! You are crazy! What?” Braddock: “I may let you flirt a lot and get kinda handsy like you are doing. I don’t know how you get away with talking to me like that...” HB Asian: “HAHAHA. doesn’t mean I come to the club looking for sex.A. I would normally slap a guy for half the shit you said tonight. are stuck up and snobby... but if I don’t get something to eat then I’m going to wilt.
” HB Asian: “HAHAHA!! Who are you? You are such a fucking smart ass! I want to punch you and makeout with you at the same time.. We get to her apartment building and she leads me in to the elevator by the hand. I don’t question it or mention food again. I’m out Jackie Chan. We go in her apartment and go straight to her room.I’m a big deal. We make out in the back off and on.” 167 . I’m from l. Braddock: “Wow.. I pull her onto her bed and we start making out.13. she lays next to me on her bed and kisses me on the cheek and lightly shakes me to wake me up). you’re just gonna leave like that?” Braddock: “What do you mean? I’m tired and I’m starving!” HB Asian: “I thought you wanted me to go?” Braddock: “God! You are such a high maintenance lA girl! (me mocking her in a pouty girls voice as I grab her hand and pull her toward the exit) “I know you already asked me once.exactly! You are such a jerk. Hmmm.” HB Asian: “Wait. We stop for a minute so she can change. I keep stopping mid makeout to ask the taxi driver random lame questions..” Braddock: “Now you’re getting it..A. your bed is so comfortable.” (enter the taxi. she tells him an address.. When she comes back I pretend to be asleep. Maybe the taxi driver will let you ride in the front. but I want you to beg me to come.2 Soldier of fortune! whistle. It was nice meeting you... she knows I’m doing it to fuck with her and I can tell it’s turning her on.” HB Asian: “Ha! there you go with the girl riding in the front with you getting chauffeured in the back. but I really do feel most comfortable with both of them. and you’re from the midwest. you should be kissing my ass..” HB Asian: “Hahaha. Are you sure you don’t mind sleeping on the couch? I would give you a pillow. Alright.. she keeps pulling me in to makeout with her.
I had push pulled her so many times up to that point that there was zero lMr. slammed on the brakes.. backed up.. Afterwards. His game is really tight. she gave me a ride back to my Hotel. and grabbed him despite the troll’s hissings!!!! He then went back and showed the fake titted hottie his thug passion.. And. -B 168 . but here’s a snack. I Walked in the hotel room and saw Dahunter passed out. We traded stories about the night before. Go read his blog to find out all the details. His story had a much more interesting twist than mine did.they went to drive off..2 Soldier of fortune! I just laughed and started making out with her.13. I fucked her in her bed that night and once again in her shower the next morning. many of the same characters were involved. (My bad).... because she almost fucked him over. I teased her all the way there about how she was doing nothing to shatter the bad Asian driver stereotype.The troll that I thought I had secured under the bridge must have escaped.