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How to Improve the Sound of Your Voice

The sound of your voice is the most intimate part of your communication and the public
part of your self. One would think that you would want to listen to your self with the same
attention and thoughtfulness that you would examine a photograph of yourself for your
website or for your office wall. But no.
There are several reasons why you would be reluctant.

We did not evolve hearing our own voice as others hear it. (We DID evolve with the
ability to see ourselves on reflective surfaces like water.) It is psychological
shocking to hear the voice as it is ‘out there’ and not as it sounds in our head during
the act of speaking.

We are highly skilled at reading the voices of others. We make judgments based on
this information. We feel exquisitely vulnerable when our own voice falls within
this sensitive analytic radar.

We know how to smile and comb our hair and otherwise manage our visual impact.
We do NOT know how much we can improve our vocal image.

A first step is to become specific about your voice goal by listening to yourself objectively,
using a good voice recording (NOT a answering machine message!).
Listen for issues of:

Pitch- Your customary pitch level, how high or low your voice is. Pitch is a major
clue for maturity and gender identity.

Volume – How soft or loud. You must make sure that people can hear you
comfortably or you irritate them or waste their time.

Quality – The tonal quality of your voice; raspy, breathy, thin, rich, melodious,
resonant. You can sound healthy/attractive. Or not.

. You don’t have to be stuck the way you are. The moral of this story: 1. 2. You have made your first step. You can improve the sound of your voice.• Tension – Evidence of excessive tension through stridency and staccato syllables and the sound of effort. Start with focused listening to determine what aspect you would like to change.

“Is that for me?” . But when this questioning tone is heard with other sentence forms. “Is he OK?”. Make up 10 sentences just by looking around the room. Be .Three steps to conquering the “up-ending sentence” You’ve heard about the pernicious ‘up-ending sentence’. not asking for affirmation with a head nod. It sounds as if you are asking for permission or affirmation.” Etc. etc. Obviously. Please examine the documents on the table in front of you. You will be expected to relay them to your own staff. Step 2: Deal with the emotional element.) For example: “I have asked every one in the department to be at this meeting. this is a perfectly OK kind of thing to do. Prepare a paragraph of information in the form of simple declarative sentences (subject/predicate). and too many times. Now read it in a way that conveys you expect to be understood and obeyed. Step 3: Everyday you should intentionally use the simple declarative sentence form with a lower pitch level at the end. You need to have the attitude of telling someone something in an authoritative manner. You might listen to your outgoing message on your voice mail and see if you hear something like. a sentence that ends with an upward rising pitch line. “This is Marcia Jones? I’ll be out of the office today? You can leave a message after the beep? Have a nice day!” If you are smart you will listen to yourself on a recording or ask trusted friends. You will need to pay attention to the new regulations we have received. Which is exactly that. it creates a sound of childlike insecurity. (Not asking for permission. Let’s do something about it! Step 1: You’d better find out if This Means You. I expect that you have all signed the attendance sheet. you should be bringing your pitch down at the end of each short sentence to show you mean it. much like that of the questioning intonation you might used when you say. This is in contrast to a tone of voice that asks for affirmation of your message. Deliver these lines with an authoritative attitude.

etc. The telephone is blinking. There is plant on my desk. I can hear my neighbors’ voice.) This is working on the ‘habit’ part of your speaking. I can look outside. Do this several times a day for a week and see how easy it comes to you when you need it! . Do this simple task every day (with careful self-monitoring) to make the pattern consistently authoritative and comfortable in your mouth.stupid and obvious. (The rug is brown.. not deep or clever.

Think “CEO” or “King” and you’ll probably get it right. Hold your head as if you had a crown on it. Don’t let your arms and legs have side to side motion when you move. who could blame you? So I will give you the ‘tips’ most frequently sought. Readers of my book will recognize the principal of ‘linking’. Keep your elbows and knees close to the midline of your body. I know Mary.” “Yes. Cut out any useless connectors. You might review what you already know about the word “practice” to use the following tips.) To Sound More Confident: Carry your body in an upright posture. To Sound More Polished: Avoid answering a question with a blunt “yes” or “no”. I will remind you that it takes more than a ‘tip’ to change your behavior.” Doesn’t that sound more courteous? To Sound More Articulate: Make a special effort to pronounce the final sound in a word and use its energy to carry over to the following word. especially superlatives (Fantastic! Outstanding!. Pay special attention to final “t”. I did not see it. (I can’t_ever count_on him. In these days of time pressure and job insecurity. Polished. Powerful. Articulate and Confident I know what you want. For example. . To Sound More Powerful: Use short. To Sound More Intelligent: Speak just a bit slower than you normally do to give yourself time to select your most appropriate vocabulary and to give the impression of thoughtfulness. Append a short phrase of clarification. “No. You say what you mean and you mean what you say.Quick tips for sounding Intelligent.). At the same time. You want some quick tips to success. simple declarative sentences. adjectives and adverbs. etc.

well. so people don’t interrupt with. I need to be able to project when I give oral reports.Speech Training Blog Search this website Search HomeSpeech Training Blog5 Steps to Develop a Charming Voice that’s Sexy 5 Steps to Develop a Charming Voice that’s Sexy This article originally appeared on Tower of Power: Build Friends and Influence People Does this sound familiar? People have trouble hearing my voice when there’s any kind of noise. Why Your Voice Isn’t Golden Reason 1: The problem you are probably up against is that you barely open your mouth when you talk – you retract your voice to the back of your throat and constrict the sound so there is little opportunity for resonance to build. “Can’t hear you!” or “Speak up!” I want to have a voice people call rich. OK – sexy. Big mistake! While speech sounds are clearly important to intelligibility. I have worked with voice improvement for many years and know there is single golden road to your gorgeous voice: you have to think “Singing”. you can do something about it. In practice. Reason 2: Most of your speech energy goes into your consonants and not your vowels. and. . Singing is a matter of a sustained vocal tone with maximal resonance. I sound raspy and flat on my voicemail. vowels are equally vital PLUS supplying a physical. When I try to talk louder. what this means for your speaking is the vowels are more prominent when you talk and you allow chest resonance to build and color your words. Yes. resonant. I end up with a sore throat. Wait! Don’t go! That first step to a charming voice is understanding there really are learnable skills that make a huge difference in the attractiveness of your voice. musical element can be attractive and charming to the opposite sex.

This flowing of the voice helped the King speak fluently and will help you sound more resonant. you are more likely to allow melodic variation into your speaking. the second step is actually doing it. get yourself some singing instruction from someone who knows how to guide you in learning a new voice.Here’s a sentence that uses a lot of noise. If you can. You’ll probably pay for this. Listen to the intonation of the famous “homeless” guy with the “golden voice” in the news recently. Use my book. to connect his speech. Join a church or community choir that provides some instruction in voice production. If you use the concept of singing to guide your speaking. just to give you the idea: “Stacie can’t scratch the itch. It’s the Way You Say It. It’s the Way You Say It for exact instructions on these techniques and you can use my CDs The Sound of Your Voice to give you the auditory guidance to supplement the book. you need some help. (Josh: See my review of The Sound of Your Voice. . Just being in a group may give you the confidence to open up and try new behaviors you would never do by yourself. It will be worth every cent. with one word linked to the next. 2.” Compare all those noise elements to the vocal flow of “Many men will wonder. You should have felt a continuous flow of voice as you moved from one word to the next. Practical Steps to Develop a Charming Voice 1. Reason 3: You spurt your voice inside each syllable instead of providing a steady flow of sound to carry your voice out with a continuous tone underlying all your speaking. Notice how musical his speaking is. doesn’t it? If the first step to a charming and irresistible voice is knowing what to do. To go from “knowing” to “doing”. The King’s Speech? The stuttering king produced his best. Reason 4: That constricted throat you habitually use will produce a monotone not yummy. Those who have used my CDs. will recognize the concepts of Tonal Support and Linking. The Sound of Your Voice or have my book. Did you see the movie. most fluent speech when he used the continuous flow of voice. It is a constant song and people are enraptured by it. 3. “Many men will wonder”. Crooning rhymes with spooning. Here are five steps to help you get the most out of your voice. very slowly. Place your hand firmly on your throat and say. you are more likely to allow melodic variation into your speaking.) If you use the concept of singing to guide your speaking.” in the following exercise.

5. And a sexy voice simply cannot be beat. Voice to give you the auditory guidance to supplement the book. Experiment with your new voice with people who wait on you in restaurants or the dentist’s office. The poetry could come in handy. they say. 6. All is fair in love and war. You can develop more skill and comfort using a changed voice with people who are not emotionally important to you. It is a good idea to learn appropriate poetry so you practice and memorize it in your resonant voice. 7. You can develop more skill and comfort using a changed voice with people who are not emotionally important to you.4. Experiment with your new voice with people who wait on you in restaurants or the dentist’s office. Use this to develop a charming voice .