Girls with boyfriends.

This one is completely up to you. You may want to live by "do unto
others as you would have them do unto you," but at the same time if
she's willing to cheat on her boyfriend he's probably not satisfying
her. This is a personal morality question, so it's something you'll have
to decide for yourself.
On another note: to protect yourself from getting your girl picked up:
just be a man and also treat her well. If you do those 2 things she
won t have any complaints about you, and she won t even think
about sleeping with another guy or risk ruining her chances with you.
Also, watch the types of women you date. If she looks like she s been
on Maury a few times, probably not a good idea. Doesn t mean she
will cheat, it just means she has a higher chance. And remember: the
man who fears losing his girl is sure to realize that fear.
Always maintain control of yourself.
Now another important thing is that you always maintain control of
yourself. You want to love women, but you never, ever, ever, want to
need them. Anyone who messes up this formula will find themselves
in the eternal pit of distress. You want to love them, but you also
want to love yourself just as much. More than that, you want to see
the best in everyone. If there s someone you just can t love, ignore
them and stop thinking about them. If you have feelings of resent
that you're carrying around, just realize that it destroying you
mentally.
Fine, someone kicked your puppy when you were 8 years old. You
have every right to be angry at them, but just realize that carrying
around that mental baggage is only hurting you.
You cannot fully love yourself until you love others. How you feel
about others is only a reflection of how you feel about yourself. So if
you have some issues with people in the past, just let it go. Other
than that, just realize there's no use crying over spilt milk. Thinking
about it will just perpetuate more misery and failures in your life.
If you have serious emotional trouble or negative beliefs
...you may want to consider EMDR therapy, Cognitive Behavior
Therapy, or Neurofeedback.
If you're not familiar with EMDR, EMDR stands for Eye movement
desensitization and reprocessing. EMDR is a type of psychotherapy
that was developed to resolve symptoms resulting from disturbing
past experiences. It's used to treat Post Traumatic Stress Disorder,
and other painful memories/beliefs, but works for more minor things
as well. In studies it's been proven to eliminate PTSD in War Veterans
in fewer than sometimes 5 sessions, where traditional therapy would
take years. This is very useful if you have painful memories/beliefs
that are holding you back. All you do is focus on the painful memory
in detail, make it as vivid as possible, try to bring all the pain to the
surface, and when you apply this all the pain will be eliminated from
that memory/belief. As you go through each eye movement you'll
notice that the negativity gets harder and harder to feel, but keep
trying. It's kind of like stirring up a pool with dirt and leaves at the
bottom so they float to the top and then they're removed. It doesn't

take away the memory, but when you think about it, you'll feel
virtually no negativity toward it.
I highly suggest doing this with not only all negative memories, but all
negative ideas as well. Pretty soon you'll find it almost impossible to
feel any negativity toward the subjects you use it on.

The information in this paragraph isn't necessary for you to use it,
but for anyone who is curious as to how it works I'll explain it here.
When you think of something, your eyes move different ways and
access different parts of the brain. For example when you're thinking
of a feeling your eyes move to the bottom left. When you're
remembering something visual your eyes move to the top right.
What this process does is correctly links up different quadrants of the
brain to where the negative feelings are eliminated. Here s a brief
version:
1) Think of a bad memory or belief
2) Feel all the bad emotions of that memory or belief, and try to do
that through the whole process.
3) Move your eyes up in to the top right corner.
4) Move your eyes up in to the top left corner.
5) Move your eyes rapidly back and forth horizontally between the
top left corner and top right corner, about 20 times.
6) Move your eyes rapidly back and forth horizontally between the
bottom left corner and bottom right corner, about 20 times.

7) Move your eyes rapidly back and forth vertically between the
bottom left corner and top left corner, about 20 times.
8) Move your eyes rapidly back and forth vertically between the
bottom left corner and top left corner, about 20 times.
9) Move your eyes rapidly back and forth diagonally between the
bottom left corner and top right corner, about 20 times.
10) Move your eyes rapidly back and forth diagonally between the
bottom left corner and top right corner, about 20 times.
If you do this correctly, all negativity surrounding that event/belief
should disappear. If it doesn't then chances are you should try again,
or get it done professionally.

Neurofeedback/Biofeedback is considered to be a little more

powerful, but you can't do that at home. Also, we'll get into Hypnosis
later in the book, which is extremely effective.
Don't let the outside world affect you, effect the outside world.

There are 2 types of people in the world. Proactive and reactive.

Most are reactive. The types of men who do not achieve the type of
success they want are reactive and let others affect their opinion. If
someone makes an off comment to you, don't act like it doesn't
bother you, actually don't let it bother you. If there's a horrible story
on the news, focus your attention elsewhere. People can tell when
you're acting, so the solution to this is to actually not let anything get
under your skin.
If it's hard at first, just realize that it takes a little practice. Just keep
doing the exercises in this book and you'll automatically become a
stronger person. There's nothing more attractive to women than a
strong man.
Also, never blame circumstances for any of your problems. You may
have had an alcoholic dad, your cat may have bit you when you were
2, and maybe these are legitimate problems, but there's no use in
dwelling on them and letting them control your future results. Wipe
the slate clean and start fresh today. Your life may have sucked 2
minutes ago, but just start building your new life, seeing yourself
living that lifestyle, and watch the results pour out.

What is confidence?
Many people find the word Confidence hard to break down, but it s
actually very simple. Confidence is assuredness. Confidence is belief.
Confidence is being in control without being controlling. Confidence
is being dominant without being domineering. Being able to take the
lead when it's appropriate, and being able to follow when it's
necessary. A good, confident leader has to be a good follower.
Contrary to other books on dating confidence does not mean being in
control all the time. There's nothing more of a turn off to women
than a guy who tries to be in control, or, even worse, a guy who has
to be in control. Don t try to be a confident guy, just let it happen
naturally as part of your new personality.
The human emotional scale.
The human emotional scale is essentially the same as levels of
confidence, just broken down further. The top is confidence, the
bottom is insecurity. The top is high Self-Esteem; the bottom is low
Self esteem. You obviously want to get as close to the top of the
order as possible, but don't be discouraged no matter where you are
on the list. Just realize if you've been on one emotional level for
much of your life, it s only because you ve practiced it and may take a
little while for you to start moving up the ladder.
As you start moving up the ladder you'll notice all sorts of miraculous
things happening in your life.
It doesn't matter in which direction you focus these emotions
toward, if it's the emotion you're feeling, whether it be toward
yourself or toward the weatherman, you're going to want to move
that emotion up the ladder as much as possible. If you hate the guy
down the street, it's the same emotional frequency as if you hate
yourself, so either ignore him or change your feelings toward him.

700-1000
HUMOR

LOVE, APPRECIATION, ENLIGHTENMENT, HAPPINESS, EMPOWERMENT,

600

PEACE, PASSION

540

JOY, ENTHUSIASM, BELIEF

400

OPTIMISM, REASON

350

ACCEPTANCE, CONTENTMENT

310

WILLINGNESS

250

NEUTRALITY, BOREDOM

175

PRIDE, BLAME, FRUSTRATION, ANNOYANCE, PESSIMISM

150

ANGER, HOSTILITY, HATRED, REVENGE

75

SADNESS, GRIEF

50

APATHY, DISCOURAGEMENT

30

GUILT, UNWORTHINESS, JEALOUSY

20

FEAR, POWERLESSNESS, DEPRESSION, SHAME

Study that or write it down because it s important to remember. By

moving up this list you can literally get good with women without
even having to talk to them because once you move up the scale,
they'll just enjoy being around you.
Remember: wherever you find yourself in this scale, it's only because
you've practiced it. If you want to move up the scale, you just have to
practice being in better emotional states.

The great thing about this is that studies have found that once you
move up the scale on a particular subject, it s hard to move down it.
So wherever you are on the scale, just reach for a thought/feeling
that's higher than the one you re at. If you try to reach too high, it
will be too drastic a jump for your mind to make and you'll just get
thrown back to the emotion you were reaching from. This may be a
little tough at first, but no matter what, try to move up the ladder,
and the more you move up the more it becomes a habit, and the
easier it is for you to stay there until it's your dominant emotion.
It s important to remember that you usually can't immediately move
up 6 rungs on the ladder. If someone s at Fear (the dominant
emotion in the Nice Guy,) they can t make their way up to Happiness
(the dominant emotion in the Alpha Male) without going through
Anger (the dominant emotion in the Jerk.) It s part of the process.
People will do all sorts of things to keep others from expressing your
Anger, but as long as you don't break any laws or put anyone in
harm s way, go for it. People would rather others feel uncomfortable
than have them feel uncomfortable. Expressing Anger feels much

better than repressing Anger and nature is always calling you to the
best emotion. That s why you feel the need to express your anger.
The emotion you're ultimately trying to reach is love. Not needy love
that you see in corny romantic flicks, where a man s completion
resides somewhere outside himself, we're talking about a pure love
where you just feel a warmness toward life and other people. Don't
worry if you can't be in the state of love all the time, but it's best to
be on the upper levels as much as possible.
When you start to think thoughts that feel better, you become
addicted to those thoughts. When you love the thoughts, it becomes
hard to think thoughts that feel worse. And when you love a thought,
you'll love the results you get.
Use this scale on particular subjects, as the way that you feel about
certain subject indicates how well you're doing with it. When you
think about women, do you get upset, or do you feel appreciative
and happy? Your emotions don't lie. When a man is misogynistic and
bitter toward women, you know that he s low on the scale and is not
successful with women. Until he comes to terms with those feelings
he will remain unsuccessful. The root of the problem is at those
negative emotions, and the only way to fix it is start replacing those
misogynistic feelings with more positive ones. Don't worry about
changing circumstances and everything around you, just feel better
about the subject and let everything fall into place.
As you move up the scale watch how differently people treat you.
You'll notice as you start putting out higher level emotions people
will respect you more, go out of their way to do kind things for you,
etc. Notice how your results were when you were thinking and
feeling X, and notice what your results are now that you're thinking
and feeling Y.

The 3 Selves
We're going to talk about the 3 Selves that work in harmony with one
another. Self-Image (thoughts/mind,) Self-Esteem
(feelings/subconscious,) and Self-Confidence (actions/body,) and
ways to improve all of them.
The Self-Image.
A person's Self-Image is the mental picture someone holds of themselves.
In 1960 Dr. Maxwell Maltz released arguably the most important
psychological discovery of all time. At the very core of your personality is
The Self-Image. The Self-Image dictates the boundaries of accomplishment
in our life. It dictates what we can and cannot do. You may have heard this
analogy before, but think of the Self-Image as a thermostat. When you set a
thermostat to 77 degrees, as soon as the room gets cooler than what it s
set at, a mechanism picks up the deviation, sends a message to the
heating/cooling system and the temperature is brought back on course.
Humans are wired the same way. All of your actions, thoughts, feelings,
behaviors, and finally results are 100% consistent with your Self-Image.
Have you ever met someone who tries and tries and as hard as they
try they keep going back to their old patterns? This is because of the

Self-Image. When you change the Self-Image, new patterns of

behavior effortlessly become second nature. When you change the
self-image, you change the personality, behavior, and finally results.
By learning to change the Self-Image you gain serious levels of
confidence and skill. You will always act like the type of person you
conceive yourself to be. More important than this, you literally
cannot act otherwise. You will never, ever out-perform your
Self-Image. This is why people can learn all the dating techniques in
the book, and still see very small measurable results. Even when they
do see results it's because the Self-Image has unconsciously been
changed. It s much faster to go to the source.

Where does our Self-Image come from? A lot of places. It can come
from the environment you were raised in. Your past positive or
negative experiences. You may have been raised in a family where
sleeping with women before marriage was considered wrong and
your parents passed that belief along to you, now you have a tough
time talking with women. Whatever the case may be it's essential for
you to change your Self-Image if you want to get real results.
How do we change the Self-Image? Through successes. When you go
out, talk to a woman, and get her phone number, the Self-Image is
altered. A new belief is installed, for example: "wow, I'm really good
at getting women s' numbers."
But here's another trick. Your central nervous system cannot tell the
difference between a real experience and a vividly imagined
experience. In the next section we ll learn how to use visualization as
a very powerful method of changing the Self-Image.
Self-Esteem.
Now that we've covered the Self-Image, we're going to get into
Self-Esteem, which are feelings. These feelings will largely be based
upon The Self-Image, so when your start working on your Self-Image
through visualization, your feelings will improve. You should also
work on improving your emotions during the day. Your feelings
indicate if you are choosing a positive or negative thought. The
higher up the thought is on the emotional scale the better. Your mind
may lie, but your emotions will never lie.

This is your body s way of telling you if you're thinking a thought that
will cause you success or will cause you failure. If you chat up a
woman in the state of Fear, that Fear will ultimately manifest itself in
nervousness, self consciousness, awkwardness, and all sorts of
strange behavior.
If you move up the scale to something better like Joy or Belief, you're
going to get much better results. These feelings are always available
to you; it's just a matter of practicing them.
Self-Confidence.
Self-Confidence is the actions you take based on Self-Image and

Self-Esteem. The actions that someone takes who are higher up the
emotional scale will be far different than the actions someone takes
who are low on the scale.
Many people try to change their actions and words without first
changing the emotional state they re in, and wonder why they keep
getting the same results. You change the core, and the results will
take care of them self. That does not mean you do not have to act!
What it means is that your actions will be largely automatic and fun.

Brainwaves
Before we get into the techniques of altering Self-Image, Self Esteem
and Self Confidence, we re going to go into a little background
information. Throughout the day your brainwaves are in different
states:
Beta 15-30 Hz - Awake, Normal, Alert Consciousness
Alpha 9-14 Hz - Relaxed, Calm, Meditation, Creative Visualization
Theta 4-8 Hz - Deep Relaxation, Meditation, and Hypnosis
Delta 1-3 Hz - Deep, Dreamless Sleep.
The best state to be in to reprogram your subconscious mind is the
state of Theta. You are in a Theta state before going to bed and upon
awakening, which is why this book suggested reading/visualizing your
statements at those times. You are also in a Theta state during
Hypnosis, Meditation and Deep Relaxation, so use these states to
your advantage.

Self-Hypnosis
Aka Autogenic Training. No, this doesn t mean dangling a watch in
front of someone's eyes and making them act outrageous. That's not
what real hypnosis it. Hypnosis is a very powerful tool for installing
beliefs, especially when combined with visualizations.
For example, a shy person who is under hypnosis can be convinced
that he is a great public speaker, instantaneously, and through
repetition of these suggestions can actually become a great public
speaker.
For 30 minutes a day, put yourself in a relaxed state and picture
yourself exactly how you want to be, as if you have always been that
person.
You can also get Relaxation CDs, which many people find great for
putting them in a relaxed state. My favorite being the Theta
Meditation System from Dr. Jeffrey Thompson, but no matter what if
you get a relaxation CD, make sure it's Theta. We'll go over the
reasons why later.

1. Go to a quiet room and sit or lay in a comfortable chair or couch,

where you won't be disturbed for at least a half hour
2. Close your eyes and work to rid your mind of any negative feelings
such as fear, stress, or anxiety. When you begin, you might find it
difficult not to think. You may find that thoughts keep intruding. If
this happens to you, don't try to force the thoughts away. Observe
them objectively, realize that you are not your thoughts, and then let
them fall away.
3. Notice whatever tension is in your body. Beginning with your feet,
imagine the tension slowly falling away and they start relaxing.
Imagine each part of your body relaxing more and more.
4. Take deep, slow breaths. When you exhale, feel all the negativity
and tension leaving your body. As you inhale, feel the relaxation
penetrating your body.
5. By now you should be extremely relaxed. Imagine you are at the
top of a flight of 10 stairs. Go down each stair feeling more relaxed as
you do. As you go down repeat the word "down." After each step you
are going further and further down into the deep treasuries of your
subconscious mind where you can start programming new ideas.
Each step should make you more and more relaxed.
6. When you're at the bottom, you can decide to start going down 10
more steps, or just start installing your new beliefs and especially
visualizations.

Visualization: The Easiest Key for Changing the Self-Image.

Studies have shown that synthetic experience is exactly as effective
as real experience. So if you're having a problem with women, (for
example you're nervous kissing them) the easiest way to solve this is
through synthetic experience. Almost all modern sports legends from
Phil Jackson, to Tiger Woods, to Wayne Gretzky, and countless others
use these techniques. Check out Golfing with Your Eyes Closed:
Mastering Visualization Techniques for Exceptional Golf
Let s face it. Real life experience can be a pain. If you fail, a new
belief is formed because of that and you get stuck in the same spot.
This is a way to gain experience without gaining experience. Again,
synthetic experience is just as effective as real experience, and case
studies have shown that visualization is an effective way of installing
new behaviors.
Before you go to sleep daily, as part of your visualizations, relax and
vividly imagine practicing the thing you would like to fix. For example
if you're having trouble approaching women, vividly imaging all the
little details of you succeeding at all the things you're trying to
change. You ll likely find yourself surprised when you start acting this
way in real life with no conscious effort.

As a result of imagining the way you'd like to be with women, you

will start forming memories, and that's the way you'll act in as little
as 21 days. Granted, it may take a little longer to erase a lifetime of
behaviors and replace them with a perfect life in 21 days, but most
people see dramatic improvements within that timeframe. The key is
not to measure how much it s working on a day-to-day basis. You
don't have to try to consciously act that way tomorrow or next week,
or even believe it works, your brain will take care of all that. Just
realize this method has been used on thousands of people, and the
results speak for themselves.

Visualization is a very important concept in this book because

positive thinking alone may be rejected by the subconscious mind if it
doesn't have any "evidence" or it s not congruent with the Self-Image
When you vividly imagine an experience, your nervous system and
mind has all the evidence that it needs.
An absolutely essential book to pick up on this subject is
"Psycho-Cybernetics" by Dr. Maxwell Maltz. Write that down, take it
out from the library or buy it, and read it after you're done reading
this. It's hard to find any modern effective Self-Help book that hasn't
been directly influenced by Dr. Maltz' groundbreaking work,
including this one, so don't forget to pick it up.
Time Line Therapy.
Time Line Therapy is a very powerful process for erasing and
replacing bad memories. Essentially the beginning steps to this
process are the same as Autogenic Training (Hypnosis) and
Visualization.
You put yourself in a relaxed state like suggested above, but instead
of visualizing how you want things to be, you go back in time and find
bad experiences from the past and replace them with positive ones.
Remember an experience that bothers you and replace it with how
you would have wanted it to be.
It s essential that you visualize very clearly and vividly, and repeat the
visualizations daily so they re ingrained in your memory and the old
ones seem like fiction.

Beyond the mind

Now that you have some tools to work on your mindset, we'll go over
some ways to improve the way you look, dress and take care of
yourself.
Grooming 101.
First we're going to go over some basic stuff. You obviously want to
shower and brush your teeth daily. I shouldn't even have to mention
this. Get some good smelling deodorant, some good smelling shower

soap, and some shampoo that you like. It really makes a difference.
Women always notice guys who pay attention to the details.
How to dress better than you thought possible.
First, figure out what kinds of girls you're going for. If you're trying to
get punk rock chicks, the easiest way is to dress like a punk rock guy.
If you're trying to get fashion chicks that wear Gucci and Prada, the
best way is to wear Armani and Fendi. That's not to say if you dress
like a punk rocker you can't get a Gucci chick, it's just a lot easier. I
wouldn't suggest changing your entire style just to get a different
type of girl, but it's very important to figure out what your style is.
Pick up a few fashion magazines or pick up magazines that feature
the style you want to adopt. If you want a Hip-Hop style, pick up a
Hip-Hop magazine that features models dressing the way you'd like
to dress. Models are going to show you how to dress in a
top-of-the-line way. Find what you like from them, and even if it's
expensive clothing you can always get good deals on brand new
clothes on eBay. You'd be surprised at how many Armani T's I picked
up for under $20 there.

The Pareto Principle (The 80/20 rule.)

In the early 1900's Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto noticed that 80%
of his peas were produced by 20% of the peapods. When he looked
at society he realized that 80% of the land was owned by 20% of the
population. In most businesses, around 80% of the profits come from
20% of the products. They use this principle to cut out the bottom
80% of products and amplify (and learn from) the top 20%. We can
use this principle on the way we dress and interact with women.
To figure out what the top 20% that is working, look at the celebrities
you admire. If you admire a celebrity that wears vintage T-Shirts, try
to find a nice vintage T-Shirt shop on the web.
Also look at guys that are getting the success you want. The idea isn't
to copy them, but to figure out what works and what doesn't work
and develop your own style from there. Take what works and amplify
it. In your own wardrobe, if you have a T-shirt that is giving you the
responses you like, figure out what about is so attractive and get
more t-shirts like it. If a photo you post on Facebook gets a lot of
comments, figure out what's so appealing about it and copy what s
appealing. Delete the ones that aren't getting responses. Pretty soon
you'll have a much better idea of what's attractive and what's not.
In business this is called split testing. A company puts up a few web
pages and notices which get the best responses and disposes of the
other ones. They figure out what is so appealing about it, make a
new layout based on that and see how they can improve it. You want
to take this approach on how you dress and even how you act. If you
find that a particular sense of humor is working on a certain type of
girl, amplify that. If a certain necklace is getting you attention, get
more like it. Cut out what isn't giving you the responses you want.

The Basics of Color.

Color is one way of expressing yourself in fashion. Different colors
are appropriate for different vibes. Black represents power, Blue is
good for summer, Green represents vitality and nature, White
represents friendliness, Red represents love. Different combinations
of colors are good ways to match up your personality with your
looks.
Matching.
Here's the basic idea behind matching. As a generalization, you only
want 2 or 3 colors in your outfit. For example Blue jeans, Black T,
with white writing. If you wanted to wear a hat with that outfit, the
best bet would be a white hat to match the white writing.
You can use Contrasting colors (for example Black on White,)
Harmonious colors (for example White on Off-White,) or the safe
bet: Neutral colors (for example any combinations of White, Black,
Grey, and Browns)
It's really about personal preference, so just pay attention to some
fashion pictures, learn from them, and look at your outfit to judge if
it looks good to you.

Cologne.
Picking out a good scent is important. Go to the counter at any
upscale department store that carries colognes and ask to try a few
scents. You can ask the man/woman behind the counter what's
popular, or if you want to be unique just keep testing them until you
find one that you like. It's up to you if you buy it there, but you can
usually get better deals on eBay or other places on the web.
Shaving.
You don't want to get all hot and heavy with a girl then when it
comes to take off your clothes you look like a grizzly bear. It's up to
you, but I highly suggest shaving off any unnecessary hair. This
includes chest, back, and pubic region. Be careful around the pubic
region because if you nick anything it's going to hurt like crazy. I
would suggest picking up one of those $15 hair trimmers and using
that instead of going at it with a Bic razor. Trust me, razor burn in the
Johnson area is no fun.
Working out.
I highly suggest getting a few basic guides on this, or at least get a
few tips from people at the gym. It's not nearly as bad as you think.
Just like everything in life, starting is the hardest part. Once you get
into it you'll probably find that you like the good feeling chemicals
(endorphins) it produces. Besides that, the gym is also a great place
to meet chicks. Learn how to use the various equipment at the gym
and you can even find some useful guides on the web.

Keeping your place clean.

The last thing you want to do is take a girl home to a dirty apartment,
so clean that shit up. Do you want to talk to a girl all night then when
you bring her home it looks like 11 tornados of horse shit flew
through the place? Women value cleanliness much more than men
and they'll notice a guy who takes care of his living space. Remember
your outside world is a reflection of your inside world, so if your
place is cluttered, chances are your mind is cluttered.
Where to meet women
Most people look for women in all the worst places. Bars, clubs and
parties are the clich spots to meet women, and there are many
disadvantages to this. First off, the music will likely be too loud for
you to even hear yourself think, let alone maintain a conversation
and you'll have to compete with 100 other guys trying to get their
attention. Women also know that most men who talk to them at the
bar are only trying to get in their pants. This is fine, but many women
become jaded from all the approaches. You can still pull it off, but in
my opinion it's making things harder on yourself.
The best places to meet women are in your daily routines. We
mentioned the gym earlier, and this is a great place to strike up a
conversation with women. You can talk about working out; ask for
tips and all sorts of things. Talk to women in the supermarket, at the
bank, the book store, the movie rental store, different classes (such
as meditation, which I highly suggest taking classes on anyway.)
These are all great places to strike up random conversations. You can
ask for advice on movies, what food is good, whatever. Once you
start talking to her just make her laugh a little and get her number.

The Internet is iffy. Just make sure you get a bunch of pictures before
you meet the girl. A lot of girls pick pictures that make them look a
lot more attractive than they are in real life (and sometimes even
fake pictures,) so make sure you're getting the real deal. Ask for her
email address and search for that address on Facebook or MySpace
to get a better idea if she's legit or not.
There are tons of free dating sites such as PlentyOfFish, OKCupid,
Craigslist, Yahoo Personals, AIM chat rooms, Date Hookup, WebDate,
Mingle2, MatchDoctor, Woome, and Connecting Singles.
Make sure you avoid Adult-Oriented dating sites. Most of the women
on there are A) Hookers B) Porno Scams C) Girls with STDs or D) Men.
The paid ones are the best place to meet women who are serious
about dating. By far my favorite paid dating site is eHarmony. There
are tons of attractive women on eHarmony just looking for a man to
sweep them off their feet. Other than eHarmony there's also
Match.com, Lavalife, HotOrNot, and Parship.
With these you should be able to find as many women as you like
without even having to leave home.

How to be awesome in bed.

Now, the moment you've all been waiting for... how to get her
screaming with pleasure.
The Female Erogenous Zones
An Erogenous Zone is an area of the human body that when
stimulated will cause sexual arousal. I'm going to put these in order
of comfort, so the top of the list will be things that you should start
with and move your way down. Psychologically these steps are
designed to lower inhibitions and increase the emotional comfort of
the both people. When you first start it's best to "accidently" touch
these areas (all of this is assuming she doesn't try to rape you; there
are many women that will take the lead and even some women that
will just jump your bones) and then you can intentionally touch
them. Depending on your skill level and the girl, you can move
through these zones very quickly. The non-sexual zones (hands - light
kissing) will likely take the most time. You can do these pretty much
anywhere, but when you get to the more sexual things (making
out-intercourse,) you're going to want to have privacy. Don't worry
about following this to a T, but again you don't want to make too
large a jump. Let her get comfortable with each touch. If she objects
to anything, stop what you're doing and move back a few steps.
Side note: If she jumps down the list before you do, you have full
permission to repeat the same touch. This means that she's
comfortable touching you and you can touch the same spot. For
example, if she touches your leg, you can start touching her leg.

Hands and Fingers

The hands are the best place to start because most females
(assuming you have some sort of rapport with them) will be open to
this. The fingertips especially have many nerves and are sensitive to
light touch. At first you can "accidently" touch her hands while
making a comment or you can reach for her hand and ask her to
follow you. After she's comfortable with this, then you can purposely
touch her hands, for example: holding hands.
Arms
The skin of the arms (especially: the inner arms and the inside bend
opposite the elbow) contain many nerve endings and are very
sensitive. The same way you touched the hands "accidently" you can
do with the areas on the arm. Brush up against her arms while
making a comment a few times, then you can touch her on purpose.
In some cases just touching her arms in this way will cause sexual
arousal.
Legs

While this isn't technically considered an Erogenous Zone, it's still

important in building comfort with your touches. Follow the same
steps as the above body parts for "accidently" touching, then
purposely touching. A good way to "accidently" touch her leg is when
you crack a joke, just touch her on the knee with the back of your
hand.
(Side Note: At this point tickling is appropriate, which many women
find arousing.)

Face and Hair.

The main problem men face when getting ready to kiss a girl is
knowing if she s ready or not. Touching the face and hair in an
important step in getting them comfortable for a kiss. For the
"accidental" touch you can point out that they have something on
their face (whether they do or not) and wipe it off. When you
purposely touch their face or hair, do it in a romantic way. You can
even look into their eyes and say something sweet. You want to feel
warm and loving when you do this. You can even whisper something
sweet in her ear (which is another Erogenous Zone.) Trust me; if a girl
is letting a guy do all these so far, she's ready for a kiss.
Mouth (Light Kissing)
If you want, you can touch her mouth before you kiss her. Don't go
for a full on make-out session the first time you kiss her or you'll look
like a complete retard. Go in for the kiss, do it romantically and don't
use any tongue yet.
Kissing (with the use of tongue.)
Now at this point it starts turning sexual. The following steps will
cause actual sexual arousal. If you get her turned on enough
(regardless of if you're in the location where you plan to have sex,)
she'll probably want to go somewhere where you can have sex. If you
need to, you can think of some reason you want to show her
something up in your place. Perhaps watch a movie.
Some women will be comfortable with making out in public, but a lot
won't. If you want to play it on the safe side bring her somewhere
you can be alone for a little while, even if it's just out to the car. You
can say something like "I'm not sure if I'm comfortable doing this in
public, did you want to go to X?"

While you're kissing her, touch the back of her neck. You'll see why in
the next Erogenous Zone.
Neck
The neck is a very sensitive area for both men and women. Kissing
and caressing this area is very arousing to most people. Also the back
of the neck is very arousing when you touch it. Most women I've

talked to say that getting their neck kissed is one of the biggest turn
ons. Definitely use this to your advantage. Stay kissing the neck area
for as long as possible because it's A) not overtly sexual and B) a huge
turn on for them. The more you do it, the more aroused they'll get,
which makes the next steps much easier. Some women even like
being bitten gently on the neck. If it's the first time you're with this
girl you may or may not want to hold off on this.
Ears
You can completely skip this area if you want, but if you want to
make things interesting go for it. Licking her earlobes, whispering or
breathing softly in her ear may also be very pleasurable for her.
Chest
This one you have to watch for. Some women are uncomfortable
with their breasts and may respond negatively to this. It's not a
necessary step, and it may be better to just skip it completely.
Stomach/Abdomen
Many women find touching, kissing, biting, licking, caressing of the
abdomen to be very arousing, especially around her pubic region.
Some women even find it more arousing than direct stimulation of
the genitals. Kiss her stomach, kiss the tops of her hips and stay there
long enough to get her juices flowing.

Pubic Area/Vagina
This part is very important. Be careful down here because all women
know that if a guy is touching their vagina they're most likely going to
have sex. A lot of times you will meet with resistance here. Here are
few tricks to overcome this: Before you even think of removing her
panties "accidently" touch her vagina. You can go back up to kissing
her, position your torso between her legs and "accidently" start
rubbing.
After that, you can start dry humping. The idea here is to get her
extremely sexually aroused without throwing up any red flags. If she
says anything about this just respond "don't worry, I don't even have
sex with a girl until I've known her for a while," and keep turning her
on. Get her good and wet and keep dry humping her.
If you want you can flip her on her stomach and rub her ass. Once
you're rubbing her ass you can sneak in the back and play with her
vagina through her panties. Sneaky? Yea. But women are naturally
conditioned to hold off on sex, so we have to get around this. Again,
if she objects to something, just step back and hold off a second. Go
kiss her neck again and turn her on. A lot of times when women
resist, it's simply because they're not turned on enough. Sometimes
when you just get them turned on enough they'll make the moves.
When you're rubbing her vagina from behind, don't insert your
fingers just yet. Just rub the outside of her panties, right above her
vaginal opening. After that, move up to the clitoris. If you're not sure
where the clitoris is, it's that little hooded button that's right above

her vaginal opening. Rub that very lightly. This is very sensitive for
women. After that, move her panties to the side and start fingering
her.

She's probably at the point where she just wants to have sex now,
but don't yet. Ask her if she can flip over because it's uncomfortable
fingering her like that. Start fingering her and after a few minutes of
that remove her panties. At this point you can eat her pussy (if you
want,) or keep fingering her (or both.) Do it for a little longer and
she'll definitely want to have sex. USE A CONDOM FOR GOD'S SAKE.
Oh yea, did I also mention to make sure she's the legal age of
consent? You definitely want to do that.
Bonus spot: The Clitoris.
The clitoris is another erogenous zone on a woman which has the
most nerve endings anywhere in her body. It is said to have as many
nerve endings in the small little tip as a man has in his entire penis.
To find the clitoris, picture a woman's vagina. You have the vaginal
lips on the left and right side and between that is the opening. Right
above the opening is a little button shaped hood. Once you lift up the
hood a woman's clitoris is right underneath it. You can lick or finger
this spot, but be very gentle, because too much pressure on it can be
painful for women.
Bonus spot: The G-Spot.
The G-Spot (aka the Grfenberg Spot) is a wonderful and marvelous
place for women. The G-Spot is typically located one to three inches
up the front (closest to her stomach) vaginal wall. Place your finger
or fingers in there and you'll feel a small lump that almost has the
texture of a golf ball. Rub that with your fingers, or now that you
know where it is, use sexual positions that stimulate that.

Bonus move: Venus Butterfly.

To do this one place both hands together and go toward her vaginal
opening. Your Index fingers will be on both sides surrounding the
clitoris. Your middle and ring finger go into her vagina. Both pinkies
will either slide in the anus or just move them out of the way,
depending on what she's into. Gently open and close your hands by
separating your palms. This will force your middle and ring fingers to
go in and out of her vagina (and/or anus) which looks like a fluttering
butterfly. It will take a few times to get perfect, but she will thank
you greatly.

Basic Sexual Positions

There are literally thousands of sexual positions, but we ll go over the

most common ones.
Missionary Position
This is the most basic sexual position. In this position, the man and
woman face each other. The woman lies on her back with her legs
apart, while the man squeezes between her legs. A nice variant is to
put her legs over your shoulders or put a pillow under her backside
to penetrate deeper. And try putting a pillow under her backside for
even deeper penetration.
Doggy Style
This can be one of two ways, or even more
first way is to have her get on all fours
back. You can lightly pull her hair while
do this is to have her lay on her stomach

if you get creative. The

and you penetrate from the
you do this. Another way to
and penetrate that way.

Spooning
In the spoons position both the man and women lie on their sides
facing the same way. The woman lies on her side while the man
penetrates her from the back. Alternatively, the man can sit or stand
while in this position.
Woman on top
There are different variants of this position depending on the way
she is facing. This is called the cowgirl position when she is facing you
or the reverse cowgirl position when she is facing away.

Some Stuff About Relationships.

So, you found yourself a keeper? Congratulations, because a good
relationship can be one of the most rewarding experiences of your
life. Like I said earlier this book will work for whatever you want it to
work for, so it wouldn t be complete without a little relationship
stuff.
Since you re on your way to becoming a calm, centered Alpha Male,
you won t have to worry about all the petty things couples fight
about. You see, most of that stuff happens because people are low
on the emotional totem pole. Arguing is a low-status thing. Instead
compromise. You re getting higher on the emotional scale and
hopefully the woman you find will be just as high.
When you have 2 people high on the scale that love each other, but
don t need each other, everything tends to turn out well. They both
know that each other has separate lives and they respect each other.
And remember the section on giving. The Alpha Male and Alpha
Female love to give and their rewarded greatly for this.
Be someone she can depend on. Be someone she can love. Be the
man who makes her feel protected. Be the strong man in her life. Get

her nice little gifts just to let her know you re thinking about her.
They don t have to be expensive.
My only word of warning is to watch the L word during the
beginning of relationships. It s fine to give her compliments and tell
her she s beautiful, but if you tell her you love her too early you may
scare her off. Hold off until you re pretty sure she s ready.

In conclusion.
Be happy. Feel good. See the good in life. Even if it s not apparent to
you right now by working with these ideas you ll be sure to see how
wonderful the world really is.
Don t worry about all the stuff that guys normally worry about with
women. Just have fun with them and the relationships and sex will
take care of themselves.
Read this book a bunch of times until your mind is literally saturated
with the information. Realize that you create your own destiny and
don t listen to anyone who tells you otherwise.
LIFE IS MEANT TO BE FUN!
I know you can succeed, so let s do this!
Your friend,
Anonymous.