Clarity Of Intent + Freedom From Outcome

-You always want to be developing both your COI and FFO

-Clarity of intent means you have an alignment in your thoughts words and actions

-You've taken the foot off the break and are just on the gas pedal

-To develop intent you use a combination of taking action, challenging yourself, meditation,
food, and good sleep

-In the field you can practice by constantly monitoring what you KNOW you should be doing.
Getting a clearer and clearer idea of what to do.

-Challenges could include approaching every girl in the bar, approaching the hottest girls in the
bar, mixed groups, etc.

-From there you want to be clear on how you follow up. Girls will try to run away and you have
to follow them, or re-approach multiple times.

-In late game you may have to text multiple times, try hitting them from different angles, and
try many things to get a day 2. You may have to try many things to get her into the bedroom
and then later to get her turned on enough to have sex.

-I'll often endure MARATHONS in bed to get her turned on enough for sex.

-Guys who have a very powerful drive to get laid and who will do ANYTHING to get laid, most
often do. They are closers to the bone.

-Ultimately they find SOLUTIONS to challenges, instead of looking for excuses. For every 1
solution finder there are 100 excuse makers. Be a solution finder. Think outside the box.

-You would be SHOCKED at how far you can push. ABSOLUTELY SHOCKED. You really have no
idea until you go out for many years and find out.

-On the flipside you also have to be free from outcome.

-You cultivate freedom from outcome by massive experience teaching you nothing really
matters, getting other hobbies, other girlfriends, the ability to get laid, and general abundance
with women. Also from a positive perspective of life, bigger passions and goals, and anythin
that cultivates a more positive state of mind independent of any external validation, such as
meditation.

-In the same way you want to be developing better and better COI, you want to keep
developing your FFO.
-You should learn to hit mental states of deep presence and internally generated enjoyment,
enthusiasm, and positivity.

-You want to learn to create a "natural high" from the enjoyment of the process itself. You can
also enhance this with exercise, and most importantly foods like heavy greens, green tea, dark
chocolate, reishi mushroom, and anything healthy that amps up your brains 4 main
neurotransmitters -- seratonin, dopamine, acytylcholine, and gaba. Research them.

-Other important keys are dance and self amusement in general.

-The main reasons girls are so free of outcome is they have massive abundance with men, but
also what we often forget is they massively self amuse at the club with joking and hugging and
dance.

-You can steal this frame from girls by joking a lot with friends and dancing and screwing
around. You should always be having as much fun as possible at the club.

-You want to get your game to a point where you are a MASTER of self generating positive
emotions, to the point it's a bit freakish. Imagine someone who is depressed and at the mercy
of their environment and emotions -- you want to become the exact OPPOSITE of that: a total
master of making yourself a happy dude.

-In a pickup, realize that any time you appear to just be enhancing your own emotions the girls
will go for it. So if you dance dirty or want to make out, or later sex, and it's NOT FOR
VALIDATION AT ALL but rather to simply self state pump through the enjoyment of the process
of doing it, the girl will almost always go for it instinctively so that she isn't the "fun ruiner".
But if she senses you're doing it to gain EXTERNAL STIMULUS and EXTERNAL VALIDATION she
will instinctively cut it off.

-If you escalate, for example, simply to enhance your own state through the process of it, it's
sexy and fun and she allows it instinctively. If you do it to gain emotions from the RESULT, she
instinctively cuts it off.

-That being the case, you want to eventually master both being extremely good at taking
massive action and being super pushy, while at the same time LOVING THE PROCESS OF DOING
SO. Example: You can be hitting open after open, and escalating fast, but singing and laughing
and dancing while doing so, and it's amazing. But if you're annoyed until you get a result, it's a
terrible result.

-Master being very focused and getting things done from open to close, but being in a
massively positive state from the open right to the close. Once in a state of momentum, you
should ideally be BORDERLINE EUPHORIC just from the massive flow state of engaging with the
process itself, amping up your brains neurotransmitters and whatnot, while pushing
EXTREMELY HARD for the close all the way!
Tyler
Acting through your own intentions: a new way of
viewing things

Often on this forum I see questions like:

-Should I chase or play hard to get?

-Should I escalate fast or take it slow?
-Should I use drama?

Ironically, there’s never a straight “yes” or “no” answer to these questions. The correct
answer is:

Do whatever you want.

Now, a newbie may read this and think “that doesn’t make sense. It doesn’t even give me an
answer.” And while he may have a point, there is a bigger issue that he fails to grasp. This
issue is: “acting through your own intentions.”

The reason a newbie would ask this question is because he’s reacting to a girl’s frame. He’s
letting her beliefs and her attitudes towards sex dictate how the pickup will go. But because
she is imposing her frame –and it’s usually a logical-girls-shouldn’t-be-slutty frame- it will go
nowhere. Sure, the girl may tease you to get validation, but it usually won’t seriously cross her
mind to fuck you.

Instead, if the newbie were acting through his own intentions, not only would he know what to
do, but he would also not have to ask the questions listed above. If you truly are acting
through your own intentions, leading and setting the frame, it doesn’t matter how you go
about it. Your girl will follow you no matter what “style” of game you use. This is just biology
at play: girls, even uptight high-class “buisiness girls”, want to submit, please and surrender to
a high-value guy in their private lives.
This posts discusses this concept of “acting through your own intentions”. This post also
includes field reports where I demonstrate how this concept applies infield.

What “acting through your own intentions” is not

Before talking about what this concept means, it is worth talking about it’s opposite: being
reactive.

Being reactive means that you let the girl dictate the frame more than you dictate it. This
usally means that the girl’s beliefs that she is the prize, she won’t fuck strangers and guys love
entertaining girls dominate the conversation, and the guy buys it. When a guy falls into this
reactive mindset, his shoulder droop, he gets higher emotional highs and lulls that she does,
he’s the one qualifying himself and so on. This fits into her behaviour pattern of chodes hitting
on her, which has been engrained hundreds of times by...well, chodes hitting on her. So, the
trick is not to fall into the trap. You truly have to believe that you are enough to impose a
frame over girls. Easier said than done. Especially given how many more reference
experiences a girl over a typical guy; a chode’s only had a handful of validating experiences
whereas a hot girl has had hundreds. Thankfully, a man’s frame by default is stronger than a
woman, who’s usually insecure about herself. So, at least we have that advantage.

Example of a chode reacting a girl’s frame:

You bring a girl to her apartment. She’s been playing hard-to-get the whole time. You know
she’s a tease and that she’d resist your advances, so you wait and build value and comfort until
you see a window of oppurtunity. At some point, she randomly lays back onto your bed. You
detect that this is the most compliance that she ever gave you, and you know you better not
blow it. What would a chode typically do?

He would notice her “being the prize” the whole interaction, so he would be in a reactive
mindset where he believes that he shouldn’t make a bold move. Instead of kissing her then,
he tip-toes around esacalation. He might lean into her, touch her more often, share more
about his life and talk a little more seductively. But in no way, would he dare making a bold
move. The girl realises that he likes her, but won’t make a move. This reinforces her belief
that he’s a chode and she loses interest.

What acting through your own intentions is

Remember those nights when you are in state? Where you truly feel that everyone else is
rooting for you, bad reactions are just a joke and hooking becomes easy? You have no worries
on those nights because you do what you want, when you want it. A very alpha attitude.

Acting through your own intentions is acquiring those same thoughts, feelings and actions and
applying it at all times. You are self-amused. If you’re a nerd and want to talk of Game of
Thrones, do it! If you want to bring her out fishing because it’s fun for you, do it! If you want
to slap her ass cause you’re into BDSM, do it! If you want to play hard to get because you
want to get back at the girls that rejected you in high school, do it!

Some PUAs love showing photos of themselves to immerse girls into their world, and it’s a
useful tool. Tyler used to bring girls out to his bootcamp because they would be immersed in
his world, see him acting through his own intentions and they would love him for it.

After all, girls love submitting to guys, sucking their cock and pleasing them. It sounds sexist,
but it’s pure biology. So give her what she wants. A girl thinking of a hookup is terrible non-
sexy. So dictate the frame, lead her sexuality, show her how she can please you and she will
be happy.

Example of a player acting through his own intentions:

Let’s look at the previous example and see what a player would do:
As the girl lies on his bed, he’d detect the window of oppurtunity. He’s not reactive, so he still
doesn’t have that fear of rejection. He leans into her to build tension, but instead of tip-toeing
around the issue, he closes and kisses her. This turns her on and they fuck.

The feeling of “acting through your own intentions”

When you act this way, you can feel a certain vibe, a certain swagger to it. You are in full
control of your thoughts, words and actions. Whenever a girl gives you a test, you think “yep,
that’s a test, now I act accordingly” without sensing a drop in your emotions.

I remember feeling this way one night and a female friend came up to me and said “wow, I
really respect you right now. You know what you want and you just do it. I don’t know why I
get this vibe from you right now. Must be your new jacket.”

She was right, I did have a new jacket. But, I read RSDnation, and I know that the clothes you
wear is bullshit. What she didn’t know is that I was so in state and so in my own intention, that
it came off that way.

It’s all subconscious. That’s why people like Manwhore can escalate so invisibly. The girls
sense his intentions and submit instantly. It’s all instinct.

Some more notes:

-It should be noted that sometimes you won’t feel like escalating, and that’s ok. I’ve fingered a
girl before in isolation. She expected sex, but I didn’t feel it at the time. At some point, I stop
fingering her and go back to socialise because my intention was to socialise at that time.

-Even playing hard to get and self-amusing can be “acting through your own intentions”. But
they usually only work when your intention is to self-amuse or play hard to get. (See examples
below).

Field report examples of acting through my own intentions:

1. Scientific conference:
I was at a poster session at a biology conference and I saw a poster I liked so I went there. The
girl whose poster it was super cute. Most people at these things tip-toe around
things. Instead, I was curious about her, so I straight-up ask her “what’s your field of
study?” It doesn’t seem like much, but compared to everyone asking “what’s your poster
about”, I ask a question about her because I’m genuinely curious about her. She blushes and
replies “wow, I love how direct you are” while giving me anime eyes. I knew she was mine. I
didn’t pull her, but she was super into me from that point on.

2. Kiss close:
This happened when I was in a phase of practicing very fast escalation. I was new to the
concept. I had recently gotten success on this trick: tell a girl to close her eyes, clasp her hands
and kiss her. One night, I ran into a girl that I wanted to hook up with a year before but didn’t
have the right logistics at the time. When I saw her, she was all into me and being super
friendly. I guess she was having a good night; her buying temperature was up. I knew that I
could use my trick with her a minute into the conversation.

The problem was she kept talking. She wouldn’t leave a pause for me to tell her to close her
eyes. I was feeling so good inside and I had the internal monologue that is always there when
I’m in state. This monologue told me very slowly and calmly “fuck this, I don’t have patience
for this. Fuck it, fuck all this build up toward it. I’m going to kiss her now and shut her
up.” And I kissed her mid-sentence. She was into it. After, she said she doesn’t kiss unless we
have a date. I said “well, I’ll think about taking you out then. Is that cool?” She said yes and so
I kissed her again. She complied.

3. Hardcore escalation:
I was really high one night. So high that I had a bad start. I had such approach anxiety (I
couldn’t say “Hi” loud enough for the life of me). So I went to the bathroom and told
affirmations in the mirror for ten minutes. Pathetic. Anyway, I kept telling myself that I do
what I want.

I walk back to the bar and hook a girl right away (a bit of a fluke). This gave me some
confidence, which I quickly capitalised. We are holding hands and doing some normal
escalation, but there was nothing special about me at that point. But as the night went on,
and my intention grew, I started gaining that feeling again. I went to the table where that girl
was. Fortuntely her friends left us there, just the two of us. We chat, but I only half-pay
attention (she has to earn my desire; that’s my frame). After a while, I get bored and feel
horny. I look down the girl’s shirt while she talks. I respond “uh-huh” and non-chalantly reach
down her shirt and pinch her nipple. I fondle her breast. This surprises her. She looks up at
me in alarm. I keep the neutral look on my face and look into her eyes and I keep playing with
her tit. She looks down, blushes and lets me play with her. This caused her to become even
more compliant and I closed her.

Touching her nipple while feeling my intention and desire take over me was really sexy to
her. Something most guys woulnd’t do. Makes her want to sleep with me specifically.

4. Playing hard-to-get:
One time, at another conference, a girl was being a tease playing hard to get. I remember
thinking “fine, if she wants to play this game, we’re going to play it.” I start flirting with every
single hot girl at the conference, making them jealous one after another. I didn’t want the first
girl at that point. I was just inspired by her playing hard to get and I wanted to have fun doing
the same. It was a challenge and I was amusing myself with it.

Meanwhile, she’s watching me flirt with other girls. Along the way, she tries to draw my
attention by flirting with me but still being hard-to-get. I don’t fall for it. Instead, I stay on my
path of flirting with other women because I’d rather to that than fuck her. By the end, I had so
much fun that I didn’t care what happened to the first girl. But, by the end of the night, she
finds me and says “I’m going to my hotel now!” She walked across the room to tell me this, so
I knew she was giving me a window of oppurtunity. I said “okay, let me walk you.” We walked
to her hotel and fucked.

As you can see, acting through your own intentions doesn’t mean to always escalate. It just
means knowing what you want and going for it. And if you do this well enough, girls will notice.
Stop Bitching: Build Resilience through Intention

A lot of the junk posts on the forum recently have centered around fractured confidence in
ones abilities/the "game."

Having been around long enough on the forums, this tends to happen in cycles where the
quality turns to shit, things calm down and get productive, repeat the cycle. One consistent
line that has been repeated over and over since I joined has been "you need to do more
approaches." Usually this is most annoying when said by sycophants with no greater value
added other than just saying "go out more."

Then we grandize 30-day challenges or videos of guys doing extreme things to see what they
can get away with, going full beast mode, etc., further reinforcing this "you just need to go out
more" mentality.

They're correct, you do need to talk to people more, go out more, and otherwise take
action. Many things do start to come together when you go out more, but only when you're
doing so with proper intention and build resilience.

The reason why I'm a big fan of Alex's "you are enough" mentality is because positive
psychology breeds your own luck and success. The caveat to it is that you need to:
a) Continue to take action in all areas of your life, realizing that "enough" is just a floor
b) Root this "enough" sensation in things that are actually true and not delusions, which is just
an issue of framing.

If you're only focused on game, you are not enough and you're putting too much pressure on
this one area of your life. That's unsustainable because you still need to be a functional
member of society. When guys are coming to the forum to ask whether they should leave
school to game or that the game is ridiculous and isn't working for them, they're both really
suffering from the same problem: an inability to think for themselves, define their own
metrics, and take steps to improve with proper intent. Guess what? It's also a common
problem of most of the guys on the forum who just submit the one-liner "you need to get
more girls" response. We're not here to psychoanalyze people, but we also need to encourage
the average forum member to figure out why they're here, what their core intent is, how this
is supplementing their life, and define their own success by setting their own goals and taking
action to achieve them without needing us to validate that.

Why is the forum toxic at times? Because it becomes this "me, me me" land where people are
so consumed with the stupidest or mundane personal perspective that we lose sight that this
is a community that prides itself on providing value to each other and the people we contact in
the world. Threads go to shit, responses go to shit, the forum goes to shit.

Alright, how do we balance this personal intention with the need to stay independent of the
outcome when approaching? Change the frame of what the outcome is. The dudes that are
complaining about still being a virgin need to focus on the game as a skillset to build a social
circle and meet anyone you want. The dudes complaining about not having a social circle need
to focus on chatting with people and developing rapport and empathy. Then, you approach
with intention to just have a good time and meet some new people. Some of them girls? Cool.
Some of them become friends? Cool. Some of them lead to numbers or lays? Cool. This is the
rooting yourself in reality point from above, don't be delusional and then have the delusion
come crashing down.

You will still have "failures" or low points, that's just life. Motivation will ebb and flow, that's
just fine. That's where resilience comes in, and why the momentum you build up through
approaching more is actually important. You can't be on fire all the time, but you can't take
away the challenges that you've overcome either.

The hedonistic treadmill is real; the way the world works is that we're always looking to
progress and, when we get to the next level, start comparing ourselves to the next tier and
don't feel as content as we expected. So when you're rolling through rough patches of
anything in life, but especially social dynamics, you need to also remember the bullshit you've
already gotten through and that this too shall pass if you are resilient. This may mean just
pushing through until it happens, this may mean cycling off to focus on something else in your
life. Change the game, flip the script, redefine, be intentional, and celebrate the resilience you
build over time.

But it does start by taking action-- approach everything in life. Stop bitching and start moving.

To recap: Get out there and be a participant in the world, analyze your goals and metrics and
make them true for where you're at, make sure they span other things besides the game, be
intentional about improving all areas of your life, reframe points of difficulty to see the
positives you have achieved or are achieving that may be slightly below your current goals, and
maintain your resilience by reflecting on how far you've come from where you started.

In case you didn't gather, I see the skill set of cold approach as applicable to other areas of life,
and self-actualization as being about a lot more than just getting women and being
present. You may not agree, and that's cool, it's just the perspective that I'm coming at this
post from.
A revelation from Owen’s 10/6 Talk: Intent and Passion

If you have heard Owen talk you know he usually talks about intent. It goes without saying that
intent is one of the core principles of game to Owen, I would even argue it is the core of the
core.

How does he define intent?

Clarity in your thoughts, words and actions. Congruence.

I thought about that definition a lot and I realized that Owen is talking about the EFFECT of
intent, not the CAUSE of intent. The external not the internal.

So what, IMHO, would be a deeper definition of intent?

Singularity of purpose, commitment to a outcome, having a chief definite aim.

OK, so what creates and fuels this?

I got the answer form Owen’s Free Tour talk in LA on 10/6. It is so simple (invariably it always
is). What creates and fuels intent is

PASSION.
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Passion creates and fuels intent. Passion is first internally manifested as singuarity of purpose
and then externally manifested as clarity in your thoughts words and actions. In other words,

THE POWER IS IN THE PASSION.

In fact, Tony Robbins would often quote his mentor Jim Rohn (slightly paraphrased): “The
power is in the why (the reason). If you have a strong enough reason you can do anything.”
Said another way, “Were there is a will there is a way.”

So what does this mean? If you aren’t getting the results you want maybe you have
temporarily lost your passion. Your passion for pick up, your passion for women, your passion
for sex, your passion for life.

So what to do?

Reconnect with your passion. As Tim would say “Remember what you are here for”.

Tony also mentioned on one of his tapes that he would do incantations / emotionally charged
affirmations before going on stage to reconnect him with his passions so that he could be in an
intense state that he could then transfer to his audience. Indeed, his whole time management
system (OPA/ RPM) is based on you talking the time to remember your purpose for whatever
outcome you are pursuing so that you will not only do the actions you have commited to but
you will do them in a high quality/ highly effective way.

Lastly, to quote Tony’s catch phrase (the final thing he said on all of his Power Talks):

LIFE WITH PASSION.