Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Professor P. Broadbent
Writing 39C
01 June 2018
I am an Asian American student and if the image of you have of me from that statement
alone is some stereotype you’ve seen on television, you’re not exactly wrong. Yes, like many of
my Asian American peers - we were raised to achieve ‘excellence’. We spend hours at school,
even more in self-studying and at tutoring sessions, only to end our days with all imaginable
types of extracurricular activities from sports to the arts. Thus, it becomes inevitable that we’re
often left tired and more so stressed. However, there seems to be a major misunderstanding.
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Despite pushing ourselves beyond what seem to be our limits and the media’s portrayal of
overwhelmed Asian American youths as products of ‘tiger parents,’ we are not exactly unhappy
The Paradox
Asian Americans make up one of the highest earning and most educated race in the
United States and as a result, is often called the ‘model minority.’ However, there comes equally
frame in which those labels become what defines them. Whereas those who don’t necessarily fit
within that success frame are viewed as failures or racial outliers, creating what professors of
sociology, Jennifer Lee and Min Zhou identify as the Asian American Achievement Paradox
(Lee).
This problem particularly affects the youth in the Asian American community. With the
bar set high amongst them, the “positive stereotype” applied to Asians impact its young people
by artificially inflating expectations or narrowing life choices (Lee). Moreover, when raised in an
environment where high achievement is the norm, not only do peers and parents begin
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developing certain expectations of Asian American youths’ successes but the youth themselves
also subconsciously begin holding themselves to standards set by their communities and less for
themselves. There are many Asian Americans who think that Asians might be naturally smarter,
or something about Asian culture that makes them truly exceptional (Fuchs). Hence, when Asian
youth so often as-a-matter-of-factly tie their accomplishments to their self identity and value too
closely, they become even more susceptible to their inability to cope with what they perceive as
personal failures. As of such, when faced with obstacles, Asian American youth are more likely
“self-reliant”, Asian American students oftentimes find difficulty in communicating their need
for help (“Model”). Asian American college students are 1.6 times more likely than all others to
make a serious suicide attempt and 3 times less likely to seek out professional therapy or
The highest achieving Asian Americans oftentimes come from the lowest socioeconomic
class and immigrant parents have made personal sacrifices and worked laborious jobs to give
their children the best support they can. Asian American youth who then typically attribute their
own success as a product of their immigrant parents sacrifice develop a strong belief that they
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should be successful in order to repay their family but the only way they can do so is through
academic achievement.
hard in order to secure me the opportunities so that I may have even the slightest higher chance
in succeeding on my own; giving up is not an option. My parents are doing their best in a country
away from their homeland, surrounded by a language they don’t understand in order to give me
With a similar sentiment reverberating within all Asian American children, school
master what is learned - but when expectations are set too high and the pressure they placed on
themselves becomes overwhelming, they can burn out just like any other.
More so than anyone, these Asian American youths are desperate and have strong desire
to succeed. However, as a result of pushing themselves too close to their mental/emotional limit
too quickly, their efforts burns them out and they become their own obstacles to their goals
which lead to self blame, anxiety, depression, etc (Fuchs). They internalize their own
expectations as well as others too deeply so when they ‘fail’ to achieve them, they feel like
something is wrong with them (Noguchi). In addition, this self-blame becomes self-destructing
yet youth would still choose to ignore their early signs on mental disorders or emotional
instability, partly because of their refusal to seek help as well the consequence of making what
for them to access mental health care. This includes additional counselling at the university level
and possibly even the secondary education level. However, there is a dilemma. When it comes to
seeking help for mental health, the Asian-American community lags behind other groups,
including by avoiding it completely (Chan). Just 4.9 percent of Asian American adults seek out
mental health services and they also have the lowest rates of prescription psychiatric medication
use and outpatient mental health service use (Kandil). This reluctance to seek mental health care
is due to a cultural stigma in the Asian American community. Mental illness is not a open topic
within the Asian American community and in fact, is usually avoided as mental illness is
generally associated with being ‘abnormal’ or a shameful thing to have. Representative Judy
Chu, a former clinical psychologist, believes the problem is exacerbated because of the model
minority myth which gives the perception that Asian Americans don’t suffer from mental and
of mental health care providers offering services such as family-directed therapy and employing
specialists who speak different language to help immigrants who can’t comfortably express
While counselling and mental therapy helps, the stigma has a long history and the fact
that there is even a lack of words translatable in Asian languages to be able to openly speak
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about mental illness only proves there is still a high barrier to overcome. Moreover, with the
most stressed youth coming from some of the lowest socioeconomic class, professional
counselling may not be accessible to all that may need it. Although taxes can be a way to fund
counselling, those of other races may feel unwilling to support the movement as the cause does
Most importantly, counselling and mental therapy is only effective to those who willing
seek help. Therefore Asian American youths who are still afraid to be ostracized for being
deemed mentally unwell or unable to openly speak about mental illness issues with their families
may still be hesitant to seek mental health care on their own, thus rendering the offered services
Alternative Solution
In the Asian American community, admitting to mental illness is shameful. It is the same
as admitting there is something wrong with you and that you are not normal, which may serve as
an direct attack on a race known as the model minority. With that misconception in mind, many
Asian Americans may view seeking mental health care as succumbing to their own weaknesses
as well receiving sympathy, making it difficult for them to accept help. As the model minority,
Asian Americans have high standards for themselves. They pride themselves in their economic
and academic achievement, they are known to be self-reliant and independent as a race so when
placed in a situation in that they must seek help, they are more likely to avoid such a situation
instead. For Asian Americans, perhaps life coaching could be a better alternative to therapy. The
difference between therapy and life coaching is essentially how those clients view themselves
and what is their purpose in seeking that particular service. Therapy is effective in handling
emotions from problems or stressors whereas life coaching is finding purpose and dissecting
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goals into achievable steps (Holmes). In addition, those who seek life coaching rarely think about
themselves as being ‘broken’ or need ‘fixing’ (Brownson). While cost may be an issue; life
coaching would be considered a much more socially acceptable form of self help in the Asian
American community as it empowers them rather than have them explain their problems.
For as long as their Asian American youth were raised, they were taught to see success
and failure as black and white. However, in reality, there are gray areas as well. Despite the burn
confidence and support to achieve whatever they themselves define as success in the end. While
sympathy is nice and it is good to be understood, there is a reason why Asian Americans work so
hard and it is much more effective to help them meet their goals in a mentally/emotionally
healthier way as well as teach them how to better handle their failures and simply solve a
problem after it has occurred. Therapy can be compared to fishing for these youth once or twice;
being life coaches can be compared to teaching these youth how to fish for themselves the rest of
their lives.
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