How can you love someone for so long and so real and then just stop?

When we think about love, we imagine lovely pictures of romantic kisses, exciting
adventures and living happily ever after, but why do we always forget about the other
things behind these images? Why do we tend to forget about the fights, tears and
broken hearts? The answer is simple it is because we don’t want it to happen. “It is
easier to take love as a dream, not reality.”

We have this thought that you really don't stop loving. But instead, the feeling no
longer dominates you. No longer overpowers you. No longer makes a difference to your
life. Love stays and even after year’s you can feel it churning your stomach seeing the
person but it no longer affects you. You won't feel the pain passing through your heart
and you will not find tears rolling down. It simply won't make a difference perhaps Love
will remain and that it why each and every time you recall or see him/her, you will find
your heart skip a beat or breathing fast or memories engulfing you.

Loving is a skill that has to be trained. Many people think that loving doesn’t
require learning and that we can love someone by just following our emotions but that’s
not true. True love is a challenging, hard work. It is teaching and learning. It is your
willingness to become a better person for your partners. Love can be a gift, but only to
those who are ready and willing to accept it.
 The most important thing that we have to understand is that there is no perfectly
compatible partner for us because people are totally incompatible. We are too weird for
each other. Remember that nobody is perfect so we have no rights to demand
perfection from others while we keep making mistakes.

Romantic love doesn't last forever by itself. You have to work really hard to make it
to and even then it's an ebb and flow. Some people might think that they stop loving
someone because it wasn’t true at all. Not everyone wants to work to keep it every time.
It feels terrible but that doesn't mean it wasn't real.

Since only one out of every odd sparkle needs to be a blaze. It's alright to leave
somebody and it's alright to allow somebody to leave. Because you can feel a flash,
doesn't imply that individual is beneficial for you or you are beneficial for them or both of
you is directly for the other.

If you want something different for yourself, you're allowed to let an old love go and
your love is allowed to do the same thing to you. We all fall in and out of love, it doesn't
make us monsters. How we treat each other and the world is what can make us that.
Every relationship we have will fail except maybe one, and even then one of you most
likely dies first. It's the reality of being alive. It's ok to be heartbroken and it's ok to break
someone's heart. What is not ok is letting it define us. We are lucky the moment we find
someone who is in the same place at the same time as us who wants to work towards
the forever. That is a beautiful hope worth holding onto.

By: Lesly Funtecha, Nisha Maliga and Ralyn Belaras