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Confidence

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Confidence on camera isn’t something you’re born with, it’s a skill that you can learn.

The “being on camera” isn’t scary, it’s the judgement that comes with it.

We hate seeing and hearing ourselves on video, and realising that the version of
ourselves on screen doesn’t quite match up with the version of ourselves in our head.

We worry what others will say. Maybe you don’t like the sound of your voice, or you
get brain-freeze. Perhaps they’ll laugh at us, or write a horrible comment, or it just
triggers lots of childhood memories.

In reality, the camera isn’t unnerving, it’s the judgement and the stories that we tell
ourselves about being in a photo or on video.

I can absolutely relate.

I spent much of my 20s travelling around the world, and I have about 2 photos of
me from this entire period. I was ashamed of me, and who I was, and I didn’t want
anyone to “see me.” I wanted to hide.

For many years I worked behind the scenes in TV as a producer, and would have to
coax nervous CEOs and global leaders to help them perform well on screen, and
help them to tell their story. At the same time, I studiously avoided being on TV
myself. I thought I was too fat, would stumble my words, go red and people would
laugh at me.

At the time, I was working in China for a big US news network, and often travelled
to North Korea. I remember the first time my boss asked me to go on TV in front of
millions of people and talk about Kim Jong il. My stomach was churning with nerves
and fear, and my mouth was so dry. I was standing on a balcony in Beijing talking
to the TV studio in the New York, and somehow, I managed to burble about mad
dictators, and get through it.

I survived, and while I didn’t enjoy being on camera, I learned that it gets easier. That
was the start of my years of talking to many people live on TV. I realised that it’s just
about having a chat and being natural.

After years of feeling awkward I finally understood that you just have to put one foot
in front of the other and go for it. The more uncomfortable you are, that’s okay… We
all feel uncomfortable, but that is not an excuse to hide. You just have to take action.

After my son was born, I couldn’t go back to international news working in war zones
and areas of conflict, so I set up my business, and I knew that I had to use Facebook
Live to build an audience.

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But all of those fears came back, and then some. I was worried about my awful
spotty rosacea skin, my wrinkles, and my baby weight. I was petrified what all those
old school friends I’d not spoken to in 20 years would think, or if old colleagues would
laugh at me.

And while Facebook live isn’t like being on TV with a studio, but it’s the same feeling.
It’s still triggers those feelings of not feeling good enough and worrying that you’ll
stumble on your words.

My first live was pretty awful, and I was so nervous, and really didn’t like looking at
myself, and I had no idea what to say. After a few more dodgy lives, I did realise is that
I could use the skills and the knowledge I’d learned on TV to help me on Facebook
lives.

Once you realise that sharing knowledge and insight could help others, this can help
you to feel better about doing Facebook lives. Even if you’re an introvert, you don’t
have to show off on TV, you could just provide value and build connections. Focusing
talking to one person (and not the millions that you perhaps imagine) really helps.

Once I’d cracked my mini-studio, it really helped my confidence levels.

And this is what I want to help you with.

I’ll show you how to create a mini-studio from your spare room, and how to use
lighting to look better.

Yes, there are ways to feel more confident, and ensure that you can go live, and
regularly (even if you don’t love it).

And once you get used to going live regularly, you’ll wonder what on earth you were
worrying about!

Well done for making this step to go live, and doing this.

If you’re worried that your friends or family will laugh, or your work colleagues will
see… Well, yes, they might do, but you might actually be surprised. While there are
some who may be a little jealous that you’re doing something that you’ve always
wanted to do, most will admire your gumption and guts.

When I first did a Facebook Live, I assumed that my old colleagues in television
would laugh at me, and mock me for doing this. Several years on, I find some of
them are emailing me for advice how to do something similar.

So yes, it’s nerve-wracking the first time you go live, but you know what, it’s okay, and
it gets better each time you go live.

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What do you want to achieve in going live?
You’re here because you feel “icky” about video, but what do you really want to achieve?
What impact would it make on your life?

Visualise your being on camera… Would you like to go live every day? While walking down
the street? Without make-up on?

How many people would you like to watch your videos? Where would you like
them to watch them?

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What difference would it make to your life if you were Confident
on Camera?

What makes you feel uncomfortable and icky about being on camera? What triggers
those feelings? Why does video make you feel so insecure or uncomfortable or... (insert
your own words)?

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How often do you let your mind affect your actions?

What do you tell yourself and what impact does it have on your business?

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Talk to your gremlins
I like to think of my mean girl chatter as my gremlins having a chat. I can choose to listen to
them chatting away, or I can choose to ignore them.

How would your life and business (and bottom line) transform if you stopped listening
to the gremlin chatter? Ask yourself if this “gremlin” thought is helping you achieve
your goals?

What impact does this gremlin chatter have on your ability to talk on camera?

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Flip the switch
Write down a list of reasons why you didn’t like doing being on camera.

Now take 10 of them and flip the switch, and instead write something more positive, for
example: “I hate being on camera because everyone will laugh at me because I will freeze
up.”

Change this to >>>>>>>>> “I love talking on camera and connecting with my audience
authentically”

OR “I hate being on camera because I’m too old and the bags under my eyes are awful.”
>>>>>> “I love how I can show up as the real authentic me and my tribe loves ME for
connecting on a soul level”

OR “I hate talking in public because I get brain freeze, and I’m worried that people
won’t understand me.” >>>>>>> "I confidently share my story in public!"

You get the idea!

Create your 10 statements below.

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How are you playing small with the life that you really want?

In what ways could you stop playing small today?

What needs to change in your life and business?

I love this quote by Brian Tracy: “Confidence is a habit that can be developed by
acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have.”

How could you start to PRETEND that you’re confident?

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What would you need to do to pretend that you have confidence on camera?

What else do you need to do to feel more confident?

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What commitment are you going to make to being confident on camera?

On a scale of 1-10 how committed are you to showing up, and going live? How are you going
to implement this?

Woohoo!
I’m cheering you on from the sidelines! Well done for setting aside the time to make
this commitment and complete this workbook.

You can absolutely do this! I can’t wait to see you on camera!

Much love,

Lucy xxx

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