Only as you do know yourself can your brain serve you as a sharp and efficient tool.

Know your

own failings, passions, and prejudices so you can separate them from what you see. As we learn

about this topic. We can defined that Personal development is a lifelong process. It is a way for

people to assess their skills and qualities, consider their aims in life and set goals in order to

realise and maximise their potential.

This subject helps you to identify the skills you need to set life goals which can enhance your

employability prospects, raise your confidence, and lead to a more fulfilling, higher quality

life. Plan to make relevant, positive and effective life choices and decisions for your future to

enable personal empowerment.

When you start knowing about yourself always remember that this keys helps you in order for

you to have a successful interaction with your own self. The following were;

1. Get to Know Your Personality. Understanding your own personality is the first key. The idea

is to get to know your personality inside out, to know what you are and what you are not

like. Understand what makes you react a certain way in life’s myriad of situations. Ask yourself

“Why did I do that?” and answer it.

2. Get to Know Your Core Values where you conclude about characters and attitudes that you

have. Your core values are the morale codes and the principles you hold near and dear to your

heart. When I work with my clients, one of the first things I ask prior to our coaching sessions is

a list of their top eight core values.

3. Get to Know Your Body where you make questions with yourself. Have you ever said “my

body can’t do this” and that “my body type won’t do that” without even trying a physical

challenge? Before you close the door to wonderful possibilities, take another look. Take the time

to become truly intimate with the loveliest temple on earth, your own body.

4. Get to Know your Dreams. Your dreams and hopes create the pathway into your future.

They help you build the life you can be proud of living.

5. Get to Know your Likes and Dislikes. Stay true to your likes and dislikes. Nobody has to like

them but you. Getting to know yourself allows you to tap into the well of happiness beyond your

imagination. Bliss even on cloudy days. I’ve learned also about the Johari Window, these model

can also be used to assess and improve a group's relationship with other groups. The Johari

Window model was devised by American psychologists Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham in 1955,

while researching group dynamics at the University of California Los Angeles.A model for

mapping personality awareness.By describing yourself from a fixed list of adjectives.

As we go along to our lessons we learn also the four types of self. In these types of self you may

able to understand clearly the differences between the four. Starting with Public self where

defines that you and others know about you. Next, Blind Spot means that others know you but

you can’t. Another is Hidden self where you know about yourself but others doesn’t know about

you.Lastly, Unconscious self where others and you doesn’t know about anything. Every one of

us has unique self - combinations. We are born to be different express ourselves in our own way.

As we grow, we are classified according to our adolescents development and stages.

Adolescence is a time of great change for young people when physical changes are happening at

an accelerated rate. But adolescence is not just marked by physical changes -- young people are
also experiencing cognitive, social/emotional and interpersonal changes as well. As they grow

and develop, young people are influenced by outside factors, such as their environment, culture,

religion, school, and the media. A number of different theories or ways of looking at adolescent

development have been proposed (see below). There are biological views (G. Stanley Hall),

psychological views (Freud), psychosocial views (Erikson), cognitive views (Piaget), ecological

views (Bronfenbrenner), social cognitive learning views (Bandura), and cultural views (Mead).

Each theory has a unique focus, but there are many similar elements. While it is true that each

teenager is an individual with a unique personality, special interests, and likes and dislikes, there

are also numerous developmental issues that everyone faces during the early, middle and late

adolescent years. The normal feelings and behaviors of the middle school and high school

adolescent can be categorized into four broad areas: moving toward independence; future

interests and cognitive development; sexuality; and ethics and self-direction. Specific

characteristics of normal adolescent behavior within each area are described below.

There are three stages of adolescents which classifies according to Early Adolescence

(Approximately 11-14 years of age) Middle Adolescence (approximately 15-16 years) and Late

Adolescence (approximately 17-19 years). These stages composed of Movement Toward

Independence, Future Interests and Cognitive Development, Sexuality, Ethics and Self-Direction

and Physical Changes.

Teenagers do vary slightly from the above descriptions, but the feelings and behaviors are, in

general, considered normal for each stage of adolescence.

There are lots of changes that we can discover in ourselves especially our physical and

psychological aspects. We experience gaps towards our families, friends as well as in entering
relationships. We learned also about the eight stages of Erikson’s theory the Psychosocial

Development. Erikson’s psychosocial theory of development considers the impact of external

factors, parents and society on personality development from childhood to adulthood.

1. Basic Trust vs. Mistrust – Hope . The child will develop optimism, trust, confidence, and

security if properly cared for and handled. If a child does not experience trust, he or she may

develop insecurity, worthlessness, and g Erikson’s psychosocial theory of development considers

the impact of external factors, parents and society on personality development from childhood to

adulthood. According to Erikson’s theory, every person must pass through a series of eight

interrelated stages over the entire life cycle.

1. Basic Trust vs. Mistrust – Hope. The child will develop optimism, trust, confidence, and

security if properly cared for and handled. If a child does not experience trust, he or she may

develop insecurity, worthlessness, and general mistrust to the world.

2. Autonomy vs. Shame – Will. The second stage occurs between 18 months and 3 years. At this

point, the child has an opportunity to build self-esteem and autonomy as he or she learns new

skills and right from wrong. Children tend to be vulnerable during this stage, sometimes feeling

shame and and low self-esteem during an inability to learn certain skills.

3.Initiative vs. Guilt – Purpose. During this period we experience a desire to copy the adults

around us and take initiative in creating play situations.We also begin to use that wonderful word

for exploring the world.” If we’re frustrated over natural desires and goals, we may easily

experience guilt. The most significant relationship is with the basic family
4. Industry vs. Inferiority – Competence. During this stage, , we are capable of learning, creating

and accomplishing numerous new skills and knowledge, thus developing a sense of industry.

This is also a very social stage of development and if we experience unresolved feelings of

inadequacy and inferiority among our peers, we can have serious problems in terms of

competence and self-esteem.

5. Identity vs. Role Confusion – Fidelity. Up until this fifth stage, development depends on what

is done to a person. An adolescent must struggle to discover and find his or her own identity.

6. Intimacy and Solidarity vs. Isolation – Love. At the young adult stage, people tend to seek

companionship and love. Some also begin to “settle down” and start families, although seems to

have been pushed back farther in recent years.

7. Generativity vs. Self absorption or Stagnation – Care. Career and work are the most important

things at this stage, along with family. Middle adulthood is also the time when people can take

on greater responsibilities and control.

8. Integrity vs. Despair – Wisdom. Erikson believed that much of life is preparing for the middle

adulthood stage and the last stage involves much reflection. As older adults, some can look back

with a feeling of integrity — that is, contentment and fulfillment, having led a meaningful life

and valuable contribution to society. Others may have a sense of despair during this stage,

reflecting upon their experiences and failures.

Just always keep in my mind that our fulfillment in life and career meets with success when we

give our best as per our unique talent, gifting, strengths while willing to team up with others in the

areas of our limitations.